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ddub · ddub

so I am trying to get past the accusation from AH that he stopped wanting to talk to me once my depression started 10 yrs ago. aarrrrgh, I didn't take this well as we all have triggers. I feel I was diagnosed and had meds started then because of all the stress from living with an A that triggered the de...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

(((((Hugs))))) to Everyone. How do we function with so much pain? I am amazed by all of you and in myself, that we can get up every morning & do the things we must, take care of our families, hold jobs and run our homes. We go through our day to day duties, if people could just see inside our minds and our...

buick23 · buick23

This is my best outlet to vent. I caught my bf on a porn site that shows local women. I confronted him about it and he denied going on there (of course). Turned it all around on me (as always). He's said hurtful things. The next day he took the 2nd computer (where the site was saved) out of the house, said he wa...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

The psychologist that I have seen for quite awhile ended our last session with this statement: "There's a fine line between a codependent and a masochist." He tends to end our sessions with some food for thought. He knows I'm a deep thinker. Any thoughts?

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... Made it there early as we always do.. I have issues yet with being late:)... My SIL drove and she too does not like running late... So was a little strange as we had an idea, but was not sure, were it was exactly bacause it was in the hospital... SOOOO glad that I went... Was a Newbie there, and she was...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well after hearing from my sponsor today and reading the replies to my post I "came down" a bit from my obsessing high:). I am not feeling well at all today and was overburdened at work from the minute I came in the door because I had my usual work to do, plus my boss took off so I had to do her list a...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

This is the first time I have posted on here. I have replied to a couple others. I am pretty new to Alanon. I joined the chat meetings in December, but never really started working the program till about a month ago. And I think the past month I have done very well. My boyfriend is my A. We have a son together....

babysteps · babysteps

I just went back and read all of the topics I have started since I found this board in 2006. It is very interesting to see the progression in myself from a person willing to do anything to help the A in my life to someone willing to do anything to help myself, because I am the only person I can actually affect!...

maresie · maresie

My birthday is coming up in 2 months and coincides with the possible end of my tenure with a wondeful intern for counselling who I have had a lot of success with. My normal approach to birthdays is to bury my head and try not to deal with it. I know how far I got doing that at Christmas. I have also, like man...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family!! Gratefully I got to my morning home group meeting next to the ocean and gosh I had not realized how much HP can do in such a short time and how much my group members (80+ of them) can change and learn in the same small piece of life. One of my fellow brothers shared his new awarenesses about a &...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Went to a new F2F meeting last night, and believe genuinely that that is where I was supposed to be. Meetings was wonderful and so nice to meet some new faces and get myself "recharged" for the week ahead. Have spoken off and on to EXABF since our date Friday and have to say I am in a place wit...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well today is one of those "off" days we all have and I am trying to remember that. Woke up feeling like I was hit with a bus and still exhausted, so I am sure that is not helping. EXABF took off sick yesterday so I sent him a get well comment to his Myspace page. He and I met on Myspace, and it is a sen...

meagain · meagain

I wrote a few days aga about my youngest son always calling me. Of course he always was good at calling me...but now there's no work, and the calls are really getting to me! He called a few days ago to get the phone # of #2 son--to see if he can help him with building houses etc...well # 2 son also has no work!!...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have never had a slow moving, normal, healthy relationship and I have NO idea how to go about it, what it's supposed to look like and how to control the thing in my heart and brain that drives me into this obsessiveness. I can see how this is about control. I want to MAKE him keep loving me, do what I want h...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well I got an email from the EXABF this am, saying that he had a nice time too and that he wouldn't date anyone else until we decided what we are going to do besides that he just wants to keep it "light" and won't be consumed again by what we should or should not do or the implications of it as that i...

Grandma Deb · Grandma Deb

I guess I just introduce myself. I'm a 55 yr old woman, married for 34 years to the same man. six kids, plus some fosters. You can imagine this man is quite wonderful, really. There isn't anything he won't do for others. He was a wonderful father and a very good husband, in his way. He provided for us a...

deserve_more · deserve_more

The disease has really taken control - at least many cancers are curable or fought into remission. AH does nothing but drink around the clock, and doesn't seem to think that's wrong. As long as I don't confront him, any words we exchange are about the weather or 'look how cute the dog/cat is'. If I dare ev...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Yesterday I went to my home group meeting- sundays at 9AM. There was a woman there I had not seen before. She was an old timer and in both programs. I really loved what she said when it was time to share. I went up to her and told her so and gave her my card with my phone numbers on it. She gave me hers. She c...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, Son has started smoking and drinking aged 15, being very difficult and it is turning into an intolerable situation, am barely getting by with it, as he is quite abusive, send on your prayers please, I need to get things sorted,

wjwcalifgirl · wjwcalifgirl

last night was a long long night for me. Started about 2 pm in the afternoon when my abf told me his friend ( one and only friend he has) was comming by. Now I have no problem with his friend nice guy. Well his friend stopped by and picked up some beer and scotch. ( friend does not drink scotch - and knows tha...

clara · clara

Yesterday I told AD she could not come here. This was her last option and it did not work out as she had hoped it would. So, I guess she see rock bottom from where she was at. A gentleman friend of her family is making phone calls and her blank, blank, blank, husband is finally willing to let go of some of hi...

JS · JS

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=24935869

Jozie · Jozie

Well got up this morning did my reading, and put out a post, and thought... WHELP... Time to get the ball rolling on finish off "what I can" of what has to be paid off and done my June with it comes to Desease Afathers belongs... Wanted to get a jump on things...Soooo paid off the water bill, and...

Ilovemydaughter · Ilovemydaughter

My daughter is an AH and drug addict. She is spiraling out of control. I believe that death may be in her near future as it seems like this may be her only rock bottom. I am frustrated because everyone tells me .. there's nothing I can do. She is 21 years old and has been to rehab .. attended AA .. had a spon...

clara · clara

I did want I have been going to Al-Anon for and coming to this board. I phoned daughter and told her she could not come here. I do not think she was shocked. I think she saw it coming. She said Brad was sending the divorce papers to our house. I will "return to sender". I am completely ou...

lucky · lucky

I don't have much experience with addiction. My xabf is my son's father, and is the only a in my life, to my knowledge. I recently broke it off, for the billionth time. I have been along for the ride, for the most part, and didn't really recognize how much it affected ME until I was pregnant. I started to rea...

Jozie · Jozie

Hi all... I am try'n out a New F2F tonight, kind of excited, because if all goes well then I know I can go there this summer when I wont be able to get to my "home" F2F... So crossing my fingers for a good night... I was babysitn Fri. so didn't get to get to my usual one, so this worked out perfect f...

clara · clara

I am the person that wondered if Al-Anon would kick me out for not following through on my promises. Well, this has probably been one of the worse days of my life. I called my AD and told her she could under no circumstances come to our house. She is now completely out of options. I have cried a river of te...

Tracy · Tracy

Met my Ab in a local park I was feeling so strong knew he was not going to change my mind he told he he loved me didnt want to loose me. told me it was mad that I was running from him just as he is finally ready to look at himself. to cut a long story short he said he wants to go to aa but has needed time to accept his p...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

After a very low day on Friday, all day in bed nearly, feeling desparately low...which is when I last posted, Saturday I started my new very small part time job at a lovely womenswear designer shop in town working with my friend. Had a good day, came home tired, ate (thats something thats coming back aft...

Holly09 · Holly09

I haven't posted here but once, I've been so busy with the kids and finally going to the gym (doing something for myself). After almost 7 years with my A boyfriend I feel like I'm in this relationship by myself most of the time. Part of it is because he works 2nd shift and 6-7 days a week, but when he is home...

Tracy · Tracy

I think I have finally accepted that I carnt change, fix or make over my boyfriend. for 4 years I have been insanly focusing on his life trying to turn him into another person. HE IS WHO HE IS ACCEPT IT he does have probs with drnk nothing I can do. so what does this leave me with I dont want a lifelike this. I d...

ollie · ollie

hi mip family. my A has been in hospital for 4 days detoxing,he seems alot more focused. he is promising to go to AA. this is his first time. has anyone had any success with this. i know better than to build up any kind of hope. i was just wondering. love to you all ollie x

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I noticed that this weekend I have been somewhat distant from my program and HP (of course I have a tendancy to be a perfectionist in everything I do-Imagine that!:)) Part I'm sure has been because I didn't make my Friday night home meeting, part from not feeling well, and part I'm sure due to recent c...

clara · clara

I was on the phone with my sister and in near hysterics over AD. For the past 3 days daughter has been promising(threatening) to come to our house. I work myself up in a frenzy and then she does not show. Tomorrow I will call her before church and tell not to bother. Then I will throw myself upon the alte...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have found that in my new relationship I feel very needy. It's complicated because I work days and he works nights and he still lives with his parents (yes I know I know... he's young...) so that complicates things too. In the past I always rushed into relationships and then we were glued together af...

wjwcalifgirl · wjwcalifgirl

I decided that I needed to talk to my abf again yesterday after my soap box performance the night before to find out how much sank in and what was is honest thoughts. He aggreed we needed to talk so this was not hard and I decieded not to harp on things or repeat it if he remembers and suprising enough he did...

clara · clara

I posted my first message earlier today and I got very, very good advise. However, I was not strong enough to follow your excellent advise. When my daughter called and begged me if she could come here and stay until her new place was ready(10 very long days), I said "OK". Her husband kicked...

Karilynn · Karilynn

WE HAVE ANOTHER BIRTHDAY GIRL - A ST. PATRICK'S BIRTHDAY! LET US ALL RAISE OUR TO OUR LOVELY BECKY! WOOHOO! YOU'RE A VERY BEAUTIFUL 21 YEAR OLD! HAPPY BIRTHDAY BECKY! REMEMBER CALORIES DON'T COUNT ON YOUR BIRTHDAY WEEK. SO YOU CAN GO AHEAD HAVE YOUR AND EAT IT TOO! HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY AND EXTRA SPEC...

Christy · Christy

Happy Birthday Glad Lee!!!! I'm glad you were born Have a wonderful day!!

ernie · ernie

February Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held on February 8th 2009 Chair opened the meeting with moment of silence followed by the serenity Prayer Vote for January Business Meeting Minutes - Voted on and accepted Treasurers Report was passed as an agenda item as we do not have a Treasurer ...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Good day MIP family~ Woke up early and thought I would stop by and let you know that the date with EXABF went well. We had a nice dinner, watched a movie and he went home. We didn't discuss anything as far as us or reconciling or anything-though he did say something about if we decided to keep seeing one ano...

Saved By Grace · Saved By Grace

I'm piggy backing off my last post Boundaries and Expectations. I'm up the creek again. I seen the recovering A this morning coincidentally. He avoided calling and texting yesterday. This morning when I confronted him, he told me that he is starting to care too much and has to slow things down. WTF?? I...

Goodtillitsbad · Goodtillitsbad

And thanks to Al Anon I'm learning to live with this. I can only control MY actions and decisions. I'm new here and just wanted to share this thought. My AH is in rehab (first time) and just called me last night saying he's going to be coming home soon(can be there up to 90 days - it's only been 17 days since...

spirited1 · spirited1

For those of you who are reading this......I decided to change my screen name, and have a bit more anonimity(?)....this is shellyj123, and today is the first day of Spring:). I'm starting over with a fresh start, and thought a new name would be nice. Spent yesterday rereading all of my old posts and wa...

clara · clara

AD was supposed to come to my house yesterday until her apartment was ready. Well, as it turns out, there still is no apartment. She may go stay with her sister in law instead, but that will not be available until about 10 days. Daughter did not show up; claims a migraine headache. So, anyway, here we...

Christy · Christy

I don't recall where I found this but it was saved in my computer. It seemed appropriate for the first day of spring and members of Alanon. We've been tending our Sacred Garden. It is now giving rise to Dream seeds -- ones planted with Faith Wisdom, watered with our tears of Joy and Gratitude, and tender...

ollie · ollie

hi wonderful family. i have a question ,hoping you can help me with. a is coming out of hospital tomorrow ,after being in 4 days of detoxation. he does seem alot more focused ,and has agreed to go to AA. has anyone had a sucess with this,its his first time,i have learned not to build any hopes up here,but wo...

ranbrew · ranbrew

I am very old, and very computer illiterate, I am having trouble getting to the Cht/Mtg room can any one help Thank you

wjwcalifgirl · wjwcalifgirl

I met with therapist and signed up to complete a co-dependence program put on through my health provider -kaiser- this can take up 2 2 months once a week but they give me 4 months to complete. She gave me a questionier to see if I am co-dependent. well out of 19 questions where you answer yes, no or somet...

lisdeanne · lisdeanne

I have been married 19 years in July and my husbands awakening moment happened 12-31-04 when he got pulled over for a DWI. He quit drinking and did very well for several years. We bought a new home in May 2008 and our neighbors are alcoholics and drink all the time. My husband started going over there a...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, Have been reading your posts but not posting much. Have had a lot of hassle with teenage son who is testing his boundaries but that happens, right, he got to me the other night and I stormed off, planning to go to the pub, but I caught myself on, turned around and came home and had a great night watc...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP family! I recently found myself asking the question, what's wrong with me? Many are aware that last year stood out for many reasons. The good (my progress in recovery), the bad (my AH progressive disease) and the ugly (near death of AH). Yet, I felt that with the grace of my HP, life still held...

Annie69 · Annie69

just need to get things off my chest im tryin not to be angry but that is the way it has been here for the last few days A is drinkin more and more everyday he is blamin me for everything when he gets to tha point of drunkness and im tryin to maintain and not get in an agurment with him i dont like the way i feel...

meagain · meagain

Tks for the replies from yesterday. Well I got up this morning and the phone ran and it was my son again... He has racoons at his place and was laughing about them and asking what I think he should do about them. THat was just fine--no problem.=, he was in a good mood.......THen he starts the drama.....(h...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

Yesterday I felt so much stronger, busy trying to find a lodger, applying for a little part time admin job to supplement my now frightening low income (no help from my AH who said he had contributed enough recently!) I felt ok, met my friend for an early glass of wine, took my dog with me, I feel better when...

Jozie · Jozie

((((hugs to Ms. Shelly)))) & ((((Spirited1)))) :o) I Just wanted to wish you a Beautiful Day, of Happiness, and Hope that your Spring Date was/is everything you Did Not Expect It To Be :) ... Enjoy your day, enjoy your Steps, and enjoy your "Recovery"... One Day At A Time :) I will make...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Okay here you go a program for us cat codependents. Thanks to our David for sharing it with me. It's too funny to keep to myself: 12 STEP PROGRAM FOR "CATS SYNDROME"1. We admitted we were powerless over CATS - that our lives had become unmanageable. C2. Came to believe that...

meagain · meagain

this always seems like a continuin problem with my youngest son who will be 34 in June. He is doing good...but times are now getting tough as you all know....and he always calls me to complain Re: his truck broke down, no $$$ (he has always made big $$$)-well its always something. Sometimes he calls and...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I want to go back and make a clarification on a post I made last week entitled Boundaries and Expectations. I wrote in there that EXABF wrote and told me many times that he wanted a future with me. I do believe I even quoted that and I was wrong. I do not remember well anymore, and would like to apologize...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	stuck (Preview) so I am trying to get past the accusation from AH that he stopped wanting to talk to me once my depression started 10 yrs ago. aarrrrgh, I didn't take this well as we all have triggers. I feel I was diagnosed and had meds started then because of all the stress from living with an A that triggered the de...	ddub	1	452	Mar 25, 2009 by Jean4444
	Just Want To Talk...... (Preview) (((((Hugs))))) to Everyone. How do we function with so much pain? I am amazed by all of you and in myself, that we can get up every morning & do the things we must, take care of our families, hold jobs and run our homes. We go through our day to day duties, if people could just see inside our minds and our...	DreamsOver	6	582	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	upset (again) (Preview) This is my best outlet to vent. I caught my bf on a porn site that shows local women. I confronted him about it and he denied going on there (of course). Turned it all around on me (as always). He's said hurtful things. The next day he took the 2nd computer (where the site was saved) out of the house, said he wa...	buick23	3	583	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	Codependent vs Masochist (Preview) The psychologist that I have seen for quite awhile ended our last session with this statement: "There's a fine line between a codependent and a masochist." He tends to end our sessions with some food for thought. He knows I'm a deep thinker. Any thoughts?	GailMichelle	10	4809	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	New Meeting went Well :) (Preview) Welp... Made it there early as we always do.. I have issues yet with being late:)... My SIL drove and she too does not like running late... So was a little strange as we had an idea, but was not sure, were it was exactly bacause it was in the hospital... SOOOO glad that I went... Was a Newbie there, and she was...	Jozie	2	448	Mar 24, 2009 by Sincerely
	Trying to start over and take it slow with a past love~Feeling Confused, and incompetant. (Preview) Well after hearing from my sponsor today and reading the replies to my post I "came down" a bit from my obsessing high:). I am not feeling well at all today and was overburdened at work from the minute I came in the door because I had my usual work to do, plus my boss took off so I had to do her list a...	shellyj123	3	1017	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	I'm lost and confused (Preview) This is the first time I have posted on here. I have replied to a couple others. I am pretty new to Alanon. I joined the chat meetings in December, but never really started working the program till about a month ago. And I think the past month I have done very well. My boyfriend is my A. We have a son together....	Melissa21	11	1295	Mar 24, 2009 by Sincerely
	Old Posts (Preview) I just went back and read all of the topics I have started since I found this board in 2006. It is very interesting to see the progression in myself from a person willing to do anything to help the A in my life to someone willing to do anything to help myself, because I am the only person I can actually affect!...	babysteps	3	624	Mar 24, 2009 by Jean4444
	Birthdays oh those special occasions! (Preview) My birthday is coming up in 2 months and coincides with the possible end of my tenure with a wondeful intern for counselling who I have had a lot of success with. My normal approach to birthdays is to bury my head and try not to deal with it. I know how far I got doing that at Christmas. I have also, like man...	maresie	4	936	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	Open minded awarenesses... (Preview) Aloha Family!! Gratefully I got to my morning home group meeting next to the ocean and gosh I had not realized how much HP can do in such a short time and how much my group members (80+ of them) can change and learn in the same small piece of life. One of my fellow brothers shared his new awarenesses about a &...	Jerry F	4	967	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	Easy does it~trying not to become the caboose again:) (Preview) Went to a new F2F meeting last night, and believe genuinely that that is where I was supposed to be. Meetings was wonderful and so nice to meet some new faces and get myself "recharged" for the week ahead. Have spoken off and on to EXABF since our date Friday and have to say I am in a place wit...	shellyj123	3	507	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	I can feel the obsessing coming on fast!!!!-Please help with some ESH!!!! (Preview) Well today is one of those "off" days we all have and I am trying to remember that. Woke up feeling like I was hit with a bus and still exhausted, so I am sure that is not helping. EXABF took off sick yesterday so I sent him a get well comment to his Myspace page. He and I met on Myspace, and it is a sen...	shellyj123	5	773	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	another call to "Mom" (Preview) I wrote a few days aga about my youngest son always calling me. Of course he always was good at calling me...but now there's no work, and the calls are really getting to me! He called a few days ago to get the phone # of #2 son--to see if he can help him with building houses etc...well # 2 son also has no work!!...	meagain	3	600	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	I guess the problem is... (Preview) I have never had a slow moving, normal, healthy relationship and I have NO idea how to go about it, what it's supposed to look like and how to control the thing in my heart and brain that drives me into this obsessiveness. I can see how this is about control. I want to MAKE him keep loving me, do what I want h...	carolinagirl	7	766	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	Boundary setting?? (Preview) Well I got an email from the EXABF this am, saying that he had a nice time too and that he wouldn't date anyone else until we decided what we are going to do besides that he just wants to keep it "light" and won't be consumed again by what we should or should not do or the implications of it as that i...	shellyj123	2	642	Mar 24, 2009 by Diva
	Good Lord how do I start? (Preview) I guess I just introduce myself. I'm a 55 yr old woman, married for 34 years to the same man. six kids, plus some fosters. You can imagine this man is quite wonderful, really. There isn't anything he won't do for others. He was a wonderful father and a very good husband, in his way. He provided for us a...	Grandma Deb	6	782	Mar 24, 2009 by Diva
	How to help/set boundries w/ AH who doesn't want to quit? (Preview) The disease has really taken control - at least many cancers are curable or fought into remission. AH does nothing but drink around the clock, and doesn't seem to think that's wrong. As long as I don't confront him, any words we exchange are about the weather or 'look how cute the dog/cat is'. If I dare ev...	deserve_more	7	883	Mar 24, 2009 by blender_girl
	The unconditional love of this program (Preview) Yesterday I went to my home group meeting- sundays at 9AM. There was a woman there I had not seen before. She was an old timer and in both programs. I really loved what she said when it was time to share. I went up to her and told her so and gave her my card with my phone numbers on it. She gave me hers. She c...	Jean4444	3	636	Mar 24, 2009 by Rora
	Problems with son (Preview) Dear All, Son has started smoking and drinking aged 15, being very difficult and it is turning into an intolerable situation, am barely getting by with it, as he is quite abusive, send on your prayers please, I need to get things sorted,	maire rua	7	960	Mar 24, 2009 by maire rua
	Stood my ground did not go well (Preview) last night was a long long night for me. Started about 2 pm in the afternoon when my abf told me his friend ( one and only friend he has) was comming by. Now I have no problem with his friend nice guy. Well his friend stopped by and picked up some beer and scotch. ( friend does not drink scotch - and knows tha...	wjwcalifgirl	5	1001	Mar 23, 2009 by blender_girl
	Good news, good news!!! She wants to go to the hospital!!! (Preview) Yesterday I told AD she could not come here. This was her last option and it did not work out as she had hoped it would. So, I guess she see rock bottom from where she was at. A gentleman friend of her family is making phone calls and her blank, blank, blank, husband is finally willing to let go of some of hi...	clara	7	548	Mar 23, 2009 by Karilynn
	After 2 + years of sobriety founded out AH is drinking again and maybe cheating too (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=24935869	JS	10	785	Mar 23, 2009 by maresie
	What a morning already! :) (Preview) Well got up this morning did my reading, and put out a post, and thought... WHELP... Time to get the ball rolling on finish off "what I can" of what has to be paid off and done my June with it comes to Desease Afathers belongs... Wanted to get a jump on things...Soooo paid off the water bill, and...	Jozie	1	516	Mar 23, 2009 by abbyal
	New & Need some help, advice, prayers! (Preview) My daughter is an AH and drug addict. She is spiraling out of control. I believe that death may be in her near future as it seems like this may be her only rock bottom. I am frustrated because everyone tells me .. there's nothing I can do. She is 21 years old and has been to rehab .. attended AA .. had a spon...	Ilovemydaughter	4	844	Mar 23, 2009 by clara
	I finally took the stand!!! (Preview) I did want I have been going to Al-Anon for and coming to this board. I phoned daughter and told her she could not come here. I do not think she was shocked. I think she saw it coming. She said Brad was sending the divorce papers to our house. I will "return to sender". I am completely ou...	clara	4	626	Mar 23, 2009 by Rora
	right or wrong answer? (Preview) I don't have much experience with addiction. My xabf is my son's father, and is the only a in my life, to my knowledge. I recently broke it off, for the billionth time. I have been along for the ride, for the most part, and didn't really recognize how much it affected ME until I was pregnant. I started to rea...	lucky	5	782	Mar 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	New Meeting Tonight :) YEAH :) (Preview) Hi all... I am try'n out a New F2F tonight, kind of excited, because if all goes well then I know I can go there this summer when I wont be able to get to my "home" F2F... So crossing my fingers for a good night... I was babysitn Fri. so didn't get to get to my usual one, so this worked out perfect f...	Jozie	2	646	Mar 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	Remember--will Al-Anon kick me out?? That was me that wrote that (Preview) I am the person that wondered if Al-Anon would kick me out for not following through on my promises. Well, this has probably been one of the worse days of my life. I called my AD and told her she could under no circumstances come to our house. She is now completely out of options. I have cried a river of te...	clara	1	578	Mar 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	unsure (Preview) Met my Ab in a local park I was feeling so strong knew he was not going to change my mind he told he he loved me didnt want to loose me. told me it was mad that I was running from him just as he is finally ready to look at himself. to cut a long story short he said he wants to go to aa but has needed time to accept his p...	Tracy	2	706	Mar 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	Good day...good day (Preview) After a very low day on Friday, all day in bed nearly, feeling desparately low...which is when I last posted, Saturday I started my new very small part time job at a lovely womenswear designer shop in town working with my friend. Had a good day, came home tired, ate (thats something thats coming back aft...	Lilly Burn	5	685	Mar 22, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	Alone (Preview) I haven't posted here but once, I've been so busy with the kids and finally going to the gym (doing something for myself). After almost 7 years with my A boyfriend I feel like I'm in this relationship by myself most of the time. Part of it is because he works 2nd shift and 6-7 days a week, but when he is home...	Holly09	3	769	Mar 22, 2009 by hotrod
	acceptance (Preview) I think I have finally accepted that I carnt change, fix or make over my boyfriend. for 4 years I have been insanly focusing on his life trying to turn him into another person. HE IS WHO HE IS ACCEPT IT he does have probs with drnk nothing I can do. so what does this leave me with I dont want a lifelike this. I d...	Tracy	4	544	Mar 22, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	question (Preview) hi mip family. my A has been in hospital for 4 days detoxing,he seems alot more focused. he is promising to go to AA. this is his first time. has anyone had any success with this. i know better than to build up any kind of hope. i was just wondering. love to you all ollie x	ollie	4	609	Mar 22, 2009 by ollie
	Opening up the tool box (Preview) I noticed that this weekend I have been somewhat distant from my program and HP (of course I have a tendancy to be a perfectionist in everything I do-Imagine that!:)) Part I'm sure has been because I didn't make my Friday night home meeting, part from not feeling well, and part I'm sure due to recent c...	shellyj123	1	789	Mar 22, 2009 by Tracy
	Thank God for Sisters and friends like you!!!! (Preview) I was on the phone with my sister and in near hysterics over AD. For the past 3 days daughter has been promising(threatening) to come to our house. I work myself up in a frenzy and then she does not show. Tomorrow I will call her before church and tell not to bother. Then I will throw myself upon the alte...	clara	2	676	Mar 22, 2009 by clara
	Old habits die hard! (Preview) I have found that in my new relationship I feel very needy. It's complicated because I work days and he works nights and he still lives with his parents (yes I know I know... he's young...) so that complicates things too. In the past I always rushed into relationships and then we were glued together af...	carolinagirl	7	1037	Mar 21, 2009 by Jerry F
	took another stand this time he had not been drinking (Preview) I decided that I needed to talk to my abf again yesterday after my soap box performance the night before to find out how much sank in and what was is honest thoughts. He aggreed we needed to talk so this was not hard and I decieded not to harp on things or repeat it if he remembers and suprising enough he did...	wjwcalifgirl	3	798	Mar 21, 2009 by wjwcalifgirl
	Will Al-Anon kick me out??? (Preview) I posted my first message earlier today and I got very, very good advise. However, I was not strong enough to follow your excellent advise. When my daughter called and begged me if she could come here and stay until her new place was ready(10 very long days), I said "OK". Her husband kicked...	clara	19	1847	Mar 21, 2009 by bri4444
	Another birthday girl! (Preview) *WE HAVE ANOTHER BIRTHDAY GIRL - A ST. PATRICK'S BIRTHDAY! LET US ALL RAISE OUR TO OUR LOVELY BECKY! WOOHOO! YOU'RE A VERY BEAUTIFUL 21 YEAR OLD!* *HAPPY BIRTHDAY BECKY!* *REMEMBER CALORIES DON'T COUNT ON YOUR BIRTHDAY WEEK. SO YOU CAN GO AHEAD HAVE YOUR AND EAT IT TOO! HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY AND EXTRA SPEC...*	Karilynn	7	500	Mar 21, 2009 by tea2
	HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! (Preview) Happy Birthday Glad Lee!!!! I'm glad you were born Have a wonderful day!!	Christy	8	528	Mar 21, 2009 by tea2
	February Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) February Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held on February 8th 2009 Chair opened the meeting with moment of silence followed by the serenity Prayer Vote for January Business Meeting Minutes - Voted on and accepted Treasurers Report was passed as an agenda item as we do not have a Treasurer ...	ernie	5	590	Mar 21, 2009 by ernie
	Date night (Preview) Good day MIP family~ Woke up early and thought I would stop by and let you know that the date with EXABF went well. We had a nice dinner, watched a movie and he went home. We didn't discuss anything as far as us or reconciling or anything-though he did say something about if we decided to keep seeing one ano...	shellyj123	0	436	Mar 21, 2009 by shellyj123
	Back on the Roller Coaster (Preview) I'm piggy backing off my last post Boundaries and Expectations. I'm up the creek again. I seen the recovering A this morning coincidentally. He avoided calling and texting yesterday. This morning when I confronted him, he told me that he is starting to care too much and has to slow things down. WTF?? I...	Saved By Grace	9	640	Mar 21, 2009 by Saved By Grace
	I have no control (Preview) And thanks to Al Anon I'm learning to live with this. I can only control MY actions and decisions. I'm new here and just wanted to share this thought. My AH is in rehab (first time) and just called me last night saying he's going to be coming home soon(can be there up to 90 days - it's only been 17 days since...	Goodtillitsbad	7	577	Mar 21, 2009 by Sincerely
	Starting over~fearless (Preview) For those of you who are reading this......I decided to change my screen name, and have a bit more anonimity(?)....this is shellyj123, and today is the first day of Spring:). I'm starting over with a fresh start, and thought a new name would be nice. Spent yesterday rereading all of my old posts and wa...	spirited1	2	660	Mar 21, 2009 by Sincerely
	Another scarey uncertain day (Preview) AD was supposed to come to my house yesterday until her apartment was ready. Well, as it turns out, there still is no apartment. She may go stay with her sister in law instead, but that will not be available until about 10 days. Daughter did not show up; claims a migraine headache. So, anyway, here we...	clara	5	979	Mar 21, 2009 by Karilynn
	Seedlings of possibility (Preview) I don't recall where I found this but it was saved in my computer. It seemed appropriate for the first day of spring and members of Alanon. We've been tending our Sacred Garden. It is now giving rise to Dream seeds -- ones planted with Faith Wisdom, watered with our tears of Joy and Gratitude, and tender...	Christy	1	451	Mar 21, 2009 by Karilynn
	need a little info (Preview) hi wonderful family. i have a question ,hoping you can help me with. a is coming out of hospital tomorrow ,after being in 4 days of detoxation. he does seem alot more focused ,and has agreed to go to AA. has anyone had a sucess with this,its his first time,i have learned not to build any hopes up here,but wo...	ollie	1	633	Mar 20, 2009 by Jozie
	Help to go to mtgs (Preview) I am very old, and very computer illiterate, I am having trouble getting to the Cht/Mtg room can any one help Thank you	ranbrew	3	501	Mar 20, 2009 by ranbrew
	signed up for co-dependency program (Preview) I met with therapist and signed up to complete a co-dependence program put on through my health provider -kaiser- this can take up 2 2 months once a week but they give me 4 months to complete. She gave me a questionier to see if I am co-dependent. well out of 19 questions where you answer yes, no or somet...	wjwcalifgirl	4	631	Mar 20, 2009 by maresie
	Why cant people enjoy life and eachother without being intoxicated? (Preview) I have been married 19 years in July and my husbands awakening moment happened 12-31-04 when he got pulled over for a DWI. He quit drinking and did very well for several years. We bought a new home in May 2008 and our neighbors are alcoholics and drink all the time. My husband started going over there a...	lisdeanne	5	560	Mar 20, 2009 by maresie
	update on all (Preview) Dear All, Have been reading your posts but not posting much. Have had a lot of hassle with teenage son who is testing his boundaries but that happens, right, he got to me the other night and I stormed off, planning to go to the pub, but I caught myself on, turned around and came home and had a great night watc...	maire rua	2	512	Mar 20, 2009 by maresie
	What's wrong with me? Negative self-talk! (Preview) Hi MIP family! I recently found myself asking the question, what's wrong with me? Many are aware that last year stood out for many reasons. The good (my progress in recovery), the bad (my AH progressive disease) and the ugly (near death of AH). Yet, I felt that with the grace of my HP, life still held...	Rocky38	9	727	Mar 20, 2009 by maresie
	tryin (Preview) just need to get things off my chest im tryin not to be angry but that is the way it has been here for the last few days A is drinkin more and more everyday he is blamin me for everything when he gets to tha point of drunkness and im tryin to maintain and not get in an agurment with him i dont like the way i feel...	Annie69	5	920	Mar 20, 2009 by maresie
	Its just :Meagain" (Preview) Tks for the replies from yesterday. Well I got up this morning and the phone ran and it was my son again... He has racoons at his place and was laughing about them and asking what I think he should do about them. THat was just fine--no problem.=, he was in a good mood.......THen he starts the drama.....(h...	meagain	4	516	Mar 20, 2009 by maresie
	Good day, bad day... (Preview) Yesterday I felt so much stronger, busy trying to find a lodger, applying for a little part time admin job to supplement my now frightening low income (no help from my AH who said he had contributed enough recently!) I felt ok, met my friend for an early glass of wine, took my dog with me, I feel better when...	Lilly Burn	3	777	Mar 20, 2009 by maresie
	For Ms. Shelly123... :) & Spirited1 (Preview) ((((hugs to Ms. Shelly)))) & ((((Spirited1)))) :o) I Just wanted to wish you a Beautiful Day, of Happiness, and Hope that your Spring Date was/is everything you Did Not Expect It To Be :) ... Enjoy your day, enjoy your Steps, and enjoy your "Recovery"... One Day At A Time :) I will make...	Jozie	0	445	Mar 20, 2009 by Jozie
	12 step program for cats (Preview) (((Family))), Okay here you go a program for us cat codependents. Thanks to our David for sharing it with me. It's too funny to keep to myself: 12 STEP PROGRAM FOR "CATS SYNDROME"1. We admitted we were powerless over CATS - that our lives had become unmanageable. C2. Came to believe that...	Karilynn	2	4987	Mar 20, 2009 by david62
	continuing problem it seems (Preview) this always seems like a continuin problem with my youngest son who will be 34 in June. He is doing good...but times are now getting tough as you all know....and he always calls me to complain Re: his truck broke down, no $$$ (he has always made big $$$)-well its always something. Sometimes he calls and...	meagain	5	507	Mar 20, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	Need to clarify a post made last week~ (Preview) I want to go back and make a clarification on a post I made last week entitled Boundaries and Expectations. I wrote in there that EXABF wrote and told me many times that he wanted a future with me. I do believe I even quoted that and I was wrong. I do not remember well anymore, and would like to apologize...	shellyj123	1	512	Mar 20, 2009 by maire rua
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