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Inpain · Inpain

I ask because, I've been this way for as long as I can remember. My first boyfriend emotionally abused me for 4 years and I went from relationship to relationship and can only recall ONE that the guy didn't drink. Interestingly neither of my parents drank. My father is however a dry drunk, and the epi...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

I knew that it would eventally happen, he has been running for almost 2 years. He is in some little town in georgia for a shop lifting Charge (six pack of beer)! Two weeks before it happened I turned him over to HP. I couldn't stand watching him destroy himself and his 9 year old son. I had to let them both go...

Gailey · Gailey

This is regarding my prior post about my son's relapse. As I was sitting drinking my coffee on Sunday morning thinking about what it will take for my son to get into recovery, the word that came to mind was HONESTY.....complete honesty with himself and others. Well...HP had something else in mind for m...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

After a few days of being suspicious of my husband's drinking, I did a search. I found an empty beer bottle hidden in the closet. I also found 3 bottle caps in his bathroom trash can (he keeps the trash can locked, under the cabinet so our son doesn't play in it). So now I feel more anxious, mad, and depres...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

My AH as I posted before, is in rehab. Last time he was in rehab, I was very involved in HIS recovery (this time I'm very involved in mine) and we he got out, we stayed together for a couple of weeks until he dumped me for some girl he met in rehab. I was devastated, still hurt from that a lot. This time I think is...

Sis63 · Sis63

Just when things seem to be going along so well, wham! Something comes along and pulls the rug out from under you. I was getting ready for work this morning and saw a bottle of prescription pills in the medicine cabinet. As we don't keep medicine there, I picked it up and realized it was an old prescriptio...

sarabell54 · sarabell54

I have been involved with an alcoholic for almost two years now. When I first met him I didn't know that he was an alcoholic. He stated that he just didn't drink and I was fine with that since I am a social drinker. About a month into our relationship he admited to me thathehad a problem. I never say him drin...

Ash · Ash

And so I take it that you grieve when you face the reality of the way it really is. With all that darkness though, there is a lot of light - or so I hopeMy head has been spinning on whether to stay or go. Right now I choose to stay. No physical threat. Just the threat of getting sucked into the lies. I panic b...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Sometimes I feel like I am doing this. Some days I am not comfortable with the way that I cope with my ALO's sobriety. Often times I find it nearly impossible not to have my stomach twisting in knots over the fact that his meeting attendance has lapsed. Don't get me wrong - I am NOT as crazy as I once was and MY...

Veteran member · Inpain

Hey! I just noticed I became a "veteran" member!!! Pretty neat :woot: I'll celebrate by saying today I had a good day. I didn't pick up after my D.Drunk. Even after he came out of oral surgery. I left the first aid kit right where he left it, left his cup and lemon, left his scissors, and pac...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Okay...honestly I was in the other room looking for some gems and got this with the thought, "Humor and laughing is an indication of recovery". So read this and inventory your own progress. Sponsorship A man in a hot air balloon realized he was lost. So he descended a bit and shouted to a man...

lettherebepeace · lettherebepeace

well, it took threats to my life and the lives of my family members to leave my a-bf this is my second love relationship with an alcoholic then there are all those family members who are addicts i watched a movie recently called rachel getting married had no idea it was about a family dealing with add...

Holly09 · Holly09

After a lousy ending to Sunday I decided yesterday I needed time to myself so I took it! I left my boyfriend home with the kids (he had the night off from work) and went shopping and bought myself a couple of things and the boys a new dresser. I came home to supper being cooked! It was nice to have some help...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Saturday my Ahusband finally go to rehab. I'm just sooo happy!!! I know this is just the beginning of a new struggle and that there is along way to go, but I'm glad he took this step and that he did it all buy himself. I, of course, don't take full credit for him going to rehab, but I honestly think that My chan...

maresie · maresie

I have found one key to maintaining a positive attitude is to have several small projects going. If my life is unmanageable (which it often is) I can measure my progress by how far I am moving on the projects. The more control I have the better. Of course life itself means things don't necessarily go my...

Christy · Christy

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! (This a friend of Pipers)

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I live in a condo that is heavily populated by retirees who don't particularly care for children and their antics. So the long and the short of it is that I have to move out by the end of next month. My credit is horriffic but my rental history and employment are great. I looked around and everything tha...

clara · clara

Have not heard from daughter in nearly a week. She knows I have been going through a terrible time due to my friend's death last week. But why do I expect anything from my AD. I should learn to "not expect anything", so therefore I will not be disappointed. We are going to Houston for grand...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I find myself today in a mild struggle with myself. I am working really hard on letting go of things I can not control but sometimes I get so very frustrated. I realize that it is not people that disappoint me but my expectations of them that cause the disappointment. I have two brothers, both older th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so pleased with my sponsor. Sometimes it takes a while to hear from her but when she gets back to me she always has something good to say. I don't see her very often but when I do, she is always there waiting with a hug. I am going to try to call her once a week. I haven't been very good at calling but I email...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Normally I love tomorrows. Normally I love work. But tomorrow I have to go to work with my tail between my legs. You see, all last week I worked my butt off, threw a hissy fit over two employees calling in sick or leaving early and had a meltdown of my own on Friday that carried over into Saturday. Havin...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I have been going to meetings at least 3 times a week since March 28. I have someone in mind that I would like to ask to be my sponsor and I'm just wondering when is a good time to ask? Is it too soon? Should I be in the program longer? She goes to my Monday night meetings and always just has the most common sen...

ernie · ernie

April Business meeting MinutesMeeting was held on April 19th 2009 Chair opened the meeting with moment of silence followed by the serenity Prayer Motion to accept March Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Ch...

Katy · Katy

I love animals, never lived in a house without any untill I got married, anyhow a year last christmas I went into a pet shop and a cockatial seem to take to me, and it was a right noisy one, probably still there because it was a bird with attitude, well hubby was sober and said we could have her, wow really, so...

nmike · nmike

Hello Alanoners, I have not been able to get on to support you all. Trouble in techno land. However, I do want to support everyone for where they are today. This disease of alcoholism and addiction manifests itself in so many different ways. I am ok. I struggle with my insides not matching my outsides....

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Just wanted to give you and update on the robbery. I met with the detective on Wednesday to do my deposition. I mentioned to him that my niece was back in town and was more than willing to talk to him. He said that wasn't neccessary to talk to her nor the maintenance men. He was more than...

maresie · 13

i dont know what to do... my husband has a drinking problem and its really starting to affect our whole family. i thought it was getting better and now all of a sudden hes drinking and driving, lying about how much hes had or where hes drinking at. i found out he even drank at work... he will lose his job. hes...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

I don't even know where to start. My A gets my mind so twisted like a pretzel that a few hours after the arguement I'm beliving things probably are my fault. I feel like I'm walking through a landmine field lately, one wrong comment and BOOM. My A--who is my BF who is a dry drunk at this point-- used to te...

Holly09 · Holly09

My a boyfriend drove home drunk in my car and is now laying on our bed with dirty disgusting feet and I've told him 2 times to go wash them and he is not moving and I'm getting so pissed off I just want to choke the out of him! I don't want to sleep on the couch tonight I want to sleep in my own bed and I won't with di...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Funny how a single event ( a sentence even) can just take the wind out of my sails and make me feel like I will (or want to) drown. I am not divorced yet. Nothing but procrastination can be blamed at this point. Though nothing is certain, we had determined that most likely, if we were to get divorced and c...

Jozie · Jozie

What a weekend, full of my usual ups and downs and sideways...However, since last weeks melt down..lol.. I have slowly picked up a few lessons along the way.. I have not been speaking to my H for a couple days due to his usual, "Run" effect that seems to happen when I am in need of some assistanc...

wp · wp

Dear God, You saw me working hard for two days clearing out my closet, getting ready for a major wardrobe turnover for your warm and lovely spring , summer. You know I do ALL the work myself...no help lifting, lugging, cleaning. I even patiently controlled my instinct to rip into Hub's gnarly...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

On the way home from my F2F meeting Friday night I had to deal with a problem with my son, and some inappropriate texting to a girl in his class. Needless to say when I got home, we argued, I took his phone, then proceeded after he told me in a rather smart mouth way that "I can live without that cell ph...

peacewithin · peacewithin

Hey everyone. First I want to say I'm so thankfull for this board. I read it ever night I work. I work the graveyard shift. I feel I'm not alone with all of you here and reading all the post. Ok here it My AH has been dinking all our marriage. 30 yrs + I also went out when we were dating but I was never a drinker a d...

Holly09 · Holly09

To make a long story short my A boyfriends cousin is visiting from SC and his family is having a get together this afternoon. I'm not sure if I'm going or not me and my 4 yr old got sunburned yesterday afternoon and my boyfriend isn't sure if there will be any shade at his relatives house (an apartment buil...

chezza · chezza

I would like to say thank for the comfort and encouragement I have received since I started to post on the site. Especially this week. After my first deep share last week on my deepest feelings of resentment I managed to use the al-anon tools to the best of my ability to let of the hurt/expectation I was a...

Alice222 · Alice222

I am not quite sure where to start and sure hope that I am posting in the correct section My AH is very loving and caring person. He is well respected, has many wonderful qualities and makes me feel special for the most part, but he is an A. AH has been a heavy drinker since his teens, and AH is now approachi...

Gailey · Gailey

I am sitting here waiting to hear about my son who was just arrested for a dui. This is just too hard sometimes.

RLC · RLC

Hello To All, For what ever reason that only my AW and HP knows my wife quit drinking 10 days ago. I realized it the day it happened. She had been drinking 12 to 15 beers a day for years. When that day came 10 days ago I could'nt actually believe it, and kept waiting for the other shoe to drop. I wa...

Annie69 · Annie69

It's been awhile. I moved out for awhile so my A could find some place else to live. He was to be moved out yesterday but he was still here. I gave him and his drinkin buddies a choice to get out or I would leave again and turn everything off. He started his crap. But I stood my ground. He left with his bud...

hort7 · hort7

I am learning to let go and let God. I did so with the donation situation (see post on open for thoughts, comments and suggestions a few days ago for the whole story). I let it drop with no answer and did not bring it up again to my AH. I also let it go in MY mind, deciding if it came up again, then I could think a...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Ever since my husband got out from detox I have been the model Al-Anon spouse. I've been working my program, going to meetings, and reading my literature - I had everything under control (because I knew my husband was working his program and not drinking). Well today I have a sneaking suspicion that h...

clara · clara

Got the phone call that my friend Helen(that I had mentioned from previous post) passed away today. We never want to loose our loved ones, but she was struggling just to breathe. She was exhausted from the effort. She is now in a far better place than we are now. The Priest came yesterday to adminis...

nycbt · nycbt

HI EVERYONE I wanted to tell you that i have missed all of you. While i was gone I was dealing with my husband telling me that he was and addict he was doing herion. I was having a hard time and I know that when i should of come in but I was so angry over everything. ALso he was getting treated for HEP C so I was deal...

blender_girl · blender_girl

The past couple of days have been up and down for me emotionally. I'm finding that while I can usually maintain my composure during a confrontation or at least physically detach myself from it, the emotional effects inevitably set in the next day.Yesterday I was filled with hurt and sadness. I fel...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

OK, so I took some suggestions from people about my earlier post regarding off-traditions, some might call 'swick' meetings...decided to go do some active practicing 'take what you like and leave the rest'. The highlights: arrived on time, mtg started late. 'How important is it' a woman came in, an...

alizator · alizator

Okay, here is the laundry list for ACOA. I read this everyday as part of my program. This keeps it near the front of my brain. If I get the feeling of dejavu or familiarity, I seem to always find it on the list so I can understand what's going on. Reading the list everyday also allows me to see how mu...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

Hi Its Lilly, I need to vent..Ive been doing so well, got my sister in law to tell my exAH to leave me alone..I got some silent calls then a nasty one, accusing me of saying things to his ex. Well, I was trying to change my sky account and found emails from him, march 27th (10 days after he went off to his new lif...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

Hi everyone. I'm new and a little nervous. I'm not sure how to start. I guess my first question is am I supposed to be here only if I've broken off with my ABF? He is going to be 8 years sober this summer, however; he has not been working his program for about a year now and though promised me he'd start ma...

windyturn · windyturn

My step-father is an alcoholic and refuses any sort of help whatsoever. He has been to a meeting in the past, but decided that it wasn't for him. I don't deal with him on any sort of regular basis - but my problem is his drinking and driving. He has a tendency to drink in his truck driving around this rural ar...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I can really see how totally different it is to walk around in your life with being able to detach with love and NOT. Its really just like being able to walk or not. Or read or not. Its that massive and foundational. I could never detach and I certainly could not with love but I am finding that yes I can and...

blender_girl · blender_girl

At the suggestion of my sponsor, I'm putting together lists - what do I want? What am I currently getting? How do I get what I want? This has been very thought-provoking for me and I wanted to share with you what I have discovered so far. What do I want?· To feel valued, cherished, loved, respec...

barisax · barisax

I'm starting a new thread from what Blender Girl started, so as not to spin her thread off in another direction. blender_girl wrote: · To feel valued, cherished, loved, respected, trusted by a partner/spouse/significant other · To be able to trust a partner/spouse/significant other with my thoug...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I am obviously a slow learner, but I am learning........slowly. I have learned the HARD way that there are some answers I will never have, and if I did have the EXABF answer them I doubt I would believe him anyway, his version of events tend to change around and mix me up even more. I also am learning...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I'm just wondering how many of you drink even though you are dealing with an alcoholic in your life? I'll admit that I enjoy wine. But I'm the type of person who likes to be relaxed to enjoy a glass or two of wine. These past few weeks have been so stressful, that the thought of having a glass has not been ap...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I wanted to take some time to Thank all of you who have held me up the past months, and there have been many of you who have shared ESH, and kept me from falling into the abyss of alcoholism. When I thought I was crazy, I was shown that I wasn't alone, that most of us have been there in one way or another. Ev...

maresie · maresie

My birthday is coming up on May 9th. As many of you know any kind of holiday for me is really difficult. I was falling back into my "poor me" mentality so I've decided to take ownership and try to work on doing things for myself. I can't count on anyone to "do" for me. In fact I don't...

Rora · Rora

I had a long awaited MRI today, which was about an hours drive away. aH, from whom I am separated, knew about the appt at one time, but I didn't remind him or let him know about it. I drove there myself today, which gave me a chance to talk out loud to HP. I realized that often times, what I need is to talk &qu...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Get Sober and Stay Sober! If you want it, just do it. I've had enough, how many chances does he think he will get? How many more chances will I give? Not that many more. This is his last chance. He is on a waiting list for a rehab, I am so looking forward to getting myself together. His next chance is 90 d...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, I posted last night about the simple email I was sending my ah regarding the need to have Friday nights be for my recovery and not "date night" with the kids. I appreciated your responses. Just so you know, the reason I did not offer another night is because there isn't one. He i...

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	When does Co-dependency start? (Preview) I ask because, I've been this way for as long as I can remember. My first boyfriend emotionally abused me for 4 years and I went from relationship to relationship and can only recall ONE that the guy didn't drink. Interestingly neither of my parents drank. My father is however a dry drunk, and the epi...	Inpain	6	1318	Apr 29, 2009 by maresie
	He's in Jail! (Preview) I knew that it would eventally happen, he has been running for almost 2 years. He is in some little town in georgia for a shop lifting Charge (six pack of beer)! Two weeks before it happened I turned him over to HP. I couldn't stand watching him destroy himself and his 9 year old son. I had to let them both go...	sisdragonfly1957	7	640	Apr 29, 2009 by maresie
	a lesson learned this weekend (Preview) This is regarding my prior post about my son's relapse. As I was sitting drinking my coffee on Sunday morning thinking about what it will take for my son to get into recovery, the word that came to mind was HONESTY.....complete honesty with himself and others. Well...HP had something else in mind for m...	Gailey	6	931	Apr 29, 2009 by Rita G
	Al-Anon is Right and I was Wrong (Preview) After a few days of being suspicious of my husband's drinking, I did a search. I found an empty beer bottle hidden in the closet. I also found 3 bottle caps in his bathroom trash can (he keeps the trash can locked, under the cabinet so our son doesn't play in it). So now I feel more anxious, mad, and depres...	N8SMOM	9	1141	Apr 29, 2009 by Tiger2006
	Learning NOT to share (Preview) My AH as I posted before, is in rehab. Last time he was in rehab, I was very involved in HIS recovery (this time I'm very involved in mine) and we he got out, we stayed together for a couple of weeks until he dumped me for some girl he met in rehab. I was devastated, still hurt from that a lot. This time I think is...	Priscilla83	7	713	Apr 29, 2009 by Tiger2006
	Feeling kicked in the Stomach (Preview) Just when things seem to be going along so well, wham! Something comes along and pulls the rug out from under you. I was getting ready for work this morning and saw a bottle of prescription pills in the medicine cabinet. As we don't keep medicine there, I picked it up and realized it was an old prescriptio...	Sis63	4	1026	Apr 29, 2009 by Tiger2006
	HI Everyone... First Post :) (Preview) I have been involved with an alcoholic for almost two years now. When I first met him I didn't know that he was an alcoholic. He stated that he just didn't drink and I was fine with that since I am a social drinker. About a month into our relationship he admited to me thathehad a problem. I never say him drin...	sarabell54	7	1095	Apr 29, 2009 by Mariner
	Facing reality (Preview) And so I take it that you grieve when you face the reality of the way it really is. With all that darkness though, there is a lot of light - or so I hopeMy head has been spinning on whether to stay or go. Right now I choose to stay. No physical threat. Just the threat of getting sucked into the lies. I panic b...	Ash	5	1056	Apr 29, 2009 by glad lee
	Waiting for the Other shoe to drop? (Preview) Sometimes I feel like I am doing this. Some days I am not comfortable with the way that I cope with my ALO's sobriety. Often times I find it nearly impossible not to have my stomach twisting in knots over the fact that his meeting attendance has lapsed. Don't get me wrong - I am NOT as crazy as I once was and MY...	RunnerChick	8	2339	Apr 28, 2009 by lizzakiss
	Veteran member (Preview) Hey! I just noticed I became a "veteran" member!!! Pretty neat :woot: I'll celebrate by saying today I had a good day. I didn't pick up after my D.Drunk. Even after he came out of oral surgery. I left the first aid kit right where he left it, left his cup and lemon, left his scissors, and pac...	Inpain	4	645	Apr 28, 2009 by Inpain
	some humor snuck in from the other room (Preview) Okay...honestly I was in the other room looking for some gems and got this with the thought, "Humor and laughing is an indication of recovery". So read this and inventory your own progress. Sponsorship A man in a hot air balloon realized he was lost. So he descended a bit and shouted to a man...	Jerry F	15	579	Apr 28, 2009 by canadianguy
	i left my A-bf (Preview) well, it took threats to my life and the lives of my family members to leave my a-bf this is my second love relationship with an alcoholic then there are all those family members who are addicts i watched a movie recently called rachel getting married had no idea it was about a family dealing with add...	lettherebepeace	11	896	Apr 28, 2009 by carolinagirl
	What I did for me yesterday (Preview) After a lousy ending to Sunday I decided yesterday I needed time to myself so I took it! I left my boyfriend home with the kids (he had the night off from work) and went shopping and bought myself a couple of things and the boys a new dresser. I came home to supper being cooked! It was nice to have some help...	Holly09	5	459	Apr 28, 2009 by kitty
	Good news!! (Preview) Saturday my Ahusband finally go to rehab. I'm just sooo happy!!! I know this is just the beginning of a new struggle and that there is along way to go, but I'm glad he took this step and that he did it all buy himself. I, of course, don't take full credit for him going to rehab, but I honestly think that My chan...	Priscilla83	6	797	Apr 28, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Setting small goals for myself. (Preview) I have found one key to maintaining a positive attitude is to have several small projects going. If my life is unmanageable (which it often is) I can measure my progress by how far I am moving on the projects. The more control I have the better. Of course life itself means things don't necessarily go my...	maresie	7	1602	Apr 28, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	Happy Birthday Karilynn!!! (Preview) HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! (This a friend of Pipers)	Christy	15	988	Apr 28, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	Have to move (Preview) I live in a condo that is heavily populated by retirees who don't particularly care for children and their antics. So the long and the short of it is that I have to move out by the end of next month. My credit is horriffic but my rental history and employment are great. I looked around and everything tha...	carolinagirl	5	688	Apr 28, 2009 by blender_girl
	have not heard from daughter in nearly a week---worried and wondering (Preview) Have not heard from daughter in nearly a week. She knows I have been going through a terrible time due to my friend's death last week. But why do I expect anything from my AD. I should learn to "not expect anything", so therefore I will not be disappointed. We are going to Houston for grand...	clara	11	1037	Apr 27, 2009 by clara
	Working on letting go of family... (Preview) I find myself today in a mild struggle with myself. I am working really hard on letting go of things I can not control but sometimes I get so very frustrated. I realize that it is not people that disappoint me but my expectations of them that cause the disappointment. I have two brothers, both older th...	shellyj123	7	484	Apr 27, 2009 by clara
	sponsorship (Preview) I am so pleased with my sponsor. Sometimes it takes a while to hear from her but when she gets back to me she always has something good to say. I don't see her very often but when I do, she is always there waiting with a hug. I am going to try to call her once a week. I haven't been very good at calling but I email...	Hoot Nanny	1	423	Apr 27, 2009 by Jozie
	Dreading Work Tomorrow (Preview) Normally I love tomorrows. Normally I love work. But tomorrow I have to go to work with my tail between my legs. You see, all last week I worked my butt off, threw a hissy fit over two employees calling in sick or leaving early and had a meltdown of my own on Friday that carried over into Saturday. Havin...	Sincerely	13	622	Apr 27, 2009 by Sincerely
	How Long Before Getting a Sponsor? (Preview) I have been going to meetings at least 3 times a week since March 28. I have someone in mind that I would like to ask to be my sponsor and I'm just wondering when is a good time to ask? Is it too soon? Should I be in the program longer? She goes to my Monday night meetings and always just has the most common sen...	N8SMOM	7	606	Apr 27, 2009 by blender_girl
	April Business Minutes (Preview) April Business meeting MinutesMeeting was held on April 19th 2009 Chair opened the meeting with moment of silence followed by the serenity Prayer Motion to accept March Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Ch...	ernie	0	1062	Apr 27, 2009 by ernie
	Is this awarness,and am I getting better? (Preview) I love animals, never lived in a house without any untill I got married, anyhow a year last christmas I went into a pet shop and a cockatial seem to take to me, and it was a right noisy one, probably still there because it was a bird with attitude, well hubby was sober and said we could have her, wow really, so...	Katy	4	838	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	Making Choices-Theirs and Ours (Preview) Hello Alanoners, I have not been able to get on to support you all. Trouble in techno land. However, I do want to support everyone for where they are today. This disease of alcoholism and addiction manifests itself in so many different ways. I am ok. I struggle with my insides not matching my outsides....	nmike	5	674	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	Update on robbery. (Preview) ((((Family))), Just wanted to give you and update on the robbery. I met with the detective on Wednesday to do my deposition. I mentioned to him that my niece was back in town and was more than willing to talk to him. He said that wasn't neccessary to talk to her nor the maintenance men. He was more than...	Karilynn	9	474	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	dont know what to do (Preview) i dont know what to do... my husband has a drinking problem and its really starting to affect our whole family. i thought it was getting better and now all of a sudden hes drinking and driving, lying about how much hes had or where hes drinking at. i found out he even drank at work... he will lose his job. hes...	13	8	606	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	It's official, I'm crazy. (Preview) I don't even know where to start. My A gets my mind so twisted like a pretzel that a few hours after the arguement I'm beliving things probably are my fault. I feel like I'm walking through a landmine field lately, one wrong comment and BOOM. My A--who is my BF who is a dry drunk at this point-- used to te...	lizzakiss	5	1305	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	I'm so irritated! (Preview) My a boyfriend drove home drunk in my car and is now laying on our bed with dirty disgusting feet and I've told him 2 times to go wash them and he is not moving and I'm getting so pissed off I just want to choke the out of him! I don't want to sleep on the couch tonight I want to sleep in my own bed and I won't with di...	Holly09	5	730	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	avoiding the inevitable... (Preview) Funny how a single event ( a sentence even) can just take the wind out of my sails and make me feel like I will (or want to) drown. I am not divorced yet. Nothing but procrastination can be blamed at this point. Though nothing is certain, we had determined that most likely, if we were to get divorced and c...	Loupiness	2	310	Apr 27, 2009 by carolinagirl
	My Roller Coaster is going forward again : ) (Preview) What a weekend, full of my usual ups and downs and sideways...However, since last weeks melt down..lol.. I have slowly picked up a few lessons along the way.. I have not been speaking to my H for a couple days due to his usual, "Run" effect that seems to happen when I am in need of some assistanc...	Jozie	3	934	Apr 27, 2009 by blender_girl
	Spring volcano in my shed...WHY (Preview) Dear God, You saw me working hard for two days clearing out my closet, getting ready for a major wardrobe turnover for your warm and lovely spring , summer. You know I do ALL the work myself...no help lifting, lugging, cleaning. I even patiently controlled my instinct to rip into Hub's gnarly...	wp	7	455	Apr 27, 2009 by Karilynn
	Being Grateful (Preview) On the way home from my F2F meeting Friday night I had to deal with a problem with my son, and some inappropriate texting to a girl in his class. Needless to say when I got home, we argued, I took his phone, then proceeded after he told me in a rather smart mouth way that "I can live without that cell ph...	shellyj123	5	474	Apr 27, 2009 by Rora
	Need some help with my son. (Preview) Hey everyone. First I want to say I'm so thankfull for this board. I read it ever night I work. I work the graveyard shift. I feel I'm not alone with all of you here and reading all the post. Ok here it My AH has been dinking all our marriage. 30 yrs + I also went out when we were dating but I was never a drinker a d...	peacewithin	6	580	Apr 27, 2009 by peacewithin
	trying to stay focused on me (Preview) To make a long story short my A boyfriends cousin is visiting from SC and his family is having a get together this afternoon. I'm not sure if I'm going or not me and my 4 yr old got sunburned yesterday afternoon and my boyfriend isn't sure if there will be any shade at his relatives house (an apartment buil...	Holly09	3	410	Apr 26, 2009 by Jozie
	Showing gratitude (Preview) I would like to say thank for the comfort and encouragement I have received since I started to post on the site. Especially this week. After my first deep share last week on my deepest feelings of resentment I managed to use the al-anon tools to the best of my ability to let of the hurt/expectation I was a...	chezza	2	444	Apr 26, 2009 by Jozie
	I Guess this is a Start in the Rigth Direction (Preview) I am not quite sure where to start and sure hope that I am posting in the correct section My AH is very loving and caring person. He is well respected, has many wonderful qualities and makes me feel special for the most part, but he is an A. AH has been a heavy drinker since his teens, and AH is now approachi...	Alice222	4	397	Apr 26, 2009 by Christy
	my son's relapse (Preview) I am sitting here waiting to hear about my son who was just arrested for a dui. This is just too hard sometimes.	Gailey	8	528	Apr 26, 2009 by Christy
	To My MIP Family (Preview) Hello To All, For what ever reason that only my AW and HP knows my wife quit drinking 10 days ago. I realized it the day it happened. She had been drinking 12 to 15 beers a day for years. When that day came 10 days ago I could'nt actually believe it, and kept waiting for the other shoe to drop. I wa...	RLC	8	522	Apr 26, 2009 by Karilynn
	Can't stand no more (Preview) It's been awhile. I moved out for awhile so my A could find some place else to live. He was to be moved out yesterday but he was still here. I gave him and his drinkin buddies a choice to get out or I would leave again and turn everything off. He started his crap. But I stood my ground. He left with his bud...	Annie69	4	401	Apr 25, 2009 by shellyj123
	Update on Open for thoughts, comments, suggestions (Preview) I am learning to let go and let God. I did so with the donation situation (see post on open for thoughts, comments and suggestions a few days ago for the whole story). I let it drop with no answer and did not bring it up again to my AH. I also let it go in MY mind, deciding if it came up again, then I could think a...	hort7	4	402	Apr 25, 2009 by hort7
	Everything's great until the suspicion comes in. (Preview) Ever since my husband got out from detox I have been the model Al-Anon spouse. I've been working my program, going to meetings, and reading my literature - I had everything under control (because I knew my husband was working his program and not drinking). Well today I have a sneaking suspicion that h...	N8SMOM	7	649	Apr 25, 2009 by SLS
	My friend passed away today (Preview) Got the phone call that my friend Helen(that I had mentioned from previous post) passed away today. We never want to loose our loved ones, but she was struggling just to breathe. She was exhausted from the effort. She is now in a far better place than we are now. The Priest came yesterday to adminis...	clara	17	1738	Apr 25, 2009 by Aerion
	I AM BACK (Preview) HI EVERYONE I wanted to tell you that i have missed all of you. While i was gone I was dealing with my husband telling me that he was and addict he was doing herion. I was having a hard time and I know that when i should of come in but I was so angry over everything. ALso he was getting treated for HEP C so I was deal...	nycbt	5	453	Apr 25, 2009 by Karilynn
	Clawing my way out of that hole in the road (Preview) The past couple of days have been up and down for me emotionally. I'm finding that while I can usually maintain my composure during a confrontation or at least physically detach myself from it, the emotional effects inevitably set in the next day.Yesterday I was filled with hurt and sadness. I fel...	blender_girl	5	384	Apr 25, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	nutty meeting today... (Preview) OK, so I took some suggestions from people about my earlier post regarding off-traditions, some might call 'swick' meetings...decided to go do some active practicing 'take what you like and leave the rest'. The highlights: arrived on time, mtg started late. 'How important is it' a woman came in, an...	alanonicScotland	6	623	Apr 25, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	The ACOA Laundry List (Preview) Okay, here is the laundry list for ACOA. I read this everyday as part of my program. This keeps it near the front of my brain. If I get the feeling of dejavu or familiarity, I seem to always find it on the list so I can understand what's going on. Reading the list everyday also allows me to see how mu...	alizator	5	8909	Apr 25, 2009 by Melissa21
	So upset/mad/hurt (Preview) Hi Its Lilly, I need to vent..Ive been doing so well, got my sister in law to tell my exAH to leave me alone..I got some silent calls then a nasty one, accusing me of saying things to his ex. Well, I was trying to change my sky account and found emails from him, march 27th (10 days after he went off to his new lif...	Lilly Burn	8	427	Apr 25, 2009 by kitty
	Hi, I'm new... (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm new and a little nervous. I'm not sure how to start. I guess my first question is am I supposed to be here only if I've broken off with my ABF? He is going to be 8 years sober this summer, however; he has not been working his program for about a year now and though promised me he'd start ma...	lizzakiss	9	520	Apr 25, 2009 by kitty
	A moral problem that I'm having (Preview) My step-father is an alcoholic and refuses any sort of help whatsoever. He has been to a meeting in the past, but decided that it wasn't for him. I don't deal with him on any sort of regular basis - but my problem is his drinking and driving. He has a tendency to drink in his truck driving around this rural ar...	windyturn	5	528	Apr 25, 2009 by kitty
	learning to detach with love is like learning to walk... (Preview) I can really see how totally different it is to walk around in your life with being able to detach with love and NOT. Its really just like being able to walk or not. Or read or not. Its that massive and foundational. I could never detach and I certainly could not with love but I am finding that yes I can and...	Jean4444	4	2142	Apr 25, 2009 by GypsyRose71
	What I want vs what am I getting (Preview) At the suggestion of my sponsor, I'm putting together lists - what do I want? What am I currently getting? How do I get what I want? This has been very thought-provoking for me and I wanted to share with you what I have discovered so far. What do I want?· To feel valued, cherished, loved, respec...	blender_girl	4	489	Apr 25, 2009 by BBGIRL
	Accepting Gifts (Preview) I'm starting a new thread from what Blender Girl started, so as not to spin her thread off in another direction. blender_girl wrote: · To feel valued, cherished, loved, respected, trusted by a partner/spouse/significant other · To be able to trust a partner/spouse/significant other with my thoug...	barisax	2	484	Apr 25, 2009 by Jerry F
	I am learning.........S-L-O-W-L-Y (Preview) I am obviously a slow learner, but I am learning........slowly. I have learned the HARD way that there are some answers I will never have, and if I did have the EXABF answer them I doubt I would believe him anyway, his version of events tend to change around and mix me up even more. I also am learning...	shellyj123	1	353	Apr 24, 2009 by Rora
	Do you Drink? (Preview) I'm just wondering how many of you drink even though you are dealing with an alcoholic in your life? I'll admit that I enjoy wine. But I'm the type of person who likes to be relaxed to enjoy a glass or two of wine. These past few weeks have been so stressful, that the thought of having a glass has not been ap...	N8SMOM	24	702	Apr 24, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	Letting go, letting God and holding on with all I've got... (Preview) I wanted to take some time to Thank all of you who have held me up the past months, and there have been many of you who have shared ESH, and kept me from falling into the abyss of alcoholism. When I thought I was crazy, I was shown that I wasn't alone, that most of us have been there in one way or another. Ev...	shellyj123	8	602	Apr 24, 2009 by Christy
	Birthdays. (Preview) My birthday is coming up on May 9th. As many of you know any kind of holiday for me is really difficult. I was falling back into my "poor me" mentality so I've decided to take ownership and try to work on doing things for myself. I can't count on anyone to "do" for me. In fact I don't...	maresie	3	362	Apr 24, 2009 by blender_girl
	Feeling alone... because I am...and it's okay. (Preview) I had a long awaited MRI today, which was about an hours drive away. aH, from whom I am separated, knew about the appt at one time, but I didn't remind him or let him know about it. I drove there myself today, which gave me a chance to talk out loud to HP. I realized that often times, what I need is to talk &qu...	Rora	6	432	Apr 24, 2009 by maresie
	Just Do It Already!!! (Preview) Get Sober and Stay Sober! If you want it, just do it. I've had enough, how many chances does he think he will get? How many more chances will I give? Not that many more. This is his last chance. He is on a waiting list for a rehab, I am so looking forward to getting myself together. His next chance is 90 d...	Sincerely	4	539	Apr 24, 2009 by Ness
	Well, who woulda thunk? (Preview) Hi Friends, I posted last night about the simple email I was sending my ah regarding the need to have Friday nights be for my recovery and not "date night" with the kids. I appreciated your responses. Just so you know, the reason I did not offer another night is because there isn't one. He i...	Loupiness	2	485	Apr 24, 2009 by Jerry F
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