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Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

This is just a little thing, but I do wish I didnt feel the need to tell people my husband has left me! This is so negative, I did it tonight when this guy in a lovely country pub pointed out that we seemed to be on a strict budget...ive done it quite a few times, why dont I just say nothing, or that ive separated...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

I've been doing pretty good since I left my A, but as days go by it gets harder and harder. I have no money, I don't have my own house, I have 2 kids to care for somehow on my own. All my stuff is in storage collecting dust. I have 5 weeks of one college class to finish online with no internet. And he calls to see th...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

It seems like it never ends!!! Through this program and checking in with people and reading some of the lit, I find that I can watch it go round instead of hopping on and going with it. Just this morning I was able to find my AH using and somewhere deep inside, I found a different response. And guess what, He...

Gailey · Gailey

This is something I have wanted to do for several years now but would not allow myself the expense. The day after my son got his dui I decided that I was going to give that gift to myself. After all, I would go to the earth's end in the past to help my children out financially. Why wouldn't I do the same for myse...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Hello everyone!! My husband was in rehab and I was soooo happy he decided to stay a second month. But he just called, he's out and he's gonna stay in treatment, in ambulatory. I'm just freaked out, scared, terrified honestly. And, also, as a control freak I am, this out of control type of encounter just c...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I work for the 2 nice sons and their father who is a nasty old fart....He does not like me and today it came out in a veangance I am drinking my shake (if worker is there more than 4 hours they get 15 min break...FED. law)....He comes up to me and wants to know why I am "not busy"...I said I was busy, d...

Jozie · Jozie

Well today was a rough one, I went to work did what I had to do there, knocked off a little early, headed to the basement to sift through some of my Afather things, and pick out "some" things for the goodwill, I have a Long way to go, but I have made the extra mile and I did it with me & HP... My mom...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((Friends)))))))))))), I just came from a funeral of a wonderful 20 yr young man whom I watched grow up. I watched as his parents and families hearts were breaking, I watched these macho young men my son included cry like babies as they saw there friend for the last time. Brad was killed while ri...

Barbarajo05 · Barbarajo05

Hello, This is my first post. I need some help from everyone. My Story- I was married to my husband for 11 years. We have 2 children (now ages 6 and 7). In the summer of 2005 my husband had an affair with a woman and got her pregnant. This I never though he would do. We divorced in Dec 2005. Since then i...

debilyn · debilyn

Geez, dang why did my AH have to have a stupid brain tumor and have a medical relapse then be too retarded to get back on program????? This is so awful sometimes. I used to tell the people who said why do you stay, hey what if your husband all of a sudden was not him anymore? What if it was from a brain cancer? Wo...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

EXABF emailed Sat to basically tell me he is coming to get his stuff and I can let him know if I want to be there or not when he does. Didn't really ask-what's new? He hasn't asked how I've felt in MONTHS. He also informed me that he will be "redoing" his Myspace page and for me to please not be of...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I got into an argument with my bf the other night, not really an argument but I was mad at him. He dumped me for the third weekend in a row for his family and I was mad mad mad and I think justifiably so. I am still a secret and that is the heart of the problem. What I realized the other night as we were talkin...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I'm reading this Al-Anon pamphlet on Detachment. One of the last things it says is: -Not to prevent a crisis if it is in the natural course of events. The thing that is so hard for me to understand is, how can I not try to stop something that will ultimately affect my son and me? For instance, my husband dr...

Jozie · Jozie

Well once I had it in my head, what i was going to do next, I put it in motion and got to it. I first went up by myself and got things going into boxes, and bags, and totes, to which I really didn't "Go" thru any of it, for now it is in my basement, and I have hopes today of getting thru some of it. because...

xrayr · xrayr

I have been married for 18 years and we have a 10 year old child. I am almost 40 My husband is an alcoholic, and he says he wants to get help but he never does anything about it. He was in rehab in 2000 and only stayed for 4 days (thats all insurance would cover). He does not go to AA because he said that all people...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family)))), Good morning to you all. I just wanted to give you an update on the robbery. The neighbor was charged and arraigned with a class E felony for possession of stolen goods. ( I will not get them back as they have all been melted down.) The judge gave me a temporary order of protectio...

Josie46 · Josie46

Hi, I am new here, gotta start somewhere. My husband is an Alcoholic. ( I think) He is a functional one I guess is what you call it. He is able to maintain and drink. By that I mean he is not messy, and in fact cleans the house, keeps the shop clean, mowes the lawn, does his own laundry I never have to take ou...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

I left him almost a week ago. Doing much better than I thought I would. I did bring the baby to see him last night. He called and asked if we would spend the night there. It was hard, but I can't let the baby go with him without me because he always passes out. I almost didn't even let him see our son, but I know it...

meme1114 · meme1114

Hello Everyone! I'm new to this forum and haven't attended an Al-Anon meeting as yet. I plan to. I've been reading various threads and hope for some guidance. Can a person abuse alcohol and not be an alcoholic? Not making excuses for my hubby......had a threapist tell me some abuse alcohol and others...

Inpain · Inpain

My dry AH and I are struggling in this 24 hours. I realize we have NO friends that don't drink. We are both struggling with this. We know there are many activities open to us, but there are no real dry events. I'm here because of him AND me. The only people I know who are dry, are in al-anon. I'm greatfu...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

The more I try to work on staying in the present, the more I begin to value how my time IS spent in the present. When I read others post about 'Enjoying today' it triggered a reaction in me that wondered - "I can't enjoy today since my job is so incredibly unenjoyable." So then I wonder - am I not ch...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I enjoy walking because I know that when I do, I get so much out of it! It affects me mentally, spiritually & physically. I get closer to nature, my mind is clearer & I feel so much better physically although I get very tired sometimes, I think that kind of tired is good for you. Lately the weathe...

andica · andica

I haven't had a chance to be on the computer much in the last couple weeks. My husbands symptoms are progressively worse. On 5/5 he was admitted to a skilled nursing facility because of confusion and problems walking. Within 3 days he went from normal kidney function tests to hepatorenal syndrome....

Ness · Ness

I'm back on step one...again! I was stressed when my son was drinking and I'm still stressed now he is in recovery. My serenity is hard won! My son is at home with us and I think this is week 8 of his recovery but, as I'm trying to live one day at a time, I've lost count. He's doing ok, probably better than m...

clara · clara

Not only did Jennifer come through for me, another family member who has a history of drugs, alchol, etc. came through for me, in a big way. Jen came out to watch Bonnie. Jenn loves Bonnie Lou dearly and I knew she would be in good hands . And I honestly think Jenn was proud of herself for stepping up to...

florida · florida

end of dec drove to fl from ma - getting divorced after 28yrs, 17 yr son still in ma lost my license in fl - (someone elses DUI, I switched seats) met someone new end of feb somehow i cant get myself back into my routine - feel lost, need to get my life here but dont know how to start - any thoughts?

Jozie · Jozie

Well the final week of D-Day has come... I can no longer put off, or delay the fact any longer, I have to charge forward, and do the dreaded things that I have been regretting for some time. I have to remove all the contence of my Deseased Afathers belonging! I have so many mixed emotions about the whole de...

maresie · maresie

I used to torture myself over choices. I would find myself totally fixated on what I could not do and not be able to do what I needed to do. Al anon has really helped me with that. Making a plan be was a start. I didn't like any of it but I saw the choice I had clearly ahead. Rignt now I can't say I really like my...

Inpain · Inpain

5 months out. I'm 5 months out from when I found my husband cheated and when it all came to a head he quit drinking. We've tremendous strides in our marriage. I've felt closer than I ever had in 10 years. The trust is gone, reasonably so, and we're working toward re-building it. He is a dry drunk. Goes...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

Howdy friends I had a BLAST today!!! Got up!!! cleaned up my bedroom and prepared my bedroom for my NEW COMPUTER... Its a Dell..Dual core...19" monitor...2 gig memory...2 harddrives the 2nd one is 1/2 tarabyte.....this things SMOKES!! I am downloading my music and my movies from my usb exteri...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My son and I came home from the condo today knowing full well that the house would not be clean. When I walked in the door, I was almost in tears, not only was it not clean - it stunk to high heaven and my husband was still asleep. I cleaned up some cat puke, emptied the trash, ran the garbage disposal, and c...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Back when my husband's drinking got out of control, his brother was here to help out. One of the things I asked him to do was to take my husband's gun out of the house. I didnt' feel comfortable having it in the house at all (let alone when his drinking was out of control). To be honest, we were never gun pe...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((Friends)))), Seems I have been reading a lot of the same things in post lately, the insecurity of living with this disease. Try and remember we have absolutely no control over this, it is out of our hands. We can only control ourselves and our lives. I know the disease of addictions plays havic on...

Robinks · Robinks

husband had a job interview last tuesday, friday they called and asked for references. Please say prayers for him, I hope this means an offer is coming. We really need this job.

Diva · Diva

My A long-time companion had some scam attached to his debit card which is billing us $56.00 per month for God knows what. We cannot seem to find out anything about the source of the charge. So....our bank - we have co-mingled funds which I do not recommend to any of you - told him to cancel his debit c...

mia883 · mia883

Hello I would like to have an idea how things are managed in other states or districts or groups? At the moment in Australia, we are not using email at all between members, groups, districts, and areas? Everything is done by hand and posted with a 50 cents stamp. Expensive system. Plus it takes ages to be...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am changing! I feel more confident & not so much in fear. I used to be afraid of most things especially those things out of my control. I am more ready to face things head-on & take chances in my life. And trust is very important to me right now. My Alanon group is so special to me. I am really l...

Sincerely · Sincerely

I have learned that relationships are hard. ALL RELATIONSHIPS! husband and wife, mother and daughter, supervisor to coworker, coworker to coworker, etc. They are all just hard. It takes work. And it begins with me. I am high maitenance. I've always joked that I was high maintnance, but I was m...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

I really need some advice on this one. Totally at a loss as to what I'm supposed to do... My AH's mom in some ways is more crazy than her son. I have a strained relationship with her as she also does with her son. Today she was at our house dropping after having taken our dog for a walk. I drove up after being at t...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

I sold my exAh's work bench yesterday, only £20 but he didnt want it and it took up room in the shed. I felt so low when it had gone, Ive spent the last few months getting rid of all the evidence of our life together, wedding album gone, wedding ring sold for scrap! Other bits and bobs that ive sold or am sellin...

Mariner · Mariner

I have been feeling alot of pain lately. Feelings of guilt and shame. I woke up today with that horrible feeling again. It starts almost immediatley, the self criticizising. Why did I do A B or C, I should have known better, why did I stay in that relationship so long, I'm not good enough........ I mus...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I am finding that things are really a-ok for me except in one area of my life/recovery: I am still going WAY overboard on the self-shame and self-blame when it comes to making mistakes. I made two mistakes yesterday. Not the end of the world: both had to do with mis-communications, one a work and one at...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Is something I don't have. I was reflecting after reading another post here by Becky about wanting to be rescued and hoping her boyfriend of 8 months would step up. I have been with mine almost 4 and been pushing for moving in, etc. I have a really hard time waiting for what I want. It's so foreign to me...

elevator · elevator

I hope this is the correct forum to post, I consider my friend a close family member.. A good friend of mine nearly died of cirrhosis last September. She had a very close call. Myself and her loved ones were hoping that would have been her wake up call to quit drinking and possibly seek help. Sadly, close t...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

My Recovering A has been slacking on meeting attendance. I believe I've mentioned this before and I have tried to keep my HANDS OFF of his program. It's difficult to do so and to DETACH without completely shutting him out. A resentment buds in knowing that he is not actively working his program AND that...

CarlosNA · CarlosNA

I am a newcomer. My problem is not being an enabler, but the other extreme. I am so ready to stop obsessing over my A's life that I have been told that I might be taking it too far. I have tried to detach from her bad decisions. She is currently clean. She was going to meeting daily and tried to go back to school...

lilgirl · lilgirl

Hi all. I'm not a stranger to Al-Anon . . . and the events of this week have brought me right back to Step 1, and I'm feeling so many old, familiar, nasty, painful things and I'm doing what is absolutely the hardest thing in the world for me to do - asking for help. My AH and I are almost divorced. The divorce i...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I think I may have actually made some progress today. As I mentioned in a previous post, the night before Mother's Day (while I was out of the house), my husband broke the glass cooktop on our stove - Dad claims that he dropped a roasted chicken that was on a baking sheet on top of the stove - the story from m...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok as most of you know, my deseased Afathers things have been plaquen me for a while now, and that is now slow coming to an end..(Next Week)... Yesterday I was kinda drag'n and with great ESH... (Thank You All) I came to realize, that Yes... I was Waiting for the Storm..For It has been WAY To Calm, and thin...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

When I grew up we were FAR from wealthy. We ate good and were clothed but extras weren't possible for a widow with two small children. My father passed away when I was 2 and my oldest brother was called into the Army. My middle brother (7 yrs older than me-9 at the time), my mom and I moved and mom started a...

mkn · mkn

A few days ago I emailed my ACOA and CAS some information that I thought would help him. It was info I found on this website. It just made him angry and he repeated that all of our problems are my fault and that he doesn't feel "safe" with me. It's just so hard for me to let him go - especially when I...

ernie · ernie

May Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held on May 2nd 2009 New Co-Chairs (Edna & Danz)opened the meeting Agenda posted:I. Review of April minutesII. Review of op meeting scheduleIII. Old businessA. Discussion of H...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I found this today while I was surfing and thought it might be helpful to many of us here...... Shelly Are you wondering when the pain stops? The Pain Stops: when you stop looking at the person you love as the person you love, and you begin to see them, not as a partner, a lover, or a best friend, but as a human...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I am realizing that strong feelings of pain are just that: strong feelings of pain. They won't kill me. They won't totally ruin my life forever, they are not the end of the world. They are just strong feelings of pain. They arrive, sweep over me and eventually run their course and are gone. I think th...

Rora · Rora

This is not a tongue in cheek question or a debate...I genuinely think I may have missed this life lesson somewhere along the line. Do you have any good and practical theories or slogans on how to distinguish the differences between helping and enabling? Rora

QOD · QOD

My 15 yo son went to court yesterday. He pleaded guilty to some charges he claims he is innocent on b/c the court had enough circumstantial evidence to convict him. He plea bargained and the lessened one of the major charges down to a misdemeanor, which was great. And by pleading guilty, it allowed h...

clara · clara

Spoke to AD last night and she is all set to come out here to take care of Bonnie Lou. We will have to leave before she gets here because she is trying to miss the FT Worth rush hour traffic, which I do not blame her. Bonnie Lou seems much better,however will not eat much, however she still beggs at the table...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Hello Family - I'm struggling with the desire to control my A. As I posted a few weeks earlier, his meeting attendance has decrease significantly and it takes everything inside of me NOT to speculate on this. My comments and overwhelming worry HAVE decreased but, not vanished. Sometimes I feel I go to...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

So last night I got a group of girlfriends togather to spend the night at my parents' empty condo for a pre-Mother's Day celebration. Just something special for us moms so we can spend a night relaxing, hanging out, and having fun. I got home this morning and was greeted by my husband whose first words...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

Two weeks ago today I buried my father and Saturday we buried my father in law. Grief has got ahold of me and I do not like where I am at. I am so angry with all of the people that have managed to slip into FIL's life and take, take take and never give back. There are even times I feel like they have robbed me of my...

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	I wish I would stop telling people (Preview) This is just a little thing, but I do wish I didnt feel the need to tell people my husband has left me! This is so negative, I did it tonight when this guy in a lovely country pub pointed out that we seemed to be on a strict budget...ive done it quite a few times, why dont I just say nothing, or that ive separated...	Lilly Burn	8	414	May 20, 2009 by drucilla06
	It's not fair (Preview) I've been doing pretty good since I left my A, but as days go by it gets harder and harder. I have no money, I don't have my own house, I have 2 kids to care for somehow on my own. All my stuff is in storage collecting dust. I have 5 weeks of one college class to finish online with no internet. And he calls to see th...	Melissa21	9	497	May 20, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Merry go round, round, round... (Preview) It seems like it never ends!!! Through this program and checking in with people and reading some of the lit, I find that I can watch it go round instead of hopping on and going with it. Just this morning I was able to find my AH using and somewhere deep inside, I found a different response. And guess what, He...	angelchar375	5	450	May 20, 2009 by rosielightshines
	My adventure (Preview) This is something I have wanted to do for several years now but would not allow myself the expense. The day after my son got his dui I decided that I was going to give that gift to myself. After all, I would go to the earth's end in the past to help my children out financially. Why wouldn't I do the same for myse...	Gailey	11	520	May 20, 2009 by Becky1
	Freaked Out (Preview) Hello everyone!! My husband was in rehab and I was soooo happy he decided to stay a second month. But he just called, he's out and he's gonna stay in treatment, in ambulatory. I'm just freaked out, scared, terrified honestly. And, also, as a control freak I am, this out of control type of encounter just c...	Priscilla83	5	466	May 20, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Boss bully----I could really use some support!!!!! (Preview) I work for the 2 nice sons and their father who is a nasty old fart....He does not like me and today it came out in a veangance I am drinking my shake (if worker is there more than 4 hours they get 15 min break...FED. law)....He comes up to me and wants to know why I am "not busy"...I said I was busy, d...	rosielightshines	13	1325	May 20, 2009 by kitty
	I've Done It :) ME!!!! (Preview) Well today was a rough one, I went to work did what I had to do there, knocked off a little early, headed to the basement to sift through some of my Afather things, and pick out "some" things for the goodwill, I have a Long way to go, but I have made the extra mile and I did it with me & HP... My mom...	Jozie	6	549	May 20, 2009 by Ness
	In the Darkest of Times God Carries Us (Preview) (((((((Friends)))))))))))), I just came from a funeral of a wonderful 20 yr young man whom I watched grow up. I watched as his parents and families hearts were breaking, I watched these macho young men my son included cry like babies as they saw there friend for the last time. Brad was killed while ri...	Andrea12	6	435	May 20, 2009 by Peggy7
	New Here and Need Advise and Help (Preview) Hello, This is my first post. I need some help from everyone. My Story- I was married to my husband for 11 years. We have 2 children (now ages 6 and 7). In the summer of 2005 my husband had an affair with a woman and got her pregnant. This I never though he would do. We divorced in Dec 2005. Since then i...	Barbarajo05	12	578	May 20, 2009 by kitty
	I must be ugly? (Preview) Geez, dang why did my AH have to have a stupid brain tumor and have a medical relapse then be too retarded to get back on program????? This is so awful sometimes. I used to tell the people who said why do you stay, hey what if your husband all of a sudden was not him anymore? What if it was from a brain cancer? Wo...	debilyn	9	617	May 20, 2009 by tiredtonite
	WHAT is WRONG with me???? Something has to be...... (Preview) EXABF emailed Sat to basically tell me he is coming to get his stuff and I can let him know if I want to be there or not when he does. Didn't really ask-what's new? He hasn't asked how I've felt in MONTHS. He also informed me that he will be "redoing" his Myspace page and for me to please not be of...	shellyj123	11	564	May 20, 2009 by debilyn
	Realization (Preview) So I got into an argument with my bf the other night, not really an argument but I was mad at him. He dumped me for the third weekend in a row for his family and I was mad mad mad and I think justifiably so. I am still a secret and that is the heart of the problem. What I realized the other night as we were talkin...	carolinagirl	6	540	May 20, 2009 by debilyn
	Detachment Question (Preview) I'm reading this Al-Anon pamphlet on Detachment. One of the last things it says is: -Not to prevent a crisis if it is in the natural course of events. The thing that is so hard for me to understand is, how can I not try to stop something that will ultimately affect my son and me? For instance, my husband dr...	N8SMOM	7	511	May 19, 2009 by Andrea12
	Made it thru Day 1... One Moment at A Time... (Preview) Well once I had it in my head, what i was going to do next, I put it in motion and got to it. I first went up by myself and got things going into boxes, and bags, and totes, to which I really didn't "Go" thru any of it, for now it is in my basement, and I have hopes today of getting thru some of it. because...	Jozie	4	440	May 19, 2009 by maire rua
	Need Guidance..Husband is an alcoholic (Preview) I have been married for 18 years and we have a 10 year old child. I am almost 40 My husband is an alcoholic, and he says he wants to get help but he never does anything about it. He was in rehab in 2000 and only stayed for 4 days (thats all insurance would cover). He does not go to AA because he said that all people...	xrayr	8	434	May 19, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Update & Doing Good (Preview) ((((((Family)))), Good morning to you all. I just wanted to give you an update on the robbery. The neighbor was charged and arraigned with a class E felony for possession of stolen goods. ( I will not get them back as they have all been melted down.) The judge gave me a temporary order of protectio...	Karilynn	6	469	May 19, 2009 by david62
	I think I am in the right place? (Preview) Hi, I am new here, gotta start somewhere. My husband is an Alcoholic. ( I think) He is a functional one I guess is what you call it. He is able to maintain and drink. By that I mean he is not messy, and in fact cleans the house, keeps the shop clean, mowes the lawn, does his own laundry I never have to take ou...	Josie46	8	493	May 19, 2009 by maresie
	I'm doing alright (Preview) I left him almost a week ago. Doing much better than I thought I would. I did bring the baby to see him last night. He called and asked if we would spend the night there. It was hard, but I can't let the baby go with him without me because he always passes out. I almost didn't even let him see our son, but I know it...	Melissa21	6	606	May 19, 2009 by maresie
	Hello - New Here (Preview) Hello Everyone! I'm new to this forum and haven't attended an Al-Anon meeting as yet. I plan to. I've been reading various threads and hope for some guidance. Can a person abuse alcohol and not be an alcoholic? Not making excuses for my hubby......had a threapist tell me some abuse alcohol and others...	meme1114	5	470	May 19, 2009 by maresie
	Friends (Preview) My dry AH and I are struggling in this 24 hours. I realize we have NO friends that don't drink. We are both struggling with this. We know there are many activities open to us, but there are no real dry events. I'm here because of him AND me. The only people I know who are dry, are in al-anon. I'm greatfu...	Inpain	10	807	May 19, 2009 by serendipity
	Jobs and managing stress (Preview) The more I try to work on staying in the present, the more I begin to value how my time IS spent in the present. When I read others post about 'Enjoying today' it triggered a reaction in me that wondered - "I can't enjoy today since my job is so incredibly unenjoyable." So then I wonder - am I not ch...	RunnerChick	8	413	May 19, 2009 by maresie
	Walking--helps mental, spriritual & physical (Preview) I enjoy walking because I know that when I do, I get so much out of it! It affects me mentally, spiritually & physically. I get closer to nature, my mind is clearer & I feel so much better physically although I get very tired sometimes, I think that kind of tired is good for you. Lately the weathe...	Hoot Nanny	5	571	May 19, 2009 by maresie
	UPDATE on AH medical condition (Preview) I haven't had a chance to be on the computer much in the last couple weeks. My husbands symptoms are progressively worse. On 5/5 he was admitted to a skilled nursing facility because of confusion and problems walking. Within 3 days he went from normal kidney function tests to hepatorenal syndrome....	andica	8	508	May 19, 2009 by Karilynn
	Stress of drinking.... stress of recovery AAAArrrrgggghhhh (Preview) I'm back on step one...again! I was stressed when my son was drinking and I'm still stressed now he is in recovery. My serenity is hard won! My son is at home with us and I think this is week 8 of his recovery but, as I'm trying to live one day at a time, I've lost count. He's doing ok, probably better than m...	Ness	5	766	May 19, 2009 by RunnerChick
	The world has surely tilted on its axis (Preview) Not only did Jennifer come through for me, another family member who has a history of drugs, alchol, etc. came through for me, in a big way. Jen came out to watch Bonnie. Jenn loves Bonnie Lou dearly and I knew she would be in good hands . And I honestly think Jenn was proud of herself for stepping up to...	clara	10	549	May 19, 2009 by Karilynn
	feeling lost - how do i find myself once again? (Preview) end of dec drove to fl from ma - getting divorced after 28yrs, 17 yr son still in ma lost my license in fl - (someone elses DUI, I switched seats) met someone new end of feb somehow i cant get myself back into my routine - feel lost, need to get my life here but dont know how to start - any thoughts?	florida	6	532	May 18, 2009 by debilyn
	Today! I Ask for Strength to See Me Thru... (Preview) Well the final week of D-Day has come... I can no longer put off, or delay the fact any longer, I have to charge forward, and do the dreaded things that I have been regretting for some time. I have to remove all the contence of my Deseased Afathers belonging! I have so many mixed emotions about the whole de...	Jozie	5	503	May 18, 2009 by Robinks
	Making choices (Preview) I used to torture myself over choices. I would find myself totally fixated on what I could not do and not be able to do what I needed to do. Al anon has really helped me with that. Making a plan be was a start. I didn't like any of it but I saw the choice I had clearly ahead. Rignt now I can't say I really like my...	maresie	4	496	May 18, 2009 by Andrea12
	Trust and boundaries (Preview) 5 months out. I'm 5 months out from when I found my husband cheated and when it all came to a head he quit drinking. We've tremendous strides in our marriage. I've felt closer than I ever had in 10 years. The trust is gone, reasonably so, and we're working toward re-building it. He is a dry drunk. Goes...	Inpain	10	544	May 18, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I had an absolute BLAST today!!! (Preview) Howdy friends I had a BLAST today!!! Got up!!! cleaned up my bedroom and prepared my bedroom for my NEW COMPUTER... Its a Dell..Dual core...19" monitor...2 gig memory...2 harddrives the 2nd one is 1/2 tarabyte.....this things SMOKES!! I am downloading my music and my movies from my usb exteri...	rosielightshines	5	332	May 18, 2009 by Jozie
	Came Home Today (Wish I Hadn't) (Preview) My son and I came home from the condo today knowing full well that the house would not be clean. When I walked in the door, I was almost in tears, not only was it not clean - it stunk to high heaven and my husband was still asleep. I cleaned up some cat puke, emptied the trash, ran the garbage disposal, and c...	N8SMOM	4	1082	May 18, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	Important Question (Preview) Back when my husband's drinking got out of control, his brother was here to help out. One of the things I asked him to do was to take my husband's gun out of the house. I didnt' feel comfortable having it in the house at all (let alone when his drinking was out of control). To be honest, we were never gun pe...	N8SMOM	11	543	May 18, 2009 by Diva
	The simple things in life (Preview) (((((Friends)))), Seems I have been reading a lot of the same things in post lately, the insecurity of living with this disease. Try and remember we have absolutely no control over this, it is out of our hands. We can only control ourselves and our lives. I know the disease of addictions plays havic on...	Andrea12	6	606	May 18, 2009 by Karilynn
	prayers for husband (Preview) husband had a job interview last tuesday, friday they called and asked for references. Please say prayers for him, I hope this means an offer is coming. We really need this job.	Robinks	7	351	May 18, 2009 by Karilynn
	Enabling? No......just doing what needs to be done... (Preview) My A long-time companion had some scam attached to his debit card which is billing us $56.00 per month for God knows what. We cannot seem to find out anything about the source of the charge. So....our bank - we have co-mingled funds which I do not recommend to any of you - told him to cancel his debit c...	Diva	10	611	May 18, 2009 by Karilynn
	Email communication between members, groups, districts, area , etc... (Preview) Hello I would like to have an idea how things are managed in other states or districts or groups? At the moment in Australia, we are not using email at all between members, groups, districts, and areas? Everything is done by hand and posted with a 50 cents stamp. Expensive system. Plus it takes ages to be...	mia883	5	498	May 18, 2009 by mia883
	Changes (Preview) I am changing! I feel more confident & not so much in fear. I used to be afraid of most things especially those things out of my control. I am more ready to face things head-on & take chances in my life. And trust is very important to me right now. My Alanon group is so special to me. I am really l...	Hoot Nanny	5	403	May 17, 2009 by maresie
	Relationships are Hard (Preview) I have learned that relationships are hard. ALL RELATIONSHIPS! husband and wife, mother and daughter, supervisor to coworker, coworker to coworker, etc. They are all just hard. It takes work. And it begins with me. I am high maitenance. I've always joked that I was high maintnance, but I was m...	Sincerely	4	345	May 17, 2009 by maresie
	mother in law blues (Preview) I really need some advice on this one. Totally at a loss as to what I'm supposed to do... My AH's mom in some ways is more crazy than her son. I have a strained relationship with her as she also does with her son. Today she was at our house dropping after having taken our dog for a walk. I drove up after being at t...	angelchar375	9	805	May 17, 2009 by maresie
	Looking into big hole that used to be my life (Preview) I sold my exAh's work bench yesterday, only £20 but he didnt want it and it took up room in the shed. I felt so low when it had gone, Ive spent the last few months getting rid of all the evidence of our life together, wedding album gone, wedding ring sold for scrap! Other bits and bobs that ive sold or am sellin...	Lilly Burn	8	842	May 17, 2009 by maresie
	Self Love (Preview) I have been feeling alot of pain lately. Feelings of guilt and shame. I woke up today with that horrible feeling again. It starts almost immediatley, the self criticizising. Why did I do A B or C, I should have known better, why did I stay in that relationship so long, I'm not good enough........ I mus...	Mariner	8	407	May 17, 2009 by maresie
	Making Mistakes: Your ESH needed! (Preview) I am finding that things are really a-ok for me except in one area of my life/recovery: I am still going WAY overboard on the self-shame and self-blame when it comes to making mistakes. I made two mistakes yesterday. Not the end of the world: both had to do with mis-communications, one a work and one at...	Jean4444	13	969	May 17, 2009 by maresie
	Patience (Preview) Is something I don't have. I was reflecting after reading another post here by Becky about wanting to be rescued and hoping her boyfriend of 8 months would step up. I have been with mine almost 4 and been pushing for moving in, etc. I have a really hard time waiting for what I want. It's so foreign to me...	carolinagirl	6	650	May 17, 2009 by maresie
	seeking advice re: close friend (Preview) I hope this is the correct forum to post, I consider my friend a close family member.. A good friend of mine nearly died of cirrhosis last September. She had a very close call. Myself and her loved ones were hoping that would have been her wake up call to quit drinking and possibly seek help. Sadly, close t...	elevator	3	306	May 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Just Confused -- Denial and Detachment (Preview) My Recovering A has been slacking on meeting attendance. I believe I've mentioned this before and I have tried to keep my HANDS OFF of his program. It's difficult to do so and to DETACH without completely shutting him out. A resentment buds in knowing that he is not actively working his program AND that...	RunnerChick	8	868	May 17, 2009 by kitty
	Am I detaching from my marriage? (Preview) I am a newcomer. My problem is not being an enabler, but the other extreme. I am so ready to stop obsessing over my A's life that I have been told that I might be taking it too far. I have tried to detach from her bad decisions. She is currently clean. She was going to meeting daily and tried to go back to school...	CarlosNA	12	1615	May 17, 2009 by CarlosNA
	New here, not to Al-Anon, just need to reach out . . . (Preview) Hi all. I'm not a stranger to Al-Anon . . . and the events of this week have brought me right back to Step 1, and I'm feeling so many old, familiar, nasty, painful things and I'm doing what is absolutely the hardest thing in the world for me to do - asking for help. My AH and I are almost divorced. The divorce i...	lilgirl	5	623	May 16, 2009 by abbyal
	So Proud of Myself (Preview) I think I may have actually made some progress today. As I mentioned in a previous post, the night before Mother's Day (while I was out of the house), my husband broke the glass cooktop on our stove - Dad claims that he dropped a roasted chicken that was on a baking sheet on top of the stove - the story from m...	N8SMOM	8	739	May 16, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Patience & Hugs :) (Preview) Ok as most of you know, my deseased Afathers things have been plaquen me for a while now, and that is now slow coming to an end..(Next Week)... Yesterday I was kinda drag'n and with great ESH... (Thank You All) I came to realize, that Yes... I was Waiting for the Storm..For It has been WAY To Calm, and thin...	Jozie	3	680	May 16, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Coloring books, crayons and serenity... (Preview) When I grew up we were FAR from wealthy. We ate good and were clothed but extras weren't possible for a widow with two small children. My father passed away when I was 2 and my oldest brother was called into the Army. My middle brother (7 yrs older than me-9 at the time), my mom and I moved and mom started a...	shellyj123	6	1292	May 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	Having a really hard time keeping the focus on me. (Preview) A few days ago I emailed my ACOA and CAS some information that I thought would help him. It was info I found on this website. It just made him angry and he repeated that all of our problems are my fault and that he doesn't feel "safe" with me. It's just so hard for me to let him go - especially when I...	mkn	7	1828	May 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	May Business Minutes (Preview) May Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held on May 2nd 2009 New Co-Chairs (Edna & Danz)opened the meeting Agenda posted:I. Review of April minutesII. Review of op meeting scheduleIII. Old businessA. Discussion of H...	ernie	0	336	May 16, 2009 by ernie
	Are you wondering when the pain stops? (Preview) I found this today while I was surfing and thought it might be helpful to many of us here...... Shelly Are you wondering when the pain stops? The Pain Stops: when you stop looking at the person you love as the person you love, and you begin to see them, not as a partner, a lover, or a best friend, but as a human...	shellyj123	5	718	May 15, 2009 by buick23
	Pain won't kill me (Preview) I am realizing that strong feelings of pain are just that: strong feelings of pain. They won't kill me. They won't totally ruin my life forever, they are not the end of the world. They are just strong feelings of pain. They arrive, sweep over me and eventually run their course and are gone. I think th...	Jean4444	7	745	May 15, 2009 by nmike
	HOw do you you separate "helping" from "enabling"? (Preview) This is not a tongue in cheek question or a debate...I genuinely think I may have missed this life lesson somewhere along the line. Do you have any good and practical theories or slogans on how to distinguish the differences between helping and enabling? Rora	Rora	9	1122	May 15, 2009 by serendipity
	Yesterday's Positives and Negatives (Preview) My 15 yo son went to court yesterday. He pleaded guilty to some charges he claims he is innocent on b/c the court had enough circumstantial evidence to convict him. He plea bargained and the lessened one of the major charges down to a misdemeanor, which was great. And by pleading guilty, it allowed h...	QOD	5	717	May 15, 2009 by Jean4444
	dauhgter will actually be here!!!!! Can you believe???? (Preview) Spoke to AD last night and she is all set to come out here to take care of Bonnie Lou. We will have to leave before she gets here because she is trying to miss the FT Worth rush hour traffic, which I do not blame her. Bonnie Lou seems much better,however will not eat much, however she still beggs at the table...	clara	3	448	May 15, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Fighting the Desire to Control (Preview) Hello Family - I'm struggling with the desire to control my A. As I posted a few weeks earlier, his meeting attendance has decrease significantly and it takes everything inside of me NOT to speculate on this. My comments and overwhelming worry HAVE decreased but, not vanished. Sometimes I feel I go to...	RunnerChick	9	1002	May 15, 2009 by Jean4444
	You gotta love how they can ruin the holidays (Preview) So last night I got a group of girlfriends togather to spend the night at my parents' empty condo for a pre-Mother's Day celebration. Just something special for us moms so we can spend a night relaxing, hanging out, and having fun. I got home this morning and was greeted by my husband whose first words...	N8SMOM	9	807	May 15, 2009 by tweety23
	Grief and anger....ESH needed (Preview) Two weeks ago today I buried my father and Saturday we buried my father in law. Grief has got ahold of me and I do not like where I am at. I am so angry with all of the people that have managed to slip into FIL's life and take, take take and never give back. There are even times I feel like they have robbed me of my...	Mobirdie	9	909	May 14, 2009 by Andrea12
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