Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Katy · Katy

Well avoiding communicating your real feelings to an A is somthing I am guilty of, when I try it's met with, well you did this or you did that, thier back goes up and you close down, your dealing with someone that can't, won't, doesn't understand normal, so today this morning I said to my husband your beha...

timbotim · timbotim

My girlfriend of a year completed outpatient treatment for her prescription and marijuana abuse. It came to a head when I found I was missing adderol. She went into treatment when we got back from our vacation. She was fine during the treatment, (only one fallout), but since then, she's not taken adva...

Mik · Mik

I have been married to an alcoholic for 22 years. Our marriage hasn't been a real marriage is several years. The verbal abuse has been terrible and it has been so hard not to take it personally. My husband left in the middle of the night about 3 weeks ago. Won't tell me where he is staying, just that it's wit...

Katy · Katy

Davids mowing post has triggered me to write this, as I have been really struggling this past few weeks, and wondering why after nearly three years of my husbands sobriety I seem to have hit a really down time, I thought I was never going to feel this way again, and I think it's when I fall back into old habi...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Ohana (family)!! Sitting back relaxing and getting caught up in our recovery. Nothing better to do. I was acting out today (not in the old crazy way) in a way I was taught by a former sponsor. I use to do the Serenity Prayer literally doing all the definition of what and could and could not change...

xter · xter

due to some crazy scheduling, i haven't been to a f2f in over a week and i won't be able to until saturday morning. but part of me wonders WHY i should go. please, remind me? my AH and i are over. he JUST got into AA (11 days sober) and told me last night that he can't promise he can even try to work on our marri...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone! I woke up Saturday morning feeling a little under the weather. It was one of those days where I could have just stayed in bed. I managed to pull myself out of bed and headed into work and got there on time. I wasn't even there one hour before it hit me. The stomach virus! UGHHH.... I cam...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I am GRATEFUL for: my bills are paid and my needs met my body is in decent shape that my left leg is hurting NOT from something bad, but just my back spasms AND i think i am onto a new way of eating to help my inflamations in wrist and back spasms.....got a great book about new ways of eating i am grateful that to...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

During stressful periods it can be tempting to skip a meal, push ourselves until we are totally exhausted, and generally ignore our basic needs. In the midst of crisis, taking time out for an Al-Anon meet, a call to a sponsor, or a breath of fresh air may seem like a waste of all too precious moments. The...

Holly09 · Holly09

I have been with my A boyfriend for 7 yrs now. We have 2 boys 5 yrs and 1 yr and I have a 14 yr old boy from a prior marriage. To make a long story short my A thinks that just because he financially supports us he doesn't beat us (never done) or act like a raving lunatic (which he has done on occasion with me) that...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Try not to laugh too hard when you read this! I did it! I succumbed to putting myself on Twitter. I thought it might be a fun way to communicate with my friends. If anyone here is on Twitter and would like my screen name just PM please. Now my niece can't tell me that I'm not "with...

clara · clara

My daughter went to divorce court today for the finalization of the divorce. She went without an attorney to represent her. She gets $1,000.00 a month for a year. Plus she said she gets to keep her medical coverage. I really think she told me that so I would not go off and have a fit of some sort. Her ex...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I always get annoyed when Mom is drunk tho it's useless to feel that way since it doesn't change anything and just ruins things for me...... it's an automatic reaction tho. i'm 22. i should just suck it up and deal w/it not constantly complain about it. it'd be like complaining about it raining when it do...

ThisIsBlythe · ThisIsBlythe

Hello Dear Friend, I just wanted to thank you for always taking so much time to answer so many people's posts with such loving kindness and generosity in sharing your ESH. I have gotten SO much out of your posts! Your journey to recovery has been amazing, and I want to thank you for sharing it with us and s...

BK11 · BK11

After reading many posts, I do realize I have been trying to change my gf's drinking for nearly 7 years. She did quit for about a year when I said Alcohol or me, but eventually came back saying that she will no longer take an ultimatum. That I was trying to change who she was. That is her answer for everyt...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

My disease is powerful. It's symptoms can return at any moment. My Abf has been back up North with his family working on a project. I have had an abstract fear that he may have gotten involved again with some of his "Friends" that he once used drugs and drank with. I have that itchy feeling that...

maresie · maresie

My sponsor suggests keeping positive thoughts at the front. As someone who has been stuck in a negative spiral for so long I can find that a daunting prospect. I had some crazy idea that people who seemed happy just were incredibly lucky and everything fell in their lap. Now I see it is intense work to k...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My ex AH has been living in an oxford house since getting out of prison in March. We have been communicating well, he was paying support, working, seeing the kids every weekend, etc. He moved out of the house last week. I'm not sure of the real reason why - claimed it was because he wants to see his kids m...

amylynn67 · amylynn67

I realize that this is a journey and its going to be a looooong one, a life long one and I've spent hours today reading this board and learning soooo much and I'm thankful for every single letter, word, sentence and post that you all have taken your time to write and to help others! I am wondering if there a...

amylynn67 · amylynn67

Hello all, I've been searching for a board like this and just found it tonight. My story is long and probably a little odd so I'll try to keep it short. Last June 4, 2008 I married my high school sweetheart after being apart for 20 years. I would have married him then but he drank all the time and I was afrai...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

For me it is the first THREE steps... Step one----books says ** admitted i was powerless over the affects of xxxxxxxxx (alcohol or whatever it is that you are struggling with, i.e., food, drugs, et al)....and that my life had become unmanageable*****.....Rosie says......I am powerless over this j...

Suzannah · Suzannah

(((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) Some of you will know by now that I am very slow to anger, even quicker to forgive and not aggressive though I am assertive. I know enough of myself to be able to say that about myself. However, what is strange to me is that I cannot even begin to tell you how angry I am fee...

java · java

Hey MIP family, thought I would fill you in on my progress with divorce. My husband keeps trying to "reel" me back into the relationship, and I'll have to admit on a couple of occasions it has worked. Detaching from someone you've spent 4 years of your life with is hard. After telling him I was...

florida · florida

here i sit he asked for a ride from me and i said no so he took his truck with very little gas he tried calling his connection but got no answer - decided to drive over there and look for his dealer

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, Some time ago I posted about the father A's desire to get me to get him on my insurance as a named driver. I refused and explained to him why it would not be good for me. He is still annoyed, despite the fact that he has got insurance now in his own name, owns his own car and is legal. I am proud that I sto...

debilyn · debilyn

Called to talk to AH who lives with this female who is old and in her day was not known for being a nice,clean, person. Meaning she was a free love kinda gal. He was not there so we talked. Got an earful from the start. She says,"I wish he would go to rehab or jail." He is breaking everything and d...

Rora · Rora

Yesterday I phoned my sponsor. I was at my aH (really at myself) for having got sucked into the emotional games. And I was feeling a little vindictive. A few days before he had invited me and our son to his place for a family gathering he was hosting. I told him that it would be inappropriate for me to go...

Working the Steps- A USER'S GUIDE · RunnerChick

Hmm.. I DON'T have a 'User's Guide' but am finding my perfectionism bleeding through to my recovery. I've been struggling alot lately with working the steps ENOUGH. Granted, I just recently got a new sponsor that I had needed for quite sometime and started working on Step One in the Path's to Recovery...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

hey all Thanks for the loving support re: my job and my other stuff...What would I do w/out my recovery family????? I have noticed something...I am having a REAL hard time, staying in my body...staying focused and keeping my scrambling thoughts CALM and in the NOW....in otherwords I cannot RELAX....

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

Hey you all if you want to have a "signature" thingy always on your posts.....you go into your name. like when your on the page, look up and right and you see yourself or click onyour name anywhere on site and you see on the left "signature".....click on it and type whatever you wa...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi... just heard from John, and though nothing intentionally was changed, it appears that the "edit post" function works, by way of the drop down arrow in the upper right hand corner of your posts.... Take care Tom

GL44 · GL44

Hello All, First time poster. This is a wonderful site I just found . . . and need. My A wife has been heavily drinking for 4 years. She just returned from rehab in Ca. after 30 days. She returned a different person, and not for the better. She is still drinking and I have a very strong suspicion that she...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

TODAY i went garage saling and got some toys for the dogs and a good book for me i cleaned up my house and did the wash i am getting my resume out so i can leave this control freak job i am eating more alkyline foods to help my inflamations in wrists and help my back i will soak in the tub tonight w/candles and jus...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

the slogan for me today is KEEP IT SIMPLE i have a bully boss...i have been complicating this issue by obsessing and doing too much thinking about it i am going to keep it simple by keeping my boundaries....look for another PT job and just do the basics....and stop letting it get to me... also the other sl...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family)), I was talking to my older niece the other day about how I suddenly had fleas in the house. How could this be since I give Pipers her fleas meds every month? I asked her if Mommy and Daddy give their dog fleas meds every month. She said no. Well that would explain the fleas in my house since m...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I believe this should have been asked of me in private....I get enough "PM's" so I know that function on this site is working....I feel very embarrassed by being ASKED this ??? on my THREAD... I deleted the post......It was a MIX....a book I read, Lord knows when, AND my take on it mixed in......

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

A few things to tell you... First, the word has come from "up high on the food chain" that, because of my whistle blowing, my food bank has lost their VISTA privleges. This means that, until the legal issues are resolved, my position has been suspended indefinately. This is more of a loss f...

nmike · nmike

Yes, him, the AHsober that I have been separated from for four years. Being separated was his idea. I cope. He helps everyone else first. Feels guilty if he doesn't. He doesn't think of his family. We had been getting together as a family on the 4th of July. He calls and says he wants to golf out of the state...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I guess I'm just glad he's not an alcoholic/drug addict. He treats me like a princess. I have a hard time being judgmental of people and realize nobody is perfect and Mr. Saint is not out there in the world. I hope that he's telling me the truth and he didn't act on it and that it will never happen again. ...

debilyn · debilyn

Every once in awhile we all need to be reminded, ME TOO, to not copy others material on the message board. Especially things that are not approved. Also we are not to sell or use this medium as a place to advertise books for sale etc. I will be honest, I don't have a list of approved literature, and reall...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Just thought I would update everyone on my situation! For the most part I am doing pretty good actually. Much better than I thought I would be. I'm staying with my Amom and Abrother. Never thought I would stay here again, but I just take it ODAAT, and use the Alanon tools I have learned. My brothers gf also...

belle1 · belle1

Hi, typing from my hosp bed va internet but unable to get into the chatroom just to let you all know where i am at, ill keep trying to get in and chat again. I was brought in with severe right kidney stone pain and being given pain meds and antibiotics through IV drip pain has subsided a lot thankfully, feve...

Mariner · Mariner

Dear (((All)) I really need to get this out and would be grateful for any ES&H. Some of you know my journey, I have for months now struggled with the ending of my relationship with my exbf. He is in early recovery after 25 years active addiction.During his rehab we decided to part. I accept he is unab...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I have back on steps 3 and 4....found some things about me that need rooting out and turning over..... I have been fearful about going in and telling bully boss....."I have had enough...This is not working for me, I am giving my notice..."....I am not trusting in HP enough to carry me as I set...

liliana · liliana

It has been such a long time since I have visited this site, and even longer since I went to a face to face. My husband has been out of work for about 3 months. I have managed to cut extra expenses, on stuff that I enjoy, but that aren't nssasary, like getting my nails done, and sending the laundry out. I have b...

dickeybird · dickeybird

My AA husband moved out last Friday. This has been in the making for a few months. At first we were looking for a home together in my hometown. Then, it was looking for a home where we could have some time apart, but visit each other and my family, help my 83-year-old mom some, too. Now, that he's there, w...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

It's funny how the whole time since EXABF and I split that all I could see was the reasons we should be together. Now, especially now, after seeing him in Walmart and not being overrun by out of control, obsessing feelings I am seeing things so much clearer. When I called him out for not speaking to my son...

John · John

Hi Fellow Travellers, My name is John, I have been clean and sober since 12-21-1989. Thanks to both AA and NA, 3 great sponsors (through out the course of my almost 20 years of recovery) and a God, who was absolutely of my misunderstanding when I first arrived in the rooms, I have not found it nescessar...

debilyn · debilyn

Hoping it is not just me. Can anyone else write a post and edit it? My posts all have this thing that says reply then a thing ya pull down to edit ect but won't work???

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs, Well, today I reacted. Something I have been doing very well avoiding. I get home from work and hubby is not home. (thats unusual sober,,,drinking..not so unusual). I call him. No answer. again, unusual sober, not so unusual drinking. Call again, no answer. OH WELL, that's i...

Barbarajo05 · Barbarajo05

I need everyones advise on this. I have been apart from my EXABF for 2 months. It did not end pretty at all. He lived with me and my 2 children for 6 months. I was hard dealing with all his drinking, binges, anger. When he had to leave it was not pretty. One big problem is that I work with him at the same co...

clara · clara

Daughter's divorce will be final in just a few weeks; probably 2 weeks. She keeps calling me, telling me how much she loves her husband and cannot believe he is divorcing her. She is the one who had a stroke and is left mostly blind in her left eye. She should be concentrating on her health and not why t...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

5 years ago tomorrow, my dear and best friend Ms. Pamela Kay Fletcher left this world for her eternal rest... She was my best friend and was dying of cancer...they "termed" her on May 15th, '04 in that docs were giving her drugs to make her comfortable and thats IT!!! I told her i would stand by...

Suzannah · Suzannah

...two nights solid vigil too has utterly drained me. I feel numb, sick, utterly drained and empty. Thank you, for ALL your prayers. I am going to bed now...

debilyn · debilyn

ignore trying to figure out something.

Christy · Christy

The greatest enemy of individual freedom is the individual himself. Saul Alinsky said that, and he was right. In almost every case, nothing is stopping you, nothing is holding you back but your own thoughts about yourself and about "how life is." Your personal freedom to experience y...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Just a little follow up on what happened with my BF. I work at a public health clinic and he came in here today to take me to lunch and get tested for every STD known to man - I also have to thank my coworker later for the tetanus and hep A/B shots she threw in. He still swears nothing ever happened. He still s...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, have just had distressing news in relation to employment, there is an embargo on replacing summer staff so I usually do this work but will unallowed to do so because of new rules apparently. I was gracious about same when told and am putting it into hps hands. I had to then tell my son that I would...

chezza · chezza

I thought I'd come on the board and share my experience tonight. I have been attending al-anon since september last year. I joined on the basis of me living with an a/bf for 10 years. Last week I realised that in actual fact my father is and a. Can any of you guys relate to not knowing this then finally re...

needaway · needaway

Hi everybody, Im quite new to this whole forum thing, never mind Alanon. just wanted to say hello. I hope this is the right place. I have been lurking for a few days now, and already have gained some hope from the wisdom and stories people have been providing, so thank you. I wouldn't know where to star...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Being really honest! (Preview) Well avoiding communicating your real feelings to an A is somthing I am guilty of, when I try it's met with, well you did this or you did that, thier back goes up and you close down, your dealing with someone that can't, won't, doesn't understand normal, so today this morning I said to my husband your beha...	Katy	5	487	Jun 18, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I'm angry, hurt and things have changed... (Preview) My girlfriend of a year completed outpatient treatment for her prescription and marijuana abuse. It came to a head when I found I was missing adderol. She went into treatment when we got back from our vacation. She was fine during the treatment, (only one fallout), but since then, she's not taken adva...	timbotim	9	762	Jun 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Help please (Preview) I have been married to an alcoholic for 22 years. Our marriage hasn't been a real marriage is several years. The verbal abuse has been terrible and it has been so hard not to take it personally. My husband left in the middle of the night about 3 weeks ago. Won't tell me where he is staying, just that it's wit...	Mik	13	837	Jun 17, 2009 by Mik
	Doing the same things over and over again, and expsecting different results! (Preview) Davids mowing post has triggered me to write this, as I have been really struggling this past few weeks, and wondering why after nearly three years of my husbands sobriety I seem to have hit a really down time, I thought I was never going to feel this way again, and I think it's when I fall back into old habi...	Katy	3	925	Jun 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	"...Courage to change the thinks I can..." (Preview) Aloha Ohana (family)!! Sitting back relaxing and getting caught up in our recovery. Nothing better to do. I was acting out today (not in the old crazy way) in a way I was taught by a former sponsor. I use to do the Serenity Prayer literally doing all the definition of what and could and could not change...	Jerry F	4	745	Jun 17, 2009 by Jerry F
	over but not over (Preview) due to some crazy scheduling, i haven't been to a f2f in over a week and i won't be able to until saturday morning. but part of me wonders WHY i should go. please, remind me? my AH and i are over. he JUST got into AA (11 days sober) and told me last night that he can't promise he can even try to work on our marri...	xter	12	777	Jun 17, 2009 by xter
	Was feeling blahhhh... (Preview) Hello everyone! I woke up Saturday morning feeling a little under the weather. It was one of those days where I could have just stayed in bed. I managed to pull myself out of bed and headed into work and got there on time. I wasn't even there one hour before it hit me. The stomach virus! UGHHH.... I cam...	Sincerely	1	550	Jun 17, 2009 by kitty
	What am I grateful for today???? (Preview) I am GRATEFUL for: my bills are paid and my needs met my body is in decent shape that my left leg is hurting NOT from something bad, but just my back spasms AND i think i am onto a new way of eating to help my inflamations in wrist and back spasms.....got a great book about new ways of eating i am grateful that to...	rosielightshines	8	1051	Jun 17, 2009 by xter
	COURAGE to CHANGE___16 JUNE (Preview) During stressful periods it can be tempting to skip a meal, push ourselves until we are totally exhausted, and generally ignore our basic needs. In the midst of crisis, taking time out for an Al-Anon meet, a call to a sponsor, or a breath of fresh air may seem like a waste of all too precious moments. The...	rosielightshines	4	450	Jun 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	How do you get around the anger and resentment? (Preview) I have been with my A boyfriend for 7 yrs now. We have 2 boys 5 yrs and 1 yr and I have a 14 yr old boy from a prior marriage. To make a long story short my A thinks that just because he financially supports us he doesn't beat us (never done) or act like a raving lunatic (which he has done on occasion with me) that...	Holly09	7	1117	Jun 17, 2009 by Holly09
	Anyone on Twitter? (Preview) ((((Family)))), Try not to laugh too hard when you read this! I did it! I succumbed to putting myself on Twitter. I thought it might be a fun way to communicate with my friends. If anyone here is on Twitter and would like my screen name just PM please. Now my niece can't tell me that I'm not "with...	Karilynn	6	673	Jun 17, 2009 by xter
	My heart is breaking at this moment (Preview) My daughter went to divorce court today for the finalization of the divorce. She went without an attorney to represent her. She gets $1,000.00 a month for a year. Plus she said she gets to keep her medical coverage. I really think she told me that so I would not go off and have a fit of some sort. Her ex...	clara	12	618	Jun 17, 2009 by Karilynn
	annoyed (Preview) I always get annoyed when Mom is drunk tho it's useless to feel that way since it doesn't change anything and just ruins things for me...... it's an automatic reaction tho. i'm 22. i should just suck it up and deal w/it not constantly complain about it. it'd be like complaining about it raining when it do...	Lanchas	8	722	Jun 16, 2009 by Lanchas
	thanks to "roselightshines" (Preview) Hello Dear Friend, I just wanted to thank you for always taking so much time to answer so many people's posts with such loving kindness and generosity in sharing your ESH. I have gotten SO much out of your posts! Your journey to recovery has been amazing, and I want to thank you for sharing it with us and s...	ThisIsBlythe	5	620	Jun 16, 2009 by Dave Harm
	My head is filled with so much. . . (Preview) After reading many posts, I do realize I have been trying to change my gf's drinking for nearly 7 years. She did quit for about a year when I said Alcohol or me, but eventually came back saying that she will no longer take an ultimatum. That I was trying to change who she was. That is her answer for everyt...	BK11	7	904	Jun 16, 2009 by BK11
	The Insanity (Preview) My disease is powerful. It's symptoms can return at any moment. My Abf has been back up North with his family working on a project. I have had an abstract fear that he may have gotten involved again with some of his "Friends" that he once used drugs and drank with. I have that itchy feeling that...	RunnerChick	7	817	Jun 16, 2009 by kitty
	not making it a catastrophe (Preview) My sponsor suggests keeping positive thoughts at the front. As someone who has been stuck in a negative spiral for so long I can find that a daunting prospect. I had some crazy idea that people who seemed happy just were incredibly lucky and everything fell in their lap. Now I see it is intense work to k...	maresie	2	791	Jun 16, 2009 by hotrod
	My ex ah... (Preview) My ex AH has been living in an oxford house since getting out of prison in March. We have been communicating well, he was paying support, working, seeing the kids every weekend, etc. He moved out of the house last week. I'm not sure of the real reason why - claimed it was because he wants to see his kids m...	carolinagirl	26	1118	Jun 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	Does anyone ever "get there"? (Preview) I realize that this is a journey and its going to be a looooong one, a life long one and I've spent hours today reading this board and learning soooo much and I'm thankful for every single letter, word, sentence and post that you all have taken your time to write and to help others! I am wondering if there a...	amylynn67	16	597	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	desperately seeking help/advice, anything (Preview) Hello all, I've been searching for a board like this and just found it tonight. My story is long and probably a little odd so I'll try to keep it short. Last June 4, 2008 I married my high school sweetheart after being apart for 20 years. I would have married him then but he drank all the time and I was afrai...	amylynn67	11	534	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	What STEP(s) are you working today??? (Preview) For me it is the first THREE steps... Step one----books says admitted i was powerless over the affects of xxxxxxxxx (alcohol or whatever it is that you are struggling with, i.e., food, drugs, et al)....and that my life had become unmanageable***.....Rosie says......I am powerless over this j...	rosielightshines	10	787	Jun 16, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Surprised by the anger I am feeling... (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) Some of you will know by now that I am very slow to anger, even quicker to forgive and not aggressive though I am assertive. I know enough of myself to be able to say that about myself. However, what is strange to me is that I cannot even begin to tell you how angry I am fee...	Suzannah	7	461	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	checking for ticks? (Preview) Hey MIP family, thought I would fill you in on my progress with divorce. My husband keeps trying to "reel" me back into the relationship, and I'll have to admit on a couple of occasions it has worked. Detaching from someone you've spent 4 years of your life with is hard. After telling him I was...	java	10	717	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	boyfriend just left to get high (Preview) here i sit he asked for a ride from me and i said no so he took his truck with very little gas he tried calling his connection but got no answer - decided to drive over there and look for his dealer	florida	8	872	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	update on all (Preview) Dear all, Some time ago I posted about the father A's desire to get me to get him on my insurance as a named driver. I refused and explained to him why it would not be good for me. He is still annoyed, despite the fact that he has got insurance now in his own name, owns his own car and is legal. I am proud that I sto...	maire rua	4	727	Jun 16, 2009 by rosielightshines
	spilling it,long soap opera, potter style (Preview) Called to talk to AH who lives with this female who is old and in her day was not known for being a nice,clean, person. Meaning she was a free love kinda gal. He was not there so we talked. Got an earful from the start. She says,"I wish he would go to rehab or jail." He is breaking everything and d...	debilyn	3	595	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	and THIS is why I NEED a sponsor... (Preview) Yesterday I phoned my sponsor. I was at my aH (really at myself) for having got sucked into the emotional games. And I was feeling a little vindictive. A few days before he had invited me and our son to his place for a family gathering he was hosting. I told him that it would be inappropriate for me to go...	Rora	8	816	Jun 16, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Working the Steps- A USER'S GUIDE (Preview) Hmm.. I DON'T have a 'User's Guide' but am finding my perfectionism bleeding through to my recovery. I've been struggling alot lately with working the steps ENOUGH. Granted, I just recently got a new sponsor that I had needed for quite sometime and started working on Step One in the Path's to Recovery...	RunnerChick	5	923	Jun 16, 2009 by maire rua
	Thank heaven I can come here and "let it all hang out" (Preview) hey all Thanks for the loving support re: my job and my other stuff...What would I do w/out my recovery family????? I have noticed something...I am having a REAL hard time, staying in my body...staying focused and keeping my scrambling thoughts CALM and in the NOW....in otherwords I cannot RELAX....	rosielightshines	14	806	Jun 15, 2009 by Temple
	If you want to have a "signature" thingy on your posts (Preview) Hey you all if you want to have a "signature" thingy always on your posts.....you go into your name. like when your on the page, look up and right and you see yourself or click onyour name anywhere on site and you see on the left "signature".....click on it and type whatever you wa...	rosielightshines	2	405	Jun 15, 2009 by debilyn
	Editing your own posts (Preview) Hi... just heard from John, and though nothing intentionally was changed, it appears that the "edit post" function works, by way of the drop down arrow in the upper right hand corner of your posts.... Take care Tom	canadianguy	2	821	Jun 15, 2009 by debilyn
	Why? Why? Why? (Preview) Hello All, First time poster. This is a wonderful site I just found . . . and need. My A wife has been heavily drinking for 4 years. She just returned from rehab in Ca. after 30 days. She returned a different person, and not for the better. She is still drinking and I have a very strong suspicion that she...	GL44	12	898	Jun 15, 2009 by Jerry F
	what am I doing for me today??? (Preview) TODAY i went garage saling and got some toys for the dogs and a good book for me i cleaned up my house and did the wash i am getting my resume out so i can leave this control freak job i am eating more alkyline foods to help my inflamations in wrists and help my back i will soak in the tub tonight w/candles and jus...	rosielightshines	8	706	Jun 15, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	what slogan are U working today???? (Preview) the slogan for me today is KEEP IT SIMPLE i have a bully boss...i have been complicating this issue by obsessing and doing too much thinking about it i am going to keep it simple by keeping my boundaries....look for another PT job and just do the basics....and stop letting it get to me... also the other sl...	rosielightshines	8	743	Jun 15, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Out of the mouth of babes.... (Preview) (((Family)), I was talking to my older niece the other day about how I suddenly had fleas in the house. How could this be since I give Pipers her fleas meds every month? I asked her if Mommy and Daddy give their dog fleas meds every month. She said no. Well that would explain the fleas in my house since m...	Karilynn	3	623	Jun 15, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	What is WITHIN my bounaries??? What is NOT??? (Preview) I believe this should have been asked of me in private....I get enough "PM's" so I know that function on this site is working....I feel very embarrassed by being ASKED this ??? on my THREAD... I deleted the post......It was a MIX....a book I read, Lord knows when, AND my take on it mixed in......	rosielightshines	5	665	Jun 15, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Just wanted y'all to know (Preview) A few things to tell you... First, the word has come from "up high on the food chain" that, because of my whistle blowing, my food bank has lost their VISTA privleges. This means that, until the legal issues are resolved, my position has been suspended indefinately. This is more of a loss f...	Tiger2006	8	716	Jun 15, 2009 by maresie
	So selfish (Preview) Yes, him, the AHsober that I have been separated from for four years. Being separated was his idea. I cope. He helps everyone else first. Feels guilty if he doesn't. He doesn't think of his family. We had been getting together as a family on the 4th of July. He calls and says he wants to golf out of the state...	nmike	7	818	Jun 15, 2009 by maresie
	being judgmental (Preview) I guess I'm just glad he's not an alcoholic/drug addict. He treats me like a princess. I have a hard time being judgmental of people and realize nobody is perfect and Mr. Saint is not out there in the world. I hope that he's telling me the truth and he didn't act on it and that it will never happen again. ...	carolinagirl	7	733	Jun 15, 2009 by maresie
	Advice and copyright law (Preview) Every once in awhile we all need to be reminded, ME TOO, to not copy others material on the message board. Especially things that are not approved. Also we are not to sell or use this medium as a place to advertise books for sale etc. I will be honest, I don't have a list of approved literature, and reall...	debilyn	10	872	Jun 15, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I'm doing good! (Preview) Just thought I would update everyone on my situation! For the most part I am doing pretty good actually. Much better than I thought I would be. I'm staying with my Amom and Abrother. Never thought I would stay here again, but I just take it ODAAT, and use the Alanon tools I have learned. My brothers gf also...	Melissa21	6	904	Jun 15, 2009 by blender_girl
	from my hosp bed (Preview) Hi, typing from my hosp bed va internet but unable to get into the chatroom just to let you all know where i am at, ill keep trying to get in and chat again. I was brought in with severe right kidney stone pain and being given pain meds and antibiotics through IV drip pain has subsided a lot thankfully, feve...	belle1	11	590	Jun 15, 2009 by blender_girl
	Codependant no more? (Preview) Dear (((All)) I really need to get this out and would be grateful for any ES&H. Some of you know my journey, I have for months now struggled with the ending of my relationship with my exbf. He is in early recovery after 25 years active addiction.During his rehab we decided to part. I accept he is unab...	Mariner	8	732	Jun 14, 2009 by Bella333
	So WHAT am I still doing there???? (Preview) I have back on steps 3 and 4....found some things about me that need rooting out and turning over..... I have been fearful about going in and telling bully boss....."I have had enough...This is not working for me, I am giving my notice..."....I am not trusting in HP enough to carry me as I set...	rosielightshines	9	802	Jun 14, 2009 by rosielightshines
	feeling so alone (Preview) It has been such a long time since I have visited this site, and even longer since I went to a face to face. My husband has been out of work for about 3 months. I have managed to cut extra expenses, on stuff that I enjoy, but that aren't nssasary, like getting my nails done, and sending the laundry out. I have b...	liliana	7	1116	Jun 13, 2009 by clara
	Insanity? need help (Preview) My AA husband moved out last Friday. This has been in the making for a few months. At first we were looking for a home together in my hometown. Then, it was looking for a home where we could have some time apart, but visit each other and my family, help my 83-year-old mom some, too. Now, that he's there, w...	dickeybird	3	654	Jun 13, 2009 by debilyn
	Seeing with open eyes what HP wants me to see~FINALLY:) (Preview) It's funny how the whole time since EXABF and I split that all I could see was the reasons we should be together. Now, especially now, after seeing him in Walmart and not being overrun by out of control, obsessing feelings I am seeing things so much clearer. When I called him out for not speaking to my son...	shellyj123	4	401	Jun 12, 2009 by nmike
	Miracles In Progress Story (Preview) Hi Fellow Travellers, My name is John, I have been clean and sober since 12-21-1989. Thanks to both AA and NA, 3 great sponsors (through out the course of my almost 20 years of recovery) and a God, who was absolutely of my misunderstanding when I first arrived in the rooms, I have not found it nescessar...	John	15	816	Jun 12, 2009 by Jean4444
	need help here please (Preview) Hoping it is not just me. Can anyone else write a post and edit it? My posts all have this thing that says reply then a thing ya pull down to edit ect but won't work???	debilyn	5	860	Jun 12, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I reacted...ughh (Preview) Hello and Hugs, Well, today I reacted. Something I have been doing very well avoiding. I get home from work and hubby is not home. (thats unusual sober,,,drinking..not so unusual). I call him. No answer. again, unusual sober, not so unusual drinking. Call again, no answer. OH WELL, that's i...	Sincerely	4	734	Jun 12, 2009 by xter
	EXABF WANTS TO MEET TO TALK~ADVISE!!! (Preview) I need everyones advise on this. I have been apart from my EXABF for 2 months. It did not end pretty at all. He lived with me and my 2 children for 6 months. I was hard dealing with all his drinking, binges, anger. When he had to leave it was not pretty. One big problem is that I work with him at the same co...	Barbarajo05	10	395	Jun 12, 2009 by kitty
	Don't know what to tell daughter anymore!!!! (Preview) Daughter's divorce will be final in just a few weeks; probably 2 weeks. She keeps calling me, telling me how much she loves her husband and cannot believe he is divorcing her. She is the one who had a stroke and is left mostly blind in her left eye. She should be concentrating on her health and not why t...	clara	7	732	Jun 12, 2009 by Jozie
	In loving memory of MY best friend--5 year anniversary (Preview) 5 years ago tomorrow, my dear and best friend Ms. Pamela Kay Fletcher left this world for her eternal rest... She was my best friend and was dying of cancer...they "termed" her on May 15th, '04 in that docs were giving her drugs to make her comfortable and thats IT!!! I told her i would stand by...	rosielightshines	5	746	Jun 12, 2009 by clara
	Thankfully it's all over... H A L T (Preview) ...two nights solid vigil too has utterly drained me. I feel numb, sick, utterly drained and empty. Thank you, for ALL your prayers. I am going to bed now...	Suzannah	7	883	Jun 12, 2009 by Karilynn
	test (Preview) ignore trying to figure out something.	debilyn	1	386	Jun 12, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	The greatest enemy of individual freedom (Preview) The greatest enemy of individual freedom is the individual himself. Saul Alinsky said that, and he was right. In almost every case, nothing is stopping you, nothing is holding you back but your own thoughts about yourself and about "how life is." Your personal freedom to experience y...	Christy	2	335	Jun 12, 2009 by JaneG
	Update (Preview) Just a little follow up on what happened with my BF. I work at a public health clinic and he came in here today to take me to lunch and get tested for every STD known to man - I also have to thank my coworker later for the tetanus and hep A/B shots she threw in. He still swears nothing ever happened. He still s...	carolinagirl	7	722	Jun 11, 2009 by maresie
	Upsetting news in relation to employment (Preview) Dear all, have just had distressing news in relation to employment, there is an embargo on replacing summer staff so I usually do this work but will unallowed to do so because of new rules apparently. I was gracious about same when told and am putting it into hps hands. I had to then tell my son that I would...	maire rua	6	818	Jun 11, 2009 by clara
	I am an adult child (Preview) I thought I'd come on the board and share my experience tonight. I have been attending al-anon since september last year. I joined on the basis of me living with an a/bf for 10 years. Last week I realised that in actual fact my father is and a. Can any of you guys relate to not knowing this then finally re...	chezza	7	749	Jun 11, 2009 by maresie
	Newcomer here (Preview) Hi everybody, Im quite new to this whole forum thing, never mind Alanon. just wanted to say hello. I hope this is the right place. I have been lurking for a few days now, and already have gained some hope from the wisdom and stories people have been providing, so thank you. I wouldn't know where to star...	needaway	3	589	Jun 11, 2009 by wildthang86
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