Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

maresie · maresie

My sponsor suggests keeping positive thoughts at the front. As someone who has been stuck in a negative spiral for so long I can find that a daunting prospect. I had some crazy idea that people who seemed happy just were incredibly lucky and everything fell in their lap. Now I see it is intense work to k...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My ex AH has been living in an oxford house since getting out of prison in March. We have been communicating well, he was paying support, working, seeing the kids every weekend, etc. He moved out of the house last week. I'm not sure of the real reason why - claimed it was because he wants to see his kids m...

amylynn67 · amylynn67

I realize that this is a journey and its going to be a looooong one, a life long one and I've spent hours today reading this board and learning soooo much and I'm thankful for every single letter, word, sentence and post that you all have taken your time to write and to help others! I am wondering if there a...

amylynn67 · amylynn67

Hello all, I've been searching for a board like this and just found it tonight. My story is long and probably a little odd so I'll try to keep it short. Last June 4, 2008 I married my high school sweetheart after being apart for 20 years. I would have married him then but he drank all the time and I was afrai...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

For me it is the first THREE steps... Step one----books says ** admitted i was powerless over the affects of xxxxxxxxx (alcohol or whatever it is that you are struggling with, i.e., food, drugs, et al)....and that my life had become unmanageable*****.....Rosie says......I am powerless over this j...

Suzannah · Suzannah

(((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) Some of you will know by now that I am very slow to anger, even quicker to forgive and not aggressive though I am assertive. I know enough of myself to be able to say that about myself. However, what is strange to me is that I cannot even begin to tell you how angry I am fee...

java · java

Hey MIP family, thought I would fill you in on my progress with divorce. My husband keeps trying to "reel" me back into the relationship, and I'll have to admit on a couple of occasions it has worked. Detaching from someone you've spent 4 years of your life with is hard. After telling him I was...

florida · florida

here i sit he asked for a ride from me and i said no so he took his truck with very little gas he tried calling his connection but got no answer - decided to drive over there and look for his dealer

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, Some time ago I posted about the father A's desire to get me to get him on my insurance as a named driver. I refused and explained to him why it would not be good for me. He is still annoyed, despite the fact that he has got insurance now in his own name, owns his own car and is legal. I am proud that I sto...

debilyn · debilyn

Called to talk to AH who lives with this female who is old and in her day was not known for being a nice,clean, person. Meaning she was a free love kinda gal. He was not there so we talked. Got an earful from the start. She says,"I wish he would go to rehab or jail." He is breaking everything and d...

Rora · Rora

Yesterday I phoned my sponsor. I was at my aH (really at myself) for having got sucked into the emotional games. And I was feeling a little vindictive. A few days before he had invited me and our son to his place for a family gathering he was hosting. I told him that it would be inappropriate for me to go...

Working the Steps- A USER'S GUIDE · RunnerChick

Hmm.. I DON'T have a 'User's Guide' but am finding my perfectionism bleeding through to my recovery. I've been struggling alot lately with working the steps ENOUGH. Granted, I just recently got a new sponsor that I had needed for quite sometime and started working on Step One in the Path's to Recovery...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

hey all Thanks for the loving support re: my job and my other stuff...What would I do w/out my recovery family????? I have noticed something...I am having a REAL hard time, staying in my body...staying focused and keeping my scrambling thoughts CALM and in the NOW....in otherwords I cannot RELAX....

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

Hey you all if you want to have a "signature" thingy always on your posts.....you go into your name. like when your on the page, look up and right and you see yourself or click onyour name anywhere on site and you see on the left "signature".....click on it and type whatever you wa...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi... just heard from John, and though nothing intentionally was changed, it appears that the "edit post" function works, by way of the drop down arrow in the upper right hand corner of your posts.... Take care Tom

GL44 · GL44

Hello All, First time poster. This is a wonderful site I just found . . . and need. My A wife has been heavily drinking for 4 years. She just returned from rehab in Ca. after 30 days. She returned a different person, and not for the better. She is still drinking and I have a very strong suspicion that she...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

TODAY i went garage saling and got some toys for the dogs and a good book for me i cleaned up my house and did the wash i am getting my resume out so i can leave this control freak job i am eating more alkyline foods to help my inflamations in wrists and help my back i will soak in the tub tonight w/candles and jus...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

the slogan for me today is KEEP IT SIMPLE i have a bully boss...i have been complicating this issue by obsessing and doing too much thinking about it i am going to keep it simple by keeping my boundaries....look for another PT job and just do the basics....and stop letting it get to me... also the other sl...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family)), I was talking to my older niece the other day about how I suddenly had fleas in the house. How could this be since I give Pipers her fleas meds every month? I asked her if Mommy and Daddy give their dog fleas meds every month. She said no. Well that would explain the fleas in my house since m...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I believe this should have been asked of me in private....I get enough "PM's" so I know that function on this site is working....I feel very embarrassed by being ASKED this ??? on my THREAD... I deleted the post......It was a MIX....a book I read, Lord knows when, AND my take on it mixed in......

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

A few things to tell you... First, the word has come from "up high on the food chain" that, because of my whistle blowing, my food bank has lost their VISTA privleges. This means that, until the legal issues are resolved, my position has been suspended indefinately. This is more of a loss f...

nmike · nmike

Yes, him, the AHsober that I have been separated from for four years. Being separated was his idea. I cope. He helps everyone else first. Feels guilty if he doesn't. He doesn't think of his family. We had been getting together as a family on the 4th of July. He calls and says he wants to golf out of the state...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I guess I'm just glad he's not an alcoholic/drug addict. He treats me like a princess. I have a hard time being judgmental of people and realize nobody is perfect and Mr. Saint is not out there in the world. I hope that he's telling me the truth and he didn't act on it and that it will never happen again. ...

debilyn · debilyn

Every once in awhile we all need to be reminded, ME TOO, to not copy others material on the message board. Especially things that are not approved. Also we are not to sell or use this medium as a place to advertise books for sale etc. I will be honest, I don't have a list of approved literature, and reall...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Just thought I would update everyone on my situation! For the most part I am doing pretty good actually. Much better than I thought I would be. I'm staying with my Amom and Abrother. Never thought I would stay here again, but I just take it ODAAT, and use the Alanon tools I have learned. My brothers gf also...

belle1 · belle1

Hi, typing from my hosp bed va internet but unable to get into the chatroom just to let you all know where i am at, ill keep trying to get in and chat again. I was brought in with severe right kidney stone pain and being given pain meds and antibiotics through IV drip pain has subsided a lot thankfully, feve...

Mariner · Mariner

Dear (((All)) I really need to get this out and would be grateful for any ES&H. Some of you know my journey, I have for months now struggled with the ending of my relationship with my exbf. He is in early recovery after 25 years active addiction.During his rehab we decided to part. I accept he is unab...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I have back on steps 3 and 4....found some things about me that need rooting out and turning over..... I have been fearful about going in and telling bully boss....."I have had enough...This is not working for me, I am giving my notice..."....I am not trusting in HP enough to carry me as I set...

liliana · liliana

It has been such a long time since I have visited this site, and even longer since I went to a face to face. My husband has been out of work for about 3 months. I have managed to cut extra expenses, on stuff that I enjoy, but that aren't nssasary, like getting my nails done, and sending the laundry out. I have b...

dickeybird · dickeybird

My AA husband moved out last Friday. This has been in the making for a few months. At first we were looking for a home together in my hometown. Then, it was looking for a home where we could have some time apart, but visit each other and my family, help my 83-year-old mom some, too. Now, that he's there, w...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

It's funny how the whole time since EXABF and I split that all I could see was the reasons we should be together. Now, especially now, after seeing him in Walmart and not being overrun by out of control, obsessing feelings I am seeing things so much clearer. When I called him out for not speaking to my son...

John · John

Hi Fellow Travellers, My name is John, I have been clean and sober since 12-21-1989. Thanks to both AA and NA, 3 great sponsors (through out the course of my almost 20 years of recovery) and a God, who was absolutely of my misunderstanding when I first arrived in the rooms, I have not found it nescessar...

debilyn · debilyn

Hoping it is not just me. Can anyone else write a post and edit it? My posts all have this thing that says reply then a thing ya pull down to edit ect but won't work???

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs, Well, today I reacted. Something I have been doing very well avoiding. I get home from work and hubby is not home. (thats unusual sober,,,drinking..not so unusual). I call him. No answer. again, unusual sober, not so unusual drinking. Call again, no answer. OH WELL, that's i...

Barbarajo05 · Barbarajo05

I need everyones advise on this. I have been apart from my EXABF for 2 months. It did not end pretty at all. He lived with me and my 2 children for 6 months. I was hard dealing with all his drinking, binges, anger. When he had to leave it was not pretty. One big problem is that I work with him at the same co...

clara · clara

Daughter's divorce will be final in just a few weeks; probably 2 weeks. She keeps calling me, telling me how much she loves her husband and cannot believe he is divorcing her. She is the one who had a stroke and is left mostly blind in her left eye. She should be concentrating on her health and not why t...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

5 years ago tomorrow, my dear and best friend Ms. Pamela Kay Fletcher left this world for her eternal rest... She was my best friend and was dying of cancer...they "termed" her on May 15th, '04 in that docs were giving her drugs to make her comfortable and thats IT!!! I told her i would stand by...

Suzannah · Suzannah

...two nights solid vigil too has utterly drained me. I feel numb, sick, utterly drained and empty. Thank you, for ALL your prayers. I am going to bed now...

debilyn · debilyn

ignore trying to figure out something.

Christy · Christy

The greatest enemy of individual freedom is the individual himself. Saul Alinsky said that, and he was right. In almost every case, nothing is stopping you, nothing is holding you back but your own thoughts about yourself and about "how life is." Your personal freedom to experience y...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Just a little follow up on what happened with my BF. I work at a public health clinic and he came in here today to take me to lunch and get tested for every STD known to man - I also have to thank my coworker later for the tetanus and hep A/B shots she threw in. He still swears nothing ever happened. He still s...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, have just had distressing news in relation to employment, there is an embargo on replacing summer staff so I usually do this work but will unallowed to do so because of new rules apparently. I was gracious about same when told and am putting it into hps hands. I had to then tell my son that I would...

chezza · chezza

I thought I'd come on the board and share my experience tonight. I have been attending al-anon since september last year. I joined on the basis of me living with an a/bf for 10 years. Last week I realised that in actual fact my father is and a. Can any of you guys relate to not knowing this then finally re...

needaway · needaway

Hi everybody, Im quite new to this whole forum thing, never mind Alanon. just wanted to say hello. I hope this is the right place. I have been lurking for a few days now, and already have gained some hope from the wisdom and stories people have been providing, so thank you. I wouldn't know where to star...

Inpain · Inpain

First, I'd like to thank everyone here who has helped give acceptance and support. I am understanding I am not alone in all my thoughts, and it is much appreciated. I am always nervous to post here because I never know if it's the "right" thing to say, but I realize, maybe everyone here thin...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs, ugg... I just hung up with my A hubby. Today is his first day offshore and he works nights. His normal routine is wake up about 3pm, get moving and get working at 5pm. Well, he normally calls me everyday at 4ish. It's anxeity everyday. If he is going to call or no call. If he calls every...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok so I was sitting here trying to figure out WHY I could not get my thoughts wrapped around the 12 steps, I mean when I read them I understand "What" they mean, but in my head, the connection was not there...So I started playing around and I think i found it... Now I am NOT TELLING ANYONE to do thi...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

So much has been going on lately and there has just been so little time for me to come and post. I've missed it, and my MIP family so very much:) So much going on in all your lives. My mother has been ill, worse than I have seen her in years and that has been a lot to deal with. I don't know HP's plan for her but...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok all... This is my attemp at writting a poem... Feel free to share your thoughts for, I have no clue as to how it really sounds to some one else... Funny I am nervous as can be :) Let'n Go & Let'n God & Al-anon :) P.S. I had always called my Father "Daddy-O" Kisses all... My Daddy-O in Hea...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

Storm is over and I am thinking.....NO!!! I am not gonna let the #$%$#$% win!!!!! I am gonna take the self critic/sabateur to the "court of recovery" and make her PROVE to me that i am stupid, dumb, mess up, etc.......I am gonna put this stinking self critic on the stand in the "court of...

Suzannah · Suzannah

How can this be. In a matter of hours all is lost. It's only a matter of time...such a shock...they have taken away all that was keeping her alive away. Thank you everyone for your prayers, I feel so blessed and hugged by your prayers, and I am sure that my darling friend feels the same, such is the peace th...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

I think Canadian guy was wondering what happened to people who came here then disappeared. I expect most like myself have continued to read the posts and draw tremendous strength, but my grief and loss are less harsh after 5 months, still have bad days which i work to overcome, I managed to get through o...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((Friends)))))), Yesterday I was coming home, my son was on his dirt bike, he passed me and turned around so he could get some cash. The the worst thing ever happened........He wrecked on his bike, I was so afraid my knees were actually knocking.....He hit the pavement so hard and rolled back......

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I go to meets...Work the steps....co-sponsor work and I STILL "get on me" for the dumbest things Today, I am at Wal-Mart...I get some stuff, spent more then I wanted the bill came to $75 and change I stuffed the receipt in my bag...and I am driving home and I just "know" (wrongly)...

silver brumby · silver brumby

Ello fellow cybalanons! I have not been able to post anything here as I can't get my head around where I am!! L O L! Trying to get a perspective on my life without the AH living with me at the moment. There is an element of limbo, like (what's going to happen to me?) But yeah, definately the pictures getting...

Codependent · Codependent

Well, I have been plugging along do quite well with detaching from the A- with a slip here or there. I have been seeing a therapist. While I still drink occasionally, I am learning to recognize my triggers, etc, and not go to excess. What is coming up now is my true insecurity. I have met a man that I kne...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Please, please, please. I know the power of prayer, of united prayer, of prayer from the heart and from others in support. I am asking you to stop for just a minute of your day and offer up a prayer for my very dear friend. She is this minute being taken into Intensive Care...kidney failure...not good. ...

clara · clara

First things first; daughter is doing the same. Her vision is no better, and better news, no worse. She will see the specialist Wednesday. Anyway, she calls me this afternoon. I was at my al-anon meeting, which i needed badly. Hubby answerd the phone and told her where I was at. Her brightlent sta...

GlitterGirl · GlitterGirl

These are some reasons I held very close for not participating in al-anon in the past... and these are some of my fears that have surfaced over the last 7-10 days since I joined. Please be gentle with me... I'm not saying that this is *true* -- but these were my truths... for a long time. And these are my f...

atomic · atomic

I'm going to make this as short as possible but I'm guessing that's not going to mean much. I kicked my husband out of the house last week. He's a black-out drunk and an egomaniac. I've been so incredibly angry for four years, pretty much since the day our first daughter was born. I've spent those year...

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	not making it a catastrophe (Preview) My sponsor suggests keeping positive thoughts at the front. As someone who has been stuck in a negative spiral for so long I can find that a daunting prospect. I had some crazy idea that people who seemed happy just were incredibly lucky and everything fell in their lap. Now I see it is intense work to k...	maresie	2	775	Jun 16, 2009 by hotrod
	My ex ah... (Preview) My ex AH has been living in an oxford house since getting out of prison in March. We have been communicating well, he was paying support, working, seeing the kids every weekend, etc. He moved out of the house last week. I'm not sure of the real reason why - claimed it was because he wants to see his kids m...	carolinagirl	26	1100	Jun 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	Does anyone ever "get there"? (Preview) I realize that this is a journey and its going to be a looooong one, a life long one and I've spent hours today reading this board and learning soooo much and I'm thankful for every single letter, word, sentence and post that you all have taken your time to write and to help others! I am wondering if there a...	amylynn67	16	581	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	desperately seeking help/advice, anything (Preview) Hello all, I've been searching for a board like this and just found it tonight. My story is long and probably a little odd so I'll try to keep it short. Last June 4, 2008 I married my high school sweetheart after being apart for 20 years. I would have married him then but he drank all the time and I was afrai...	amylynn67	11	517	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	What STEP(s) are you working today??? (Preview) For me it is the first THREE steps... Step one----books says admitted i was powerless over the affects of xxxxxxxxx (alcohol or whatever it is that you are struggling with, i.e., food, drugs, et al)....and that my life had become unmanageable***.....Rosie says......I am powerless over this j...	rosielightshines	10	768	Jun 16, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Surprised by the anger I am feeling... (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) Some of you will know by now that I am very slow to anger, even quicker to forgive and not aggressive though I am assertive. I know enough of myself to be able to say that about myself. However, what is strange to me is that I cannot even begin to tell you how angry I am fee...	Suzannah	7	444	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	checking for ticks? (Preview) Hey MIP family, thought I would fill you in on my progress with divorce. My husband keeps trying to "reel" me back into the relationship, and I'll have to admit on a couple of occasions it has worked. Detaching from someone you've spent 4 years of your life with is hard. After telling him I was...	java	10	700	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	boyfriend just left to get high (Preview) here i sit he asked for a ride from me and i said no so he took his truck with very little gas he tried calling his connection but got no answer - decided to drive over there and look for his dealer	florida	8	855	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	update on all (Preview) Dear all, Some time ago I posted about the father A's desire to get me to get him on my insurance as a named driver. I refused and explained to him why it would not be good for me. He is still annoyed, despite the fact that he has got insurance now in his own name, owns his own car and is legal. I am proud that I sto...	maire rua	4	708	Jun 16, 2009 by rosielightshines
	spilling it,long soap opera, potter style (Preview) Called to talk to AH who lives with this female who is old and in her day was not known for being a nice,clean, person. Meaning she was a free love kinda gal. He was not there so we talked. Got an earful from the start. She says,"I wish he would go to rehab or jail." He is breaking everything and d...	debilyn	3	575	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	and THIS is why I NEED a sponsor... (Preview) Yesterday I phoned my sponsor. I was at my aH (really at myself) for having got sucked into the emotional games. And I was feeling a little vindictive. A few days before he had invited me and our son to his place for a family gathering he was hosting. I told him that it would be inappropriate for me to go...	Rora	8	798	Jun 16, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Working the Steps- A USER'S GUIDE (Preview) Hmm.. I DON'T have a 'User's Guide' but am finding my perfectionism bleeding through to my recovery. I've been struggling alot lately with working the steps ENOUGH. Granted, I just recently got a new sponsor that I had needed for quite sometime and started working on Step One in the Path's to Recovery...	RunnerChick	5	905	Jun 16, 2009 by maire rua
	Thank heaven I can come here and "let it all hang out" (Preview) hey all Thanks for the loving support re: my job and my other stuff...What would I do w/out my recovery family????? I have noticed something...I am having a REAL hard time, staying in my body...staying focused and keeping my scrambling thoughts CALM and in the NOW....in otherwords I cannot RELAX....	rosielightshines	14	790	Jun 15, 2009 by Temple
	If you want to have a "signature" thingy on your posts (Preview) Hey you all if you want to have a "signature" thingy always on your posts.....you go into your name. like when your on the page, look up and right and you see yourself or click onyour name anywhere on site and you see on the left "signature".....click on it and type whatever you wa...	rosielightshines	2	391	Jun 15, 2009 by debilyn
	Editing your own posts (Preview) Hi... just heard from John, and though nothing intentionally was changed, it appears that the "edit post" function works, by way of the drop down arrow in the upper right hand corner of your posts.... Take care Tom	canadianguy	2	800	Jun 15, 2009 by debilyn
	Why? Why? Why? (Preview) Hello All, First time poster. This is a wonderful site I just found . . . and need. My A wife has been heavily drinking for 4 years. She just returned from rehab in Ca. after 30 days. She returned a different person, and not for the better. She is still drinking and I have a very strong suspicion that she...	GL44	12	876	Jun 15, 2009 by Jerry F
	what am I doing for me today??? (Preview) TODAY i went garage saling and got some toys for the dogs and a good book for me i cleaned up my house and did the wash i am getting my resume out so i can leave this control freak job i am eating more alkyline foods to help my inflamations in wrists and help my back i will soak in the tub tonight w/candles and jus...	rosielightshines	8	684	Jun 15, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	what slogan are U working today???? (Preview) the slogan for me today is KEEP IT SIMPLE i have a bully boss...i have been complicating this issue by obsessing and doing too much thinking about it i am going to keep it simple by keeping my boundaries....look for another PT job and just do the basics....and stop letting it get to me... also the other sl...	rosielightshines	8	717	Jun 15, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Out of the mouth of babes.... (Preview) (((Family)), I was talking to my older niece the other day about how I suddenly had fleas in the house. How could this be since I give Pipers her fleas meds every month? I asked her if Mommy and Daddy give their dog fleas meds every month. She said no. Well that would explain the fleas in my house since m...	Karilynn	3	603	Jun 15, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	What is WITHIN my bounaries??? What is NOT??? (Preview) I believe this should have been asked of me in private....I get enough "PM's" so I know that function on this site is working....I feel very embarrassed by being ASKED this ??? on my THREAD... I deleted the post......It was a MIX....a book I read, Lord knows when, AND my take on it mixed in......	rosielightshines	5	649	Jun 15, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Just wanted y'all to know (Preview) A few things to tell you... First, the word has come from "up high on the food chain" that, because of my whistle blowing, my food bank has lost their VISTA privleges. This means that, until the legal issues are resolved, my position has been suspended indefinately. This is more of a loss f...	Tiger2006	8	700	Jun 15, 2009 by maresie
	So selfish (Preview) Yes, him, the AHsober that I have been separated from for four years. Being separated was his idea. I cope. He helps everyone else first. Feels guilty if he doesn't. He doesn't think of his family. We had been getting together as a family on the 4th of July. He calls and says he wants to golf out of the state...	nmike	7	802	Jun 15, 2009 by maresie
	being judgmental (Preview) I guess I'm just glad he's not an alcoholic/drug addict. He treats me like a princess. I have a hard time being judgmental of people and realize nobody is perfect and Mr. Saint is not out there in the world. I hope that he's telling me the truth and he didn't act on it and that it will never happen again. ...	carolinagirl	7	717	Jun 15, 2009 by maresie
	Advice and copyright law (Preview) Every once in awhile we all need to be reminded, ME TOO, to not copy others material on the message board. Especially things that are not approved. Also we are not to sell or use this medium as a place to advertise books for sale etc. I will be honest, I don't have a list of approved literature, and reall...	debilyn	10	856	Jun 15, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I'm doing good! (Preview) Just thought I would update everyone on my situation! For the most part I am doing pretty good actually. Much better than I thought I would be. I'm staying with my Amom and Abrother. Never thought I would stay here again, but I just take it ODAAT, and use the Alanon tools I have learned. My brothers gf also...	Melissa21	6	887	Jun 15, 2009 by blender_girl
	from my hosp bed (Preview) Hi, typing from my hosp bed va internet but unable to get into the chatroom just to let you all know where i am at, ill keep trying to get in and chat again. I was brought in with severe right kidney stone pain and being given pain meds and antibiotics through IV drip pain has subsided a lot thankfully, feve...	belle1	11	568	Jun 15, 2009 by blender_girl
	Codependant no more? (Preview) Dear (((All)) I really need to get this out and would be grateful for any ES&H. Some of you know my journey, I have for months now struggled with the ending of my relationship with my exbf. He is in early recovery after 25 years active addiction.During his rehab we decided to part. I accept he is unab...	Mariner	8	715	Jun 14, 2009 by Bella333
	So WHAT am I still doing there???? (Preview) I have back on steps 3 and 4....found some things about me that need rooting out and turning over..... I have been fearful about going in and telling bully boss....."I have had enough...This is not working for me, I am giving my notice..."....I am not trusting in HP enough to carry me as I set...	rosielightshines	9	783	Jun 14, 2009 by rosielightshines
	feeling so alone (Preview) It has been such a long time since I have visited this site, and even longer since I went to a face to face. My husband has been out of work for about 3 months. I have managed to cut extra expenses, on stuff that I enjoy, but that aren't nssasary, like getting my nails done, and sending the laundry out. I have b...	liliana	7	1097	Jun 13, 2009 by clara
	Insanity? need help (Preview) My AA husband moved out last Friday. This has been in the making for a few months. At first we were looking for a home together in my hometown. Then, it was looking for a home where we could have some time apart, but visit each other and my family, help my 83-year-old mom some, too. Now, that he's there, w...	dickeybird	3	632	Jun 13, 2009 by debilyn
	Seeing with open eyes what HP wants me to see~FINALLY:) (Preview) It's funny how the whole time since EXABF and I split that all I could see was the reasons we should be together. Now, especially now, after seeing him in Walmart and not being overrun by out of control, obsessing feelings I am seeing things so much clearer. When I called him out for not speaking to my son...	shellyj123	4	385	Jun 12, 2009 by nmike
	Miracles In Progress Story (Preview) Hi Fellow Travellers, My name is John, I have been clean and sober since 12-21-1989. Thanks to both AA and NA, 3 great sponsors (through out the course of my almost 20 years of recovery) and a God, who was absolutely of my misunderstanding when I first arrived in the rooms, I have not found it nescessar...	John	15	779	Jun 12, 2009 by Jean4444
	need help here please (Preview) Hoping it is not just me. Can anyone else write a post and edit it? My posts all have this thing that says reply then a thing ya pull down to edit ect but won't work???	debilyn	5	843	Jun 12, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I reacted...ughh (Preview) Hello and Hugs, Well, today I reacted. Something I have been doing very well avoiding. I get home from work and hubby is not home. (thats unusual sober,,,drinking..not so unusual). I call him. No answer. again, unusual sober, not so unusual drinking. Call again, no answer. OH WELL, that's i...	Sincerely	4	712	Jun 12, 2009 by xter
	EXABF WANTS TO MEET TO TALK~ADVISE!!! (Preview) I need everyones advise on this. I have been apart from my EXABF for 2 months. It did not end pretty at all. He lived with me and my 2 children for 6 months. I was hard dealing with all his drinking, binges, anger. When he had to leave it was not pretty. One big problem is that I work with him at the same co...	Barbarajo05	10	379	Jun 12, 2009 by kitty
	Don't know what to tell daughter anymore!!!! (Preview) Daughter's divorce will be final in just a few weeks; probably 2 weeks. She keeps calling me, telling me how much she loves her husband and cannot believe he is divorcing her. She is the one who had a stroke and is left mostly blind in her left eye. She should be concentrating on her health and not why t...	clara	7	711	Jun 12, 2009 by Jozie
	In loving memory of MY best friend--5 year anniversary (Preview) 5 years ago tomorrow, my dear and best friend Ms. Pamela Kay Fletcher left this world for her eternal rest... She was my best friend and was dying of cancer...they "termed" her on May 15th, '04 in that docs were giving her drugs to make her comfortable and thats IT!!! I told her i would stand by...	rosielightshines	5	723	Jun 12, 2009 by clara
	Thankfully it's all over... H A L T (Preview) ...two nights solid vigil too has utterly drained me. I feel numb, sick, utterly drained and empty. Thank you, for ALL your prayers. I am going to bed now...	Suzannah	7	866	Jun 12, 2009 by Karilynn
	test (Preview) ignore trying to figure out something.	debilyn	1	370	Jun 12, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	The greatest enemy of individual freedom (Preview) The greatest enemy of individual freedom is the individual himself. Saul Alinsky said that, and he was right. In almost every case, nothing is stopping you, nothing is holding you back but your own thoughts about yourself and about "how life is." Your personal freedom to experience y...	Christy	2	321	Jun 12, 2009 by JaneG
	Update (Preview) Just a little follow up on what happened with my BF. I work at a public health clinic and he came in here today to take me to lunch and get tested for every STD known to man - I also have to thank my coworker later for the tetanus and hep A/B shots she threw in. He still swears nothing ever happened. He still s...	carolinagirl	7	706	Jun 11, 2009 by maresie
	Upsetting news in relation to employment (Preview) Dear all, have just had distressing news in relation to employment, there is an embargo on replacing summer staff so I usually do this work but will unallowed to do so because of new rules apparently. I was gracious about same when told and am putting it into hps hands. I had to then tell my son that I would...	maire rua	6	801	Jun 11, 2009 by clara
	I am an adult child (Preview) I thought I'd come on the board and share my experience tonight. I have been attending al-anon since september last year. I joined on the basis of me living with an a/bf for 10 years. Last week I realised that in actual fact my father is and a. Can any of you guys relate to not knowing this then finally re...	chezza	7	730	Jun 11, 2009 by maresie
	Newcomer here (Preview) Hi everybody, Im quite new to this whole forum thing, never mind Alanon. just wanted to say hello. I hope this is the right place. I have been lurking for a few days now, and already have gained some hope from the wisdom and stories people have been providing, so thank you. I wouldn't know where to star...	needaway	3	571	Jun 11, 2009 by wildthang86
	I've turned into my mother.... (Preview) First, I'd like to thank everyone here who has helped give acceptance and support. I am understanding I am not alone in all my thoughts, and it is much appreciated. I am always nervous to post here because I never know if it's the "right" thing to say, but I realize, maybe everyone here thin...	Inpain	1	341	Jun 11, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I hate talking on the phone to my A hubby (Preview) Hello and Hugs, ugg... I just hung up with my A hubby. Today is his first day offshore and he works nights. His normal routine is wake up about 3pm, get moving and get working at 5pm. Well, he normally calls me everyday at 4ish. It's anxeity everyday. If he is going to call or no call. If he calls every...	Sincerely	2	1014	Jun 11, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Ummm Just Think'n........ (Preview) Ok so I was sitting here trying to figure out WHY I could not get my thoughts wrapped around the 12 steps, I mean when I read them I understand "What" they mean, but in my head, the connection was not there...So I started playing around and I think i found it... Now I am NOT TELLING ANYONE to do thi...	Jozie	2	430	Jun 11, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Thoughts, ponderings and what nots......sorry it's been so long.... (Preview) So much has been going on lately and there has just been so little time for me to come and post. I've missed it, and my MIP family so very much:) So much going on in all your lives. My mother has been ill, worse than I have seen her in years and that has been a lot to deal with. I don't know HP's plan for her but...	shellyj123	3	657	Jun 11, 2009 by rosielightshines
	My Daddy-O in Heaven (Preview) Ok all... This is my attemp at writting a poem... Feel free to share your thoughts for, I have no clue as to how it really sounds to some one else... Funny I am nervous as can be :) Let'n Go & Let'n God & Al-anon :) P.S. I had always called my Father "Daddy-O" Kisses all... My Daddy-O in Hea...	Jozie	9	916	Jun 11, 2009 by Jozie
	time for the SOLUTION (Preview) Storm is over and I am thinking.....NO!!! I am not gonna let the #$%$#$% win!!!!! I am gonna take the self critic/sabateur to the "court of recovery" and make her PROVE to me that i am stupid, dumb, mess up, etc.......I am gonna put this stinking self critic on the stand in the "court of...	rosielightshines	3	516	Jun 11, 2009 by Jozie
	All life support taken away... (Preview) How can this be. In a matter of hours all is lost. It's only a matter of time...such a shock...they have taken away all that was keeping her alive away. Thank you everyone for your prayers, I feel so blessed and hugged by your prayers, and I am sure that my darling friend feels the same, such is the peace th...	Suzannah	13	1215	Jun 11, 2009 by shellyj123
	Still here... (Preview) I think Canadian guy was wondering what happened to people who came here then disappeared. I expect most like myself have continued to read the posts and draw tremendous strength, but my grief and loss are less harsh after 5 months, still have bad days which i work to overcome, I managed to get through o...	Lilly Burn	8	667	Jun 11, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	The Scare of My Life (Preview) ((((((Friends)))))), Yesterday I was coming home, my son was on his dirt bike, he passed me and turned around so he could get some cash. The the worst thing ever happened........He wrecked on his bike, I was so afraid my knees were actually knocking.....He hit the pavement so hard and rolled back......	Andrea12	15	889	Jun 11, 2009 by Karilynn
	arrgh, I wish I could just SHOOT this self critic (Preview) I go to meets...Work the steps....co-sponsor work and I STILL "get on me" for the dumbest things Today, I am at Wal-Mart...I get some stuff, spent more then I wanted the bill came to $75 and change I stuffed the receipt in my bag...and I am driving home and I just "know" (wrongly)...	rosielightshines	8	808	Jun 11, 2009 by Christy
	about time I posted! (Preview) Ello fellow cybalanons! I have not been able to post anything here as I can't get my head around where I am!! L O L! Trying to get a perspective on my life without the AH living with me at the moment. There is an element of limbo, like (what's going to happen to me?) But yeah, definately the pictures getting...	silver brumby	3	614	Jun 10, 2009 by nmike
	Dating.... (Preview) Well, I have been plugging along do quite well with detaching from the A- with a slip here or there. I have been seeing a therapist. While I still drink occasionally, I am learning to recognize my triggers, etc, and not go to excess. What is coming up now is my true insecurity. I have met a man that I kne...	Codependent	6	805	Jun 10, 2009 by Jean4444
	Prayers as my friend is taken into Intensive Care right this minute (Preview) Please, please, please. I know the power of prayer, of united prayer, of prayer from the heart and from others in support. I am asking you to stop for just a minute of your day and offer up a prayer for my very dear friend. She is this minute being taken into Intensive Care...kidney failure...not good. ...	Suzannah	9	863	Jun 10, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Daughter's input on my meetings!!!!!! (Preview) First things first; daughter is doing the same. Her vision is no better, and better news, no worse. She will see the specialist Wednesday. Anyway, she calls me this afternoon. I was at my al-anon meeting, which i needed badly. Hubby answerd the phone and told her where I was at. Her brightlent sta...	clara	8	3380	Jun 10, 2009 by kitty
	Resistance, Control, Letting Go, and why I don't need Al-Anon (Preview) These are some reasons I held very close for not participating in al-anon in the past... and these are some of my fears that have surfaced over the last 7-10 days since I joined. Please be gentle with me... I'm not saying that this is true -- but these were my truths... for a long time. And these are my f...	GlitterGirl	19	1802	Jun 10, 2009 by kitty
	WOW am I going to need a sponsor. (Preview) I'm going to make this as short as possible but I'm guessing that's not going to mean much. I kicked my husband out of the house last week. He's a black-out drunk and an egomaniac. I've been so incredibly angry for four years, pretty much since the day our first daughter was born. I've spent those year...	atomic	12	743	Jun 10, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
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