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java · java

Katy's topic heading triggered me to write this post. Isn't it funny how the program works. David's post triggered Katy's post which triggered mine! Anyway, the reason for this post is my A and I are back together at least at some level. I haven't filed for divorce and am not going to right now. Just fo...

jojo38 · jojo38

first of all i would like to say hello to everyone on here and this is my first post. my story goes like this, please be patient in reading as it may go on for a while. i was once in a long term relationship of 15 yrs with my ex from whom i have 2 beautiful grown up children, i have since moved out of that relations...

needaway · needaway

This is my first proper post. I need to vent As it is fathers day, I invited my AB up for a meal with me and our son. When I asked him to come up, he said as long as we can eat at 1pm. I said it would probably be nearer 2pm as my mother would be going to church and 1pm would be too early for her. He said fine as long as he...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs All, It truely amazes me how there is no escaping addiction. Everyone connected to my A hubby is some sort of addict. Today, going to take care of me, I hit a detor. My hubby was at the lumber yard getting supplies to repair our fence. His little brother called him and asked to come over....

xter · xter

since i've started reading and posting here, i've been humbled and moved quite a bit. i am grateful to each of you for being open and honest and caring. each day, i learn something new about this disease and how it's affected me. each day i have to give something new up to HP (a concept i'm still trying t...

RLC · RLC

Happy Fathers Day to all the fathers of MIP, and all the mothers who serve both roles. I can relate to serving both roles, as I was a Mr. Mom from the time my daughter was 12 and and son 8. I used to kid and say I ran my business all day, came home took off my pants, put on my panties and was Mr. Mom. But, I would n...

Rachel262612 · Rachel262612

hello everyone, it is great to see that I am not alone, long story short, I am married to a wonderul man who loves me more than life itself, but he is a functioning alcoholic, for eight years, it is always one drunk night to the next, the promises, the I will get help lines, the begging and pleading for m...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO ALL THE WONDERFUL FATHERS OUT THERE. PLEASE GIVE YOUR KIDS AN EXTRA HUG TODAY!!!!!!!!!!! HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY... ANDREA

Lanchas · Lanchas

It's stupid! I went to do laundry today and there was a small bottle of vodka and two flight bottles of flavored vodka. I took them out and put them in a bag nearby. I found out later that my dad took them out of my mom's purse and hid them there! It's stupid. My mom hides her drinking and my dad (who is also an al...

holdhands · holdhands

Tonight, for the first time, I started reading "How Al-Anon Works: for Families & Friends of Alcoholics". My grandmother sent it to me years ago and has been gently urging me ever since to give it a try. It wasn't until now, in a fit of heaving sobs, that I did. I started reading and on sixt...

amylynn67 · amylynn67

I realize that this board if for support and not to give direct advice but i would appreciated some direction on some specific situations while I learn.... ADH has as 20+ history drinking and been "sober" for 3 years (with about 5 one night slips during that time). We dated as teenagers an...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))) Tomorrow is Father's Day here in the States. I won't have the chance to post this tomorrow so I am getting a jump on it today. May I extend a very HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all the Dads and Grandpas here. To the Moms who also have to play the role of father this also extends to...

Overcome · Overcome

I have been in this forum since 2004 and have always been known as Java, because of a mistake on my part when signing up on the message board. When asked what my user name was, I confused that with "server name" and put Java! lol I never could figure out how to change it so it's always been Java in h...

Rora · Rora

I can't believe it... I am learning! I used to be so obsessed with my aH, so much so, that it really didn't matter if he was making good choices, or not so good (by my moral and ethical code) that I could always find a problem in laying somewhere. I was "insane" with that. I am learning. And I am g...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

In the last week I have found moments of serenity which I haven't really had much lately! I have been stressing out of everything up until the last few days. My life is still crazy, though. In the past two months my husband has been dealing with the loss of his brother as I mentioned before. Right now we...

Mariner · Mariner

Dear (((All))) Firstly I want to give you all a great big ((())) of thanks. Thank you all for being there for me, for your wonderful es&h to my recent posts and to all who post here. I have been in a real low the past couple of weeks and I'm sorry that I have not been able to respond to others, I just felt I...

Lorilynn · Lorilynn

I have been married for 14 years...have 3 children...HAD a wonderful..successful business. My husband has always been a drinker. I met him in a bar. I guess I thought I could tame the beast.... He is verbally abusive, violent and has a pattern of blaming everythng on me. The past 6months have been dev...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Well, first of all my son had a terrible motor cycle accident...It was horrific, I watched him wreck that bike, thank God he had a helmet on. He is ok, just some major road rash....been on the sofa since it happened. As it gets closer to the anniversary of my husbands death, I seem to have m...

gngcrzy · gngcrzy

My SoberAfriend clearly wants to resume our friendship that I broke of at Christmas. He's being a sweetheart and isn't pushy but I just cannot be around him. His craziness is better but not good and the base problems are still there and I get triggered over the smallest things he says or does. I feel lik...

Lucidgirl · Lucidgirl

Hi Everyone, My name is Sarah. I'm new to this site and let me tell you, just reading the posts here have given me strength. Sometimes I feel bad because my situation isn't nearly as bad as some of yours. But none the less, its still been very difficult for me. I've never dealt with an alcoholic before. I me...

ThisIsBlythe · ThisIsBlythe

Hello Friends, My A is starting a long summer vacation and, rather than stress about the misery and drama possibly coming my way due to such close proximity, I have decided to relax and try to get my mind off of my stress with a little comic relief. My apologies go out to the "double winners" ou...

belle1 · belle1

I'd like to say many many thanks to everyone who sent a get well wish during my recent stay in hosp, it was very nice to read and know so many cared. Am home now and doing much better follwing drs orders, it seemed i had picked up a very bad infection as well as a kidney stone and with having polycystic kidn...

Bella · Bella

What are your thoughts on dating in early recovery...early meaning, 3 months, a sponsor, 3 or 4 meetings a week and per my sponsor "nailed step one (the only one you need to get perfect), passed step two and I am now on 3. Admittedly, I am having more issues with 3 then I did with 1 or 2 (I think it is the...

xter · xter

yup. i was vigorously shaking my head today at some of the things he was saying (namely that he hasn't had contact with That Woman who "opened his eyes to AA" after i asked him not to. i know he has. i lowered myself to breaking into his phone usage online.) i have become someone who snoops an...

Temple · Temple

As they say on the God channel. I'm new. have been lurking a few weeks, posting a few days, haven't told my story yet, will break it down into dribs and drabs cause this has been going on a long time and anybody trying to read it in one sitting would go blind. Thanks to your inspiration and nudging--even wh...

ThisIsBlythe · ThisIsBlythe

For the first time... I let a family member in on what life is really like at my house. There is no addiction in my family of origin, and my siblings all married "well" in that they have stuck with their spouses and pretty much have stable happy marriages. Not perfect, but not full of abuse an...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Gee family, Rosie and tlc and wildthing, you are so right, I am so good at beating myself up...still an area that I need to work on. Progress not perfection is what matters. I hear you. I am so very human and David you are right too, I made a comment, I spoke the truth, I got to the point of being sick of the...

oran · oran

HI. Im new to this so not sure where to start. I've been in a relationship with an alcoholic ex-cocaine addict for three years now. He was a drug addict for 10 years and decided 2 years ago that enough was enough and gave up. He has been clean ever since. He has always been a drinker but things were just...

florida · florida

out there smoking again - every time he does i wake up and stay awake till he returns but when i get up early for the gym im quiet, no lights on, etc

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

Ive just read something about the excuses A's make, and one bit really got me. I'd be OK if it weren't for you! My AH said so many things about me for months and months when he was out, I knew nothing of it and would walk into a social situation thinking there was my husband, my loyal husband, who would have ju...

abbyal · abbyal

Yesterday I lost a dear Al-Anon friend , he was 55 yrs old he had been in program for 7 yrs , he was so grateful for his sons addiction as it led him to our program and changed his life . He was truly an enthusiatic , grateful member of Al-Anon . I sit and think of him today and am filled with gratitude that i fou...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs, I am having a hard time today. I can just cry. It just can't be GODs plan for me to be married to an alcholic and not have any children. My doctor suggested he and I do invetro to concieve a child. Great...Just Great! It's his self inflected fertility issue. My problem. I'm tired and...

Suzannah · Suzannah

How do I do it? Why do I not learn? Cannot do right for doing wrong? I walk into the spider's web all the time, and by the time I realise it I cannot get out of it. My friend's mother died lost Thursday. The mother was only a couple of years older than me and we were friends too. She often told me that she though...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Friends, I feel as if this proclamation is as significant as announcing a marriage or pregnancy. Well, actually, for me it is. In one week I will be in Maui. I am going with a good friend and her mother. And, here is the good, incredibly amazing, and proof-this-program-is-a-miracle part....... ...

Katy · Katy

Well avoiding communicating your real feelings to an A is somthing I am guilty of, when I try it's met with, well you did this or you did that, thier back goes up and you close down, your dealing with someone that can't, won't, doesn't understand normal, so today this morning I said to my husband your beha...

timbotim · timbotim

My girlfriend of a year completed outpatient treatment for her prescription and marijuana abuse. It came to a head when I found I was missing adderol. She went into treatment when we got back from our vacation. She was fine during the treatment, (only one fallout), but since then, she's not taken adva...

Mik · Mik

I have been married to an alcoholic for 22 years. Our marriage hasn't been a real marriage is several years. The verbal abuse has been terrible and it has been so hard not to take it personally. My husband left in the middle of the night about 3 weeks ago. Won't tell me where he is staying, just that it's wit...

Katy · Katy

Davids mowing post has triggered me to write this, as I have been really struggling this past few weeks, and wondering why after nearly three years of my husbands sobriety I seem to have hit a really down time, I thought I was never going to feel this way again, and I think it's when I fall back into old habi...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Ohana (family)!! Sitting back relaxing and getting caught up in our recovery. Nothing better to do. I was acting out today (not in the old crazy way) in a way I was taught by a former sponsor. I use to do the Serenity Prayer literally doing all the definition of what and could and could not change...

xter · xter

due to some crazy scheduling, i haven't been to a f2f in over a week and i won't be able to until saturday morning. but part of me wonders WHY i should go. please, remind me? my AH and i are over. he JUST got into AA (11 days sober) and told me last night that he can't promise he can even try to work on our marri...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone! I woke up Saturday morning feeling a little under the weather. It was one of those days where I could have just stayed in bed. I managed to pull myself out of bed and headed into work and got there on time. I wasn't even there one hour before it hit me. The stomach virus! UGHHH.... I cam...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I am GRATEFUL for: my bills are paid and my needs met my body is in decent shape that my left leg is hurting NOT from something bad, but just my back spasms AND i think i am onto a new way of eating to help my inflamations in wrist and back spasms.....got a great book about new ways of eating i am grateful that to...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

During stressful periods it can be tempting to skip a meal, push ourselves until we are totally exhausted, and generally ignore our basic needs. In the midst of crisis, taking time out for an Al-Anon meet, a call to a sponsor, or a breath of fresh air may seem like a waste of all too precious moments. The...

Holly09 · Holly09

I have been with my A boyfriend for 7 yrs now. We have 2 boys 5 yrs and 1 yr and I have a 14 yr old boy from a prior marriage. To make a long story short my A thinks that just because he financially supports us he doesn't beat us (never done) or act like a raving lunatic (which he has done on occasion with me) that...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Try not to laugh too hard when you read this! I did it! I succumbed to putting myself on Twitter. I thought it might be a fun way to communicate with my friends. If anyone here is on Twitter and would like my screen name just PM please. Now my niece can't tell me that I'm not "with...

clara · clara

My daughter went to divorce court today for the finalization of the divorce. She went without an attorney to represent her. She gets $1,000.00 a month for a year. Plus she said she gets to keep her medical coverage. I really think she told me that so I would not go off and have a fit of some sort. Her ex...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I always get annoyed when Mom is drunk tho it's useless to feel that way since it doesn't change anything and just ruins things for me...... it's an automatic reaction tho. i'm 22. i should just suck it up and deal w/it not constantly complain about it. it'd be like complaining about it raining when it do...

ThisIsBlythe · ThisIsBlythe

Hello Dear Friend, I just wanted to thank you for always taking so much time to answer so many people's posts with such loving kindness and generosity in sharing your ESH. I have gotten SO much out of your posts! Your journey to recovery has been amazing, and I want to thank you for sharing it with us and s...

BK11 · BK11

After reading many posts, I do realize I have been trying to change my gf's drinking for nearly 7 years. She did quit for about a year when I said Alcohol or me, but eventually came back saying that she will no longer take an ultimatum. That I was trying to change who she was. That is her answer for everyt...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

My disease is powerful. It's symptoms can return at any moment. My Abf has been back up North with his family working on a project. I have had an abstract fear that he may have gotten involved again with some of his "Friends" that he once used drugs and drank with. I have that itchy feeling that...

maresie · maresie

My sponsor suggests keeping positive thoughts at the front. As someone who has been stuck in a negative spiral for so long I can find that a daunting prospect. I had some crazy idea that people who seemed happy just were incredibly lucky and everything fell in their lap. Now I see it is intense work to k...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My ex AH has been living in an oxford house since getting out of prison in March. We have been communicating well, he was paying support, working, seeing the kids every weekend, etc. He moved out of the house last week. I'm not sure of the real reason why - claimed it was because he wants to see his kids m...

amylynn67 · amylynn67

I realize that this is a journey and its going to be a looooong one, a life long one and I've spent hours today reading this board and learning soooo much and I'm thankful for every single letter, word, sentence and post that you all have taken your time to write and to help others! I am wondering if there a...

amylynn67 · amylynn67

Hello all, I've been searching for a board like this and just found it tonight. My story is long and probably a little odd so I'll try to keep it short. Last June 4, 2008 I married my high school sweetheart after being apart for 20 years. I would have married him then but he drank all the time and I was afrai...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

For me it is the first THREE steps... Step one----books says ** admitted i was powerless over the affects of xxxxxxxxx (alcohol or whatever it is that you are struggling with, i.e., food, drugs, et al)....and that my life had become unmanageable*****.....Rosie says......I am powerless over this j...

Suzannah · Suzannah

(((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) Some of you will know by now that I am very slow to anger, even quicker to forgive and not aggressive though I am assertive. I know enough of myself to be able to say that about myself. However, what is strange to me is that I cannot even begin to tell you how angry I am fee...

java · java

Hey MIP family, thought I would fill you in on my progress with divorce. My husband keeps trying to "reel" me back into the relationship, and I'll have to admit on a couple of occasions it has worked. Detaching from someone you've spent 4 years of your life with is hard. After telling him I was...

florida · florida

here i sit he asked for a ride from me and i said no so he took his truck with very little gas he tried calling his connection but got no answer - decided to drive over there and look for his dealer

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, Some time ago I posted about the father A's desire to get me to get him on my insurance as a named driver. I refused and explained to him why it would not be good for me. He is still annoyed, despite the fact that he has got insurance now in his own name, owns his own car and is legal. I am proud that I sto...

debilyn · debilyn

Called to talk to AH who lives with this female who is old and in her day was not known for being a nice,clean, person. Meaning she was a free love kinda gal. He was not there so we talked. Got an earful from the start. She says,"I wish he would go to rehab or jail." He is breaking everything and d...

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	Doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results! (Preview) Katy's topic heading triggered me to write this post. Isn't it funny how the program works. David's post triggered Katy's post which triggered mine! Anyway, the reason for this post is my A and I are back together at least at some level. I haven't filed for divorce and am not going to right now. Just fo...	java	7	3194	Jun 21, 2009 by maresie
	would like some advice please on my next step (Preview) first of all i would like to say hello to everyone on here and this is my first post. my story goes like this, please be patient in reading as it may go on for a while. i was once in a long term relationship of 15 yrs with my ex from whom i have 2 beautiful grown up children, i have since moved out of that relations...	jojo38	5	835	Jun 21, 2009 by kitty
	The Insanity of it all (Preview) This is my first proper post. I need to vent As it is fathers day, I invited my AB up for a meal with me and our son. When I asked him to come up, he said as long as we can eat at 1pm. I said it would probably be nearer 2pm as my mother would be going to church and 1pm would be too early for her. He said fine as long as he...	needaway	4	931	Jun 21, 2009 by Temple
	There's No Escaping It (Preview) Hello and Hugs All, It truely amazes me how there is no escaping addiction. Everyone connected to my A hubby is some sort of addict. Today, going to take care of me, I hit a detor. My hubby was at the lumber yard getting supplies to repair our fence. His little brother called him and asked to come over....	Sincerely	5	775	Jun 21, 2009 by Sincerely
	humbled and terrified daily (Preview) since i've started reading and posting here, i've been humbled and moved quite a bit. i am grateful to each of you for being open and honest and caring. each day, i learn something new about this disease and how it's affected me. each day i have to give something new up to HP (a concept i'm still trying t...	xter	5	777	Jun 21, 2009 by JaneG
	My Fathers Day Thoughts - Plus Memories Of My Dad (Preview) Happy Fathers Day to all the fathers of MIP, and all the mothers who serve both roles. I can relate to serving both roles, as I was a Mr. Mom from the time my daughter was 12 and and son 8. I used to kid and say I ran my business all day, came home took off my pants, put on my panties and was Mr. Mom. But, I would n...	RLC	3	788	Jun 21, 2009 by needaway
	I need help (Preview) hello everyone, it is great to see that I am not alone, long story short, I am married to a wonderul man who loves me more than life itself, but he is a functioning alcoholic, for eight years, it is always one drunk night to the next, the promises, the I will get help lines, the begging and pleading for m...	Rachel262612	9	843	Jun 21, 2009 by kitty
	HAPPY FATHERS DAY (Preview) HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO ALL THE WONDERFUL FATHERS OUT THERE. PLEASE GIVE YOUR KIDS AN EXTRA HUG TODAY!!!!!!!!!!! HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY... ANDREA	Andrea12	0	482	Jun 21, 2009 by Andrea12
	"hiding" (Preview) It's stupid! I went to do laundry today and there was a small bottle of vodka and two flight bottles of flavored vodka. I took them out and put them in a bag nearby. I found out later that my dad took them out of my mom's purse and hid them there! It's stupid. My mom hides her drinking and my dad (who is also an al...	Lanchas	4	686	Jun 21, 2009 by blender_girl
	In need of support (Preview) Tonight, for the first time, I started reading "How Al-Anon Works: for Families & Friends of Alcoholics". My grandmother sent it to me years ago and has been gently urging me ever since to give it a try. It wasn't until now, in a fit of heaving sobs, that I did. I started reading and on sixt...	holdhands	8	436	Jun 20, 2009 by Bella333
	can I ask some "what would you do" questions? (Preview) I realize that this board if for support and not to give direct advice but i would appreciated some direction on some specific situations while I learn.... ADH has as 20+ history drinking and been "sober" for 3 years (with about 5 one night slips during that time). We dated as teenagers an...	amylynn67	12	747	Jun 20, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Happy Father's Day! (Preview) (((((((Family)))) Tomorrow is Father's Day here in the States. I won't have the chance to post this tomorrow so I am getting a jump on it today. May I extend a very HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all the Dads and Grandpas here. To the Moms who also have to play the role of father this also extends to...	Karilynn	3	434	Jun 20, 2009 by xter
	Java has now become Overcome (Preview) I have been in this forum since 2004 and have always been known as Java, because of a mistake on my part when signing up on the message board. When asked what my user name was, I confused that with "server name" and put Java! lol I never could figure out how to change it so it's always been Java in h...	Overcome	3	615	Jun 20, 2009 by Overcome
	It works if you work it.... (Preview) I can't believe it... I am learning! I used to be so obsessed with my aH, so much so, that it really didn't matter if he was making good choices, or not so good (by my moral and ethical code) that I could always find a problem in laying somewhere. I was "insane" with that. I am learning. And I am g...	Rora	7	1244	Jun 20, 2009 by xter
	Moments of Serenity! (Preview) In the last week I have found moments of serenity which I haven't really had much lately! I have been stressing out of everything up until the last few days. My life is still crazy, though. In the past two months my husband has been dealing with the loss of his brother as I mentioned before. Right now we...	Hoot Nanny	4	723	Jun 20, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Strength from nature and my HP (Preview) Dear (((All))) Firstly I want to give you all a great big ((())) of thanks. Thank you all for being there for me, for your wonderful es&h to my recent posts and to all who post here. I have been in a real low the past couple of weeks and I'm sorry that I have not been able to respond to others, I just felt I...	Mariner	3	673	Jun 20, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Alcoholic Husband..wont get help (Preview) I have been married for 14 years...have 3 children...HAD a wonderful..successful business. My husband has always been a drinker. I met him in a bar. I guess I thought I could tame the beast.... He is verbally abusive, violent and has a pattern of blaming everythng on me. The past 6months have been dev...	Lorilynn	13	1910	Jun 20, 2009 by Lorilynn
	It takes Too Much (Preview) Hello Friends, Well, first of all my son had a terrible motor cycle accident...It was horrific, I watched him wreck that bike, thank God he had a helmet on. He is ok, just some major road rash....been on the sofa since it happened. As it gets closer to the anniversary of my husbands death, I seem to have m...	Andrea12	8	636	Jun 20, 2009 by Karilynn
	Speaking of being honest... (Preview) My SoberAfriend clearly wants to resume our friendship that I broke of at Christmas. He's being a sweetheart and isn't pushy but I just cannot be around him. His craziness is better but not good and the base problems are still there and I get triggered over the smallest things he says or does. I feel lik...	gngcrzy	7	549	Jun 20, 2009 by gngcrzy
	I feel so alone (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Sarah. I'm new to this site and let me tell you, just reading the posts here have given me strength. Sometimes I feel bad because my situation isn't nearly as bad as some of yours. But none the less, its still been very difficult for me. I've never dealt with an alcoholic before. I me...	Lucidgirl	13	672	Jun 20, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Top Ten List...some comic relief (Preview) Hello Friends, My A is starting a long summer vacation and, rather than stress about the misery and drama possibly coming my way due to such close proximity, I have decided to relax and try to get my mind off of my stress with a little comic relief. My apologies go out to the "double winners" ou...	ThisIsBlythe	3	1018	Jun 19, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Many Many Thanks (Preview) I'd like to say many many thanks to everyone who sent a get well wish during my recent stay in hosp, it was very nice to read and know so many cared. Am home now and doing much better follwing drs orders, it seemed i had picked up a very bad infection as well as a kidney stone and with having polycystic kidn...	belle1	7	776	Jun 19, 2009 by wp
	Dating in early recovery??? (Preview) What are your thoughts on dating in early recovery...early meaning, 3 months, a sponsor, 3 or 4 meetings a week and per my sponsor "nailed step one (the only one you need to get perfect), passed step two and I am now on 3. Admittedly, I am having more issues with 3 then I did with 1 or 2 (I think it is the...	Bella	8	612	Jun 19, 2009 by rosielightshines
	making faces at the therapist when husband wasn't looking (Preview) yup. i was vigorously shaking my head today at some of the things he was saying (namely that he hasn't had contact with That Woman who "opened his eyes to AA" after i asked him not to. i know he has. i lowered myself to breaking into his phone usage online.) i have become someone who snoops an...	xter	9	637	Jun 19, 2009 by Jerry F
	"Praise Report" (Preview) As they say on the God channel. I'm new. have been lurking a few weeks, posting a few days, haven't told my story yet, will break it down into dribs and drabs cause this has been going on a long time and anybody trying to read it in one sitting would go blind. Thanks to your inspiration and nudging--even wh...	Temple	6	706	Jun 19, 2009 by Temple
	My first day telling the truth... (Preview) For the first time... I let a family member in on what life is really like at my house. There is no addiction in my family of origin, and my siblings all married "well" in that they have stuck with their spouses and pretty much have stable happy marriages. Not perfect, but not full of abuse an...	ThisIsBlythe	8	837	Jun 18, 2009 by blender_girl
	Just sat down and gave myself permission to grieve and let go of supporting anyone else for the next few hours at least. (Preview) Gee family, Rosie and tlc and wildthing, you are so right, I am so good at beating myself up...still an area that I need to work on. Progress not perfection is what matters. I hear you. I am so very human and David you are right too, I made a comment, I spoke the truth, I got to the point of being sick of the...	Suzannah	4	799	Jun 18, 2009 by Temple
	Help!! please (Preview) HI. Im new to this so not sure where to start. I've been in a relationship with an alcoholic ex-cocaine addict for three years now. He was a drug addict for 10 years and decided 2 years ago that enough was enough and gave up. He has been clean ever since. He has always been a drinker but things were just...	oran	6	560	Jun 18, 2009 by xter
	why do they need to keep the family awake in the middle of the night? (Preview) out there smoking again - every time he does i wake up and stay awake till he returns but when i get up early for the gym im quiet, no lights on, etc	florida	6	817	Jun 18, 2009 by amylynn67
	I'd be OK if it weren't for you! (Preview) Ive just read something about the excuses A's make, and one bit really got me. I'd be OK if it weren't for you! My AH said so many things about me for months and months when he was out, I knew nothing of it and would walk into a social situation thinking there was my husband, my loyal husband, who would have ju...	Lilly Burn	10	941	Jun 18, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	Not a good day . (Preview) Yesterday I lost a dear Al-Anon friend , he was 55 yrs old he had been in program for 7 yrs , he was so grateful for his sons addiction as it led him to our program and changed his life . He was truly an enthusiatic , grateful member of Al-Anon . I sit and think of him today and am filled with gratitude that i fou...	abbyal	19	979	Jun 18, 2009 by Andrea12
	I'm doubting alot today... (Preview) Hello and Hugs, I am having a hard time today. I can just cry. It just can't be GODs plan for me to be married to an alcholic and not have any children. My doctor suggested he and I do invetro to concieve a child. Great...Just Great! It's his self inflected fertility issue. My problem. I'm tired and...	Sincerely	5	821	Jun 18, 2009 by Jozie
	Screwed up again... (Preview) How do I do it? Why do I not learn? Cannot do right for doing wrong? I walk into the spider's web all the time, and by the time I realise it I cannot get out of it. My friend's mother died lost Thursday. The mother was only a couple of years older than me and we were friends too. She often told me that she though...	Suzannah	5	1010	Jun 18, 2009 by Jozie
	Alooooooohaaaa! (Preview) Friends, I feel as if this proclamation is as significant as announcing a marriage or pregnancy. Well, actually, for me it is. In one week I will be in Maui. I am going with a good friend and her mother. And, here is the good, incredibly amazing, and proof-this-program-is-a-miracle part....... ...	Loupiness	8	2389	Jun 18, 2009 by Temple
	Being really honest! (Preview) Well avoiding communicating your real feelings to an A is somthing I am guilty of, when I try it's met with, well you did this or you did that, thier back goes up and you close down, your dealing with someone that can't, won't, doesn't understand normal, so today this morning I said to my husband your beha...	Katy	5	568	Jun 18, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I'm angry, hurt and things have changed... (Preview) My girlfriend of a year completed outpatient treatment for her prescription and marijuana abuse. It came to a head when I found I was missing adderol. She went into treatment when we got back from our vacation. She was fine during the treatment, (only one fallout), but since then, she's not taken adva...	timbotim	9	851	Jun 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Help please (Preview) I have been married to an alcoholic for 22 years. Our marriage hasn't been a real marriage is several years. The verbal abuse has been terrible and it has been so hard not to take it personally. My husband left in the middle of the night about 3 weeks ago. Won't tell me where he is staying, just that it's wit...	Mik	13	919	Jun 17, 2009 by Mik
	Doing the same things over and over again, and expsecting different results! (Preview) Davids mowing post has triggered me to write this, as I have been really struggling this past few weeks, and wondering why after nearly three years of my husbands sobriety I seem to have hit a really down time, I thought I was never going to feel this way again, and I think it's when I fall back into old habi...	Katy	3	1009	Jun 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	"...Courage to change the thinks I can..." (Preview) Aloha Ohana (family)!! Sitting back relaxing and getting caught up in our recovery. Nothing better to do. I was acting out today (not in the old crazy way) in a way I was taught by a former sponsor. I use to do the Serenity Prayer literally doing all the definition of what and could and could not change...	Jerry F	4	835	Jun 17, 2009 by Jerry F
	over but not over (Preview) due to some crazy scheduling, i haven't been to a f2f in over a week and i won't be able to until saturday morning. but part of me wonders WHY i should go. please, remind me? my AH and i are over. he JUST got into AA (11 days sober) and told me last night that he can't promise he can even try to work on our marri...	xter	12	867	Jun 17, 2009 by xter
	Was feeling blahhhh... (Preview) Hello everyone! I woke up Saturday morning feeling a little under the weather. It was one of those days where I could have just stayed in bed. I managed to pull myself out of bed and headed into work and got there on time. I wasn't even there one hour before it hit me. The stomach virus! UGHHH.... I cam...	Sincerely	1	645	Jun 17, 2009 by kitty
	What am I grateful for today???? (Preview) I am GRATEFUL for: my bills are paid and my needs met my body is in decent shape that my left leg is hurting NOT from something bad, but just my back spasms AND i think i am onto a new way of eating to help my inflamations in wrist and back spasms.....got a great book about new ways of eating i am grateful that to...	rosielightshines	8	1145	Jun 17, 2009 by xter
	COURAGE to CHANGE___16 JUNE (Preview) During stressful periods it can be tempting to skip a meal, push ourselves until we are totally exhausted, and generally ignore our basic needs. In the midst of crisis, taking time out for an Al-Anon meet, a call to a sponsor, or a breath of fresh air may seem like a waste of all too precious moments. The...	rosielightshines	4	532	Jun 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	How do you get around the anger and resentment? (Preview) I have been with my A boyfriend for 7 yrs now. We have 2 boys 5 yrs and 1 yr and I have a 14 yr old boy from a prior marriage. To make a long story short my A thinks that just because he financially supports us he doesn't beat us (never done) or act like a raving lunatic (which he has done on occasion with me) that...	Holly09	7	1224	Jun 17, 2009 by Holly09
	Anyone on Twitter? (Preview) ((((Family)))), Try not to laugh too hard when you read this! I did it! I succumbed to putting myself on Twitter. I thought it might be a fun way to communicate with my friends. If anyone here is on Twitter and would like my screen name just PM please. Now my niece can't tell me that I'm not "with...	Karilynn	6	752	Jun 17, 2009 by xter
	My heart is breaking at this moment (Preview) My daughter went to divorce court today for the finalization of the divorce. She went without an attorney to represent her. She gets $1,000.00 a month for a year. Plus she said she gets to keep her medical coverage. I really think she told me that so I would not go off and have a fit of some sort. Her ex...	clara	12	702	Jun 17, 2009 by Karilynn
	annoyed (Preview) I always get annoyed when Mom is drunk tho it's useless to feel that way since it doesn't change anything and just ruins things for me...... it's an automatic reaction tho. i'm 22. i should just suck it up and deal w/it not constantly complain about it. it'd be like complaining about it raining when it do...	Lanchas	8	811	Jun 16, 2009 by Lanchas
	thanks to "roselightshines" (Preview) Hello Dear Friend, I just wanted to thank you for always taking so much time to answer so many people's posts with such loving kindness and generosity in sharing your ESH. I have gotten SO much out of your posts! Your journey to recovery has been amazing, and I want to thank you for sharing it with us and s...	ThisIsBlythe	5	703	Jun 16, 2009 by Dave Harm
	My head is filled with so much. . . (Preview) After reading many posts, I do realize I have been trying to change my gf's drinking for nearly 7 years. She did quit for about a year when I said Alcohol or me, but eventually came back saying that she will no longer take an ultimatum. That I was trying to change who she was. That is her answer for everyt...	BK11	7	993	Jun 16, 2009 by BK11
	The Insanity (Preview) My disease is powerful. It's symptoms can return at any moment. My Abf has been back up North with his family working on a project. I have had an abstract fear that he may have gotten involved again with some of his "Friends" that he once used drugs and drank with. I have that itchy feeling that...	RunnerChick	7	899	Jun 16, 2009 by kitty
	not making it a catastrophe (Preview) My sponsor suggests keeping positive thoughts at the front. As someone who has been stuck in a negative spiral for so long I can find that a daunting prospect. I had some crazy idea that people who seemed happy just were incredibly lucky and everything fell in their lap. Now I see it is intense work to k...	maresie	2	877	Jun 16, 2009 by hotrod
	My ex ah... (Preview) My ex AH has been living in an oxford house since getting out of prison in March. We have been communicating well, he was paying support, working, seeing the kids every weekend, etc. He moved out of the house last week. I'm not sure of the real reason why - claimed it was because he wants to see his kids m...	carolinagirl	26	1204	Jun 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	Does anyone ever "get there"? (Preview) I realize that this is a journey and its going to be a looooong one, a life long one and I've spent hours today reading this board and learning soooo much and I'm thankful for every single letter, word, sentence and post that you all have taken your time to write and to help others! I am wondering if there a...	amylynn67	16	676	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	desperately seeking help/advice, anything (Preview) Hello all, I've been searching for a board like this and just found it tonight. My story is long and probably a little odd so I'll try to keep it short. Last June 4, 2008 I married my high school sweetheart after being apart for 20 years. I would have married him then but he drank all the time and I was afrai...	amylynn67	11	618	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	What STEP(s) are you working today??? (Preview) For me it is the first THREE steps... Step one----books says admitted i was powerless over the affects of xxxxxxxxx (alcohol or whatever it is that you are struggling with, i.e., food, drugs, et al)....and that my life had become unmanageable***.....Rosie says......I am powerless over this j...	rosielightshines	10	876	Jun 16, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Surprised by the anger I am feeling... (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) Some of you will know by now that I am very slow to anger, even quicker to forgive and not aggressive though I am assertive. I know enough of myself to be able to say that about myself. However, what is strange to me is that I cannot even begin to tell you how angry I am fee...	Suzannah	7	546	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	checking for ticks? (Preview) Hey MIP family, thought I would fill you in on my progress with divorce. My husband keeps trying to "reel" me back into the relationship, and I'll have to admit on a couple of occasions it has worked. Detaching from someone you've spent 4 years of your life with is hard. After telling him I was...	java	10	796	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	boyfriend just left to get high (Preview) here i sit he asked for a ride from me and i said no so he took his truck with very little gas he tried calling his connection but got no answer - decided to drive over there and look for his dealer	florida	8	952	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	update on all (Preview) Dear all, Some time ago I posted about the father A's desire to get me to get him on my insurance as a named driver. I refused and explained to him why it would not be good for me. He is still annoyed, despite the fact that he has got insurance now in his own name, owns his own car and is legal. I am proud that I sto...	maire rua	4	817	Jun 16, 2009 by rosielightshines
	spilling it,long soap opera, potter style (Preview) Called to talk to AH who lives with this female who is old and in her day was not known for being a nice,clean, person. Meaning she was a free love kinda gal. He was not there so we talked. Got an earful from the start. She says,"I wish he would go to rehab or jail." He is breaking everything and d...	debilyn	3	679	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
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