Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jozie · Jozie

Growing Up an ACOA My Ideal of marriage was something that oftem times i couldn't bring myself to think about, I would say mainly because My parents had a Brutle Divorce when I was but 9 years old... It really took from me ALOT of my Dreams as a small child for I still lived in a fantasy world that would consi...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello, Well, I just didn't like the tone of his voice when he said, i can come and go as i want in that house, its mine. HUMMMMMMMMMMMMMM, i don't think so, he moved out 6 weeks ago and took a few of his possessions with him. So today, I changed the locks. Locks are to keep the honest people out, I hope it wor...

therack76 · therack76

Hi everyone! I'm new at this and a year and a half into this program. Here is my question, and I would really appreciate your feedback on this. I have a sponsor, whom I love and respect dearly. I am currently on my fourth step, (have been for the last 4-5 months at least) I feel the reason why this is taking so...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I am currently feeling completely overwelmed, happy and blessed all at the same time. I'm seeing more and more, daily, the program working in my life as I attempt to make it the center of my life. I had wanted to do ninety meetings in ninety days, and thus far have managed to make a meeting a day, but honest...

blender_girl · blender_girl

I'm sorry I didn't know the location of the picture you were looking for yesterday. I was unsure of what had happened to it when you asked me about it. I'm sorry I set my boundaries and you chose to ignore them. I'm sorry I snapped at you when I did so. I'm sorry I lost my composure last night. Heaven kn...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I am so eternally grateful for all of you here, who have shared so openly and honestly with me about your E,S&H on relapse and heartbreak. My wound feels fresh and open and oh so painful.I can't seem to sort out of my heartstrings from my mind. I find myself terrified of losing this man again- feeling...

cdngirl · cdngirl

Hello all, I have been lurking for a while now and have finally decided to join. I have been married for three years, and for the last 2 or so have been struggling a great deal with AH's drinking. I was searching for bottles, pouring out or giving away liquor, counting how much he drank, asking him to ple...

iSaint · iSaint

My wife went in to rehab last week. It's been 8 days. She's a party drunk. Her parties are herself and a six-pack on the beach. She's 43. We had been fighting about drinking for a few years, and recently (two months? two years?) she'd been getting a six-pack and riding around after she finished her...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone! My phone rang last night about 9pm. I was not expecting it to be my A hubby. He's in rehab. 3 day down. Yesterday was 1 month since I asked him to leave our home. I don't know why he called me. I would have preferred he didn't. You see, I "think" I have detached w/love. I d...

MissyPoo · MissyPoo

Hello everyone. I was wondering if you could share you ESH in how to handle household finances with an A. I am the main breadwinner in our family. AH works as an outside labourer and is unemployed in the winter (and goes on unemployment insurance). One of the ways I used to try and control his drinkin...

Rora · Rora

Last night my exaH came to pick up our son for a group they belong to. I thought I smelled booze on aH, though I didn't notice any "affects". Then again, I thought I smelled booze. And they left. The hour that they were gone all I could think about is why did I do that? I know why I didn't say a...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

Got woken up this morning by neigbors thumping music. Went on all day. ALL day. I tried to keep cool. I have PTSD from 9/11 among othr things (lived on E 13th St). Went out, came home. Still going. Then the other neighbors start up - 20 Hindus chanting with bongos. That and the techno****. My partner tried...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Well ... where to begin? I've had a lot of time and ways to practice my program this past week or so. My sad news, my old blind cat had liver failure and I had to take him in to be put to sleep. I really miss him. we could be blind together and usually had to call and meow to each other until i saw a g...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

Hello Friends, I don't like to talk about it much, but my first husband, my child's father was an addict. Addicted to street drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex...you name it and he was addicted to it. He was my childhood sweetheart and high school boyfriend. He was a big football...

maresie · maresie

One new thing for me in making any kind of friendship is looking at that persons boundaries. If they have an issue with them that is a red flag for me. I no longer charge into any relationship because I "like" someone. I evaulate, feed back, look at levels, work on how I can change my bounda...

RLC · RLC

To MY MIP FAMILY, Just a short post to tell everyone I am alive and well. I check in almost every day and I miss posting, but I have been so busy with my business (Ladies Wholesale Apparel) that I have had very little time. Thank goodness ladies don't know we are in a recession, only their husbands do. LOL...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So Friday night I took my kids to the local buffalo wild wings for karaoke, we met up with a few other single moms and their kids. My oldest daughter (15) was out at the movies with her friends and got dropped off there after the show. So I'm talking to a nice guy and we are really hitting it off. She walks u...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

JUST WHEN I THOUGHT MY DAY WAS GOING TO TURN AROUND, I GOT A BILL! DON'T KNOW YET IF I HAVE TO PAY IT! IT JUST IRKS ME TO RECEIVE A BILL WHEN THERE IS BASICALLY NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT IT ON THE WEEKEND WHEN I RECEIVED IT! SO, I STRESSED & LET IT BOTHER ME FOR QUITE AWHILE ON SATURDAY WHICH WAS SUPPOSED TO BE MY...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Sorry Just need to rant and then Ill go away again AH not well this am vomiting, etc. I went to work, telling him to keep taking sips of water and brandy if he could to ward off withdrawal seizures. Son phoned me at 10 to say his dad was being sick and he was worried. I asked if he was talking to him and taking sip...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... Made it thru yet another LONG weekend... My boy had a game first thing Sat. Morn, and it was agaisnt a Christian Acadamy, which in the end could have ended alot uglier then it did, but our boys hung in there, and did the best they could playing against a team that had "Highschool" kids o...

rutnut · rutnut

I had dated this lady for a few months seven years ago. I broke up with her because of her heavy drinking. So I get a call from her back in march out of the blue. I was just coming out of another relationship. So we eventually started seeing each other again. She told me she no longer drank much, nor did she ca...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Any ESH is much appreciated! Court will be coming up for child support and my A thinks they will do visitation at that time. I have no clue, but if they don't it will be sometime. I know I should just worry about today and not the future, but I think I need to prepare myself for when the time comes. I do not want...

Mariner · Mariner

Dear (((All))) Just checking in to say'HI' and thank you all for being here. I continue to work my program and make small steps forward in my recovery. Things are going ok and I'm getting so much better at setting and keeping my boundaries with my ex A, I realise I cant rest back on this as it is so easy for...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I WILL TRY TO STAY POSITIVE TODAY! NOT EVEN THE RAIN WILL BRING ME DOWN! I KNOW THE RAIN IS NECESSARY BUT SOMETIMES IT CAUSES A BIT OF SADD! EVERYONE PLEASE DO THE SAME. I KNOW THAT WE CAN ALL PULL TOGETHER & SUPPORT EACH OTHER NOW MATTER WHAT! BLESS YOU ALL!

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone, My hubbys round two at rehab ended after 9 days this time. First time was 4 days. The difference for me is that I had no expectations this time. This short round 2 is confirmation that i made the right decision to ask him to leave our home 6 weeks ago. I'm good. I'm happy. And I lost 18lbs...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

We dropped my husband off at the treatment facility in Tucson yesterday. We were lucky enough to have insurance cover a HUGE portion of it. He will be gone for 30 to 45 days depending on how many days insurance wants to cover. I'm having some anxiety with him being gone and me being home alone to handle...

doxie · doxie

I have attached a photo of sons and nephew for you to look at. Lucas is the one in the middle, sitting in the chair with the dog on his lap. His younger brother is the one with the white shirt and hat and the other is their cousin. Lucas is doing so well. He is healing very well and about to go to full time at work...

Inpain · Inpain

It sucks and sucks the life out of you. My husband is having a rough time right now. His brother is dying and he's under a lot of stress and pressure. We've been doing VERY VERY well because we've both been pursing active healthy things and avoiding the negative. I'm very very proud of myself and him. HO...

sunshines1 · sunshines1

Recently a program friend and I were discussing meeting topics, essentially saying what a simple program this is, no need to make it complicated with off the wall, frilly kind of topics. There's plenty that can be found in Forums and the index of the literature. Not to say that they too don't serve a pur...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi Family, I had something funny happen that I just wanted to share with you and I hope it gives you all a chuckle like it did the f2f group I shared with last night. Last night I went to a f2f meeting. It was pretty small and with 30 minutes left to the end of the meeting we had all shared. Well the chair asked us...

lonewolfmama · lonewolfmama

I finally left the A father of my 10 mos. old child after six years. After watching him devolve into his old self so many times, and standing by him when he came to and decided to make changes and then fall again, I have left, moved out on my own and am living with friends and at my office. Although it is painf...

HollyM · HollyM

I am new to this, and everyone else seems to know all the language and the processes and the way to do stuff? How do you learn, and how do you get started?

ernie · ernie

Sorry for the delay everyone!!! September Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held September 13, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept August Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted no revisions were m...

Data395 · Data395

Hi, I'm new here. :) my significant other is an alcoholic. I am here to learn more about the disease and how it has affected me. I recognize that it is a family disease and it not only affects them but us as well. I have detachment issues; I want to learn to detach. My friend attends meetings as well and says...

danz123 · danz123

October Agenda Review of September minutes Review of op meeting schedule New Business Nominations for service positions Chairperson Secretary Discussion of addition to FAQS Old Business Op duties Chairing meetings Idle times Please pm me if you have any additional items -- Edited...

Overcome · Overcome

Today's reading (Oct. 3) in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon, reminded me that sometimes I need to be gentle with the newcomer. They are not familiar with all our slogans and sayings. I don't want them to feel the outsider or act as if I have it all together and that they just need to 'snap out of it'. I don't know...

maresie · maresie

I am almost 2 months out now from having had the check stolen. There is no sign of a replacement check. I can either let this issue consume me (which it certainly has) or detach detach and then detach some more. Of course I want it to be anything but it is. I don't believe I actually have a choice if I want to...

flower5361 · flower5361

First of all, I want to say I'm glad I found this board and I apologize in advance for the long rant coming. I've been doing some reading to get more information, and it is now clear to me what is going on with my husband. I am in my second marriage (almost 3 years) and was married the first time for 22 year...

layneee · layneee

HELLO ALL--- JUST WANTING TO VENT A LITTLE BIT RIGHT NOW. I GUESS AS I START THE WORDS HOPEFULLY WILL FLOW RIGHT FROM MY LAST POST TO NOW, I HAVE RECIEVED GREAT FEEDBACK ON HOW TO HANDLE THIS IN THE RIGHT MANNER. I HAVE BEEN TAKING "MYSELF" OUT OF THE EQUATION AND LOOKING AT IT FROM A DIFFERENT P...

Stormy · Stormy

My husband is an alcoholic who just started attending meetings 2 weeks ago. It seems, to me, that he has replaced alcohol with attending meetings. He leaves an hour before the meeting is to start and comes home an hour or more after the meeting ends. Our marriage is in shambles from the drinking and n...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Does anyone have any tips for impusle control? I think I have ADHD... I get the urge to do/say something and I do it. I make really poor decisions when I'm mad or sick and I need some tips on how other people control the impulse. Anything?

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I wanted to do 90 meetings in 90 days, starting tomorrow, and REALLY put myself into the program as much as possible right now. I need it for myself and I need it to help me keep the focus on me (as a very close friend told me and is correct-when I was REALLY working the program I was at my happiest) In my area...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Yesterday was a trying day in many ways. I've had harder I'm sure, but yesterday I was being tested or so it felt. I started the day having to call my son's father's place and dealing with his wife. (my son's father has been an absent parent from day one and I have fought child support battles for years wi...

Aloha · Aloha

I've been having a challenging week. AH's family is out visiting and when they visit, AH goes dry. And when he is dry, his disease is exposed and raw and it is ANGRY and HOSTILE and on a witch hunt. The nice thing is, AH's brother and his girlfriend are AA members who take their meetings seriously. I know I g...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Woke up this am DETERMINED to put my focus back on me and get out of the rut I have been in. Hit my dailys hard, always grateful that I had the extra money to buy them as they are a gift in each and every way, everyday. Came into the office and the first thing I did was come here and read.....always the best way t...

Baffled · Baffled

So far so good. It' been almost 3 years since my first Al-Anon meeting 11/06 and 2 years online as well. Not so long compared to many veterans. Not that I'm getting complacent because I know there is so much more for me to do. It's taken this long just to cut through some of my denial and really start to under...

Katy · Katy

I married someone that I thought I could fix, I married someone that I thought would work hard at wanting to work hard at buliding a life together, note the (I)! It was all about what I wanted, what I thought I should have, fast forward 29 years +, It was very selfish of me to think I had that control over anot...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey Guys :) Sorry I have been vacant here lately... I have been having DAILY Headaches that have been limiting my Computer time.. I work at a computer all day, and most evennings My Head hurts so bad I can't seem to get on... I am sure "this too Shall Pass" but it has really weighed me to death it s...

layneee · layneee

HELLO... IM NEW TO ALL OF THIS, AND THIS IS MY FIRST POST. IM HOPING TO GAIN SOME INSIGHT ON THE FEELINGS THAT I HAVE BEEN HAVING. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS AND WITHIN THOSE 2 YEARS, THERE HAVE BEEN 5 HOSPITAL STAYS (ALL DUE TO ALCOHOL RELATED ISSUES) OF COURSE , IN THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP I...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

There was a post by smartkat recently about favorite personal slogans. I just heard one that is a new favorite, but everything that touches me and works is a favorite :). "Al-anon Won" A member was sharing at a recent F2F that she heard another member sharing about the alcoholic in her life a...

Ness · Ness

After 21 days of a 28 day recovery programme my Ason is back living rough on the street. My daughter spoke to him this morning thinking he was still in rehab but he told her he was drinking and was going to continue drinking. I havent contacted him.....Please keep him in your prayers.Love Ness x

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Good morning. As most of you know my brother-in-law is sitting in jail b/c he got caught making meth. According to my oldest niece (who actually has talked to him) he's doing okay. He's accepting responsibilty for his actions. He actually turned down bail b/c he knows it's not sa...

maresie · maresie

I know this latest catastrophe with the stolen check has made me have to look at how I live. I simply can't go around in a sea of resentment anymore. At the same time, my boundaries need a lot of reinforcement and work. I also know that I have to learn to make the best of what I have. There is no question thes...

Bluelady · Bluelady

I just lost my father to Alzhiemers. I was his caregiver for 6 years. I don't know what I would have done without my on line support group. We shared, we supported each other and sometimes just said we understood. This is what I thought this group would be like. I live in a small rural area and meeting is at...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Today I have a new attitude, I feel resolved, like I am finished with trying to convince my ex bf to come back or that he still feels something or that our love is the right thing, etc. etc. etc. Even if it's true it doesn't matter anymore. I have felt this way before so I am wary. I really feel that I just do...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((Hello Friends)))))))), Well today was one of those days when you think the world is ending, I got a letter in the mail stating I was about to lose my home....here my husband did not pay the taxes in 2005 and it was going up for sale....well by t he grace of GOD I got a back payment in the mail today fr...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

just wondered. I like listening :)

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

First, can anyone tell me the name of that new CAL book that has a lot of new readings and sup-posedly adult child stuff? I saw one recently and haven;t since and would like ot get one - pinkish or purple cover as I recall... quick share: I am SO sad abotu the state of meetings where I am. They are really, gene...

gardenia1 · gardenia1

Hello. Im looking for a bit of guidance. I am a mother of two young children and both of my parents became late-in-life alcohlics. After a dramatic confrontation that lasted days and involved suicide threats, verbal abuse, etc --both of my parents joined AA and received private counseling as wel...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I am filled with gratitude and very blessed, but the past couple of weeks have left me repeatedly feeling off and struggling to stay on track. Though this is my favorite time of year, it also holds memories from the past and difficult times filled with hurt, times that come back to mind even more so thi...

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	My Day....Butterfly Kisses.... (Preview) Growing Up an ACOA My Ideal of marriage was something that oftem times i couldn't bring myself to think about, I would say mainly because My parents had a Brutle Divorce when I was but 9 years old... It really took from me ALOT of my Dreams as a small child for I still lived in a fantasy world that would consi...	Jozie	3	2923	Oct 7, 2009 by Jerry F
	Today, I'm a locksmith! (Preview) Hello, Well, I just didn't like the tone of his voice when he said, i can come and go as i want in that house, its mine. HUMMMMMMMMMMMMMM, i don't think so, he moved out 6 weeks ago and took a few of his possessions with him. So today, I changed the locks. Locks are to keep the honest people out, I hope it wor...	Sincerely	7	658	Oct 7, 2009 by Sincerely
	HELP!!!! 4th Step Questions... (Preview) Hi everyone! I'm new at this and a year and a half into this program. Here is my question, and I would really appreciate your feedback on this. I have a sponsor, whom I love and respect dearly. I am currently on my fourth step, (have been for the last 4-5 months at least) I feel the reason why this is taking so...	therack76	4	4534	Oct 7, 2009 by hotrod
	Overwelmed, happy and blessed....... (Preview) I am currently feeling completely overwelmed, happy and blessed all at the same time. I'm seeing more and more, daily, the program working in my life as I attempt to make it the center of my life. I had wanted to do ninety meetings in ninety days, and thus far have managed to make a meeting a day, but honest...	shellyj123	2	1066	Oct 7, 2009 by maresie
	I'm sorry (Preview) I'm sorry I didn't know the location of the picture you were looking for yesterday. I was unsure of what had happened to it when you asked me about it. I'm sorry I set my boundaries and you chose to ignore them. I'm sorry I snapped at you when I did so. I'm sorry I lost my composure last night. Heaven kn...	blender_girl	4	619	Oct 7, 2009 by Maria123
	Using the tools of Al-anon (Preview) I am so eternally grateful for all of you here, who have shared so openly and honestly with me about your E,S&H on relapse and heartbreak. My wound feels fresh and open and oh so painful.I can't seem to sort out of my heartstrings from my mind. I find myself terrified of losing this man again- feeling...	RunnerChick	1	555	Oct 7, 2009 by shellyj123
	New here (Preview) Hello all, I have been lurking for a while now and have finally decided to join. I have been married for three years, and for the last 2 or so have been struggling a great deal with AH's drinking. I was searching for bottles, pouring out or giving away liquor, counting how much he drank, asking him to ple...	cdngirl	3	516	Oct 7, 2009 by david62
	new here - in lots of pain, lots of questions (Preview) My wife went in to rehab last week. It's been 8 days. She's a party drunk. Her parties are herself and a six-pack on the beach. She's 43. We had been fighting about drinking for a few years, and recently (two months? two years?) she'd been getting a six-pack and riding around after she finished her...	iSaint	14	839	Oct 6, 2009 by iSaint
	I am never prepared for that 1st phone call from rehab.... (Preview) Hello everyone! My phone rang last night about 9pm. I was not expecting it to be my A hubby. He's in rehab. 3 day down. Yesterday was 1 month since I asked him to leave our home. I don't know why he called me. I would have preferred he didn't. You see, I "think" I have detached w/love. I d...	Sincerely	6	722	Oct 6, 2009 by iSaint
	Handling Finances with an A (Preview) Hello everyone. I was wondering if you could share you ESH in how to handle household finances with an A. I am the main breadwinner in our family. AH works as an outside labourer and is unemployed in the winter (and goes on unemployment insurance). One of the ways I used to try and control his drinkin...	MissyPoo	10	648	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
	how do you know if yur right about them drinking? (Preview) Last night my exaH came to pick up our son for a group they belong to. I thought I smelled booze on aH, though I didn't notice any "affects". Then again, I thought I smelled booze. And they left. The hour that they were gone all I could think about is why did I do that? I know why I didn't say a...	Rora	11	1025	Oct 6, 2009 by woopsadaisy
	just totally lost it. (Preview) Got woken up this morning by neigbors thumping music. Went on all day. ALL day. I tried to keep cool. I have PTSD from 9/11 among othr things (lived on E 13th St). Went out, came home. Still going. Then the other neighbors start up - 20 Hindus chanting with bongos. That and the techno****. My partner tried...	alanonicScotland	7	788	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
	the last week .... a share (Preview) Hello everyone, Well ... where to begin? I've had a lot of time and ways to practice my program this past week or so. My sad news, my old blind cat had liver failure and I had to take him in to be put to sleep. I really miss him. we could be blind together and usually had to call and meow to each other until i saw a g...	Jennifer	3	586	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
	Support and Prayers needed for BIG decision. (Preview) Hello Friends, I don't like to talk about it much, but my first husband, my child's father was an addict. Addicted to street drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex...you name it and he was addicted to it. He was my childhood sweetheart and high school boyfriend. He was a big football...	MaryPoppins	5	599	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
	boundaries. (Preview) One new thing for me in making any kind of friendship is looking at that persons boundaries. If they have an issue with them that is a red flag for me. I no longer charge into any relationship because I "like" someone. I evaulate, feed back, look at levels, work on how I can change my bounda...	maresie	0	537	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
	Just Wanted To Say Hello And Thanks (Preview) To MY MIP FAMILY, Just a short post to tell everyone I am alive and well. I check in almost every day and I miss posting, but I have been so busy with my business (Ladies Wholesale Apparel) that I have had very little time. Thank goodness ladies don't know we are in a recession, only their husbands do. LOL...	RLC	6	836	Oct 6, 2009 by tea2
	More Drama with the ex bf - I think I'm making progress (Preview) So Friday night I took my kids to the local buffalo wild wings for karaoke, we met up with a few other single moms and their kids. My oldest daughter (15) was out at the movies with her friends and got dropped off there after the show. So I'm talking to a nice guy and we are really hitting it off. She walks u...	carolinagirl	5	516	Oct 6, 2009 by carolinagirl
	DIDN'T HAVE A POSITIVE DAY THOUGH I TRIED! (Preview) JUST WHEN I THOUGHT MY DAY WAS GOING TO TURN AROUND, I GOT A BILL! DON'T KNOW YET IF I HAVE TO PAY IT! IT JUST IRKS ME TO RECEIVE A BILL WHEN THERE IS BASICALLY NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT IT ON THE WEEKEND WHEN I RECEIVED IT! SO, I STRESSED & LET IT BOTHER ME FOR QUITE AWHILE ON SATURDAY WHICH WAS SUPPOSED TO BE MY...	Hoot Nanny	5	640	Oct 6, 2009 by blender_girl
	Stressed (Preview) Sorry Just need to rant and then Ill go away again AH not well this am vomiting, etc. I went to work, telling him to keep taking sips of water and brandy if he could to ward off withdrawal seizures. Son phoned me at 10 to say his dad was being sick and he was worried. I asked if he was talking to him and taking sip...	Tattyhead	3	546	Oct 5, 2009 by Jerry F
	Looking for Ideas.. :o) Honoring :o) (Preview) Welp... Made it thru yet another LONG weekend... My boy had a game first thing Sat. Morn, and it was agaisnt a Christian Acadamy, which in the end could have ended alot uglier then it did, but our boys hung in there, and did the best they could playing against a team that had "Highschool" kids o...	Jozie	2	626	Oct 5, 2009 by Jozie
	After six years the phone rings (Preview) I had dated this lady for a few months seven years ago. I broke up with her because of her heavy drinking. So I get a call from her back in march out of the blue. I was just coming out of another relationship. So we eventually started seeing each other again. She told me she no longer drank much, nor did she ca...	rutnut	10	976	Oct 5, 2009 by rutnut
	Anyone deal with going to court for visitation with an A (Preview) Any ESH is much appreciated! Court will be coming up for child support and my A thinks they will do visitation at that time. I have no clue, but if they don't it will be sometime. I know I should just worry about today and not the future, but I think I need to prepare myself for when the time comes. I do not want...	Melissa21	12	663	Oct 5, 2009 by maresie
	Hi to all and gratitude to Shelly (Preview) Dear (((All))) Just checking in to say'HI' and thank you all for being here. I continue to work my program and make small steps forward in my recovery. Things are going ok and I'm getting so much better at setting and keeping my boundaries with my ex A, I realise I cant rest back on this as it is so easy for...	Mariner	4	630	Oct 5, 2009 by shellyj123
	trying to stay possitive! (Preview) I WILL TRY TO STAY POSITIVE TODAY! NOT EVEN THE RAIN WILL BRING ME DOWN! I KNOW THE RAIN IS NECESSARY BUT SOMETIMES IT CAUSES A BIT OF SADD! EVERYONE PLEASE DO THE SAME. I KNOW THAT WE CAN ALL PULL TOGETHER & SUPPORT EACH OTHER NOW MATTER WHAT! BLESS YOU ALL!	Hoot Nanny	6	695	Oct 5, 2009 by Jozie
	rehab round 2...over (Preview) Hello everyone, My hubbys round two at rehab ended after 9 days this time. First time was 4 days. The difference for me is that I had no expectations this time. This short round 2 is confirmation that i made the right decision to ask him to leave our home 6 weeks ago. I'm good. I'm happy. And I lost 18lbs...	Sincerely	5	656	Oct 5, 2009 by Jozie
	Day One of Husband in Treatment (Preview) We dropped my husband off at the treatment facility in Tucson yesterday. We were lucky enough to have insurance cover a HUGE portion of it. He will be gone for 30 to 45 days depending on how many days insurance wants to cover. I'm having some anxiety with him being gone and me being home alone to handle...	N8SMOM	8	698	Oct 5, 2009 by Jozie
	Update on son and photo (Preview) I have attached a photo of sons and nephew for you to look at. Lucas is the one in the middle, sitting in the chair with the dog on his lap. His younger brother is the one with the white shirt and hat and the other is their cousin. Lucas is doing so well. He is healing very well and about to go to full time at work...	doxie	12	753	Oct 5, 2009 by blender_girl
	FEAR (Preview) It sucks and sucks the life out of you. My husband is having a rough time right now. His brother is dying and he's under a lot of stress and pressure. We've been doing VERY VERY well because we've both been pursing active healthy things and avoiding the negative. I'm very very proud of myself and him. HO...	Inpain	6	1589	Oct 5, 2009 by Mandy123
	simple meetings (Preview) Recently a program friend and I were discussing meeting topics, essentially saying what a simple program this is, no need to make it complicated with off the wall, frilly kind of topics. There's plenty that can be found in Forums and the index of the literature. Not to say that they too don't serve a pur...	sunshines1	4	662	Oct 5, 2009 by abbyal
	Alanon Humor (Preview) Hi Family, I had something funny happen that I just wanted to share with you and I hope it gives you all a chuckle like it did the f2f group I shared with last night. Last night I went to a f2f meeting. It was pretty small and with 30 minutes left to the end of the meeting we had all shared. Well the chair asked us...	Mandy123	3	5389	Oct 4, 2009 by Maria123
	I did it! And it's so hard!! (Preview) I finally left the A father of my 10 mos. old child after six years. After watching him devolve into his old self so many times, and standing by him when he came to and decided to make changes and then fall again, I have left, moved out on my own and am living with friends and at my office. Although it is painf...	lonewolfmama	9	1032	Oct 4, 2009 by Sincerely
	I'm New (Preview) I am new to this, and everyone else seems to know all the language and the processes and the way to do stuff? How do you learn, and how do you get started?	HollyM	9	654	Oct 4, 2009 by Sincerely
	September Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) Sorry for the delay everyone!!! September Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held September 13, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept August Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted no revisions were m...	ernie	0	431	Oct 4, 2009 by ernie
	recognizing the family disease (Preview) Hi, I'm new here. :) my significant other is an alcoholic. I am here to learn more about the disease and how it has affected me. I recognize that it is a family disease and it not only affects them but us as well. I have detachment issues; I want to learn to detach. My friend attends meetings as well and says...	Data395	4	780	Oct 3, 2009 by Data395
	October Business Meeting Agenda 10/4 9pm est (Preview) October Agenda Review of September minutes Review of op meeting schedule New Business Nominations for service positions Chairperson Secretary Discussion of addition to FAQS Old Business Op duties Chairing meetings Idle times Please pm me if you have any additional items -- Edited...	danz123	0	585	Oct 3, 2009 by danz123
	Cheery Platitudes (Preview) Today's reading (Oct. 3) in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon, reminded me that sometimes I need to be gentle with the newcomer. They are not familiar with all our slogans and sayings. I don't want them to feel the outsider or act as if I have it all together and that they just need to 'snap out of it'. I don't know...	Overcome	3	808	Oct 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	acceptance (Preview) I am almost 2 months out now from having had the check stolen. There is no sign of a replacement check. I can either let this issue consume me (which it certainly has) or detach detach and then detach some more. Of course I want it to be anything but it is. I don't believe I actually have a choice if I want to...	maresie	4	645	Oct 3, 2009 by Ness
	NEW HERE....FINALLY AN ANSWER (Preview) First of all, I want to say I'm glad I found this board and I apologize in advance for the long rant coming. I've been doing some reading to get more information, and it is now clear to me what is going on with my husband. I am in my second marriage (almost 3 years) and was married the first time for 22 year...	flower5361	9	620	Oct 2, 2009 by flower5361
	RESENTMENT & ANGER.....NORMAL EVEN BEFORE HE GOES TO REHAB???? (Preview) HELLO ALL--- JUST WANTING TO VENT A LITTLE BIT RIGHT NOW. I GUESS AS I START THE WORDS HOPEFULLY WILL FLOW RIGHT FROM MY LAST POST TO NOW, I HAVE RECIEVED GREAT FEEDBACK ON HOW TO HANDLE THIS IN THE RIGHT MANNER. I HAVE BEEN TAKING "MYSELF" OUT OF THE EQUATION AND LOOKING AT IT FROM A DIFFERENT P...	layneee	7	1110	Oct 2, 2009 by layneee
	Need some honest advice! (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic who just started attending meetings 2 weeks ago. It seems, to me, that he has replaced alcohol with attending meetings. He leaves an hour before the meeting is to start and comes home an hour or more after the meeting ends. Our marriage is in shambles from the drinking and n...	Stormy	9	658	Oct 2, 2009 by HollyM
	Tips!!!??? (Preview) Does anyone have any tips for impusle control? I think I have ADHD... I get the urge to do/say something and I do it. I make really poor decisions when I'm mad or sick and I need some tips on how other people control the impulse. Anything?	carolinagirl	4	706	Oct 2, 2009 by Jen
	90 meetings in 90 days.........Question about online meetings??? Need some help.... (Preview) I wanted to do 90 meetings in 90 days, starting tomorrow, and REALLY put myself into the program as much as possible right now. I need it for myself and I need it to help me keep the focus on me (as a very close friend told me and is correct-when I was REALLY working the program I was at my happiest) In my area...	shellyj123	9	910	Oct 2, 2009 by Data395
	This program really does work if you work it! Letting go and movin forward...... (Preview) Yesterday was a trying day in many ways. I've had harder I'm sure, but yesterday I was being tested or so it felt. I started the day having to call my son's father's place and dealing with his wife. (my son's father has been an absent parent from day one and I have fought child support battles for years wi...	shellyj123	3	670	Oct 2, 2009 by serendipity
	I don't have the allergy, but I can still relate! (Preview) I've been having a challenging week. AH's family is out visiting and when they visit, AH goes dry. And when he is dry, his disease is exposed and raw and it is ANGRY and HOSTILE and on a witch hunt. The nice thing is, AH's brother and his girlfriend are AA members who take their meetings seriously. I know I g...	Aloha	2	759	Oct 2, 2009 by debilyn
	Day One of 90..Heading in strong (Preview) Woke up this am DETERMINED to put my focus back on me and get out of the rut I have been in. Hit my dailys hard, always grateful that I had the extra money to buy them as they are a gift in each and every way, everyday. Came into the office and the first thing I did was come here and read.....always the best way t...	shellyj123	3	800	Oct 2, 2009 by debilyn
	Getting better (Preview) So far so good. It' been almost 3 years since my first Al-Anon meeting 11/06 and 2 years online as well. Not so long compared to many veterans. Not that I'm getting complacent because I know there is so much more for me to do. It's taken this long just to cut through some of my denial and really start to under...	Baffled	3	675	Oct 1, 2009 by Jerry F
	All I did wrong was? to chose someone to marry for all the wrong reasons! (Preview) I married someone that I thought I could fix, I married someone that I thought would work hard at wanting to work hard at buliding a life together, note the (I)! It was all about what I wanted, what I thought I should have, fast forward 29 years +, It was very selfish of me to think I had that control over anot...	Katy	6	786	Oct 1, 2009 by drucilla06
	Alcoholism...Strikes again... (Preview) Hey Guys :) Sorry I have been vacant here lately... I have been having DAILY Headaches that have been limiting my Computer time.. I work at a computer all day, and most evennings My Head hurts so bad I can't seem to get on... I am sure "this too Shall Pass" but it has really weighed me to death it s...	Jozie	8	971	Oct 1, 2009 by Jozie
	31 YR OLD BF WITH CIRRHOSIS AND STILL DRINKING (Preview) HELLO... IM NEW TO ALL OF THIS, AND THIS IS MY FIRST POST. IM HOPING TO GAIN SOME INSIGHT ON THE FEELINGS THAT I HAVE BEEN HAVING. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS AND WITHIN THOSE 2 YEARS, THERE HAVE BEEN 5 HOSPITAL STAYS (ALL DUE TO ALCOHOL RELATED ISSUES) OF COURSE , IN THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP I...	layneee	12	1552	Oct 1, 2009 by Jerry F
	Smartkat, this is for you well and for the rest of the family here ;) (Preview) There was a post by smartkat recently about favorite personal slogans. I just heard one that is a new favorite, but everything that touches me and works is a favorite :). "Al-anon Won" A member was sharing at a recent F2F that she heard another member sharing about the alcoholic in her life a...	Mandy123	0	523	Sep 30, 2009 by Mandy123
	He only made it to 21 days this time....... (Preview) After 21 days of a 28 day recovery programme my Ason is back living rough on the street. My daughter spoke to him this morning thinking he was still in rehab but he told her he was drinking and was going to continue drinking. I havent contacted him.....Please keep him in your prayers.Love Ness x	Ness	11	705	Sep 30, 2009 by Ness
	Letter to my BIL. (Preview) ((((Family)))), Good morning. As most of you know my brother-in-law is sitting in jail b/c he got caught making meth. According to my oldest niece (who actually has talked to him) he's doing okay. He's accepting responsibilty for his actions. He actually turned down bail b/c he knows it's not sa...	Karilynn	9	666	Sep 30, 2009 by Andrea12
	Treading lightly in the world (Preview) I know this latest catastrophe with the stolen check has made me have to look at how I live. I simply can't go around in a sea of resentment anymore. At the same time, my boundaries need a lot of reinforcement and work. I also know that I have to learn to make the best of what I have. There is no question thes...	maresie	5	715	Sep 30, 2009 by Andrea12
	I think you are right (Preview) I just lost my father to Alzhiemers. I was his caregiver for 6 years. I don't know what I would have done without my on line support group. We shared, we supported each other and sometimes just said we understood. This is what I thought this group would be like. I live in a small rural area and meeting is at...	Bluelady	8	777	Sep 30, 2009 by Andrea12
	New attitude...today (Preview) Today I have a new attitude, I feel resolved, like I am finished with trying to convince my ex bf to come back or that he still feels something or that our love is the right thing, etc. etc. etc. Even if it's true it doesn't matter anymore. I have felt this way before so I am wary. I really feel that I just do...	carolinagirl	6	529	Sep 30, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Just when you think there is no hope.....Life suprises you (Preview) (((((((((Hello Friends)))))))), Well today was one of those days when you think the world is ending, I got a letter in the mail stating I was about to lose my home....here my husband did not pay the taxes in 2005 and it was going up for sale....well by t he grace of GOD I got a back payment in the mail today fr...	Andrea12	10	1015	Sep 30, 2009 by Andrea12
	Just a thought: are there any Skype meetings as well (Preview) just wondered. I like listening :)	alanonicScotland	6	2068	Sep 30, 2009 by Tattyhead
	Lonely for recovery in Scotland (Preview) First, can anyone tell me the name of that new CAL book that has a lot of new readings and sup-posedly adult child stuff? I saw one recently and haven;t since and would like ot get one - pinkish or purple cover as I recall... quick share: I am SO sad abotu the state of meetings where I am. They are really, gene...	alanonicScotland	7	669	Sep 30, 2009 by chezza
	Newbie who feels guilty for wanting to roll my eyes as I listen to all the AA sayings... (Preview) Hello. Im looking for a bit of guidance. I am a mother of two young children and both of my parents became late-in-life alcohlics. After a dramatic confrontation that lasted days and involved suicide threats, verbal abuse, etc --both of my parents joined AA and received private counseling as wel...	gardenia1	6	697	Sep 30, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	I asked for a sign, and I got it....always in HP's time not mine... (Preview) I am filled with gratitude and very blessed, but the past couple of weeks have left me repeatedly feeling off and struggling to stay on track. Though this is my favorite time of year, it also holds memories from the past and difficult times filled with hurt, times that come back to mind even more so thi...	shellyj123	5	664	Sep 30, 2009 by nmike
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