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RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Sorry to double dip today family but, I'm really needing some E,S&H. One of my co-workers is so incredibly sick from her husband's illness. When asked how she is, she answers with her husband who is now reeling in the aftermath of a lifetime of alcoholism and suffering severely from chirrosis. No...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband came home from his 30-day treatment facility yesterday. After getting home, he went out to run some errands (pick up prescriptions and get a haircut) - he was gone for over 2 hours. Shortly after returning home, he went down into the basement to have some alone time and write in his journal...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well the EXABF decided to pick today, the 2 year anniversary of the day we met online, to email me and tell me that he would be updating his page and adding picts of the new girl he has been dating to his page. And that things didnt go well the last time we spoke(which was when I told him it was over and walked o...

Starla · Starla

I never could let him go because I wasn't strong enough to say ENOUGH!! When I've had all I can take and show him the door I become ungrateful, heartless and cruel. I've had enough, I'm protecting my boundries. That doesn't make me a bad person. Our lives could be so much better.

supermom · supermom

Hi! I am new to message boards. I've never started my own topic until this one. Just wondered if anyone else ever feels overwhelmed? I do feel hopeful at the Al-Anon face to face meetings that have been to (5 meetings, I think). I am finding it challenging to feel hopeful at home. The alcoholic is i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am ready to wake up & smell something. Maybe they are roses--maybe not but I know that I am ready for another growth period in my life. Every time I lose sleep, I feel ready to grow in some way. Right now as I sit here, I am focusing on what I am writing but at the same time so distant & disconnected....

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

I thought I'd share a real, life-happens, story - a program friend in New York Mary (first names only - anon) built a business in New York from about 20 years ago. As a fellow young professional in the same business, I was first her client, then began to work with her. You see, Mary was a massive workaholi...

Gailey · Gailey

Can anyone share on their path that really got them to acceptance of the A in their life or for anything that was unacceptable to them. I seem to be stuck in sadness constantly. I really want to accept and move on with my life....I mean REALLY accept that this is the way it may be for the rest of my life.

akristab · akristab

I have had a lot of difficulty getting beyond Step 2. For the first time in a couple of years, I went to a f2f meeting and it happened to be a Step meeting - something I have always avoided because I have never been successful in working the steps of my program. Today's meeting was on Step 11 - a very intimidat...

Survivor · Survivor

Greetings to you all :) Tonight, I hope to go to my second Ala non meeting (just depending on whether or not I can get a babysitter). I went to my first a few months ago as I was losing my mind dealing with my partner. After just that one meeting I had something FINALLY sink in. It was that I was NEVER going to be...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

I haven't been depressed in years and feel like I am falling into it and don't know what to do. Part of this is because I'm not going to meeting regularly - primarily because the ones in my area are not tradition based, and are run like prayer circles which does not work for me. Some program friends and I are...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I have been chatting on yahoo with this army guy in Iraq who is half my age and trying to seduce me... (that's another story within itself) and last night we were chatting away. It was the first time we had used the video chat and I was feeling a little under the weather and not looking great (in my mind)....

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Christy's Mom is having brain surgery on Monday. I am asking for prayers for her and her family. Now Christy won't ask for prayers for herself, so I am going to do it. She's travelling today to her Mom's house. If we could keep both Christy's Mom and her in all of our prayers today and t...

mermaid1961 · mermaid1961

Hi I hope I don't offend anyone, but I just don't get it. My adult daughter has struggled with an eating disorder for years and apparently now is also an alcoholic. She is married with a two year old. She got out of rehab 3 weeks ago and has already been drunk 3 different times. Each tme she swears she lea...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Well, I come to the board with a heavy heart once again. Back in 2004, my AH had gotten his first DUI. By 2007 I left our home and he headed for a 30-day rehab. In 2008, I move back home and he fell off the wagon every now and then. Last night, while driving home from a wedding with his mother in the vehicle, h...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

This weekend was a different kind of weekend for me in many ways. I learned that I still have expectations of other people, and I have no idea how NOT to have expectations. I am trying hard to live and let live, and let people be themselves, but I also find that I do have expectations when it comes to others...

Lisa K · Lisa K

Hi, My name is Lisa and My husband is an alcoholic. I am 44 and we have been married over 20 years- he has been an alcaho;oc fpr the last 3. I will spare you the details because you all have similar stories. I have been attending al anon for about 9 months and I thank God every day for it. This weekend was a bad...

Starla · Starla

Some may remember me as RainyJamie. Or not. My anonymity was compromised so I had to delete my account. I don't care, I'm moving on. I filed for divorce and just told AH that he will be served. If he doesn't leave by Nov 31st I will leave with the kids. It is a huge deal as I am trying to take the house. It is more...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Well just one more thing in my life.....son got a phone call from his best friend at 2:30 this am....he was in a wreck...totaled his car and all he wanted was Zach....unfortunately we were all sleeping and didn't hear the phone..... Bobby's brother just passed away a few months ago in a quad accident I...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

My sister had been addicted to many things in her life and I tried to do everything possible to help her for nearly 50 years. She had gone to rehab, had shock treatments, numberous stints in the psyche ward at the local hospital. She would get sober and then overdose once again. The family tried and tr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I am feeling rushed and pressured by my mom again. I occasionally go through this but today I want to spend some more time on the computer especially on MIP. I guess I could just say no to her need to push me out the door--I really want to please her sometimes because she wants to spend time with me. All...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Happy Halloween ya'll... It's me and the chocolate...just me and the chocolate...my kiddie dreams come true!! But that is not the gift from my HP that I am going to share with you. As with many many others we have been affected by the economic turn down or turn over or over turn for the past several month...

Grace11 · Grace11

I haven't posted anything on this site for ages. I discovered this site when my husband went into rehab in June and found the nicest people. He came out of rehab in July and he was "cured" . Although he has not touched a drop since I think he is way more agressive than he ever was. He is not physica...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I have a AS (he is an adult) I had been letting him use my car to run errands because he lost his when he borrowed money from a title loan place and he didn't pay his payment. He began to abuse this privilege of using the car, staying out longer and longer, would not respect my request to have the car back at a ce...

maresie · maresie

The Christmas holidays have been some of the hardest times for me. When I was with the ex A there was tremendous conflict. I had been looking forward to working on them with my current therapist. Last week she announced she is leaving so I won't have any continuity over the holidays. For a couple of da...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I've been thinking some things through the past day and I realized that one of my BIGGEST FEARS is CHANGE! I am MORTIFIED of things changing..... When in a relationship I freeze....I'm afraid to move forward-afraid that things won't be the same and all the "good stuff" will be lost in day t...

Fifi · Fifi

Three to four years ago I was here...this site and all of you saved my life and my sanity as I encountered, loved, lived with and left my first alchoholic/addict. I have learned and grown miraculously thanks to the wisdom of alanon. I live a life that is full and rich and thankful every day. I am so much mo...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello Everyone! Last night I had cabin fever. Decided to go to Walmart ended up at Dress Barn. I have a wedding to go to next friday and a company christmas party soon afterwards. Anyways, I am looking forward to the wedding. All of my family and cousins will be there and my mom's gonna come with me too!...

dawna81 · dawna81

in the last NA meeting my husband and i attended they explained a higher power is just that, a higher power, how ever we see it. but my husband is growing more and more weary of even mentioning it on these boards, he asked "if you dont believe in god, is it still possible to recover in these programs?&...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Good morning to you all. Here in the United States it's Halloween. Pipers and I wish you and your families a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Enjoy the day & night with the children. I will be out walking around the neighborhood enjoying the sights and sounds of it all. Please be safe. P...

ElizabethLost · ElizabethLost

I'm new here, though I used to read here when my husband first started going to AA. To try to give a brief history...we've been together 6 years and when I met him he drank...I thought just socially, but as time went by I realized it was so much more than that. He drank often, was doing drugs when he drank, wo...

Diva · Diva

Got a collect call. He is in Atlanta and will arrive here in San Antonio about 1 in the morning. Sounds tired and weak. I guess that's what a week of binge drinking does to a person. He is sober, and I can tell the depth of the apology is going to be world-class. Does the madness continue where it left o...

KC7411 · KC7411

Not sure where to begin but my father is turns 80 soon and as long as I recall he has been a heavy drinker. He has been the life of the party and is very well liked. With age his behavior when he drinks has become more of a problem. He is not an abusive drinker and has been a functional A and a good provider and...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

After my A's last relapse, I realized how desperately I needed to work my program. The more I focus on me, the more I question whether or not I will able to fully heal me, while still in a relationship. I have asked him for space. The truth is I don't know what space looks like except I said I needed the room to...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All...glad to be here and have you all a part of my recovery. I was having you all as a part of my recovery this morning, checking in before I started my chores. Making a mental list of what I would be working on just for today and my spouse decided to mention that one thing I might work on was getting off...

debhud · debhud

hi all, if you remember me, my dh is an active alcoholic. i do my program and take care of myself. for the most part, i am happy in my relationship with dh. yesterday i was visiting daughter-in-law. she was in tears. my 33yr. old son is also alcoholic. he is a mean drunk. they have a 10 yr. old da...

Gailey · Gailey

Last night at my meeting I was wondering why I could not find it in me to share. It was the same as the meeting the night before. I have noticed that if the topic is not focused on talking about the A in our life, I don't know what to talk about. I find it here too. I don't know how to share what is actually going on...

dori711 · dori711

Well, since I could not talk to my husband I wrote him a letter and in it jotted all the things down that were bothering me, and left it on the table for him to read. He responded by coming and saying "okay, lets try it again" and he also brought it up that I started it, so what really upsets me is t...

Goodgran · Goodgran

Friends, in my non-anonymous life I have been blessed with success as a freelance journalist. Most of my writing is bread-and-butter non-fiction (yawn) such as newspaper articles, etc. But once in a while I get an opportunity to write about what I love. One such article I wrote recently is about a...

cdngirl · cdngirl

Last night, my AH told me he wants to go to an AA meeting!!! This is a huge, incredible step for him, as he has been in denial for a long time. I told him I was so proud of him, that it took a lot of courage for him to say that. I ended up telling him that I've been to open AA meetings before (he knows I'm in Al-ano...

artie · artie

After a month of reading posts and attending a few f2f meetings, I'm amazed at how much I have learned on how to cope and how well it works if you do it. I haven't seen much on functioning alcoholics which is what I think my AH must be - professional job, hard worker, church involvement, responsible...

yelhsaa · yelhsaa

I have dated my boyfriend for 5 years now. Within the first two years his brother died of an overdose and his dad was diagnosed with ALS and died soon after. I think his problems were there before the deaths in his family. He does not have a job and lives in an empty house they are trying to sell that his dad us...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I have had a hectic couple of days. I pulled a neck muscle and am in a lot of pain from that. I spent the two days in bed because I could barely move my neck. I didn't go to work I was going to but then my mom convinced me it was not a brilliant idea. Considering I don't want to hurt myself worse. I am worried my aunt...

Overcome · Overcome

I had to file an order of protection against my ex-husband yesterday (we were divorced Aug. 25th) after he let himself into my home while my mother and I were gone, without my permission. I feel like this is somewhat my fault because I had let him back into my life somewhat lately and was considering a rel...

woopsadaisy · woopsadaisy

So, I am sitting here in the window seat of my place. there are boxes all over and I need to finish the move-in, but the sun is out and this is a nice place to sit and count my good fortune. My man is out of town for work, and he has not had any weed since he's been gone. I'ts been over a month for him. He is second gue...

Rhonda B · Rhonda B

Here I am, 46 and still going thru all of this. I have been in counseling for 20 years, done ACA, and it seems like I am making WORSE choices than before. The last two were by far the worst. A physically abusive meth user, and then just a complete control freak whom I suspect has a sex addiction. He cheat...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Id like to first thank all of you yesterday that took the time to read and/or respond to my post. Yesterday was one of the most difficult days I have had in some time. After reading the many responses and thinking on things, I do believe that it is a combination of things that triggered me yesterday....

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((Hello Friends))))))))), Well she got her stiches out hope it looks worse than it's gonna be....she had a brain scan, MRI, Friday we go back to trama clinic in Pittsburgh....she has discovered some new problems today....she can't go to the bathroom is having a hard time peeing.....it has bee...

maresie · maresie

I was in the doctors office yesterday in a small waiting room with a dysfunctional family. The tension was incredible, there was a "crisis" every other second and none of them had any boundaries. They were oblivious to the fact their conduct bothered anyone they felt it was their stage to...

Diva · Diva

Alcoholic partner who fled to London last Friday afternoon is holed up in a hotel in Manchester, England. I have spoken to him twice. He has been drinking - now it is Wednesday, but has had nothing to eat, has not come out of the room, has not bathed or shaved, and feels and sounds awful. He is nearly 70....

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello Everyone! Just wanted to share and hopefully encourage others ---------- Many times in life (especially life w/an A) there have been times when I felt like I was drowning. I have realized that GOD has never let me go under the water. Even though I thought I may have been downing, I never was. Ea...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well those of you who have followed my story for the last year know where I am-I'm trying really hard today to trust that I am right where I am MEANT to be but I just can't seem to do it and keep my focus. I have been struggling BADLY for the past two weeks with issues with wanting to contact the EXABF. This mor...

Rita G · Rita G

So I too have joined the Facebook Craze - anyone wanting to "friend" me send me a PM and I'll get you my email address so that you can send me a friend request!!! Wishing you day that is Happy, Joyous and FREE!! HUGS, Rita

blender_girl · blender_girl

All I can say about the past couple of days is "Wow" and "Thank You". I've had no more ugly confrontations with AH - he's been quite cooperative and is essentially out of the house now. I've had a couple of friends who know about the situation reach out to me and offer me assistance...

Baffled · Baffled

October Agenda Review of October minutes Review of op meeting schedule Old Business Op duties Idle times New Business Op Liason Committee Please pm me if you have any additional items Baffled (Courage) -- Edited by Baffled on Wednesday 28th of October 2009 10:11:13 PM

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Just left the ER where my eldest son was xrayed and cat scans run after having totaled his car against a bridge. Dr. told him, you were very lucky you survived and aren't paralyzed or dead. He went on to say, if you keep this up you will be dead. You will die. Just for today, I still have my son. I pray this w...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The Ex AH is still on the couch and he has been a help around the house. It has created some conflict with the kids to have him back around and in a position to tell them what to do. They don't like having another adult to answer to, especially considering he's there and I'm gone so much. The pretty much ha...

cdngirl · cdngirl

I am having trouble knowing whether I am doing the right thing when it comes to my reactions to my AH's drinking/lying/spending/etc. Before alanon, I used to always need to confront him on whatever he did that was wrong, so that he didn't feel like he was getting away with it, and so that he knew I didn't...

Karilynn · Karilynn

For those of you who want I have finally signed up for a Facebook account. PM me and I'll give you my name. Have a great day all! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

Gailey · Gailey

Dear Son, I am writing this email to get some things off my chest. It is for my benefit, not yours. Not sure I will even press the send button. I really think that I am coming to the end of being able to live with your addiction anymore. Drinking or sober, I find it very hard to be in your company. I am becomi...

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	Dealing with a sick co-worker - feeling compassion (Preview) Sorry to double dip today family but, I'm really needing some E,S&H. One of my co-workers is so incredibly sick from her husband's illness. When asked how she is, she answers with her husband who is now reeling in the aftermath of a lifetime of alcoholism and suffering severely from chirrosis. No...	RunnerChick	3	1553	Nov 4, 2009 by Jen
	He's Home, Now What? (Preview) My husband came home from his 30-day treatment facility yesterday. After getting home, he went out to run some errands (pick up prescriptions and get a haircut) - he was gone for over 2 hours. Shortly after returning home, he went down into the basement to have some alone time and write in his journal...	N8SMOM	5	755	Nov 4, 2009 by Jen
	EXABF picks today of all days to reappear.........I wish he'd just die-i know that's terrible... (Preview) Well the EXABF decided to pick today, the 2 year anniversary of the day we met online, to email me and tell me that he would be updating his page and adding picts of the new girl he has been dating to his page. And that things didnt go well the last time we spoke(which was when I told him it was over and walked o...	shellyj123	7	762	Nov 4, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	Always feeling guilty (Preview) I never could let him go because I wasn't strong enough to say ENOUGH!! When I've had all I can take and show him the door I become ungrateful, heartless and cruel. I've had enough, I'm protecting my boundries. That doesn't make me a bad person. Our lives could be so much better.	Starla	2	607	Nov 4, 2009 by hotrod
	overwhelmed (Preview) Hi! I am new to message boards. I've never started my own topic until this one. Just wondered if anyone else ever feels overwhelmed? I do feel hopeful at the Al-Anon face to face meetings that have been to (5 meetings, I think). I am finding it challenging to feel hopeful at home. The alcoholic is i...	supermom	3	710	Nov 3, 2009 by supermom
	WAKE UP! (Preview) I am ready to wake up & smell something. Maybe they are roses--maybe not but I know that I am ready for another growth period in my life. Every time I lose sleep, I feel ready to grow in some way. Right now as I sit here, I am focusing on what I am writing but at the same time so distant & disconnected....	Hoot Nanny	1	537	Nov 3, 2009 by hotrod
	living in the moment - a real one (Preview) I thought I'd share a real, life-happens, story - a program friend in New York Mary (first names only - anon) built a business in New York from about 20 years ago. As a fellow young professional in the same business, I was first her client, then began to work with her. You see, Mary was a massive workaholi...	alanonicScotland	3	648	Nov 3, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Your path to Acceptance (Preview) Can anyone share on their path that really got them to acceptance of the A in their life or for anything that was unacceptable to them. I seem to be stuck in sadness constantly. I really want to accept and move on with my life....I mean REALLY accept that this is the way it may be for the rest of my life.	Gailey	6	830	Nov 3, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Two brief ephiphanies - two HUGE realities (Preview) I have had a lot of difficulty getting beyond Step 2. For the first time in a couple of years, I went to a f2f meeting and it happened to be a Step meeting - something I have always avoided because I have never been successful in working the steps of my program. Today's meeting was on Step 11 - a very intimidat...	akristab	3	610	Nov 3, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	:) (Preview) Greetings to you all :) Tonight, I hope to go to my second Ala non meeting (just depending on whether or not I can get a babysitter). I went to my first a few months ago as I was losing my mind dealing with my partner. After just that one meeting I had something FINALLY sink in. It was that I was NEVER going to be...	Survivor	4	664	Nov 3, 2009 by Survivor
	feel like I am falling...I need to figure something out (Preview) I haven't been depressed in years and feel like I am falling into it and don't know what to do. Part of this is because I'm not going to meeting regularly - primarily because the ones in my area are not tradition based, and are run like prayer circles which does not work for me. Some program friends and I are...	alanonicScotland	3	544	Nov 3, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	Assuming the worst...pessamism (Preview) So I have been chatting on yahoo with this army guy in Iraq who is half my age and trying to seduce me... (that's another story within itself) and last night we were chatting away. It was the first time we had used the video chat and I was feeling a little under the weather and not looking great (in my mind)....	carolinagirl	7	655	Nov 3, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Prayers for Christy's Mom please! (Preview) ((((Family))), Christy's Mom is having brain surgery on Monday. I am asking for prayers for her and her family. Now Christy won't ask for prayers for herself, so I am going to do it. She's travelling today to her Mom's house. If we could keep both Christy's Mom and her in all of our prayers today and t...	Karilynn	13	724	Nov 3, 2009 by kerry5
	new mom (Preview) Hi I hope I don't offend anyone, but I just don't get it. My adult daughter has struggled with an eating disorder for years and apparently now is also an alcoholic. She is married with a two year old. She got out of rehab 3 weeks ago and has already been drunk 3 different times. Each tme she swears she lea...	mermaid1961	2	629	Nov 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Once Again xxx (Preview) Well, I come to the board with a heavy heart once again. Back in 2004, my AH had gotten his first DUI. By 2007 I left our home and he headed for a 30-day rehab. In 2008, I move back home and he fell off the wagon every now and then. Last night, while driving home from a wedding with his mother in the vehicle, h...	GailMichelle	2	651	Nov 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Expectations........How do you NOT have them? Any ESH appreciated. (Preview) This weekend was a different kind of weekend for me in many ways. I learned that I still have expectations of other people, and I have no idea how NOT to have expectations. I am trying hard to live and let live, and let people be themselves, but I also find that I do have expectations when it comes to others...	shellyj123	5	559	Nov 2, 2009 by Jen
	Sigh--- (Preview) Hi, My name is Lisa and My husband is an alcoholic. I am 44 and we have been married over 20 years- he has been an alcaho;oc fpr the last 3. I will spare you the details because you all have similar stories. I have been attending al anon for about 9 months and I thank God every day for it. This weekend was a bad...	Lisa K	7	581	Nov 2, 2009 by Lisa K
	staring over (Preview) Some may remember me as RainyJamie. Or not. My anonymity was compromised so I had to delete my account. I don't care, I'm moving on. I filed for divorce and just told AH that he will be served. If he doesn't leave by Nov 31st I will leave with the kids. It is a huge deal as I am trying to take the house. It is more...	Starla	5	591	Nov 2, 2009 by Fifi
	Enough Already God,another accident and surgery for my daughter (Preview) Well just one more thing in my life.....son got a phone call from his best friend at 2:30 this am....he was in a wreck...totaled his car and all he wanted was Zach....unfortunately we were all sleeping and didn't hear the phone..... Bobby's brother just passed away a few months ago in a quad accident I...	Andrea12	10	482	Nov 2, 2009 by wp
	The disease takes another one (Preview) My sister had been addicted to many things in her life and I tried to do everything possible to help her for nearly 50 years. She had gone to rehab, had shock treatments, numberous stints in the psyche ward at the local hospital. She would get sober and then overdose once again. The family tried and tr...	Mobirdie	18	638	Nov 2, 2009 by Mobirdie
	Feeling rushed & pressured! (Preview) Today I am feeling rushed and pressured by my mom again. I occasionally go through this but today I want to spend some more time on the computer especially on MIP. I guess I could just say no to her need to push me out the door--I really want to please her sometimes because she wants to spend time with me. All...	Hoot Nanny	3	716	Nov 2, 2009 by Jozie
	A Gift (Preview) Happy Halloween ya'll... It's me and the chocolate...just me and the chocolate...my kiddie dreams come true!! But that is not the gift from my HP that I am going to share with you. As with many many others we have been affected by the economic turn down or turn over or over turn for the past several month...	Jerry F	5	646	Nov 2, 2009 by Jozie
	I really need a kind word. (Preview) I haven't posted anything on this site for ages. I discovered this site when my husband went into rehab in June and found the nicest people. He came out of rehab in July and he was "cured" . Although he has not touched a drop since I think he is way more agressive than he ever was. He is not physica...	Grace11	10	612	Nov 2, 2009 by maresie
	I Drew A Line Today............ (Preview) I have a AS (he is an adult) I had been letting him use my car to run errands because he lost his when he borrowed money from a title loan place and he didn't pay his payment. He began to abuse this privilege of using the car, staying out longer and longer, would not respect my request to have the car back at a ce...	DreamsOver	7	654	Nov 2, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	the holidays (Preview) The Christmas holidays have been some of the hardest times for me. When I was with the ex A there was tremendous conflict. I had been looking forward to working on them with my current therapist. Last week she announced she is leaving so I won't have any continuity over the holidays. For a couple of da...	maresie	4	619	Nov 2, 2009 by Gailey
	Is anyone else here MORTIFIED of CHANGE like I am???? (Preview) I've been thinking some things through the past day and I realized that one of my BIGGEST FEARS is CHANGE! I am MORTIFIED of things changing..... When in a relationship I freeze....I'm afraid to move forward-afraid that things won't be the same and all the "good stuff" will be lost in day t...	shellyj123	7	599	Nov 2, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	baffling to be back (Preview) Three to four years ago I was here...this site and all of you saved my life and my sanity as I encountered, loved, lived with and left my first alchoholic/addict. I have learned and grown miraculously thanks to the wisdom of alanon. I live a life that is full and rich and thankful every day. I am so much mo...	Fifi	2	577	Nov 2, 2009 by Karilynn
	Say yes to the dress! (Preview) Hello Everyone! Last night I had cabin fever. Decided to go to Walmart ended up at Dress Barn. I have a wedding to go to next friday and a company christmas party soon afterwards. Anyways, I am looking forward to the wedding. All of my family and cousins will be there and my mom's gonna come with me too!...	Sincerely	5	697	Nov 1, 2009 by RLC
	people who judge our higher power make it difficult for us to recover. (Preview) in the last NA meeting my husband and i attended they explained a higher power is just that, a higher power, how ever we see it. but my husband is growing more and more weary of even mentioning it on these boards, he asked "if you dont believe in god, is it still possible to recover in these programs?&...	dawna81	10	565	Nov 1, 2009 by dawna81
	HAPPY HALLOWEEN! (Preview) ((((Family))), Good morning to you all. Here in the United States it's Halloween. Pipers and I wish you and your families a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Enjoy the day & night with the children. I will be out walking around the neighborhood enjoying the sights and sounds of it all. Please be safe. P...	Karilynn	4	560	Nov 1, 2009 by Andrea12
	No Idea What To Do (Preview) I'm new here, though I used to read here when my husband first started going to AA. To try to give a brief history...we've been together 6 years and when I met him he drank...I thought just socially, but as time went by I realized it was so much more than that. He drank often, was doing drugs when he drank, wo...	ElizabethLost	4	703	Nov 1, 2009 by ElizabethLost
	He's in Atlanta........last leg of the week-long adventure coming up. (Preview) Got a collect call. He is in Atlanta and will arrive here in San Antonio about 1 in the morning. Sounds tired and weak. I guess that's what a week of binge drinking does to a person. He is sober, and I can tell the depth of the apology is going to be world-class. Does the madness continue where it left o...	Diva	12	626	Oct 31, 2009 by Rocky38
	New here...Adult Child of an A (Preview) Not sure where to begin but my father is turns 80 soon and as long as I recall he has been a heavy drinker. He has been the life of the party and is very well liked. With age his behavior when he drinks has become more of a problem. He is not an abusive drinker and has been a functional A and a good provider and...	KC7411	3	602	Oct 31, 2009 by maresie
	I just don't know... (Preview) After my A's last relapse, I realized how desperately I needed to work my program. The more I focus on me, the more I question whether or not I will able to fully heal me, while still in a relationship. I have asked him for space. The truth is I don't know what space looks like except I said I needed the room to...	RunnerChick	5	657	Oct 31, 2009 by blender_girl
	Almost Buzzard Bait... (Preview) Aloha All...glad to be here and have you all a part of my recovery. I was having you all as a part of my recovery this morning, checking in before I started my chores. Making a mental list of what I would be working on just for today and my spouse decided to mention that one thing I might work on was getting off...	Jerry F	13	621	Oct 31, 2009 by Maria123
	son is alcoholic,daught-in-law is hurting. (Preview) hi all, if you remember me, my dh is an active alcoholic. i do my program and take care of myself. for the most part, i am happy in my relationship with dh. yesterday i was visiting daughter-in-law. she was in tears. my 33yr. old son is also alcoholic. he is a mean drunk. they have a 10 yr. old da...	debhud	2	557	Oct 31, 2009 by Sincerely
	sharing at f2f meetings (Preview) Last night at my meeting I was wondering why I could not find it in me to share. It was the same as the meeting the night before. I have noticed that if the topic is not focused on talking about the A in our life, I don't know what to talk about. I find it here too. I don't know how to share what is actually going on...	Gailey	4	631	Oct 30, 2009 by abbyal
	Talking again (Preview) Well, since I could not talk to my husband I wrote him a letter and in it jotted all the things down that were bothering me, and left it on the table for him to read. He responded by coming and saying "okay, lets try it again" and he also brought it up that I started it, so what really upsets me is t...	dori711	5	582	Oct 30, 2009 by Debilyn
	What to Expect at Your First Al-Anon Meeting (Preview) Friends, in my non-anonymous life I have been blessed with success as a freelance journalist. Most of my writing is bread-and-butter non-fiction (yawn) such as newspaper articles, etc. But once in a while I get an opportunity to write about what I love. One such article I wrote recently is about a...	Goodgran	14	3460	Oct 30, 2009 by sunshine231401
	Amazed!! (Preview) Last night, my AH told me he wants to go to an AA meeting!!! This is a huge, incredible step for him, as he has been in denial for a long time. I told him I was so proud of him, that it took a lot of courage for him to say that. I ended up telling him that I've been to open AA meetings before (he knows I'm in Al-ano...	cdngirl	5	588	Oct 30, 2009 by Jerry F
	functioning alcoholics (Preview) After a month of reading posts and attending a few f2f meetings, I'm amazed at how much I have learned on how to cope and how well it works if you do it. I haven't seen much on functioning alcoholics which is what I think my AH must be - professional job, hard worker, church involvement, responsible...	artie	8	701	Oct 30, 2009 by canadianguy
	Is this normal? (Preview) I have dated my boyfriend for 5 years now. Within the first two years his brother died of an overdose and his dad was diagnosed with ALS and died soon after. I think his problems were there before the deaths in his family. He does not have a job and lives in an empty house they are trying to sell that his dad us...	yelhsaa	7	687	Oct 30, 2009 by canadianguy
	Imperfection (Preview) I have had a hectic couple of days. I pulled a neck muscle and am in a lot of pain from that. I spent the two days in bed because I could barely move my neck. I didn't go to work I was going to but then my mom convinced me it was not a brilliant idea. Considering I don't want to hurt myself worse. I am worried my aunt...	christinajeanne	3	530	Oct 30, 2009 by Beth 123
	Had to file Order of Protection against ex-husband. (Preview) I had to file an order of protection against my ex-husband yesterday (we were divorced Aug. 25th) after he let himself into my home while my mother and I were gone, without my permission. I feel like this is somewhat my fault because I had let him back into my life somewhat lately and was considering a rel...	Overcome	8	771	Oct 29, 2009 by Jen
	why do you think our program works? (Preview) So, I am sitting here in the window seat of my place. there are boxes all over and I need to finish the move-in, but the sun is out and this is a nice place to sit and count my good fortune. My man is out of town for work, and he has not had any weed since he's been gone. I'ts been over a month for him. He is second gue...	woopsadaisy	3	615	Oct 29, 2009 by Jen
	How Do I Stop Being Manipulated??? Anger repeat bad choices (Preview) Here I am, 46 and still going thru all of this. I have been in counseling for 20 years, done ACA, and it seems like I am making WORSE choices than before. The last two were by far the worst. A physically abusive meth user, and then just a complete control freak whom I suspect has a sex addiction. He cheat...	Rhonda B	6	4512	Oct 29, 2009 by Missy 1
	Reflections and looking back.... (Preview) Id like to first thank all of you yesterday that took the time to read and/or respond to my post. Yesterday was one of the most difficult days I have had in some time. After reading the many responses and thinking on things, I do believe that it is a combination of things that triggered me yesterday....	shellyj123	1	515	Oct 29, 2009 by Jozie
	Update since Daughter's Accident (Preview) (((((((Hello Friends))))))))), Well she got her stiches out hope it looks worse than it's gonna be....she had a brain scan, MRI, Friday we go back to trama clinic in Pittsburgh....she has discovered some new problems today....she can't go to the bathroom is having a hard time peeing.....it has bee...	Andrea12	5	762	Oct 29, 2009 by Debilyn
	new beginnings (Preview) I was in the doctors office yesterday in a small waiting room with a dysfunctional family. The tension was incredible, there was a "crisis" every other second and none of them had any boundaries. They were oblivious to the fact their conduct bothered anyone they felt it was their stage to...	maresie	3	475	Oct 29, 2009 by emma
	I need your opinions. (Preview) Alcoholic partner who fled to London last Friday afternoon is holed up in a hotel in Manchester, England. I have spoken to him twice. He has been drinking - now it is Wednesday, but has had nothing to eat, has not come out of the room, has not bathed or shaved, and feels and sounds awful. He is nearly 70....	Diva	13	661	Oct 29, 2009 by Karilynn
	God is Good ALL THE TIME!! (Preview) Hello Everyone! Just wanted to share and hopefully encourage others ---------- Many times in life (especially life w/an A) there have been times when I felt like I was drowning. I have realized that GOD has never let me go under the water. Even though I thought I may have been downing, I never was. Ea...	Sincerely	2	474	Oct 29, 2009 by ljc
	Desperately In need of some ESH, a real struggle today. Need some help... (Preview) Well those of you who have followed my story for the last year know where I am-I'm trying really hard today to trust that I am right where I am MEANT to be but I just can't seem to do it and keep my focus. I have been struggling BADLY for the past two weeks with issues with wanting to contact the EXABF. This mor...	shellyj123	7	578	Oct 29, 2009 by maresie
	Facebook (Me too Karilynn) (Preview) So I too have joined the Facebook Craze - anyone wanting to "friend" me send me a PM and I'll get you my email address so that you can send me a friend request!!! Wishing you day that is Happy, Joyous and FREE!! HUGS, Rita	Rita G	0	311	Oct 29, 2009 by Rita G
	HP is watching over me (Preview) All I can say about the past couple of days is "Wow" and "Thank You". I've had no more ugly confrontations with AH - he's been quite cooperative and is essentially out of the house now. I've had a couple of friends who know about the situation reach out to me and offer me assistance...	blender_girl	2	492	Oct 29, 2009 by shellyj123
	November Business Meeting Agenda, November 1, 2009 9 p.m. Eastern (Preview) October Agenda Review of October minutes Review of op meeting schedule Old Business Op duties Idle times New Business Op Liason Committee Please pm me if you have any additional items Baffled (Courage) -- Edited by Baffled on Wednesday 28th of October 2009 10:11:13 PM	Baffled	0	523	Oct 28, 2009 by Baffled
	Son is alive today... (Preview) Just left the ER where my eldest son was xrayed and cat scans run after having totaled his car against a bridge. Dr. told him, you were very lucky you survived and aren't paralyzed or dead. He went on to say, if you keep this up you will be dead. You will die. Just for today, I still have my son. I pray this w...	Peggy7	17	763	Oct 28, 2009 by blender_girl
	Update (long) (Preview) The Ex AH is still on the couch and he has been a help around the house. It has created some conflict with the kids to have him back around and in a position to tell them what to do. They don't like having another adult to answer to, especially considering he's there and I'm gone so much. The pretty much ha...	carolinagirl	3	475	Oct 28, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Reactions (Preview) I am having trouble knowing whether I am doing the right thing when it comes to my reactions to my AH's drinking/lying/spending/etc. Before alanon, I used to always need to confront him on whatever he did that was wrong, so that he didn't feel like he was getting away with it, and so that he knew I didn't...	cdngirl	10	546	Oct 28, 2009 by cdngirl
	Facebook (Preview) For those of you who want I have finally signed up for a Facebook account. PM me and I'll give you my name. Have a great day all! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	0	460	Oct 28, 2009 by Karilynn
	a letter to my A (Preview) Dear Son, I am writing this email to get some things off my chest. It is for my benefit, not yours. Not sure I will even press the send button. I really think that I am coming to the end of being able to live with your addiction anymore. Drinking or sober, I find it very hard to be in your company. I am becomi...	Gailey	9	731	Oct 28, 2009 by Overcome
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