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Not2bforgot10 · Not2bforgot10

My partner and I got into an argument today about Christmas. I know I shouldn't care, but I am really bothered because over Christmas she wants to go and visit her mother, and at her mother's is where all the issues with addiction are. I am highly uncomfortable. Every time I have visited there, there has...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

During the past two days I have done a lot of reflecting on my personal issues and character "traits" (hate to use the word flaws). I've realized that a lot of my anxiety about my upcoming surgery is more likely than not a product of me NOT being able to be in control.......something I a...

so confused · so confused

Well I guess abit of history, I have been with an alcholic for the last 4 years. It wasn't completely apparent in the beginning, but the last year or so has been very bad. He has had a couple of stints with rehad, in fact just came out today. He is very positive and really wanting to try. Starts his AADAC...

hopeful923 · hopeful923

Well, I am still fairly new to this site and this is only my second posting. I have commented once or twice and I read other people's postings. It's comforting to know other people can relate. I know I need to go to Al-ANON meetings. It's just not that easy...with sharing a car and all with my ABF. The last t...

angel66 · angel66

I need help. I actually need strength. I'm tired of dealing w/ my AH , who promises that he will "really work on" cutting his beer drinking down. He still has an alcoholic personality. He still blames me for everything. I am going to start going to f2f meetings next week but I am so frustr...

codependent_who_knew · codependent_who_knew

Its been along time since I have been here and my story is very long, I will make it short...My husband left last year for two months, went to detox and then a half way house.He also moved in with a woman he met and lived with her for the 4 weeks prior to ending up at my door sick about where he ended up. Had every...

blender_girl · blender_girl

My head knows my AH is ill. My head knows he is manipulative. My head knows he is fearful and that his fear is driving a lot of his behavior. My head knows I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to. My heart is angry and frustrated that he is not rational and that I can't have a meaningful discussio...

codependent_who_knew · codependent_who_knew

My AH has been sober now almost 7 months. This is the 1st time he has been soberin 8.5 years for this long and I know this is WHY he is so UP ON HIMSELF.... and has decided to move out and now wants a divorce. He moved out 2 days ago and is already in a frenzy, cant see the kids, NEEDS a meeting.....really hard on...

Mattie · Mattie

I'm in kind of an unusual position -- I took my codie tendencies to whole new complicated lengths. I had an alcoholic husband, and after a lot of turmoil I realized he wasn't going into recovery and I couldn't take it, and so we split up. I was helped through this by a close friend who was a pillar of AA and...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Especially from the old timer but open to the whole group...Share with me your awarenesses and experiences with denial as you understand it. Please... Mahalo in advance. (((((hugs)))))

inhisarms · inhisarms

So as follow up of my last post, my abf got out of jail yesterday. I went and paid for a hotel for him so he would have a place to sleep until today when he was leaving to treatment and sober living in another town. I talked tohim briefly this morning, to tell him I loved him but not who he was when he used. Tha...

Diva · Diva

Once in a while, as all of you know, I have a bit of a disagreement with one or two of the tenets of AlAnon. Just once in a great while, I ask a question, in all sincerity, hoping all of my family here can enlighten me so that I will see the reasoning. Most times I do; sometimes I do not. I asked yesterday about...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I just received the call after my moring meeting. My spouse and her family have just finished attending to the passing of their mother Olivia and she will be returning to the care of her own when the immediate needs are taken care of. This morning's meeting was on the 11th step. "Sought thru p...

Tracy · Tracy

I find this so hard to do!! I am starting to realsie how much I blame the drinker for, how I whip his self esteem. when I have these realizations i feel terrible about myself. I think I must get away from him LOOK WHAT I AM DOING TO HIM AND HE IS SICK. I really really need to get the focus on me my thoughts, acti...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes weeks come & go but bad days last forever! This is sometimes true for me in my mind--the sick part! I am resigned to the fact that some days are just bad! I know I can start my day over but sometimes I just don't want to. I want to wallow in the sickness of it; you know what I mean? I haven't gotte...

Jerry F · Jerry F

God this program works on you when you work on it. Saturday Morning and the wife has been gone for a week and not because I've had anything to do with it and the pups miss her (I think they do anyway...how do pups show they miss anyone who isn't there when they got you?) but seem to be fine using my body heat at...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Well I went to a meeting last night. cried my way there and home. On the way home though, I had a break through for me. I looked at my thinking with the ex and how I threw him out. The truth was shown to me. My heartbreak? It comes from the backfire of my manipulations. I see now that when I threw him out,...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Danz, I hope you have a very happy birthday and that your day is blessed! Happy Birthday sweet lady! Mandy

gknee · gknee

Hi everyone- Its been a tumultuous week at the homestead- to say the least. My AH lost his job of 18 years on Thursday-- the direct result of drinking and drugging and not going to work. They kept him on because he was a good producer but once his business dried up (and he didn't) they were done with him.I ha...

Becky · Becky

I am new to this source...new to a lot of things as I am finding out. I moved up to NC from FL last year to be with someone who made me happy. As time has gone on, I have found out what his true self is like. He is an angry alcoholic. One who snaps at a split second notice, one who says the most degrading things to m...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

===========================================================Good night. Thank you for helping me get through it, even if it was in my own disfunct...

inhisarms · inhisarms

It has been a week today since XABF was throwin in jail for breaking into my house. Has been a tough week, murphy's law i guess. Everything went wrong this week and I mean I was on overdrive. Work was tough, kids were acting out, even my dog ran away twice. I thought I would be commited. Well, I still got up...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, Tonight is the first night of Chanukah and for all of those out there that celebrate it I wish you a great week. I can't wait to make the latkes for dinner tonight . I am hoping to have a better year than last year. Last year on the last night of Chanukah I almost set the house of fire. It was an almost...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

Hi. I'm Carol and my husband and I live with an a friend. He is sober now, but we are still dealing with issues. the good news is I have learned to be on my own and do things/take care of myself without his help anymore. This way, he is more likely to be able to help me. And I can help him when I am taken care of m...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Hi ... I'm new and this is my first post here. I'm not new to alcoholism. My mom is still an active alcoholic (she was for the majority of my childhood), my ex husband is an alcoholic, and my new husband is in recovery. That's a lot of alcoholism. I've been going to f2f Al Anon meetings for about a year and...

Diva · Diva

Just what COULD happen during detox? THis is a serious question; as most of you know, I had no experience with alcoholism or alcoholics before I became involved with former husband - now partner. His binges last anywhere from three days to a week, and the alcohol he consumes during this time is enorm...

Shaina · Shaina

My fiance has been sober for 6 months. We havent been intimate for 5 months. We always give a quick kiss when we see each other and quick kiss and hug when we leave. No matter if its 5 times a day. When I spent the night after a long trip, the next morning he wanted to do something fun. We got up and went fis...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

I've been in a funk all day. I'm sure it has to do with lots of things but these are the things directly bothering me and I need to vent. Last night I woke up as my AFiance was digging in my purse for a lighter (so he says) to have a cigarette. Yes, I sleep with my purse by the bed now. If it makes me feel better,...

ARSK · ARSK

My first posting My ExABF was an immature alcoholic. This was a new one for me. I had the abusive ABF and an abusive A stepfather. SO I thought I was doing well. This guy drinks but hes a fun alcoholic, later to come to find a functional alcoholic as well. I had some how stayed away from dating anything r...

QOD · QOD

I think the subject line just about sums it up!!!! Wow! Stress of life, of the holidays, of financial woes, of the A's in my life! Calgon take me away!

Dyinginside · Dyinginside

I've tried and tried again, but I just can't NOT react to my ABF who is now sober, but who is just so irrational. I have tried to say to myself 'Ok, it's his illness, he's just learning how to cope with this world without a drink etc"......... But howmuch longer should I blame his rotting brain and may...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Sorry I haven't been here much recently. I have been reading here and there and trying to keep up somewhat, but honestly don't feel I have anything to offer anyone right now. The past month has been so crazy, and I am fighting major depression daily. I'm sure it involves the time of year, missing what I t...

jasobel · jasobel

I felt like I was doing pretty good with my alanon program, detaching from my AS's behavior, letting go and letting god, coping with my obsessive thoughts, not worrying so much about him, taking control over my own self care and my own life. Then a close friend who has cancer found out her cancer is back....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Wednesday Night Turning Point Al-Anon Family Group...home meeting for me and to night very special as one of the members did the meeting on the subject of fear. It very quickly became fear using the tools of meditation and prayer. I am soooo grateful again for that meeting subject because of the memb...

Rora · Rora

I'm trying to figure out my being unhappy with my Sponsor. First, I think she talks too much ... about herself. I feel like when I am trying to discuss how I feel, she is looking at me, but waiting for the moment that she can jump in with a response. And sometimes my ideas are incomplete, then I have to int...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

As I posted a few weeks ago my husband relapsed. He is drinkng again, but since he hasn't done drugs yet he thinks he's in total control. He is obviously not, he drinks a lot, I guess he thinks normal people drink 6 days a week and have a glass of wine while cutting their hair I'm pissed right know cause he cam...

lolli09 · lolli09

Update on Need objective feedback, I ultimately called and left message that I agreed and he should take care of himself, take all the time he needed then his last message said he was soooo stressed over work and thought he might even be in a depression and he would contact me after the "Holidays&q...

John · John

Rose and John Freifeld Wish Every Member of Miracles In Progress a Happy Holiday! Photo taken 12-6-09 Toys for Tots Bikers Run - Wilmington, NC

blender_girl · blender_girl

...and not having much success. Anyone out there in MIP-land have a copy or point me to where I can get one? Thanks in advance! bg

lacewing · lacewing

Hello everyone! I would like to thank all of you whom offered up prayers for My friend and fellow Al-Anoner, Michael (HeSees) from our Chat room. He contacted me yesterday...is doing well, albeit 'feels like I have been through the mill'. He is up and exercising, walking up and down the halls, and ant...

RLC · RLC

If there is no problem with my computer or MIP then it has been almost 20 hours since the last topic was started from anyone. That has to be a first. And, for someone to tries to see the positive in everything I guess that "Ain't All Bad". HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 9th of Decembe...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Something occurred to me yesterday - I've only really been trying to detach from my AH's "bad" behavior. You know what I'm talking about - verbal abuse, lack of interest in our kids' activities, overall irresponsible behavior etc... I noticed I got so wrapped up in his "Mr. Hyde&qu...

jdaniel · jdaniel

Hi, I'm new to this (just signed up) and need some advice. I've been to some al-anon meetings over the past few years but things are heightening. My mother is an alcoholic - has admited it in the past, but never engaged with recovery. Last weekend we went out for a meal, with 4 of us there, she was the only on...

maresie · maresie

There is a very good memoir out at the moment called "Lit" by Mary Karr. Mary describes her alcoholism, relapses and eventual sobriety insightfully and this was a revelation to me. I know while I drank socially I never depended on alcohol the way an alcoholic did. I also know that I made b...

Dyinginside · Dyinginside

http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/

AlaMom · AlaMom

It has been yet again so long since posting to this board. Time constraints & busy lifestyle I use as my excuses not to visit more often both on MIP & f2f meetings. Poor excuses not to take care of spiritual & emotional well being for sure. However, if there is one thing that I know is that I...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I have an outdoor Christmas tree that I bought last year - I had been wanting it for a long time and found it on sale for a great price. I decided to keep it in the garage after Christmas and didn't bother to take it apart. Unfortunately, my husband (while driving drunk) ran into it and ruined it (most likel...

jasobel · jasobel

Hi all - I haven't posted in a while but am back - had the stomach flu which was nasty. I have posted a bit about my boyfriend who left his sobriety, left me and went to live with someone else for 3 weeks on a huge drinking binge. Well now he is back living with me and sober and going to daily AA meetings. He is do...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

HATE IT!! Hate what alcohol does to those addicted it to it. HATE what it does to those around the addict. AH was vomiting all day yesterday and, as a consequence had seizure/fit last night. Scared h*ll out of my poor son. I am getting used to them (HATE that I'm getting used to them) Did not call ambulance...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I went and saw my convict AH in the big house yesterday. He came out and looked different. Something was wrong. I have known him 39 years. I mean involved in every way. I asked about his cell mate if he had gotten out. He did. Then he turned bright red, I thought he was going to cry. I want you to know this man he...

essgee1952 · essgee1952

For the past few years, I've done the minimum when it comes to Christmas decorating. No help from AH, and fewer and fewer people coming by, even his kids. You know... Earlier this year, I reconnected with an old friend, who has been through some stuff the last couple of years and come out the other side...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, I haven't posted recently. I have been a bit busy and trying to there is so much happening that I don't always know how to slow down the thoughts enough to get them to come out a few at a time let alone one at a time. Today was a weird day for me. I work for a social services agency. We provided case man...

supermom · supermom

Hello all. I have mentioned before that I am not the "tech-y" kind of person. What does "ESH" stand for? Thanks for the help.

inhisarms · inhisarms

I have lived my life on a roller coaster for 2 years. My xabf was and is the love of my life. He is the most amazing, intelligent, kind, genuine and loving person i have ever met when he is sober. Problem is he is an alcoholic/addict and becomes the exact opposite when he uses. He has done AA too many times...

smy922000 · smy922000

My husband is an active alcoholic. We have been married 17 years. He has tried a variety of programs, including AA and still drinks (he is not currently in AA). I have been to Al Anon but have not found that it helps me dealing with just interacting with an alcoholic. He wants to stop drinking but "c...

faith432 · faith432

Well I am new to the message board and to Al-Anon. I have been married to my A not alcoholic but ADDICT!!! He could be an alcoholic but his preference ...the preference that has ruined our life is CRACK. My A was clean and sober for 10 1/2 years 1994-2005. He gained his sobriety by accepting Jesus as hi...

QOD · QOD

It has been a really really long time since I have posted here. Life has been rolling along for me. I have been taking my ups and downs pretty well I think. Let's see, to sum things up: My exAH and I have been back to dating since Oct 2008. He lives with his grandma & I live in my house with our kids whom...

Nodaybut2day · Nodaybut2day

Hi all, I'm writing this because I have doubts about whether or not my X is actually an alcoholic or just an "alcohol abuser", as in someone who drinks heavily or moderately depending on the situation, but who is able to stop at some point. The reason I ask is because lately, since I have left m...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So the ex AH has been staying on the upstairs couch for about 6 weeks now. I have had another issue with oldest daughter who will probably be going to wilderness camp within the next 2 months and because of that position I cannot in good conscience rely on her to take care of her younger brother and siste...

ally · ally

Guys As i continue to grow and find a new confidence in myself in ways i never believed possible. Life is what i'm finally allowing it to be for me. I'm not overly confident. I'm very easy going, down to earth and i love to laugh and make others laugh too. People call me the likes of "crazygirl or n...

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	Fears. (Preview) My partner and I got into an argument today about Christmas. I know I shouldn't care, but I am really bothered because over Christmas she wants to go and visit her mother, and at her mother's is where all the issues with addiction are. I am highly uncomfortable. Every time I have visited there, there has...	Not2bforgot10	24	1571	Dec 15, 2009 by Not2bforgot10
	How does one Let Go and NOT take it back???? I'd love to hear some ESH on this.... (Preview) During the past two days I have done a lot of reflecting on my personal issues and character "traits" (hate to use the word flaws). I've realized that a lot of my anxiety about my upcoming surgery is more likely than not a product of me NOT being able to be in control.......something I a...	shellyj123	1	908	Dec 15, 2009 by kitty
	Soooooooooo Confused and need help I guess. (Preview) Well I guess abit of history, I have been with an alcholic for the last 4 years. It wasn't completely apparent in the beginning, but the last year or so has been very bad. He has had a couple of stints with rehad, in fact just came out today. He is very positive and really wanting to try. Starts his AADAC...	so confused	5	722	Dec 15, 2009 by wolfpup
	I think I am going to leave.... (Preview) Well, I am still fairly new to this site and this is only my second posting. I have commented once or twice and I read other people's postings. It's comforting to know other people can relate. I know I need to go to Al-ANON meetings. It's just not that easy...with sharing a car and all with my ABF. The last t...	hopeful923	8	985	Dec 15, 2009 by intothewoods
	Desperately Need ESH (Preview) I need help. I actually need strength. I'm tired of dealing w/ my AH , who promises that he will "really work on" cutting his beer drinking down. He still has an alcoholic personality. He still blames me for everything. I am going to start going to f2f meetings next week but I am so frustr...	angel66	4	796	Dec 14, 2009 by maresie
	Blind sided (Preview) Its been along time since I have been here and my story is very long, I will make it short...My husband left last year for two months, went to detox and then a half way house.He also moved in with a woman he met and lived with her for the 4 weeks prior to ending up at my door sick about where he ended up. Had every...	codependent_who_knew	4	922	Dec 14, 2009 by canadianguy
	Reconciling My Heart with My Head - Simple, but NOT Easy (Preview) My head knows my AH is ill. My head knows he is manipulative. My head knows he is fearful and that his fear is driving a lot of his behavior. My head knows I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to. My heart is angry and frustrated that he is not rational and that I can't have a meaningful discussio...	blender_girl	1	651	Dec 14, 2009 by hotrod
	Curious....Sober for the 1st time in 8 .5 years (Preview) My AH has been sober now almost 7 months. This is the 1st time he has been soberin 8.5 years for this long and I know this is WHY he is so UP ON HIMSELF.... and has decided to move out and now wants a divorce. He moved out 2 days ago and is already in a frenzy, cant see the kids, NEEDS a meeting.....really hard on...	codependent_who_knew	3	950	Dec 14, 2009 by Jerry F
	Could use some ESH (Preview) I'm in kind of an unusual position -- I took my codie tendencies to whole new complicated lengths. I had an alcoholic husband, and after a lot of turmoil I realized he wasn't going into recovery and I couldn't take it, and so we split up. I was helped through this by a close friend who was a pillar of AA and...	Mattie	3	561	Dec 14, 2009 by abbyal
	Reaching again... (Preview) Especially from the old timer but open to the whole group...Share with me your awarenesses and experiences with denial as you understand it. Please... Mahalo in advance. (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	10	1007	Dec 14, 2009 by canadianguy
	After tears and sadness , now im mad rollercoaster is a ride I hate (Preview) So as follow up of my last post, my abf got out of jail yesterday. I went and paid for a hotel for him so he would have a place to sleep until today when he was leaving to treatment and sober living in another town. I talked tohim briefly this morning, to tell him I loved him but not who he was when he used. Tha...	inhisarms	5	925	Dec 14, 2009 by wildthang86
	Deleting posts..... (Preview) Once in a while, as all of you know, I have a bit of a disagreement with one or two of the tenets of AlAnon. Just once in a great while, I ask a question, in all sincerity, hoping all of my family here can enlighten me so that I will see the reasoning. Most times I do; sometimes I do not. I asked yesterday about...	Diva	14	1148	Dec 14, 2009 by LarryWhiteford
	Life continues (Preview) I just received the call after my moring meeting. My spouse and her family have just finished attending to the passing of their mother Olivia and she will be returning to the care of her own when the immediate needs are taken care of. This morning's meeting was on the 11th step. "Sought thru p...	Jerry F	9	939	Dec 14, 2009 by blender_girl
	focusing on self pick up the mirror (Preview) I find this so hard to do!! I am starting to realsie how much I blame the drinker for, how I whip his self esteem. when I have these realizations i feel terrible about myself. I think I must get away from him LOOK WHAT I AM DOING TO HIM AND HE IS SICK. I really really need to get the focus on me my thoughts, acti...	Tracy	3	849	Dec 13, 2009 by Jerry F
	WHAT IS A WEEK WITHOUT A FEW BAD DAYS! (Preview) Sometimes weeks come & go but bad days last forever! This is sometimes true for me in my mind--the sick part! I am resigned to the fact that some days are just bad! I know I can start my day over but sometimes I just don't want to. I want to wallow in the sickness of it; you know what I mean? I haven't gotte...	Hoot Nanny	1	744	Dec 13, 2009 by Jerry F
	I'd Like to complain but forgot how anymore.... (Preview) God this program works on you when you work on it. Saturday Morning and the wife has been gone for a week and not because I've had anything to do with it and the pups miss her (I think they do anyway...how do pups show they miss anyone who isn't there when they got you?) but seem to be fine using my body heat at...	Jerry F	5	1412	Dec 13, 2009 by Loupiness
	I got some new alanon glasses last night...I saw myself (Preview) Well I went to a meeting last night. cried my way there and home. On the way home though, I had a break through for me. I looked at my thinking with the ex and how I threw him out. The truth was shown to me. My heartbreak? It comes from the backfire of my manipulations. I see now that when I threw him out,...	fishinmama	2	706	Dec 13, 2009 by hotrod
	Happy Birthday Danz123 (Preview) Danz, I hope you have a very happy birthday and that your day is blessed! Happy Birthday sweet lady! Mandy	Mandy123	7	967	Dec 13, 2009 by Andrea12
	fall out of logical consequences (Preview) Hi everyone- Its been a tumultuous week at the homestead- to say the least. My AH lost his job of 18 years on Thursday-- the direct result of drinking and drugging and not going to work. They kept him on because he was a good producer but once his business dried up (and he didn't) they were done with him.I ha...	gknee	2	1009	Dec 12, 2009 by Jerry F
	Help (Preview) I am new to this source...new to a lot of things as I am finding out. I moved up to NC from FL last year to be with someone who made me happy. As time has gone on, I have found out what his true self is like. He is an angry alcoholic. One who snaps at a split second notice, one who says the most degrading things to m...	Becky	4	858	Dec 12, 2009 by gknee
	Analyze THIS! (Preview) ===========================================================Good night. Thank you for helping me get through it, even if it was in my own disfunct...	FlyingSquirrel	6	906	Dec 12, 2009 by Rora
	I am doing too well, it scares me (Preview) It has been a week today since XABF was throwin in jail for breaking into my house. Has been a tough week, murphy's law i guess. Everything went wrong this week and I mean I was on overdrive. Work was tough, kids were acting out, even my dog ran away twice. I thought I would be commited. Well, I still got up...	inhisarms	2	959	Dec 12, 2009 by kitty
	Happy Chanukah (Preview) Hi family, Tonight is the first night of Chanukah and for all of those out there that celebrate it I wish you a great week. I can't wait to make the latkes for dinner tonight . I am hoping to have a better year than last year. Last year on the last night of Chanukah I almost set the house of fire. It was an almost...	Mandy123	6	734	Dec 12, 2009 by Karilynn
	hello :) (Preview) Hi. I'm Carol and my husband and I live with an a friend. He is sober now, but we are still dealing with issues. the good news is I have learned to be on my own and do things/take care of myself without his help anymore. This way, he is more likely to be able to help me. And I can help him when I am taken care of m...	Carol_Lynn	3	829	Dec 11, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	New and could use some of your ESH (Preview) Hi ... I'm new and this is my first post here. I'm not new to alcoholism. My mom is still an active alcoholic (she was for the majority of my childhood), my ex husband is an alcoholic, and my new husband is in recovery. That's a lot of alcoholism. I've been going to f2f Al Anon meetings for about a year and...	White Rabbit	5	879	Dec 11, 2009 by White Rabbit
	question about detox... (Preview) Just what COULD happen during detox? THis is a serious question; as most of you know, I had no experience with alcoholism or alcoholics before I became involved with former husband - now partner. His binges last anywhere from three days to a week, and the alcohol he consumes during this time is enorm...	Diva	9	776	Dec 11, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Dry Drunks and Affection (Preview) My fiance has been sober for 6 months. We havent been intimate for 5 months. We always give a quick kiss when we see each other and quick kiss and hug when we leave. No matter if its 5 times a day. When I spent the night after a long trip, the next morning he wanted to do something fun. We got up and went fis...	Shaina	8	1130	Dec 11, 2009 by Shaina
	In a funk today (Preview) I've been in a funk all day. I'm sure it has to do with lots of things but these are the things directly bothering me and I need to vent. Last night I woke up as my AFiance was digging in my purse for a lighter (so he says) to have a cigarette. Yes, I sleep with my purse by the bed now. If it makes me feel better,...	Ragdolls	5	848	Dec 11, 2009 by phoenix
	New to this site (Preview) My first posting My ExABF was an immature alcoholic. This was a new one for me. I had the abusive ABF and an abusive A stepfather. SO I thought I was doing well. This guy drinks but hes a fun alcoholic, later to come to find a functional alcoholic as well. I had some how stayed away from dating anything r...	ARSK	3	773	Dec 11, 2009 by ARSK
	Oh the Stress!!! (Preview) I think the subject line just about sums it up!!!! Wow! Stress of life, of the holidays, of financial woes, of the A's in my life! Calgon take me away!	QOD	2	740	Dec 11, 2009 by QOD
	IMPOSSIBLE not to react!!!!!!!! (Preview) I've tried and tried again, but I just can't NOT react to my ABF who is now sober, but who is just so irrational. I have tried to say to myself 'Ok, it's his illness, he's just learning how to cope with this world without a drink etc"......... But howmuch longer should I blame his rotting brain and may...	Dyinginside	9	1222	Dec 11, 2009 by Dyinginside
	I really just want to give up........I don't know how much more I can handle.... (Preview) Sorry I haven't been here much recently. I have been reading here and there and trying to keep up somewhat, but honestly don't feel I have anything to offer anyone right now. The past month has been so crazy, and I am fighting major depression daily. I'm sure it involves the time of year, missing what I t...	shellyj123	2	1015	Dec 10, 2009 by Aloha
	Finding peace in the program in a c (Preview) I felt like I was doing pretty good with my alanon program, detaching from my AS's behavior, letting go and letting god, coping with my obsessive thoughts, not worrying so much about him, taking control over my own self care and my own life. Then a close friend who has cancer found out her cancer is back....	jasobel	2	1058	Dec 10, 2009 by jasobel
	The meeting was on fear... (Preview) Wednesday Night Turning Point Al-Anon Family Group...home meeting for me and to night very special as one of the members did the meeting on the subject of fear. It very quickly became fear using the tools of meditation and prayer. I am soooo grateful again for that meeting subject because of the memb...	Jerry F	5	1593	Dec 10, 2009 by Maria123
	I'm unhappy with my Sponsor... (Preview) I'm trying to figure out my being unhappy with my Sponsor. First, I think she talks too much ... about herself. I feel like when I am trying to discuss how I feel, she is looking at me, but waiting for the moment that she can jump in with a response. And sometimes my ideas are incomplete, then I have to int...	Rora	7	1191	Dec 10, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Tired (Preview) As I posted a few weeks ago my husband relapsed. He is drinkng again, but since he hasn't done drugs yet he thinks he's in total control. He is obviously not, he drinks a lot, I guess he thinks normal people drink 6 days a week and have a glass of wine while cutting their hair I'm pissed right know cause he cam...	Priscilla83	6	848	Dec 10, 2009 by blender_girl
	Update on "need objective feedback" (Preview) Update on Need objective feedback, I ultimately called and left message that I agreed and he should take care of himself, take all the time he needed then his last message said he was soooo stressed over work and thought he might even be in a depression and he would contact me after the "Holidays&q...	lolli09	6	929	Dec 10, 2009 by lolli09
	Happy Holidays! (Preview) *Rose and John Freifeld Wish Every Member of Miracles In Progress a Happy Holiday!* Photo taken 12-6-09 Toys for Tots Bikers Run - Wilmington, NC	John	7	913	Dec 10, 2009 by Karilynn
	Looking for "Mommy, What's Drunk" pamphlet (Preview) ...and not having much success. Anyone out there in MIP-land have a copy or point me to where I can get one? Thanks in advance! bg	blender_girl	5	1694	Dec 10, 2009 by blender_girl
	Update on my friend Michael - whom I posted asking for a prayer... (Preview) Hello everyone! I would like to thank all of you whom offered up prayers for My friend and fellow Al-Anoner, Michael (HeSees) from our Chat room. He contacted me yesterday...is doing well, albeit 'feels like I have been through the mill'. He is up and exercising, walking up and down the halls, and ant...	lacewing	4	781	Dec 10, 2009 by lacewing
	20 hours Since The Last Topic Started !! That's A First I Think? (Preview) If there is no problem with my computer or MIP then it has been almost 20 hours since the last topic was started from anyone. That has to be a first. And, for someone to tries to see the positive in everything I guess that "Ain't All Bad". HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 9th of Decembe...	RLC	2	716	Dec 10, 2009 by canadianguy
	Detaching from the "good" behavior (Preview) Something occurred to me yesterday - I've only really been trying to detach from my AH's "bad" behavior. You know what I'm talking about - verbal abuse, lack of interest in our kids' activities, overall irresponsible behavior etc... I noticed I got so wrapped up in his "Mr. Hyde&qu...	blender_girl	7	1461	Dec 10, 2009 by Tracy
	An evening with my A. mother (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this (just signed up) and need some advice. I've been to some al-anon meetings over the past few years but things are heightening. My mother is an alcoholic - has admited it in the past, but never engaged with recovery. Last weekend we went out for a meal, with 4 of us there, she was the only on...	jdaniel	2	903	Dec 10, 2009 by Jerry F
	Recommendation for understanding the alcoholic. (Preview) There is a very good memoir out at the moment called "Lit" by Mary Karr. Mary describes her alcoholism, relapses and eventual sobriety insightfully and this was a revelation to me. I know while I drank socially I never depended on alcohol the way an alcoholic did. I also know that I made b...	maresie	5	970	Dec 10, 2009 by mc3
	Great info on how to detach (Preview) http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/	Dyinginside	9	1519	Dec 10, 2009 by mc3
	Sea of Chaos (Preview) It has been yet again so long since posting to this board. Time constraints & busy lifestyle I use as my excuses not to visit more often both on MIP & f2f meetings. Poor excuses not to take care of spiritual & emotional well being for sure. However, if there is one thing that I know is that I...	AlaMom	4	1124	Dec 9, 2009 by maresie
	Christmas Resentment (Preview) I have an outdoor Christmas tree that I bought last year - I had been wanting it for a long time and found it on sale for a great price. I decided to keep it in the garage after Christmas and didn't bother to take it apart. Unfortunately, my husband (while driving drunk) ran into it and ruined it (most likel...	N8SMOM	6	1148	Dec 9, 2009 by N8SMOM
	New Sobriety Behavior Confusing (Preview) Hi all - I haven't posted in a while but am back - had the stomach flu which was nasty. I have posted a bit about my boyfriend who left his sobriety, left me and went to live with someone else for 3 weeks on a huge drinking binge. Well now he is back living with me and sober and going to daily AA meetings. He is do...	jasobel	3	1272	Dec 9, 2009 by Jerry F
	Hate it! (Preview) HATE IT!! Hate what alcohol does to those addicted it to it. HATE what it does to those around the addict. AH was vomiting all day yesterday and, as a consequence had seizure/fit last night. Scared h*ll out of my poor son. I am getting used to them (HATE that I'm getting used to them) Did not call ambulance...	Tattyhead	6	1097	Dec 9, 2009 by Tattyhead
	?Another bad addict in prison situation. (Preview) I went and saw my convict AH in the big house yesterday. He came out and looked different. Something was wrong. I have known him 39 years. I mean involved in every way. I asked about his cell mate if he had gotten out. He did. Then he turned bright red, I thought he was going to cry. I want you to know this man he...	Debilyn	5	851	Dec 9, 2009 by maresie
	I Decorated For Me! (Preview) For the past few years, I've done the minimum when it comes to Christmas decorating. No help from AH, and fewer and fewer people coming by, even his kids. You know... Earlier this year, I reconnected with an old friend, who has been through some stuff the last couple of years and come out the other side...	essgee1952	8	900	Dec 8, 2009 by lolli09
	Giving what I can, and getting so much more (Preview) Hi family, I haven't posted recently. I have been a bit busy and trying to there is so much happening that I don't always know how to slow down the thoughts enough to get them to come out a few at a time let alone one at a time. Today was a weird day for me. I work for a social services agency. We provided case man...	Mandy123	1	599	Dec 8, 2009 by Maria123
	ESH question (Preview) Hello all. I have mentioned before that I am not the "tech-y" kind of person. What does "ESH" stand for? Thanks for the help.	supermom	1	487	Dec 8, 2009 by Mandy123
	The roller coaster came to a crashing halt (Preview) I have lived my life on a roller coaster for 2 years. My xabf was and is the love of my life. He is the most amazing, intelligent, kind, genuine and loving person i have ever met when he is sober. Problem is he is an alcoholic/addict and becomes the exact opposite when he uses. He has done AA too many times...	inhisarms	9	1324	Dec 8, 2009 by Dyinginside
	Confused... dry drunk behavior? Please help (Preview) My husband is an active alcoholic. We have been married 17 years. He has tried a variety of programs, including AA and still drinks (he is not currently in AA). I have been to Al Anon but have not found that it helps me dealing with just interacting with an alcoholic. He wants to stop drinking but "c...	smy922000	12	1764	Dec 8, 2009 by Dyinginside
	New to admitting I am co-dependant...WHAT!!!REALLY!!! (Preview) Well I am new to the message board and to Al-Anon. I have been married to my A not alcoholic but ADDICT!!! He could be an alcoholic but his preference ...the preference that has ruined our life is CRACK. My A was clean and sober for 10 1/2 years 1994-2005. He gained his sobriety by accepting Jesus as hi...	faith432	4	959	Dec 8, 2009 by Jerry F
	I'm Back!!! And boy has life been crazy! (Preview) It has been a really really long time since I have posted here. Life has been rolling along for me. I have been taking my ups and downs pretty well I think. Let's see, to sum things up: My exAH and I have been back to dating since Oct 2008. He lives with his grandma & I live in my house with our kids whom...	QOD	2	656	Dec 8, 2009 by QOD
	Can a drinker stop drinking? (Preview) Hi all, I'm writing this because I have doubts about whether or not my X is actually an alcoholic or just an "alcohol abuser", as in someone who drinks heavily or moderately depending on the situation, but who is able to stop at some point. The reason I ask is because lately, since I have left m...	Nodaybut2day	10	1464	Dec 8, 2009 by Nodaybut2day
	My latest dilemma (Preview) So the ex AH has been staying on the upstairs couch for about 6 weeks now. I have had another issue with oldest daughter who will probably be going to wilderness camp within the next 2 months and because of that position I cannot in good conscience rely on her to take care of her younger brother and siste...	carolinagirl	6	907	Dec 8, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	I Have A Question (Preview) Guys As i continue to grow and find a new confidence in myself in ways i never believed possible. Life is what i'm finally allowing it to be for me. I'm not overly confident. I'm very easy going, down to earth and i love to laugh and make others laugh too. People call me the likes of "crazygirl or n...	ally	8	774	Dec 8, 2009 by Mattie
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