Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wyola · wyola

My ABF will not talk to me right now because the last two times we drank together I knew I didn't want to and couldn't handle it. We decided to hang out with our friends and then meet up later...by the time we met up he had been passed out on the bar for almost an hour. His friends know this is getting old, but...

bernadette158 · bernadette158

I've been friends with this man who has been in AA for five years. We met fours years ago and were just friends for three years. However I didn't know he was in the program until about a year and a half ago. I was aware the whole time that he didn't drink but I didn't know why. However he did tell me his...

abbyal · abbyal

LIVE AND LET LIVE THE first part of this slogan tell us to live, However living before Al-Anon meant worrying about the alcoholic , obsessing about our problems and trying to find perfect solutions--- abandoning ourselves in the process. Were we living , or were we allowing people and situations to...

Festfan · Festfan

So, the event that triggered me to turn to Al Anon and begin to accept that I was powerless was (not surprisingly) New Years Day. I was so angry about how my ABF behaved in front of my friends at NYE that I didnt even want to see him for the rest of the weekend. I was laying in bed, thinking of what to say to get...

fishinmama · fishinmama

I spoke with an old dear friend over Christmas. She shared with me that her husband was drinking too much and it was getting difficult for her to handle her situation. I have spoken to her about alanon in the past although I don't think she has introduced herself to it yet. I advised her of this message...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Why is it that I have such a hard time picking up the phone and calling my Al-Anon friends when times get tough? I'll call my parents, my cousin, my friends. . . but not my program friends. I know that they are the ones I SHOULD be calling, but I just can't bring myself to do it. WHY? Any suggestions on how to ge...

Lindajean · Lindajean

Newbie here but not to the alanon program. Moved back to the midwest because of lonliness. Thought living next to the parents and helping them out whould be good for me. Dad is active alcoholic and mom is bigtime enabler. I basically moved back because I ran from another alcoholic marraige. When i get...

serching-sandy · serching-sandy

But how can I avoid the fight.. I have talked to my AH several times about going to a f2f meeting, and everytime it ends with me being blamed (nothing new there) guilt trip.. or him getting drunk. I know it is next to impossible to have a conversation with him. but I don't want me going to cause termoil for my...

AlaMom · AlaMom

will not take me where the hand of God cannot protect me. As I sit at my desk at work, our company is about 15 minutes away from an announcement that they are closing the doors. I am saddened by this because I can honestly say that of all the jobs I have had I really enjoyed this one and loved to come to work. I...

cdngirl · cdngirl

AH and I have spent days talking about separation. I have been so unhappy. It's been almost 6 months since I started al-anon and I'm trying to detach from his drinking and find my boundaries. But deep down I just feel that he can never be the partner that I want and need. I want to have children one day,...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

We had our very first step meeting Friday night-which I lead and it was awesome! We took turns reading Step One from Paths to Recovery and then at the end I "passed the basket" so to speak (it was more like a bad-lol) with all the questions from the end of the step and everyone picked a question...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I am in so much pain that I am ready to surrender to the program and to all the suggestions - yet AGAIN. I am powerless over my exabf. I am powerless over my disease, my addiction to him and my NEED for him in my life. I'm powerless over his struggles. When I THINK I am in control or when I try to be in control - my l...

frustratedinop · frustratedinop

I am sitting alone at the dining room table, while my B is at a bar, reading the previous chats and crying wondering are there any happy endings or if I stay in this relationship am I going to be in a vicious cycle that will never end.......

pineapple · pineapple

Being new here I'm learning so much. but I also have many questions. One question I've wondered about...Does your A partner know about your participation in al anon and that you are working on your own recovery? I haven't mentioned it to my A but it seems he must have noticed a change in my attitude (no mo...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Happy New Year everyone! This is the first time I have been on this site since the new year started & since I have gotten on at all! Today happens to be my 24th Alanon birthday; I am so grateful for all the years I have been in alanon & have met some wonderful loving & caring people including al...

seweasy · seweasy

Hi, I'm new to this message board. I have been in a relationship with my ex bf for going on 5 years. I'm only 25 years old and recently found out he has been addicted to oxycontin for the past 6 months. I always had a gut feeling he was on something but he always denied it which made me crazy! I found out he h...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))), Pipers and I wanted to take a moment and wish you all a very HAPPY NEW YEAR! I hope you all had wonderful holidays. I'm sorry I've been away for awhile. Work was chaotic and I was spending time w/a friend who has been going through a very difficult time. Between that, work and the h...

jasobel · jasobel

Hi, just asked someone to be my sponsor but not sure what that means? This is her first experience at being a sponsor - so we are both new to the relationship. Do I call her to check in? Does she call me? Can I call her when I need to talk? We have set up a regular weekly meeting time to go over the steps, but I am n...

cbcali · cbcali

My husband is in recovery - my 8 year old knows he can't drink alcohol. When we went out to eat he said he was drinking beer, it was root beer. I told her it was root beer. She knows he isn't supposed to drink alcohol. Later when we were home she asked, "what will happen to daddy if he drinks alcohol?...

Jerry F · Jerry F

has agreed and will work in cooperation with Al-Anon WSO (World Service Office) to include mention and some description of the Al-Anon Family Groups into their programing on the 29th. They will also run a Al-Anon PSA during the break. How awesome is that....know anyone in program in your local sta...

dori711 · dori711

For the most part, my husband is improving by drinking less and his personality was starting to improve as well. I was happy with that. The last few days he's been hitting the bottle more than he has been for the last few weeks and his ugly personality showed up today. It's that personality again. W...

fishinmama · fishinmama

I know this question is vague, but what is grief. What should one expect? What is your experience? Thanks and peace, fishinmama

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I just found this picture and set it as my avatar. I took it with my camera phone a couple weeks ago while I was driving to pick up my older son (yes, I pulled over first - haha). It was actually a very small rainbow in the sky - you can't really see it in the picture, but it was there. The coolest thing was, on m...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Practicing the "If you keep an open mind...you will find help"; from the ending statement in an Al-Anon meeting I ended up having a spontaneous 10th step moment where I was able to learn some of why I have been dealing with denial and my subconscious mind has been shouting from where ever it h...

Tracy · Tracy

I was wondering if anyone can let me know why sometimes when I post the black tick pops up at the side saying no new posts. It can be very frustarting when you are seeking esh. Hope this post doesnt get one too thanks -- Edited by Tracy on Sunday 3rd of January 2010 09:00:28 AM

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

I´m feeling like crap today. Even thouh my husband kicked me out and only calls me to yell at me, I miss my friend. I miss when he was sober we would go to the movies or to eat or just stayed home and lounge. I feel I´ve been betrayed by friends and I feel my life is so out of control right now. Honestly God has bee...

teach123 · teach123

I am 23 years old And have been with the same boyfriend since I was 15 years old Our puppy dog love, turned into a very close and healthy relationship.. Everyone wanted a relationship like ours.. WOW you guys look so happy.. I wish I had someone. So I could be happy like you two.. No one could have imagine wh...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Yesterday my boyfriend of 4 years and the a in my life, whom I moved to Florida to be with told me that our relationship wasn't working anymore. As I type that, it cuts me to the core. All it appears were in attempts to make him feel guilty for not wanting to be with me, which in admitting this, actually makes...

tea2 · tea2

is tonight at 9 EST (6 PM Pacific) The Agenda Review of December minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Listing MIP with WSO - sue New Business Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please PM Courage if there are any additional topics (and if time will allow)

pineapple · pineapple

I've been coming here and going to online meetings for a week now. It's been a great help to me, I feel some hope that I can learn to cope with my A's drinking. He got drunk two nights ago for the first time since I discovered al anon. I was able to tell myself that he has a disease, it's not his fault. I refraine...

JackieBrown · JackieBrown

I'm new to the forum! Though not new to the consequences of alcoholism. The immediate question on my mind is regarding The Big Life Changes that AA encourages those new to sobriety to NOT do. No big moves, no new relationships, no new jobs. No romantic relationships for a year. Is the newly sober pers...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I posted last week as a newbie.. I`am disabled and unable to attend outside meetings but have made it here to one or two. I have my grandaughter here quite a bit to babysit. Her mother was a drug addict but I believe now is drinking. She hurt her little girl last week while they were away on vacation and and m...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

I got a call from my credit card company. He stole my credit card and racked up a bunch of charges and they called me to see if they are fraudulent. Of course I said yes. I didn't want to but I did. I'm so scared. I pulled up my credit card statement and there are even more charges. I'm struggling financ...

supermom · supermom

So here I am again watching my two young children by myself. It is a familiar scenario to me now. Recovering A has been downstairs doing nothing to help me with the kids and now he has gone "out" for a couple hours. When he gets back from being "out" it will be time for him to go to AA...

Tracy · Tracy

I am so confused all the time and begging HP for guidance. When I came home off holidays my sponsor rang and asked if I could visit her. To cut along story short she has met My ABF's sponsor at an open meeting we all attended lately and she knows him from a long time a ago. I have confided in her that he is enco...

Loupiness · Loupiness

The reading for Jan. 1, in Courage to Change is one of my very favorites. I remember exactly where I was when I read it last year. As the program goes, it was even more meaningful to me when I read it again this year, as I could believe it more from personal experience than just trusting those that go before...

Shellybelly · Shellybelly

Daddy why dont you ever listen to me? please daddy hear my silent screams for help dont continue to ignore me and pretend you didnt hear them why cant you see my pain? why dont you ever understand me? just once i wish you'd say i love you simply because i am your little princess why cant you admire my true bea...

Debilyn · Debilyn

It's like it has been drummed into me that everything goes away. The only constant is HP. Does a person have to lose so much to realize what really matters? And by then, isn't it too late? Even was blessed with another lady who had a pet pig too. She became my adoptive mom and her husband my dad. She died. No...

Debilyn · Debilyn

That I asked the A the last time we talked, that he said when people get drunk or loaded or whatever, they use that do to whatever they want to do? I mean they get drunk and choose to cheat,steal, fight, laugh, drive, they use that feeling of not caring to do whatever. Was an eye opener to me. But again it was h...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Good Morning Family, Need to sort out some thoughts here. Helps me so much just to post what is swirling in the brain, see the thoughts. So on my brain's agenda this morning seems to be "willingness" I keep asking myself am I willing. I have been reading alot. Not my normal entertaining rea...

SWgal · SWgal

Well, I am not technically alone since my kids are here, but they will be in bed by 8 :) I am alone by choice, and I mostly feel okay about it. AH is going out with his brother and some other people and you should have seen him today...he was so excited, like a kid before Christmas, about getting wasted toni...

suzydawn · suzydawn

I was wondering if anyone on this forum have experienced their A having their driver license reinstated after a horrible driving record. Anyone know anyone who has had their DL reinstated after a life suspension on an already suspended for life license? Is anyone here living with someone who has n...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My Friends, After 3 pretty ghastly years, I can honestly say I look forward to 2010 with hope. Hope, that I am absolutely certain, would not be there for me without this program. So much to be grateful for! I am healing. My children are healing. There is a level of peace and contentment that is settling...

Julzy · Julzy

Hi everyone. I am new here and new to any type of al-anon group. I plan to join an al-anon group in the next week. My story - Last summer my sister and her husband moved back to our home state. I noticed something was wrong when I went to visit her one time and she had poured vodka into her breakfast drink an...

lostcadc · lostcadc

Hello all and happy new year. I haven't posted in months. I became complacent. Partly because my A had moved out for a year and because of my pride. I am a substance abuse counselor in a rural part of Idaho. When I go to the one local meeting I am confronted by former clients and families of clients who want m...

maire rua · maire rua

I am tired of putting up with the loneliness attached to alcoholism, I know I need to detach but unfortunately weather conditions have me housebound at present so am having a bit of a rough time. I also gathering resentments by the newtime. Every day the weather just gets a little worse than what it did t...

Overcome · Overcome

Tonights meeting in the chat room was on Expectations, Rejection and Acceptance. I sat and listened (read) the shares and kept thinking that I needed to share, but kept putting it off. I really needed to share on these topics so thought I might post something here. Here's my dilema that these topics re...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I sure to relate to people not wanting to leave, they think about the "alone" part. I can say with huge esh, it can be hades. Some of you know I have no one left. No more family reunions or going to see the new baby in our family, no more visiting or anyone caring, or would know if you were dead a mont...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I just read today's Dear Abby and thought I'd share. http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, 2009 was one of the hardest years I have ever gone through. Not because so much bad happened to me, just so much happened. One of the best things that happened this year is that I was able to meet three people in person that I met on MIP. It was an amazing experience! One of the worst things that happen...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I was doing my Wii Fit this morning and listening to Pandora (an online radio where you can create your own stations) and something happened that just has me laughing at my HPs sense of humor. I was just going through the motions of the work out, not really feeling like doing it. I love the energy it...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I spent almost all day yesterday finishing off my daily readers. I finished One Day at a Time, Courage to Change, Keep It Simple, Hope for Today and the Language of Letting Go. I then went back through my journal of the past year and re read everything in it, including much ESH from my MIP family that I co...

Jozie · Jozie

WELP... Here it is the Start of a New Year Coming on me Fast, and in all that, I got to thinking back about what 2009 brought to my life... ;) Now Granted, I started the Boards in LATE 2008, under the Name of "Missing Out" but it wasn't long after entering this program that I realized, I wasn't Mis...

Ness · Ness

As the turn of the year approaches I want to give thanks to all of you who have supported and inspired me on my healing journey. Everyone who posts here has my love and gratitude, oldies and newbies, I cant do it without you. I hit rock bottom this time last year. As the bells chimed out at midnight bringin...

belle1 · belle1

My Friend Laura Was Finally Laid To Rest This Morning God Grant Her To Eternal Life And May She And All The Faithfully Departed Rest In Peace. Its Been A Long Road For Us All Esp her poor dad and sons This Is The 4th Child Her Dad Has Had To Bury(her 2 brothers older and a younger sis all had an illness) Please...

CJ recovery · CJ recovery

Hello Al Anon family! I just found this website, and hope to gain a lot, and maybe help some too... As an intro, here's my story... Five years ago today I was independent, strong, and single. I was on a remote Pacific island studying butterflies; when the big tsunami hit the Pacific I had no idea, since w...

RLC · RLC

2010 is upon us. With each new year it gives us a chance to start over. But, it only comes once a year. I make and break a lot of New Year's resolutions each year as I am sure some of you do also. With that in mind, I was thinking what a great program Al-Anon really is because the program allows us to start over e...

Jerry F · Jerry F

So a part of my family have all been wearing body explosives and setting themselves off at very weird times while trying to find a time when they can do a coordinated blast. When did I think the tape of my past was totally destroyed and would not earn re-run status? Of course one part of the family runs t...

RLC · RLC

On Dec. 24th my AW became active again. She had been sober for over 8 months. I don't know why the holidays and in particular Christmas seems to bring that miserable beast out of hiding. I feel like the disease is laughing saying, I'm back, I won, I'm in control again. Truth be known, that is the case with m...

jasobel · jasobel

I haven't been posting much the past few weeks. My alcoholic boyfriend had left me to binge with another woman at her place. He called me in a horrible place to pick him up and I did, brought him home to detox - he stayed with me - said he wanted to be with me again, until he painfully left 2 weeks later and now i...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	first steps... (Preview) My ABF will not talk to me right now because the last two times we drank together I knew I didn't want to and couldn't handle it. We decided to hang out with our friends and then meet up later...by the time we met up he had been passed out on the bar for almost an hour. His friends know this is getting old, but...	wyola	4	1581	Jan 6, 2010 by hotrod
	Heartbroken by someone in the program and so confused (Preview) I've been friends with this man who has been in AA for five years. We met fours years ago and were just friends for three years. However I didn't know he was in the program until about a year and a half ago. I was aware the whole time that he didn't drink but I didn't know why. However he did tell me his...	bernadette158	5	1181	Jan 5, 2010 by DreamXL
	LIVE AND LET LIVE * from an old forum * F.M.M. (Preview) LIVE AND LET LIVE THE first part of this slogan tell us to live, However living before Al-Anon meant worrying about the alcoholic , obsessing about our problems and trying to find perfect solutions--- abandoning ourselves in the process. Were we living , or were we allowing people and situations to...	abbyal	2	1597	Jan 5, 2010 by hotrod
	This is my craziness TODAY... (Preview) So, the event that triggered me to turn to Al Anon and begin to accept that I was powerless was (not surprisingly) New Years Day. I was so angry about how my ABF behaved in front of my friends at NYE that I didnt even want to see him for the rest of the weekend. I was laying in bed, thinking of what to say to get...	Festfan	4	1031	Jan 5, 2010 by Festfan
	A little jolt from my HP (Preview) I spoke with an old dear friend over Christmas. She shared with me that her husband was drinking too much and it was getting difficult for her to handle her situation. I have spoken to her about alanon in the past although I don't think she has introduced herself to it yet. I advised her of this message...	fishinmama	2	849	Jan 5, 2010 by Tracy
	That Heavy Phone (Preview) Why is it that I have such a hard time picking up the phone and calling my Al-Anon friends when times get tough? I'll call my parents, my cousin, my friends. . . but not my program friends. I know that they are the ones I SHOULD be calling, but I just can't bring myself to do it. WHY? Any suggestions on how to ge...	N8SMOM	5	737	Jan 5, 2010 by Tracy
	anger and tears (Preview) Newbie here but not to the alanon program. Moved back to the midwest because of lonliness. Thought living next to the parents and helping them out whould be good for me. Dad is active alcoholic and mom is bigtime enabler. I basically moved back because I ran from another alcoholic marraige. When i get...	Lindajean	5	859	Jan 5, 2010 by abbyal
	I know this is not for my A.. (Preview) But how can I avoid the fight.. I have talked to my AH several times about going to a f2f meeting, and everytime it ends with me being blamed (nothing new there) guilt trip.. or him getting drunk. I know it is next to impossible to have a conversation with him. but I don't want me going to cause termoil for my...	serching-sandy	4	929	Jan 5, 2010 by Debilyn
	The will of God... (Preview) will not take me where the hand of God cannot protect me. As I sit at my desk at work, our company is about 15 minutes away from an announcement that they are closing the doors. I am saddened by this because I can honestly say that of all the jobs I have had I really enjoyed this one and loved to come to work. I...	AlaMom	7	929	Jan 5, 2010 by Jerry F
	A decision (Preview) AH and I have spent days talking about separation. I have been so unhappy. It's been almost 6 months since I started al-anon and I'm trying to detach from his drinking and find my boundaries. But deep down I just feel that he can never be the partner that I want and need. I want to have children one day,...	cdngirl	3	1003	Jan 5, 2010 by Mattie
	Step One revisited...If I am powerless then someone else is in control. (Preview) We had our very first step meeting Friday night-which I lead and it was awesome! We took turns reading Step One from Paths to Recovery and then at the end I "passed the basket" so to speak (it was more like a bad-lol) with all the questions from the end of the step and everyone picked a question...	shellyj123	9	1029	Jan 5, 2010 by Festfan
	Revisiting Step One (Preview) I am in so much pain that I am ready to surrender to the program and to all the suggestions - yet AGAIN. I am powerless over my exabf. I am powerless over my disease, my addiction to him and my NEED for him in my life. I'm powerless over his struggles. When I THINK I am in control or when I try to be in control - my l...	RunnerChick	8	981	Jan 4, 2010 by CJ recovery
	Are there any Happy Endings? (Preview) I am sitting alone at the dining room table, while my B is at a bar, reading the previous chats and crying wondering are there any happy endings or if I stay in this relationship am I going to be in a vicious cycle that will never end.......	frustratedinop	6	930	Jan 4, 2010 by frustratedinop
	does your partner know? (Preview) Being new here I'm learning so much. but I also have many questions. One question I've wondered about...Does your A partner know about your participation in al anon and that you are working on your own recovery? I haven't mentioned it to my A but it seems he must have noticed a change in my attitude (no mo...	pineapple	10	879	Jan 4, 2010 by pineapple
	Happy New Year! (Preview) Happy New Year everyone! This is the first time I have been on this site since the new year started & since I have gotten on at all! Today happens to be my 24th Alanon birthday; I am so grateful for all the years I have been in alanon & have met some wonderful loving & caring people including al...	Hoot Nanny	2	785	Jan 4, 2010 by pineapple
	New member. Just left my addict bf and really need support. (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this message board. I have been in a relationship with my ex bf for going on 5 years. I'm only 25 years old and recently found out he has been addicted to oxycontin for the past 6 months. I always had a gut feeling he was on something but he always denied it which made me crazy! I found out he h...	seweasy	12	1004	Jan 4, 2010 by maresie
	Happy New Year! (Preview) ((((((Family))))), Pipers and I wanted to take a moment and wish you all a very HAPPY NEW YEAR! I hope you all had wonderful holidays. I'm sorry I've been away for awhile. Work was chaotic and I was spending time w/a friend who has been going through a very difficult time. Between that, work and the h...	Karilynn	2	654	Jan 4, 2010 by maresie
	What to expect from a sponsor? (Preview) Hi, just asked someone to be my sponsor but not sure what that means? This is her first experience at being a sponsor - so we are both new to the relationship. Do I call her to check in? Does she call me? Can I call her when I need to talk? We have set up a regular weekly meeting time to go over the steps, but I am n...	jasobel	5	16087	Jan 4, 2010 by supermom
	What do I say to my 8 year old? (Preview) My husband is in recovery - my 8 year old knows he can't drink alcohol. When we went out to eat he said he was drinking beer, it was root beer. I told her it was root beer. She knows he isn't supposed to drink alcohol. Later when we were home she asked, "what will happen to daddy if he drinks alcohol?...	cbcali	6	1277	Jan 4, 2010 by cbcali
	General Hospital.... (Preview) has agreed and will work in cooperation with Al-Anon WSO (World Service Office) to include mention and some description of the Al-Anon Family Groups into their programing on the 29th. They will also run a Al-Anon PSA during the break. How awesome is that....know anyone in program in your local sta...	Jerry F	10	983	Jan 4, 2010 by grammie
	An observation (Preview) For the most part, my husband is improving by drinking less and his personality was starting to improve as well. I was happy with that. The last few days he's been hitting the bottle more than he has been for the last few weeks and his ugly personality showed up today. It's that personality again. W...	dori711	3	845	Jan 4, 2010 by serching-sandy
	Just a little question.... (Preview) I know this question is vague, but what is grief. What should one expect? What is your experience? Thanks and peace, fishinmama	fishinmama	5	1045	Jan 4, 2010 by Overcome
	Letting Go of Fear (Preview) I just found this picture and set it as my avatar. I took it with my camera phone a couple weeks ago while I was driving to pick up my older son (yes, I pulled over first - haha). It was actually a very small rainbow in the sky - you can't really see it in the picture, but it was there. The coolest thing was, on m...	White Rabbit	7	995	Jan 4, 2010 by 3littlekittens
	spontaneous 10th Step.... (Preview) Practicing the "If you keep an open mind...you will find help"; from the ending statement in an Al-Anon meeting I ended up having a spontaneous 10th step moment where I was able to learn some of why I have been dealing with denial and my subconscious mind has been shouting from where ever it h...	Jerry F	3	1413	Jan 4, 2010 by hotrod
	no new posts (Preview) I was wondering if anyone can let me know why sometimes when I post the black tick pops up at the side saying no new posts. It can be very frustarting when you are seeking esh. Hope this post doesnt get one too thanks -- Edited by Tracy on Sunday 3rd of January 2010 09:00:28 AM	Tracy	1	733	Jan 4, 2010 by dori711
	Feeling alone (Preview) I´m feeling like crap today. Even thouh my husband kicked me out and only calls me to yell at me, I miss my friend. I miss when he was sober we would go to the movies or to eat or just stayed home and lounge. I feel I´ve been betrayed by friends and I feel my life is so out of control right now. Honestly God has bee...	Priscilla83	5	858	Jan 3, 2010 by CJ recovery
	My story...long... (Preview) I am 23 years old And have been with the same boyfriend since I was 15 years old Our puppy dog love, turned into a very close and healthy relationship.. Everyone wanted a relationship like ours.. WOW you guys look so happy.. I wish I had someone. So I could be happy like you two.. No one could have imagine wh...	teach123	7	749	Jan 3, 2010 by teach123
	He Left Me (Preview) Yesterday my boyfriend of 4 years and the a in my life, whom I moved to Florida to be with told me that our relationship wasn't working anymore. As I type that, it cuts me to the core. All it appears were in attempts to make him feel guilty for not wanting to be with me, which in admitting this, actually makes...	RunnerChick	24	1578	Jan 3, 2010 by carolinagirl
	Reminder: Business Meeting (Preview) is tonight at 9 EST (6 PM Pacific) The Agenda Review of December minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Listing MIP with WSO - sue New Business Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please PM Courage if there are any additional topics (and if time will allow)	tea2	0	465	Jan 3, 2010 by tea2
	inspiration needed (Preview) I've been coming here and going to online meetings for a week now. It's been a great help to me, I feel some hope that I can learn to cope with my A's drinking. He got drunk two nights ago for the first time since I discovered al anon. I was able to tell myself that he has a disease, it's not his fault. I refraine...	pineapple	10	2026	Jan 3, 2010 by agapaga
	Big Life Changes (Preview) I'm new to the forum! Though not new to the consequences of alcoholism. The immediate question on my mind is regarding The Big Life Changes that AA encourages those new to sobriety to NOT do. No big moves, no new relationships, no new jobs. No romantic relationships for a year. Is the newly sober pers...	JackieBrown	8	770	Jan 3, 2010 by Mattie
	My Grandaughter (Preview) I posted last week as a newbie.. I`am disabled and unable to attend outside meetings but have made it here to one or two. I have my grandaughter here quite a bit to babysit. Her mother was a drug addict but I believe now is drinking. She hurt her little girl last week while they were away on vacation and and m...	Samsgram	1	795	Jan 3, 2010 by Mattie
	ESH Please!!! (Preview) I got a call from my credit card company. He stole my credit card and racked up a bunch of charges and they called me to see if they are fraudulent. Of course I said yes. I didn't want to but I did. I'm so scared. I pulled up my credit card statement and there are even more charges. I'm struggling financ...	Ragdolls	6	757	Jan 3, 2010 by Jerry F
	when does unacceptable behavior change? (Preview) So here I am again watching my two young children by myself. It is a familiar scenario to me now. Recovering A has been downstairs doing nothing to help me with the kids and now he has gone "out" for a couple hours. When he gets back from being "out" it will be time for him to go to AA...	supermom	9	1168	Jan 2, 2010 by supermom
	guidance (Preview) I am so confused all the time and begging HP for guidance. When I came home off holidays my sponsor rang and asked if I could visit her. To cut along story short she has met My ABF's sponsor at an open meeting we all attended lately and she knows him from a long time a ago. I have confided in her that he is enco...	Tracy	0	601	Jan 2, 2010 by Tracy
	A great reading (Preview) The reading for Jan. 1, in Courage to Change is one of my very favorites. I remember exactly where I was when I read it last year. As the program goes, it was even more meaningful to me when I read it again this year, as I could believe it more from personal experience than just trusting those that go before...	Loupiness	0	543	Jan 2, 2010 by Loupiness
	poems about my alcoholic dad (Preview) Daddy why dont you ever listen to me? please daddy hear my silent screams for help dont continue to ignore me and pretend you didnt hear them why cant you see my pain? why dont you ever understand me? just once i wish you'd say i love you simply because i am your little princess why cant you admire my true bea...	Shellybelly	1	7092	Jan 2, 2010 by Christy
	Loss (Preview) It's like it has been drummed into me that everything goes away. The only constant is HP. Does a person have to lose so much to realize what really matters? And by then, isn't it too late? Even was blessed with another lady who had a pet pig too. She became my adoptive mom and her husband my dad. She died. No...	Debilyn	3	672	Jan 2, 2010 by Debilyn
	Did I share this? (Preview) That I asked the A the last time we talked, that he said when people get drunk or loaded or whatever, they use that do to whatever they want to do? I mean they get drunk and choose to cheat,steal, fight, laugh, drive, they use that feeling of not caring to do whatever. Was an eye opener to me. But again it was h...	Debilyn	2	707	Jan 2, 2010 by Debilyn
	Willingness...Am I willing? (Preview) Good Morning Family, Need to sort out some thoughts here. Helps me so much just to post what is swirling in the brain, see the thoughts. So on my brain's agenda this morning seems to be "willingness" I keep asking myself am I willing. I have been reading alot. Not my normal entertaining rea...	fishinmama	0	1366	Jan 2, 2010 by fishinmama
	Anyone else celebrating alone tonight? (Preview) Well, I am not technically alone since my kids are here, but they will be in bed by 8 :) I am alone by choice, and I mostly feel okay about it. AH is going out with his brother and some other people and you should have seen him today...he was so excited, like a kid before Christmas, about getting wasted toni...	SWgal	7	952	Jan 2, 2010 by teach123
	Possible DL reinstatement (Preview) I was wondering if anyone on this forum have experienced their A having their driver license reinstated after a horrible driving record. Anyone know anyone who has had their DL reinstated after a life suspension on an already suspended for life license? Is anyone here living with someone who has n...	suzydawn	5	866	Jan 2, 2010 by suzydawn
	in with the new.... (Preview) My Friends, After 3 pretty ghastly years, I can honestly say I look forward to 2010 with hope. Hope, that I am absolutely certain, would not be there for me without this program. So much to be grateful for! I am healing. My children are healing. There is a level of peace and contentment that is settling...	Loupiness	2	819	Jan 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	New to all of this... (Preview) Hi everyone. I am new here and new to any type of al-anon group. I plan to join an al-anon group in the next week. My story - Last summer my sister and her husband moved back to our home state. I noticed something was wrong when I went to visit her one time and she had poured vodka into her breakfast drink an...	Julzy	5	1040	Jan 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	it's been a long time (Preview) Hello all and happy new year. I haven't posted in months. I became complacent. Partly because my A had moved out for a year and because of my pride. I am a substance abuse counselor in a rural part of Idaho. When I go to the one local meeting I am confronted by former clients and families of clients who want m...	lostcadc	1	870	Jan 1, 2010 by Debilyn
	loneliness (Preview) I am tired of putting up with the loneliness attached to alcoholism, I know I need to detach but unfortunately weather conditions have me housebound at present so am having a bit of a rough time. I also gathering resentments by the newtime. Every day the weather just gets a little worse than what it did t...	maire rua	4	958	Jan 1, 2010 by KellyCO
	Expectations, Rejection and Acceptance (Preview) Tonights meeting in the chat room was on Expectations, Rejection and Acceptance. I sat and listened (read) the shares and kept thinking that I needed to share, but kept putting it off. I really needed to share on these topics so thought I might post something here. Here's my dilema that these topics re...	Overcome	4	1426	Jan 1, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	The Alone part (Preview) I sure to relate to people not wanting to leave, they think about the "alone" part. I can say with huge esh, it can be hades. Some of you know I have no one left. No more family reunions or going to see the new baby in our family, no more visiting or anyone caring, or would know if you were dead a mont...	Debilyn	2	687	Jan 1, 2010 by DreamsOver
	Dear Abby (Preview) I just read today's Dear Abby and thought I'd share. http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/	N8SMOM	1	733	Jan 1, 2010 by Jerry F
	Resolution Smesolution I am changing it up and making promises to me instead (Preview) Hi all, 2009 was one of the hardest years I have ever gone through. Not because so much bad happened to me, just so much happened. One of the best things that happened this year is that I was able to meet three people in person that I met on MIP. It was an amazing experience! One of the worst things that happen...	Mandy123	3	943	Jan 1, 2010 by kitty
	Early morning work out and then some :) (Preview) Hi all, I was doing my Wii Fit this morning and listening to Pandora (an online radio where you can create your own stations) and something happened that just has me laughing at my HPs sense of humor. I was just going through the motions of the work out, not really feeling like doing it. I love the energy it...	Mandy123	3	912	Jan 1, 2010 by Jen
	Relections on 2009.....My first year in AlAnon (Preview) I spent almost all day yesterday finishing off my daily readers. I finished One Day at a Time, Courage to Change, Keep It Simple, Hope for Today and the Language of Letting Go. I then went back through my journal of the past year and re read everything in it, including much ESH from my MIP family that I co...	shellyj123	2	935	Jan 1, 2010 by Debilyn
	Too New Beginnings.... (Preview) WELP... Here it is the Start of a New Year Coming on me Fast, and in all that, I got to thinking back about what 2009 brought to my life... ;) Now Granted, I started the Boards in LATE 2008, under the Name of "Missing Out" but it wasn't long after entering this program that I realized, I wasn't Mis...	Jozie	5	970	Jan 1, 2010 by Dave Harm
	Thank you and Happy New Year (Preview) As the turn of the year approaches I want to give thanks to all of you who have supported and inspired me on my healing journey. Everyone who posts here has my love and gratitude, oldies and newbies, I cant do it without you. I hit rock bottom this time last year. As the bells chimed out at midnight bringin...	Ness	7	886	Jan 1, 2010 by hotrod
	Finally Laid To Rest (Preview) My Friend Laura Was Finally Laid To Rest This Morning God Grant Her To Eternal Life And May She And All The Faithfully Departed Rest In Peace. Its Been A Long Road For Us All Esp her poor dad and sons This Is The 4th Child Her Dad Has Had To Bury(her 2 brothers older and a younger sis all had an illness) Please...	belle1	5	956	Jan 1, 2010 by Andrea12
	Hi! New guy here! (Preview) Hello Al Anon family! I just found this website, and hope to gain a lot, and maybe help some too... As an intro, here's my story... Five years ago today I was independent, strong, and single. I was on a remote Pacific island studying butterflies; when the big tsunami hit the Pacific I had no idea, since w...	CJ recovery	5	907	Jan 1, 2010 by pineapple
	HAPPY NEW YEAR MIP FAMILY !!! (Preview) 2010 is upon us. With each new year it gives us a chance to start over. But, it only comes once a year. I make and break a lot of New Year's resolutions each year as I am sure some of you do also. With that in mind, I was thinking what a great program Al-Anon really is because the program allows us to start over e...	RLC	3	908	Dec 31, 2009 by Jerry F
	Day jaw voo all over again....LOL (Preview) So a part of my family have all been wearing body explosives and setting themselves off at very weird times while trying to find a time when they can do a coordinated blast. When did I think the tape of my past was totally destroyed and would not earn re-run status? Of course one part of the family runs t...	Jerry F	6	1026	Dec 31, 2009 by Jerry F
	The Disease Only Lays Dormant, It Never Dies !! (Preview) On Dec. 24th my AW became active again. She had been sober for over 8 months. I don't know why the holidays and in particular Christmas seems to bring that miserable beast out of hiding. I feel like the disease is laughing saying, I'm back, I won, I'm in control again. Truth be known, that is the case with m...	RLC	9	1278	Dec 31, 2009 by blender_girl
	God I hope this helps - finally got a sponsor (Preview) I haven't been posting much the past few weeks. My alcoholic boyfriend had left me to binge with another woman at her place. He called me in a horrible place to pick him up and I did, brought him home to detox - he stayed with me - said he wanted to be with me again, until he painfully left 2 weeks later and now i...	jasobel	3	849	Dec 31, 2009 by abbyal
«First < 1 … 487 488 489 490 491 … 823 > Last» \| Page of 823 sorted by

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.