Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Sam72 · Sam72

I'm new to this and I'm having difficulty understanding some of the abbreviations, can anyone help me with this please. I would really appreciate it, Thanx

wispythewolf · wispythewolf

I am the mother of a 21 year old son who is an addict. He was sentenced today on drug charges and is doing 45 days in jail. I am reaching out because I am in no condition to attend a real time group tonight but feel the need to get help for myself.

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I want to thank all of you for responding to my post yesterday in reference to attending a meeting at the same location as EXABF. I have decided, that for now, for today, I won't be attempting to do so and will just be sticking with my Friday night home group. I realized after thinking about it probally WAY...

wyola · wyola

I just want to already say thank the Earth for support groups! Even though I only started seriously reading and acknowledging alcoholism and dealing with someone who can't stop, I have some tools to deal with this and have some sort of relief. By ABF didn't meet me to say he doesn't need me to interfe...

Sam72 · Sam72

Hi, I just joined this site today, My partner is an Alcoholic and I think I cope very well with his illness, We have recently found out that his sister is an alcoholic and my heart is breaking for her, her husband walked out just before christmas, she is far from family and friends, I wish my partner and I co...

kmarty · kmarty

For me its when I have fear and worry.

Raven68 · Raven68

I am disabled and can't get to f2f meeting. I am looking for a sponsor. My mother who I live with is an alcholic and addicted to my prescription pain pills. She has a dui and breathalisor in her car. She stayed sober while wearing ankle monitor. Now it off and she stays drunk

Festfan · Festfan

Hi there, I am new to this forum just found it yesterday and have been reading it for hours in all of my free (and not so free) time. I am the adult daughter of an alcoholic lived with the knowledge that my mom drank too much for years, but have only really opened my eyes that she couldnt control it this year,...

Jozie · Jozie

Most of my Life, since about 8 up, (Parents Seperated then) I have wore this Shell... I guess for most ACOA it is a Protective shell that "I" felt was keeping me from getting hurt by others... But in reality, it has done nothing but bring me pain... I am an Office Manager for a Company my Husband...

seweasy · seweasy

I'm new to this al anon board, and al anon in general. I would just like to share how I am currently doing considering I left the addict in my life. On Christmas Eve I broke up with my addict boyfriend of 5 years and have been doing awesome! I mean of course I'm still sad and miss the "good ol days"...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I had to laugh in spite of myself yesterday....I got a digital picture frame LAST Christmas and due to my inability to function in an electronic world, I never used it. Tried once, got agitated and put it away for the year-lol. I love photography and taking pictures of things/places morso than peopl...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just need a little vent I am so down. I was transferring birthday dates from old calendar onto new. Noticed in Jan last year AH had appointment with doctor about his alcoholism. I went with him and listened while he earnestly told doc how he really wanted to give up drinking. Well, failed de-toxes foll...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

This pain is gut wrenching. Deep.Everything reminds me of him. I continue to act like an addict myself, still texting, calling, reaching out for that validation and love from someone who has always rejected me. In some layer of my mind I believe that if he would just WANT me back, WANT to be with me - that...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Forgot to tell you, they moved A from his cell not an hour after I called his counselor! I could not believe it! They must have known it was a stupid situation. He told me they asked him if his family or anyone had called or anything? I had not told him I was doing this. He told them no. I asked him well what happ...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I am trying to tune into the ways in which I am talking to myself and to BE COMPASSIONATE. Give love to my inner child. The obsession consumes me sometimes. It is an addiction pull. It is automatic - the way I reach out to him for comfort and validation. I KEEP doing it. People tell me I will continue to do it,...

wyola · wyola

My ABF will not talk to me right now because the last two times we drank together I knew I didn't want to and couldn't handle it. We decided to hang out with our friends and then meet up later...by the time we met up he had been passed out on the bar for almost an hour. His friends know this is getting old, but...

bernadette158 · bernadette158

I've been friends with this man who has been in AA for five years. We met fours years ago and were just friends for three years. However I didn't know he was in the program until about a year and a half ago. I was aware the whole time that he didn't drink but I didn't know why. However he did tell me his...

abbyal · abbyal

LIVE AND LET LIVE THE first part of this slogan tell us to live, However living before Al-Anon meant worrying about the alcoholic , obsessing about our problems and trying to find perfect solutions--- abandoning ourselves in the process. Were we living , or were we allowing people and situations to...

Festfan · Festfan

So, the event that triggered me to turn to Al Anon and begin to accept that I was powerless was (not surprisingly) New Years Day. I was so angry about how my ABF behaved in front of my friends at NYE that I didnt even want to see him for the rest of the weekend. I was laying in bed, thinking of what to say to get...

fishinmama · fishinmama

I spoke with an old dear friend over Christmas. She shared with me that her husband was drinking too much and it was getting difficult for her to handle her situation. I have spoken to her about alanon in the past although I don't think she has introduced herself to it yet. I advised her of this message...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Why is it that I have such a hard time picking up the phone and calling my Al-Anon friends when times get tough? I'll call my parents, my cousin, my friends. . . but not my program friends. I know that they are the ones I SHOULD be calling, but I just can't bring myself to do it. WHY? Any suggestions on how to ge...

Lindajean · Lindajean

Newbie here but not to the alanon program. Moved back to the midwest because of lonliness. Thought living next to the parents and helping them out whould be good for me. Dad is active alcoholic and mom is bigtime enabler. I basically moved back because I ran from another alcoholic marraige. When i get...

serching-sandy · serching-sandy

But how can I avoid the fight.. I have talked to my AH several times about going to a f2f meeting, and everytime it ends with me being blamed (nothing new there) guilt trip.. or him getting drunk. I know it is next to impossible to have a conversation with him. but I don't want me going to cause termoil for my...

AlaMom · AlaMom

will not take me where the hand of God cannot protect me. As I sit at my desk at work, our company is about 15 minutes away from an announcement that they are closing the doors. I am saddened by this because I can honestly say that of all the jobs I have had I really enjoyed this one and loved to come to work. I...

cdngirl · cdngirl

AH and I have spent days talking about separation. I have been so unhappy. It's been almost 6 months since I started al-anon and I'm trying to detach from his drinking and find my boundaries. But deep down I just feel that he can never be the partner that I want and need. I want to have children one day,...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

We had our very first step meeting Friday night-which I lead and it was awesome! We took turns reading Step One from Paths to Recovery and then at the end I "passed the basket" so to speak (it was more like a bad-lol) with all the questions from the end of the step and everyone picked a question...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I am in so much pain that I am ready to surrender to the program and to all the suggestions - yet AGAIN. I am powerless over my exabf. I am powerless over my disease, my addiction to him and my NEED for him in my life. I'm powerless over his struggles. When I THINK I am in control or when I try to be in control - my l...

frustratedinop · frustratedinop

I am sitting alone at the dining room table, while my B is at a bar, reading the previous chats and crying wondering are there any happy endings or if I stay in this relationship am I going to be in a vicious cycle that will never end.......

pineapple · pineapple

Being new here I'm learning so much. but I also have many questions. One question I've wondered about...Does your A partner know about your participation in al anon and that you are working on your own recovery? I haven't mentioned it to my A but it seems he must have noticed a change in my attitude (no mo...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Happy New Year everyone! This is the first time I have been on this site since the new year started & since I have gotten on at all! Today happens to be my 24th Alanon birthday; I am so grateful for all the years I have been in alanon & have met some wonderful loving & caring people including al...

seweasy · seweasy

Hi, I'm new to this message board. I have been in a relationship with my ex bf for going on 5 years. I'm only 25 years old and recently found out he has been addicted to oxycontin for the past 6 months. I always had a gut feeling he was on something but he always denied it which made me crazy! I found out he h...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))), Pipers and I wanted to take a moment and wish you all a very HAPPY NEW YEAR! I hope you all had wonderful holidays. I'm sorry I've been away for awhile. Work was chaotic and I was spending time w/a friend who has been going through a very difficult time. Between that, work and the h...

jasobel · jasobel

Hi, just asked someone to be my sponsor but not sure what that means? This is her first experience at being a sponsor - so we are both new to the relationship. Do I call her to check in? Does she call me? Can I call her when I need to talk? We have set up a regular weekly meeting time to go over the steps, but I am n...

cbcali · cbcali

My husband is in recovery - my 8 year old knows he can't drink alcohol. When we went out to eat he said he was drinking beer, it was root beer. I told her it was root beer. She knows he isn't supposed to drink alcohol. Later when we were home she asked, "what will happen to daddy if he drinks alcohol?...

Jerry F · Jerry F

has agreed and will work in cooperation with Al-Anon WSO (World Service Office) to include mention and some description of the Al-Anon Family Groups into their programing on the 29th. They will also run a Al-Anon PSA during the break. How awesome is that....know anyone in program in your local sta...

dori711 · dori711

For the most part, my husband is improving by drinking less and his personality was starting to improve as well. I was happy with that. The last few days he's been hitting the bottle more than he has been for the last few weeks and his ugly personality showed up today. It's that personality again. W...

fishinmama · fishinmama

I know this question is vague, but what is grief. What should one expect? What is your experience? Thanks and peace, fishinmama

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I just found this picture and set it as my avatar. I took it with my camera phone a couple weeks ago while I was driving to pick up my older son (yes, I pulled over first - haha). It was actually a very small rainbow in the sky - you can't really see it in the picture, but it was there. The coolest thing was, on m...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Practicing the "If you keep an open mind...you will find help"; from the ending statement in an Al-Anon meeting I ended up having a spontaneous 10th step moment where I was able to learn some of why I have been dealing with denial and my subconscious mind has been shouting from where ever it h...

Tracy · Tracy

I was wondering if anyone can let me know why sometimes when I post the black tick pops up at the side saying no new posts. It can be very frustarting when you are seeking esh. Hope this post doesnt get one too thanks -- Edited by Tracy on Sunday 3rd of January 2010 09:00:28 AM

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

I´m feeling like crap today. Even thouh my husband kicked me out and only calls me to yell at me, I miss my friend. I miss when he was sober we would go to the movies or to eat or just stayed home and lounge. I feel I´ve been betrayed by friends and I feel my life is so out of control right now. Honestly God has bee...

teach123 · teach123

I am 23 years old And have been with the same boyfriend since I was 15 years old Our puppy dog love, turned into a very close and healthy relationship.. Everyone wanted a relationship like ours.. WOW you guys look so happy.. I wish I had someone. So I could be happy like you two.. No one could have imagine wh...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Yesterday my boyfriend of 4 years and the a in my life, whom I moved to Florida to be with told me that our relationship wasn't working anymore. As I type that, it cuts me to the core. All it appears were in attempts to make him feel guilty for not wanting to be with me, which in admitting this, actually makes...

tea2 · tea2

is tonight at 9 EST (6 PM Pacific) The Agenda Review of December minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Listing MIP with WSO - sue New Business Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please PM Courage if there are any additional topics (and if time will allow)

pineapple · pineapple

I've been coming here and going to online meetings for a week now. It's been a great help to me, I feel some hope that I can learn to cope with my A's drinking. He got drunk two nights ago for the first time since I discovered al anon. I was able to tell myself that he has a disease, it's not his fault. I refraine...

JackieBrown · JackieBrown

I'm new to the forum! Though not new to the consequences of alcoholism. The immediate question on my mind is regarding The Big Life Changes that AA encourages those new to sobriety to NOT do. No big moves, no new relationships, no new jobs. No romantic relationships for a year. Is the newly sober pers...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I posted last week as a newbie.. I`am disabled and unable to attend outside meetings but have made it here to one or two. I have my grandaughter here quite a bit to babysit. Her mother was a drug addict but I believe now is drinking. She hurt her little girl last week while they were away on vacation and and m...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

I got a call from my credit card company. He stole my credit card and racked up a bunch of charges and they called me to see if they are fraudulent. Of course I said yes. I didn't want to but I did. I'm so scared. I pulled up my credit card statement and there are even more charges. I'm struggling financ...

supermom · supermom

So here I am again watching my two young children by myself. It is a familiar scenario to me now. Recovering A has been downstairs doing nothing to help me with the kids and now he has gone "out" for a couple hours. When he gets back from being "out" it will be time for him to go to AA...

Tracy · Tracy

I am so confused all the time and begging HP for guidance. When I came home off holidays my sponsor rang and asked if I could visit her. To cut along story short she has met My ABF's sponsor at an open meeting we all attended lately and she knows him from a long time a ago. I have confided in her that he is enco...

Loupiness · Loupiness

The reading for Jan. 1, in Courage to Change is one of my very favorites. I remember exactly where I was when I read it last year. As the program goes, it was even more meaningful to me when I read it again this year, as I could believe it more from personal experience than just trusting those that go before...

Shellybelly · Shellybelly

Daddy why dont you ever listen to me? please daddy hear my silent screams for help dont continue to ignore me and pretend you didnt hear them why cant you see my pain? why dont you ever understand me? just once i wish you'd say i love you simply because i am your little princess why cant you admire my true bea...

Debilyn · Debilyn

It's like it has been drummed into me that everything goes away. The only constant is HP. Does a person have to lose so much to realize what really matters? And by then, isn't it too late? Even was blessed with another lady who had a pet pig too. She became my adoptive mom and her husband my dad. She died. No...

Debilyn · Debilyn

That I asked the A the last time we talked, that he said when people get drunk or loaded or whatever, they use that do to whatever they want to do? I mean they get drunk and choose to cheat,steal, fight, laugh, drive, they use that feeling of not caring to do whatever. Was an eye opener to me. But again it was h...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Good Morning Family, Need to sort out some thoughts here. Helps me so much just to post what is swirling in the brain, see the thoughts. So on my brain's agenda this morning seems to be "willingness" I keep asking myself am I willing. I have been reading alot. Not my normal entertaining rea...

SWgal · SWgal

Well, I am not technically alone since my kids are here, but they will be in bed by 8 :) I am alone by choice, and I mostly feel okay about it. AH is going out with his brother and some other people and you should have seen him today...he was so excited, like a kid before Christmas, about getting wasted toni...

suzydawn · suzydawn

I was wondering if anyone on this forum have experienced their A having their driver license reinstated after a horrible driving record. Anyone know anyone who has had their DL reinstated after a life suspension on an already suspended for life license? Is anyone here living with someone who has n...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My Friends, After 3 pretty ghastly years, I can honestly say I look forward to 2010 with hope. Hope, that I am absolutely certain, would not be there for me without this program. So much to be grateful for! I am healing. My children are healing. There is a level of peace and contentment that is settling...

Julzy · Julzy

Hi everyone. I am new here and new to any type of al-anon group. I plan to join an al-anon group in the next week. My story - Last summer my sister and her husband moved back to our home state. I noticed something was wrong when I went to visit her one time and she had poured vodka into her breakfast drink an...

lostcadc · lostcadc

Hello all and happy new year. I haven't posted in months. I became complacent. Partly because my A had moved out for a year and because of my pride. I am a substance abuse counselor in a rural part of Idaho. When I go to the one local meeting I am confronted by former clients and families of clients who want m...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	help with abreviations (Preview) I'm new to this and I'm having difficulty understanding some of the abbreviations, can anyone help me with this please. I would really appreciate it, Thanx	Sam72	3	1040	Jan 7, 2010 by Sam72
	I am new here and a basket case (Preview) I am the mother of a 21 year old son who is an addict. He was sentenced today on drug charges and is doing 45 days in jail. I am reaching out because I am in no condition to attend a real time group tonight but feel the need to get help for myself.	wispythewolf	4	1068	Jan 7, 2010 by Ness
	I Decided not to do it~ (Preview) I want to thank all of you for responding to my post yesterday in reference to attending a meeting at the same location as EXABF. I have decided, that for now, for today, I won't be attempting to do so and will just be sticking with my Friday night home group. I realized after thinking about it probally WAY...	shellyj123	3	940	Jan 7, 2010 by Festfan
	first steps, already providing some relief (Preview) I just want to already say thank the Earth for support groups! Even though I only started seriously reading and acknowledging alcoholism and dealing with someone who can't stop, I have some tools to deal with this and have some sort of relief. By ABF didn't meet me to say he doesn't need me to interfe...	wyola	2	687	Jan 7, 2010 by Festfan
	I need advice (Preview) Hi, I just joined this site today, My partner is an Alcoholic and I think I cope very well with his illness, We have recently found out that his sister is an alcoholic and my heart is breaking for her, her husband walked out just before christmas, she is far from family and friends, I wish my partner and I co...	Sam72	7	1255	Jan 6, 2010 by Sam72
	how do you know when you need a meeting? (Preview) For me its when I have fear and worry.	kmarty	9	1176	Jan 6, 2010 by ythannah
	Looking for sponsor (Preview) I am disabled and can't get to f2f meeting. I am looking for a sponsor. My mother who I live with is an alcholic and addicted to my prescription pain pills. She has a dui and breathalisor in her car. She stayed sober while wearing ankle monitor. Now it off and she stays drunk	Raven68	0	1053	Jan 6, 2010 by ImFree2004
	Another holiday newbie with an ABF - trying to figure out to stay or leave... (Preview) Hi there, I am new to this forum just found it yesterday and have been reading it for hours in all of my free (and not so free) time. I am the adult daughter of an alcoholic lived with the knowledge that my mom drank too much for years, but have only really opened my eyes that she couldnt control it this year,...	Festfan	18	1280	Jan 6, 2010 by maresie
	Self Beatings...ESH would be a Blessing..... (Preview) Most of my Life, since about 8 up, (Parents Seperated then) I have wore this Shell... I guess for most ACOA it is a Protective shell that "I" felt was keeping me from getting hurt by others... But in reality, it has done nothing but bring me pain... I am an Office Manager for a Company my Husband...	Jozie	4	1256	Jan 6, 2010 by maresie
	Feeling really good! (Preview) I'm new to this al anon board, and al anon in general. I would just like to share how I am currently doing considering I left the addict in my life. On Christmas Eve I broke up with my addict boyfriend of 5 years and have been doing awesome! I mean of course I'm still sad and miss the "good ol days"...	seweasy	4	1120	Jan 6, 2010 by wyola
	My VCR still blinks 12:00~The perfectonist in me is dying:) (Preview) I had to laugh in spite of myself yesterday....I got a digital picture frame LAST Christmas and due to my inability to function in an electronic world, I never used it. Tried once, got agitated and put it away for the year-lol. I love photography and taking pictures of things/places morso than peopl...	shellyj123	3	1355	Jan 6, 2010 by hotrod
	Not so happy new year (Preview) Just need a little vent I am so down. I was transferring birthday dates from old calendar onto new. Noticed in Jan last year AH had appointment with doctor about his alcoholism. I went with him and listened while he earnestly told doc how he really wanted to give up drinking. Well, failed de-toxes foll...	Tattyhead	7	938	Jan 6, 2010 by maresie
	Give me strength and take away this pain (Preview) This pain is gut wrenching. Deep.Everything reminds me of him. I continue to act like an addict myself, still texting, calling, reaching out for that validation and love from someone who has always rejected me. In some layer of my mind I believe that if he would just WANT me back, WANT to be with me - that...	RunnerChick	11	1225	Jan 6, 2010 by maresie
	Update on that murderer with A (Preview) Forgot to tell you, they moved A from his cell not an hour after I called his counselor! I could not believe it! They must have known it was a stupid situation. He told me they asked him if his family or anyone had called or anything? I had not told him I was doing this. He told them no. I asked him well what happ...	Debilyn	1	881	Jan 6, 2010 by maresie
	Obsession and Self Compassion AND One day at a time. (Preview) I am trying to tune into the ways in which I am talking to myself and to BE COMPASSIONATE. Give love to my inner child. The obsession consumes me sometimes. It is an addiction pull. It is automatic - the way I reach out to him for comfort and validation. I KEEP doing it. People tell me I will continue to do it,...	RunnerChick	3	907	Jan 6, 2010 by kitty
	first steps... (Preview) My ABF will not talk to me right now because the last two times we drank together I knew I didn't want to and couldn't handle it. We decided to hang out with our friends and then meet up later...by the time we met up he had been passed out on the bar for almost an hour. His friends know this is getting old, but...	wyola	4	1607	Jan 6, 2010 by hotrod
	Heartbroken by someone in the program and so confused (Preview) I've been friends with this man who has been in AA for five years. We met fours years ago and were just friends for three years. However I didn't know he was in the program until about a year and a half ago. I was aware the whole time that he didn't drink but I didn't know why. However he did tell me his...	bernadette158	5	1206	Jan 5, 2010 by DreamXL
	LIVE AND LET LIVE * from an old forum * F.M.M. (Preview) LIVE AND LET LIVE THE first part of this slogan tell us to live, However living before Al-Anon meant worrying about the alcoholic , obsessing about our problems and trying to find perfect solutions--- abandoning ourselves in the process. Were we living , or were we allowing people and situations to...	abbyal	2	1621	Jan 5, 2010 by hotrod
	This is my craziness TODAY... (Preview) So, the event that triggered me to turn to Al Anon and begin to accept that I was powerless was (not surprisingly) New Years Day. I was so angry about how my ABF behaved in front of my friends at NYE that I didnt even want to see him for the rest of the weekend. I was laying in bed, thinking of what to say to get...	Festfan	4	1058	Jan 5, 2010 by Festfan
	A little jolt from my HP (Preview) I spoke with an old dear friend over Christmas. She shared with me that her husband was drinking too much and it was getting difficult for her to handle her situation. I have spoken to her about alanon in the past although I don't think she has introduced herself to it yet. I advised her of this message...	fishinmama	2	873	Jan 5, 2010 by Tracy
	That Heavy Phone (Preview) Why is it that I have such a hard time picking up the phone and calling my Al-Anon friends when times get tough? I'll call my parents, my cousin, my friends. . . but not my program friends. I know that they are the ones I SHOULD be calling, but I just can't bring myself to do it. WHY? Any suggestions on how to ge...	N8SMOM	5	758	Jan 5, 2010 by Tracy
	anger and tears (Preview) Newbie here but not to the alanon program. Moved back to the midwest because of lonliness. Thought living next to the parents and helping them out whould be good for me. Dad is active alcoholic and mom is bigtime enabler. I basically moved back because I ran from another alcoholic marraige. When i get...	Lindajean	5	886	Jan 5, 2010 by abbyal
	I know this is not for my A.. (Preview) But how can I avoid the fight.. I have talked to my AH several times about going to a f2f meeting, and everytime it ends with me being blamed (nothing new there) guilt trip.. or him getting drunk. I know it is next to impossible to have a conversation with him. but I don't want me going to cause termoil for my...	serching-sandy	4	950	Jan 5, 2010 by Debilyn
	The will of God... (Preview) will not take me where the hand of God cannot protect me. As I sit at my desk at work, our company is about 15 minutes away from an announcement that they are closing the doors. I am saddened by this because I can honestly say that of all the jobs I have had I really enjoyed this one and loved to come to work. I...	AlaMom	7	954	Jan 5, 2010 by Jerry F
	A decision (Preview) AH and I have spent days talking about separation. I have been so unhappy. It's been almost 6 months since I started al-anon and I'm trying to detach from his drinking and find my boundaries. But deep down I just feel that he can never be the partner that I want and need. I want to have children one day,...	cdngirl	3	1027	Jan 5, 2010 by Mattie
	Step One revisited...If I am powerless then someone else is in control. (Preview) We had our very first step meeting Friday night-which I lead and it was awesome! We took turns reading Step One from Paths to Recovery and then at the end I "passed the basket" so to speak (it was more like a bad-lol) with all the questions from the end of the step and everyone picked a question...	shellyj123	9	1073	Jan 5, 2010 by Festfan
	Revisiting Step One (Preview) I am in so much pain that I am ready to surrender to the program and to all the suggestions - yet AGAIN. I am powerless over my exabf. I am powerless over my disease, my addiction to him and my NEED for him in my life. I'm powerless over his struggles. When I THINK I am in control or when I try to be in control - my l...	RunnerChick	8	1003	Jan 4, 2010 by CJ recovery
	Are there any Happy Endings? (Preview) I am sitting alone at the dining room table, while my B is at a bar, reading the previous chats and crying wondering are there any happy endings or if I stay in this relationship am I going to be in a vicious cycle that will never end.......	frustratedinop	6	960	Jan 4, 2010 by frustratedinop
	does your partner know? (Preview) Being new here I'm learning so much. but I also have many questions. One question I've wondered about...Does your A partner know about your participation in al anon and that you are working on your own recovery? I haven't mentioned it to my A but it seems he must have noticed a change in my attitude (no mo...	pineapple	10	903	Jan 4, 2010 by pineapple
	Happy New Year! (Preview) Happy New Year everyone! This is the first time I have been on this site since the new year started & since I have gotten on at all! Today happens to be my 24th Alanon birthday; I am so grateful for all the years I have been in alanon & have met some wonderful loving & caring people including al...	Hoot Nanny	2	821	Jan 4, 2010 by pineapple
	New member. Just left my addict bf and really need support. (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this message board. I have been in a relationship with my ex bf for going on 5 years. I'm only 25 years old and recently found out he has been addicted to oxycontin for the past 6 months. I always had a gut feeling he was on something but he always denied it which made me crazy! I found out he h...	seweasy	12	1029	Jan 4, 2010 by maresie
	Happy New Year! (Preview) ((((((Family))))), Pipers and I wanted to take a moment and wish you all a very HAPPY NEW YEAR! I hope you all had wonderful holidays. I'm sorry I've been away for awhile. Work was chaotic and I was spending time w/a friend who has been going through a very difficult time. Between that, work and the h...	Karilynn	2	681	Jan 4, 2010 by maresie
	What to expect from a sponsor? (Preview) Hi, just asked someone to be my sponsor but not sure what that means? This is her first experience at being a sponsor - so we are both new to the relationship. Do I call her to check in? Does she call me? Can I call her when I need to talk? We have set up a regular weekly meeting time to go over the steps, but I am n...	jasobel	5	16298	Jan 4, 2010 by supermom
	What do I say to my 8 year old? (Preview) My husband is in recovery - my 8 year old knows he can't drink alcohol. When we went out to eat he said he was drinking beer, it was root beer. I told her it was root beer. She knows he isn't supposed to drink alcohol. Later when we were home she asked, "what will happen to daddy if he drinks alcohol?...	cbcali	6	1304	Jan 4, 2010 by cbcali
	General Hospital.... (Preview) has agreed and will work in cooperation with Al-Anon WSO (World Service Office) to include mention and some description of the Al-Anon Family Groups into their programing on the 29th. They will also run a Al-Anon PSA during the break. How awesome is that....know anyone in program in your local sta...	Jerry F	10	1004	Jan 4, 2010 by grammie
	An observation (Preview) For the most part, my husband is improving by drinking less and his personality was starting to improve as well. I was happy with that. The last few days he's been hitting the bottle more than he has been for the last few weeks and his ugly personality showed up today. It's that personality again. W...	dori711	3	875	Jan 4, 2010 by serching-sandy
	Just a little question.... (Preview) I know this question is vague, but what is grief. What should one expect? What is your experience? Thanks and peace, fishinmama	fishinmama	5	1071	Jan 4, 2010 by Overcome
	Letting Go of Fear (Preview) I just found this picture and set it as my avatar. I took it with my camera phone a couple weeks ago while I was driving to pick up my older son (yes, I pulled over first - haha). It was actually a very small rainbow in the sky - you can't really see it in the picture, but it was there. The coolest thing was, on m...	White Rabbit	7	1019	Jan 4, 2010 by 3littlekittens
	spontaneous 10th Step.... (Preview) Practicing the "If you keep an open mind...you will find help"; from the ending statement in an Al-Anon meeting I ended up having a spontaneous 10th step moment where I was able to learn some of why I have been dealing with denial and my subconscious mind has been shouting from where ever it h...	Jerry F	3	1438	Jan 4, 2010 by hotrod
	no new posts (Preview) I was wondering if anyone can let me know why sometimes when I post the black tick pops up at the side saying no new posts. It can be very frustarting when you are seeking esh. Hope this post doesnt get one too thanks -- Edited by Tracy on Sunday 3rd of January 2010 09:00:28 AM	Tracy	1	758	Jan 4, 2010 by dori711
	Feeling alone (Preview) I´m feeling like crap today. Even thouh my husband kicked me out and only calls me to yell at me, I miss my friend. I miss when he was sober we would go to the movies or to eat or just stayed home and lounge. I feel I´ve been betrayed by friends and I feel my life is so out of control right now. Honestly God has bee...	Priscilla83	5	891	Jan 3, 2010 by CJ recovery
	My story...long... (Preview) I am 23 years old And have been with the same boyfriend since I was 15 years old Our puppy dog love, turned into a very close and healthy relationship.. Everyone wanted a relationship like ours.. WOW you guys look so happy.. I wish I had someone. So I could be happy like you two.. No one could have imagine wh...	teach123	7	772	Jan 3, 2010 by teach123
	He Left Me (Preview) Yesterday my boyfriend of 4 years and the a in my life, whom I moved to Florida to be with told me that our relationship wasn't working anymore. As I type that, it cuts me to the core. All it appears were in attempts to make him feel guilty for not wanting to be with me, which in admitting this, actually makes...	RunnerChick	24	1610	Jan 3, 2010 by carolinagirl
	Reminder: Business Meeting (Preview) is tonight at 9 EST (6 PM Pacific) The Agenda Review of December minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Listing MIP with WSO - sue New Business Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please PM Courage if there are any additional topics (and if time will allow)	tea2	0	490	Jan 3, 2010 by tea2
	inspiration needed (Preview) I've been coming here and going to online meetings for a week now. It's been a great help to me, I feel some hope that I can learn to cope with my A's drinking. He got drunk two nights ago for the first time since I discovered al anon. I was able to tell myself that he has a disease, it's not his fault. I refraine...	pineapple	10	2053	Jan 3, 2010 by agapaga
	Big Life Changes (Preview) I'm new to the forum! Though not new to the consequences of alcoholism. The immediate question on my mind is regarding The Big Life Changes that AA encourages those new to sobriety to NOT do. No big moves, no new relationships, no new jobs. No romantic relationships for a year. Is the newly sober pers...	JackieBrown	8	795	Jan 3, 2010 by Mattie
	My Grandaughter (Preview) I posted last week as a newbie.. I`am disabled and unable to attend outside meetings but have made it here to one or two. I have my grandaughter here quite a bit to babysit. Her mother was a drug addict but I believe now is drinking. She hurt her little girl last week while they were away on vacation and and m...	Samsgram	1	815	Jan 3, 2010 by Mattie
	ESH Please!!! (Preview) I got a call from my credit card company. He stole my credit card and racked up a bunch of charges and they called me to see if they are fraudulent. Of course I said yes. I didn't want to but I did. I'm so scared. I pulled up my credit card statement and there are even more charges. I'm struggling financ...	Ragdolls	6	780	Jan 3, 2010 by Jerry F
	when does unacceptable behavior change? (Preview) So here I am again watching my two young children by myself. It is a familiar scenario to me now. Recovering A has been downstairs doing nothing to help me with the kids and now he has gone "out" for a couple hours. When he gets back from being "out" it will be time for him to go to AA...	supermom	9	1201	Jan 2, 2010 by supermom
	guidance (Preview) I am so confused all the time and begging HP for guidance. When I came home off holidays my sponsor rang and asked if I could visit her. To cut along story short she has met My ABF's sponsor at an open meeting we all attended lately and she knows him from a long time a ago. I have confided in her that he is enco...	Tracy	0	630	Jan 2, 2010 by Tracy
	A great reading (Preview) The reading for Jan. 1, in Courage to Change is one of my very favorites. I remember exactly where I was when I read it last year. As the program goes, it was even more meaningful to me when I read it again this year, as I could believe it more from personal experience than just trusting those that go before...	Loupiness	0	573	Jan 2, 2010 by Loupiness
	poems about my alcoholic dad (Preview) Daddy why dont you ever listen to me? please daddy hear my silent screams for help dont continue to ignore me and pretend you didnt hear them why cant you see my pain? why dont you ever understand me? just once i wish you'd say i love you simply because i am your little princess why cant you admire my true bea...	Shellybelly	1	7210	Jan 2, 2010 by Christy
	Loss (Preview) It's like it has been drummed into me that everything goes away. The only constant is HP. Does a person have to lose so much to realize what really matters? And by then, isn't it too late? Even was blessed with another lady who had a pet pig too. She became my adoptive mom and her husband my dad. She died. No...	Debilyn	3	698	Jan 2, 2010 by Debilyn
	Did I share this? (Preview) That I asked the A the last time we talked, that he said when people get drunk or loaded or whatever, they use that do to whatever they want to do? I mean they get drunk and choose to cheat,steal, fight, laugh, drive, they use that feeling of not caring to do whatever. Was an eye opener to me. But again it was h...	Debilyn	2	733	Jan 2, 2010 by Debilyn
	Willingness...Am I willing? (Preview) Good Morning Family, Need to sort out some thoughts here. Helps me so much just to post what is swirling in the brain, see the thoughts. So on my brain's agenda this morning seems to be "willingness" I keep asking myself am I willing. I have been reading alot. Not my normal entertaining rea...	fishinmama	0	1392	Jan 2, 2010 by fishinmama
	Anyone else celebrating alone tonight? (Preview) Well, I am not technically alone since my kids are here, but they will be in bed by 8 :) I am alone by choice, and I mostly feel okay about it. AH is going out with his brother and some other people and you should have seen him today...he was so excited, like a kid before Christmas, about getting wasted toni...	SWgal	7	976	Jan 2, 2010 by teach123
	Possible DL reinstatement (Preview) I was wondering if anyone on this forum have experienced their A having their driver license reinstated after a horrible driving record. Anyone know anyone who has had their DL reinstated after a life suspension on an already suspended for life license? Is anyone here living with someone who has n...	suzydawn	5	892	Jan 2, 2010 by suzydawn
	in with the new.... (Preview) My Friends, After 3 pretty ghastly years, I can honestly say I look forward to 2010 with hope. Hope, that I am absolutely certain, would not be there for me without this program. So much to be grateful for! I am healing. My children are healing. There is a level of peace and contentment that is settling...	Loupiness	2	842	Jan 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	New to all of this... (Preview) Hi everyone. I am new here and new to any type of al-anon group. I plan to join an al-anon group in the next week. My story - Last summer my sister and her husband moved back to our home state. I noticed something was wrong when I went to visit her one time and she had poured vodka into her breakfast drink an...	Julzy	5	1068	Jan 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	it's been a long time (Preview) Hello all and happy new year. I haven't posted in months. I became complacent. Partly because my A had moved out for a year and because of my pride. I am a substance abuse counselor in a rural part of Idaho. When I go to the one local meeting I am confronted by former clients and families of clients who want m...	lostcadc	1	899	Jan 1, 2010 by Debilyn
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