Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

FreudinSlip · FreudinSlip

Hello All, I'm new to this. My therapist suggested I check out Al-anon meetings or ACOA meetings. I found an al-anon meeting in my area, I've gone a couple of times, but I'm a bit lost. I mostly just sit in the back and listen because I don't really get what is going on, some things that people say I can relat...

addictiondoc · addictiondoc

Hi Everyone!I am a doctor that specializes in drug addiction/alcoholism. I am committed to helping family members who have a loved on with an addiction. It's a tough disease that destroys a lot of families so I try to help people in many different ways.Thanks

skootr73 · skootr73

Hi! I'm new to this board. Just wanted to put a quick shout out that I'm glad to find y'all. It will be nice to have a supplement to my f2f meeting. Looking forward to being blessed with lots of ES&H! Thanx-Skootr

sdisnie · sdisnie

Which is worse? Wondering where your drunk husband is for an entire week while he's on a bender and then having to take him to the hospital when he can't stop....about twice a year..... Or.....having to send your kids off with him and his new girlfriend every Saturday and soon every other weekend for t...

Acatnip · Acatnip

So today, AH had huge melt down resulting in relapsing after 4 days of sobriety. He got two guns and brought them to bed with him., I called 911. I managed to remove the guns from his possession and locked all weapons in my car. The sheriff's officer spoke with him and he admitted to wanting to hurt himsel...

Festfan · Festfan

Hello friends at MIP, Wow, I am really seeking ESH today. I haven't posted in a while, but I have been keeping up on reading. I am struggling with my relationship with my AexBF. I ended our relationship at the beginning of February and had begun to be accustomed to more peace in my life - at least as it re...

Bluelady · Bluelady

Hello, I just wanted too give you a update on how we are doing. Chris has been sober 1 month. Yesterday she got a promotion at her work, she will get her Masters in a month on got top grade in her mid term. I won't tell you everything is just great but I won't give up on her. We are working on it together. She is ge...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

So I went to an amazing seminar this weekend that is supposed to "change lives". I got ALOT out of it and I FEEL great, but there is a part of me still wrapped up in the obsession and abandonment I felt in my relationship. It is a complicated one, that's for sure. Today I just feel that familiar tu...

Katy · Katy

Doing the same thing's over and over and getting the same results? practice practice practice, it works it really does, light bulb moment, what can I take form that? Well, I have been practicing learning learning learning, and now I am just on the cusp of ok I get that now what? Just do it, ya can't just th...

cdngirl · cdngirl

A week ago, I was talking to my sponsor about how to pray, what to ask for, etc, as sometimes I feel like I'm doing it wrong because I wasn't getting anything out of it. She suggested to ask God for a sign that he is there for me, guiding me. So I prayed on that the past week. Yesterday, I had a horrendous day...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's one thing to be able to detach from the ex AH....I can do that a little better....my problem is trying to detach from the new girlfriend who is now in control of his life. For whatever reason she decides to pick up where I left off. My problem with her is I know her, and I know the type of person she is, a...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi wondered I live in Englad and would love to watch when love is not enough. I have SKY (digital television) which has about 4 different CBS american channels. I also have to Hallmark channels. Then there is the time differences to consider. not sure if I will b able to get this movie , can you buy it?...

Sunset · Sunset

Hello everyone, I go by the nick hummer, but use to be sunset. I am just apologizing for the other nite when I was a bit disgruntled over a lady reading her poetry in the chatroom. I just thought that because it was not conference approved literature that it should not have been shared in the chatroom. ...

Kiki52 · Kiki52

I'm new to MIP, but not to Al Anon. I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone. I think this will be a great addition to my recovery program

bluerose · bluerose

I am feeling very troubled at the momment. I am 4 weeks from my divorce from my AH being final. But I am not free from the ravages of this awful disease. My AH comes to my house as he pleases, most visits are nasty and unpleasant. He has made so many threats from burning my house down, raping me and promises to...

Gailey · Gailey

Thank you! You are a lovely, caring person. Gail

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I'll keep this simple. I have been married for 25+ years to a wonderful man who happens to have the disease of alcoholism. He relapses every 3-5 months. He is active in support groups. I can hardly deal with the relapses after a 10 year period of going through this. It is ugly. I have anxiety and ins...

Nicomanti · Nicomanti

I'll try to make this as short as possible! My mother is a severe alcoholic, the problem is that she hides it pretty well. Her husband works out of town and is very rarely ever home (he also drinks A LOT). She only really has one friend who also drinks a lot, and who she very rarely sees, so no one really sees h...

david62 · david62

Hi Family, I just finished reading "When Love is Not Enough - The Lois Wilson Story" this morning. In it mention is made of the Stepping Stones Foundation that was created near the end of her life to provide for, among other things, the preservation of the home she and Bill shared which they c...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Well, what a week, last week has been. To make a long story short, I went on vacation with my sister. I knew that my AH was hitting the bottle hard, I didn't know the last time he had been to work, I didn't check and I didn't call him in. I decided that this was it. He is responsible for himself. I spoke with my d...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))), With St. Patrick's Day right around the corner, I'd like to offer a suggestion. We all know how hard it can be on all of us - especially with an active A in the house. AS if addicts needed another excuse to drink or drug. (They do it b/c they are addicts.) If things are tough remember th...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Wow I have sat here for a half an hour looking at the computer screen knowing I want to post but what do I want to say. Daughter took my car on Thursday she has a suspended license for DUI. I called her and she let the call go to voice mail...I left message and she called back..Told her to bring car back and s...

Katy · Katy

I think I can change that feeling now into acceptance and humility, I have carried resentment around with me way to long, and when I looked deep into myself, I thought ermmmmmm it's only me keeping this resentment a live, let it go, and swap it for acceptence and low and behold I feel lighter, light bulb m...

MapleMom · MapleMom

So today, I think my lesson for myself is learning to take it one day at a time. AH has his weekly curling game to go to and usually he comes home drunk from this. Since we had our big talk a week ago, things were good and in the past couple of days he has come home after having a couple to last night I know he had...

breezee · breezee

Just heard this recently and wanted to pass along the word... mark your calendars! There will be a hallmark presentation of "Love Is Not Enough: the Lois Wilson Story" starring Winona Ryder to air on sunday, apr 25th, 2010 at 9pm EST on CBS. How's that for alanon going mainstream?! For t...

John · John

Please take a moment or two of your time to read the sticky post title "Message Board Decision Meeting 3/28/10" at the top of this board. Thank you,John

sgac · sgac

Hi,I recently had a resentment with a sponsee. We worked it out and each apologized but now I am experiencing 2 people ion our group that are avoiding eye contact with me. She is friends with these two people, as am I. I want to say something to all parties but am at a loss as to what I would say. I did not go to a...

elzzap · elzzap

Hi all So, 7 months ago I left my alcoholic husband. Technically, he threw me and the kids out in one of his nastier tirades when I told him I was leaving. He had been emotionally and verbally abusive for years, preaching how his drunkeness was always my fault, if only i was more this, or less that, or bet...

fishinmama · fishinmama

This was sent to me via email....I just had to share it. 'To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.' When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better. Concentrate on this sentence... 'The will...

moonchild · moonchild

Hello Everyone, I just wanted to let you know that it has been a week since I spoke to my A son. As far as I know he is still in hosiptal and trying to find a sober house to go too. Yesturday was tough alot of tears, and questioning my decision to cut him loose. But I made it through and today is a new day, Does it ge...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...this morning while getting ready to park my truck before going to a morning meeting I had an affair!! LOL Don't paint your own picture let me do it. The affair was that while preparing to turn across the on coming lane into the parking stall the person I had an affair with was exercising...

miss lucy · miss lucy

i got a call from the doctor today telling me my blood tests have shown a deterioration in my bone density and it looks like i may have osteoporosis. this, two days after being told i need another operation to remove another non cancerous lump!!! that puts my plans back another 3 months! everything,...

mgr · mgr

I just recently kicked my addicted daughter out of our house which put her four children with their dad full-time. Of course we are still helping with the care. Question, should we allow our addicted daughter refusing treatment to visit the girls age 11, 9 3 & 2?

DragoN · DragoN

Hello, I'm new to Alanon but not the effects of alcohol in my marriage to my AH. Have been reading here and can relate to far too many of the frustrations and sadness and...the list goes on and on. Long story short...I'm tired of it. I know that I cannot change, cure nor control him...and his lying is pissi...

maire rua · maire rua

hi guys, mother's day here but not in this house, not a card or wish anywhere in site. I did bring it up and had a meltdown and have cleared all members out of my house, am now making a nice pot of coffee, getting ready to go to a meeting and kind of chuckling to myself as I handed it all over to my hp just about 10 m...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))))), Good morning to you all. After MANY long hours of contemplation, talking with old & new friends I have had a change of heart about leaving MIP. It's been a very long few days. Neither the decision to leave or remain has come lightly and w/o serious consideration. But I h...

Destynee · Destynee

I went to a F2F meeting and they all agreed that you have to play the mind games and let them back in since you don't know if they will follow though or not. My drug addicted husband will go and use on his days off and not come home, will miss a day of work and then call and say "I wrote letters to you and the k...

MapleMom · MapleMom

Warning this is totally a pity post. Today I am feeling so blue, my emotions are just so raw. I am full of why's. Like why is the man I love an alcoholic, why is my dad an A, why is my brother an A, why is alcohol such an issue with my mother, why is every family function a booze fest, why do I seem to be the only on...

indigo1 · indigo1

I just joined this group tonight because I am currently in a relationship with an active alcoholic, and I am trying to figure out if it is possible to have a truly healthy relationship. We have been together for a little over two years and were friends for a year prior to that. Shortly after we began &quo...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

I don't know about you but here at my home when the weather starts to turn nice and warm my AH drinks more and tends to go out to drink. Like stopping on his way home from work and then driving home. Over the years I have come to this conclusion. Things always get worse when things get nice outside. Like he wa...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP family, Just a quick update on how I'm doing. Not great, not terrible. I'm mostly numb. I heard this is a part of grief. The terrible flashbacks are less frequent, but so too are meaningful and comforting memories of my AH. I remembered I had saved all his letters from rehab, so I read them toni...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Just a reminder to all of us who observe Daylight Savings Time. It starts Sunday at 2am. So remember to set your clocks ahead 1 hour before you go to bed. We loose an hour of but the payoff is we get an extra hour of daylight. Spring has to be around the corner. Enjoy the weekend. Much love and blessing...

Rodney2009 · Rodney2009

I have not been on here for a while. I quit my face to face meetings for alanon cause noone wanted to sponsor me for this I am struggling at moment due to family loss and so on and my family using as well. Thanks hope to get a reply soon. Rodney from Canada clean from Booze since Dec 26 2000

pricklypear · pricklypear

I think the hardest part of everything I am dealing with is being the counselor who helps everyone else. Perhaps a codependency issue. The knowledge has always been there... but has it transcended out of my head to my heart? I need help. I need the wisdom, strength and support of others. I have done t...

Acatnip · Acatnip

First of all, thanks for having a place of refuge online. I never dreamed I would need it but I am grateful you are here. I recently discovered my new husband is an alcoholic. I am truly devastated and heartbroken. While I love this man with my entire being, I know what I must do for my own sake. I just hope h...

newbie46 · newbie46

I just wanted to say that I dont have time for alanon meetings. I come here because this is all I have time for. I have a very busy life and a very busy job. If I were house bound and unable to get out it would be accepted but because I just say I am too busy for meetings, one or two people seem to think they can p...

SoSweet · SoSweet

hello dear friends I am new on this board and I am here because today I decided to not pretend any longer that my husband is not an alcoholic. I cannot convince him to seek help, as you know he has to hit rock bottom first and accept that he has a problem. He thinks because he only drinks when he wants to, (ge...

david62 · david62

Okay, I got a new joke for my "Ya may be an Alanonic" material yesterday. I had to go to Federal jury duty yesterday, 70 miles from my hometown. All the way over there I am hoping very much that I don't get selected to be on the jury because I am on a deadline at work and missing two days for jury dut...

speck31 · speck31

My A is an ex-AB - so he floats in and out of my life on a weekly basis. For the past week, he was back(in my life) after he lost his job and sold everything in his house to pay for an 8 day binge. I didn't know where he was or how he was and vacillated between trying to not care to obsessing about where/how he was...

QOD · QOD

So the texting wars have started today between me and my exAH/bf. I have been waiting for this......he owes me 3 months worth of child support and the child support agency put a note on my acct that they requested it be taken from his tax refund. So I have been waiting for that to hit. It hit today appare...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

So as I had predicted, with the warmer weather comes more drinking. Yes last night was the start of the drinking and driving routine. Which I am sure he is oblivious to. But I am not. I knew it was coming and sure enough. He had to stop on his way home from work for a "meeting" at a bar/restaurant....

intothewoods · intothewoods

So I think the reality is hitting my AH that I am leaving in May after I graduate. He's drinking more and more every night and spiralling down into deep depression. It is a very hard thing to watch, knowing I am powerless. But then again, knowing I am powerless is freeing too. I didn't cause this and I can't...

Jozie · Jozie

WOW... Been Working on some "inner" step 4 work here of late, and have realized something about MY Addictions... At times I have had often wondered exactly "What" my addictions are... I know that Alcohol & Drugs are of course an addiction but "other" things als...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Got news yesterday that a close family friend was critically injured in a 4 wheeler accident over the weekend. He is in ICU and in critical condition. Such a wonderful man, I have been praying for his recovery, If you have a moment would you send a prayer too?? Daughter and I are trying to keep our pos...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

So, things have been alot smoother lately and I credit all of it to the ESH and lessons I've learned here from all of you. The Abf-sober has been keeping up with his therapy and even started meetings. We had a long talk where he expressed his despair over me being closed off to him. I told him what I neede...

rylzmama · rylzmama

Hello there . . .here for advice . . . my alcholic has been sober for 2 months now and is going through alot of different emotions . . .we are a young couple with a one year old daughter. . . i have been through hell with him disappearing for days at a time and using. . . trust is a huge issue we are trying to ge...

maresie · maresie

I've come to realize that what I thought were suggestions were actually things I used to "do" for other people. These days in the reign of let go and let god I do make suggestions and I leave it at that. That is suggestions in terms of what to take for a cold rather than what's wrong with their li...

MapleMom · MapleMom

So things have actually been good for a few days. Husband and I had a great heart to heart a few days ago and really felt a deep connection with each other. I did ask that if he has anything to drink to please not come home, and he said well what if I only have one, I just repeated myself. I do not want him he...

Karilynn · Karilynn

African Proverb (one of my favorites): "To be able to love other people, you must be able to love yourself." Sound familiar? Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I've been off the board for some time. But I have found and moved into my own apartment. I don't have Internet connection there, so am posting at work, but need some support. I woke up this morning with this intense feeling of sadness and emptiness. I felt sick to my stomach that he wasn't there. It felt li...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Hello All I'm new to this. (Preview) Hello All, I'm new to this. My therapist suggested I check out Al-anon meetings or ACOA meetings. I found an al-anon meeting in my area, I've gone a couple of times, but I'm a bit lost. I mostly just sit in the back and listen because I don't really get what is going on, some things that people say I can relat...	FreudinSlip	7	1044	Mar 17, 2010 by xeno59
	Introducing myself (Preview) Hi Everyone!I am a doctor that specializes in drug addiction/alcoholism. I am committed to helping family members who have a loved on with an addiction. It's a tough disease that destroys a lot of families so I try to help people in many different ways.Thanks	addictiondoc	9	650	Mar 17, 2010 by kitty
	New & Want to Say Glad to Be Here (Preview) Hi! I'm new to this board. Just wanted to put a quick shout out that I'm glad to find y'all. It will be nice to have a supplement to my f2f meeting. Looking forward to being blessed with lots of ES&H! Thanx-Skootr	skootr73	5	637	Mar 17, 2010 by Tracy
	Which is Worse? (Preview) Which is worse? Wondering where your drunk husband is for an entire week while he's on a bender and then having to take him to the hospital when he can't stop....about twice a year..... Or.....having to send your kids off with him and his new girlfriend every Saturday and soon every other weekend for t...	sdisnie	6	725	Mar 17, 2010 by nmike
	So Angry With Crisis Center (Preview) So today, AH had huge melt down resulting in relapsing after 4 days of sobriety. He got two guns and brought them to bed with him., I called 911. I managed to remove the guns from his possession and locked all weapons in my car. The sheriff's officer spoke with him and he admitted to wanting to hurt himsel...	Acatnip	11	789	Mar 17, 2010 by Acatnip
	ESH needed to deal with AexBF (Preview) Hello friends at MIP, Wow, I am really seeking ESH today. I haven't posted in a while, but I have been keeping up on reading. I am struggling with my relationship with my AexBF. I ended our relationship at the beginning of February and had begun to be accustomed to more peace in my life - at least as it re...	Festfan	7	840	Mar 16, 2010 by Festfan
	update on daughter (Preview) Hello, I just wanted too give you a update on how we are doing. Chris has been sober 1 month. Yesterday she got a promotion at her work, she will get her Masters in a month on got top grade in her mid term. I won't tell you everything is just great but I won't give up on her. We are working on it together. She is ge...	Bluelady	3	832	Mar 16, 2010 by Rocky38
	One of those days... (Preview) So I went to an amazing seminar this weekend that is supposed to "change lives". I got ALOT out of it and I FEEL great, but there is a part of me still wrapped up in the obsession and abandonment I felt in my relationship. It is a complicated one, that's for sure. Today I just feel that familiar tu...	RunnerChick	2	650	Mar 16, 2010 by hotrod
	A ha moments! (Preview) Doing the same thing's over and over and getting the same results? practice practice practice, it works it really does, light bulb moment, what can I take form that? Well, I have been practicing learning learning learning, and now I am just on the cusp of ok I get that now what? Just do it, ya can't just th...	Katy	4	580	Mar 16, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	A sign (Preview) A week ago, I was talking to my sponsor about how to pray, what to ask for, etc, as sometimes I feel like I'm doing it wrong because I wasn't getting anything out of it. She suggested to ask God for a sign that he is there for me, guiding me. So I prayed on that the past week. Yesterday, I had a horrendous day...	cdngirl	2	745	Mar 16, 2010 by hotrod
	Need help detaching from A's new girlfriend (Preview) It's one thing to be able to detach from the ex AH....I can do that a little better....my problem is trying to detach from the new girlfriend who is now in control of his life. For whatever reason she decides to pick up where I left off. My problem with her is I know her, and I know the type of person she is, a...	sdisnie	4	788	Mar 16, 2010 by lizzakiss
	Movie (Preview) Hi wondered I live in Englad and would love to watch when love is not enough. I have SKY (digital television) which has about 4 different CBS american channels. I also have to Hallmark channels. Then there is the time differences to consider. not sure if I will b able to get this movie , can you buy it?...	Tracy	3	585	Mar 16, 2010 by Melissa21
	Apology (Preview) Hello everyone, I go by the nick hummer, but use to be sunset. I am just apologizing for the other nite when I was a bit disgruntled over a lady reading her poetry in the chatroom. I just thought that because it was not conference approved literature that it should not have been shared in the chatroom. ...	Sunset	6	732	Mar 16, 2010 by blender_girl
	Hey Everyone (Preview) I'm new to MIP, but not to Al Anon. I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone. I think this will be a great addition to my recovery program	Kiki52	3	613	Mar 16, 2010 by blender_girl
	Do I have to go into hiding? (Preview) I am feeling very troubled at the momment. I am 4 weeks from my divorce from my AH being final. But I am not free from the ravages of this awful disease. My AH comes to my house as he pleases, most visits are nasty and unpleasant. He has made so many threats from burning my house down, raping me and promises to...	bluerose	13	752	Mar 15, 2010 by bluerose
	For Hotrod (Preview) Thank you! You are a lovely, caring person. Gail	Gailey	1	600	Mar 15, 2010 by hotrod
	HOW DO I DETACH??? (Preview) I'll keep this simple. I have been married for 25+ years to a wonderful man who happens to have the disease of alcoholism. He relapses every 3-5 months. He is active in support groups. I can hardly deal with the relapses after a 10 year period of going through this. It is ugly. I have anxiety and ins...	wifeofalcoholic	8	1719	Mar 15, 2010 by xter
	Desperate for advice! (Preview) I'll try to make this as short as possible! My mother is a severe alcoholic, the problem is that she hides it pretty well. Her husband works out of town and is very rarely ever home (he also drinks A LOT). She only really has one friend who also drinks a lot, and who she very rarely sees, so no one really sees h...	Nicomanti	9	1185	Mar 15, 2010 by skootr73
	An Early morning lesson from Lois (Preview) Hi Family, I just finished reading "When Love is Not Enough - The Lois Wilson Story" this morning. In it mention is made of the Stepping Stones Foundation that was created near the end of her life to provide for, among other things, the preservation of the home she and Bill shared which they c...	david62	3	630	Mar 15, 2010 by maresie
	back in treatment (Preview) Well, what a week, last week has been. To make a long story short, I went on vacation with my sister. I knew that my AH was hitting the bottle hard, I didn't know the last time he had been to work, I didn't check and I didn't call him in. I decided that this was it. He is responsible for himself. I spoke with my d...	Sweet Stanley	4	648	Mar 15, 2010 by Karilynn
	A positive twist on St. Patrick's Day (Preview) (((((Family))), With St. Patrick's Day right around the corner, I'd like to offer a suggestion. We all know how hard it can be on all of us - especially with an active A in the house. AS if addicts needed another excuse to drink or drug. (They do it b/c they are addicts.) If things are tough remember th...	Karilynn	3	793	Mar 15, 2010 by MaryPoppins
	I just need to post this... (Preview) Wow I have sat here for a half an hour looking at the computer screen knowing I want to post but what do I want to say. Daughter took my car on Thursday she has a suspended license for DUI. I called her and she let the call go to voice mail...I left message and she called back..Told her to bring car back and s...	fishinmama	7	889	Mar 15, 2010 by fishinmama
	Resentment! (Preview) I think I can change that feeling now into acceptance and humility, I have carried resentment around with me way to long, and when I looked deep into myself, I thought ermmmmmm it's only me keeping this resentment a live, let it go, and swap it for acceptence and low and behold I feel lighter, light bulb m...	Katy	8	834	Mar 15, 2010 by blender_girl
	Me learning one day at a time. (Preview) So today, I think my lesson for myself is learning to take it one day at a time. AH has his weekly curling game to go to and usually he comes home drunk from this. Since we had our big talk a week ago, things were good and in the past couple of days he has come home after having a couple to last night I know he had...	MapleMom	3	607	Mar 15, 2010 by pineapple
	Lois W. story to air on CBS in April (Preview) Just heard this recently and wanted to pass along the word... mark your calendars! There will be a hallmark presentation of "Love Is Not Enough: the Lois Wilson Story" starring Winona Ryder to air on sunday, apr 25th, 2010 at 9pm EST on CBS. How's that for alanon going mainstream?! For t...	breezee	1	900	Mar 15, 2010 by serching-sandy
	While here, please read.... (Preview) Please take a moment or two of your time to read the sticky post title "Message Board Decision Meeting 3/28/10" at the top of this board. Thank you,John	John	0	517	Mar 15, 2010 by John
	resentment (Preview) Hi,I recently had a resentment with a sponsee. We worked it out and each apologized but now I am experiencing 2 people ion our group that are avoiding eye contact with me. She is friends with these two people, as am I. I want to say something to all parties but am at a loss as to what I would say. I did not go to a...	sgac	4	700	Mar 15, 2010 by abbyal
	If I am happy to be out, why does seeing him make me feel crazy? (Preview) Hi all So, 7 months ago I left my alcoholic husband. Technically, he threw me and the kids out in one of his nastier tirades when I told him I was leaving. He had been emotionally and verbally abusive for years, preaching how his drunkeness was always my fault, if only i was more this, or less that, or bet...	elzzap	5	653	Mar 15, 2010 by Jerry F
	liked this and just wanted to share :) (Preview) This was sent to me via email....I just had to share it. 'To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.' When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better. Concentrate on this sentence... 'The will...	fishinmama	3	676	Mar 14, 2010 by Jerry F
	It's been a week ! (Preview) Hello Everyone, I just wanted to let you know that it has been a week since I spoke to my A son. As far as I know he is still in hosiptal and trying to find a sober house to go too. Yesturday was tough alot of tears, and questioning my decision to cut him loose. But I made it through and today is a new day, Does it ge...	moonchild	7	748	Mar 14, 2010 by moonchild
	"...Practice these principles in all our affairs" (Preview) Aloha Family...this morning while getting ready to park my truck before going to a morning meeting I had an affair!! LOL Don't paint your own picture let me do it. The affair was that while preparing to turn across the on coming lane into the parking stall the person I had an affair with was exercising...	Jerry F	4	1303	Mar 14, 2010 by Maria123
	just when everything was going so well....... (Preview) i got a call from the doctor today telling me my blood tests have shown a deterioration in my bone density and it looks like i may have osteoporosis. this, two days after being told i need another operation to remove another non cancerous lump!!! that puts my plans back another 3 months! everything,...	miss lucy	6	920	Mar 14, 2010 by miss lucy
	addicted parent visiting children (Preview) I just recently kicked my addicted daughter out of our house which put her four children with their dad full-time. Of course we are still helping with the care. Question, should we allow our addicted daughter refusing treatment to visit the girls age 11, 9 3 & 2?	mgr	9	765	Mar 14, 2010 by Nicomanti
	Lurker in the jungle... (Preview) Hello, I'm new to Alanon but not the effects of alcohol in my marriage to my AH. Have been reading here and can relate to far too many of the frustrations and sadness and...the list goes on and on. Long story short...I'm tired of it. I know that I cannot change, cure nor control him...and his lying is pissi...	DragoN	5	676	Mar 14, 2010 by maresie
	Feeling sorry for myself (Preview) hi guys, mother's day here but not in this house, not a card or wish anywhere in site. I did bring it up and had a meltdown and have cleared all members out of my house, am now making a nice pot of coffee, getting ready to go to a meeting and kind of chuckling to myself as I handed it all over to my hp just about 10 m...	maire rua	5	729	Mar 14, 2010 by maire rua
	Change of heart.... (Preview) (((((((Family))))))), Good morning to you all. After MANY long hours of contemplation, talking with old & new friends I have had a change of heart about leaving MIP. It's been a very long few days. Neither the decision to leave or remain has come lightly and w/o serious consideration. But I h...	Karilynn	21	927	Mar 14, 2010 by Diva
	How do I end the mind games?? (Preview) I went to a F2F meeting and they all agreed that you have to play the mind games and let them back in since you don't know if they will follow though or not. My drug addicted husband will go and use on his days off and not come home, will miss a day of work and then call and say "I wrote letters to you and the k...	Destynee	7	1001	Mar 14, 2010 by Mattie
	So full of whys (Preview) Warning this is totally a pity post. Today I am feeling so blue, my emotions are just so raw. I am full of why's. Like why is the man I love an alcoholic, why is my dad an A, why is my brother an A, why is alcohol such an issue with my mother, why is every family function a booze fest, why do I seem to be the only on...	MapleMom	4	645	Mar 14, 2010 by tlcate
	is it possible to have a healthy relationship? (Preview) I just joined this group tonight because I am currently in a relationship with an active alcoholic, and I am trying to figure out if it is possible to have a truly healthy relationship. We have been together for a little over two years and were friends for a year prior to that. Shortly after we began &quo...	indigo1	28	2134	Mar 14, 2010 by DreamXL
	With warm weather comes more drinking (Preview) I don't know about you but here at my home when the weather starts to turn nice and warm my AH drinks more and tends to go out to drink. Like stopping on his way home from work and then driving home. Over the years I have come to this conclusion. Things always get worse when things get nice outside. Like he wa...	wildthang86	5	1191	Mar 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Letters from rehab (Preview) Hi MIP family, Just a quick update on how I'm doing. Not great, not terrible. I'm mostly numb. I heard this is a part of grief. The terrible flashbacks are less frequent, but so too are meaningful and comforting memories of my AH. I remembered I had saved all his letters from rehab, so I read them toni...	Rocky38	4	704	Mar 14, 2010 by Iamhere
	Daylight Savings Time Reminder (Preview) Just a reminder to all of us who observe Daylight Savings Time. It starts Sunday at 2am. So remember to set your clocks ahead 1 hour before you go to bed. We loose an hour of but the payoff is we get an extra hour of daylight. Spring has to be around the corner. Enjoy the weekend. Much love and blessing...	Karilynn	3	502	Mar 14, 2010 by Iamhere
	hello all: (Preview) I have not been on here for a while. I quit my face to face meetings for alanon cause noone wanted to sponsor me for this I am struggling at moment due to family loss and so on and my family using as well. Thanks hope to get a reply soon. Rodney from Canada clean from Booze since Dec 26 2000	Rodney2009	4	560	Mar 13, 2010 by Rocky38
	Helper Needing Help (Preview) I think the hardest part of everything I am dealing with is being the counselor who helps everyone else. Perhaps a codependency issue. The knowledge has always been there... but has it transcended out of my head to my heart? I need help. I need the wisdom, strength and support of others. I have done t...	pricklypear	8	679	Mar 13, 2010 by Jerry F
	Shell shocked and Brokenhearted (Preview) First of all, thanks for having a place of refuge online. I never dreamed I would need it but I am grateful you are here. I recently discovered my new husband is an alcoholic. I am truly devastated and heartbroken. While I love this man with my entire being, I know what I must do for my own sake. I just hope h...	Acatnip	15	922	Mar 13, 2010 by intothewoods
	Alanon meetings (Preview) I just wanted to say that I dont have time for alanon meetings. I come here because this is all I have time for. I have a very busy life and a very busy job. If I were house bound and unable to get out it would be accepted but because I just say I am too busy for meetings, one or two people seem to think they can p...	newbie46	4	910	Mar 13, 2010 by kcsuper
	He's an Alcoholic and Out of control (Preview) hello dear friends I am new on this board and I am here because today I decided to not pretend any longer that my husband is not an alcoholic. I cannot convince him to seek help, as you know he has to hit rock bottom first and accept that he has a problem. He thinks because he only drinks when he wants to, (ge...	SoSweet	5	840	Mar 13, 2010 by abbyal
	Jury duty (Preview) Okay, I got a new joke for my "Ya may be an Alanonic" material yesterday. I had to go to Federal jury duty yesterday, 70 miles from my hometown. All the way over there I am hoping very much that I don't get selected to be on the jury because I am on a deadline at work and missing two days for jury dut...	david62	11	763	Mar 12, 2010 by supermom
	Frustration with others...and learning to let go. (Preview) My A is an ex-AB - so he floats in and out of my life on a weekly basis. For the past week, he was back(in my life) after he lost his job and sold everything in his house to pay for an 8 day binge. I didn't know where he was or how he was and vacillated between trying to not care to obsessing about where/how he was...	speck31	5	1652	Mar 12, 2010 by Saved By Grace
	Oh the Texting Wars!!! (Preview) So the texting wars have started today between me and my exAH/bf. I have been waiting for this......he owes me 3 months worth of child support and the child support agency put a note on my acct that they requested it be taken from his tax refund. So I have been waiting for that to hit. It hit today appare...	QOD	12	989	Mar 12, 2010 by blender_girl
	I was right about the weather, he went out drinking... (Preview) So as I had predicted, with the warmer weather comes more drinking. Yes last night was the start of the drinking and driving routine. Which I am sure he is oblivious to. But I am not. I knew it was coming and sure enough. He had to stop on his way home from work for a "meeting" at a bar/restaurant....	wildthang86	5	761	Mar 12, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Watching the Cycle of Depression (Preview) So I think the reality is hitting my AH that I am leaving in May after I graduate. He's drinking more and more every night and spiralling down into deep depression. It is a very hard thing to watch, knowing I am powerless. But then again, knowing I am powerless is freeing too. I didn't cause this and I can't...	intothewoods	7	2208	Mar 12, 2010 by John
	My "Not so" Addictive....Addictions.... (Preview) WOW... Been Working on some "inner" step 4 work here of late, and have realized something about MY Addictions... At times I have had often wondered exactly "What" my addictions are... I know that Alcohol & Drugs are of course an addiction but "other" things als...	Jozie	8	765	Mar 12, 2010 by John
	Could you take a moment with HP for us? (Preview) Got news yesterday that a close family friend was critically injured in a 4 wheeler accident over the weekend. He is in ICU and in critical condition. Such a wonderful man, I have been praying for his recovery, If you have a moment would you send a prayer too?? Daughter and I are trying to keep our pos...	fishinmama	5	596	Mar 12, 2010 by John
	Backslid a bit but keeping it positive... (Preview) So, things have been alot smoother lately and I credit all of it to the ESH and lessons I've learned here from all of you. The Abf-sober has been keeping up with his therapy and even started meetings. We had a long talk where he expressed his despair over me being closed off to him. I told him what I neede...	lizzakiss	3	861	Mar 11, 2010 by Jerry F
	AH IN RECOVERY . . . (Preview) Hello there . . .here for advice . . . my alcholic has been sober for 2 months now and is going through alot of different emotions . . .we are a young couple with a one year old daughter. . . i have been through hell with him disappearing for days at a time and using. . . trust is a huge issue we are trying to ge...	rylzmama	6	1143	Mar 11, 2010 by geraldatwork
	Suggesting rather than overdoing. (Preview) I've come to realize that what I thought were suggestions were actually things I used to "do" for other people. These days in the reign of let go and let god I do make suggestions and I leave it at that. That is suggestions in terms of what to take for a cold rather than what's wrong with their li...	maresie	2	739	Mar 11, 2010 by nmike
	Biting my tounge (Preview) So things have actually been good for a few days. Husband and I had a great heart to heart a few days ago and really felt a deep connection with each other. I did ask that if he has anything to drink to please not come home, and he said well what if I only have one, I just repeated myself. I do not want him he...	MapleMom	10	915	Mar 10, 2010 by Suzi1965
	African Proverb (Preview) African Proverb (one of my favorites): "To be able to love other people, you must be able to love yourself." Sound familiar? Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	2	641	Mar 10, 2010 by Jerry F
	Finally in my new apartment (Preview) I've been off the board for some time. But I have found and moved into my own apartment. I don't have Internet connection there, so am posting at work, but need some support. I woke up this morning with this intense feeling of sadness and emptiness. I felt sick to my stomach that he wasn't there. It felt li...	RunnerChick	12	848	Mar 10, 2010 by Karilynn
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