Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Bettina · Bettina

Hi everyone, Today I got a phone call from my XAH, he can hardly speak and he is in pain, so I called the paramedics, they had to break down the door because he was too weak to unlock it. They took him to the ER and he is in ICU in critical condition, his blood count was dangerously low, and he has internal bleed...

Hopeless · Hopeless

When someone describes their A (whether it be a drunk or dry drunk) how much a like they all are.... When I read the majority of these post I see my A in almost every one of them, it amazes me = /

maresie · maresie

when I was subsumed in the martyr role, doing far beyond any boundary for the ex A or for my roommates (I cleaned up for a long time), I had no idea how I came across to others. I felt noble, giving and responsible. Now years into recovery I can see that I alienated many many people when I gave what I didn't h...

zen78 · zen78

It's been a while since I posted here last time. I'm so lost. I started going to the meetings, but it's so hard for me to keep my peace everytime I talk to my alcoholic/addict husband. I think that he's having a rough time right now. He's now going back to the dark days after being sober and clean for a year...

glad · glad

my A (live in for 7 years, due to my not wanting to get married until I feel I can accept alcoholism for the rest of my life or he gets sober) boyfriend has so many many issues that I don't know where the emotional abuse from is childhood blends with the Alcoholism from his childhood and his current alcoho...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

Your words and experiences has given my strength, I know it is time to let him own his bad choices. God Bless you all.

Love Always Hopes · Love Always Hopes

It's been awhile since I've been online as much is going on...I finally got the courage to leave my ABF about a month ago. I am going through counseling and he is supposedly attending church, AA & is meeting regularly with his sponsor. There have been some WONDERFUL conversations. Conversati...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Let's keep our David in our thoughts and prayers this morning as he has surgery. I'm sure all will be well and our Elvis will be back with us real soon. I'll post as soon as I know anything. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

canadianguy · canadianguy

Just go sent an interesting article of something we can look out for on tv in the coming months... Tom MILLION-SELLING "GETTING THEM SOBER" BOOK FEATURED IN FILM by NATIONAL INSTITUTES OF MENTAL HEALTH Baltimore---- June 11, 2010 SAMHSA (national offices of U.S. substance abuse...

Jennifer · Jennifer

The prgram works. To paraphrase the daily reading from Words to live by A Day At A Time; when the philsopher Jung was asked if he believed in God he replied "I do not believe I know" This is how I feel about AlAnon and everyone's HP, I don't have to believe I know because I see it every day. In peop...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

My addicted son was arrested last night for resiting arrest after a fight he had with his drug friends. He is now in jail and calling me to come get him out, the bail bondsmen just called and wanted to know when I could come and pay him the bail to have my son released. I don't want to pay this or get involved w...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Installment #2 of why cats are like addicts. For those of you who have read my post Cats are like addicts and dogs are like codependents, here's another example. True to cat/addict form: Pipers is outside focusing on one thing: Dinner, not from a can but one she can hunt. We have a gorge...

wunderbar · wunderbar

Hi all. It's been a while since I first posted, but I had a feeling I would end up coming back. Haven't (yet) made it to a face-to-face meeting, but seriously thinking about it soon. Anyway, my h is at the bar. I have no idea when he'll be home. It's almost 2am now and he has work in the morning. I'm trying hard...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the meeting Monday a.m. There is a tour of my home by the Real Estate folks and I need to vacant my home for the morning hours. Hopefully, someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks, Shimo aka Jeri

kerry5 · kerry5

Sorry again i need chair again this week. Will be back to chairing sunday next week Thanks kerry (aka kerisha)

Ness · Ness

Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns.....So I was just heading to bed Wed night when I heard the kitchen door open and a hushed discussion ensue between husb & a voice I havent heard for many months, the son I love with all my heart.....I stayed calm............a miracle o...

Cosmos · Cosmos

I have just read a long article online about codependency. I fit the pattern all too well. One thing that characterizes a codependent person is a low feeling of self. This makes me think of the time I spent in therapy last year, when I said to my therapist that I dont see myself as a person. I still find it di...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

my addicted son's 30th birthday. I called to let him know I have his birthday cake ready, the voice on the other end of the line with it's slurred speech, and biting remarks let me know how he plans to celebrate today. I should know better than to get my hopes up, but you still catch yourself wishing. Love...

Voyger52 · Voyger52

My steps son is just out of Jail and the drug dealers and calling him already. I tell him not to get back in the same routine. But I dont think he hears me.

Holly09 · Holly09

My A called and said he didn't think he should drive home, I am thankful for that so many times he did drive when he shouldn't. We had a fight this week (he was sober) and of course it was mostly about what I had to change that made him stressed out etc. but also about how I get no emotional support from him, he...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I JUST WANTED TO UPDATE MY CURRENT SITUATION WITH GETTING MY BR CONSULTATION & EVERYTHING THAT IS GOING THUS FAR! I AM SO NERVOUS & SCARED TO DO IT! IT IS A LONG DRAWN OUT RECOVERY! I WILL HAVE TO REALLY CONSIDER IT MORE BEFORE I DO IT! IT IS 7,600 DOLLARS BUT MY MOM IS TAKING CARE OF IT SO THAT ISN'T A...

Jozie · Jozie

Well I'm still on my Roller Coaster, for sure... But Today is a beautiful Day So trying to find the brighter side of things... Little "Belly Nervous" about this weekend tho... many that know me know that my Neice & Nephew moved FAR From me, and have been gone since last July.... So I have...

TampaGirl · TampaGirl

Hi all, I've been perusing the site and you all seem like a very nice group of people. I hope you don't mind me joining in. My husband comes home tomorrow after 4 weeks in a detox/rehab program. I have read lots about detaching, etc., but am still just so resentful. 6 weeks ago (even before he went into the p...

Ness · Ness

Wednesday was my first f2f in a couple of weeks. I had been pouting and feeling soooo sorry for myself for a good 10 days, nothing was lifting it. The meeting topic was Asking for Help, and in discussion after one of the readings it brought on an unexpected avalanche of tears, followed by a good old vent...

linds · linds

Hi, I am bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow and stumbled across this wesite tonight. I am having so many mixed emotions but mainly I am exhausted and am looking forward to sleeping tomorrow night and not worrying about him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should say to him???

John · John

Just a general discussion question. What does Miracles In Progress mean to you? How has it helped you start or add to your program of recovery? How often do you use the MIP site? Just reply with your ideas, feelings, thoughts, and give us an idea of how you are benefiting from having MIP as a part of y...

stuckagain · stuckagain

Hello all. I'm new to this site and have been reading some of your emails. Gosh it's sooo good to know that I'm not on my own. I've known my partner for 7 years now, with a break of 2 when I filed for a non-molestation order. I couldn't do the emotional roller coaster of living with an abusive, selfish, ungra...

freeagain · freeagain

I was able to put my arms around a woman today in my f2f who was crying. I held her up. She was sad and scared and confused as her son is bipolar and a drug addict and she has turned him out. I had never met her before today and it was her first meeting. What a gift this program has given me. I was able to give her a sh...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), I'm asking prayers for Christy's Mom. She isn't doing so well these days. Christy will be with her on Tuesday. Let us all send her & her family our love and prayers. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Okay, so I did a great job on a project at work, if I do say so myself - and I do! ;) Today, the manging partner of my firm sent an email to the entire firm recognizing the good job on the work that was done but attributing it to another partner. The managing partner called it "better than gold" an...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I know I'm still a work in process when it comes to the program but my A literally sucks the life out of me! I can never do anything right (ie: didn't pack enough diapers for my daughter)... One minute we can have a decent conversation and in the same sentence he turns on me just like that?!?! He can'...

cuteamy7 · cuteamy7

It's been a month since crap hit the fan after a few weeks of hatefilled phone calls and emails. Mom just sent me an email bringing up how awful I was at 12+ to her, that fights we had and her going to work upset every day. I am 44 now. From the time I was out on my own at 17 we have been buddies off and on, mostly o...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

He's been going to AA twice a week for about two months, all the while still drinking. I knew he wasn't really working the program, but figured at least he was where he needed to be for at least two hours out of his week and that he might pick something up. All this time he's said, "Yeah, AA is great. I...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I just heard on the radio that today is the anniversary of the founding of AA. The DJ called for an alcohol free day in observance, I thought that was pretty cool. I don't know if it is truly the founding day but I will use it as a good excuse to put a bit more gratitude into my day. I am grateful for a program tha...

helpme08 · helpme08

It's been a very long time since I have written on this board, but today I find myself in desperate need and I feel very alone. My diabetic AH has been drinking again and I'm having a very hard time with it. Over a year ago, I took our 7 year old son and left for about a month. Without going into all the sort...

Holly09 · Holly09

I truely believe that we do the best that we can in the situation we are in with the copeing skills that we have. Hopefully we learn and move on. I am doing the best that I can.......if that's not good enough for somone else sorry for them That is how I feel today. Holly

Rose · Rose

All I want to do is cry. I can't seem to get out of this mood. We went on vacation two weeks ago, my AH, my 7 yr old son and myself. Had a great time and we always do when we go away. Its our 'escape' from life. But the minute we got on that plane to come home I started getting into such a funk and am finding it hard to g...

barisax · barisax

I too have been reawakening some childhood memories of late. Going through many old photographs - my dad had a top notch camera and I'm finding pristine black and white negatives that are over 50 years old, that haven't seen daylight in almost as long. Pictures of me, my parents, friends some of whic...

Hopeless · Hopeless

is there different types/steps in following the program for each situation?

RJ1978 · RJ1978

I have not been on here for some time now...May 13th 2007 Mothers Day will be a day i will never forget...we lost our son to a heroin overdose. He fought hard for many years..married had two boys of his own. Life as we knew it will never be the same. He attended AA meetings for years and i believe it is the only...

kerry5 · kerry5

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=129357210417384

mack69 · mack69

From being quite young I can remember my parents arguing about the usual stuff. But also I can remember many times these arguments would come after my father came home late from the pub. When I was 13 my mom took seriously ill and nearly died. I remember very little about this time apart from the fear abou...

JimmyX · JimmyX

Hi guys, Some quick background to my situation . . . . live in UK and have an alcoholic girlfriend of some four (largely miserable) years. Me - 38. She - 41. No kids - thank goodness, bearing in mind who and what the prospective mother is currently. But I would like kids and a quiet life . . . . . We (have to) liv...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

-separated from AH almost 8 weeks ago. During that time he weaned himself off clonazepam (prescription). This was done without doctor supervision, but he survived. He suffered through many side effects inlcuding the angry outburst I described here last week. -He had been on the drug for ten years....

jettiesgirl · jettiesgirl

One of my group of friends recently asked the rest of us to please share any and all experience we have with dealing with a recovering alcoholic. Her husband has just recognized his disease, and is starting his path to recovery. Another of the group, who is a recovering alcoholic, sober for about 30 ye...

smartkat · smartkat

My brother's wife is not only hateful and verbally (and on at least one occasion, physically) abusive with him, she is neglectful with the kids. My mother and I have been stepping in to help with the kids but this only means the mother doesn't have to do what she needs to do. But she won't anyway so, if we...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So, my AH doesn't have a car right know cause he got caught drinking and driving and they took his license plates. So, he started to borrow my car until at some poin it's more like his car. Last night he told me he needed the car and I told him no, but he kept pushing until I said yes, only cause he promised that...

johnm · johnm

For me, my codependency issues progressed until they crossed the line into becoming a crippling anxiety disorder, in my case social anxiety disorder. Once I had developed a full-blown social anxiety problem, I needed additional help. I was fortunate to find a 12 Step program specifically focuse...

smartkat · smartkat

Can we get a discussion going how to detatch and how some people THINK they are detatching when they aren't? Sometimes, I go into apathy-mode when I try to detatch. Others have said they felt like they were slipping into denial when trying to detatch. Any ideas? BTW - the A in my life is my SIL and I never be...

mainemom · mainemom

and am I AWFUL for in some ways...wishing it would? My brother has been binge drinking for almost 6 years now. He had a drug and alcohol problem long before that. The binge drinking has had him in and out of Inpatient rehabs, outpatient programs, sober houses, living in many different places with fam...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family....just peeping. I am on of all things a hotel computer....LOL and just checking in to repeat what RLC relayed from our phone conversation. I do miss you all and we are going thru a mother board melt down...HP and Dell and a teck will get it fixed. Stay in unity...(((((hugs)))))

smartkat · smartkat

My mother and I have provided a lot of babysitting for my SIL while she was at work but now she is off for the summer, so we didn't think she needed us to do that much babysitting this supper. But my SIL takes off to do what ever, saying she will get back in time to take care of her daughter before her husband ha...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Hi All! It's been a while since I've posted. Things are OK here, just living one day at a time. I got a sponsor a few months ago and have met with her every week since then. We are taking the steps slowly and I'm alreayd working Step 3. My problem is that I feel like I'm in a rut. I have no ambition at all to wor...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I'm scared for a million reasons regarding my A but the thought of him hurting me physically is haunts me..... The mental abuse was of course getting "progressively" worse and I know in my heart in due time it was bound to get physical... The day where I had enough of his binge drinking he...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Oh good grief the floodgates have released and I can't stop them, please excuse my stuffed up typing. For the last couple weeks I have felt different but had no idea why. I look at my posts and I notice changes, more freedom in writing about specifics, my regrets, what I would do different. Whether fo...

Sheila46 · Sheila46

So....my A (binge drinker) boyfriend left yesterday without telling me that he was leaving. I found out by seeing that his toothbrush and pills were gone. I had not heard anything from him. His daughter had contacted me because she was unable to reach him. I had refrained from trying to contact h...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

This morning I learned that a friend of mine in AA relapsed. She had almost 3 years of sobriety. I prayed for her family this morning - she has a 4 year old daughter and a husband also in the program. This was really just a reminder to me of how horrible this disease is and how much I hate it. It occurred to...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Sometimes it's still pretty hard for me not to take on other people's moods. I have to really remind myself that just because someone else is grumpy and stressed, I don't need to be grumpy and stressed. I'm still working on this, though - today I had lunch with my husband and started to let his bad mood b...

smartkat · smartkat

(My mother is not computer saavy so I am posting this for her & will give her the results) My SIL got mad at my mother in the parking lot of McDonalds, yelling obsenities. Then when my mother quietly drove away, my SIL got into the car and followed her, bumping her car on purpose when my mother stopped a...

maire rua · maire rua

ex- a is annoying the hell out of me, constantly looking for attention, though it was a handy arrangement for a while, I think my time of putting up with him is done, he is starting to encroach on my boundaries so that is not acceptable. I will deal with it when calm though not while reactive, I find that my s...

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	Need your prayers (Preview) Hi everyone, Today I got a phone call from my XAH, he can hardly speak and he is in pain, so I called the paramedics, they had to break down the door because he was too weak to unlock it. They took him to the ER and he is in ICU in critical condition, his blood count was dangerously low, and he has internal bleed...	Bettina	9	1329	Jun 14, 2010 by Bettina
	It's Really Sad/Interesting... (Preview) When someone describes their A (whether it be a drunk or dry drunk) how much a like they all are.... When I read the majority of these post I see my A in almost every one of them, it amazes me = /	Hopeless	5	779	Jun 14, 2010 by buick23
	Martyr role (Preview) when I was subsumed in the martyr role, doing far beyond any boundary for the ex A or for my roommates (I cleaned up for a long time), I had no idea how I came across to others. I felt noble, giving and responsible. Now years into recovery I can see that I alienated many many people when I gave what I didn't h...	maresie	7	895	Jun 14, 2010 by Ness
	I'm insane, I need help! (Preview) It's been a while since I posted here last time. I'm so lost. I started going to the meetings, but it's so hard for me to keep my peace everytime I talk to my alcoholic/addict husband. I think that he's having a rough time right now. He's now going back to the dark days after being sober and clean for a year...	zen78	5	766	Jun 14, 2010 by zen78
	Journal entry or post- about being less than valuable ( to him, not in my mind) (Preview) my A (live in for 7 years, due to my not wanting to get married until I feel I can accept alcoholism for the rest of my life or he gets sober) boyfriend has so many many issues that I don't know where the emotional abuse from is childhood blends with the Alcoholism from his childhood and his current alcoho...	glad	5	965	Jun 14, 2010 by ythannah
	Thank You All.... (Preview) Your words and experiences has given my strength, I know it is time to let him own his bad choices. God Bless you all.	DreamsOver	1	567	Jun 14, 2010 by pineapple
	What is going on??? (Preview) It's been awhile since I've been online as much is going on...I finally got the courage to leave my ABF about a month ago. I am going through counseling and he is supposedly attending church, AA & is meeting regularly with his sponsor. There have been some WONDERFUL conversations. Conversati...	Love Always Hopes	5	714	Jun 14, 2010 by lyndebi
	Prayers for David (Preview) (((Family))), Let's keep our David in our thoughts and prayers this morning as he has surgery. I'm sure all will be well and our Elvis will be back with us real soon. I'll post as soon as I know anything. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	14	945	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	All good media helps... (Preview) Just go sent an interesting article of something we can look out for on tv in the coming months... Tom MILLION-SELLING "GETTING THEM SOBER" BOOK FEATURED IN FILM by NATIONAL INSTITUTES OF MENTAL HEALTH Baltimore---- June 11, 2010 SAMHSA (national offices of U.S. substance abuse...	canadianguy	2	671	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Today I will remember ... (Preview) The prgram works. To paraphrase the daily reading from Words to live by A Day At A Time; when the philsopher Jung was asked if he believed in God he replied "I do not believe I know" This is how I feel about AlAnon and everyone's HP, I don't have to believe I know because I see it every day. In peop...	Jennifer	3	587	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Need To Ask A Question Please.... (Preview) My addicted son was arrested last night for resiting arrest after a fight he had with his drug friends. He is now in jail and calling me to come get him out, the bail bondsmen just called and wanted to know when I could come and pay him the bail to have my son released. I don't want to pay this or get involved w...	DreamsOver	4	867	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Another example of how cats are like addicts! (Preview) (((Family))), Installment #2 of why cats are like addicts. For those of you who have read my post Cats are like addicts and dogs are like codependents, here's another example. True to cat/addict form: Pipers is outside focusing on one thing: Dinner, not from a can but one she can hunt. We have a gorge...	Karilynn	12	1095	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	He's at the bar, I'm trying not to freak out. (Preview) Hi all. It's been a while since I first posted, but I had a feeling I would end up coming back. Haven't (yet) made it to a face-to-face meeting, but seriously thinking about it soon. Anyway, my h is at the bar. I have no idea when he'll be home. It's almost 2am now and he has work in the morning. I'm trying hard...	wunderbar	8	779	Jun 13, 2010 by tealexis
	MONDAY A.M. MEETING (Preview) I am unable to chair the meeting Monday a.m. There is a tour of my home by the Real Estate folks and I need to vacant my home for the morning hours. Hopefully, someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	335	Jun 13, 2010 by shimo
	Need Chair for Tonight June 13th 2010 (Preview) Sorry again i need chair again this week. Will be back to chairing sunday next week Thanks kerry (aka kerisha)	kerry5	0	437	Jun 13, 2010 by kerry5
	Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns..... (Preview) Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns.....So I was just heading to bed Wed night when I heard the kitchen door open and a hushed discussion ensue between husb & a voice I havent heard for many months, the son I love with all my heart.....I stayed calm............a miracle o...	Ness	3	967	Jun 13, 2010 by Ness
	Origin of codependency (Preview) I have just read a long article online about codependency. I fit the pattern all too well. One thing that characterizes a codependent person is a low feeling of self. This makes me think of the time I spent in therapy last year, when I said to my therapist that I dont see myself as a person. I still find it di...	Cosmos	2	1205	Jun 13, 2010 by DreamXL
	Today Is... (Preview) my addicted son's 30th birthday. I called to let him know I have his birthday cake ready, the voice on the other end of the line with it's slurred speech, and biting remarks let me know how he plans to celebrate today. I should know better than to get my hopes up, but you still catch yourself wishing. Love...	DreamsOver	4	674	Jun 13, 2010 by adonaisgirl
	New Here:Step son Just out of Jail and Home. (Preview) My steps son is just out of Jail and the drug dealers and calling him already. I tell him not to get back in the same routine. But I dont think he hears me.	Voyger52	2	959	Jun 13, 2010 by Bettina
	Alone (Preview) My A called and said he didn't think he should drive home, I am thankful for that so many times he did drive when he shouldn't. We had a fight this week (he was sober) and of course it was mostly about what I had to change that made him stressed out etc. but also about how I get no emotional support from him, he...	Holly09	1	641	Jun 13, 2010 by Bettina
	JUST A QUICK ONE! (Preview) I JUST WANTED TO UPDATE MY CURRENT SITUATION WITH GETTING MY BR CONSULTATION & EVERYTHING THAT IS GOING THUS FAR! I AM SO NERVOUS & SCARED TO DO IT! IT IS A LONG DRAWN OUT RECOVERY! I WILL HAVE TO REALLY CONSIDER IT MORE BEFORE I DO IT! IT IS 7,600 DOLLARS BUT MY MOM IS TAKING CARE OF IT SO THAT ISN'T A...	Hoot Nanny	1	531	Jun 12, 2010 by Jennifer
	Just for this Moment.... (Preview) Well I'm still on my Roller Coaster, for sure... But Today is a beautiful Day So trying to find the brighter side of things... Little "Belly Nervous" about this weekend tho... many that know me know that my Neice & Nephew moved FAR From me, and have been gone since last July.... So I have...	Jozie	4	930	Jun 12, 2010 by Jozie
	New Here. Husband will be home tomorrow from in-patient program. Sigh. (Preview) Hi all, I've been perusing the site and you all seem like a very nice group of people. I hope you don't mind me joining in. My husband comes home tomorrow after 4 weeks in a detox/rehab program. I have read lots about detaching, etc., but am still just so resentful. 6 weeks ago (even before he went into the p...	TampaGirl	12	1788	Jun 11, 2010 by TampaGirl
	Why I need my meetings.....and other stories (Preview) Wednesday was my first f2f in a couple of weeks. I had been pouting and feeling soooo sorry for myself for a good 10 days, nothing was lifting it. The meeting topic was Asking for Help, and in discussion after one of the readings it brought on an unexpected avalanche of tears, followed by a good old vent...	Ness	5	930	Jun 11, 2010 by hotrod
	New to the board....bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow (Preview) Hi, I am bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow and stumbled across this wesite tonight. I am having so many mixed emotions but mainly I am exhausted and am looking forward to sleeping tomorrow night and not worrying about him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should say to him???	linds	4	827	Jun 11, 2010 by maresie
	What does MIP mean to you? (Preview) Just a general discussion question. What does Miracles In Progress mean to you? How has it helped you start or add to your program of recovery? How often do you use the MIP site? Just reply with your ideas, feelings, thoughts, and give us an idea of how you are benefiting from having MIP as a part of y...	John	19	1284	Jun 11, 2010 by Ness
	i'm here once again (Preview) Hello all. I'm new to this site and have been reading some of your emails. Gosh it's sooo good to know that I'm not on my own. I've known my partner for 7 years now, with a break of 2 when I filed for a non-molestation order. I couldn't do the emotional roller coaster of living with an abusive, selfish, ungra...	stuckagain	4	762	Jun 11, 2010 by stuckagain
	hope (Preview) I was able to put my arms around a woman today in my f2f who was crying. I held her up. She was sad and scared and confused as her son is bipolar and a drug addict and she has turned him out. I had never met her before today and it was her first meeting. What a gift this program has given me. I was able to give her a sh...	freeagain	4	719	Jun 11, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Prayers for Christy's Mom (Preview) ((((Family)))), I'm asking prayers for Christy's Mom. She isn't doing so well these days. Christy will be with her on Tuesday. Let us all send her & her family our love and prayers. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers	Karilynn	10	913	Jun 11, 2010 by Ness
	Oh MAN. (Preview) Okay, so I did a great job on a project at work, if I do say so myself - and I do! ;) Today, the manging partner of my firm sent an email to the entire firm recognizing the good job on the work that was done but attributing it to another partner. The managing partner called it "better than gold" an...	White Rabbit	11	810	Jun 10, 2010 by buick23
	I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired! (Preview) I know I'm still a work in process when it comes to the program but my A literally sucks the life out of me! I can never do anything right (ie: didn't pack enough diapers for my daughter)... One minute we can have a decent conversation and in the same sentence he turns on me just like that?!?! He can'...	Hopeless	7	888	Jun 10, 2010 by buick23
	Responded to Mom (Preview) It's been a month since crap hit the fan after a few weeks of hatefilled phone calls and emails. Mom just sent me an email bringing up how awful I was at 12+ to her, that fights we had and her going to work upset every day. I am 44 now. From the time I was out on my own at 17 we have been buddies off and on, mostly o...	cuteamy7	7	829	Jun 10, 2010 by cuteamy7
	A says he can get sober without AA and I think it's ridiculous (Preview) He's been going to AA twice a week for about two months, all the while still drinking. I knew he wasn't really working the program, but figured at least he was where he needed to be for at least two hours out of his week and that he might pick something up. All this time he's said, "Yeah, AA is great. I...	zhotdogs99	13	1312	Jun 10, 2010 by All I can be
	Anniversary? (Preview) I just heard on the radio that today is the anniversary of the founding of AA. The DJ called for an alcohol free day in observance, I thought that was pretty cool. I don't know if it is truly the founding day but I will use it as a good excuse to put a bit more gratitude into my day. I am grateful for a program tha...	Jennifer	8	768	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	I can really use some encouragement (Preview) It's been a very long time since I have written on this board, but today I find myself in desperate need and I feel very alone. My diabetic AH has been drinking again and I'm having a very hard time with it. Over a year ago, I took our 7 year old son and left for about a month. Without going into all the sort...	helpme08	6	970	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	The best that we can (Preview) I truely believe that we do the best that we can in the situation we are in with the copeing skills that we have. Hopefully we learn and move on. I am doing the best that I can.......if that's not good enough for somone else sorry for them That is how I feel today. Holly	Holly09	6	697	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	Just having a bad day (Preview) All I want to do is cry. I can't seem to get out of this mood. We went on vacation two weeks ago, my AH, my 7 yr old son and myself. Had a great time and we always do when we go away. Its our 'escape' from life. But the minute we got on that plane to come home I started getting into such a funk and am finding it hard to g...	Rose	8	731	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	We Will Not Regret The Past (Preview) I too have been reawakening some childhood memories of late. Going through many old photographs - my dad had a top notch camera and I'm finding pristine black and white negatives that are over 50 years old, that haven't seen daylight in almost as long. Pictures of me, my parents, friends some of whic...	barisax	1	793	Jun 10, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Al Anon in living with the A vs. Not Living... (Preview) is there different types/steps in following the program for each situation?	Hopeless	7	768	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	The end... (Preview) I have not been on here for some time now...May 13th 2007 Mothers Day will be a day i will never forget...we lost our son to a heroin overdose. He fought hard for many years..married had two boys of his own. Life as we knew it will never be the same. He attended AA meetings for years and i believe it is the only...	RJ1978	11	979	Jun 10, 2010 by Priscilla83
	For the LOVE of NIGEL3 :) (Preview) http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=129357210417384	kerry5	3	602	Jun 10, 2010 by kerry5
	somebody say something to give me some hope..please (Preview) From being quite young I can remember my parents arguing about the usual stuff. But also I can remember many times these arguments would come after my father came home late from the pub. When I was 13 my mom took seriously ill and nearly died. I remember very little about this time apart from the fear abou...	mack69	5	762	Jun 10, 2010 by Peggy7
	Dry Drunk . . . . Your Experiences please (Preview) Hi guys, Some quick background to my situation . . . . live in UK and have an alcoholic girlfriend of some four (largely miserable) years. Me - 38. She - 41. No kids - thank goodness, bearing in mind who and what the prospective mother is currently. But I would like kids and a quiet life . . . . . We (have to) liv...	JimmyX	9	1431	Jun 9, 2010 by nmike
	Questions for those with experience...(long) (Preview) -separated from AH almost 8 weeks ago. During that time he weaned himself off clonazepam (prescription). This was done without doctor supervision, but he survived. He suffered through many side effects inlcuding the angry outburst I described here last week. -He had been on the drug for ten years....	looking_for_peace	7	1133	Jun 9, 2010 by maresie
	This is Brilliant! (closed) (Preview) One of my group of friends recently asked the rest of us to please share any and all experience we have with dealing with a recovering alcoholic. Her husband has just recognized his disease, and is starting his path to recovery. Another of the group, who is a recovering alcoholic, sober for about 30 ye...	jettiesgirl	5	716	Jun 9, 2010 by maresie
	How to respond to someone who chooses to stay in a very bad relationship? (Preview) My brother's wife is not only hateful and verbally (and on at least one occasion, physically) abusive with him, she is neglectful with the kids. My mother and I have been stepping in to help with the kids but this only means the mother doesn't have to do what she needs to do. But she won't anyway so, if we...	smartkat	11	869	Jun 9, 2010 by sirpher
	Shame on me (Preview) So, my AH doesn't have a car right know cause he got caught drinking and driving and they took his license plates. So, he started to borrow my car until at some poin it's more like his car. Last night he told me he needed the car and I told him no, but he kept pushing until I said yes, only cause he promised that...	Priscilla83	8	906	Jun 9, 2010 by Priscilla83
	Codependency and Social Anxiety Disorder codependency social anxiety disorder 12 step program (Preview) For me, my codependency issues progressed until they crossed the line into becoming a crippling anxiety disorder, in my case social anxiety disorder. Once I had developed a full-blown social anxiety problem, I needed additional help. I was fortunate to find a 12 Step program specifically focuse...	johnm	2	9209	Jun 9, 2010 by tlcate
	Detatchment vs not caring - and other confusions (Preview) Can we get a discussion going how to detatch and how some people THINK they are detatching when they aren't? Sometimes, I go into apathy-mode when I try to detatch. Others have said they felt like they were slipping into denial when trying to detatch. Any ideas? BTW - the A in my life is my SIL and I never be...	smartkat	17	1482	Jun 8, 2010 by GailMichelle
	When will it end? (Preview) and am I AWFUL for in some ways...wishing it would? My brother has been binge drinking for almost 6 years now. He had a drug and alcohol problem long before that. The binge drinking has had him in and out of Inpatient rehabs, outpatient programs, sober houses, living in many different places with fam...	mainemom	4	1193	Jun 8, 2010 by Bettina
	Peeping.... (Preview) Aloha Family....just peeping. I am on of all things a hotel computer....LOL and just checking in to repeat what RLC relayed from our phone conversation. I do miss you all and we are going thru a mother board melt down...HP and Dell and a teck will get it fixed. Stay in unity...(((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	4	908	Jun 8, 2010 by Priscilla83
	What to do about a mother who won't take care of her own child? mother child children neglect (Preview) My mother and I have provided a lot of babysitting for my SIL while she was at work but now she is off for the summer, so we didn't think she needed us to do that much babysitting this supper. But my SIL takes off to do what ever, saying she will get back in time to take care of her daughter before her husband ha...	smartkat	2	8876	Jun 8, 2010 by Mobirdie
	In a Rut (Preview) Hi All! It's been a while since I've posted. Things are OK here, just living one day at a time. I got a sponsor a few months ago and have met with her every week since then. We are taking the steps slowly and I'm alreayd working Step 3. My problem is that I feel like I'm in a rut. I have no ambition at all to wor...	N8SMOM	5	578	Jun 8, 2010 by Karilynn
	Scared... (Preview) I'm scared for a million reasons regarding my A but the thought of him hurting me physically is haunts me..... The mental abuse was of course getting "progressively" worse and I know in my heart in due time it was bound to get physical... The day where I had enough of his binge drinking he...	Hopeless	21	946	Jun 8, 2010 by Hopeless
	Egads, what step is this? (Preview) Oh good grief the floodgates have released and I can't stop them, please excuse my stuffed up typing. For the last couple weeks I have felt different but had no idea why. I look at my posts and I notice changes, more freedom in writing about specifics, my regrets, what I would do different. Whether fo...	Jennifer	1	512	Jun 8, 2010 by Karilynn
	Be Careful What You Wish for... (Preview) So....my A (binge drinker) boyfriend left yesterday without telling me that he was leaving. I found out by seeing that his toothbrush and pills were gone. I had not heard anything from him. His daughter had contacted me because she was unable to reach him. I had refrained from trying to contact h...	Sheila46	9	696	Jun 7, 2010 by Bettina
	On my mind today (Preview) This morning I learned that a friend of mine in AA relapsed. She had almost 3 years of sobriety. I prayed for her family this morning - she has a 4 year old daughter and a husband also in the program. This was really just a reminder to me of how horrible this disease is and how much I hate it. It occurred to...	White Rabbit	4	806	Jun 7, 2010 by Bettina
	Takin' on other people's moods (Preview) Sometimes it's still pretty hard for me not to take on other people's moods. I have to really remind myself that just because someone else is grumpy and stressed, I don't need to be grumpy and stressed. I'm still working on this, though - today I had lunch with my husband and started to let his bad mood b...	White Rabbit	2	805	Jun 7, 2010 by hotrod
	When to press charges? charges verbal abuse (Preview) (My mother is not computer saavy so I am posting this for her & will give her the results) My SIL got mad at my mother in the parking lot of McDonalds, yelling obsenities. Then when my mother quietly drove away, my SIL got into the car and followed her, bumping her car on purpose when my mother stopped a...	smartkat	5	3136	Jun 7, 2010 by Jennifer
	sick and tired of ex-a (Preview) ex- a is annoying the hell out of me, constantly looking for attention, though it was a handy arrangement for a while, I think my time of putting up with him is done, he is starting to encroach on my boundaries so that is not acceptable. I will deal with it when calm though not while reactive, I find that my s...	maire rua	2	634	Jun 7, 2010 by maresie
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