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Diva · Diva

I had to smile broadly at your friend's advice: "If he is passed out on the lawn, leave him there, but love him enough to turn off the automatic sprinklers." Reminds me of an incident that happened several years ago. I came home one fine day to find A passed out on the lawn. Really! This wa...

buick23 · buick23

3 days ago 2 people we know manipulated their way into staying at our house for a week or 2. After them staying with us for 2 days and thinking about the situation I did something about it. It was very uncomfortable for me to speak up and put my foot down but I did it. I talked to the woman and told her I felt they...

Aloha · Aloha

Had a great f2f meeting last night, and twice now in less than a week, I've heard the garden analogy used with keeping on top of character defects. 10th step work is like tending a garden regularly - pulling the weeds when they're small before they take root and take over and turn into a huge ordeal to get r...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I found this, this a.m. and found it touching and thought I would share. In deepest sleep one night, I dreamed that on the beach I walked. God was by my side each step and quietly we talked. Then on the sky my life was flashed; the vision all serene. Two sets of footprints in the sand were there in every scen...

Jerry F · Jerry F

for ((((all of you)))) who responded to Honesty always. Each of you had something to act on and support. I have to read and re-read slowly because if I read it with only "me" in mind I miss the wisdom. I am slowing down on the decision and am standing behind not ahead of my HP on this. The &quo...

okwitt · okwitt

I thank you all for talking to me for the past few days. Do you know I never listened to my husband or anyone about my alcoholic son- but I listened to you all! For twenty years it has been one horrow story after another with him. What would be so easy for you'll was a giant step for me to leave him with no keys....

Katy · Katy

He was an active functioning alchoholic his entire adult life, he never married and lived with my mum, he was controling and manipulitive, he ruled the house and all our lives within it, he was one of four, I am the youngest, I always wondered why we all had to rally around him and try to keep him sweet, it n...

oscarmom · oscarmom

a little background. my husband has been drinking most of our 32 year marriage. he has quit ( I call it delaying the next drink) many times in the past. had a dui and didn't faze him. recently he was drinking almost a bottle of wine at lunch, then returning to work. what I did not know was that he was also cons...

okwitt · okwitt

Tonight we got a phonecall saying our son was passed out in the pickup outside his gate. We rushed up. Someone had pulled his truck inside the yard. It was dark and he was lying on the ground down next to the fence by the gate -he was passed out cold. My husband said get the pickup keys and leave him there to...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

I attended my first Al-Anon meeting last night. I started out at the Newcomers meeting and then attended the Speakers Meeting. At the newcomers, there were about 8 of us. Four of us were new. The other 4 shared a little of their experiences and what Al-Anon is all about. They shared the various lite...

Katy · Katy

I have lived a troubled life, things have happened which I had no control over and lots of things happened which I did but didn't know how, I have stumbled along in this life often so despairing wondering what my purpose was on this earth, and I turned all of that inwards and I have wallowed and bathed in it...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...I have returned to this well for your awarenesses, experiences, strengths and hope. I don't have just a sense you are wise I know from experience that your are so I am trusting and hopeful. You remember my earlier post entitled I want my brother back!! and I haven't posted much more abo...

Holly09 · Holly09

My A boyfriend left for Kentucky today, he will be gone until Monday night and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders......for the next 6 day's anyway. I actually have some time to soul search and hopefully get a chance to see how I feel about our lives together. I can't do that when he...

miss_carol · miss_carol

I know I am insane fighting with a fifteen year old addict. It was ugly, I was ugly. I did manage to rein myself in before it got worse. All sorts of f bombs, he took off. I don't care. His dad is out of town(my other addict). He has been traveling for work for a year or longer. He is home on weekends and during th...

Ness · Ness

OK bear with me folks........you may need to have a nap half-way! Serenity.... a word that was never in my vocabulary. Serenity conjures up a calmness and stillness of the mind........ so very far removed from the chaos and insanity of the cunning baffling and powerful disease that made me think I wo...

Diva · Diva

I will throw him out and mean it when I say, "Don't come back." I cannot count the times I have told him to leave, only to take him back when he dragged himself home crying that he has nowhere else to go and that he loves me. I know, somewhere inside, when I open the door that his bingeing will nev...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm coming down to the last week staying with my (soon ex-) AH. I'm going to be moving into my new place 4th of July weekend, and he'll be moving to his new residence, too. We've stayed amicable with each other. In fact, a lot of the time, he seems to be treating me nicer and with more respect than he did when h...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

I'm so sock of my job, well actually of my boss. He is a complete jerk and I have to put up with it, cause I really need the money and he gave me a loan and I'm still paying it. He is a bully and a psicological abuser. He asks me things like: Are you retarded? Where's your f-ing head? and yells all the time. I'm jus...

miss_carol · miss_carol

I went to look at an apartment yesterday. It's perfect for me and my cat. It's inexpensive so I could afford it while I am in nursing school. I have the money to get it. Today I tore up the application and now I wish I wouldn't have. I just don't know why this decision is so hard. What am I hanging on for? So we c...

thetalady · thetalady

OK...it's confession time. I did something today that I knew I shouldn't. As a result, my AH is not speaking to me. I feel so silly now ... at the time, it seemed like the right thing to do. So here goes... My AH has been sober for a little over a year - this time. He had over 20 years the first time and went...

kg2010 · kg2010

Hi, I'm new to the forum. A lot of my family members have drinking problems and I now live far away from them. My older brother has gotten one DUI and I just learned that he's continuing to drink and drive. I'm worried he'll hurt someone, and himself. I don't have that much contact with him anymore, do...

Kate1960 · Kate1960

I am new. I have never needed help. I always thought I was strong. I am a strong Christian and feel like I am living in an oppressed environment. I was married to a pastor and after 4 children and a cute secretary, he left us. I remarried 5 years later to a man who had quit smoking weed one year earlier and vowe...

lyndebi · lyndebi

Guess what???!!! My son called me last night. He has not called or contacted me in in over 10 weeks. I had called him on the day i got out of the hospital, I said I am ok. He says,"what?" Said I had my surgery. he says,"that is not until the 26th." I said, "today is the 26th."...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I HOPE I WILL CONTINUE TO NOT CARRY THE ALCHOLICS IN MY LIFE. AT LEAST THEY BOTH HAVE A PROGRAM & THEY AREN'T WORKING MINE EITHER. TODAY I HAVE TOTAL FOCUS ON MYSELF. I AM IN IT FOR ME, UNABLE TO DO ANYTHING ELSE BUT FOCUS ON ME. I AM GRATEFUL, ETC. THAT'S ALL FOR TODAY! KATHLEEN

kate13 · kate13

Hello all, Can anyone share some tips on how to ask someone about sponsoring? It's time I did it, but I am fearful. What about online sponsoring? Any ideas would be most appreciated! Kate

lmz723 · lmz723

I posted on here a few months ago and got several wonderful responses. however my husband saw it and got very angry and it made me not want to return for some reason. I am in a different place now. for a recap, my husband and I got married in August of 2009. I had just graduated from college and was so excited t...

hotrod · hotrod

HI Everyone I know that recently a few of us agreed to work the steps on the Step work board. We left off at the 4 th Step. I have posted my 4th step on th board to start the process again and look forward to everyone's participation. Thanks.

miss_carol · miss_carol

This weekend was good. We only fought once and that wasn't long. I am tired and don't want to engage anymore. Yet I find, sometimes I just go there, so fast. I get angry, hurt, or so stressed I feel sick and then boom I am fighting like a caged animal. I have gone to my second meeting.There are two a week wher...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

My hubby was an admitted alcoholic for the past 10 years or so. He recently weaned himself off of clonazepam (this experience is an entire other post and I would be happy to hear from anyone who has weaned themselves off a drug like this). One of the many negative effects of a benzodipene (sp?), is that i...

Gailey · Gailey

My son is finally moving out on Wednesday. I am feeling some guilt and a lot of sadness. Although I want him to go I know he does not want this. He is moving in with a girls that has 3 daughters. I am feeling guilt like I am forcing him into a situation that is not good for the daughters. This girl he has been seei...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

WELL...I am not ungrateful; that's for sure! I have a shower, yes I do. I am not sure how long I can wait just to soak, I like to wash my feet & massage them there real good! I am not HALTing that much today so far either! I would like a nice sandwich, though. I am not angry lonely or as tired as i have been. I j...

Mynameismom · Mynameismom

and if so how? I received an email from my A daughter. The last paragraph was out of the blue and I didn't understand it. It said "I have a new sense of "I can do this-I can accomplish so much more feeling and that can be dangerously fatal to my sobriety (right now anyway) as I can fail and will,...

Mercy · Mercy

Ok.. so I have been married to me AH for 13 years. We were high school sweethearts and have been together for 17 years all together. He has always drank. We drank together. Things got different when we had our daughter. I had severe post pardum depression and ended up in the hospital. Before she arrived h...

lyndebi · lyndebi

I think I forgot to share, after being here since was it 2000? The judge signed the papers on June 11,2010. When I took the papers in, I overheard someone telling another,"no you cannot file them with highlighted areas." oh noooooo! You bet I highlighted, poor dipstick, I say that in humor...

katfshh · katfshh

I posted about 6 weeks ago about my fiance's relapse. After three days of drinking he got in a fight with his roommate and was thrown in jail. He still has a court hearing about that July 16. He was so humbled by that, and so upset, begging everyone for forgiveness. I spent 5 days with him (he lives about 26...

maresie · maresie

My last long relationship with the ex a for 7 years is what brought me here. I first went to al anon more than 20 years ago and did not think I qualified. I was not ready then. I can see why. Doing this work is one of the most painful things I have ever approached. I am not talking about the damage, the chao...

fadedvintage · fadedvintage

Hi I'm new here and I really need some help and support. I see a counselor every week about dealing with my father's alcoholism and he thinks that I should go to an al-anon meeting in my area and I have never been. I really don't know what they are about or what it is like. My counselor also wants me to talk to m...

Ness · Ness

Well our home has remained calm, my son has stuck to the boundaries, and doctors orders re his alcohol intake....thats a first. Tomorrow his father is driving him the 100 miles to the detox unit. He wanted to get the bus but his consultant advised against it as he is to have minimal alcohol in the mornin...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

I'm considering trying meetings. So I went to the website for my area and found many. However, I am hoping someone can clarify a few things for me. What exactly is a 'newcomers' meeting? Do only newcomers attend? How do they work. It seems that it would be an uptight meeting if only newbies attend....

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

My AH recently weaned himself off clonazepam. He was prescribed this ten years ago and it was upped to 4 mg/day. We are finding out that this drug has a lot of negatives for those who are on it long term. I would like to hear from anyone who has experience in this area. Since weaning himself there have been p...

smartkat · smartkat

My SIL does not get along with my mother and I.Three weeks ago, my SIL behaved especially badly towards my mom so badly that the cops were called. So she now my SIL is mad at my mom for causing all these problems for her. NOW my nieces birthday is coming up. My brother wants to have two separate birthday...

TinaMJ · TinaMJ

My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 10 months... He used to drink A LOT and our relationship ended 2 times because of it. I got pregnant 4 months before we got married and I told him 20 days before the wedding that I would call it off if he didn't stop drinking. To my complete supri...

glad · glad

I have had a huge pitty party weekend which included trying to talk to my A about my "feelings". Didn't go well. He always implys I'm emotionally needy and I always end acting as if that is exactly what I am. Doctor wants to take out my "girl parts" and I feel way to young for all that....

Katy · Katy

This swan and it' s mate came to see us when we were fishing and wanted something to eat, we gave it bread, and it gave us this gorguss site, a baby signet on it's back. Katy P.s I hope it has worked I have never done an avatar before, but I have seen the film!

ditto · ditto

Saw a bumper sticker today that resonated. It said: "Encourage your hopes, not your fears" I've found that works.

Katy · Katy

I will try to explain how this is happening for me, I wear my heart on my sleave and usually by default thats how I respond to everything, a very strange thing happens though with my alchoholic husband, when we discuss the problems we face I feel chewed up inside, my gutt feeling is in turmoil, and I have al...

okwitt · okwitt

I need lot's of advice. I've been enabling my son for years. I thought I was protecting him. Do I keep this up and let him die? Do I stop and let him die? He has had two DWI's. One was given because of an auto accident that resulted in injuries. He had his hand remade which does not work well and needs more...

coffeegrounds · coffeegrounds

Hello all! I am so glad I found this site, I have been going crazy for the past week. My AH will be coming home from rehab soon and I am so afraid. I know I need to find a group in my home town but I thought I would jump on here while I find one. I went to family week at the rehab and spent a lot of time asking questi...

punkydoodah · punkydoodah

...I feel I'm being dishonest to people. Inside, I'm grieving, fearful, etc. People think I'm so "happy", but putting up a good front is getting exhausting. Is it okay to detach from the world as well as the AH? I am around many people every day. Thanks for listening.

Simba · Simba

I feel like Im running as fast as I can on a treadmill financially and emotionally because of the A one miss step and my house of cards will collapse. This is craziness; 10 years ago I had a great job and a fat bank account. When does it stop? When do I get to rest?

RLC · RLC

Three Men friends from an Al-Anon group decided to spend a Saturday hiking and enjoying nature. By mid afternoon they were tired, frustrated, and even though they all knew it.... none of the three would admit to being lost. They continued to walk until they stumbled across a raging river. They re...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

I like to watch movies or tv to wind down at night. I'm pretty busy during the weekdays and by the time I get home, eat dinner, put the kids to bed... I'm ready to unwind... have a hard time reading, so I was thinking instead of surfing my tv guide trying to find something I like, I'd rent some alanon/12 step...

Simba · Simba

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions.Just ponder on them. Just read the e-mail straight through, and you'll get the point. 1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world. 2. Name the last fiv...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Dear MIP family and friends - I am very sorry for not being available to chair the past 2 Friday morning meetings and for not making prior arrangements to ensure that the meeting was covered. For last week, I have no excuse other than just poor planning on my part. I was attending camp with my son that w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

TO ALL OF THOSE WHO SAID TAKE A BATH:I cant do that even! crazy! I have 2 showers & only one bathtub & the bathtub is cracked & out of commision. We just got the one shower fixed but not the bathtub! As far as candles go: I will definitely use them if I have to just in a dark room! My life is so crazy t...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

This will be my first time to tell my story and I have no clue where to start. Do I start off with the day I was born, events that shaped the woman I am today OR Start with when I was first introduced to the disease and the outcome of how I handled those situations and the emotions that were left behind?

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family)))), Good morning! The 3rd annual: BLAME IT ON KARILYNN DAY is here. Only this year I have decided to turn it into a weekend. This has become an annual tradition. I have upped the anty this time and turned into a weekend. For all of the newbies who think I have lost my mind... well I have. ...

Jozie · Jozie

Fun how people react to things so much differantly, My Husband & I have been plannin a trip to go see a lady I Met on the net about 4 yrs ago I guess... I have never "Spoken" a word to this women, but we email/FB/Myspace that kinda stuff all the time.. Send Cards on Holidays & Birthdays...

Katy · Katy

Well I have to watch I don't get too passive with all that I read, and that I take what I like and leave the rest, if I belive I am an A magnet I will possibly resemble that remark, however, at times I am guilty of picking only the bits I like and applying them to me, because I haven't yet learned to open my mind fu...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Actually all I really need is love & understanding: is that too much to ask PMS! To those who haven't been with us long; there is hope! We are all in this together! I am hoping that someone who isn't so selfish will come my way actually! It seems like everyone is focusing on THEM sometimes & don't s...

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	ABBYAL...and anyone else who would like to smile. (Preview) I had to smile broadly at your friend's advice: "If he is passed out on the lawn, leave him there, but love him enough to turn off the automatic sprinklers." Reminds me of an incident that happened several years ago. I came home one fine day to find A passed out on the lawn. Really! This wa...	Diva	7	787	Jul 2, 2010 by maire rua
	finally have some positive things to share (Preview) 3 days ago 2 people we know manipulated their way into staying at our house for a week or 2. After them staying with us for 2 days and thinking about the situation I did something about it. It was very uncomfortable for me to speak up and put my foot down but I did it. I talked to the woman and told her I felt they...	buick23	6	947	Jul 2, 2010 by buick23
	4th/10th step inventory thoughts (Preview) Had a great f2f meeting last night, and twice now in less than a week, I've heard the garden analogy used with keeping on top of character defects. 10th step work is like tending a garden regularly - pulling the weeds when they're small before they take root and take over and turn into a huge ordeal to get r...	Aloha	5	1846	Jul 1, 2010 by Simba
	The footprints of God (Preview) I found this, this a.m. and found it touching and thought I would share. In deepest sleep one night, I dreamed that on the beach I walked. God was by my side each step and quietly we talked. Then on the sky my life was flashed; the vision all serene. Two sets of footprints in the sand were there in every scen...	Sweet Stanley	3	1050	Jul 1, 2010 by Andrea12
	I am humbled and grateful again... (Preview) for ((((all of you)))) who responded to Honesty always. Each of you had something to act on and support. I have to read and re-read slowly because if I read it with only "me" in mind I miss the wisdom. I am slowing down on the decision and am standing behind not ahead of my HP on this. The &quo...	Jerry F	5	1098	Jul 1, 2010 by Andrea12
	Baby Step-Giant Step (Preview) I thank you all for talking to me for the past few days. Do you know I never listened to my husband or anyone about my alcoholic son- but I listened to you all! For twenty years it has been one horrow story after another with him. What would be so easy for you'll was a giant step for me to leave him with no keys....	okwitt	2	914	Jul 1, 2010 by abbyal
	To Thy Own Self Be True! My Brother! (Preview) He was an active functioning alchoholic his entire adult life, he never married and lived with my mum, he was controling and manipulitive, he ruled the house and all our lives within it, he was one of four, I am the youngest, I always wondered why we all had to rally around him and try to keep him sweet, it n...	Katy	6	914	Jul 1, 2010 by Karilynn
	husband sober 90 days, I'm still mad tho (Preview) a little background. my husband has been drinking most of our 32 year marriage. he has quit ( I call it delaying the next drink) many times in the past. had a dui and didn't faze him. recently he was drinking almost a bottle of wine at lunch, then returning to work. what I did not know was that he was also cons...	oscarmom	5	1943	Jul 1, 2010 by Mobirdie
	At My Witt's End (Preview) Tonight we got a phonecall saying our son was passed out in the pickup outside his gate. We rushed up. Someone had pulled his truck inside the yard. It was dark and he was lying on the ground down next to the fence by the gate -he was passed out cold. My husband said get the pickup keys and leave him there to...	okwitt	6	2967	Jul 1, 2010 by Mobirdie
	Attended Al-Anon for the First Time (Preview) I attended my first Al-Anon meeting last night. I started out at the Newcomers meeting and then attended the Speakers Meeting. At the newcomers, there were about 8 of us. Four of us were new. The other 4 shared a little of their experiences and what Al-Anon is all about. They shared the various lite...	GailMichelle	2	677	Jul 1, 2010 by never going back
	Honesty First, ! (Preview) I have lived a troubled life, things have happened which I had no control over and lots of things happened which I did but didn't know how, I have stumbled along in this life often so despairing wondering what my purpose was on this earth, and I turned all of that inwards and I have wallowed and bathed in it...	Katy	3	702	Jul 1, 2010 by Karilynn
	Honesty always... (Preview) Aloha Family...I have returned to this well for your awarenesses, experiences, strengths and hope. I don't have just a sense you are wise I know from experience that your are so I am trusting and hopeful. You remember my earlier post entitled I want my brother back!! and I haven't posted much more abo...	Jerry F	19	1969	Jul 1, 2010 by Karilynn
	A peaceful break (Preview) My A boyfriend left for Kentucky today, he will be gone until Monday night and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders......for the next 6 day's anyway. I actually have some time to soul search and hopefully get a chance to see how I feel about our lives together. I can't do that when he...	Holly09	1	491	Jul 1, 2010 by Jerry F
	fighting with my fifteen year old stepson (Preview) I know I am insane fighting with a fifteen year old addict. It was ugly, I was ugly. I did manage to rein myself in before it got worse. All sorts of f bombs, he took off. I don't care. His dad is out of town(my other addict). He has been traveling for work for a year or longer. He is home on weekends and during th...	miss_carol	1	780	Jul 1, 2010 by Jerry F
	This is for you my MIP friends and for all affected by this disease......with love & gratitude. (Preview) OK bear with me folks........you may need to have a nap half-way! Serenity.... a word that was never in my vocabulary. Serenity conjures up a calmness and stillness of the mind........ so very far removed from the chaos and insanity of the cunning baffling and powerful disease that made me think I wo...	Ness	9	1302	Jun 30, 2010 by Ness
	One of these days.... (Preview) I will throw him out and mean it when I say, "Don't come back." I cannot count the times I have told him to leave, only to take him back when he dragged himself home crying that he has nowhere else to go and that he loves me. I know, somewhere inside, when I open the door that his bingeing will nev...	Diva	9	811	Jun 30, 2010 by carolinagirl
	Out of sight... hopefully out of mind. (Preview) I'm coming down to the last week staying with my (soon ex-) AH. I'm going to be moving into my new place 4th of July weekend, and he'll be moving to his new residence, too. We've stayed amicable with each other. In fact, a lot of the time, he seems to be treating me nicer and with more respect than he did when h...	Aloha	4	1085	Jun 30, 2010 by carolinagirl
	Sick of my job (Preview) I'm so sock of my job, well actually of my boss. He is a complete jerk and I have to put up with it, cause I really need the money and he gave me a loan and I'm still paying it. He is a bully and a psicological abuser. He asks me things like: Are you retarded? Where's your f-ing head? and yells all the time. I'm jus...	Priscilla83	3	865	Jun 30, 2010 by xeno59
	Brain must be broken, can't make decisions. (Preview) I went to look at an apartment yesterday. It's perfect for me and my cat. It's inexpensive so I could afford it while I am in nursing school. I have the money to get it. Today I tore up the application and now I wish I wouldn't have. I just don't know why this decision is so hard. What am I hanging on for? So we c...	miss_carol	5	1073	Jun 30, 2010 by xeno59
	Boy, Did I Blow It! (Preview) OK...it's confession time. I did something today that I knew I shouldn't. As a result, my AH is not speaking to me. I feel so silly now ... at the time, it seemed like the right thing to do. So here goes... My AH has been sober for a little over a year - this time. He had over 20 years the first time and went...	thetalady	7	816	Jun 30, 2010 by abbyal
	Brother who drinks and drives (Preview) Hi, I'm new to the forum. A lot of my family members have drinking problems and I now live far away from them. My older brother has gotten one DUI and I just learned that he's continuing to drink and drive. I'm worried he'll hurt someone, and himself. I don't have that much contact with him anymore, do...	kg2010	3	564	Jun 30, 2010 by xeno59
	I am here searching because I've no where else to go (Preview) I am new. I have never needed help. I always thought I was strong. I am a strong Christian and feel like I am living in an oppressed environment. I was married to a pastor and after 4 children and a cute secretary, he left us. I remarried 5 years later to a man who had quit smoking weed one year earlier and vowe...	Kate1960	10	946	Jun 30, 2010 by never going back
	kids.... (Preview) Guess what???!!! My son called me last night. He has not called or contacted me in in over 10 weeks. I had called him on the day i got out of the hospital, I said I am ok. He says,"what?" Said I had my surgery. he says,"that is not until the 26th." I said, "today is the 26th."...	lyndebi	10	1154	Jun 30, 2010 by never going back
	NOT CARRYING THE AH (Preview) I HOPE I WILL CONTINUE TO NOT CARRY THE ALCHOLICS IN MY LIFE. AT LEAST THEY BOTH HAVE A PROGRAM & THEY AREN'T WORKING MINE EITHER. TODAY I HAVE TOTAL FOCUS ON MYSELF. I AM IN IT FOR ME, UNABLE TO DO ANYTHING ELSE BUT FOCUS ON ME. I AM GRATEFUL, ETC. THAT'S ALL FOR TODAY! KATHLEEN	Hoot Nanny	4	834	Jun 30, 2010 by Jerry F
	sponsor (Preview) Hello all, Can anyone share some tips on how to ask someone about sponsoring? It's time I did it, but I am fearful. What about online sponsoring? Any ideas would be most appreciated! Kate	kate13	3	747	Jun 30, 2010 by abbyal
	losing all hope in this... (Preview) I posted on here a few months ago and got several wonderful responses. however my husband saw it and got very angry and it made me not want to return for some reason. I am in a different place now. for a recap, my husband and I got married in August of 2009. I had just graduated from college and was so excited t...	lmz723	9	1002	Jun 29, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	4 TH Step (Preview) HI Everyone I know that recently a few of us agreed to work the steps on the Step work board. We left off at the 4 th Step. I have posted my 4th step on th board to start the process again and look forward to everyone's participation. Thanks.	hotrod	0	642	Jun 29, 2010 by hotrod
	So tired. (Preview) This weekend was good. We only fought once and that wasn't long. I am tired and don't want to engage anymore. Yet I find, sometimes I just go there, so fast. I get angry, hurt, or so stressed I feel sick and then boom I am fighting like a caged animal. I have gone to my second meeting.There are two a week wher...	miss_carol	5	916	Jun 29, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	Can you become an alcoholic later in life? (Preview) My hubby was an admitted alcoholic for the past 10 years or so. He recently weaned himself off of clonazepam (this experience is an entire other post and I would be happy to hear from anyone who has weaned themselves off a drug like this). One of the many negative effects of a benzodipene (sp?), is that i...	looking_for_peace	6	6073	Jun 29, 2010 by Karilynn
	He's moving out!!!!! (Preview) My son is finally moving out on Wednesday. I am feeling some guilt and a lot of sadness. Although I want him to go I know he does not want this. He is moving in with a girls that has 3 daughters. I am feeling guilt like I am forcing him into a situation that is not good for the daughters. This girl he has been seei...	Gailey	9	1035	Jun 29, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Just me again!(an update) (Preview) WELL...I am not ungrateful; that's for sure! I have a shower, yes I do. I am not sure how long I can wait just to soak, I like to wash my feet & massage them there real good! I am not HALTing that much today so far either! I would like a nice sandwich, though. I am not angry lonely or as tired as i have been. I j...	Hoot Nanny	1	792	Jun 29, 2010 by Jerry F
	Should I pursue this? (Preview) and if so how? I received an email from my A daughter. The last paragraph was out of the blue and I didn't understand it. It said "I have a new sense of "I can do this-I can accomplish so much more feeling and that can be dangerously fatal to my sobriety (right now anyway) as I can fail and will,...	Mynameismom	6	602	Jun 28, 2010 by Mynameismom
	New and confused (Preview) Ok.. so I have been married to me AH for 13 years. We were high school sweethearts and have been together for 17 years all together. He has always drank. We drank together. Things got different when we had our daughter. I had severe post pardum depression and ended up in the hospital. Before she arrived h...	Mercy	7	1000	Jun 28, 2010 by wildthang86
	That't that. (Preview) I think I forgot to share, after being here since was it 2000? The judge signed the papers on June 11,2010. When I took the papers in, I overheard someone telling another,"no you cannot file them with highlighted areas." oh noooooo! You bet I highlighted, poor dipstick, I say that in humor...	lyndebi	7	987	Jun 28, 2010 by maresie
	Another Relapse.. (Preview) I posted about 6 weeks ago about my fiance's relapse. After three days of drinking he got in a fight with his roommate and was thrown in jail. He still has a court hearing about that July 16. He was so humbled by that, and so upset, begging everyone for forgiveness. I spent 5 days with him (he lives about 26...	katfshh	11	1136	Jun 28, 2010 by katfshh
	A's don't just drop from the sky. (Preview) My last long relationship with the ex a for 7 years is what brought me here. I first went to al anon more than 20 years ago and did not think I qualified. I was not ready then. I can see why. Doing this work is one of the most painful things I have ever approached. I am not talking about the damage, the chao...	maresie	16	1231	Jun 28, 2010 by maresie
	Talking to my father (Preview) Hi I'm new here and I really need some help and support. I see a counselor every week about dealing with my father's alcoholism and he thinks that I should go to an al-anon meeting in my area and I have never been. I really don't know what they are about or what it is like. My counselor also wants me to talk to m...	fadedvintage	4	944	Jun 28, 2010 by tlcate
	D day tomorrow (Preview) Well our home has remained calm, my son has stuck to the boundaries, and doctors orders re his alcohol intake....thats a first. Tomorrow his father is driving him the 100 miles to the detox unit. He wanted to get the bus but his consultant advised against it as he is to have minimal alcohol in the mornin...	Ness	13	1143	Jun 28, 2010 by miss_carol
	A few questions about Al-Anon meetings (Preview) I'm considering trying meetings. So I went to the website for my area and found many. However, I am hoping someone can clarify a few things for me. What exactly is a 'newcomers' meeting? Do only newcomers attend? How do they work. It seems that it would be an uptight meeting if only newbies attend....	GailMichelle	3	930	Jun 28, 2010 by GailMichelle
	long term Benzodiazepine use... (Preview) My AH recently weaned himself off clonazepam. He was prescribed this ten years ago and it was upped to 4 mg/day. We are finding out that this drug has a lot of negatives for those who are on it long term. I would like to hear from anyone who has experience in this area. Since weaning himself there have been p...	looking_for_peace	4	691	Jun 28, 2010 by Simba
	My neice's Birthday Party and my SIL (Preview) My SIL does not get along with my mother and I.Three weeks ago, my SIL behaved especially badly towards my mom so badly that the cops were called. So she now my SIL is mad at my mom for causing all these problems for her. NOW my nieces birthday is coming up. My brother wants to have two separate birthday...	smartkat	8	804	Jun 27, 2010 by smartkat
	My Husband is smoking weed everyday and he thinks it's not a problem.... (Preview) My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 10 months... He used to drink A LOT and our relationship ended 2 times because of it. I got pregnant 4 months before we got married and I told him 20 days before the wedding that I would call it off if he didn't stop drinking. To my complete supri...	TinaMJ	5	4476	Jun 27, 2010 by TinaMJ
	miss this?? (Preview) I have had a huge pitty party weekend which included trying to talk to my A about my "feelings". Didn't go well. He always implys I'm emotionally needy and I always end acting as if that is exactly what I am. Doctor wants to take out my "girl parts" and I feel way to young for all that....	glad	3	864	Jun 27, 2010 by Bettina
	My new avatar! (Preview) This swan and it' s mate came to see us when we were fishing and wanted something to eat, we gave it bread, and it gave us this gorguss site, a baby signet on it's back. Katy P.s I hope it has worked I have never done an avatar before, but I have seen the film!	Katy	7	767	Jun 27, 2010 by hotrod
	Bumper Sticker (Preview) Saw a bumper sticker today that resonated. It said: "Encourage your hopes, not your fears" I've found that works.	ditto	1	643	Jun 27, 2010 by smartkat
	I am really starting to feel my own feelings! (Preview) I will try to explain how this is happening for me, I wear my heart on my sleave and usually by default thats how I respond to everything, a very strange thing happens though with my alchoholic husband, when we discuss the problems we face I feel chewed up inside, my gutt feeling is in turmoil, and I have al...	Katy	6	482	Jun 27, 2010 by okwitt
	Enabler to my 39 year old son (Preview) I need lot's of advice. I've been enabling my son for years. I thought I was protecting him. Do I keep this up and let him die? Do I stop and let him die? He has had two DWI's. One was given because of an auto accident that resulted in injuries. He had his hand remade which does not work well and needs more...	okwitt	21	1322	Jun 27, 2010 by okwitt
	Brand spanking new! (Preview) Hello all! I am so glad I found this site, I have been going crazy for the past week. My AH will be coming home from rehab soon and I am so afraid. I know I need to find a group in my home town but I thought I would jump on here while I find one. I went to family week at the rehab and spent a lot of time asking questi...	coffeegrounds	5	812	Jun 27, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Bright and perky makes most people feel good, yet... (Preview) ...I feel I'm being dishonest to people. Inside, I'm grieving, fearful, etc. People think I'm so "happy", but putting up a good front is getting exhausting. Is it okay to detach from the world as well as the AH? I am around many people every day. Thanks for listening.	punkydoodah	5	937	Jun 27, 2010 by Jennifer
	Running as fast as I can... (Preview) I feel like Im running as fast as I can on a treadmill financially and emotionally because of the A one miss step and my house of cards will collapse. This is craziness; 10 years ago I had a great job and a fat bank account. When does it stop? When do I get to rest?	Simba	8	1117	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	Humor and Credit Where Credit Is Due. (Preview) Three Men friends from an Al-Anon group decided to spend a Saturday hiking and enjoying nature. By mid afternoon they were tired, frustrated, and even though they all knew it.... none of the three would admit to being lost. They continued to walk until they stumbled across a raging river. They re...	RLC	13	1168	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	movies? (Preview) I like to watch movies or tv to wind down at night. I'm pretty busy during the weekdays and by the time I get home, eat dinner, put the kids to bed... I'm ready to unwind... have a hard time reading, so I was thinking instead of surfing my tv guide trying to find something I like, I'd rent some alanon/12 step...	angelchar375	6	4444	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	BEEEE Yourself (Preview) The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions.Just ponder on them. Just read the e-mail straight through, and you'll get the point. 1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world. 2. Name the last fiv...	Simba	3	730	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	Apologies for being MIA at the past 2 Friday morning meetings (Preview) Dear MIP family and friends - I am very sorry for not being available to chair the past 2 Friday morning meetings and for not making prior arrangements to ensure that the meeting was covered. For last week, I have no excuse other than just poor planning on my part. I was attending camp with my son that w...	blender_girl	3	575	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	can you believe it? (Preview) TO ALL OF THOSE WHO SAID TAKE A BATH:I cant do that even! crazy! I have 2 showers & only one bathtub & the bathtub is cracked & out of commision. We just got the one shower fixed but not the bathtub! As far as candles go: I will definitely use them if I have to just in a dark room! My life is so crazy t...	Hoot Nanny	7	907	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	I've been asked to speak at a meeting next week (Preview) This will be my first time to tell my story and I have no clue where to start. Do I start off with the day I was born, events that shaped the woman I am today OR Start with when I was first introduced to the disease and the outcome of how I handled those situations and the emotions that were left behind?	Mobirdie	8	1204	Jun 27, 2010 by Mobirdie
	Blame it on Karilynn weekend is here! (Preview) (((Family)))), Good morning! The 3rd annual: BLAME IT ON KARILYNN DAY is here. Only this year I have decided to turn it into a weekend. This has become an annual tradition. I have upped the anty this time and turned into a weekend. For all of the newbies who think I have lost my mind... well I have. ...	Karilynn	14	853	Jun 27, 2010 by Karilynn
	His Anixity is Chokin me!!! (Preview) Fun how people react to things so much differantly, My Husband & I have been plannin a trip to go see a lady I Met on the net about 4 yrs ago I guess... I have never "Spoken" a word to this women, but we email/FB/Myspace that kinda stuff all the time.. Send Cards on Holidays & Birthdays...	Jozie	8	860	Jun 26, 2010 by Mynameismom
	To be an A magnet or not to be! (Preview) Well I have to watch I don't get too passive with all that I read, and that I take what I like and leave the rest, if I belive I am an A magnet I will possibly resemble that remark, however, at times I am guilty of picking only the bits I like and applying them to me, because I haven't yet learned to open my mind fu...	Katy	1	661	Jun 26, 2010 by Jerry F
	All you need is love... (Preview) Actually all I really need is love & understanding: is that too much to ask PMS! To those who haven't been with us long; there is hope! We are all in this together! I am hoping that someone who isn't so selfish will come my way actually! It seems like everyone is focusing on THEM sometimes & don't s...	Hoot Nanny	5	693	Jun 26, 2010 by Tattyhead
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