Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

minawillie · minawillie

Hello everyone. I am new to this group but by no means new to the disease that affects us all so horribly. I've just lost my mother to this horrendous thing we call alcoholism. My dad found her body this past Wednesday. She'd been dead at least a week according to the medical examiner. She died like s...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP family, It's been a long time since I posted or replied here so I thought I'd stop by and let you all know I'm doing ok. It's now almost 6 months since my AH passed away, and I honestly can't believe it's that long. So what have I been doing? I've been spending a lot of time reading about grief, partici...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

It's been a while since I've been on here - I'm sharing for the health of it... My Alanonic Grandmother just passed away at 92 and I am working through a bunch of conflicting feelings. Boy, was she a RAGE-aholic. The dynamic of my granfather drinking and her being bossy Baptist housewife was heavy-duty...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Ran across this today and thought I'd share it: Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more, hate less, love more. Nice little reminder, no?

Aloha · Aloha

For a long time, before Al-Anon, I would often find myself in situations where I'd feel emotionally awful. When those feelings would emerge, I'd get mad and impatient with myself and try to find something - anything - to distract me so I wouldn't feel that way any longer. I would continue to feel "...

david62 · david62

Hi Family!! I just got back home from spending the weekend in San Antonio at the 2010 AA International Conference. A - Maz - ing!!!! This was my first one, and I hope it will not be my last! I was absolutely overwelmed by the number of people walking around downtown San Antonio wearing the conference bad...

Nalina · Nalina

This is only the second post from me, but I am curious as to what anyone's thoughts may be for me? MY AH and I have history spanning entire lives/love each other very much/want to get married/I moved 600 miles in January for him/he is showing signs of violent temper and angry drunk/his mother died last ye...

Bettina · Bettina

Hi everyone, I know my question is not alcohol related but I was hoping that someone could give me insight into an issue with my Mother that has become increasingly a problem. My Mother will be 85 in October, I know that she is getting old, and losing her memoryI have always worked to be respectful of m...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

First Happy 4 July to my US MIP family. Wishing you all a great day. I just wish I could say everything is going well in the Tattyhead household. AH is very ill and is in hospital having had upset stomach and not having eaten anything solid since April. He is skin and bone, having lost 3 1/2 stone (49lb) s...

Megthompson · Megthompson

hi anyone i am brand new to this site. also brand new to al anon.i have been trying to get to an on line al anon meeting but my computer is not really co-operating.i have been married to a heavy drinker for 20 years and just separated in february 2010. i have 3 children 2 of whom are drinking heavily.i just ca...

petpal · petpal

Hi everyone, where do I start. My husband has been to 3 detox therapies over the years and is still drinking. He goes to meetings for a while and falls. And I get really upset and I m the one who looks like a fool, in all of this, just doesn`t seem to make any sense. Hes the one drinking and doing all sorts of s...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

I'm so anxious this morning. Things are going smoothely at home. The kids are being fun and helpful and not getting on my nerves. But I have this looming anxious feeling. My mother in law is coming in to town. I haven' seen her since last summer. She was not always friendly to me and is very much an untreate...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I kicked my son out of my mother's house (she passed away three years ago) three weeks ago today, it was a terrible scene with him and his friend both of them high and out of control screaming and cussing, the police tried to keep the situation in a negotiated mode, but it ended with my son being arrested...

Rebecca2019 · Rebecca2019

I'd rather not get into the whole background. I am here due to my fiance being an A. He is not abusive, just rather sloppy and tired. More of a 'happy' drunk as me and my therapist calls him. Anyway she has suggested Al-Anon and I have a print out of some meetings. I realize I am enabling him. I made a set...

MissyPoo · MissyPoo

Hello all.. haven't posted in a while but have been lurking. All is as well as can be with an A who is trying to control his drinking. I detach, detach, detach and basically remove myself (and the kids) from his presence when he is drinking. Not too hard when we are at home, because he does most of his d...

Katy · Katy

Well I have detached from hubby emotionally and physically, the merry go round was making me sick so I got off, we have both played the games, and I have sat on my pity pot telling him over and over why he should change because of the things I have done and continue to do, I mean who else would put up with all th...

abbyal · abbyal

I was remembering a tape I heard several yrs ago , after reading katy 's post this morning , way to go keeping a positive attitude .. A farmer had a load of manure delivered to his home , he asked his two sons to move it to another location , the pesimist took one look at it and said no way and walked away , the opt...

Simba · Simba

Is this site down or inactive? Can anyone recomend a better site... I have a son that could use some peer help. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...AGO spotlighted a youtube video on the board of the other room; AA which I watched and which elated my spirit. I asked him to put it here also however he temporarily is missing access to this board and offered that I do it for you all. Paste and click this site and watch something phenom...

Katy · Katy

Well I just wanted to share with you all, todays revelation, and what it is, is this, I have spent many years doing and saying the same old same old, every time is the last time I am doing and saying something lol, and everytime I belive it's the last time, and then not suddenly though, but after much much pr...

geebee · geebee

This is my first post....I desperately need help. I rencently did an intervention on my 32 year old son. He detoxed and said he was ready for help. He has been unemployed for a year and just before a bed became available he was offered a job. He chose the job over treatment. He stated that he would go t...

lmw · lmw

Happy 4th of July! My older daughter turned 11 today. She was born during the Boston fireworks finale 11 years ago. Since our town's and family celebrations of the 4th are actually on the 5th this year, she wanted (1) a cell phone and (2) to spend the day with her dad. The last time she saw him on her bi...

lyndebi · lyndebi

My cute, wonderful doc added a new med. cool, to help my bp to go down. tells me pain is keeping it too high.Went to him from his request. (pain from arthritis) Started getting horrible leg cramps, plus other symptoms I shrugged off. Got so bad I tried every pain pill I could get my hands on. I mean just on...

wp · wp

Happy Independence everyone. What an awesome word :) wp

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

I posted last week about my AH coming off benzodiazipenes (prescription). I recently learned he has also weaned himself off of Effexor. Both were done without doctor supervision. We were separated until about one month ago. I wanted to try again, especially because he was acting like his old self. H...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((Friends)))))))))), I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and share it with loved ones and family. Please think of our boys who give thier lives for this very thing...freedom..... With Love, Andrea

kerry5 · kerry5

Business Meeting this month will be postponed this week and we will have it on July 11 2010. If you have any concerns or anything you would like on the agenda please let me know Thank you Kerry (aka kerisha)

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

WOW.......what an awesome experience. I tried all week to go through what I was going to say and I would get so far and then nothing seemed in the right order so I figured it just wasn't the right time. So, I started off my talk with "I have no idea where this is going but my higher power and I will figu...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I posted a couple weeks ago that I'd had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room and I had some tests. Those tests were all normal, but they referred me to a neurologist. I went to see the neurologist yesterday and guess what? Epilepsy. So I can't even say how completely grateful I am - the diagn...

Katy · Katy

I have been on this forum three years, no face to face now, no sponsor, living with a four years sober husband no programme, one son 19, a daughter who has just finished her degree and gone travelling solo south america, she emailed me yesterday she has got a first class honours dergree, WOW the pride! So...

dixiedoo · dixiedoo

I've been reading posts on this board for a while now, and just haven't been able to bring myself to join in until now. Here's a little background: I live with my alcoholic boyfriend of 6 years. We are both in our mid-30's and we do not have any children. He runs his own business, and I have a 9-5 job in a s...

Diva · Diva

I had to smile broadly at your friend's advice: "If he is passed out on the lawn, leave him there, but love him enough to turn off the automatic sprinklers." Reminds me of an incident that happened several years ago. I came home one fine day to find A passed out on the lawn. Really! This wa...

buick23 · buick23

3 days ago 2 people we know manipulated their way into staying at our house for a week or 2. After them staying with us for 2 days and thinking about the situation I did something about it. It was very uncomfortable for me to speak up and put my foot down but I did it. I talked to the woman and told her I felt they...

Aloha · Aloha

Had a great f2f meeting last night, and twice now in less than a week, I've heard the garden analogy used with keeping on top of character defects. 10th step work is like tending a garden regularly - pulling the weeds when they're small before they take root and take over and turn into a huge ordeal to get r...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I found this, this a.m. and found it touching and thought I would share. In deepest sleep one night, I dreamed that on the beach I walked. God was by my side each step and quietly we talked. Then on the sky my life was flashed; the vision all serene. Two sets of footprints in the sand were there in every scen...

Jerry F · Jerry F

for ((((all of you)))) who responded to Honesty always. Each of you had something to act on and support. I have to read and re-read slowly because if I read it with only "me" in mind I miss the wisdom. I am slowing down on the decision and am standing behind not ahead of my HP on this. The &quo...

okwitt · okwitt

I thank you all for talking to me for the past few days. Do you know I never listened to my husband or anyone about my alcoholic son- but I listened to you all! For twenty years it has been one horrow story after another with him. What would be so easy for you'll was a giant step for me to leave him with no keys....

Katy · Katy

He was an active functioning alchoholic his entire adult life, he never married and lived with my mum, he was controling and manipulitive, he ruled the house and all our lives within it, he was one of four, I am the youngest, I always wondered why we all had to rally around him and try to keep him sweet, it n...

oscarmom · oscarmom

a little background. my husband has been drinking most of our 32 year marriage. he has quit ( I call it delaying the next drink) many times in the past. had a dui and didn't faze him. recently he was drinking almost a bottle of wine at lunch, then returning to work. what I did not know was that he was also cons...

okwitt · okwitt

Tonight we got a phonecall saying our son was passed out in the pickup outside his gate. We rushed up. Someone had pulled his truck inside the yard. It was dark and he was lying on the ground down next to the fence by the gate -he was passed out cold. My husband said get the pickup keys and leave him there to...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

I attended my first Al-Anon meeting last night. I started out at the Newcomers meeting and then attended the Speakers Meeting. At the newcomers, there were about 8 of us. Four of us were new. The other 4 shared a little of their experiences and what Al-Anon is all about. They shared the various lite...

Katy · Katy

I have lived a troubled life, things have happened which I had no control over and lots of things happened which I did but didn't know how, I have stumbled along in this life often so despairing wondering what my purpose was on this earth, and I turned all of that inwards and I have wallowed and bathed in it...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...I have returned to this well for your awarenesses, experiences, strengths and hope. I don't have just a sense you are wise I know from experience that your are so I am trusting and hopeful. You remember my earlier post entitled I want my brother back!! and I haven't posted much more abo...

Holly09 · Holly09

My A boyfriend left for Kentucky today, he will be gone until Monday night and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders......for the next 6 day's anyway. I actually have some time to soul search and hopefully get a chance to see how I feel about our lives together. I can't do that when he...

miss_carol · miss_carol

I know I am insane fighting with a fifteen year old addict. It was ugly, I was ugly. I did manage to rein myself in before it got worse. All sorts of f bombs, he took off. I don't care. His dad is out of town(my other addict). He has been traveling for work for a year or longer. He is home on weekends and during th...

Ness · Ness

OK bear with me folks........you may need to have a nap half-way! Serenity.... a word that was never in my vocabulary. Serenity conjures up a calmness and stillness of the mind........ so very far removed from the chaos and insanity of the cunning baffling and powerful disease that made me think I wo...

Diva · Diva

I will throw him out and mean it when I say, "Don't come back." I cannot count the times I have told him to leave, only to take him back when he dragged himself home crying that he has nowhere else to go and that he loves me. I know, somewhere inside, when I open the door that his bingeing will nev...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm coming down to the last week staying with my (soon ex-) AH. I'm going to be moving into my new place 4th of July weekend, and he'll be moving to his new residence, too. We've stayed amicable with each other. In fact, a lot of the time, he seems to be treating me nicer and with more respect than he did when h...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

I'm so sock of my job, well actually of my boss. He is a complete jerk and I have to put up with it, cause I really need the money and he gave me a loan and I'm still paying it. He is a bully and a psicological abuser. He asks me things like: Are you retarded? Where's your f-ing head? and yells all the time. I'm jus...

miss_carol · miss_carol

I went to look at an apartment yesterday. It's perfect for me and my cat. It's inexpensive so I could afford it while I am in nursing school. I have the money to get it. Today I tore up the application and now I wish I wouldn't have. I just don't know why this decision is so hard. What am I hanging on for? So we c...

thetalady · thetalady

OK...it's confession time. I did something today that I knew I shouldn't. As a result, my AH is not speaking to me. I feel so silly now ... at the time, it seemed like the right thing to do. So here goes... My AH has been sober for a little over a year - this time. He had over 20 years the first time and went...

kg2010 · kg2010

Hi, I'm new to the forum. A lot of my family members have drinking problems and I now live far away from them. My older brother has gotten one DUI and I just learned that he's continuing to drink and drive. I'm worried he'll hurt someone, and himself. I don't have that much contact with him anymore, do...

Kate1960 · Kate1960

I am new. I have never needed help. I always thought I was strong. I am a strong Christian and feel like I am living in an oppressed environment. I was married to a pastor and after 4 children and a cute secretary, he left us. I remarried 5 years later to a man who had quit smoking weed one year earlier and vowe...

lyndebi · lyndebi

Guess what???!!! My son called me last night. He has not called or contacted me in in over 10 weeks. I had called him on the day i got out of the hospital, I said I am ok. He says,"what?" Said I had my surgery. he says,"that is not until the 26th." I said, "today is the 26th."...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I HOPE I WILL CONTINUE TO NOT CARRY THE ALCHOLICS IN MY LIFE. AT LEAST THEY BOTH HAVE A PROGRAM & THEY AREN'T WORKING MINE EITHER. TODAY I HAVE TOTAL FOCUS ON MYSELF. I AM IN IT FOR ME, UNABLE TO DO ANYTHING ELSE BUT FOCUS ON ME. I AM GRATEFUL, ETC. THAT'S ALL FOR TODAY! KATHLEEN

kate13 · kate13

Hello all, Can anyone share some tips on how to ask someone about sponsoring? It's time I did it, but I am fearful. What about online sponsoring? Any ideas would be most appreciated! Kate

lmz723 · lmz723

I posted on here a few months ago and got several wonderful responses. however my husband saw it and got very angry and it made me not want to return for some reason. I am in a different place now. for a recap, my husband and I got married in August of 2009. I had just graduated from college and was so excited t...

hotrod · hotrod

HI Everyone I know that recently a few of us agreed to work the steps on the Step work board. We left off at the 4 th Step. I have posted my 4th step on th board to start the process again and look forward to everyone's participation. Thanks.

miss_carol · miss_carol

This weekend was good. We only fought once and that wasn't long. I am tired and don't want to engage anymore. Yet I find, sometimes I just go there, so fast. I get angry, hurt, or so stressed I feel sick and then boom I am fighting like a caged animal. I have gone to my second meeting.There are two a week wher...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

My hubby was an admitted alcoholic for the past 10 years or so. He recently weaned himself off of clonazepam (this experience is an entire other post and I would be happy to hear from anyone who has weaned themselves off a drug like this). One of the many negative effects of a benzodipene (sp?), is that i...

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	I am in hell and don't know if I'll ever come out (Preview) Hello everyone. I am new to this group but by no means new to the disease that affects us all so horribly. I've just lost my mother to this horrendous thing we call alcoholism. My dad found her body this past Wednesday. She'd been dead at least a week according to the medical examiner. She died like s...	minawillie	19	1196	Jul 6, 2010 by minawillie
	Update on Rocky (Preview) Hi MIP family, It's been a long time since I posted or replied here so I thought I'd stop by and let you all know I'm doing ok. It's now almost 6 months since my AH passed away, and I honestly can't believe it's that long. So what have I been doing? I've been spending a lot of time reading about grief, partici...	Rocky38	7	823	Jul 6, 2010 by minawillie
	Qualifier Grandmother just passed away (Preview) It's been a while since I've been on here - I'm sharing for the health of it... My Alanonic Grandmother just passed away at 92 and I am working through a bunch of conflicting feelings. Boy, was she a RAGE-aholic. The dynamic of my granfather drinking and her being bossy Baptist housewife was heavy-duty...	alanonicScotland	5	829	Jul 6, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Less is More (Preview) Ran across this today and thought I'd share it: Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more, hate less, love more. Nice little reminder, no?	GailMichelle	6	755	Jul 6, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Allowing my feelings their time (Preview) For a long time, before Al-Anon, I would often find myself in situations where I'd feel emotionally awful. When those feelings would emerge, I'd get mad and impatient with myself and try to find something - anything - to distract me so I wouldn't feel that way any longer. I would continue to feel "...	Aloha	5	813	Jul 6, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Home from the International (Preview) Hi Family!! I just got back home from spending the weekend in San Antonio at the 2010 AA International Conference. A - Maz - ing!!!! This was my first one, and I hope it will not be my last! I was absolutely overwelmed by the number of people walking around downtown San Antonio wearing the conference bad...	david62	10	1470	Jul 6, 2010 by Aloha
	Things are becoming more volitile (Preview) This is only the second post from me, but I am curious as to what anyone's thoughts may be for me? MY AH and I have history spanning entire lives/love each other very much/want to get married/I moved 600 miles in January for him/he is showing signs of violent temper and angry drunk/his mother died last ye...	Nalina	9	1127	Jul 6, 2010 by Aloha
	Perplexed and at a loss... (Preview) Hi everyone, I know my question is not alcohol related but I was hoping that someone could give me insight into an issue with my Mother that has become increasingly a problem. My Mother will be 85 in October, I know that she is getting old, and losing her memoryI have always worked to be respectful of m...	Bettina	16	1010	Jul 6, 2010 by Bettina
	Me again (Preview) First Happy 4 July to my US MIP family. Wishing you all a great day. I just wish I could say everything is going well in the Tattyhead household. AH is very ill and is in hospital having had upset stomach and not having eaten anything solid since April. He is skin and bone, having lost 3 1/2 stone (49lb) s...	Tattyhead	8	1041	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	BRAND NEW (Preview) hi anyone i am brand new to this site. also brand new to al anon.i have been trying to get to an on line al anon meeting but my computer is not really co-operating.i have been married to a heavy drinker for 20 years and just separated in february 2010. i have 3 children 2 of whom are drinking heavily.i just ca...	Megthompson	8	922	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Where do I start!!!!! (Preview) Hi everyone, where do I start. My husband has been to 3 detox therapies over the years and is still drinking. He goes to meetings for a while and falls. And I get really upset and I m the one who looks like a fool, in all of this, just doesn`t seem to make any sense. Hes the one drinking and doing all sorts of s...	petpal	7	999	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Happy 4th of July, or is it? (Preview) I'm so anxious this morning. Things are going smoothely at home. The kids are being fun and helpful and not getting on my nerves. But I have this looming anxious feeling. My mother in law is coming in to town. I haven' seen her since last summer. She was not always friendly to me and is very much an untreate...	angelchar375	3	825	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Trying To Stay Strong..... (Preview) I kicked my son out of my mother's house (she passed away three years ago) three weeks ago today, it was a terrible scene with him and his friend both of them high and out of control screaming and cussing, the police tried to keep the situation in a negotiated mode, but it ended with my son being arrested...	DreamsOver	6	986	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Just need some help.... (Preview) I'd rather not get into the whole background. I am here due to my fiance being an A. He is not abusive, just rather sloppy and tired. More of a 'happy' drunk as me and my therapist calls him. Anyway she has suggested Al-Anon and I have a print out of some meetings. I realize I am enabling him. I made a set...	Rebecca2019	7	986	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Need ESH on family vacations with A's (Preview) Hello all.. haven't posted in a while but have been lurking. All is as well as can be with an A who is trying to control his drinking. I detach, detach, detach and basically remove myself (and the kids) from his presence when he is drinking. Not too hard when we are at home, because he does most of his d...	MissyPoo	8	988	Jul 6, 2010 by MissyPoo
	Humour and irony! (Preview) Well I have detached from hubby emotionally and physically, the merry go round was making me sick so I got off, we have both played the games, and I have sat on my pity pot telling him over and over why he should change because of the things I have done and continue to do, I mean who else would put up with all th...	Katy	4	1200	Jul 6, 2010 by Karilynn
	Optomist = pessimist (Preview) I was remembering a tape I heard several yrs ago , after reading katy 's post this morning , way to go keeping a positive attitude .. A farmer had a load of manure delivered to his home , he asked his two sons to move it to another location , the pesimist took one look at it and said no way and walked away , the opt...	abbyal	6	749	Jul 6, 2010 by Karilynn
	MIP Family Teens Message Board? (Preview) Is this site down or inactive? Can anyone recomend a better site... I have a son that could use some peer help. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.	Simba	3	885	Jul 6, 2010 by Simba
	Sweet and very comforting... (Preview) Aloha Family...AGO spotlighted a youtube video on the board of the other room; AA which I watched and which elated my spirit. I asked him to put it here also however he temporarily is missing access to this board and offered that I do it for you all. Paste and click this site and watch something phenom...	Jerry F	11	1218	Jul 5, 2010 by John
	Practicing! (Preview) Well I just wanted to share with you all, todays revelation, and what it is, is this, I have spent many years doing and saying the same old same old, every time is the last time I am doing and saying something lol, and everytime I belive it's the last time, and then not suddenly though, but after much much pr...	Katy	4	905	Jul 5, 2010 by Loupiness
	This is my first post.. (Preview) This is my first post....I desperately need help. I rencently did an intervention on my 32 year old son. He detoxed and said he was ready for help. He has been unemployed for a year and just before a bed became available he was offered a job. He chose the job over treatment. He stated that he would go t...	geebee	7	888	Jul 5, 2010 by GailMichelle
	Birthday Magic (Preview) Happy 4th of July! My older daughter turned 11 today. She was born during the Boston fireworks finale 11 years ago. Since our town's and family celebrations of the 4th are actually on the 5th this year, she wanted (1) a cell phone and (2) to spend the day with her dad. The last time she saw him on her bi...	lmw	5	570	Jul 5, 2010 by xeno59
	From deaths door and leg amputation..... (Preview) My cute, wonderful doc added a new med. cool, to help my bp to go down. tells me pain is keeping it too high.Went to him from his request. (pain from arthritis) Started getting horrible leg cramps, plus other symptoms I shrugged off. Got so bad I tried every pain pill I could get my hands on. I mean just on...	lyndebi	10	1207	Jul 4, 2010 by lyndebi
	INDEPENDENCE (Preview) Happy Independence everyone. What an awesome word :) wp	wp	3	589	Jul 4, 2010 by Jerry F
	Is there any hope?! (long) (Preview) I posted last week about my AH coming off benzodiazipenes (prescription). I recently learned he has also weaned himself off of Effexor. Both were done without doctor supervision. We were separated until about one month ago. I wanted to try again, especially because he was acting like his old self. H...	looking_for_peace	8	1067	Jul 4, 2010 by xeno59
	Happy Fourth (Preview) ((((((Friends)))))))))), I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and share it with loved ones and family. Please think of our boys who give thier lives for this very thing...freedom..... With Love, Andrea	Andrea12	5	680	Jul 4, 2010 by Karilynn
	Business Meeting for July will be postponed (Preview) Business Meeting this month will be postponed this week and we will have it on July 11 2010. If you have any concerns or anything you would like on the agenda please let me know Thank you Kerry (aka kerisha)	kerry5	0	593	Jul 3, 2010 by kerry5
	Shared my story (Preview) WOW.......what an awesome experience. I tried all week to go through what I was going to say and I would get so far and then nothing seemed in the right order so I figured it just wasn't the right time. So, I started off my talk with "I have no idea where this is going but my higher power and I will figu...	Mobirdie	8	1051	Jul 3, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Diagnosis (Preview) I posted a couple weeks ago that I'd had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room and I had some tests. Those tests were all normal, but they referred me to a neurologist. I went to see the neurologist yesterday and guess what? Epilepsy. So I can't even say how completely grateful I am - the diagn...	White Rabbit	9	1100	Jul 3, 2010 by White Rabbit
	How it has been working for me! (Preview) I have been on this forum three years, no face to face now, no sponsor, living with a four years sober husband no programme, one son 19, a daughter who has just finished her degree and gone travelling solo south america, she emailed me yesterday she has got a first class honours dergree, WOW the pride! So...	Katy	1	761	Jul 3, 2010 by lyndebi
	Newbie here - Does this sound familiar? (Preview) I've been reading posts on this board for a while now, and just haven't been able to bring myself to join in until now. Here's a little background: I live with my alcoholic boyfriend of 6 years. We are both in our mid-30's and we do not have any children. He runs his own business, and I have a 9-5 job in a s...	dixiedoo	10	817	Jul 2, 2010 by hopeful123
	ABBYAL...and anyone else who would like to smile. (Preview) I had to smile broadly at your friend's advice: "If he is passed out on the lawn, leave him there, but love him enough to turn off the automatic sprinklers." Reminds me of an incident that happened several years ago. I came home one fine day to find A passed out on the lawn. Really! This wa...	Diva	7	836	Jul 2, 2010 by maire rua
	finally have some positive things to share (Preview) 3 days ago 2 people we know manipulated their way into staying at our house for a week or 2. After them staying with us for 2 days and thinking about the situation I did something about it. It was very uncomfortable for me to speak up and put my foot down but I did it. I talked to the woman and told her I felt they...	buick23	6	995	Jul 2, 2010 by buick23
	4th/10th step inventory thoughts (Preview) Had a great f2f meeting last night, and twice now in less than a week, I've heard the garden analogy used with keeping on top of character defects. 10th step work is like tending a garden regularly - pulling the weeds when they're small before they take root and take over and turn into a huge ordeal to get r...	Aloha	5	1899	Jul 1, 2010 by Simba
	The footprints of God (Preview) I found this, this a.m. and found it touching and thought I would share. In deepest sleep one night, I dreamed that on the beach I walked. God was by my side each step and quietly we talked. Then on the sky my life was flashed; the vision all serene. Two sets of footprints in the sand were there in every scen...	Sweet Stanley	3	1102	Jul 1, 2010 by Andrea12
	I am humbled and grateful again... (Preview) for ((((all of you)))) who responded to Honesty always. Each of you had something to act on and support. I have to read and re-read slowly because if I read it with only "me" in mind I miss the wisdom. I am slowing down on the decision and am standing behind not ahead of my HP on this. The &quo...	Jerry F	5	1150	Jul 1, 2010 by Andrea12
	Baby Step-Giant Step (Preview) I thank you all for talking to me for the past few days. Do you know I never listened to my husband or anyone about my alcoholic son- but I listened to you all! For twenty years it has been one horrow story after another with him. What would be so easy for you'll was a giant step for me to leave him with no keys....	okwitt	2	964	Jul 1, 2010 by abbyal
	To Thy Own Self Be True! My Brother! (Preview) He was an active functioning alchoholic his entire adult life, he never married and lived with my mum, he was controling and manipulitive, he ruled the house and all our lives within it, he was one of four, I am the youngest, I always wondered why we all had to rally around him and try to keep him sweet, it n...	Katy	6	969	Jul 1, 2010 by Karilynn
	husband sober 90 days, I'm still mad tho (Preview) a little background. my husband has been drinking most of our 32 year marriage. he has quit ( I call it delaying the next drink) many times in the past. had a dui and didn't faze him. recently he was drinking almost a bottle of wine at lunch, then returning to work. what I did not know was that he was also cons...	oscarmom	5	1997	Jul 1, 2010 by Mobirdie
	At My Witt's End (Preview) Tonight we got a phonecall saying our son was passed out in the pickup outside his gate. We rushed up. Someone had pulled his truck inside the yard. It was dark and he was lying on the ground down next to the fence by the gate -he was passed out cold. My husband said get the pickup keys and leave him there to...	okwitt	6	3236	Jul 1, 2010 by Mobirdie
	Attended Al-Anon for the First Time (Preview) I attended my first Al-Anon meeting last night. I started out at the Newcomers meeting and then attended the Speakers Meeting. At the newcomers, there were about 8 of us. Four of us were new. The other 4 shared a little of their experiences and what Al-Anon is all about. They shared the various lite...	GailMichelle	2	726	Jul 1, 2010 by never going back
	Honesty First, ! (Preview) I have lived a troubled life, things have happened which I had no control over and lots of things happened which I did but didn't know how, I have stumbled along in this life often so despairing wondering what my purpose was on this earth, and I turned all of that inwards and I have wallowed and bathed in it...	Katy	3	754	Jul 1, 2010 by Karilynn
	Honesty always... (Preview) Aloha Family...I have returned to this well for your awarenesses, experiences, strengths and hope. I don't have just a sense you are wise I know from experience that your are so I am trusting and hopeful. You remember my earlier post entitled I want my brother back!! and I haven't posted much more abo...	Jerry F	19	2088	Jul 1, 2010 by Karilynn
	A peaceful break (Preview) My A boyfriend left for Kentucky today, he will be gone until Monday night and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders......for the next 6 day's anyway. I actually have some time to soul search and hopefully get a chance to see how I feel about our lives together. I can't do that when he...	Holly09	1	540	Jul 1, 2010 by Jerry F
	fighting with my fifteen year old stepson (Preview) I know I am insane fighting with a fifteen year old addict. It was ugly, I was ugly. I did manage to rein myself in before it got worse. All sorts of f bombs, he took off. I don't care. His dad is out of town(my other addict). He has been traveling for work for a year or longer. He is home on weekends and during th...	miss_carol	1	831	Jul 1, 2010 by Jerry F
	This is for you my MIP friends and for all affected by this disease......with love & gratitude. (Preview) OK bear with me folks........you may need to have a nap half-way! Serenity.... a word that was never in my vocabulary. Serenity conjures up a calmness and stillness of the mind........ so very far removed from the chaos and insanity of the cunning baffling and powerful disease that made me think I wo...	Ness	9	1352	Jun 30, 2010 by Ness
	One of these days.... (Preview) I will throw him out and mean it when I say, "Don't come back." I cannot count the times I have told him to leave, only to take him back when he dragged himself home crying that he has nowhere else to go and that he loves me. I know, somewhere inside, when I open the door that his bingeing will nev...	Diva	9	866	Jun 30, 2010 by carolinagirl
	Out of sight... hopefully out of mind. (Preview) I'm coming down to the last week staying with my (soon ex-) AH. I'm going to be moving into my new place 4th of July weekend, and he'll be moving to his new residence, too. We've stayed amicable with each other. In fact, a lot of the time, he seems to be treating me nicer and with more respect than he did when h...	Aloha	4	1135	Jun 30, 2010 by carolinagirl
	Sick of my job (Preview) I'm so sock of my job, well actually of my boss. He is a complete jerk and I have to put up with it, cause I really need the money and he gave me a loan and I'm still paying it. He is a bully and a psicological abuser. He asks me things like: Are you retarded? Where's your f-ing head? and yells all the time. I'm jus...	Priscilla83	3	920	Jun 30, 2010 by xeno59
	Brain must be broken, can't make decisions. (Preview) I went to look at an apartment yesterday. It's perfect for me and my cat. It's inexpensive so I could afford it while I am in nursing school. I have the money to get it. Today I tore up the application and now I wish I wouldn't have. I just don't know why this decision is so hard. What am I hanging on for? So we c...	miss_carol	5	1126	Jun 30, 2010 by xeno59
	Boy, Did I Blow It! (Preview) OK...it's confession time. I did something today that I knew I shouldn't. As a result, my AH is not speaking to me. I feel so silly now ... at the time, it seemed like the right thing to do. So here goes... My AH has been sober for a little over a year - this time. He had over 20 years the first time and went...	thetalady	7	869	Jun 30, 2010 by abbyal
	Brother who drinks and drives (Preview) Hi, I'm new to the forum. A lot of my family members have drinking problems and I now live far away from them. My older brother has gotten one DUI and I just learned that he's continuing to drink and drive. I'm worried he'll hurt someone, and himself. I don't have that much contact with him anymore, do...	kg2010	3	613	Jun 30, 2010 by xeno59
	I am here searching because I've no where else to go (Preview) I am new. I have never needed help. I always thought I was strong. I am a strong Christian and feel like I am living in an oppressed environment. I was married to a pastor and after 4 children and a cute secretary, he left us. I remarried 5 years later to a man who had quit smoking weed one year earlier and vowe...	Kate1960	10	998	Jun 30, 2010 by never going back
	kids.... (Preview) Guess what???!!! My son called me last night. He has not called or contacted me in in over 10 weeks. I had called him on the day i got out of the hospital, I said I am ok. He says,"what?" Said I had my surgery. he says,"that is not until the 26th." I said, "today is the 26th."...	lyndebi	10	1207	Jun 30, 2010 by never going back
	NOT CARRYING THE AH (Preview) I HOPE I WILL CONTINUE TO NOT CARRY THE ALCHOLICS IN MY LIFE. AT LEAST THEY BOTH HAVE A PROGRAM & THEY AREN'T WORKING MINE EITHER. TODAY I HAVE TOTAL FOCUS ON MYSELF. I AM IN IT FOR ME, UNABLE TO DO ANYTHING ELSE BUT FOCUS ON ME. I AM GRATEFUL, ETC. THAT'S ALL FOR TODAY! KATHLEEN	Hoot Nanny	4	894	Jun 30, 2010 by Jerry F
	sponsor (Preview) Hello all, Can anyone share some tips on how to ask someone about sponsoring? It's time I did it, but I am fearful. What about online sponsoring? Any ideas would be most appreciated! Kate	kate13	3	802	Jun 30, 2010 by abbyal
	losing all hope in this... (Preview) I posted on here a few months ago and got several wonderful responses. however my husband saw it and got very angry and it made me not want to return for some reason. I am in a different place now. for a recap, my husband and I got married in August of 2009. I had just graduated from college and was so excited t...	lmz723	9	1057	Jun 29, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	4 TH Step (Preview) HI Everyone I know that recently a few of us agreed to work the steps on the Step work board. We left off at the 4 th Step. I have posted my 4th step on th board to start the process again and look forward to everyone's participation. Thanks.	hotrod	0	699	Jun 29, 2010 by hotrod
	So tired. (Preview) This weekend was good. We only fought once and that wasn't long. I am tired and don't want to engage anymore. Yet I find, sometimes I just go there, so fast. I get angry, hurt, or so stressed I feel sick and then boom I am fighting like a caged animal. I have gone to my second meeting.There are two a week wher...	miss_carol	5	967	Jun 29, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	Can you become an alcoholic later in life? (Preview) My hubby was an admitted alcoholic for the past 10 years or so. He recently weaned himself off of clonazepam (this experience is an entire other post and I would be happy to hear from anyone who has weaned themselves off a drug like this). One of the many negative effects of a benzodipene (sp?), is that i...	looking_for_peace	6	6350	Jun 29, 2010 by Karilynn
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