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looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

Need to vent. There is one thing that I am so sick and tired of about this whole sickness. It's the isolation. I just talked to my husband's father and he told me that the family got together for a bonfire last night at the family camp. It was just an impromptu thing and I KNOW no one meant to hurt my feelings....

glad · glad

The Maker of all human beings is recalling all units manufactured, regardless of make or year, due to a serious defect in the primary and central component of the heart. This is due to a malfunction in the original prototype. Some of the symptoms include: 1. Loss of direction 2. Foul vocal emission...

raid3rgirl · raid3rgirl

I've been married to my AH for 21 yrs and everyone is right it only get's worse. I am always angry, my poor children were raised in this Alcoholic Angry Home. I always felt like i can handle this. I am 42 now and now all my 3 children have children and do not like that i feel like i am reliving my childhood. ...

Samsgram · Samsgram

First let me explain.. My mother has some money that she has on occassion given to my daughter and children in advance when they needed something and said it was part of their inheritance. Although recently my mother doesnt seem to generous with it but she can be a softie when someone presents a situati...

Harvest · Harvest

I have been married to this man who has been smoking pot everyday . He also drinks alcohol 3 to 4 times a week. So many promises, "when the children will be born-I will quit", "when the kids are old enough to understand- I will quit" all unkept. Its your fault that I smoke and drink.....

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, My son decided no military (thank you God), don't misunderstand I think the people who fight every day to save our country are above all of us and I have great respect for them. I just don't want my son that far gone for than long (selfish but I don't care). I thought my son was doing drugs. I...

stopandchat · stopandchat

Hi, I posted about a week ago that my AH moved out while I was at work. He's still gone - he is living in a very scuzzy apartment on an air mattress. Anyway, we have seen each other several times (just last night went to an open talk together), and we talk and text every day, several times a day. He says he need...

BrokenBunny · BrokenBunny

I saw this Forum and I am new at this. Didn't know if I should even be doing this, but I have kept too much bottled inside and getting more confused if I am losing my sanity or not and maybe some suggestions and opinions. Been with boyfriend for 4 yrs. He drinks approx 4 glasses of Vodka each evening. Gets...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Another really nice birthday again this year! I enjoyed so much being with my husband & traveling 60 miles to see a movie & get a good lunch @ Red Lobster yesterday! When I got back on the computer this morning, I counted about 13 messages from my FB friends wishing me a happy birthday! I wish I ha...

glad · glad

I'm so glad we can take what we like and leave the rest. I've often said alanon is what organized religion-( First Baptist or Methodist Church or whatever) should hope to be. I recently encountered somene who had some good things to say but said it as if they has "arrived" at this all knowing s...

Grace M · Grace M

Hi everyone, I hate feeling so low and depressed but I can not help how I feel. I feel so drained of all energy and emotion I have nothing left to give, it has been a long time since I have felt this bad and I don't want to feel like this, usually I am hopeful, happy and have hope and faith. I usualy am the one to...

buick23 · buick23

My friends mom's memorial service was today and it was beautiful. I'm glad I went. I sat there and really listened to what the preacher had to say even though I am not christian. I was right where I was supposed to be. My bf now needs eye surgery which will take place tomorrow because of an injury that happe...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Just a great big THANK YOU for all your love & prayers these past few days. I felt your support uplifting me. I know Tim & Dad were looking down and smiling on all the love. Your messages of love, support and wisdom brought tears to my eyes. You are the best of the best. I coun...

Ash · Ash

So in hindsight i see that in moving the family back to our hometown has helped relieve some stress in that I have extended family support and friends to go to with my 4 year old son if dry AH pulls something. On the other hand I just realized that part of my depression stems from the fact that i expected my &q...

this too shall pass · this too shall pass

hi... my A is my husband.. it has been very a rough ride..even thoug it has been only 3 and a half years since we have been married.. i knew him for 3 years before that but only saw his addiction on my weddign night for the first time.. he has been in recovery and slipped many a times... this time it has been abo...

this too shall pass · this too shall pass

hi, some of you may ahve read my earliers post.. i can't say enough how glad i am to have found you guys... i needed som wdvice.. my A in in recovery... he attends meetings and is away from usage.. someoen helped me understand it is difficult for him too.. he has been behaving very different and detached th...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

Our family has lived with over ten years dealing with my AS now 30 years old, you all are familiar with what is involved with this, DUI's, lost jobs, trying to keep a roof over his head so that he won't be on the streets, thinking that he would come to his senses at some point. Well, about 5 weeks ago a crisi...

punkydoodah · punkydoodah

She lied again and came home late. I am responsible for her as she is underage. Please. I know marijuana is not addictive, but it is a major time-waster and a social drug. It will only attract other pot-smokers to her. What do I do? How will I cope with the future? She always attracts the most troubled...

fenderfem09 · fenderfem09

Hey everybody, I need some advice. Hopefully I'll get some advice in an al-anon meeting I'm going to later today. So here's the deal. I'm dating this guy. He's currently in a halfway/recovery house in Wilmington NC (about 3.5hrs from me). Today is our one month anniversary, I guess you could call it th...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I was reading today's Courage to Change and it really hit home for me today. I too have discovered my sense of humor again... It truly has been wonderful. It feels great to bring forth a hoot of laughter from my lips. It has also been a great reminder to myself to not take myself or my life so seriously....

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

God bless each of you for the response. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Remember us in your prayers.

Goodtillitsbad · Goodtillitsbad

I have been trying really hard to work on me and my recovery. I have a sponsor, been going to F2F and chat meetings and coming here. I am still working on step one with my sponsor for about 5 months now. However, my head keeps telling me to get out of this marriage. Logic is saying walk away, you deserve bette...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

I referred a friend of mine to the online meeting tonight and she reported to me an unsettling experience. We don't expect royalty or being treated like queens and I realize you are human. But, please, please, please, try to be a little more welcoming, warm, and friendly, when greeting 'guests"...

kat42 · kat42

I know I need to get to an Al Anon meeting (I have never been). But with two children, full time school and part time work it seems to hit a back burner... Anways...the biggest issue I have trying to deal with my husband's alcoholism is the lies. He is on and off again with drinking and is trying his best. ...

QOD · QOD

My exah/bf is getting a full time back breaking job. A job finally. Maybe now he will send me child support. Problem is, he won't shut up about money! I hate talking about money. Talking about money does not solve my money issues. It just brings me down. I realize if have more going out than coming in...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I know the focus needs to be on me, but as much as I've tried, I'm blowin up! I have a 19 year old neice who is always in a not-so-pleasant mood. She's a late bloomer (never went to prom, never has had a boyfriend, hasn't learned to drive). She's beautiful as far as "Hollywood" standards go.......

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Suffice it to say my wife is a dry drunk as well as an ACA. She exhibits all the behaviors of an alcoholic. Today, due to my work schedule, I couldn't take my daughter to a show she wanted to see badly. I asked my wife who I knew was free this evening and received an "I dont' know"....I asked, wh...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Former Alanon and ACA participant....50 years old, miserable marriage and feeling the most unhappy I've ever felt in my life. Divorce is NOT an option at the moment, may be in a few years (I'll explain some other time). My problem is I've lost my happiness and my hope. (I do like what I read from someb...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi all I have been in Al-Anon for about three months. When I started I was in England as a student. I went home to Norway almost three weeks ago and was very nervous about going to a Norwegian meeting. The only meeting I knew of in my area was a meeting especially for adult children of alcoholics. I didnt go...

LarryWhiteford · LarryWhiteford

Can anyone get into the acoa and alanon chatrooms? I am not able to get in wondering if anyone else was able to get in. thanks

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

My AH and I had a very good talk last night about patience (one of my favorite topics - NOT) and forcing things to work that don't. I know that I definitely want what I want when I want it. Period. And there have been so many times that when I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted it, I figured out a way to man...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I'm hurt and its my own fault. No I didn't do a quicky abandon my spouse and capture another alcoholic for a quick attempt at altering but maybe what I did was...is just as crazy. Any of you out there go to those punch, kick, dance and jump around high energy exercise classes? Okay now you know why I'm h...

mackey dee · mackey dee

Taking to AD last evening she sounded soo down.Talking so about her situation.Wanted so much to fly up there wrap her in a nice soft baby blanket and bring her home and tuck her in. Always rescued her cant do it anymore.This time it is up to her.She said the last time she was thinking her and ex would get bac...

okwitt · okwitt

As usual when I came here a few weeks ago I was looking for a magic fix for my A adult son. So far when I post on the board your so disappointethat I don't go to no f2f meetings. I appreciated all the responses on the board. Im reading the brochures, sayings and all. when I go to the online meetings, I don't fe...

stopandchat · stopandchat

Hi all, I'm working the steps - without a sponsor. I do plan to finish my work on steps 4, 5, 6 with a sponsor though. Anyway, I've been kind of skipping around. For instance, I've been making direct amends, but, haven't completed previous steps. Is this detrimental? Thanks!

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

I did a google search and saw some out there, but none that seemed suitable for my daughter. She tried Ala-Teen and didn't like it. She didn't even think I was an alcoholic, so she initially resisted all of this and I think right now she still doesn't really know what to think. I really just want to try a...

New Member Question · mrphunny

Hello. I'm looking for some help and advice. My wife is an alcoholic and I knew nothing of this disease growing up. No one in my family suffered from it. So as I've been with her, I've come to learn all about the lying, the suspicion, the pain, the embaressment, etc. I didn't know what to do except try to be a...

speck31 · speck31

So I haven't posted in awhile - but I still read as much as I can and am going to f2f meetings when I am in town. I asked my exAB for one month of no contact after dating for over a year - off and on. He is a binger and can go for long periods of time without any alcohol/drugs but when he starts he goes for awhile. I...

Jennifer · Jennifer

This morning when I woke up and looked out the window I saw my neighbor had a tarp that had been covering a leaking skylight flapping inthe wind hanging down the side of her house. I watched it flap for awhile thinking of how it reminded me of the pictures of Christo's artistic events like draping fabric...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

IF IT KEEPS GETTIN' BETTER, I DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M GONNA DO! I AM GETTING BACK ON TRACK & SLEEPING PRETTY WELL! FOR ALL OF THOSE WHO DON'T KNOW ME, I AM AN INSOMNIAC & HAVE TROUBLE SLEEPING. BUT TODAY I AM DOING GREAT! IT IS NICE TO SIT AT THE COMPUTER & HAVE SOMETHING POSITIVE TO SAY. MY RELA...

Nicki · Nicki

My boyfriend came back from treatment in April of this year. After his return he was sober (and still is), but things between us changed as well. for the last three months he never gave me the feeling I was genuinely loved, he doesn't return my calls, there is no quality time and he just sits in the house fe...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi Everyone, I have not posted in a couple of months my computer is down. I am doing this in work do not worry it is the end of my day. I miss posting so much and I know my recovery is not what is was, I will have to make it a priority to get my computer fixed. Hope to be back soon please keep me in your prayer as I wi...

Adabnu · Adabnu

For those who don't know me. I am the one who broke up with my AH fiancée a month ago. After so many calls from him since the break up, he finally stop calling me. It has been more than a week now, no contacts at all. I should feel relieved, right? No, actually, I feel I become weaker and weaker, I start missing...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha MIP family...I'm following up on the suggestion of a former Al-Anon sponsor who in response to my comisserating about a problem in my life offered the title. This post is also an update on an earlier post about "Wanting my brother (in recovery) back". My Sponsor's suggestion was...

Dash · Dash

I am the mother of an addict. I am also fairly new to al-anon, so I hope you will be patient with me as I learn. The chaos of this disease is overwhelming at times. But we are working on taking care of ourselves now. For so long we let his addiction dictate our feelings and household. If he was doing well,...

Ri · Ri

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending - Carl Bard This is what I'm looking forward to with my ABF who is 95 days sober! Just thought I would share!

sduff · sduff

Dont know what to do or how to handle this ...Married a man who was an alcoholic and started drinking again. He says he loves me with all his heart and I try to believe that but in MY heart I know he loves the bottle more than me! I feel like I am fighting a ghost that I cant hit......He told me he knows he has a p...

Acatnip · Acatnip

I read a recent post from someone new to here and it struck me to reply. I could see myself in the original poster and I felt the need to offer some support. Then it struck me that I have neglected to thank those who were a lifeline in what has to be described as the worse time in my life. And there was one thing I...

maire rua · maire rua

Hi All, One of my A-brothers has turned up well and is working, so good news, there had been no word off him for a good few months so I am glad his HP is looking out for him. Today I handed it over. My father is pissed at me because I will not ring him. I have had to detach from this situation for a number of reasons...

stopandchat · stopandchat

Hi, I am a member of Al-Anon, however, new to this board. My husband is the alcoholic who brought me to the program. He was pretty much on a 2 year bender, and has been sober for almost 8 months now. We've only been married for a little over a year, and got married in the midst of active alcoholism I know - mist...

kablisnow · kablisnow

My husband just came home from rehab, he has been sober 44 days. Today I suspected him of drinking or lyeing. Pretty sure he was doing one or the other or both. I tried to talk to him and assure him that I just wanted the truth and no matter what we would get through it together but that didnt seem to get me any...

buick23 · buick23

One of my closest friends mom died today. She overdosed on pills. Very sad day. Please say some prayers for my friend and her family. thx buick

Loupiness · Loupiness

I have really been struggling with my relationship with my 17 yr old son lately. He is not an A, just a teenager, but shares so many characteristics of my exAh, that it is difficult at times to separate myself. So, is an A like a teen or a teen like an A? Hard to know, all I know is that I am easily triggered a...

petpal · petpal

Hi all, in case no one has asked you today, I will, So how was your day My husband who is in essential services came in today and told me how many lives he saved and how many fights he stopped, having a real hard and stressful day. When he had vented he looked at me and said, I should go for a ride just to vent...

petpal · petpal

Does anyone know why I cant get in All it says is java chat denied.... thanks for all info petpal xxx

Samsgram · Samsgram

Well I haven`t been here in a number of months. This had been my only source of support since I had no way of getting to outside meetings w/ health issues and babysitting much too much. My health has since improved and I`am now trying to get to meetings and take better care of myself. I say I want to detatch f...

stepmom · stepmom

Hi, I'm new to this site and new to the condition of alcoholism. I have three step-children ages 19, 17 and 11. Their mother will be going in for residential treatment in a week for 30 days. During that time they will be living with me and their father full time. (We normally have them every other week...

Greenvalleygal · Greenvalleygal

I have that old sick feeling that I fight so hard to not have. Alcoholic son is suppose to work today but has been on a three day drunk during his time off. I have not talked to him but normally I give him a ride to and from work if his brother is not available. I have texted him and asked if he needed a ride and...

okwitt · okwitt

I went to deliver basics my adult A Son needed from grocery store. Drove up- he came out ranting and raving demanding his truck keys(truck and insurance in my husbands name) Called him he said give him his keys. I did. He cursed and called me everything bad. I know on this probation, he is most likely goin...

MotherTeresa · MotherTeresa

Hi Guys, My alcoholic son lives with us in a basement bedroom and the last couple of nights I heard voices. coming from down there at 3:30 in the morning. He was moving around down there, swearing, and ranting, sounding very angry. It was scary, he is usually quite mild mannered and sweet even when dru...

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	Need to vent in a safe place... (Preview) Need to vent. There is one thing that I am so sick and tired of about this whole sickness. It's the isolation. I just talked to my husband's father and he told me that the family got together for a bonfire last night at the family camp. It was just an impromptu thing and I KNOW no one meant to hurt my feelings....	looking_for_peace	6	954	Jul 26, 2010 by Aloha
	Master answer for all questions and concerns provided free of charge (Preview) The Maker of all human beings is recalling all units manufactured, regardless of make or year, due to a serious defect in the primary and central component of the heart. This is due to a malfunction in the original prototype. Some of the symptoms include: 1. Loss of direction 2. Foul vocal emission...	glad	2	817	Jul 26, 2010 by kitty
	Very exhausted (Preview) I've been married to my AH for 21 yrs and everyone is right it only get's worse. I am always angry, my poor children were raised in this Alcoholic Angry Home. I always felt like i can handle this. I am 42 now and now all my 3 children have children and do not like that i feel like i am reliving my childhood. ...	raid3rgirl	2	891	Jul 26, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Daughter Asks Me To Ask Her Grandmother For Some Money (Preview) First let me explain.. My mother has some money that she has on occassion given to my daughter and children in advance when they needed something and said it was part of their inheritance. Although recently my mother doesnt seem to generous with it but she can be a softie when someone presents a situati...	Samsgram	11	1262	Jul 25, 2010 by Diva
	It will sound (read) lame, but I am at a loss........... (Preview) I have been married to this man who has been smoking pot everyday . He also drinks alcohol 3 to 4 times a week. So many promises, "when the children will be born-I will quit", "when the kids are old enough to understand- I will quit" all unkept. Its your fault that I smoke and drink.....	Harvest	10	1035	Jul 25, 2010 by ythannah
	My Son (Preview) Hello Friends, My son decided no military (thank you God), don't misunderstand I think the people who fight every day to save our country are above all of us and I have great respect for them. I just don't want my son that far gone for than long (selfish but I don't care). I thought my son was doing drugs. I...	Andrea12	3	874	Jul 25, 2010 by Andrea12
	Confused about "getting out of the way" (Preview) Hi, I posted about a week ago that my AH moved out while I was at work. He's still gone - he is living in a very scuzzy apartment on an air mattress. Anyway, we have seen each other several times (just last night went to an open talk together), and we talk and text every day, several times a day. He says he need...	stopandchat	10	1033	Jul 25, 2010 by Jennifer
	Lost & Confused (Preview) I saw this Forum and I am new at this. Didn't know if I should even be doing this, but I have kept too much bottled inside and getting more confused if I am losing my sanity or not and maybe some suggestions and opinions. Been with boyfriend for 4 yrs. He drinks approx 4 glasses of Vodka each evening. Gets...	BrokenBunny	8	930	Jul 25, 2010 by ythannah
	another wonderful birthday... (Preview) Another really nice birthday again this year! I enjoyed so much being with my husband & traveling 60 miles to see a movie & get a good lunch @ Red Lobster yesterday! When I got back on the computer this morning, I counted about 13 messages from my FB friends wishing me a happy birthday! I wish I ha...	Hoot Nanny	8	831	Jul 25, 2010 by hotrod
	Take what you like and leave the rest! (Preview) I'm so glad we can take what we like and leave the rest. I've often said alanon is what organized religion-( First Baptist or Methodist Church or whatever) should hope to be. I recently encountered somene who had some good things to say but said it as if they has "arrived" at this all knowing s...	glad	3	1941	Jul 25, 2010 by Jerry F
	Defeated and in Despair and pain (Preview) Hi everyone, I hate feeling so low and depressed but I can not help how I feel. I feel so drained of all energy and emotion I have nothing left to give, it has been a long time since I have felt this bad and I don't want to feel like this, usually I am hopeful, happy and have hope and faith. I usualy am the one to...	Grace M	10	1191	Jul 25, 2010 by Grace M
	another long day (Preview) My friends mom's memorial service was today and it was beautiful. I'm glad I went. I sat there and really listened to what the preacher had to say even though I am not christian. I was right where I was supposed to be. My bf now needs eye surgery which will take place tomorrow because of an injury that happe...	buick23	5	729	Jul 25, 2010 by xeno59
	Thank you (Preview) ((((Family)))), Just a great big THANK YOU for all your love & prayers these past few days. I felt your support uplifting me. I know Tim & Dad were looking down and smiling on all the love. Your messages of love, support and wisdom brought tears to my eyes. You are the best of the best. I coun...	Karilynn	3	663	Jul 25, 2010 by Andrea12
	Big let down! (Preview) So in hindsight i see that in moving the family back to our hometown has helped relieve some stress in that I have extended family support and friends to go to with my 4 year old son if dry AH pulls something. On the other hand I just realized that part of my depression stems from the fact that i expected my &q...	Ash	4	1112	Jul 25, 2010 by Overcome
	i love him so much...it's so difficult...even though he is in recovery (Preview) hi... my A is my husband.. it has been very a rough ride..even thoug it has been only 3 and a half years since we have been married.. i knew him for 3 years before that but only saw his addiction on my weddign night for the first time.. he has been in recovery and slipped many a times... this time it has been abo...	this too shall pass	12	999	Jul 25, 2010 by Bettina
	need advice on dealing with 'him in recovery' (Preview) hi, some of you may ahve read my earliers post.. i can't say enough how glad i am to have found you guys... i needed som wdvice.. my A in in recovery... he attends meetings and is away from usage.. someoen helped me understand it is difficult for him too.. he has been behaving very different and detached th...	this too shall pass	9	906	Jul 24, 2010 by White Rabbit
	I Need A Solomon..... (Preview) Our family has lived with over ten years dealing with my AS now 30 years old, you all are familiar with what is involved with this, DUI's, lost jobs, trying to keep a roof over his head so that he won't be on the streets, thinking that he would come to his senses at some point. Well, about 5 weeks ago a crisi...	DreamsOver	7	985	Jul 24, 2010 by xeno59
	Please, anyone... I need wisdom on a marijuana using daughter, aged 15. (Preview) She lied again and came home late. I am responsible for her as she is underage. Please. I know marijuana is not addictive, but it is a major time-waster and a social drug. It will only attract other pot-smokers to her. What do I do? How will I cope with the future? She always attracts the most troubled...	punkydoodah	14	1169	Jul 24, 2010 by adonaisgirl
	Dating (Preview) Hey everybody, I need some advice. Hopefully I'll get some advice in an al-anon meeting I'm going to later today. So here's the deal. I'm dating this guy. He's currently in a halfway/recovery house in Wilmington NC (about 3.5hrs from me). Today is our one month anniversary, I guess you could call it th...	fenderfem09	7	738	Jul 24, 2010 by kitty
	Laughter can sometimes be the best medicine! (Preview) I was reading today's Courage to Change and it really hit home for me today. I too have discovered my sense of humor again... It truly has been wonderful. It feels great to bring forth a hoot of laughter from my lips. It has also been a great reminder to myself to not take myself or my life so seriously....	Sweet Stanley	5	984	Jul 24, 2010 by hotrod
	Thanks To All My Solomn's Out There..... (Preview) God bless each of you for the response. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Remember us in your prayers.	DreamsOver	1	791	Jul 24, 2010 by lyndebi
	Feeling it and lacking patience (Preview) I have been trying really hard to work on me and my recovery. I have a sponsor, been going to F2F and chat meetings and coming here. I am still working on step one with my sponsor for about 5 months now. However, my head keeps telling me to get out of this marriage. Logic is saying walk away, you deserve bette...	Goodtillitsbad	5	1178	Jul 23, 2010 by GailMichelle
	Meeting Leaders, we would like you to please make newbies feel more welcome! We lost a member. (Preview) I referred a friend of mine to the online meeting tonight and she reported to me an unsettling experience. We don't expect royalty or being treated like queens and I realize you are human. But, please, please, please, try to be a little more welcoming, warm, and friendly, when greeting 'guests"...	Carol_Lynn	2	702	Jul 23, 2010 by Data395
	New here...the lies, how do you handle it...? (Preview) I know I need to get to an Al Anon meeting (I have never been). But with two children, full time school and part time work it seems to hit a back burner... Anways...the biggest issue I have trying to deal with my husband's alcoholism is the lies. He is on and off again with drinking and is trying his best. ...	kat42	9	1278	Jul 23, 2010 by Holly09
	He's getting a full time job! (Preview) My exah/bf is getting a full time back breaking job. A job finally. Maybe now he will send me child support. Problem is, he won't shut up about money! I hate talking about money. Talking about money does not solve my money issues. It just brings me down. I realize if have more going out than coming in...	QOD	9	910	Jul 23, 2010 by maresie
	Detachment / Bulemia? support (Preview) I know the focus needs to be on me, but as much as I've tried, I'm blowin up! I have a 19 year old neice who is always in a not-so-pleasant mood. She's a late bloomer (never went to prom, never has had a boyfriend, hasn't learned to drive). She's beautiful as far as "Hollywood" standards go.......	RoseODAT	5	844	Jul 23, 2010 by RoseODAT
	Angry with wife....trying to let it go.... (Preview) Suffice it to say my wife is a dry drunk as well as an ACA. She exhibits all the behaviors of an alcoholic. Today, due to my work schedule, I couldn't take my daughter to a show she wanted to see badly. I asked my wife who I knew was free this evening and received an "I dont' know"....I asked, wh...	mjhyankees	5	978	Jul 23, 2010 by maresie
	When will I feel better??? (Preview) Former Alanon and ACA participant....50 years old, miserable marriage and feeling the most unhappy I've ever felt in my life. Divorce is NOT an option at the moment, may be in a few years (I'll explain some other time). My problem is I've lost my happiness and my hope. (I do like what I read from someb...	mjhyankees	12	990	Jul 23, 2010 by ythannah
	I finally found the courage to attend a meeting in my own country (Preview) Hi all I have been in Al-Anon for about three months. When I started I was in England as a student. I went home to Norway almost three weeks ago and was very nervous about going to a Norwegian meeting. The only meeting I knew of in my area was a meeting especially for adult children of alcoholics. I didnt go...	Cosmos	3	897	Jul 23, 2010 by Katy
	Chatroom (Preview) Can anyone get into the acoa and alanon chatrooms? I am not able to get in wondering if anyone else was able to get in. thanks	LarryWhiteford	2	690	Jul 22, 2010 by abbyal
	Forcing things that don't work (Preview) My AH and I had a very good talk last night about patience (one of my favorite topics - NOT) and forcing things to work that don't. I know that I definitely want what I want when I want it. Period. And there have been so many times that when I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted it, I figured out a way to man...	White Rabbit	6	1243	Jul 22, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Reality Check.... (Preview) I'm hurt and its my own fault. No I didn't do a quicky abandon my spouse and capture another alcoholic for a quick attempt at altering but maybe what I did was...is just as crazy. Any of you out there go to those punch, kick, dance and jump around high energy exercise classes? Okay now you know why I'm h...	Jerry F	14	1529	Jul 21, 2010 by Andrea12
	accepting (Preview) Taking to AD last evening she sounded soo down.Talking so about her situation.Wanted so much to fly up there wrap her in a nice soft baby blanket and bring her home and tuck her in. Always rescued her cant do it anymore.This time it is up to her.She said the last time she was thinking her and ex would get bac...	mackey dee	3	831	Jul 21, 2010 by Rocky38
	I expected a miracle! (Preview) As usual when I came here a few weeks ago I was looking for a magic fix for my A adult son. So far when I post on the board your so disappointethat I don't go to no f2f meetings. I appreciated all the responses on the board. Im reading the brochures, sayings and all. when I go to the online meetings, I don't fe...	okwitt	12	1177	Jul 21, 2010 by nmike
	How to work the 12 steps (Preview) Hi all, I'm working the steps - without a sponsor. I do plan to finish my work on steps 4, 5, 6 with a sponsor though. Anyway, I've been kind of skipping around. For instance, I've been making direct amends, but, haven't completed previous steps. Is this detrimental? Thanks!	stopandchat	7	2884	Jul 21, 2010 by stopandchat
	Books for Teenage Children of Alcoholics? (Preview) I did a google search and saw some out there, but none that seemed suitable for my daughter. She tried Ala-Teen and didn't like it. She didn't even think I was an alcoholic, so she initially resisted all of this and I think right now she still doesn't really know what to think. I really just want to try a...	FlyingSquirrel	4	1181	Jul 21, 2010 by FlyingSquirrel
	New Member Question (Preview) Hello. I'm looking for some help and advice. My wife is an alcoholic and I knew nothing of this disease growing up. No one in my family suffered from it. So as I've been with her, I've come to learn all about the lying, the suspicion, the pain, the embaressment, etc. I didn't know what to do except try to be a...	mrphunny	15	1066	Jul 21, 2010 by Aloha
	4 months no contact (Preview) So I haven't posted in awhile - but I still read as much as I can and am going to f2f meetings when I am in town. I asked my exAB for one month of no contact after dating for over a year - off and on. He is a binger and can go for long periods of time without any alcohol/drugs but when he starts he goes for awhile. I...	speck31	8	1612	Jul 21, 2010 by speck31
	Flapping in the wind (Preview) This morning when I woke up and looked out the window I saw my neighbor had a tarp that had been covering a leaking skylight flapping inthe wind hanging down the side of her house. I watched it flap for awhile thinking of how it reminded me of the pictures of Christo's artistic events like draping fabric...	Jennifer	5	946	Jul 21, 2010 by Karilynn
	If it keeps gettin' better... (Preview) IF IT KEEPS GETTIN' BETTER, I DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M GONNA DO! I AM GETTING BACK ON TRACK & SLEEPING PRETTY WELL! FOR ALL OF THOSE WHO DON'T KNOW ME, I AM AN INSOMNIAC & HAVE TROUBLE SLEEPING. BUT TODAY I AM DOING GREAT! IT IS NICE TO SIT AT THE COMPUTER & HAVE SOMETHING POSITIVE TO SAY. MY RELA...	Hoot Nanny	5	751	Jul 21, 2010 by Karilynn
	loving someone sometimes means letting go, but this really hurts (Preview) My boyfriend came back from treatment in April of this year. After his return he was sober (and still is), but things between us changed as well. for the last three months he never gave me the feeling I was genuinely loved, he doesn't return my calls, there is no quality time and he just sits in the house fe...	Nicki	9	1670	Jul 21, 2010 by Nicki
	Missing the board (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have not posted in a couple of months my computer is down. I am doing this in work do not worry it is the end of my day. I miss posting so much and I know my recovery is not what is was, I will have to make it a priority to get my computer fixed. Hope to be back soon please keep me in your prayer as I wi...	Tracy	4	744	Jul 21, 2010 by lyndebi
	Need advice (Preview) For those who don't know me. I am the one who broke up with my AH fiancée a month ago. After so many calls from him since the break up, he finally stop calling me. It has been more than a week now, no contacts at all. I should feel relieved, right? No, actually, I feel I become weaker and weaker, I start missing...	Adabnu	4	705	Jul 21, 2010 by lyndebi
	Bring it out to the light of the Serenity Prayer... (Preview) Aloha MIP family...I'm following up on the suggestion of a former Al-Anon sponsor who in response to my comisserating about a problem in my life offered the title. This post is also an update on an earlier post about "Wanting my brother (in recovery) back". My Sponsor's suggestion was...	Jerry F	10	1090	Jul 20, 2010 by buick23
	New Here (Preview) I am the mother of an addict. I am also fairly new to al-anon, so I hope you will be patient with me as I learn. The chaos of this disease is overwhelming at times. But we are working on taking care of ourselves now. For so long we let his addiction dictate our feelings and household. If he was doing well,...	Dash	8	1015	Jul 20, 2010 by buick23
	Read a great quote today...... (Preview) Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending - Carl Bard This is what I'm looking forward to with my ABF who is 95 days sober! Just thought I would share!	Ri	4	729	Jul 20, 2010 by buick23
	ready to give up....so angry!!! (Preview) Dont know what to do or how to handle this ...Married a man who was an alcoholic and started drinking again. He says he loves me with all his heart and I try to believe that but in MY heart I know he loves the bottle more than me! I feel like I am fighting a ghost that I cant hit......He told me he knows he has a p...	sduff	6	1078	Jul 20, 2010 by maresie
	And I have neglect those that helped (Preview) I read a recent post from someone new to here and it struck me to reply. I could see myself in the original poster and I felt the need to offer some support. Then it struck me that I have neglected to thank those who were a lifeline in what has to be described as the worse time in my life. And there was one thing I...	Acatnip	6	854	Jul 20, 2010 by maresie
	Dealing with A-brothers and A father, (Preview) Hi All, One of my A-brothers has turned up well and is working, so good news, there had been no word off him for a good few months so I am glad his HP is looking out for him. Today I handed it over. My father is pissed at me because I will not ring him. I have had to detach from this situation for a number of reasons...	maire rua	3	719	Jul 20, 2010 by maresie
	Alcoholic husband moved out while I was at work (Preview) Hi, I am a member of Al-Anon, however, new to this board. My husband is the alcoholic who brought me to the program. He was pretty much on a 2 year bender, and has been sober for almost 8 months now. We've only been married for a little over a year, and got married in the midst of active alcoholism I know - mist...	stopandchat	11	3031	Jul 20, 2010 by Rita G
	Just came home from 6 wk program.... (Preview) My husband just came home from rehab, he has been sober 44 days. Today I suspected him of drinking or lyeing. Pretty sure he was doing one or the other or both. I tried to talk to him and assure him that I just wanted the truth and no matter what we would get through it together but that didnt seem to get me any...	kablisnow	7	1066	Jul 20, 2010 by abbyal
	death (Preview) One of my closest friends mom died today. She overdosed on pills. Very sad day. Please say some prayers for my friend and her family. thx buick	buick23	15	908	Jul 19, 2010 by miss_carol
	Learning how "to be"... (Preview) I have really been struggling with my relationship with my 17 yr old son lately. He is not an A, just a teenager, but shares so many characteristics of my exAh, that it is difficult at times to separate myself. So, is an A like a teen or a teen like an A? Hard to know, all I know is that I am easily triggered a...	Loupiness	5	809	Jul 19, 2010 by nmike
	And how was your day!!!! (Preview) Hi all, in case no one has asked you today, I will, So how was your day My husband who is in essential services came in today and told me how many lives he saved and how many fights he stopped, having a real hard and stressful day. When he had vented he looked at me and said, I should go for a ride just to vent...	petpal	9	968	Jul 19, 2010 by petpal
	cant get in to chat boards..... (Preview) Does anyone know why I cant get in All it says is java chat denied.... thanks for all info petpal xxx	petpal	3	552	Jul 19, 2010 by jitsuka
	Its Been Awhile... (Preview) Well I haven`t been here in a number of months. This had been my only source of support since I had no way of getting to outside meetings w/ health issues and babysitting much too much. My health has since improved and I`am now trying to get to meetings and take better care of myself. I say I want to detatch f...	Samsgram	4	1080	Jul 19, 2010 by Samsgram
	My step-children's mom going to rehab for 30 days...help! children alcoholic step-parent (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this site and new to the condition of alcoholism. I have three step-children ages 19, 17 and 11. Their mother will be going in for residential treatment in a week for 30 days. During that time they will be living with me and their father full time. (We normally have them every other week...	stepmom	4	9590	Jul 19, 2010 by xeno59
	Sick Feeling (Preview) I have that old sick feeling that I fight so hard to not have. Alcoholic son is suppose to work today but has been on a three day drunk during his time off. I have not talked to him but normally I give him a ride to and from work if his brother is not available. I have texted him and asked if he needed a ride and...	Greenvalleygal	19	1032	Jul 19, 2010 by Greenvalleygal
	feeling terrible (Preview) I went to deliver basics my adult A Son needed from grocery store. Drove up- he came out ranting and raving demanding his truck keys(truck and insurance in my husbands name) Called him he said give him his keys. I did. He cursed and called me everything bad. I know on this probation, he is most likely goin...	okwitt	6	1011	Jul 19, 2010 by Greenvalleygal
	Scary "blackout" ranting (Preview) Hi Guys, My alcoholic son lives with us in a basement bedroom and the last couple of nights I heard voices. coming from down there at 3:30 in the morning. He was moving around down there, swearing, and ranting, sounding very angry. It was scary, he is usually quite mild mannered and sweet even when dru...	MotherTeresa	3	1093	Jul 19, 2010 by sirpher
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