Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

bud · bud

My aka is "carmen"; I have been working this program over a year and am not a spammer. Have I been banned because my web connection appears similar to someone who spammed? Or, is there a reason why the MIP website does not want me here? I am panicking because I rely so heavily on MIP for help. I...

Holly09 · Holly09

Things around here have been awful since Sat. My A boyfriends dad was diagnosed with a brain tumor so we are waiting to hear about treatment. My bfriend lost his mom 2yrs ago to cancer and his younger brother in February to cancer so he is having a hard time and has started therapy. He hasn't been drink...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Was walking the dog, everything was ok and the mind started thinking all the negative thoughts again (I'm not good at enough at________, I'll never get out from under debt, my house looks like crap etc.).....hopefully someday this won't happen. I'm fighting it best I can, I'm going to try to exerci...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Yesterday my AH told me his crew would be working 10 hours. I sent a message to the wife of the family he's staying with (the husband is working with my AH), commenting how I was glad they were working 10, since it would give my AH less time to sit around their house feeling sorry for himself. I realize and ac...

clteach · clteach

Just want to give a little of my history and then ask a couple of questions. I have a history of "falling in love" and trusting addicts of one type or another. I married at 18 an alcoholic, who at the time I didn't realize one. He left when I was 22. Visited Al Anon meetings with his mom but did...

Katy · Katy

First I came, Then I came to belive! Then I thought with my head( jeez I had loads of practice doing that! Now it's moving down to my heart (GULP), AND I am multy tasking, thinking and doing, does the thinking ever stop? is it like riding a bike Jerry F, you will know, x everyone xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx ((((hug...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Before recovery, I took on other people's emotions like they were my own - particularly the alcoholic's emotions. If the alcoholic was happy, I was happy. If the alcoholic was depressed, I was depressed. If the alcoholic was drunk, I was just as crazy even if I was sober. Even today it's hard - albei...

Ness · Ness

Three years ago my husband and I stopped living any kind of normal life. Its as if the pause button was pressed and we waited for normal service to resume. It was a slow decline for us over the years to reach this stage but the disease of alcoholism is patient, cunning, baffling and powerful and slowly ove...

Katy · Katy

A man is stopped by police at midnight and asked, where is he going? I am on the way to a lecture on the effects of alcohol and drugs abuse on the human body, the policeman say's really? and who is going to give a lecture at this time of night? My WIFE!

Brookiebabe222 · Brookiebabe222

My boyfriend of almost a year is an addict. He was clean for six months then he relapsed. He has been using on and off since then, which was about three weeks ago. We have broken up and gotten back together a couple times in those past few weeks. I just love him so much and I know that he is capable of stopp...

stopandchat · stopandchat

Hi all, My AH has been sober now for a little over 2 months since his last relapse. He's working his program and doing all the things he needs to do in his recovery. I'm trying to do the same. My problem is that I am still have resentments toward him for the messes he has caused that are still affecting our lif...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I'd really love to hear how people in the group have handled this issue: I am struggling with trying to control my AH and certain situations. I am struggling with the line between setting boundaries (necessary for my own emotional well being) and trying to control (which just creates more heartache...

mmitche2 · mmitche2

Hi Everyone, I am new here and need support. I have been married 11 years and just recently, in May to June, my husband went away to a rehab. He job intervened and we had a full intervention and he went to rehab. About three weeks later, he was drinking again. I have trouble because I constantly feel convi...

Ness · Ness

Hi all, been away polishing the tools, keeping the focus on me by minding my own business and renewing my strength and courage in the room. I feel better and stronger and have locked the poor mes back in their box! Although I havent been posting I have been with you all every day reading all the posts and i...

Ginger90 · Ginger90

I could really use so help getting unstuck from my self defeating habit of continually procrastinating. I have been coming here and reading everyones posts for a few weeks and it seems to help my mood but I seem to really be lacking in the action department. I seem to still spend alot of time in my head, t...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I was finally able to attend my first in-person meeting yesterday. In some ways it was uncomfortable and overwhelming, surrounded by strangers and not fully knowing how the meeting would be structured or what it would involve. But of course, everyone was open and welcoming. I chose to "pas...

tlcate · tlcate

Mini fourth step and sometimes the results just really stink. Have a lot going on - but in the middle of it I feel a discomfort that doesn't belong - that bad apple making the rest of a difficult situation even worse. So I sit down with pen and paper and start writing. Jeeeez. Denial, it sure is a comfortab...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Stress released Miraculous cure in the melting of the ice, stress, negative...whatever of the moment Invocation of others to SMILE in response Love of self in that moment of appreciation of something positive Emotional tonic and the release of Endorphins in the body. So how can I SMILE when I am goin...

member922 · member922

So I have attended 2 meetings now. The first was very interesting, not so much the content, but the learning of the way it works. The first was about the 10th step or something like that. And the one last night was about the 11th step or practice or whatever they call it. I am just beginning with this and t...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I had such an interesting experience at the face to face Al Anon meeting I attended last night. First, I'm still a beginner so I attended the beginner's meeting, which is a short meeting before the main meeting. Last night was my 4th meeting so I don't really feel like a beginner anymore but I still find...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Sometimes I know myself so well. And of course sometimes i'm clueless. The questions I posted and pondered the other night was helpful. I've conclude that I can be happy WHILE I'm striving, searching, hoping and dreaming. That I can still do those things and be happy BEFORE anything comes to fruit...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

Hi all, I believe I've raised this issue in the past but I'd like to raise it again as I'm becoming more and more uncomfortable with this concept and it's causing me some conflict in really putting the Al Anon methods into practice. To recap, my wife is attending AA but still actively drinking. Not on a da...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I've been doing some thinking lately, something I hate to do....mirror time, and I am not always gentle on myself when it comes to that. Still waiting on news of my Uncle, praying and trying to turn it over, but having trouble doing so again....always find myself taking it back. My HP and I "yo yo&...

bud · bud

As many of you may know, I've had some large challenges that are weighing me down. So, I've been praying and praying for my HP to give me the wisdom and strength to manage them; I've also prayed for my HP to take them from me. Well, this morning is a distraction, all right! First I'm locked out of MIP, then...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I was walking the dog tonight, a beautiful clear starry night...you could see stars behind stars it was so clear..you know the clusters of stars you don't normally see. Anyway while I intellectually recognized it as beautiful....I couldn't feel much at all! I should have been IMO moved and mildy e...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Well everytime I think I have heard more than I can bare. All I have to do is wait for another day lately. I had my gd 5 days last week and I felt good about that. Knowing she was getting norishment and dressed properly and spent enough time on her reading which she has difficulty with and her mother is suppo...

helpme08 · helpme08

It's been a very long time since I have been on this website. I went to my first face to face meeting this morning, so I have been thinking a lot about this program. I actually told my boss and coworkers that I had a doctor appointment, but went to an Alanon meeting. My story is that my husband is a type 1 di...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Conceptually, I understand how detachment works with respect to my AH. My question is more about how it works when it comes to talking/venting about my problems with loved ones. On the one hand, it helps to be open with people about my struggles. But on the other hand, when I talk about the challenge...

dollmininut · dollmininut

I met my husband over 25 years ago when he was actively drinking (we were not married then). I gave him a choice then it was me or the drugs and alcohol, he chose the latter. I told him to call me when he was clean and sober in 2 years (I waited for him). Well, he did, but he wasn't. We split for good and I went...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

Hello, one thing I am struggling with as time passes by is my anger & frustration. I can't help but feel so angry towards my wife when she drinks. I'm trying to learn to hide it and trying to keep it under control. But I'm finding it is becoming harder and harder as time goes by. Even if my wife doesn't dr...

soozin12 · soozin12

I am just starting ALAnon and have the courage to change book, I just feel at a loss on how to even make any changes. I live with my AH and his 3 children (I have no children of my own). I just learned AH quit his job today-he "couldn't handle it" any more. That is all the explanation given and if I ev...

Hopeless · Hopeless

Nothing has really improved with my situation but I realize that I need to give Alanon 100% or order to work on myself..............I lost touch! I'm going to HAVE to start going to face to face it's the only way at this point! My A still is drinking and it's getting worse we are still NOT together but ...

oscarmom · oscarmom

from the alcoholic's perpective I mean Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. maybe its because over many years my husband, like most a's, made a career out of lying. most of it revolved around drinking of course. but what if there were dru...

hfrush · hfrush

Hello everyone! My name is Hilary I am 29 years old and I have a 1 year old son. I am the daughter of an alcoholic. My mother has drank from as far back as I can remember. When I was younger I can remember my mother sleeping all day long while I took care of my younger brother and the house, the only time she wo...

stephaniej · stephaniej

So my AH was home this weekend, and we had a lovely weekend. He had a few beers here and there, and I think I did a good job of not expressing any opinion, verbal or nonverbal, about him drinking. He was never drunk. Then this morning he took the dog for a walk before he had to leave again. While he was gone,...

tlcate · tlcate

Things have been a challenge lately - to say the least. Nothing "bad" - everyone is healthy and loving each other which is what is most important. Purchasing my first home and running into a lot of challenges - especially having the motivation and energy to keep pushing forward. So a frie...

shyspouse · shyspouse

Been married to AH for 25 years he is 146 days sober today. Needless to say our marriage had not been strong. I started working on me years ago when I tired of his failed attempts at recovery. This time he went through Hazelden and I attended the family week. I have been feeling great. So nice to have m...

Megthompson · Megthompson

Hi Everyone I have great news to share with you all. I came to this website a couple of months ago and explained there is no Al Anon where I live.So great news, I am getting one started here in Lusaka, Zambia, Africa.I am just so excited.The first meeting will be Friday 5th November.We have support from Al...

this too shall pass · this too shall pass

Hi, i have been feeling terrible for the last month... my AH has been sober and attending meetings for a little over a year now and i know how difficult it is for them.. when we go out he always tells me it is okay if i want to drink.. even gets me a drink often.. he doen't liek being at home even thoug now a days i...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I understand (even if I find it hard to practice) detachment, loving oneself, gratitude etc. But there are some questions that show for me, how I'll have to come to terms with some concepts at some point: 1. Where does ambition fit in? How can one be detached, grateful etc and still feel that drive. ...

Bambina10 · Bambina10

My AH has been very committed to sobriety and AA meetings for the last approx 2 months, attending 3 to 4 times a week. He looks healthy, self confident, almost cocky. He's been financially broke for the last 6 mos because of bad financial moves (consequence of his addiction). He still display...

Imogen421 · Imogen421

Hi all, I feel I'm "disappearing" into Al anon reading, reading on alcoholism and being online and on these boards searching, reading, searching, and posting as an escape or attempt to find an answer that isn't there (yet). Or like I want to find an exact replica of myself out there somewhe...

AnnaM · AnnaM

Hi, I would really like to find some double winner meetings in the OC area. Hoping to find some in HB, NB, CM, FV those kind of areas... Please share any info you have or if there is a website for this kind of info. Thank you! Anna -- Edited by AnnaM on Friday 17th of July 2009 12:23:17 PM

member922 · member922

I am finally learning to live and let live as far as my addict bf. I didn't think I could stay with him because I didn't agree with his lifestyle. I thought my only peace would come when he was out of my life. We do have some good times and I don't have to give that up. From my reading, I now understand that he...

maresie · maresie

My biological family was alcoholic. My mother stocked up alcohol for weeks and weeks before the holidays. My younger sister has pictures of my father totally smashed holidng a bottle. I know that environment set me up to tolerate and to be obsessed around alcoholics on the holidays. The ex AH rel...

JadeM · JadeM

As a newcomer, I really need to understand what my relationship is to the addicted person in my life, and why it is the way it is. I tried going to a meeting in NYC, but no matter how much I raised my hand, it was very clubby and I didn't get picked. I was desperate to share. Yet people would go on and on about t...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

And for sharing things that help and has helped each of you. I wish I good give each and everyone of you a great big ((((((hug))))). Wonderful, loving people here. Dreams

Holly09 · Holly09

I have not been here in a while, up until recently things have been good. 2 weeks ago my boyfriends dad was diagnosed with a brain tumor, they think it's his renal cancer has come back from 9 yrs ago. They can operate and hopefully get the whole tumor and he is very positive as so am I. My boyfriend on the o...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

My exAH called me a few days ago to tell me that he had been held at gun point by a group of men and women for two days. He gave me details of everything that happened. At one point, he said that several of the meanest men left to go do a killing in another country. The ones that stayed behind in his small coun...

blender_girl · blender_girl

I will be unavailable to chair this Friday's morning meeting - hopefully someone can take my place this week! Thanks! bg

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Haven't been here in ages....had to Let go and let god in sooo many areas, in order to try to find myself again. The struggles have been many and the rewards have been great...I had to go through it to get to it. No perfection here, just an imperfect girl still making progress. My apologizes for anyone...

lyndebi · lyndebi

Some of you know I have been fighting to keep my home since forever. Got yet another turn down for a loan mod. Was dumb in the first place. The mortgage company had it all set up, payments and all. the gal quit. They needed a signature from me the day I was in surgery, becuz i could not sign it, they canceled th...

Tracy · Tracy

Just want to share how good I am feeling today and it is all thanks to al anon and my HP. I was feeling so sorry for myself a day or two ago full of resentment and I did not like it. I though what al anon tool can I use to help me feel better. I went to a small bag I have containing al anon slogans, sayings etc and ask...

JadeM · JadeM

My ex is an addict/alcoholic with whom I lived (on and off because I left several times due to abuse)for 14 years seems incapable of running his own life, and doesn't seem to want to. He seems to have an ingrained expectectation that women---me that is---should take care of him, rescue him, and keep gi...

mdh · mdh

Things were going okay, then his self esteem grew and I support him in his endeavors, but I get no support in mine. I relayed this to him, and remind him he is hanging on a string. I have teenagers and do appreciate just the fact that he is around I have a little help. I remind him that it is the childre...

Wolfie · Wolfie

Good morning ladies. you too guys. Sorry haven't been here in quite some time. I had some internet problems. They have been fixed and now I'm back to get fixed some more. Of course I just volunterered to be DCM in my district (in the other fellowship) so I don't know how often I'll be here. But I love your po...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), The Great Pipers and I wanted to take a moment and wish you all a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Enjoy the day with family & friends, and all the little ghosts and goblins out there. If you see a black kitty it's Pipers waving to you in search of her own tricks or treats (or mousies). Rememb...

nmike · nmike

I am here, gone but not forgotten. My Internet connection at home is very intermittent since January. I write a response and it cuts out, I rewrite and lose it again. So I haven't posted. I don't do much personal work at work mainly because it is work and I am too busy. I miss you all. I hope you are all doing w...

Imogen421 · Imogen421

hello again, I'm working Al Anon and detaching, realizing Alcoholism is a disease. At the same time, I'm doing things proactively regarding the illness because I feel the relationship is worth trying for. So I asked my AF within the week to get a full evaluation with recommendations for treatment an...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

Depression has taken such a toll on me, I just wake up not wanting to get out of bed, I have lost about 20 lbs., I have no interest whatsoever in eating. I saw a counselor Friday because I have been having thoughts that dying would be easier than living like this. She wants me to go to a medical doctor and ge...

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	please help- have I been banned from the chat room?? Kerisha?? (Preview) My aka is "carmen"; I have been working this program over a year and am not a spammer. Have I been banned because my web connection appears similar to someone who spammed? Or, is there a reason why the MIP website does not want me here? I am panicking because I rely so heavily on MIP for help. I...	bud	7	902	Nov 5, 2010 by Christy
	So much mental and emotional pain. (Preview) Things around here have been awful since Sat. My A boyfriends dad was diagnosed with a brain tumor so we are waiting to hear about treatment. My bfriend lost his mom 2yrs ago to cancer and his younger brother in February to cancer so he is having a hard time and has started therapy. He hasn't been drink...	Holly09	2	778	Nov 4, 2010 by lyndebi
	Trying to fight off negative thoughts..... (Preview) Was walking the dog, everything was ok and the mind started thinking all the negative thoughts again (I'm not good at enough at________, I'll never get out from under debt, my house looks like crap etc.).....hopefully someday this won't happen. I'm fighting it best I can, I'm going to try to exerci...	mjhyankees	8	911	Nov 4, 2010 by Jerry F
	My own relapse (Preview) Yesterday my AH told me his crew would be working 10 hours. I sent a message to the wife of the family he's staying with (the husband is working with my AH), commenting how I was glad they were working 10, since it would give my AH less time to sit around their house feeling sorry for himself. I realize and ac...	stephaniej	10	879	Nov 4, 2010 by Jerry F
	New/Questions (Preview) Just want to give a little of my history and then ask a couple of questions. I have a history of "falling in love" and trusting addicts of one type or another. I married at 18 an alcoholic, who at the time I didn't realize one. He left when I was 22. Visited Al Anon meetings with his mom but did...	clteach	4	462	Nov 4, 2010 by clteach
	I did? (Preview) First I came, Then I came to belive! Then I thought with my head( jeez I had loads of practice doing that! Now it's moving down to my heart (GULP), AND I am multy tasking, thinking and doing, does the thinking ever stop? is it like riding a bike Jerry F, you will know, x everyone xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx ((((hug...	Katy	2	593	Nov 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Feeling a little anxiety (Preview) Before recovery, I took on other people's emotions like they were my own - particularly the alcoholic's emotions. If the alcoholic was happy, I was happy. If the alcoholic was depressed, I was depressed. If the alcoholic was drunk, I was just as crazy even if I was sober. Even today it's hard - albei...	White Rabbit	4	682	Nov 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Releasing the pause button! (Preview) Three years ago my husband and I stopped living any kind of normal life. Its as if the pause button was pressed and we waited for normal service to resume. It was a slow decline for us over the years to reach this stage but the disease of alcoholism is patient, cunning, baffling and powerful and slowly ove...	Ness	9	797	Nov 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Humour (Preview) A man is stopped by police at midnight and asked, where is he going? I am on the way to a lecture on the effects of alcohol and drugs abuse on the human body, the policeman say's really? and who is going to give a lecture at this time of night? My WIFE!	Katy	3	492	Nov 4, 2010 by tiredtonite
	I am a complete mess (Preview) My boyfriend of almost a year is an addict. He was clean for six months then he relapsed. He has been using on and off since then, which was about three weeks ago. We have broken up and gotten back together a couple times in those past few weeks. I just love him so much and I know that he is capable of stopp...	Brookiebabe222	7	460	Nov 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Building resentments.... (Preview) Hi all, My AH has been sober now for a little over 2 months since his last relapse. He's working his program and doing all the things he needs to do in his recovery. I'm trying to do the same. My problem is that I am still have resentments toward him for the messes he has caused that are still affecting our lif...	stopandchat	3	782	Nov 4, 2010 by kitty
	Another detachment question (Preview) I'd really love to hear how people in the group have handled this issue: I am struggling with trying to control my AH and certain situations. I am struggling with the line between setting boundaries (necessary for my own emotional well being) and trying to control (which just creates more heartache...	stephaniej	5	740	Nov 4, 2010 by pineapple
	New Here (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am new here and need support. I have been married 11 years and just recently, in May to June, my husband went away to a rehab. He job intervened and we had a full intervention and he went to rehab. About three weeks later, he was drinking again. I have trouble because I constantly feel convi...	mmitche2	5	393	Nov 4, 2010 by pineapple
	Hi all (Preview) Hi all, been away polishing the tools, keeping the focus on me by minding my own business and renewing my strength and courage in the room. I feel better and stronger and have locked the poor mes back in their box! Although I havent been posting I have been with you all every day reading all the posts and i...	Ness	5	417	Nov 4, 2010 by Ness
	Procrastination (Preview) I could really use so help getting unstuck from my self defeating habit of continually procrastinating. I have been coming here and reading everyones posts for a few weeks and it seems to help my mood but I seem to really be lacking in the action department. I seem to still spend alot of time in my head, t...	Ginger90	6	1236	Nov 3, 2010 by maire rua
	Attended my first Meeting (Preview) I was finally able to attend my first in-person meeting yesterday. In some ways it was uncomfortable and overwhelming, surrounded by strangers and not fully knowing how the meeting would be structured or what it would involve. But of course, everyone was open and welcoming. I chose to "pas...	stephaniej	6	416	Nov 3, 2010 by SteppingUp
	Blah (Preview) Mini fourth step and sometimes the results just really stink. Have a lot going on - but in the middle of it I feel a discomfort that doesn't belong - that bad apple making the rest of a difficult situation even worse. So I sit down with pen and paper and start writing. Jeeeez. Denial, it sure is a comfortab...	tlcate	6	819	Nov 3, 2010 by glad lee
	What's in a SMILE? How can I SMILE when I am going through so much sadness? (Preview) Stress released Miraculous cure in the melting of the ice, stress, negative...whatever of the moment Invocation of others to SMILE in response Love of self in that moment of appreciation of something positive Emotional tonic and the release of Endorphins in the body. So how can I SMILE when I am goin...	Suzannah	5	903	Nov 3, 2010 by shellyj123
	Another meeting question (Preview) So I have attended 2 meetings now. The first was very interesting, not so much the content, but the learning of the way it works. The first was about the 10th step or something like that. And the one last night was about the 11th step or practice or whatever they call it. I am just beginning with this and t...	member922	6	927	Nov 3, 2010 by member922
	Last night's meeting (Preview) I had such an interesting experience at the face to face Al Anon meeting I attended last night. First, I'm still a beginner so I attended the beginner's meeting, which is a short meeting before the main meeting. Last night was my 4th meeting so I don't really feel like a beginner anymore but I still find...	usedtobeanyer	5	468	Nov 3, 2010 by abbyal
	Getting some answers..... (Preview) Sometimes I know myself so well. And of course sometimes i'm clueless. The questions I posted and pondered the other night was helpful. I've conclude that I can be happy WHILE I'm striving, searching, hoping and dreaming. That I can still do those things and be happy BEFORE anything comes to fruit...	mjhyankees	4	397	Nov 3, 2010 by ythannah
	Question about kids with a parent who is drinking (Preview) Hi all, I believe I've raised this issue in the past but I'd like to raise it again as I'm becoming more and more uncomfortable with this concept and it's causing me some conflict in really putting the Al Anon methods into practice. To recap, my wife is attending AA but still actively drinking. Not on a da...	usedtobeanyer	11	861	Nov 3, 2010 by Ness
	It's still working me...and I love it! (Preview) I've been doing some thinking lately, something I hate to do....mirror time, and I am not always gentle on myself when it comes to that. Still waiting on news of my Uncle, praying and trying to turn it over, but having trouble doing so again....always find myself taking it back. My HP and I "yo yo&...	shellyj123	3	700	Nov 3, 2010 by Katy
	being careful what we wish for (Preview) As many of you may know, I've had some large challenges that are weighing me down. So, I've been praying and praying for my HP to give me the wisdom and strength to manage them; I've also prayed for my HP to take them from me. Well, this morning is a distraction, all right! First I'm locked out of MIP, then...	bud	3	785	Nov 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	CAn't feel? (Preview) I was walking the dog tonight, a beautiful clear starry night...you could see stars behind stars it was so clear..you know the clusters of stars you don't normally see. Anyway while I intellectually recognized it as beautiful....I couldn't feel much at all! I should have been IMO moved and mildy e...	mjhyankees	5	641	Nov 2, 2010 by mjhyankees
	7 year old thinks she may be like mama when she`s older. (Preview) Well everytime I think I have heard more than I can bare. All I have to do is wait for another day lately. I had my gd 5 days last week and I felt good about that. Knowing she was getting norishment and dressed properly and spent enough time on her reading which she has difficulty with and her mother is suppo...	Samsgram	4	405	Nov 2, 2010 by Samsgram
	Going Crazy...... (Preview) It's been a very long time since I have been on this website. I went to my first face to face meeting this morning, so I have been thinking a lot about this program. I actually told my boss and coworkers that I had a doctor appointment, but went to an Alanon meeting. My story is that my husband is a type 1 di...	helpme08	3	985	Nov 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	Question about Detaching (Preview) Conceptually, I understand how detachment works with respect to my AH. My question is more about how it works when it comes to talking/venting about my problems with loved ones. On the one hand, it helps to be open with people about my struggles. But on the other hand, when I talk about the challenge...	stephaniej	4	434	Nov 2, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Don't want to go on (Preview) I met my husband over 25 years ago when he was actively drinking (we were not married then). I gave him a choice then it was me or the drugs and alcohol, he chose the latter. I told him to call me when he was clean and sober in 2 years (I waited for him). Well, he did, but he wasn't. We split for good and I went...	dollmininut	12	925	Nov 2, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Having a hard time with my anger & frustration (Preview) Hello, one thing I am struggling with as time passes by is my anger & frustration. I can't help but feel so angry towards my wife when she drinks. I'm trying to learn to hide it and trying to keep it under control. But I'm finding it is becoming harder and harder as time goes by. Even if my wife doesn't dr...	usedtobeanyer	13	750	Nov 2, 2010 by oklahoma momof5
	What to do when AH says "pick me up beer" (Preview) I am just starting ALAnon and have the courage to change book, I just feel at a loss on how to even make any changes. I live with my AH and his 3 children (I have no children of my own). I just learned AH quit his job today-he "couldn't handle it" any more. That is all the explanation given and if I ev...	soozin12	8	830	Nov 2, 2010 by SteppingUp
	I'm back.... (Preview) Nothing has really improved with my situation but I realize that I need to give Alanon 100% or order to work on myself..............I lost touch! I'm going to HAVE to start going to face to face it's the only way at this point! My A still is drinking and it's getting worse we are still NOT together but ...	Hopeless	5	561	Nov 2, 2010 by Hopeless
	anyone else dislike step 9? (Preview) from the alcoholic's perpective I mean Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. maybe its because over many years my husband, like most a's, made a career out of lying. most of it revolved around drinking of course. but what if there were dru...	oscarmom	10	1105	Nov 2, 2010 by kitty
	Hello All (Preview) Hello everyone! My name is Hilary I am 29 years old and I have a 1 year old son. I am the daughter of an alcoholic. My mother has drank from as far back as I can remember. When I was younger I can remember my mother sleeping all day long while I took care of my younger brother and the house, the only time she wo...	hfrush	5	422	Nov 2, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Having a hard time (Preview) So my AH was home this weekend, and we had a lovely weekend. He had a few beers here and there, and I think I did a good job of not expressing any opinion, verbal or nonverbal, about him drinking. He was never drunk. Then this morning he took the dog for a walk before he had to leave again. While he was gone,...	stephaniej	5	748	Nov 2, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	This is not "turn yourself into a robot" program (Preview) Things have been a challenge lately - to say the least. Nothing "bad" - everyone is healthy and loving each other which is what is most important. Purchasing my first home and running into a lot of challenges - especially having the motivation and energy to keep pushing forward. So a frie...	tlcate	10	782	Nov 2, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	New - need support (Preview) Been married to AH for 25 years he is 146 days sober today. Needless to say our marriage had not been strong. I started working on me years ago when I tired of his failed attempts at recovery. This time he went through Hazelden and I attended the family week. I have been feeling great. So nice to have m...	shyspouse	5	413	Nov 2, 2010 by Cloudsea
	VERY EXCITING AND GREAT NEWS, AL ANON IN AFRICA (Preview) Hi Everyone I have great news to share with you all. I came to this website a couple of months ago and explained there is no Al Anon where I live.So great news, I am getting one started here in Lusaka, Zambia, Africa.I am just so excited.The first meeting will be Friday 5th November.We have support from Al...	Megthompson	7	534	Nov 2, 2010 by Megthompson
	I drink... (Preview) Hi, i have been feeling terrible for the last month... my AH has been sober and attending meetings for a little over a year now and i know how difficult it is for them.. when we go out he always tells me it is okay if i want to drink.. even gets me a drink often.. he doen't liek being at home even thoug now a days i...	this too shall pass	10	1191	Nov 2, 2010 by this too shall pass
	Some questions I'm going to have to resolve....... (Preview) I understand (even if I find it hard to practice) detachment, loving oneself, gratitude etc. But there are some questions that show for me, how I'll have to come to terms with some concepts at some point: 1. Where does ambition fit in? How can one be detached, grateful etc and still feel that drive. ...	mjhyankees	7	513	Nov 1, 2010 by mjhyankees
	Did I trigger my AH relapse..? (Preview) My AH has been very committed to sobriety and AA meetings for the last approx 2 months, attending 3 to 4 times a week. He looks healthy, self confident, almost cocky. He's been financially broke for the last 6 mos because of bad financial moves (consequence of his addiction). He still display...	Bambina10	8	468	Nov 1, 2010 by abbyal
	getting "addicted" / obsessed with alanon (and other) concerns? (Preview) Hi all, I feel I'm "disappearing" into Al anon reading, reading on alcoholism and being online and on these boards searching, reading, searching, and posting as an escape or attempt to find an answer that isn't there (yet). Or like I want to find an exact replica of myself out there somewhe...	Imogen421	9	686	Nov 1, 2010 by lyndebi
	LOOKING FOR DOUBLE WINNER MEETINGS (Preview) Hi, I would really like to find some double winner meetings in the OC area. Hoping to find some in HB, NB, CM, FV those kind of areas... Please share any info you have or if there is a website for this kind of info. Thank you! Anna -- Edited by AnnaM on Friday 17th of July 2009 12:23:17 PM	AnnaM	8	8606	Nov 1, 2010 by Bev4Hope
	Learning detachment, I love it!! (Preview) I am finally learning to live and let live as far as my addict bf. I didn't think I could stay with him because I didn't agree with his lifestyle. I thought my only peace would come when he was out of my life. We do have some good times and I don't have to give that up. From my reading, I now understand that he...	member922	5	424	Nov 1, 2010 by member922
	the holidays with an alcoholic (Preview) My biological family was alcoholic. My mother stocked up alcohol for weeks and weeks before the holidays. My younger sister has pictures of my father totally smashed holidng a bottle. I know that environment set me up to tolerate and to be obsessed around alcoholics on the holidays. The ex AH rel...	maresie	8	886	Nov 1, 2010 by Ness
	I'm a Newcomer to Alanon; This is 12-Step Right? (Preview) As a newcomer, I really need to understand what my relationship is to the addicted person in my life, and why it is the way it is. I tried going to a meeting in NYC, but no matter how much I raised my hand, it was very clubby and I didn't get picked. I was desperate to share. Yet people would go on and on about t...	JadeM	6	420	Nov 1, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Thank You All For Caring... (Preview) And for sharing things that help and has helped each of you. I wish I good give each and everyone of you a great big ((((((hug))))). Wonderful, loving people here. Dreams	DreamsOver	3	683	Nov 1, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	that bad place keeps creeping up on me (Preview) I have not been here in a while, up until recently things have been good. 2 weeks ago my boyfriends dad was diagnosed with a brain tumor, they think it's his renal cancer has come back from 9 yrs ago. They can operate and hopefully get the whole tumor and he is very positive as so am I. My boyfriend on the o...	Holly09	5	353	Nov 1, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Has Anything Like This Happened to Your Alcoholic? (Preview) My exAH called me a few days ago to tell me that he had been held at gun point by a group of men and women for two days. He gave me details of everything that happened. At one point, he said that several of the meanest men left to go do a killing in another country. The ones that stayed behind in his small coun...	GailMichelle	9	834	Nov 1, 2010 by blender_girl
	Friday Morning Meeting - 11/5/2010 - Need someone to chair (Preview) I will be unavailable to chair this Friday's morning meeting - hopefully someone can take my place this week! Thanks! bg	blender_girl	0	334	Nov 1, 2010 by blender_girl
	It's working me... (Preview) Haven't been here in ages....had to Let go and let god in sooo many areas, in order to try to find myself again. The struggles have been many and the rewards have been great...I had to go through it to get to it. No perfection here, just an imperfect girl still making progress. My apologizes for anyone...	shellyj123	9	409	Nov 1, 2010 by Katy
	A little fear crept in (Preview) Some of you know I have been fighting to keep my home since forever. Got yet another turn down for a loan mod. Was dumb in the first place. The mortgage company had it all set up, payments and all. the gal quit. They needed a signature from me the day I was in surgery, becuz i could not sign it, they canceled th...	lyndebi	8	842	Nov 1, 2010 by Katy
	I do matter (Preview) Just want to share how good I am feeling today and it is all thanks to al anon and my HP. I was feeling so sorry for myself a day or two ago full of resentment and I did not like it. I though what al anon tool can I use to help me feel better. I went to a small bag I have containing al anon slogans, sayings etc and ask...	Tracy	4	560	Nov 1, 2010 by Jerry F
	Addict Loved One Who Harasses for Money (Preview) My ex is an addict/alcoholic with whom I lived (on and off because I left several times due to abuse)for 14 years seems incapable of running his own life, and doesn't seem to want to. He seems to have an ingrained expectectation that women---me that is---should take care of him, rescue him, and keep gi...	JadeM	4	812	Nov 1, 2010 by Jerry F
	New Here, I am dealing with an past AH who is attending AA for 1 year, I need support besides him. (Preview) Things were going okay, then his self esteem grew and I support him in his endeavors, but I get no support in mine. I relayed this to him, and remind him he is hanging on a string. I have teenagers and do appreciate just the fact that he is around I have a little help. I remind him that it is the childre...	mdh	5	508	Nov 1, 2010 by Bambina10
	Just Checking In (Preview) Good morning ladies. you too guys. Sorry haven't been here in quite some time. I had some internet problems. They have been fixed and now I'm back to get fixed some more. Of course I just volunterered to be DCM in my district (in the other fellowship) so I don't know how often I'll be here. But I love your po...	Wolfie	5	507	Nov 1, 2010 by Andrea12
	Happy Halloween! (Preview) ((((Family))), The Great Pipers and I wanted to take a moment and wish you all a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Enjoy the day with family & friends, and all the little ghosts and goblins out there. If you see a black kitty it's Pipers waving to you in search of her own tricks or treats (or mousies). Rememb...	Karilynn	2	330	Oct 31, 2010 by RLC
	I am here! (Preview) I am here, gone but not forgotten. My Internet connection at home is very intermittent since January. I write a response and it cuts out, I rewrite and lose it again. So I haven't posted. I don't do much personal work at work mainly because it is work and I am too busy. I miss you all. I hope you are all doing w...	nmike	3	383	Oct 31, 2010 by Andrea12
	do interventions work, can treatment work? (Preview) hello again, I'm working Al Anon and detaching, realizing Alcoholism is a disease. At the same time, I'm doing things proactively regarding the illness because I feel the relationship is worth trying for. So I asked my AF within the week to get a full evaluation with recommendations for treatment an...	Imogen421	10	777	Oct 31, 2010 by abbyal
	Feelling Depression........... (Preview) Depression has taken such a toll on me, I just wake up not wanting to get out of bed, I have lost about 20 lbs., I have no interest whatsoever in eating. I saw a counselor Friday because I have been having thoughts that dying would be easier than living like this. She wants me to go to a medical doctor and ge...	DreamsOver	6	776	Oct 31, 2010 by xeno59
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