Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

failte · failte

Hi all As most of you on here will know I had my son removed from my family home a ten days ago, as he was to move into an apartment with my husband and I was to move back to my marital/family home. My son was furious with me understandably and it was a very difficult time, and I settled down here expecting to be p...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone, I'm wondering at what age your A's became alcoholic? I haven't yet learnt or read much about this. Is there a certain age this disease usually strikes? I have read that there are a variety of factors that contribute to a person being more susceptible to alcoholism (sex, mental health, en...

Screaming Barbie · Screaming Barbie

Looking for words of wisdom, hope and encouragement for someone who might have finaly hit rock bottom. She is very depressed right now. My favorite quote so far is "Rock bottom is good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around:

Brookiebabe222 · Brookiebabe222

Today started ok. I spent the night at my sister's house bacause I was babysitting my five month old nephew. I love him so much! But the day got harder and harder. I started to feel really nauseated and had a headache. Then I came home to find that the TV I had borrowed from my sister was out of my room. It wasn...

sdisnie · sdisnie

My church has this gigantic support group. I love going to it. It's so big, they have to split it into a whole bunch of small groups. AH was going too during his recovery period and really opened up during that time. It's based around the Al-anon meetings and/or AA and NA, with the 12 steps and the s...

Ginger90 · Ginger90

I havent posted in a while but I do read the posts daily and do appreciate everyones sharing. I have learned so much and I think grown to, these past few months by attending f2f meetings regulary, and reading here and also reading program meditations/writings daily. I still have not found a sponsor bu...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Warning... this might not make sense. Got into some crazy behavior last night. I am writing to release it from me. It 3 in the morning, and I feel overwhlemed with anxiety, frustration and anger. Amazing how easy it is to lose my program. And I was doing pretty good too... I will not be getting divo...

glad lee · glad lee

I went to a wonderful meeting last night, the topic was about the upcoming holidays and how we were planning to stay spiritually fit to handle all the ways we could possibly lose our serenity and our connection to our Higher Power. The holidays have been much better for me since I found al-anon, now I...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I've been sick off and on for a month, and finally went to the doctor on Monday. She diagnosed me with walking pneumonia, and I got the standard "take better care of yourself" lecture from her. I think I am doing a MUCH better job of taking care of myself emotionally, but it is a struggle to do s...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Hi everyone! Nice to see ya all as I have been away awhile. Life is good. I did want to get some feed back from you all though. I was abused by my a mom, when she was drunk and now understand also high on valium. This is an issue I thought I had dealt with, but a week ago I went to a party at my sisters hous...

pineapple · pineapple

I can't go into details right now but I am terribly worried about my ah. We stayed at a hotel in town last night, he got very drunk. This morning he went out for coffee, came back drunk an hour later. I decided to come home, told him I was going and I'd be there when he decided to come. I talked to him on the phone...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Just love the law....it's a waste of time and completely pointless. Wasted half my day trying to buy some time to protect my kids mental well being from the sick A......judge tells me to file something to modify/limit parenting time......That's not the point!!!! His parenting time is already limi...

kath · kath

I am having trouble making a decision about my vehicle. The insurance totaled it and gave me a sum of money to keep it and a sum of money to give it to them for salvage. The price difference is $600. It looks as though there is not much internal damage, but you never know about that. I need to take the higher am...

helpme08 · helpme08

To make a long story short (if I can), back in September, I was out of town for work. My AH, who is also diabetic, decided to drink one day and not eat, while he was in charge of our 7 year old son. While my son was in school all day, he had to come home to his father being totally drunk and having a diabetic low....

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

thanx for the comment,i really needed that i always wondered about others in my faith i always felt like or use to felt like i was the only deseased one there,cause they all knew of my problems,so ty,and no i wasnt offened the least bit,i figured alot of them kept it well hid,and it angrys me when they star...

Aloha · Aloha

I was asked the other day to consider being a person's sponsor. I was actually pretty surprised. My sponsor had pointed this person over to me maybe a month or so ago. I told this person that I'd not sponsored anyone before, and that I'm still only officially working my 4th step, but if she's willing to gi...

Imogen421 · Imogen421

I can scarcely believe what I'm about to report. I'm 32 and I have a friend in my program in grad school who is a couple years younger. he's married; I'm engaged, there has never been any "tension" we've always just been good friends (that's just to clarify it in case you wondered!). Since abo...

pineapple · pineapple

Ah was sober for awhile, then started drinking on occasion, lately has been spiraling downward rapidly. I've learned so much here that I'm much better able to handle it. I don't obsess over it. I don't even get angry anymore. I focus on myself and do what <i can to take care of myself. I've given the wh...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I'm not sure, but I think my entire mind and body is feeling complete overwhelming anxiety. I helped my daughter with her homework when she got home, I've been picking up around the house, ran to get milk and dog food, talked with the kids, going to a meeting tonight, but my head is feeling dizzy, my eyes...

ntxalanon · ntxalanon

I just wanted to request some prayers for my family. My AW and I have been trying to both deal with her addiction to alchohol through AA and Alanon. I had been suspicious about her drinking for the last month or so and it finally came to a head last night when she was hiding vodka and drinking it everytime I l...

kath · kath

Hi, this is Kath. Have been gone for a while due to computer malfunction. Just wanted to ask you guys to keep family and I in your prayers. We were involved in a hit and run accident this weekend. No one was severly injured, in which I am thankful. After the accident I did have feelings of guilt and thinkin...

ljc · ljc

I dont know if I should do ( or say ) anything at all. I dont live with an alcoholic. I live in the same town as my Momand she is addicted to prescription pain killers and she has been for a very long time. Currently she is angry with me cuz I set a boundary. A little over 5 yrs ago I confronted my Mom ( via email...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Well....I was working at home today, one of my good friends gets a text from the A....he tells her he's happy and should not have come back to his family, now he just wants to see his kids, but has made no attempt other than harrassing me and my friends about it. .......she said she did tell him he needs to g...

lyndebi · lyndebi

This is how insane it is. I just got an email from my mortgage advocate. His job is to do all the paperwork and communicate with the Mortgage company. He is doing it for me as he is a friend of my adoptive dads. The mortgage co. put the date up again. Was told more than once we would have a contract or answer if...

butterfliesnroses60 · butterfliesnroses60

Well I attended my first meeting and was amazed...My sister in-law called me earlier this evening and asked me if I needed her to go with me...I promptly said NO She did not attend and I am greatful...Things have worked out in the end...I will be attending again next week and so on...I felt right away tha...

Brookiebabe222 · Brookiebabe222

Hey guys. So it's been a while. I am a little stresses because this week is finals week for school and since I missed so much I have to finish a ton of work. In the meantime, The ex A is plauging my thoughts. Every time my mind wanders from schoolwork to him, my stomach twists in knots and I get super anxious. T...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

hi, my a/addict in my life is my now (thank gosh) distant b/f,i got really lonely today and felt like i was actually gonna crack up this morn.so i finnally broke down and called my a b/f,WHAT WAS I THINKING,im trying so hard to just disolve this bad sick and could be dangerous relationship ,i even asked hi...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

Last night was interesting to me. Yesterday about half way through the day I could tell my Abf had been drinking and possibly whatever else. Regardless, I of course got a little obsessed. I went into the crazy thinking that us codependents do, which is my way of avoiding what hurts. I get so involve...

sarebaer · sarebaer

I had been very proud of how well I was working my program but I failed miserably the past few days! It was opening hunting season plus Ah took a week of vacation so I knew it would be alot of drinking and prepared to do my own thing. But instead of being happy that I had made plans (with my 11 year old grandaugh...

clep · clep

I just got home from my meeting a little while ago. My A hugged me and kissed me. I was very taken back from that. I reciprocated and let him know that even though we are working our own programs I like it when we are still affectionate. It doesn't feel like I am not in a relationship at all and we can at lea...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will make this short & sweet! Today is a good day! I am grateful & the sun is shining! I remember reading this quote: Make your words sweet; you might have to eat them! I guess that's all for me today! I will keep positive & hang in there! Kathleen

Karilynn · Karilynn

Today is John's Birthday! He's 21! Let us all take a moment to wish our founder a great big HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Thank you for all you have done for us. Your impact has been global. There is no telling how many lives you have saved and better by this board alone. I know what you have done for me. Enjoy your bi...

Cloudsea · Cloudsea

Hi everyone Before Thanksgiving, I wrote here about my anxiety over friends who were coming and who are heavy drinkers (they even bring their own beer, so there was no guarantee that my just not having alcohol to serve would keep them from drinking). They don't know my H is an A. I talked the issue ove...

failte · failte

Hi all, Step 1 and Step 2 has just began over on the Step Work board, if you click on the link above, you can come over and join us, I am a newbie and just begining the steps, so would appreciate old and new experiences, Step 1 has been started by Tlcate, while Step 2 by Desirae, and already it has helped me imme...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I have been attending Al-Anon meetings and learning the steps. I know that I have not mastered them because I still get the feelings of controlling, watching and feeling suspicious. My AH is going to wonderful meetings and making important changes in HIS life. I have to become better at managing...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Well, it looks like Friday may be the day I actually get divorced. Its been 3 years, and a source of frustration, anxiety and major procrastination for me. We cannot wait anymore, and the legality of it all will hopeful protect me from some possible ghastly consequences. We are going to sit with our a...

lyndebi · lyndebi

You guys are really helping me. I am not in so much pain now. Maybe because I am so weak my body does not have enough energy to be anxious! Went to doc. I take Darvocet for pain. Well as you may know it is no longer availabe. I am that one person out of ten who breaks down meds very different. doc almost killed me...

Rora · Rora

I've been away from the board for a while and I've missed it terribly. It wasn't long ago that my Mom, who lives 6 hrs away, was told she has terminal cancer and it has been a whirlwind for me ever since. She's been in hospital since mid October, I've gone to see her at every possible chance I can. Trying t...

butterfliesnroses60 · butterfliesnroses60

Hello everyone..I am new here tonight...Tomorrow I go to my first al anon meeting. My son age 30 is an addict (alcohol,speed and cocaine) that I know of. I have talked to him a lot and he refuses to go for help. He refuses to have anything to do with his daughter. wich is good at this time. Two weeks ago he los...

pamommy · pamommy

My AH has been going to AA every day except one day for 11 days since he publicly vomited his problem and ruined Thanksgiving dinner. I know about the AA steps, but not much about the differences in meetings themselves, and our family therapist suggested he go to one that does the steps or the Big Book. ...

ljc · ljc

Hello Everyone, Im Lori , an Alanoner that hasn't been working or applying the program to me very well lately . I have a sponsor ( actually 2 of them, since Im a sober alcoholic thru AA 6 yrs, and my AA sponsor is also Alanon ). Unfortuneately, Im the type of person who either waits till its so bad that I lo...

clep · clep

I went to my male friends house last night to see him for his birthday. My A knows him and the situation well. His mom was there and it was nice to finally meet her. We all sat and chatted and I walked in my door at 2am. I got up and wet to the craft fair with my girlfriend. He was in bed I guess when I came home...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I am on a positive mission. By that I mean that I am looking for the good things in life, in me, in others, in all situations. Fear, trembling, sceptism is waning and in place of those I find courage, steadfastness and joy. And the ratio of bad days to good is turning itself on its head. True, I still get d...

Tracy · Tracy

Over the weekend I had the opportunity to connect with myself on a spiritual level. I looked into my own eyes and told myself the distroted belief systems that I had been following since childhood ere wrong such as That i was strong, that I had to take care of others, That others needed me, that others pa...

Aloha · Aloha

I've had a lot of news sort of tumble down on me in the last week or two... I think a lot of this stuff might have overwhelmed me in the past, but right now, I'm feeling a lot of detachment from it all, but I have this little paranoid voice waaaay back in the depths of my head trying to tell me... "Oh, you sh...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I had two moments today where I realized just how hard it is to really embrace Al Anon for me and how much I have to work on. First, while driving to church this morning, there was a CD in the car that my wife was listening to. It was an AA CD--basically stories from the Big Book in CD form. Anyway, my wife was mo...

essgee1952 · essgee1952

Recently on a reality show, two women were talking about their marriages. One was in a loving and supportive marriage, the other one wished for that. The happy woman said, "I feel like he's always got my back, and I know I've got his." I realized that I've never had that feeling in my marri...

clep · clep

I have applied my al-anon program to situations and am finding myself exasperated today. Don't expect anything of my A I read and learn. In applying this I do the bills, organization of our whole home, our son's schooling needs, run my business, do my volunteer work and I do all of this with no vehicle a...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I have an AH who has been in recovery. Things have been great, however, I believe that he is "experimenting" with small amounts of alcohol to see if he can get away with it. He has always wanted to be able to drink like others. He goes to meetings and has a strong support group but doesn't rea...

sdisnie · sdisnie

In order to truly heal, to truly break the cycle that we get in with an A.....we have to do things differently, think differently, change our life. Just like an A does...they have to change things in their life so they don't fall into the same patters as before. How do I know if the changes that I believe I...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Well, I finally heard from the very selfish and sick A. He emailed....said he's trying to find a job, and he wants to just move forward and that he's sorry that everything worked out this way and that he can't change anything. "Can't" change anything? Is that just a sick thing to say? It's...

Jerry F · Jerry F

clearer, wider, deeper more contrasted. When I found out that my blindness was in fact correctable and not inoperable I delighted in the news that the surgery was scheduled for the Thanksgiving holiday, the 24 and 25th. My wife and family didn't think that the best idea however I know from past expe...

tlcate · tlcate

That was something my brothers used to say to me and I swear God said it to me too just recently. I was on here complaining and feeling bad . . . over nothing. Tap tap tap in the middle of my forehead . . . "Tricia, are you listening?" I am all geared up to go to my first Friday night meeting in the new c...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Ran into a situation last night that I was unprepared for. Okay, that's kinda funny, because that pretty much sums up life with an A, and now for me, what life with teenagers is like. My son is 17. Our relationhip is a struggle, and my issues with him revolve more around attitude and honesty, than beha...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I go to a meeting every Friday that is through my church, it's been wonderful because first they have a BBQ if you want to eat dinner, then they have a little bit of worship and talk about troubles in life etc, then the men go to one side, the women to the other and break down into issue specific groups. I wis...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hey everyone, I've been learning/coming to terms with a lot, through reading and therapy, about the dynamics of an alcoholic/codependent relationship. That we had something in us that attracted the alcoholic, and they had something in them that attracted us. Just wondering, looking back, can y...

Grace7 · Grace7

Hi. Have dealt with A for Years. Now instead of my former mate, it is my child of whom I speak. He lives in another state and recently married a partier. He has had a dui, told me in his later teen years he was an alcoholic (in the military at that time). He quit for a time, turned to physical fitness and hi...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi. I havent been writing on this forum for a very long time and it has been about two months since I last attended a f2f meeting. I first joined Al-Anon because of problems with my ex-girlfriend. We started dating in 2007 while I lived in Norway and she lived in England. She was an alcoholic and I did what I...

glad lee · glad lee

... how do you "work" your program? Do you use the 12 steps? The beginning of step twelve reads: "Having had a spiritual awakening AS THE RESULT of these steps..." Does that motivate you? Does something else motivate you? I moved at a snail's pace on the steps when I came into...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

and feel terribly guilty that I (or we) upset our daughter so much. My daughter and I came home at 8PM from a nice day outdoors at a Christmas festival near us. Wife hadn't come because she wasn't feeling well (yes I did invite her). When I come in the door she starts telling me that a relative from Germa...

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	Thank you and update (Preview) Hi all As most of you on here will know I had my son removed from my family home a ten days ago, as he was to move into an apartment with my husband and I was to move back to my marital/family home. My son was furious with me understandably and it was a very difficult time, and I settled down here expecting to be p...	failte	4	430	Dec 12, 2010 by pineapple
	Alcoholism question just out of curiosity (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm wondering at what age your A's became alcoholic? I haven't yet learnt or read much about this. Is there a certain age this disease usually strikes? I have read that there are a variety of factors that contribute to a person being more susceptible to alcoholism (sex, mental health, en...	danielle0516	16	957	Dec 11, 2010 by failte
	Hitting rock bottom. (Preview) Looking for words of wisdom, hope and encouragement for someone who might have finaly hit rock bottom. She is very depressed right now. My favorite quote so far is "Rock bottom is good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around:	Screaming Barbie	20	2883	Dec 11, 2010 by xeno59
	Painful (Preview) Today started ok. I spent the night at my sister's house bacause I was babysitting my five month old nephew. I love him so much! But the day got harder and harder. I started to feel really nauseated and had a headache. Then I came home to find that the TV I had borrowed from my sister was out of my room. It wasn...	Brookiebabe222	10	739	Dec 11, 2010 by Christy
	Church Tonight (Preview) My church has this gigantic support group. I love going to it. It's so big, they have to split it into a whole bunch of small groups. AH was going too during his recovery period and really opened up during that time. It's based around the Al-anon meetings and/or AA and NA, with the 12 steps and the s...	sdisnie	2	582	Dec 11, 2010 by danielle0516
	Still Practicing (Preview) I havent posted in a while but I do read the posts daily and do appreciate everyones sharing. I have learned so much and I think grown to, these past few months by attending f2f meetings regulary, and reading here and also reading program meditations/writings daily. I still have not found a sponsor bu...	Ginger90	3	611	Dec 11, 2010 by mjhyankees
	Feeling crazy and acting that way! (Preview) Warning... this might not make sense. Got into some crazy behavior last night. I am writing to release it from me. It 3 in the morning, and I feel overwhlemed with anxiety, frustration and anger. Amazing how easy it is to lose my program. And I was doing pretty good too... I will not be getting divo...	Loupiness	8	530	Dec 10, 2010 by tlcate
	Holiday protection plan (Preview) I went to a wonderful meeting last night, the topic was about the upcoming holidays and how we were planning to stay spiritually fit to handle all the ways we could possibly lose our serenity and our connection to our Higher Power. The holidays have been much better for me since I found al-anon, now I...	glad lee	5	1125	Dec 10, 2010 by Madelyn M
	Struggling With Self Care (Preview) I've been sick off and on for a month, and finally went to the doctor on Monday. She diagnosed me with walking pneumonia, and I got the standard "take better care of yourself" lecture from her. I think I am doing a MUCH better job of taking care of myself emotionally, but it is a struggle to do s...	stephaniej	9	793	Dec 10, 2010 by Madelyn M
	Can you help me understand this???? (Preview) Hi everyone! Nice to see ya all as I have been away awhile. Life is good. I did want to get some feed back from you all though. I was abused by my a mom, when she was drunk and now understand also high on valium. This is an issue I thought I had dealt with, but a week ago I went to a party at my sisters hous...	fishinmama	11	717	Dec 10, 2010 by White Rabbit
	scared, in crisis - esh, prayers appreciated (Preview) I can't go into details right now but I am terribly worried about my ah. We stayed at a hotel in town last night, he got very drunk. This morning he went out for coffee, came back drunk an hour later. I decided to come home, told him I was going and I'd be there when he decided to come. I talked to him on the phone...	pineapple	21	797	Dec 10, 2010 by sdisnie
	Protection Order: DENIED (Preview) Just love the law....it's a waste of time and completely pointless. Wasted half my day trying to buy some time to protect my kids mental well being from the sick A......judge tells me to file something to modify/limit parenting time......That's not the point!!!! His parenting time is already limi...	sdisnie	14	1239	Dec 10, 2010 by sdisnie
	having trouble making a decision (Preview) I am having trouble making a decision about my vehicle. The insurance totaled it and gave me a sum of money to keep it and a sum of money to give it to them for salvage. The price difference is $600. It looks as though there is not much internal damage, but you never know about that. I need to take the higher am...	kath	6	614	Dec 10, 2010 by maresie
	Need Help Before I React (Preview) To make a long story short (if I can), back in September, I was out of town for work. My AH, who is also diabetic, decided to drink one day and not eat, while he was in charge of our 7 year old son. While my son was in school all day, he had to come home to his father being totally drunk and having a diabetic low....	helpme08	8	692	Dec 10, 2010 by lyndebi
	hi,xeno (Preview) thanx for the comment,i really needed that i always wondered about others in my faith i always felt like or use to felt like i was the only deseased one there,cause they all knew of my problems,so ty,and no i wasnt offened the least bit,i figured alot of them kept it well hid,and it angrys me when they star...	pattyann1963	2	553	Dec 10, 2010 by lyndebi
	Been asked to be a sponsor (Preview) I was asked the other day to consider being a person's sponsor. I was actually pretty surprised. My sponsor had pointed this person over to me maybe a month or so ago. I told this person that I'd not sponsored anyone before, and that I'm still only officially working my 4th step, but if she's willing to gi...	Aloha	6	633	Dec 10, 2010 by Aloha
	friend ignoring me (Preview) I can scarcely believe what I'm about to report. I'm 32 and I have a friend in my program in grad school who is a couple years younger. he's married; I'm engaged, there has never been any "tension" we've always just been good friends (that's just to clarify it in case you wondered!). Since abo...	Imogen421	17	3041	Dec 10, 2010 by failte
	having trouble getting past the sadness (Preview) Ah was sober for awhile, then started drinking on occasion, lately has been spiraling downward rapidly. I've learned so much here that I'm much better able to handle it. I don't obsess over it. I don't even get angry anymore. I focus on myself and do what <i can to take care of myself. I've given the wh...	pineapple	9	758	Dec 10, 2010 by failte
	Anxiety (Preview) I'm not sure, but I think my entire mind and body is feeling complete overwhelming anxiety. I helped my daughter with her homework when she got home, I've been picking up around the house, ran to get milk and dog food, talked with the kids, going to a meeting tonight, but my head is feeling dizzy, my eyes...	sdisnie	14	1269	Dec 10, 2010 by Evie
	Prayer request (Preview) I just wanted to request some prayers for my family. My AW and I have been trying to both deal with her addiction to alchohol through AA and Alanon. I had been suspicious about her drinking for the last month or so and it finally came to a head last night when she was hiding vodka and drinking it everytime I l...	ntxalanon	7	963	Dec 9, 2010 by ntxalanon
	Hello (Preview) Hi, this is Kath. Have been gone for a while due to computer malfunction. Just wanted to ask you guys to keep family and I in your prayers. We were involved in a hit and run accident this weekend. No one was severly injured, in which I am thankful. After the accident I did have feelings of guilt and thinkin...	kath	5	685	Dec 9, 2010 by maresie
	Im sorta scarred and dont know what to do? (Preview) I dont know if I should do ( or say ) anything at all. I dont live with an alcoholic. I live in the same town as my Momand she is addicted to prescription pain killers and she has been for a very long time. Currently she is angry with me cuz I set a boundary. A little over 5 yrs ago I confronted my Mom ( via email...	ljc	7	789	Dec 9, 2010 by maryjane
	Wow...what a stressful day....had to call police :( (Preview) Well....I was working at home today, one of my good friends gets a text from the A....he tells her he's happy and should not have come back to his family, now he just wants to see his kids, but has made no attempt other than harrassing me and my friends about it. .......she said she did tell him he needs to g...	sdisnie	9	954	Dec 9, 2010 by failte
	Update (Preview) This is how insane it is. I just got an email from my mortgage advocate. His job is to do all the paperwork and communicate with the Mortgage company. He is doing it for me as he is a friend of my adoptive dads. The mortgage co. put the date up again. Was told more than once we would have a contract or answer if...	lyndebi	5	704	Dec 9, 2010 by failte
	My First Meeting (Preview) Well I attended my first meeting and was amazed...My sister in-law called me earlier this evening and asked me if I needed her to go with me...I promptly said NO She did not attend and I am greatful...Things have worked out in the end...I will be attending again next week and so on...I felt right away tha...	butterfliesnroses60	9	524	Dec 9, 2010 by butterfliesnroses60
	Still? Really? (Preview) Hey guys. So it's been a while. I am a little stresses because this week is finals week for school and since I missed so much I have to finish a ton of work. In the meantime, The ex A is plauging my thoughts. Every time my mind wanders from schoolwork to him, my stomach twists in knots and I get super anxious. T...	Brookiebabe222	5	804	Dec 9, 2010 by sdisnie
	trying hard (Preview) hi, my a/addict in my life is my now (thank gosh) distant b/f,i got really lonely today and felt like i was actually gonna crack up this morn.so i finnally broke down and called my a b/f,WHAT WAS I THINKING,im trying so hard to just disolve this bad sick and could be dangerous relationship ,i even asked hi...	pattyann1963	4	632	Dec 9, 2010 by Brookiebabe222
	It works if you work it.... (Preview) Last night was interesting to me. Yesterday about half way through the day I could tell my Abf had been drinking and possibly whatever else. Regardless, I of course got a little obsessed. I went into the crazy thinking that us codependents do, which is my way of avoiding what hurts. I get so involve...	sunflowergirl	8	854	Dec 9, 2010 by Peggy7
	Where do I go from here? (Preview) I had been very proud of how well I was working my program but I failed miserably the past few days! It was opening hunting season plus Ah took a week of vacation so I knew it would be alot of drinking and prepared to do my own thing. But instead of being happy that I had made plans (with my 11 year old grandaugh...	sarebaer	8	646	Dec 9, 2010 by Peggy7
	Strange things (Preview) I just got home from my meeting a little while ago. My A hugged me and kissed me. I was very taken back from that. I reciprocated and let him know that even though we are working our own programs I like it when we are still affectionate. It doesn't feel like I am not in a relationship at all and we can at lea...	clep	5	653	Dec 9, 2010 by Peggy7
	short & sweet! (Preview) I will make this short & sweet! Today is a good day! I am grateful & the sun is shining! I remember reading this quote: Make your words sweet; you might have to eat them! I guess that's all for me today! I will keep positive & hang in there! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	4	870	Dec 9, 2010 by Peggy7
	Happy Birthday John! (Preview) Today is John's Birthday! He's 21! Let us all take a moment to wish our founder a great big HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Thank you for all you have done for us. Your impact has been global. There is no telling how many lives you have saved and better by this board alone. I know what you have done for me. Enjoy your bi...	Karilynn	13	679	Dec 8, 2010 by grammie
	Proud & grateful (Preview) Hi everyone Before Thanksgiving, I wrote here about my anxiety over friends who were coming and who are heavy drinkers (they even bring their own beer, so there was no guarantee that my just not having alcohol to serve would keep them from drinking). They don't know my H is an A. I talked the issue ove...	Cloudsea	8	646	Dec 8, 2010 by tiredtonite
	Brand new 12 Steps has started on Step Work Board come on over and join us! (Preview) Hi all, Step 1 and Step 2 has just began over on the Step Work board, if you click on the link above, you can come over and join us, I am a newbie and just begining the steps, so would appreciate old and new experiences, Step 1 has been started by Tlcate, while Step 2 by Desirae, and already it has helped me imme...	failte	3	1734	Dec 8, 2010 by failte
	How to detach and still love your husband? (Preview) I have been attending Al-Anon meetings and learning the steps. I know that I have not mastered them because I still get the feelings of controlling, watching and feeling suspicious. My AH is going to wonderful meetings and making important changes in HIS life. I have to become better at managing...	wifeofalcoholic	9	8674	Dec 8, 2010 by kitty
	Finally... (Preview) Well, it looks like Friday may be the day I actually get divorced. Its been 3 years, and a source of frustration, anxiety and major procrastination for me. We cannot wait anymore, and the legality of it all will hopeful protect me from some possible ghastly consequences. We are going to sit with our a...	Loupiness	8	666	Dec 8, 2010 by danielle0516
	ugh! But doing ok (Preview) You guys are really helping me. I am not in so much pain now. Maybe because I am so weak my body does not have enough energy to be anxious! Went to doc. I take Darvocet for pain. Well as you may know it is no longer availabe. I am that one person out of ten who breaks down meds very different. doc almost killed me...	lyndebi	5	636	Dec 8, 2010 by danielle0516
	Need some ESH... (Preview) I've been away from the board for a while and I've missed it terribly. It wasn't long ago that my Mom, who lives 6 hrs away, was told she has terminal cancer and it has been a whirlwind for me ever since. She's been in hospital since mid October, I've gone to see her at every possible chance I can. Trying t...	Rora	5	942	Dec 7, 2010 by tiredtonite
	Heart is breaking (Preview) Hello everyone..I am new here tonight...Tomorrow I go to my first al anon meeting. My son age 30 is an addict (alcohol,speed and cocaine) that I know of. I have talked to him a lot and he refuses to go for help. He refuses to have anything to do with his daughter. wich is good at this time. Two weeks ago he los...	butterfliesnroses60	8	1065	Dec 7, 2010 by tiredtonite
	How do you know if recovery is real or does it even matter? (Preview) My AH has been going to AA every day except one day for 11 days since he publicly vomited his problem and ruined Thanksgiving dinner. I know about the AA steps, but not much about the differences in meetings themselves, and our family therapist suggested he go to one that does the steps or the Big Book. ...	pamommy	16	1067	Dec 7, 2010 by xeno59
	Ive been lost .. and need this board/group (Preview) Hello Everyone, Im Lori , an Alanoner that hasn't been working or applying the program to me very well lately . I have a sponsor ( actually 2 of them, since Im a sober alcoholic thru AA 6 yrs, and my AA sponsor is also Alanon ). Unfortuneately, Im the type of person who either waits till its so bad that I lo...	ljc	11	696	Dec 7, 2010 by xeno59
	My A is not taking change well (Preview) I went to my male friends house last night to see him for his birthday. My A knows him and the situation well. His mom was there and it was nice to finally meet her. We all sat and chatted and I walked in my door at 2am. I got up and wet to the craft fair with my girlfriend. He was in bed I guess when I came home...	clep	12	649	Dec 7, 2010 by glad lee
	The penny has just dropped - I have met up with that great companion POSITVE SYNERGY. (Preview) I am on a positive mission. By that I mean that I am looking for the good things in life, in me, in others, in all situations. Fear, trembling, sceptism is waning and in place of those I find courage, steadfastness and joy. And the ratio of bad days to good is turning itself on its head. True, I still get d...	Suzannah	3	804	Dec 7, 2010 by maresie
	relationship with self (Preview) Over the weekend I had the opportunity to connect with myself on a spiritual level. I looked into my own eyes and told myself the distroted belief systems that I had been following since childhood ere wrong such as That i was strong, that I had to take care of others, That others needed me, that others pa...	Tracy	4	692	Dec 7, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Peculiar how my head seems to seek excuses to get anxious (Preview) I've had a lot of news sort of tumble down on me in the last week or two... I think a lot of this stuff might have overwhelmed me in the past, but right now, I'm feeling a lot of detachment from it all, but I have this little paranoid voice waaaay back in the depths of my head trying to tell me... "Oh, you sh...	Aloha	3	635	Dec 6, 2010 by lyndebi
	Still finding this hard--2 small examples (Preview) I had two moments today where I realized just how hard it is to really embrace Al Anon for me and how much I have to work on. First, while driving to church this morning, there was a CD in the car that my wife was listening to. It was an AA CD--basically stories from the Big Book in CD form. Anyway, my wife was mo...	usedtobeanyer	10	1033	Dec 6, 2010 by usedtobeanyer
	Can An A Ever "Have Your Back?" (Preview) Recently on a reality show, two women were talking about their marriages. One was in a loving and supportive marriage, the other one wished for that. The happy woman said, "I feel like he's always got my back, and I know I've got his." I realized that I've never had that feeling in my marri...	essgee1952	20	1112	Dec 6, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Feel like I'm gonna blow up any minute (Preview) I have applied my al-anon program to situations and am finding myself exasperated today. Don't expect anything of my A I read and learn. In applying this I do the bills, organization of our whole home, our son's schooling needs, run my business, do my volunteer work and I do all of this with no vehicle a...	clep	6	522	Dec 6, 2010 by clep
	What do I say? Confront? Ignore? (Preview) I have an AH who has been in recovery. Things have been great, however, I believe that he is "experimenting" with small amounts of alcohol to see if he can get away with it. He has always wanted to be able to drink like others. He goes to meetings and has a strong support group but doesn't rea...	wifeofalcoholic	8	1132	Dec 6, 2010 by Rita G
	To Heal...You have make changes...How do you know if they are the right ones (Preview) In order to truly heal, to truly break the cycle that we get in with an A.....we have to do things differently, think differently, change our life. Just like an A does...they have to change things in their life so they don't fall into the same patters as before. How do I know if the changes that I believe I...	sdisnie	11	1429	Dec 6, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Finally heard from the A... (Preview) Well, I finally heard from the very selfish and sick A. He emailed....said he's trying to find a job, and he wants to just move forward and that he's sorry that everything worked out this way and that he can't change anything. "Can't" change anything? Is that just a sick thing to say? It's...	sdisnie	4	436	Dec 6, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	My vision is still getting.... (Preview) clearer, wider, deeper more contrasted. When I found out that my blindness was in fact correctable and not inoperable I delighted in the news that the surgery was scheduled for the Thanksgiving holiday, the 24 and 25th. My wife and family didn't think that the best idea however I know from past expe...	Jerry F	7	824	Dec 6, 2010 by maresie
	Stop crying or I will give you something to cry about . . . (Preview) That was something my brothers used to say to me and I swear God said it to me too just recently. I was on here complaining and feeling bad . . . over nothing. Tap tap tap in the middle of my forehead . . . "Tricia, are you listening?" I am all geared up to go to my first Friday night meeting in the new c...	tlcate	7	734	Dec 6, 2010 by stomoxys
	What would you do? (Preview) Ran into a situation last night that I was unprepared for. Okay, that's kinda funny, because that pretty much sums up life with an A, and now for me, what life with teenagers is like. My son is 17. Our relationhip is a struggle, and my issues with him revolve more around attitude and honesty, than beha...	Loupiness	7	470	Dec 6, 2010 by Karilynn
	Meeting this Tuesday (Preview) I go to a meeting every Friday that is through my church, it's been wonderful because first they have a BBQ if you want to eat dinner, then they have a little bit of worship and talk about troubles in life etc, then the men go to one side, the women to the other and break down into issue specific groups. I wis...	sdisnie	3	670	Dec 6, 2010 by bud
	Relationships: What attracted you to your A? (Preview) Hey everyone, I've been learning/coming to terms with a lot, through reading and therapy, about the dynamics of an alcoholic/codependent relationship. That we had something in us that attracted the alcoholic, and they had something in them that attracted us. Just wondering, looking back, can y...	danielle0516	14	986	Dec 5, 2010 by pamommy
	Dealing with Adult Alcoholic Child (Preview) Hi. Have dealt with A for Years. Now instead of my former mate, it is my child of whom I speak. He lives in another state and recently married a partier. He has had a dui, told me in his later teen years he was an alcoholic (in the military at that time). He quit for a time, turned to physical fitness and hi...	Grace7	2	4716	Dec 5, 2010 by DreamsOver
	I live with the person I love, but feel more alone than ever... (Preview) Hi. I havent been writing on this forum for a very long time and it has been about two months since I last attended a f2f meeting. I first joined Al-Anon because of problems with my ex-girlfriend. We started dating in 2007 while I lived in Norway and she lived in England. She was an alcoholic and I did what I...	Cosmos	6	812	Dec 5, 2010 by Cosmos
	I am curious to know... (Preview) ... how do you "work" your program? Do you use the 12 steps? The beginning of step twelve reads: "Having had a spiritual awakening AS THE RESULT of these steps..." Does that motivate you? Does something else motivate you? I moved at a snail's pace on the steps when I came into...	glad lee	13	1215	Dec 5, 2010 by Imogen421
	Screwed up royally last night...... (Preview) and feel terribly guilty that I (or we) upset our daughter so much. My daughter and I came home at 8PM from a nice day outdoors at a Christmas festival near us. Wife hadn't come because she wasn't feeling well (yes I did invite her). When I come in the door she starts telling me that a relative from Germa...	mjhyankees	7	888	Dec 5, 2010 by Jerry F
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