Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kitty · kitty

Hello, every body. If you were in the meeting this morning, I think I am having a melt down. I aplogize. It seems obvious to me that I cannot chair the meetings anymore bc I do not want to be a police man of what people talk about in the chat room. I am here to work my recovery for me and I have to keep that as m...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I was struck today about how the realization that I have CHOICES has been instrumental in my recovery. When I got here, I didn't know I had many choices. Seemed to me like I had either choice A that was bad, or choice B that was even worse. Everything was just so black and white, and I didn't realize that...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

This comes up a lot. I don't like to fight with my wife (it never gets physical btw but she can get verbally abusive at times). But, there are times I do things that I know is right or something I have to do and I also know she is going to be mad and possibly start a fight over it. Case in point. Wife hired a lan...

youghlake · youghlake

Was wondering what literature is a 'must have' to read and comprehend and learn from. I have been looking through the site as well as Amazon, and it seems like there is so much I could purchase, but with the holidays I want to start gradually. Thank you. Dawn

freewilltoday · freewilltoday

Hey Everyone, I'm fairly new here, I've only posted twice. Let me give you a quick summary of my background. Started dating my A 3 years ago, had NO IDEA he was an A. He seemed to drink 'normally'. After 4 or 5 months in to the relationship he told me that he as an A. ( and had started drinking a month before we...

Evian · Evian

Is it just me, or does any one else have this problem? I can't seem to get close to my AH. I mean, anything to do with intimacy or any thing remotely close, makes me sick to my stomach. Is this normal?

Evian · Evian

Hi! Not sure where to begin, how to start healing, and not get dragged down by this disease. I'm married to an alcoholic, and we have 3 kids. He said he wants to seek treatment, but seems to be putting things off. The fights, the arguments are getting worse and I feel like I'm going crazy. He says he drinks b...

RLC · RLC

When I try to pull up the MIP web site the whole screen has the words "You Have Been Hacked" with a black backgournd. The only way I was able to get on to post this message is by clicking on a PM I received yesterday that I still had in my email and that took me to the site. Is anyone else having thi...

Overcome · Overcome

Would like some input on a situation and how you 'ol-timer's (and new timer's )might have handled a particular situation. background info: Ex-father-in-law sexually molested my ex-husband from the time he was 3-11. Physically, mentally and emotionally abused him the rest of his childhood. Men...

lyndebi · lyndebi

Gads I was out fixing the bird feeders, did not latch the door, all of a sudden 8 dogs go storming past me. I got the big ones in but the 5 little idiots, ran a mile down my road to the busy road! AND of course two people are just then taking their daily walk. I warn them my little monster dogs got out, the guy says...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone... Im confused and would love some ESH So, my AH was sober for 4.5 days on day 5, last night, he drank. Last night I was alone in our room reading while AH had a friend over to watch football, after his AA meeting. So, Im reading away and I hear our dog barking so I open our window to tell him quite,...

lilac21 · lilac21

Hello, I am new to you, I have been following the board for a few weeks. I have a AH who is on his fourth month of sobriety. This is our third round of being sober. We have been together for 14 years. He was sober for a 7 year stretch, began drinking again three years ago, was sober from May to the end of August th...

casa · casa

Chair opened the meeting with the Serenity Prayer. November minutes were approved as written. First item: Meeting schedule. AM MON Shimo TUES xeno WED Iona THURS OPEN FRI Blendergirl SAT OPEN SUN (Spiritual) Kittyoflight PM MON grammie TUES casa WEDS ednaxray THURS (Step/tradition...

youghlake · youghlake

HI. I'm sure I should go to meetings, with everything I have read tonite. But I can't just yet, maybe I can get the nerve at some point, but right now I pretty much feel like a failure in my life and my marriage. My husband is an alcoholic, in denial. He is of the opinion that he only drinks with me, and only d...

shifra · shifra

Hello All, I will be in Hawaii (on the big island, east side) for a week for my sister's wedding and will be staying with my entire family. I know I will need alanon to stay sane and will be without a car. Can anyone connect me with folks there? Does anyone here know alanon people in hawaii?? Thanks in adv...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I feel there is someone on here under false pretenses. I no longer feel safe to post on here, and how sad is that? This has been my home for years to post my feelings about addiction and what's going on in my life and I no longer feel safe anywhere now. My sense of security has been completely stripped, no...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

Last night, AH and I went to his friend's house to have dinner and hang out. AH brought a bottle of wine with him. It was a really big bottle of wine. If I had to guess the size of it, I would say it was at least a half gallon bottle of wine, if not more. AH ended up drinking the entire thing by himself, plus se...

failte · failte

Hi all As most of you on here will know I had my son removed from my family home a ten days ago, as he was to move into an apartment with my husband and I was to move back to my marital/family home. My son was furious with me understandably and it was a very difficult time, and I settled down here expecting to be p...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone, I'm wondering at what age your A's became alcoholic? I haven't yet learnt or read much about this. Is there a certain age this disease usually strikes? I have read that there are a variety of factors that contribute to a person being more susceptible to alcoholism (sex, mental health, en...

Screaming Barbie · Screaming Barbie

Looking for words of wisdom, hope and encouragement for someone who might have finaly hit rock bottom. She is very depressed right now. My favorite quote so far is "Rock bottom is good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around:

Brookiebabe222 · Brookiebabe222

Today started ok. I spent the night at my sister's house bacause I was babysitting my five month old nephew. I love him so much! But the day got harder and harder. I started to feel really nauseated and had a headache. Then I came home to find that the TV I had borrowed from my sister was out of my room. It wasn...

sdisnie · sdisnie

My church has this gigantic support group. I love going to it. It's so big, they have to split it into a whole bunch of small groups. AH was going too during his recovery period and really opened up during that time. It's based around the Al-anon meetings and/or AA and NA, with the 12 steps and the s...

Ginger90 · Ginger90

I havent posted in a while but I do read the posts daily and do appreciate everyones sharing. I have learned so much and I think grown to, these past few months by attending f2f meetings regulary, and reading here and also reading program meditations/writings daily. I still have not found a sponsor bu...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Warning... this might not make sense. Got into some crazy behavior last night. I am writing to release it from me. It 3 in the morning, and I feel overwhlemed with anxiety, frustration and anger. Amazing how easy it is to lose my program. And I was doing pretty good too... I will not be getting divo...

glad lee · glad lee

I went to a wonderful meeting last night, the topic was about the upcoming holidays and how we were planning to stay spiritually fit to handle all the ways we could possibly lose our serenity and our connection to our Higher Power. The holidays have been much better for me since I found al-anon, now I...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I've been sick off and on for a month, and finally went to the doctor on Monday. She diagnosed me with walking pneumonia, and I got the standard "take better care of yourself" lecture from her. I think I am doing a MUCH better job of taking care of myself emotionally, but it is a struggle to do s...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Hi everyone! Nice to see ya all as I have been away awhile. Life is good. I did want to get some feed back from you all though. I was abused by my a mom, when she was drunk and now understand also high on valium. This is an issue I thought I had dealt with, but a week ago I went to a party at my sisters hous...

pineapple · pineapple

I can't go into details right now but I am terribly worried about my ah. We stayed at a hotel in town last night, he got very drunk. This morning he went out for coffee, came back drunk an hour later. I decided to come home, told him I was going and I'd be there when he decided to come. I talked to him on the phone...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Just love the law....it's a waste of time and completely pointless. Wasted half my day trying to buy some time to protect my kids mental well being from the sick A......judge tells me to file something to modify/limit parenting time......That's not the point!!!! His parenting time is already limi...

kath · kath

I am having trouble making a decision about my vehicle. The insurance totaled it and gave me a sum of money to keep it and a sum of money to give it to them for salvage. The price difference is $600. It looks as though there is not much internal damage, but you never know about that. I need to take the higher am...

helpme08 · helpme08

To make a long story short (if I can), back in September, I was out of town for work. My AH, who is also diabetic, decided to drink one day and not eat, while he was in charge of our 7 year old son. While my son was in school all day, he had to come home to his father being totally drunk and having a diabetic low....

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

thanx for the comment,i really needed that i always wondered about others in my faith i always felt like or use to felt like i was the only deseased one there,cause they all knew of my problems,so ty,and no i wasnt offened the least bit,i figured alot of them kept it well hid,and it angrys me when they star...

Aloha · Aloha

I was asked the other day to consider being a person's sponsor. I was actually pretty surprised. My sponsor had pointed this person over to me maybe a month or so ago. I told this person that I'd not sponsored anyone before, and that I'm still only officially working my 4th step, but if she's willing to gi...

Imogen421 · Imogen421

I can scarcely believe what I'm about to report. I'm 32 and I have a friend in my program in grad school who is a couple years younger. he's married; I'm engaged, there has never been any "tension" we've always just been good friends (that's just to clarify it in case you wondered!). Since abo...

pineapple · pineapple

Ah was sober for awhile, then started drinking on occasion, lately has been spiraling downward rapidly. I've learned so much here that I'm much better able to handle it. I don't obsess over it. I don't even get angry anymore. I focus on myself and do what <i can to take care of myself. I've given the wh...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I'm not sure, but I think my entire mind and body is feeling complete overwhelming anxiety. I helped my daughter with her homework when she got home, I've been picking up around the house, ran to get milk and dog food, talked with the kids, going to a meeting tonight, but my head is feeling dizzy, my eyes...

ntxalanon · ntxalanon

I just wanted to request some prayers for my family. My AW and I have been trying to both deal with her addiction to alchohol through AA and Alanon. I had been suspicious about her drinking for the last month or so and it finally came to a head last night when she was hiding vodka and drinking it everytime I l...

kath · kath

Hi, this is Kath. Have been gone for a while due to computer malfunction. Just wanted to ask you guys to keep family and I in your prayers. We were involved in a hit and run accident this weekend. No one was severly injured, in which I am thankful. After the accident I did have feelings of guilt and thinkin...

ljc · ljc

I dont know if I should do ( or say ) anything at all. I dont live with an alcoholic. I live in the same town as my Momand she is addicted to prescription pain killers and she has been for a very long time. Currently she is angry with me cuz I set a boundary. A little over 5 yrs ago I confronted my Mom ( via email...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Well....I was working at home today, one of my good friends gets a text from the A....he tells her he's happy and should not have come back to his family, now he just wants to see his kids, but has made no attempt other than harrassing me and my friends about it. .......she said she did tell him he needs to g...

lyndebi · lyndebi

This is how insane it is. I just got an email from my mortgage advocate. His job is to do all the paperwork and communicate with the Mortgage company. He is doing it for me as he is a friend of my adoptive dads. The mortgage co. put the date up again. Was told more than once we would have a contract or answer if...

butterfliesnroses60 · butterfliesnroses60

Well I attended my first meeting and was amazed...My sister in-law called me earlier this evening and asked me if I needed her to go with me...I promptly said NO She did not attend and I am greatful...Things have worked out in the end...I will be attending again next week and so on...I felt right away tha...

Brookiebabe222 · Brookiebabe222

Hey guys. So it's been a while. I am a little stresses because this week is finals week for school and since I missed so much I have to finish a ton of work. In the meantime, The ex A is plauging my thoughts. Every time my mind wanders from schoolwork to him, my stomach twists in knots and I get super anxious. T...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

hi, my a/addict in my life is my now (thank gosh) distant b/f,i got really lonely today and felt like i was actually gonna crack up this morn.so i finnally broke down and called my a b/f,WHAT WAS I THINKING,im trying so hard to just disolve this bad sick and could be dangerous relationship ,i even asked hi...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

Last night was interesting to me. Yesterday about half way through the day I could tell my Abf had been drinking and possibly whatever else. Regardless, I of course got a little obsessed. I went into the crazy thinking that us codependents do, which is my way of avoiding what hurts. I get so involve...

sarebaer · sarebaer

I had been very proud of how well I was working my program but I failed miserably the past few days! It was opening hunting season plus Ah took a week of vacation so I knew it would be alot of drinking and prepared to do my own thing. But instead of being happy that I had made plans (with my 11 year old grandaugh...

clep · clep

I just got home from my meeting a little while ago. My A hugged me and kissed me. I was very taken back from that. I reciprocated and let him know that even though we are working our own programs I like it when we are still affectionate. It doesn't feel like I am not in a relationship at all and we can at lea...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will make this short & sweet! Today is a good day! I am grateful & the sun is shining! I remember reading this quote: Make your words sweet; you might have to eat them! I guess that's all for me today! I will keep positive & hang in there! Kathleen

Karilynn · Karilynn

Today is John's Birthday! He's 21! Let us all take a moment to wish our founder a great big HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Thank you for all you have done for us. Your impact has been global. There is no telling how many lives you have saved and better by this board alone. I know what you have done for me. Enjoy your bi...

Cloudsea · Cloudsea

Hi everyone Before Thanksgiving, I wrote here about my anxiety over friends who were coming and who are heavy drinkers (they even bring their own beer, so there was no guarantee that my just not having alcohol to serve would keep them from drinking). They don't know my H is an A. I talked the issue ove...

failte · failte

Hi all, Step 1 and Step 2 has just began over on the Step Work board, if you click on the link above, you can come over and join us, I am a newbie and just begining the steps, so would appreciate old and new experiences, Step 1 has been started by Tlcate, while Step 2 by Desirae, and already it has helped me imme...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I have been attending Al-Anon meetings and learning the steps. I know that I have not mastered them because I still get the feelings of controlling, watching and feeling suspicious. My AH is going to wonderful meetings and making important changes in HIS life. I have to become better at managing...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Well, it looks like Friday may be the day I actually get divorced. Its been 3 years, and a source of frustration, anxiety and major procrastination for me. We cannot wait anymore, and the legality of it all will hopeful protect me from some possible ghastly consequences. We are going to sit with our a...

lyndebi · lyndebi

You guys are really helping me. I am not in so much pain now. Maybe because I am so weak my body does not have enough energy to be anxious! Went to doc. I take Darvocet for pain. Well as you may know it is no longer availabe. I am that one person out of ten who breaks down meds very different. doc almost killed me...

Rora · Rora

I've been away from the board for a while and I've missed it terribly. It wasn't long ago that my Mom, who lives 6 hrs away, was told she has terminal cancer and it has been a whirlwind for me ever since. She's been in hospital since mid October, I've gone to see her at every possible chance I can. Trying t...

butterfliesnroses60 · butterfliesnroses60

Hello everyone..I am new here tonight...Tomorrow I go to my first al anon meeting. My son age 30 is an addict (alcohol,speed and cocaine) that I know of. I have talked to him a lot and he refuses to go for help. He refuses to have anything to do with his daughter. wich is good at this time. Two weeks ago he los...

pamommy · pamommy

My AH has been going to AA every day except one day for 11 days since he publicly vomited his problem and ruined Thanksgiving dinner. I know about the AA steps, but not much about the differences in meetings themselves, and our family therapist suggested he go to one that does the steps or the Big Book. ...

ljc · ljc

Hello Everyone, Im Lori , an Alanoner that hasn't been working or applying the program to me very well lately . I have a sponsor ( actually 2 of them, since Im a sober alcoholic thru AA 6 yrs, and my AA sponsor is also Alanon ). Unfortuneately, Im the type of person who either waits till its so bad that I lo...

clep · clep

I went to my male friends house last night to see him for his birthday. My A knows him and the situation well. His mom was there and it was nice to finally meet her. We all sat and chatted and I walked in my door at 2am. I got up and wet to the craft fair with my girlfriend. He was in bed I guess when I came home...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I am on a positive mission. By that I mean that I am looking for the good things in life, in me, in others, in all situations. Fear, trembling, sceptism is waning and in place of those I find courage, steadfastness and joy. And the ratio of bad days to good is turning itself on its head. True, I still get d...

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	Sunday Chair ~ Melted Down today (Preview) Hello, every body. If you were in the meeting this morning, I think I am having a melt down. I aplogize. It seems obvious to me that I cannot chair the meetings anymore bc I do not want to be a police man of what people talk about in the chat room. I am here to work my recovery for me and I have to keep that as m...	kitty	5	756	Dec 14, 2010 by maresie
	Choices (Preview) I was struck today about how the realization that I have CHOICES has been instrumental in my recovery. When I got here, I didn't know I had many choices. Seemed to me like I had either choice A that was bad, or choice B that was even worse. Everything was just so black and white, and I didn't realize that...	White Rabbit	6	622	Dec 14, 2010 by SteppingUp
	How do I not get anxious about a fight? (Preview) This comes up a lot. I don't like to fight with my wife (it never gets physical btw but she can get verbally abusive at times). But, there are times I do things that I know is right or something I have to do and I also know she is going to be mad and possibly start a fight over it. Case in point. Wife hired a lan...	mjhyankees	14	833	Dec 14, 2010 by Jerry F
	Literature (Preview) Was wondering what literature is a 'must have' to read and comprehend and learn from. I have been looking through the site as well as Amazon, and it seems like there is so much I could purchase, but with the holidays I want to start gradually. Thank you. Dawn	youghlake	7	707	Dec 14, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	What to expect at a meeting....also 'novel' attached (Preview) Hey Everyone, I'm fairly new here, I've only posted twice. Let me give you a quick summary of my background. Started dating my A 3 years ago, had NO IDEA he was an A. He seemed to drink 'normally'. After 4 or 5 months in to the relationship he told me that he as an A. ( and had started drinking a month before we...	freewilltoday	5	760	Dec 14, 2010 by ythannah
	Is it just me? (Preview) Is it just me, or does any one else have this problem? I can't seem to get close to my AH. I mean, anything to do with intimacy or any thing remotely close, makes me sick to my stomach. Is this normal?	Evian	13	1043	Dec 13, 2010 by ythannah
	New here, and need some help/advice ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hi! Not sure where to begin, how to start healing, and not get dragged down by this disease. I'm married to an alcoholic, and we have 3 kids. He said he wants to seek treatment, but seems to be putting things off. The fights, the arguments are getting worse and I feel like I'm going crazy. He says he drinks b...	Evian	40	1943	Dec 13, 2010 by youghlake
	Hacked ?????????????? (Preview) When I try to pull up the MIP web site the whole screen has the words "You Have Been Hacked" with a black backgournd. The only way I was able to get on to post this message is by clicking on a PM I received yesterday that I still had in my email and that took me to the site. Is anyone else having thi...	RLC	12	1089	Dec 13, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Acoholic Ex-Father-in-Law with sexual addiction verbally attacks grand-daughter (Preview) Would like some input on a situation and how you 'ol-timer's (and new timer's )might have handled a particular situation. background info: Ex-father-in-law sexually molested my ex-husband from the time he was 3-11. Physically, mentally and emotionally abused him the rest of his childhood. Men...	Overcome	4	1834	Dec 13, 2010 by canadianguy
	Dogs gone bad at Eden (Preview) Gads I was out fixing the bird feeders, did not latch the door, all of a sudden 8 dogs go storming past me. I got the big ones in but the 5 little idiots, ran a mile down my road to the busy road! AND of course two people are just then taking their daily walk. I warn them my little monster dogs got out, the guy says...	lyndebi	6	542	Dec 13, 2010 by Flora123
	Confused at my behavior and the AH's (Preview) Hi everyone... Im confused and would love some ESH So, my AH was sober for 4.5 days on day 5, last night, he drank. Last night I was alone in our room reading while AH had a friend over to watch football, after his AA meeting. So, Im reading away and I hear our dog barking so I open our window to tell him quite,...	danielle0516	12	837	Dec 13, 2010 by freewilltoday
	Difficulty Feeling Connection to Partner (Preview) Hello, I am new to you, I have been following the board for a few weeks. I have a AH who is on his fourth month of sobriety. This is our third round of being sober. We have been together for 14 years. He was sober for a 7 year stretch, began drinking again three years ago, was sober from May to the end of August th...	lilac21	5	894	Dec 13, 2010 by lilac21
	12.05.10 MIP Chatroom Group Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) Chair opened the meeting with the Serenity Prayer. November minutes were approved as written. First item: Meeting schedule. AM MON Shimo TUES xeno WED Iona THURS OPEN FRI Blendergirl SAT OPEN SUN (Spiritual) Kittyoflight PM MON grammie TUES casa WEDS ednaxray THURS (Step/tradition...	casa	1	378	Dec 13, 2010 by kitty
	New Here.....not sure, but I need to get control of my life. (Preview) HI. I'm sure I should go to meetings, with everything I have read tonite. But I can't just yet, maybe I can get the nerve at some point, but right now I pretty much feel like a failure in my life and my marriage. My husband is an alcoholic, in denial. He is of the opinion that he only drinks with me, and only d...	youghlake	12	1091	Dec 13, 2010 by youghlake
	need help in hawaii (Preview) Hello All, I will be in Hawaii (on the big island, east side) for a week for my sister's wedding and will be staying with my entire family. I know I will need alanon to stay sane and will be without a car. Can anyone connect me with folks there? Does anyone here know alanon people in hawaii?? Thanks in adv...	shifra	5	4347	Dec 12, 2010 by Aloha
	There could be an imposter among us (Preview) I feel there is someone on here under false pretenses. I no longer feel safe to post on here, and how sad is that? This has been my home for years to post my feelings about addiction and what's going on in my life and I no longer feel safe anywhere now. My sense of security has been completely stripped, no...	sdisnie	10	975	Dec 12, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Struggling with compassion (Preview) Last night, AH and I went to his friend's house to have dinner and hang out. AH brought a bottle of wine with him. It was a really big bottle of wine. If I had to guess the size of it, I would say it was at least a half gallon bottle of wine, if not more. AH ended up drinking the entire thing by himself, plus se...	kimmy1975	10	1261	Dec 12, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Thank you and update (Preview) Hi all As most of you on here will know I had my son removed from my family home a ten days ago, as he was to move into an apartment with my husband and I was to move back to my marital/family home. My son was furious with me understandably and it was a very difficult time, and I settled down here expecting to be p...	failte	4	483	Dec 12, 2010 by pineapple
	Alcoholism question just out of curiosity (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm wondering at what age your A's became alcoholic? I haven't yet learnt or read much about this. Is there a certain age this disease usually strikes? I have read that there are a variety of factors that contribute to a person being more susceptible to alcoholism (sex, mental health, en...	danielle0516	16	1004	Dec 11, 2010 by failte
	Hitting rock bottom. (Preview) Looking for words of wisdom, hope and encouragement for someone who might have finaly hit rock bottom. She is very depressed right now. My favorite quote so far is "Rock bottom is good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around:	Screaming Barbie	20	3011	Dec 11, 2010 by xeno59
	Painful (Preview) Today started ok. I spent the night at my sister's house bacause I was babysitting my five month old nephew. I love him so much! But the day got harder and harder. I started to feel really nauseated and had a headache. Then I came home to find that the TV I had borrowed from my sister was out of my room. It wasn...	Brookiebabe222	10	793	Dec 11, 2010 by Christy
	Church Tonight (Preview) My church has this gigantic support group. I love going to it. It's so big, they have to split it into a whole bunch of small groups. AH was going too during his recovery period and really opened up during that time. It's based around the Al-anon meetings and/or AA and NA, with the 12 steps and the s...	sdisnie	2	634	Dec 11, 2010 by danielle0516
	Still Practicing (Preview) I havent posted in a while but I do read the posts daily and do appreciate everyones sharing. I have learned so much and I think grown to, these past few months by attending f2f meetings regulary, and reading here and also reading program meditations/writings daily. I still have not found a sponsor bu...	Ginger90	3	659	Dec 11, 2010 by mjhyankees
	Feeling crazy and acting that way! (Preview) Warning... this might not make sense. Got into some crazy behavior last night. I am writing to release it from me. It 3 in the morning, and I feel overwhlemed with anxiety, frustration and anger. Amazing how easy it is to lose my program. And I was doing pretty good too... I will not be getting divo...	Loupiness	8	579	Dec 10, 2010 by tlcate
	Holiday protection plan (Preview) I went to a wonderful meeting last night, the topic was about the upcoming holidays and how we were planning to stay spiritually fit to handle all the ways we could possibly lose our serenity and our connection to our Higher Power. The holidays have been much better for me since I found al-anon, now I...	glad lee	5	1180	Dec 10, 2010 by Madelyn M
	Struggling With Self Care (Preview) I've been sick off and on for a month, and finally went to the doctor on Monday. She diagnosed me with walking pneumonia, and I got the standard "take better care of yourself" lecture from her. I think I am doing a MUCH better job of taking care of myself emotionally, but it is a struggle to do s...	stephaniej	9	845	Dec 10, 2010 by Madelyn M
	Can you help me understand this???? (Preview) Hi everyone! Nice to see ya all as I have been away awhile. Life is good. I did want to get some feed back from you all though. I was abused by my a mom, when she was drunk and now understand also high on valium. This is an issue I thought I had dealt with, but a week ago I went to a party at my sisters hous...	fishinmama	11	773	Dec 10, 2010 by White Rabbit
	scared, in crisis - esh, prayers appreciated (Preview) I can't go into details right now but I am terribly worried about my ah. We stayed at a hotel in town last night, he got very drunk. This morning he went out for coffee, came back drunk an hour later. I decided to come home, told him I was going and I'd be there when he decided to come. I talked to him on the phone...	pineapple	21	850	Dec 10, 2010 by sdisnie
	Protection Order: DENIED (Preview) Just love the law....it's a waste of time and completely pointless. Wasted half my day trying to buy some time to protect my kids mental well being from the sick A......judge tells me to file something to modify/limit parenting time......That's not the point!!!! His parenting time is already limi...	sdisnie	14	1291	Dec 10, 2010 by sdisnie
	having trouble making a decision (Preview) I am having trouble making a decision about my vehicle. The insurance totaled it and gave me a sum of money to keep it and a sum of money to give it to them for salvage. The price difference is $600. It looks as though there is not much internal damage, but you never know about that. I need to take the higher am...	kath	6	673	Dec 10, 2010 by maresie
	Need Help Before I React (Preview) To make a long story short (if I can), back in September, I was out of town for work. My AH, who is also diabetic, decided to drink one day and not eat, while he was in charge of our 7 year old son. While my son was in school all day, he had to come home to his father being totally drunk and having a diabetic low....	helpme08	8	745	Dec 10, 2010 by lyndebi
	hi,xeno (Preview) thanx for the comment,i really needed that i always wondered about others in my faith i always felt like or use to felt like i was the only deseased one there,cause they all knew of my problems,so ty,and no i wasnt offened the least bit,i figured alot of them kept it well hid,and it angrys me when they star...	pattyann1963	2	608	Dec 10, 2010 by lyndebi
	Been asked to be a sponsor (Preview) I was asked the other day to consider being a person's sponsor. I was actually pretty surprised. My sponsor had pointed this person over to me maybe a month or so ago. I told this person that I'd not sponsored anyone before, and that I'm still only officially working my 4th step, but if she's willing to gi...	Aloha	6	681	Dec 10, 2010 by Aloha
	friend ignoring me (Preview) I can scarcely believe what I'm about to report. I'm 32 and I have a friend in my program in grad school who is a couple years younger. he's married; I'm engaged, there has never been any "tension" we've always just been good friends (that's just to clarify it in case you wondered!). Since abo...	Imogen421	17	3337	Dec 10, 2010 by failte
	having trouble getting past the sadness (Preview) Ah was sober for awhile, then started drinking on occasion, lately has been spiraling downward rapidly. I've learned so much here that I'm much better able to handle it. I don't obsess over it. I don't even get angry anymore. I focus on myself and do what <i can to take care of myself. I've given the wh...	pineapple	9	809	Dec 10, 2010 by failte
	Anxiety (Preview) I'm not sure, but I think my entire mind and body is feeling complete overwhelming anxiety. I helped my daughter with her homework when she got home, I've been picking up around the house, ran to get milk and dog food, talked with the kids, going to a meeting tonight, but my head is feeling dizzy, my eyes...	sdisnie	14	1324	Dec 10, 2010 by Evie
	Prayer request (Preview) I just wanted to request some prayers for my family. My AW and I have been trying to both deal with her addiction to alchohol through AA and Alanon. I had been suspicious about her drinking for the last month or so and it finally came to a head last night when she was hiding vodka and drinking it everytime I l...	ntxalanon	7	1011	Dec 9, 2010 by ntxalanon
	Hello (Preview) Hi, this is Kath. Have been gone for a while due to computer malfunction. Just wanted to ask you guys to keep family and I in your prayers. We were involved in a hit and run accident this weekend. No one was severly injured, in which I am thankful. After the accident I did have feelings of guilt and thinkin...	kath	5	740	Dec 9, 2010 by maresie
	Im sorta scarred and dont know what to do? (Preview) I dont know if I should do ( or say ) anything at all. I dont live with an alcoholic. I live in the same town as my Momand she is addicted to prescription pain killers and she has been for a very long time. Currently she is angry with me cuz I set a boundary. A little over 5 yrs ago I confronted my Mom ( via email...	ljc	7	839	Dec 9, 2010 by maryjane
	Wow...what a stressful day....had to call police :( (Preview) Well....I was working at home today, one of my good friends gets a text from the A....he tells her he's happy and should not have come back to his family, now he just wants to see his kids, but has made no attempt other than harrassing me and my friends about it. .......she said she did tell him he needs to g...	sdisnie	9	1005	Dec 9, 2010 by failte
	Update (Preview) This is how insane it is. I just got an email from my mortgage advocate. His job is to do all the paperwork and communicate with the Mortgage company. He is doing it for me as he is a friend of my adoptive dads. The mortgage co. put the date up again. Was told more than once we would have a contract or answer if...	lyndebi	5	762	Dec 9, 2010 by failte
	My First Meeting (Preview) Well I attended my first meeting and was amazed...My sister in-law called me earlier this evening and asked me if I needed her to go with me...I promptly said NO She did not attend and I am greatful...Things have worked out in the end...I will be attending again next week and so on...I felt right away tha...	butterfliesnroses60	9	579	Dec 9, 2010 by butterfliesnroses60
	Still? Really? (Preview) Hey guys. So it's been a while. I am a little stresses because this week is finals week for school and since I missed so much I have to finish a ton of work. In the meantime, The ex A is plauging my thoughts. Every time my mind wanders from schoolwork to him, my stomach twists in knots and I get super anxious. T...	Brookiebabe222	5	860	Dec 9, 2010 by sdisnie
	trying hard (Preview) hi, my a/addict in my life is my now (thank gosh) distant b/f,i got really lonely today and felt like i was actually gonna crack up this morn.so i finnally broke down and called my a b/f,WHAT WAS I THINKING,im trying so hard to just disolve this bad sick and could be dangerous relationship ,i even asked hi...	pattyann1963	4	682	Dec 9, 2010 by Brookiebabe222
	It works if you work it.... (Preview) Last night was interesting to me. Yesterday about half way through the day I could tell my Abf had been drinking and possibly whatever else. Regardless, I of course got a little obsessed. I went into the crazy thinking that us codependents do, which is my way of avoiding what hurts. I get so involve...	sunflowergirl	8	905	Dec 9, 2010 by Peggy7
	Where do I go from here? (Preview) I had been very proud of how well I was working my program but I failed miserably the past few days! It was opening hunting season plus Ah took a week of vacation so I knew it would be alot of drinking and prepared to do my own thing. But instead of being happy that I had made plans (with my 11 year old grandaugh...	sarebaer	8	701	Dec 9, 2010 by Peggy7
	Strange things (Preview) I just got home from my meeting a little while ago. My A hugged me and kissed me. I was very taken back from that. I reciprocated and let him know that even though we are working our own programs I like it when we are still affectionate. It doesn't feel like I am not in a relationship at all and we can at lea...	clep	5	704	Dec 9, 2010 by Peggy7
	short & sweet! (Preview) I will make this short & sweet! Today is a good day! I am grateful & the sun is shining! I remember reading this quote: Make your words sweet; you might have to eat them! I guess that's all for me today! I will keep positive & hang in there! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	4	921	Dec 9, 2010 by Peggy7
	Happy Birthday John! (Preview) Today is John's Birthday! He's 21! Let us all take a moment to wish our founder a great big HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Thank you for all you have done for us. Your impact has been global. There is no telling how many lives you have saved and better by this board alone. I know what you have done for me. Enjoy your bi...	Karilynn	13	729	Dec 8, 2010 by grammie
	Proud & grateful (Preview) Hi everyone Before Thanksgiving, I wrote here about my anxiety over friends who were coming and who are heavy drinkers (they even bring their own beer, so there was no guarantee that my just not having alcohol to serve would keep them from drinking). They don't know my H is an A. I talked the issue ove...	Cloudsea	8	696	Dec 8, 2010 by tiredtonite
	Brand new 12 Steps has started on Step Work Board come on over and join us! (Preview) Hi all, Step 1 and Step 2 has just began over on the Step Work board, if you click on the link above, you can come over and join us, I am a newbie and just begining the steps, so would appreciate old and new experiences, Step 1 has been started by Tlcate, while Step 2 by Desirae, and already it has helped me imme...	failte	3	1784	Dec 8, 2010 by failte
	How to detach and still love your husband? (Preview) I have been attending Al-Anon meetings and learning the steps. I know that I have not mastered them because I still get the feelings of controlling, watching and feeling suspicious. My AH is going to wonderful meetings and making important changes in HIS life. I have to become better at managing...	wifeofalcoholic	9	8956	Dec 8, 2010 by kitty
	Finally... (Preview) Well, it looks like Friday may be the day I actually get divorced. Its been 3 years, and a source of frustration, anxiety and major procrastination for me. We cannot wait anymore, and the legality of it all will hopeful protect me from some possible ghastly consequences. We are going to sit with our a...	Loupiness	8	720	Dec 8, 2010 by danielle0516
	ugh! But doing ok (Preview) You guys are really helping me. I am not in so much pain now. Maybe because I am so weak my body does not have enough energy to be anxious! Went to doc. I take Darvocet for pain. Well as you may know it is no longer availabe. I am that one person out of ten who breaks down meds very different. doc almost killed me...	lyndebi	5	686	Dec 8, 2010 by danielle0516
	Need some ESH... (Preview) I've been away from the board for a while and I've missed it terribly. It wasn't long ago that my Mom, who lives 6 hrs away, was told she has terminal cancer and it has been a whirlwind for me ever since. She's been in hospital since mid October, I've gone to see her at every possible chance I can. Trying t...	Rora	5	995	Dec 7, 2010 by tiredtonite
	Heart is breaking (Preview) Hello everyone..I am new here tonight...Tomorrow I go to my first al anon meeting. My son age 30 is an addict (alcohol,speed and cocaine) that I know of. I have talked to him a lot and he refuses to go for help. He refuses to have anything to do with his daughter. wich is good at this time. Two weeks ago he los...	butterfliesnroses60	8	1124	Dec 7, 2010 by tiredtonite
	How do you know if recovery is real or does it even matter? (Preview) My AH has been going to AA every day except one day for 11 days since he publicly vomited his problem and ruined Thanksgiving dinner. I know about the AA steps, but not much about the differences in meetings themselves, and our family therapist suggested he go to one that does the steps or the Big Book. ...	pamommy	16	1136	Dec 7, 2010 by xeno59
	Ive been lost .. and need this board/group (Preview) Hello Everyone, Im Lori , an Alanoner that hasn't been working or applying the program to me very well lately . I have a sponsor ( actually 2 of them, since Im a sober alcoholic thru AA 6 yrs, and my AA sponsor is also Alanon ). Unfortuneately, Im the type of person who either waits till its so bad that I lo...	ljc	11	747	Dec 7, 2010 by xeno59
	My A is not taking change well (Preview) I went to my male friends house last night to see him for his birthday. My A knows him and the situation well. His mom was there and it was nice to finally meet her. We all sat and chatted and I walked in my door at 2am. I got up and wet to the craft fair with my girlfriend. He was in bed I guess when I came home...	clep	12	699	Dec 7, 2010 by glad lee
	The penny has just dropped - I have met up with that great companion POSITVE SYNERGY. (Preview) I am on a positive mission. By that I mean that I am looking for the good things in life, in me, in others, in all situations. Fear, trembling, sceptism is waning and in place of those I find courage, steadfastness and joy. And the ratio of bad days to good is turning itself on its head. True, I still get d...	Suzannah	3	852	Dec 7, 2010 by maresie
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