Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

amm · amm

Hi, So... I'll explain. I've never been to a meeting or to anything really. I guess because i was embarrased about my mom and her drinking. I've been lurking around her for a while and finally decided to post. So here's my story, sorry if its long... My mom started drinking when i was 17. She had never drin...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

In less than 24 hours I'll be in front of the judge dismissing the restraining order. I'm not nervous about doing that. Nervous of my reaction to seeing ABF there as well... in orange... and after not talking to him for a week. Tomorrow is the start of a whole new healing process....and a difficult on...

RLC · RLC

Almost 6 years ago I attended my first meeting. Eight ladies and me. I was as crazy as we all are when I arrived, and I didn't have a clue. All six of those ladies still attend along with 6 or 7 more. They raised me in the program. One of the ladies in particular took me under her wing. She freely gave me what...

Ruby · Ruby

I let my guards down for a minute when my grandson who is homeless, he and gf, baby's mother, are having problems. He called and asked if he could spend the night and wash clothes. I said yes, reluctantly, tonight only. He also has anger management and drug issues. His mother is also homeless, due t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Even though I have been going to meetings for years, I have anxiety when I leave them! I think it might be because I share personal things that maybe I should share w/ my sponsor or maybe a close friend that I trust. I just feel so anxious because I have so much healing to do & so much time to think these da...

redrobin78 · redrobin78

My husband is an alcoholic and I have been thinking about going to a meeting for a long time but I am nervous about it. Will everyone in the room have been going for a long time? I don't want to feel like the new person...I don't talk to hardly anyone about the things I go through and when I do I cry....and I do n...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

First I want to thank all of you for your immediate support and attention while I learn the ropes as a Newbie. I've been reading through threads a good part of the day and I'm learning so much already. But I have a question.... More often then not I'm seeing families torn apart by this horrible disease. A...

tlynna · tlynna

Any thoughts/ideas on how much of what a person says when they are drunk is true? There have been quite a few repeating themes in what my AH has said. When sober, he has admitted to saying some of these things to make me mad, but I still wonder. And honestly, many of things he says, when drunk, I believe....

odalis · odalis

Hi everyone, I just want to give you a little background about my situation, then I have a very important question. and I would ike to apologize for making this so long. My husband has a drinking problem. I am still not sure if he is an alcoholic because the difference between an abuser and A are still not c...

Iris lover of dogs · Iris lover of dogs

I am new to alanon, but have already felt some relief in not being alone by reading other posts! My husband is an alcoholic (~ 6 years). I have been the major breadwinner for the last 10 years. I have worked full time, in a good job, with benefits, and this allowed us to buy a home in 2009. During this t...

Katy · Katy

Good morning mip, and as ever some extremely useful encouraging and difficult situations highlighting the problems we face daily and the solutions. Our son is almost three weeks living life on his terms, I heard yesterday he was having to leave the place he had been staying, that was great news to me,...

sadnewleywed · sadnewleywed

I was married in March of 2011. I knew my future husband was a drinker but not to the extent I am seeing now. He drinks almost every day and by himself. In his car on the way home chugs alcohol to get a rush. He hides alcohol from me and lies to me constantly about drinking. We are arguing over this and he does no...

mslouise · mslouise

Today, I will no longer beat myself up. If I have a bad moment, it will not take over my day. If I cry, oh well!! These moments happen, and is in no way a reflection on me being a bad or weak person. If I stand up for myself and what I believe in, then I will stand tall and proud. If I look at the big picture,...

Lyne · Lyne

When my A hurts me, or I allow myself to be hurt, my mind gets stuck on the hurt and plays it over and over and over again. Sometimes I can get rid of it in a day, and sometimes it takes a few weeks. I guess I joined the message board 2 or 3 wks ago. My mind raced for at least 2 wks from the last episodes of lying an...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Hi to everyone. This is my first time on the site and from what I've seen I probably should have checked into this sooner. I have yet to go to a meeting, I'm sure it's next on my agenda. My much younger than me boyfriend is an alcoholic. We've been living together for about six months. From the time meet...

chinup · chinup

today im having a real bad day ,trying to fight it away ,ive helped my neibors today helped some now im back home in my own self pity but i know this day will pass also ,feel as though im wanting to have a alanon slip to make my self feel better...not...... it dont work never did never will learned from alanon...

Ruby · Ruby

It's hard for me to keep the focus on me and not react ot my AA/Dr. and her homeless ness, I'm praying for God to remove this pain from my broken heart, I know He will because He's done it before. I've been to 2 f/f meetings this week. The key for me is to stay busy and take care of myself. When I allow myself t...

Thlayli · Thlayli

Hi. I'm new here. I decided to look for an Al-anon site because I've had good experience with other online bulletin boards and also because I just don't know who to talk to IRL. I don't want to go to a real meeting in my community because I work with juveniles and often refer their parents to Al-anon......

Jeff · Jeff

Thanks for all of the support on this issue..... I was provided sole custody today....supervised visits for my AW with no alcohol at any house my kids are at....random alcohol tests for both of us (I volunteered) and the supervisors. Huge sigh of relief for me....its been a long couple of weeks. Thank...

Rip123 · Rip123

I recently called child protective services out of concern for my newphew. My sister has been an addict/alcoholic for 13 years, and now that she has a child, I felt he needed an advocate. I have seen her drive him while drunk, go outside to smoke while he was inside, and she sleeps until about 11 am. He...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

Hi friends...its been over a week since Ive been on here because I have thrown myself into work and anything I can to avoid my feelings. As you probably know, I broke up with my ABF because it got too out of control. Now he is promising the world and telling me how hurt he is. It kills me to see him in so much pai...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

As I ponder over my life as of today, I realize that I cannot change the past but I wish I could alter it sometimes. I still have a lot of guilt over what I did to my sister while on vacation. It seems like whenever I hurt someone in my family, it is her! Even though the past is the PAST I still feel like I am always...

Pushka · Pushka

I'm dealing with some resentment with the situation because of the not driving issue. My husband asked if I would drive him in early to work that usually means 4 hours early. I don't mind he's been really consistent with getting a ride just no one he works with goes in at that hour. So whatever, that me...

Lozza · Lozza

Hi i struggle every day as an ACOH and I pity my parents as well as loathe them at the same time. It is hard

ifa · ifa

I went to a meeting last night, had not been to one for several years. I was exhausted from not sleeping and had to go to work today. So I thought I should stay home last night and go to bed, but knew I wouldn't sleep anyway, especially with the fireworks. I have been feeling desperate because my qualifier s...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

So, many of you know that my dh has been drinking again. First he was doing it secretly, then I started just allowing him to do it in the open(maybe that was because I wanted to keep track? maybe it was because I felt he'd be less inclined to hide it?). So, now he does both. DUH! Stupid move on my part. I...

xdanker · xdanker

I WANT TO ADOPT SOME OF THE WAYS A NORMIE THINKS. IM SO JEALOUS. I DONT REMEMBER HOW TO BE SOBER. I HATE DRINKING BUT I STILL DO IT. NEED TIPS ON HOW TO CHANGE. ITS LIKE I FORGET HOW MUCH I HATE IT WHEN IM SOBER. UNTILL THAT BUZ KICKS IN AND I FEEL SO CRAPPY. ITS A DAILY CYCLE FOR 15 YEARS AT LEAST. PLEASE DONT TEL...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I have been missing my MIP peeps! I have been working way too much, but it is peak season where I live and have to take what I can in the Summer months. My lil one just turned 3 and my divorce will be final in 2 weeks. Life has been very complicated and stressful. I do see my blessings in the midst of my life right...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... Made it back safe and sound from my 1100 mile Road trip on my Harley :0) It was Beautiful, we went around the Finger lakes in NY and there was a lot of Very "Country" settings, which is what I love... And being close to the lakes & water was for sure a Bonus... We didn't get Much time to...

Pushka · Pushka

It's the time of the year that I must call upon my skills as a worm whisperer .. lol. We have a good size garden and this year is our second year of planting a garden. I'm very proud of my AH he has a natural green thumb. We've had different ideas and it's all worked out. I have officially been the proud own...

youfoundme · youfoundme

When I actually apply what I am learning and use it in all my affairs, I can see how much better I am getting. I am about to ask someone to sponsor me...I am so nervous but so excited to move on and move forward. At work, I am at the front desk. Someone above me asked me a few weeks ago if I would be interested i...

Pushka · Pushka

So glad I went, I've been a little flaky being consistent recently. Kids home for the summer it's a little harder to get to f2f meetings. It's nice just being with everyone at home. I am always glad I go. The topic was worry and (irrational) fear. Great shares. :) I'm thankful that I have the opportuni...

alexmaui · alexmaui

..I have been to about 6 different meetings all over my town. I found one i liked but it became so big that there was a feeling of being lost in a crowd. Last night i went to a really badly run meeting...all kinds of people who THOUGHT they were funny....pointless sharing- I walked out. So what do you do if yo...

Norma · Norma

I am suffering alot of anxiety today because I am realizing that I have been involved with the cycle of abuse with my Huband, the healther I get the more I see the cycle and it is scary because my tolerance for abuse is before I started alanon I did not see the cycle so clearly, so I am wondering if me wanting...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

The 4th of July has always been a family day for us. It's one of only two days that my AH closes the bar/restaurant he owns for the day. Since we're now seperated and the kids are all grown and out of the house, he and I had no plans for the day. I called him earlier this week and suggested that we take a ride in th...

oldergal · oldergal

I have figured out because there has never been a healthy relationship between my Ason and me his mother it has really been an obsessive type of relationship, me obsessing about his drinking and livelihood. Now after 13 years I am doing the Alanon program and have detached from him mentally and geogr...

MixedFeelings · MixedFeelings

I'm new to this so bare with me. I just really needed a place to vent. My husband admitted himself into a 10 month rehab program last thursday. He's been a drug addict for about 19 years. It started with heroin in his teens and is now opiates and all kinds of pain killers. I left him 2 years ago, got a divorce,...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi all.... just got back from an awesome week of suntanning and being a tourist in Oahu, with my Mom and my two awesome kids.... It was a wonderful holiday, and I loved the beauty, the heat, and the people.... To all of our residents of Hawaii on MIP, I am officially jealous of your place of residence!! To...

HopeAlive · HopeAlive

Hello My stepson's fiance is a wonderful young lady & I think very highly of her. Yesterday for the 7/4 holiday, they came over for a visit. Around 3p she opened the bottle of wine she brought saying she couldn't wait for dinner. By 8pm she had drank the entire bottle of wine. The more she drank, the l...

lissa · lissa

hi, im new to this sight, my husband is a alcoholic, ive been going to go to a al-anon meeting but i live in a small town, and am afriad od who i will run into, i hope this sight will help me, i need friends that know how i feel. any way well see if im doing this right

ythannah · ythannah

Still struggling with the Higher Power concept here. It occurs to me that maybe I don't know what I'm supposed to be listening to or looking for. I know I can't trust my "inner voice" because that is the one that plays all the old negative tapes from my childhood and tells me I'm stupid, worthl...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I don`t know if any of you remember how I spoke to an officer at one point in time after I heard about my daughter slamming my gd into the wall because she didn`t like her having feelings. I told him how dcf has never been there for this child neither has the school. My daughter seems to have manipulated many...

New Member · oldgraduate

Hello to all. I am oldgraduate and have just joined. I have a long history with a drinker, my husband. He will say he's not an alcoholic, but uses alcohol in a nonconstructive way. I grew up believing all drinking was wrong, he grew up seeing his family drink every day. We have had issues in our marriage of...

Debilyn · Debilyn

And this is the Stinker you wanted me to kiss for you???? Are you a nutcase??? hugs honey. debilyn

jqueen · jqueen

Hi I am new to this. I am a daughter of an alcholic/drug abuser. I have a teen daughter who's father (estranged for 12 years) died of a heroin overdose last year and recently broke up with my boyfriend of a year after figuring out he is most likely an alchoholic. My daughter is doing very well and we have gr...

ifa · ifa

Hi, I have been doing the 12 steps for a long time, maybe 20 years, although I have not been to meetings in the past 10. A lot of the meetings around here closed. Also I got very busy. But the 12 steps and slogans of alanon have been the philosophy I try to live by, and they got me through all kinds of sorrows. I...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Sorry but I feel like I`am just spewing same ole crap over and over. I feel lost and alone. My daughter has been hitting my gd at least once a week lately. Tonite the phone rings late and I didnt get it on time. I called their house back. (btw she has been with me for the past 4-5 days and this is her first nite ba...

cdane · cdane

Hi i'm Christine and i'm writing for some advice I hope someone can help me with I really don't know who to speak to about this. I really admire your organisation and think you do a great thing for all those that don't really have other people to discuss about their loved one's drinking problem. The situ...

jamfu · jamfu

I wrote this to her the other day. Thought I might share it "I was talking with adam yesterday about my life , and his. We spoke for several hours. We both have had a great talk to clear each others' hearts and minds. I can say he is my best true friend. At the end of the day I realized you abused me. Im not...

Kristi136188 · Kristi136188

I've had a VERY rough weekend. I thought it was going to be wonderful because my husband was in town and we were having some extra money. It started on Friday. I took my cat to the vet because he had been pretty sick and not eating. Come to find out my cat was in liver failure and dying. So I had to put him to slee...

DadtoCandE · DadtoCandE

wife has been sober for four months, kids are starting to trust her and they have been so happy having her. She drank at the neighborhood 4th of July party, she was visibly intoxicated. I had to send her home. I haven't and am not going to tell the kids, but they might figure it out. Program is so much ea...

Lacey · Lacey

For several years now my mum has drank heavily however since her divorce with my dad and my sister left for university she seems to just be getting worse. She says she doesnt have a problem and that she just enjoys a drink. i know i am only a child but i know what i see isnt normal behaviour and many family mem...

MDK · MDK

This is what happened last night my husband's old friends came around the house last night.................I am sure most of you know what this means. He got so messed up on uppers and downers it was like seeing him drunk all over again. I guess I need to get what I am feeling off of my chest because I was a l...

youfoundme · youfoundme

Last nights meeting was on Motives. We read from Courage to change on motives and shared about our motives and what we are doing about them. There were some really great shares. It seems that fear, anxiety, past experiences, control, and manipulation were the biggest motives. Mine are so foggy s...

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

This weekend of having no plans is getting me down. No one has called, invited me to do anything or even checked in to ask how my weekend is going. I don't really blame them - I haven't called anyone to see what they're doin either. My husband has been drinking so I can't speak to him or hang out with him. When...

Loupiness · Loupiness

This recovery process is such an inte resting journey. I have a really hard time actively working the program while emeshed in my life, but at the same time I know it is working. Regardless, of me doing it less than well sometimes, it works. Miracles are everywhere, and when I slow down enough to lo...

Pushka · Pushka

We have a little stray that is not really a stray .. lol .. she is a little barn cat. As sweet as you wanna see though. We keep dry food and water out for her and she kills the mice I'm all over that .. lol. She was pregnant, a little young thing, we knew she recently had babies and as crazy as the weather has b...

tommyecat · tommyecat

~ Hum to the tune of the Beverly Hillbillies ~This is a little story about a gal named Deb Who took the best pics and kept evrbody fedThen one day with her MIP family, she came with pics of her canine family. Cute that is, precious souls, priceless family Hey Debilyn, thanks for sharing the smiles. I j...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Just a few reasons I stay sane, or they make me crazy!! daughter, gson, gson in hat, son animals, first AH and me who I lost in '81 Present ex AH lost in 02 my undaughter and unson who moved here from Ca. and I am sooo blessed by them! -- Edited by Debilyn on Saturday 2nd of July 2011 05:57:16 PM

Betterfuture · Betterfuture

So.. I dont know what's going on. I have made an appointment with my doctor next week. I have been feeling numb but anxious and just really strange. I felt like I was okay since we separated... sad, but ok. However, these past few days have been really strange. I just feel so BLAH. IDK how else to explain it...

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	Hi, I'm new and I have questions (Preview) Hi, So... I'll explain. I've never been to a meeting or to anything really. I guess because i was embarrased about my mom and her drinking. I've been lurking around her for a while and finally decided to post. So here's my story, sorry if its long... My mom started drinking when i was 17. She had never drin...	amm	10	645	Jul 10, 2011 by amm
	Nervousness has set in (just letting some things out) (Preview) In less than 24 hours I'll be in front of the judge dismissing the restraining order. I'm not nervous about doing that. Nervous of my reaction to seeing ABF there as well... in orange... and after not talking to him for a week. Tomorrow is the start of a whole new healing process....and a difficult on...	ELEKTRAWMN	4	539	Jul 10, 2011 by xeno59
	It never Dies.......It's Always Lurking (Preview) Almost 6 years ago I attended my first meeting. Eight ladies and me. I was as crazy as we all are when I arrived, and I didn't have a clue. All six of those ladies still attend along with 6 or 7 more. They raised me in the program. One of the ladies in particular took me under her wing. She freely gave me what...	RLC	12	1165	Jul 10, 2011 by Lyne
	Prayers please (Preview) I let my guards down for a minute when my grandson who is homeless, he and gf, baby's mother, are having problems. He called and asked if he could spend the night and wash clothes. I said yes, reluctantly, tonight only. He also has anger management and drug issues. His mother is also homeless, due t...	Ruby	7	556	Jul 10, 2011 by tommyecat
	still anxiety after meetings (Preview) Even though I have been going to meetings for years, I have anxiety when I leave them! I think it might be because I share personal things that maybe I should share w/ my sponsor or maybe a close friend that I trust. I just feel so anxious because I have so much healing to do & so much time to think these da...	Hoot Nanny	4	634	Jul 10, 2011 by tommyecat
	Nervous about going to Al-Anon meeting (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic and I have been thinking about going to a meeting for a long time but I am nervous about it. Will everyone in the room have been going for a long time? I don't want to feel like the new person...I don't talk to hardly anyone about the things I go through and when I do I cry....and I do n...	redrobin78	11	1137	Jul 10, 2011 by flinn66
	Is it possible??? (Preview) First I want to thank all of you for your immediate support and attention while I learn the ropes as a Newbie. I've been reading through threads a good part of the day and I'm learning so much already. But I have a question.... More often then not I'm seeing families torn apart by this horrible disease. A...	ELEKTRAWMN	11	794	Jul 10, 2011 by alexmaui
	How much of what they say when drunk is true? (Preview) Any thoughts/ideas on how much of what a person says when they are drunk is true? There have been quite a few repeating themes in what my AH has said. When sober, he has admitted to saying some of these things to make me mad, but I still wonder. And honestly, many of things he says, when drunk, I believe....	tlynna	10	3475	Jul 10, 2011 by flinn66
	Hi I am new here and have a question (Preview) Hi everyone, I just want to give you a little background about my situation, then I have a very important question. and I would ike to apologize for making this so long. My husband has a drinking problem. I am still not sure if he is an alcoholic because the difference between an abuser and A are still not c...	odalis	8	728	Jul 10, 2011 by flinn66
	how to not be a victim when you are being villainized? (Preview) I am new to alanon, but have already felt some relief in not being alone by reading other posts! My husband is an alcoholic (~ 6 years). I have been the major breadwinner for the last 10 years. I have worked full time, in a good job, with benefits, and this allowed us to buy a home in 2009. During this t...	Iris lover of dogs	10	4820	Jul 9, 2011 by xeno59
	Learnt behaviours! (Preview) Good morning mip, and as ever some extremely useful encouraging and difficult situations highlighting the problems we face daily and the solutions. Our son is almost three weeks living life on his terms, I heard yesterday he was having to leave the place he had been staying, that was great news to me,...	Katy	7	687	Jul 9, 2011 by Ness
	Newlywed with Alcoholic husband (Preview) I was married in March of 2011. I knew my future husband was a drinker but not to the extent I am seeing now. He drinks almost every day and by himself. In his car on the way home chugs alcohol to get a rush. He hides alcohol from me and lies to me constantly about drinking. We are arguing over this and he does no...	sadnewleywed	8	1452	Jul 8, 2011 by redrobin78
	For today love myself (Preview) Today, I will no longer beat myself up. If I have a bad moment, it will not take over my day. If I cry, oh well!! These moments happen, and is in no way a reflection on me being a bad or weak person. If I stand up for myself and what I believe in, then I will stand tall and proud. If I look at the big picture,...	mslouise	8	530	Jul 8, 2011 by Corgi2
	obsessive thinking (Preview) When my A hurts me, or I allow myself to be hurt, my mind gets stuck on the hurt and plays it over and over and over again. Sometimes I can get rid of it in a day, and sometimes it takes a few weeks. I guess I joined the message board 2 or 3 wks ago. My mind raced for at least 2 wks from the last episodes of lying an...	Lyne	8	758	Jul 8, 2011 by Pushka
	Hello. New here. (Preview) Hi to everyone. This is my first time on the site and from what I've seen I probably should have checked into this sooner. I have yet to go to a meeting, I'm sure it's next on my agenda. My much younger than me boyfriend is an alcoholic. We've been living together for about six months. From the time meet...	ELEKTRAWMN	10	604	Jul 8, 2011 by Pushka
	bad day (Preview) today im having a real bad day ,trying to fight it away ,ive helped my neibors today helped some now im back home in my own self pity but i know this day will pass also ,feel as though im wanting to have a alanon slip to make my self feel better...not...... it dont work never did never will learned from alanon...	chinup	2	464	Jul 8, 2011 by youfoundme
	kEEPING THE FOCUS ON ME (Preview) It's hard for me to keep the focus on me and not react ot my AA/Dr. and her homeless ness, I'm praying for God to remove this pain from my broken heart, I know He will because He's done it before. I've been to 2 f/f meetings this week. The key for me is to stay busy and take care of myself. When I allow myself t...	Ruby	4	1224	Jul 8, 2011 by youfoundme
	New here (Preview) Hi. I'm new here. I decided to look for an Al-anon site because I've had good experience with other online bulletin boards and also because I just don't know who to talk to IRL. I don't want to go to a real meeting in my community because I work with juveniles and often refer their parents to Al-anon......	Thlayli	11	478	Jul 8, 2011 by ELEKTRAWMN
	Custody of my boys (Preview) Thanks for all of the support on this issue..... I was provided sole custody today....supervised visits for my AW with no alcohol at any house my kids are at....random alcohol tests for both of us (I volunteered) and the supervisors. Huge sigh of relief for me....its been a long couple of weeks. Thank...	Jeff	11	574	Jul 8, 2011 by RLC
	Don't know what to do (Preview) I recently called child protective services out of concern for my newphew. My sister has been an addict/alcoholic for 13 years, and now that she has a child, I felt he needed an advocate. I have seen her drive him while drunk, go outside to smoke while he was inside, and she sleeps until about 11 am. He...	Rip123	7	706	Jul 8, 2011 by Rip123
	Just need to be here (Preview) Hi friends...its been over a week since Ive been on here because I have thrown myself into work and anything I can to avoid my feelings. As you probably know, I broke up with my ABF because it got too out of control. Now he is promising the world and telling me how hurt he is. It kills me to see him in so much pai...	Corgi2	7	663	Jul 8, 2011 by flopadopilus
	as I ponder... (Preview) As I ponder over my life as of today, I realize that I cannot change the past but I wish I could alter it sometimes. I still have a lot of guilt over what I did to my sister while on vacation. It seems like whenever I hurt someone in my family, it is her! Even though the past is the PAST I still feel like I am always...	Hoot Nanny	3	487	Jul 8, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Collateral Damage .. (vent) (Preview) I'm dealing with some resentment with the situation because of the not driving issue. My husband asked if I would drive him in early to work that usually means 4 hours early. I don't mind he's been really consistent with getting a ride just no one he works with goes in at that hour. So whatever, that me...	Pushka	2	563	Jul 8, 2011 by Katy
	The Black Dog follows me around not sure what this means (Preview) Hi i struggle every day as an ACOH and I pity my parents as well as loathe them at the same time. It is hard	Lozza	3	693	Jul 8, 2011 by flopadopilus
	meeting (Preview) I went to a meeting last night, had not been to one for several years. I was exhausted from not sleeping and had to go to work today. So I thought I should stay home last night and go to bed, but knew I wouldn't sleep anyway, especially with the fireworks. I have been feeling desperate because my qualifier s...	ifa	11	753	Jul 7, 2011 by freeagain
	Help me out here (Preview) So, many of you know that my dh has been drinking again. First he was doing it secretly, then I started just allowing him to do it in the open(maybe that was because I wanted to keep track? maybe it was because I felt he'd be less inclined to hide it?). So, now he does both. DUH! Stupid move on my part. I...	ilovedogs	12	863	Jul 7, 2011 by Iris lover of dogs
	HOW DO NORMIES THINK (Preview) I WANT TO ADOPT SOME OF THE WAYS A NORMIE THINKS. IM SO JEALOUS. I DONT REMEMBER HOW TO BE SOBER. I HATE DRINKING BUT I STILL DO IT. NEED TIPS ON HOW TO CHANGE. ITS LIKE I FORGET HOW MUCH I HATE IT WHEN IM SOBER. UNTILL THAT BUZ KICKS IN AND I FEEL SO CRAPPY. ITS A DAILY CYCLE FOR 15 YEARS AT LEAST. PLEASE DONT TEL...	xdanker	12	1315	Jul 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Been too busy! (Preview) I have been missing my MIP peeps! I have been working way too much, but it is peak season where I live and have to take what I can in the Summer months. My lil one just turned 3 and my divorce will be final in 2 weeks. Life has been very complicated and stressful. I do see my blessings in the midst of my life right...	flopadopilus	4	563	Jul 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Made it Back :) (Preview) Welp... Made it back safe and sound from my 1100 mile Road trip on my Harley :0) It was Beautiful, we went around the Finger lakes in NY and there was a lot of Very "Country" settings, which is what I love... And being close to the lakes & water was for sure a Bonus... We didn't get Much time to...	Jozie	6	585	Jul 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Worm Whisperer (Preview) It's the time of the year that I must call upon my skills as a worm whisperer .. lol. We have a good size garden and this year is our second year of planting a garden. I'm very proud of my AH he has a natural green thumb. We've had different ideas and it's all worked out. I have officially been the proud own...	Pushka	9	645	Jul 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Every day is a winding road (Preview) When I actually apply what I am learning and use it in all my affairs, I can see how much better I am getting. I am about to ask someone to sponsor me...I am so nervous but so excited to move on and move forward. At work, I am at the front desk. Someone above me asked me a few weeks ago if I would be interested i...	youfoundme	5	400	Jul 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Meeting tonight .. (Preview) So glad I went, I've been a little flaky being consistent recently. Kids home for the summer it's a little harder to get to f2f meetings. It's nice just being with everyone at home. I am always glad I go. The topic was worry and (irrational) fear. Great shares. :) I'm thankful that I have the opportuni...	Pushka	2	489	Jul 7, 2011 by youfoundme
	Disappointed in f2f meetings (Preview) ..I have been to about 6 different meetings all over my town. I found one i liked but it became so big that there was a feeling of being lost in a crowd. Last night i went to a really badly run meeting...all kinds of people who THOUGHT they were funny....pointless sharing- I walked out. So what do you do if yo...	alexmaui	11	692	Jul 7, 2011 by youfoundme
	cycle of abuse, or dry drunk (Preview) I am suffering alot of anxiety today because I am realizing that I have been involved with the cycle of abuse with my Huband, the healther I get the more I see the cycle and it is scary because my tolerance for abuse is before I started alanon I did not see the cycle so clearly, so I am wondering if me wanting...	Norma	5	1042	Jul 7, 2011 by hawaiilover
	Working My Program- One Day at a Time (Preview) The 4th of July has always been a family day for us. It's one of only two days that my AH closes the bar/restaurant he owns for the day. Since we're now seperated and the kids are all grown and out of the house, he and I had no plans for the day. I called him earlier this week and suggested that we take a ride in th...	Green Eyes	7	713	Jul 6, 2011 by Green Eyes
	FEELING BLAU, NO ENERGY, NO PASSION (Preview) I have figured out because there has never been a healthy relationship between my Ason and me his mother it has really been an obsessive type of relationship, me obsessing about his drinking and livelihood. Now after 13 years I am doing the Alanon program and have detached from him mentally and geogr...	oldergal	8	625	Jul 6, 2011 by Ness
	New here - needed to vent (Preview) I'm new to this so bare with me. I just really needed a place to vent. My husband admitted himself into a 10 month rehab program last thursday. He's been a drug addict for about 19 years. It started with heroin in his teens and is now opiates and all kinds of pain killers. I left him 2 years ago, got a divorce,...	MixedFeelings	11	756	Jul 6, 2011 by stephaniej
	aloha (Preview) Hi all.... just got back from an awesome week of suntanning and being a tourist in Oahu, with my Mom and my two awesome kids.... It was a wonderful holiday, and I loved the beauty, the heat, and the people.... To all of our residents of Hawaii on MIP, I am officially jealous of your place of residence!! To...	canadianguy	9	1008	Jul 6, 2011 by stephaniej
	Should I be concerned about her drinking? (Preview) Hello My stepson's fiance is a wonderful young lady & I think very highly of her. Yesterday for the 7/4 holiday, they came over for a visit. Around 3p she opened the bottle of wine she brought saying she couldn't wait for dinner. By 8pm she had drank the entire bottle of wine. The more she drank, the l...	HopeAlive	5	608	Jul 6, 2011 by HopeAlive
	hello (Preview) hi, im new to this sight, my husband is a alcoholic, ive been going to go to a al-anon meeting but i live in a small town, and am afriad od who i will run into, i hope this sight will help me, i need friends that know how i feel. any way well see if im doing this right	lissa	5	560	Jul 6, 2011 by xeno59
	How does HP answer/guide you? (Preview) Still struggling with the Higher Power concept here. It occurs to me that maybe I don't know what I'm supposed to be listening to or looking for. I know I can't trust my "inner voice" because that is the one that plays all the old negative tapes from my childhood and tells me I'm stupid, worthl...	ythannah	14	662	Jul 6, 2011 by Jennifer
	Follow up to my previous post about daughter & grandaughter (Preview) I don`t know if any of you remember how I spoke to an officer at one point in time after I heard about my daughter slamming my gd into the wall because she didn`t like her having feelings. I told him how dcf has never been there for this child neither has the school. My daughter seems to have manipulated many...	Samsgram	7	582	Jul 6, 2011 by youfoundme
	New Member (Preview) Hello to all. I am oldgraduate and have just joined. I have a long history with a drinker, my husband. He will say he's not an alcoholic, but uses alcohol in a nonconstructive way. I grew up believing all drinking was wrong, he grew up seeing his family drink every day. We have had issues in our marriage of...	oldgraduate	6	716	Jul 6, 2011 by Jadie
	For Otie (Preview) And this is the Stinker you wanted me to kiss for you???? Are you a nutcase??? hugs honey. debilyn	Debilyn	0	413	Jul 6, 2011 by Debilyn
	New to any kind of support (Preview) Hi I am new to this. I am a daughter of an alcholic/drug abuser. I have a teen daughter who's father (estranged for 12 years) died of a heroin overdose last year and recently broke up with my boyfriend of a year after figuring out he is most likely an alchoholic. My daughter is doing very well and we have gr...	jqueen	4	452	Jul 5, 2011 by jqueen
	Grief (Preview) Hi, I have been doing the 12 steps for a long time, maybe 20 years, although I have not been to meetings in the past 10. A lot of the meetings around here closed. Also I got very busy. But the 12 steps and slogans of alanon have been the philosophy I try to live by, and they got me through all kinds of sorrows. I...	ifa	11	786	Jul 5, 2011 by ifa
	Daughter hit my grandaughter again (Preview) Sorry but I feel like I`am just spewing same ole crap over and over. I feel lost and alone. My daughter has been hitting my gd at least once a week lately. Tonite the phone rings late and I didnt get it on time. I called their house back. (btw she has been with me for the past 4-5 days and this is her first nite ba...	Samsgram	8	695	Jul 5, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Really would appreciate some advice partner recovering but talking of drinking someday again (Preview) Hi i'm Christine and i'm writing for some advice I hope someone can help me with I really don't know who to speak to about this. I really admire your organisation and think you do a great thing for all those that don't really have other people to discuss about their loved one's drinking problem. The situ...	cdane	5	593	Jul 5, 2011 by Pushka
	I think i found step 1 (Preview) I wrote this to her the other day. Thought I might share it "I was talking with adam yesterday about my life , and his. We spoke for several hours. We both have had a great talk to clear each others' hearts and minds. I can say he is my best true friend. At the end of the day I realized you abused me. Im not...	jamfu	3	442	Jul 5, 2011 by jamfu
	step 2....being VERY tested (Preview) I've had a VERY rough weekend. I thought it was going to be wonderful because my husband was in town and we were having some extra money. It started on Friday. I took my cat to the vet because he had been pretty sick and not eating. Come to find out my cat was in liver failure and dying. So I had to put him to slee...	Kristi136188	5	548	Jul 5, 2011 by xeno59
	sad (Preview) wife has been sober for four months, kids are starting to trust her and they have been so happy having her. She drank at the neighborhood 4th of July party, she was visibly intoxicated. I had to send her home. I haven't and am not going to tell the kids, but they might figure it out. Program is so much ea...	DadtoCandE	5	647	Jul 5, 2011 by xeno59
	my mum is an alcoholic, i cant watch her do this anymore (Preview) For several years now my mum has drank heavily however since her divorce with my dad and my sister left for university she seems to just be getting worse. She says she doesnt have a problem and that she just enjoys a drink. i know i am only a child but i know what i see isnt normal behaviour and many family mem...	Lacey	19	2577	Jul 5, 2011 by Debilyn
	getting it off of my chest (Preview) This is what happened last night my husband's old friends came around the house last night.................I am sure most of you know what this means. He got so messed up on uppers and downers it was like seeing him drunk all over again. I guess I need to get what I am feeling off of my chest because I was a l...	MDK	6	481	Jul 5, 2011 by youfoundme
	Motives, what are yours and what are you doing about it? (Preview) Last nights meeting was on Motives. We read from Courage to change on motives and shared about our motives and what we are doing about them. There were some really great shares. It seems that fear, anxiety, past experiences, control, and manipulation were the biggest motives. Mine are so foggy s...	youfoundme	10	872	Jul 5, 2011 by oldgraduate
	Tired (Preview) This weekend of having no plans is getting me down. No one has called, invited me to do anything or even checked in to ask how my weekend is going. I don't really blame them - I haven't called anyone to see what they're doin either. My husband has been drinking so I can't speak to him or hang out with him. When...	Mlkiss75	13	709	Jul 4, 2011 by Pushka
	funny how that works... (Preview) This recovery process is such an inte resting journey. I have a really hard time actively working the program while emeshed in my life, but at the same time I know it is working. Regardless, of me doing it less than well sometimes, it works. Miracles are everywhere, and when I slow down enough to lo...	Loupiness	8	793	Jul 4, 2011 by Pushka
	Nice news .. (Preview) We have a little stray that is not really a stray .. lol .. she is a little barn cat. As sweet as you wanna see though. We keep dry food and water out for her and she kills the mice I'm all over that .. lol. She was pregnant, a little young thing, we knew she recently had babies and as crazy as the weather has b...	Pushka	6	546	Jul 4, 2011 by Pushka
	For Debilyn (Preview) ~ Hum to the tune of the Beverly Hillbillies ~This is a little story about a gal named Deb Who took the best pics and kept evrbody fedThen one day with her MIP family, she came with pics of her canine family. Cute that is, precious souls, priceless family Hey Debilyn, thanks for sharing the smiles. I j...	tommyecat	2	1083	Jul 4, 2011 by peacewithin
	What keeps YOU sane??? (Preview) Just a few reasons I stay sane, or they make me crazy!! daughter, gson, gson in hat, son animals, first AH and me who I lost in '81 Present ex AH lost in 02 my undaughter and unson who moved here from Ca. and I am sooo blessed by them! -- Edited by Debilyn on Saturday 2nd of July 2011 05:57:16 PM	Debilyn	16	845	Jul 4, 2011 by All I can be
	Numb (Preview) So.. I dont know what's going on. I have made an appointment with my doctor next week. I have been feeling numb but anxious and just really strange. I felt like I was okay since we separated... sad, but ok. However, these past few days have been really strange. I just feel so BLAH. IDK how else to explain it...	Betterfuture	11	789	Jul 4, 2011 by tommyecat
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