Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

clep · clep

My sister is an ACOA as am I. I have been fortunate to have been in the rooms of Al-anon for a couple of years and many years of work on myself before that. My charachteristics have almost gone now from my A childhood and father. My sister who lives with me is a basket case however. She has the classic symp...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

There is a tear in my coffee some days. I am not really that sad but I do have my moments! I realized after my last post that I can be a real downer. I feel this is true especially when I talk about not having kids. I guess I still have to live in acceptance at 45. I just wish that I could over my regrets--medicati...

Doozy · Doozy

I feel really good about my progress over the last year and especially since finding Alanon a few months ago. It was definitely the right time for me! I am going through the steps and attending face to face meetings and doing nearly everything I'm "supposed" to do except I still haven't foun...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Hell hello. It's been a looong time since I last logged in, but I;m happy to report that overall I'm doing Ok and so is my family. My husband is almost a year sober, strong, and my three year old is just as amazing as ever. Right now I;m feeling a bit overwhelmed by my AH's family. My husband has recently bega...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Betsy the wonder dog is sick, Parvo no less. Caught it early, I hope, had a shot but..... well, she's got it. Pretty sick dog, still alert right now, they said its gonna get worse before it gets better, lots of bodily fluids to clean up - grin and bear it because, well, she's my baby. I have IV fluids to give h...

oldgraduate · oldgraduate

I have a question about the codependence of an Alcoholic. And my own detachment too. I noticed that this past weekend, my AH and I had a good weekend but he was very needy. I spent all day Saturday away visiting my daughter and then Sunday he was so clingy and over-attentive. I have a hard time acceptin...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Hi yesterday i shared a moment of realisation for me that I was being very silly about finding a lighter in the bin. Such a little trigger. As the afternoon progressed and I went home, I wanted it to continue. I deliberately did not want to know or even have an idea if he had been smoking or not. If someth...

MDK · MDK

I know it has been a while but things have been going on that I can not control. My husband lost his job last week! I have been on a rollercoaster of emotions. I am so thankful for my alanon and higher power during these times. Last night I got very angry at my daughter because she was whining and complaining...

amills4294 · amills4294

I did it again, I let the focus leave me. My spouse and I are separated and have been for a year. I just in the past 2 weeks started to go to Al-anon (I'm an ACOA). I've been to 5 meetings in 9 days. All very helpful. I'm just getting my feet wet. My spouse very much wants us back together - I'm not sure that i...

youfoundme · youfoundme

You Found Me...Thanks alanon for finding me and loving me when I didn't know I could even fathom loving myself. I am feeling good lately, I am working on me, I am going to meetings and staying on my side of the street. Each day I wake up to a new day to cherish. I don't let things bother me like they used to....

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Good morning (830 am Tuesday here) I had a reminder of my over exaggerated responses this morning. To prelude this conversation, I have not checked his drawer since my slip up how ever long ago when I looked. I have stopped counting or worrying about if I am looking or not, I somehow.... just stopped??...

oldgraduate · oldgraduate

I could very easily get down and out today and have had my moments, but I am going to chose to take a different approach. I think my HP has great changes in store for me because: my car got wrecked, our Air Conditioning Went Out at the house (and I live in Texas) and my renters in our rent house just told us...

Anne01 · Anne01

My father was an alcoholic, my grandfather was also, I have 3 brothers who are alcoholic. One is sober, one is actively drinking, and the other is in rehab., for the 4th time, I think it is, I've lost count. He is 44 and been in jail for a total of about 10 years. He has driven without insurance and a license...

Hoping for Happiness · Hoping for Happiness

So, I told my AH last night that I want a D. He thought I would change my mind after "sleeping on it." When I didn't he tried to blame me and then decided to ask what he could do to "salvage" our marriage and keep our family together. I told him that if he goes into a treatment program...

Hoping for Happiness · Hoping for Happiness

I am doing my best at working my own recovery and not my AH's (most days). However, I have one thing that I am not sure how to handle. We have 2 small children (6 and 2) and I continue to find hidden bottles of vodka. I don't want to pour them out and move on, because they aren't my bottles to pour out. So I ha...

KLotus · KLotus

Hello Again Everyone :) Ok, so my AH is two months out of inpatient treatment. He's been unbearable, the majority of the time. He's so angry, and mostly tries to pick fights with and blame me. Aside from the recent crisis that built over a few weeks of dwindling AA meetings - is this still normal? I was...

onewholovesrock · onewholovesrock

Hello everyone. I've been reading all your post for a couple weeks now. Great stuff. I Just signed up. I've been to two meetings now. I've just been through the worst 2 yrs of my life. I'm miserable. Not sure if Al Anon is for me or not. I'm in a relationship to an addict. Also I strongly believe she is me...

parentX2 · parentX2

I hope this is the place for my thoughts. I have been reading posts for awhile now and am very grateful for them. I have also started going to meetings. My problem is that I feel so bad. My AH has had many surgeries and claims to still be in pain from them but the drs tell him there is no reason for the pain a...

oldgraduate · oldgraduate

Why do I allow my AH to make me feel guilty when Im doing nothing wrong? I just got the email and phone call from the AH wondering what I had been up to. I told him working, but that wasnt good enough. I havent been going home at lunch because it frees me up to just read, run errands or relax and do whatever I w...

odalis · odalis

Hi everyone. I asked my AH to leave a few days ago. He needs a few weeks to transition and clean out his father's place so he can move in with him. I still love him, that is not the reason I asked him to leave. Obviously, I asked him to leave because I do not want him drunk around my kids and my 15yo daughter is bei...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

In the last 2 weeks, my wife has been as healthy as I have ever seen her. She's been on new anti-depressants and they really seem to be making a difference. I have found that in that time, I have really let go of the concept of detaching. I guess I didn't feel the need to, because things were good. So I found my...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

HI I met with an Al Anon lady today for lunch. I bought her lunch as she took the time off her day to meet wtih me. I cried.. as I have been for about 12 hours now on and off. She confirmed there are no day time meetings in the NT for Al Anon but there is a steps meeting on a Saturday afternoon. The same people go...

amills4294 · amills4294

Hello all - I'm relatively new to Al-anon and just one day on this board. I've attended 4 face-to-face meetings and am always surprised and grateful for what I hear. I am an adult child of a line of alcoholics on my mom's side. I've always felt different and like I didn't fit in. It wasn't until I unexpe...

KLotus · KLotus

Hi Everyone, The weekend was at least not spend in crisis. We're still going to have 2 marriage counseling appmts this week. My husband did argue with me a little, but not screaming, throwing, etc. I could tell he was trying to use restraint. I recently took a job that offers a lot of future opportun...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Why do I bother doing all of this?? Had a great weekend. I asked him this morning what he planned on doing.. he didn't know. I had things I wnated to do. So I did them. I said to him this morning "If you are planning on havinga smoke, I just want to say, and I am not being nasty, this would be the 8th we...

Jozie · Jozie

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odalis · odalis

Hi. Does anyone know who I can contact for the Alateen message board or meetings here on MIP. I went on the Alateen page, but the posts seem outdated. I thought I had read soemthing about it moving, and I am not sure about the chat meetings. My daughter showed a lot of interest last night about it and I was tr...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone been to a covention today it was great, bit thin on the ground but shares were so good from both fellowships. My Abf is active again after 9 months and i know there is nothing i can do its his journey. At the convention I think I came to the decision that he has so much work to do and I am just a pres...

surfingmaestro · surfingmaestro

My sponsor thought it might be a good idea if I could get others' opinion and experiences on how they dealt with step 9. I was hoping I could get some insight on how some of you went about making "direct" amends to people you couldn't or shouldn't make amends to. There are people I shouldn't m...

Goodtillitsbad · Goodtillitsbad

I set a boundary that I didn't feel healthy living with an active A in my house with our very young son. I said if my AH started again then I was done, as in the D word. This was 2 1/2 months ago and now he's back at it, although still clearly in denial. He's now begging, saying he'll go to AA meetings (yup heard i...

kay115 · kay115

So, I told my AH I wanted to seperate and my plan has been put into action. Contacted my boss, dropped all my classes at school and arrangements have been made for me to move out and back to a different city where I will stay with my parents. It is not ideal, my schooling is being put on hold and my life feels li...

kay115 · kay115

Oh my gosh. Things just got really really bad here. My AH just came home drunk and was yelling at me in regards to our dog. He says that I am not taking the dog when I move out, but legally, I am the one who adopted the dog and I plan on keeping him. He says that he is going to take the dog somewhere (like to a friend...

kay115 · kay115

Well, I finally brought out the D word today....Divorce. The craziest part to me is that I really mean it. Either things take a dramatic change in the next week or two or I want out. Yes, I know that I cannot control my AH, but I can control how much I let myself be affected by all of this, and staying in a marri...

Betsy B · Betsy B

Hello all, I've been lurking so to speak since April. My geographical circumstances changed temporarily then and I was no longer able to get to my long loved face to face meetings. So that's how I found MIP. I just wanted to say hello and let you all know that, since May, every morning when I wake, I grab...

odalis · odalis

I just have to share this...For months I have been asking God to send me a sign that what I am doing is right, to lead me in the right direction, to help me understand and be compassionate to my AH, to even send me a dream that I am not crazy and I am allowing him to do his will. I think my sign has come!! haha I ask...

pen · pen

Not really sure how to start this. Definitely have been an enabler by trying to deny there is a problem or being scared to confront the problem (or any number of other excuses). I accidently stumbled into an AA meeting about 2 years ago and realized at that point that my wife is not only an alcoholic but...

odalis · odalis

Hi all. I hope everyone is doing well tonight. I have a question about responding to outsider's comments. By that I mean people who kinda know me, but who I am not friendly with and know nothing about. they are aquaintances, neighbors, etc. One guy is the one who works at the corner store. Way back when I...

Katy · Katy

I went out for a meal with a friend from a now disfunct face to face, one of my non alanon friends is just going through a real sad crisis, her happy marriage of thirty years has been blown apart, by infedilitey on her husbands part, this friend has been through thick and thin with me, and I would go as far as...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

HI guys For many years I have hated mornings..... I often wake with a feeling of dread and anxiety and hate who I am. I wake up feeling fat and ugly and generally angry for just waking up!!!! I recently have been doing lots of work on this about the last 5 months. I have been looking into why. I think one o...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

There were children in a cafeteria line. The nun put a note on the apples--don't eat more than one; God is watching! A kid put a note on the cookies--eat all you want, God is watching the Apples! I got a kick out of this one! I hope you got a good laugh! Kathleen By the way, I shortened the joke!

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am still hangin' in as I try to make some sense of my life. I am getting better at getting over my past but have moments; many of them where I am not sure! I keep the focus on me as much as possible. Yesterday I realized that I really have no one to answer to except myself & that the responsibility reside...

GreenK · GreenK

Ok,I will just type it out and not think too much or over complicate my confusion. I don't know if this will make much sense given my brain today. For those in relationship with a drinker who is also verbally mean, critical, and dismissive, does it represent a double whammy? Does anyone else fantasi...

youfoundme · youfoundme

Has anyone ever read her book? I saw it on amazon and I was wondering what it was like. Also what about any other obscure alanon titles I may find there? I already have "As we understood..." which I love! Is the Dilema of the alcoholic marriage a good read? Also any other great speakers t...

odalis · odalis

ok, so my 15 year old has her friend over, and the 7 year old does too. They are playing Wii, AH was drinking, and I tell everyone I am going out be back in a little while. AH was on teh phone during this so he was not paying attention. I turned my phone volume all the way down to not be interrupted during the meet...

Overcome · Overcome

I'm still having computer as well as financial problems, so don't have access to my OP scripts for Sunday nights meeting and will be unable to chair the meeting. I hope someone will step up to the post and chair for me. The meeting is at 6 p.m. EST Sunday evening and usually runs for an hour and a half. Thank...

Overcome · Overcome

hi MIP family! My computer went down this morning and it is in the shop. I need someone to cover for me for Sunday nights meeting (OP's). I will come back in Saturday to the library and check to make sure it is covered, but I can't run a meeting from the library! lol Because of anonomity. I will hopefully hav...

rara avis · rara avis

Hey everybody, Just wanted you to know that I don't have a sponsor of f2f close-ish connections yet, so I'm writing here. I do have some wise friends and a counselor, but any input would be invaluable! This weekend I planned a loose ultimatum w/my RA. Basically to take his meds regularly, take care o...

parfait624 · parfait624

It's been a few months since my A-BF broke up with me for what seems to be the 1000th time. I have gone through feelings of anxiety, saddness, betrayal, anger, and frustration. We broke up for a year and a half the first time. He was on his sixth step in AA when we got back together he had been sober from al...

GreenK · GreenK

I took some time to read some posts and replies and I'm already calming down. I was headed in a very bad direction about an hour ago and was in a pretty bad state of mind but I was able to pay attention to my thoughts. They were, "Really? Is this all there is? Are you kidding me?" And, "Wh...

oldgraduate · oldgraduate

I am frustrated with myself for slipping. Or maybe I am just frustrated. I just need to vent so stop reading if you arent up to hearing my venting! I was doing so well with focusing on self, not taking it personally, and staying centered. Then the AH had a couple days of interrogating me and then sile...

mslouise · mslouise

I have to remember to just breath today.......cause things have been great. My life has been great. Things with my new wonderful boyfriend are beyond my wildest dreams of what a man could be. Me....I'm stronger, Better, but I'm still a work in progress. I started to see a counselor about the speci...

sirchef · sirchef

Since we had such fun with acceptence here's another one Ican't get past. Hope we all need it to get through this mess. But isn't hope just another projection of our idea of reality? Or do we really just hope for something other than present reality and take what ever that may be? Is hope a projection?...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

STrange title but I never know what to call things. I had a moment yesterday where I realised that alot of my thinking is certainly 'past' based. I had a birthday banner up for a party that I had in April. Didn't want it taken down as I liked it. It was strung up withsticky tape between two poles which are c...

xeno59 · xeno59

I know I don't post to often although I love reading the posts and reply (causiously lol) when I think I may have something to offer and I attend our morning meetings on a daily basis. Should someone have told me 3 years ago that any online support group would have any benefit to me what so ever I would have...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I have to remember to "let go" when someone is doing something I don't like. I know that people are all individuals and that they can do as they wish, just as I do. When I let go of out comes, I can continue to live in this very moment instead of worrying and projecting about what "might&q...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

I need to share what is on my heart. The grief that I thought I had laid to rest has resurfaced this year. Here's my story: When my dad, due to his drinking, mental illness, and abusive behavior, became too unstable and unsafe for us to be in contact with, we cut our ties and lost touch with him for many yea...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Well the past few days have been interesting to say the least. The man that was released on Wednesday was not the man that went in their a month ago. I'm in shock. Completely. He's sweet, kind and giving. He's not starting arguements and he's asking to talk to me about things. He's been to an AA meeti...

KLotus · KLotus

Today has been very trying. I feel that if I don't reach out in times like this that I will feel isolated. So, today I spoke with my husband while at work, asking him to pick up our daughter because I may not be out in time, and it saves her the misery of having to be in 1.5 hours of traffic, which has been tou...

Gailey · Gailey

I wanted to post some of the good things that are happening in my life regarding my A son or should I really say sons. Yes, my son that is in the military and lives in Japan with his family has issues with alcohol too. I really wanted to post something so I could show off my new grandson born in Japan on 8/10 whi...

Superhero No More · Superhero No More

I'm somewhat shocked. Wait, more than somewhat. It's more like struck by lightning, but not as "fry your flesh"-ey. I've been giving all of this my all. The advice, the steps, the traditions. . . slowly (As slowly and thoughtfully as I can). I've just been given a glimmer of hope, I think, th...

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	I am not sure saying something would be of use. (Preview) My sister is an ACOA as am I. I have been fortunate to have been in the rooms of Al-anon for a couple of years and many years of work on myself before that. My charachteristics have almost gone now from my A childhood and father. My sister who lives with me is a basket case however. She has the classic symp...	clep	3	425	Aug 23, 2011 by Doozy
	tear in my coffee! (Preview) There is a tear in my coffee some days. I am not really that sad but I do have my moments! I realized after my last post that I can be a real downer. I feel this is true especially when I talk about not having kids. I guess I still have to live in acceptance at 45. I just wish that I could over my regrets--medicati...	Hoot Nanny	8	683	Aug 23, 2011 by Doozy
	In the trenches of step 4! (Preview) I feel really good about my progress over the last year and especially since finding Alanon a few months ago. It was definitely the right time for me! I am going through the steps and attending face to face meetings and doing nearly everything I'm "supposed" to do except I still haven't foun...	Doozy	8	622	Aug 23, 2011 by Doozy
	Overwhelmed by family. (Preview) Hell hello. It's been a looong time since I last logged in, but I;m happy to report that overall I'm doing Ok and so is my family. My husband is almost a year sober, strong, and my three year old is just as amazing as ever. Right now I;m feeling a bit overwhelmed by my AH's family. My husband has recently bega...	Priscilla83	4	520	Aug 23, 2011 by Priscilla83
	Betsy is sick (Preview) Betsy the wonder dog is sick, Parvo no less. Caught it early, I hope, had a shot but..... well, she's got it. Pretty sick dog, still alert right now, they said its gonna get worse before it gets better, lots of bodily fluids to clean up - grin and bear it because, well, she's my baby. I have IV fluids to give h...	likemyheart	10	677	Aug 23, 2011 by pineapple
	codependence and detachment - the roller coaster ride (Preview) I have a question about the codependence of an Alcoholic. And my own detachment too. I noticed that this past weekend, my AH and I had a good weekend but he was very needy. I spent all day Saturday away visiting my daughter and then Sunday he was so clingy and over-attentive. I have a hard time acceptin...	oldgraduate	7	617	Aug 23, 2011 by rrib
	continued it into the evening (Preview) Hi yesterday i shared a moment of realisation for me that I was being very silly about finding a lighter in the bin. Such a little trigger. As the afternoon progressed and I went home, I wanted it to continue. I deliberately did not want to know or even have an idea if he had been smoking or not. If someth...	Lindaoakford	3	407	Aug 23, 2011 by RLC
	Keeping The Serenity (Preview) I know it has been a while but things have been going on that I can not control. My husband lost his job last week! I have been on a rollercoaster of emotions. I am so thankful for my alanon and higher power during these times. Last night I got very angry at my daughter because she was whining and complaining...	MDK	5	1369	Aug 23, 2011 by MDK
	"keep the focus on you" - a tool that is vital yet so elusive sometimes... (Preview) I did it again, I let the focus leave me. My spouse and I are separated and have been for a year. I just in the past 2 weeks started to go to Al-anon (I'm an ACOA). I've been to 5 meetings in 9 days. All very helpful. I'm just getting my feet wet. My spouse very much wants us back together - I'm not sure that i...	amills4294	3	420	Aug 23, 2011 by Jerry F
	Its me :) (Preview) You Found Me...Thanks alanon for finding me and loving me when I didn't know I could even fathom loving myself. I am feeling good lately, I am working on me, I am going to meetings and staying on my side of the street. Each day I wake up to a new day to cherish. I don't let things bother me like they used to....	youfoundme	11	546	Aug 23, 2011 by canadianguy
	what a small trigger for a big response (Preview) Good morning (830 am Tuesday here) I had a reminder of my over exaggerated responses this morning. To prelude this conversation, I have not checked his drawer since my slip up how ever long ago when I looked. I have stopped counting or worrying about if I am looking or not, I somehow.... just stopped??...	Lindaoakford	13	695	Aug 23, 2011 by oldgraduate
	HP is really shaking things up (Preview) I could very easily get down and out today and have had my moments, but I am going to chose to take a different approach. I think my HP has great changes in store for me because: my car got wrecked, our Air Conditioning Went Out at the house (and I live in Texas) and my renters in our rent house just told us...	oldgraduate	5	468	Aug 23, 2011 by oldgraduate
	I need help with a problem, please! (Preview) My father was an alcoholic, my grandfather was also, I have 3 brothers who are alcoholic. One is sober, one is actively drinking, and the other is in rehab., for the 4th time, I think it is, I've lost count. He is 44 and been in jail for a total of about 10 years. He has driven without insurance and a license...	Anne01	9	680	Aug 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	Hooray for me!! (Preview) So, I told my AH last night that I want a D. He thought I would change my mind after "sleeping on it." When I didn't he tried to blame me and then decided to ask what he could do to "salvage" our marriage and keep our family together. I told him that if he goes into a treatment program...	Hoping for Happiness	4	519	Aug 23, 2011 by likemyheart
	What to do when finding "hidden alcohol" (Preview) I am doing my best at working my own recovery and not my AH's (most days). However, I have one thing that I am not sure how to handle. We have 2 small children (6 and 2) and I continue to find hidden bottles of vodka. I don't want to pour them out and move on, because they aren't my bottles to pour out. So I ha...	Hoping for Happiness	5	5335	Aug 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	New recovery check-in (Preview) Hello Again Everyone :) Ok, so my AH is two months out of inpatient treatment. He's been unbearable, the majority of the time. He's so angry, and mostly tries to pick fights with and blame me. Aside from the recent crisis that built over a few weeks of dwindling AA meetings - is this still normal? I was...	KLotus	7	702	Aug 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	Just can't do it. Newbie (Preview) Hello everyone. I've been reading all your post for a couple weeks now. Great stuff. I Just signed up. I've been to two meetings now. I've just been through the worst 2 yrs of my life. I'm miserable. Not sure if Al Anon is for me or not. I'm in a relationship to an addict. Also I strongly believe she is me...	onewholovesrock	11	873	Aug 23, 2011 by Doozy
	Am I wrong.... (Preview) I hope this is the place for my thoughts. I have been reading posts for awhile now and am very grateful for them. I have also started going to meetings. My problem is that I feel so bad. My AH has had many surgeries and claims to still be in pain from them but the drs tell him there is no reason for the pain a...	parentX2	5	686	Aug 22, 2011 by Doozy
	Why do I allow my AH t make me feel guilty when I am doing nothing wrong? (Preview) Why do I allow my AH to make me feel guilty when Im doing nothing wrong? I just got the email and phone call from the AH wondering what I had been up to. I told him working, but that wasnt good enough. I havent been going home at lunch because it frees me up to just read, run errands or relax and do whatever I w...	oldgraduate	12	683	Aug 22, 2011 by parfait624
	having mixed emotions (Preview) Hi everyone. I asked my AH to leave a few days ago. He needs a few weeks to transition and clean out his father's place so he can move in with him. I still love him, that is not the reason I asked him to leave. Obviously, I asked him to leave because I do not want him drunk around my kids and my 15yo daughter is bei...	odalis	11	613	Aug 22, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Detaching when things are good... (Preview) In the last 2 weeks, my wife has been as healthy as I have ever seen her. She's been on new anti-depressants and they really seem to be making a difference. I have found that in that time, I have really let go of the concept of detaching. I guess I didn't feel the need to, because things were good. So I found my...	usedtobeanyer	8	758	Aug 22, 2011 by Lyne
	met with Al Anon lady for lunch (Preview) HI I met with an Al Anon lady today for lunch. I bought her lunch as she took the time off her day to meet wtih me. I cried.. as I have been for about 12 hours now on and off. She confirmed there are no day time meetings in the NT for Al Anon but there is a steps meeting on a Saturday afternoon. The same people go...	Lindaoakford	7	953	Aug 22, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Newbie on board - relationship issues (Preview) Hello all - I'm relatively new to Al-anon and just one day on this board. I've attended 4 face-to-face meetings and am always surprised and grateful for what I hear. I am an adult child of a line of alcoholics on my mom's side. I've always felt different and like I didn't fit in. It wasn't until I unexpe...	amills4294	6	719	Aug 22, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Update (Preview) Hi Everyone, The weekend was at least not spend in crisis. We're still going to have 2 marriage counseling appmts this week. My husband did argue with me a little, but not screaming, throwing, etc. I could tell he was trying to use restraint. I recently took a job that offers a lot of future opportun...	KLotus	6	546	Aug 22, 2011 by youfoundme
	why am I bothering (Preview) Why do I bother doing all of this?? Had a great weekend. I asked him this morning what he planned on doing.. he didn't know. I had things I wnated to do. So I did them. I said to him this morning "If you are planning on havinga smoke, I just want to say, and I am not being nasty, this would be the 8th we...	Lindaoakford	17	876	Aug 22, 2011 by rara avis
	Reachin for the Clouds & Coming up short... (Preview) ------------------->>>>>>>>;>>>>>>	Jozie	4	438	Aug 22, 2011 by Jozie
	Alateen and children in alcoholic family questions. (Preview) Hi. Does anyone know who I can contact for the Alateen message board or meetings here on MIP. I went on the Alateen page, but the posts seem outdated. I thought I had read soemthing about it moving, and I am not sure about the chat meetings. My daughter showed a lot of interest last night about it and I was tr...	odalis	7	759	Aug 22, 2011 by abbyal
	convention (Preview) Hi everyone been to a covention today it was great, bit thin on the ground but shares were so good from both fellowships. My Abf is active again after 9 months and i know there is nothing i can do its his journey. At the convention I think I came to the decision that he has so much work to do and I am just a pres...	Tracy	3	566	Aug 22, 2011 by hawaiilover
	Making Amends - Step 9 Question (Preview) My sponsor thought it might be a good idea if I could get others' opinion and experiences on how they dealt with step 9. I was hoping I could get some insight on how some of you went about making "direct" amends to people you couldn't or shouldn't make amends to. There are people I shouldn't m...	surfingmaestro	3	2184	Aug 21, 2011 by mac57
	I set a boundary and now I'm smack dab onto it. (Preview) I set a boundary that I didn't feel healthy living with an active A in my house with our very young son. I said if my AH started again then I was done, as in the D word. This was 2 1/2 months ago and now he's back at it, although still clearly in denial. He's now begging, saying he'll go to AA meetings (yup heard i...	Goodtillitsbad	10	668	Aug 21, 2011 by Hoping for Happiness
	It is done (Preview) So, I told my AH I wanted to seperate and my plan has been put into action. Contacted my boss, dropped all my classes at school and arrangements have been made for me to move out and back to a different city where I will stay with my parents. It is not ideal, my schooling is being put on hold and my life feels li...	kay115	11	948	Aug 21, 2011 by lasthope
	Need Help (Preview) Oh my gosh. Things just got really really bad here. My AH just came home drunk and was yelling at me in regards to our dog. He says that I am not taking the dog when I move out, but legally, I am the one who adopted the dog and I plan on keeping him. He says that he is going to take the dog somewhere (like to a friend...	kay115	8	775	Aug 21, 2011 by Anne01
	The D Word (Preview) Well, I finally brought out the D word today....Divorce. The craziest part to me is that I really mean it. Either things take a dramatic change in the next week or two or I want out. Yes, I know that I cannot control my AH, but I can control how much I let myself be affected by all of this, and staying in a marri...	kay115	11	796	Aug 21, 2011 by Aloha
	Coming out of Lurkdom - an introduction - and gratitude (Preview) Hello all, I've been lurking so to speak since April. My geographical circumstances changed temporarily then and I was no longer able to get to my long loved face to face meetings. So that's how I found MIP. I just wanted to say hello and let you all know that, since May, every morning when I wake, I grab...	Betsy B	9	737	Aug 21, 2011 by hotrod
	Dreams..A sign? (Preview) I just have to share this...For months I have been asking God to send me a sign that what I am doing is right, to lead me in the right direction, to help me understand and be compassionate to my AH, to even send me a dream that I am not crazy and I am allowing him to do his will. I think my sign has come!! haha I ask...	odalis	1	518	Aug 21, 2011 by Jerry F
	Wife is an alcoholic (Preview) Not really sure how to start this. Definitely have been an enabler by trying to deny there is a problem or being scared to confront the problem (or any number of other excuses). I accidently stumbled into an AA meeting about 2 years ago and realized at that point that my wife is not only an alcoholic but...	pen	11	753	Aug 21, 2011 by pen
	responding to outsider's comments (Preview) Hi all. I hope everyone is doing well tonight. I have a question about responding to outsider's comments. By that I mean people who kinda know me, but who I am not friendly with and know nothing about. they are aquaintances, neighbors, etc. One guy is the one who works at the corner store. Way back when I...	odalis	7	630	Aug 21, 2011 by maryjane
	last evening! (Preview) I went out for a meal with a friend from a now disfunct face to face, one of my non alanon friends is just going through a real sad crisis, her happy marriage of thirty years has been blown apart, by infedilitey on her husbands part, this friend has been through thick and thin with me, and I would go as far as...	Katy	4	568	Aug 21, 2011 by sookie
	I woke up smiling... whats that all about (Preview) HI guys For many years I have hated mornings..... I often wake with a feeling of dread and anxiety and hate who I am. I wake up feeling fat and ugly and generally angry for just waking up!!!! I recently have been doing lots of work on this about the last 5 months. I have been looking into why. I think one o...	Lindaoakford	8	485	Aug 21, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	just something funny--I hope it is OK (Preview) There were children in a cafeteria line. The nun put a note on the apples--don't eat more than one; God is watching! A kid put a note on the cookies--eat all you want, God is watching the Apples! I got a kick out of this one! I hope you got a good laugh! Kathleen By the way, I shortened the joke!	Hoot Nanny	5	456	Aug 20, 2011 by Debilyn
	still hanging in there! (Preview) I am still hangin' in as I try to make some sense of my life. I am getting better at getting over my past but have moments; many of them where I am not sure! I keep the focus on me as much as possible. Yesterday I realized that I really have no one to answer to except myself & that the responsibility reside...	Hoot Nanny	2	591	Aug 20, 2011 by Sincerely
	Being with a verbally mean drinker - double whammy? (Preview) Ok,I will just type it out and not think too much or over complicate my confusion. I don't know if this will make much sense given my brain today. For those in relationship with a drinker who is also verbally mean, critical, and dismissive, does it represent a double whammy? Does anyone else fantasi...	GreenK	18	1175	Aug 20, 2011 by Lindsayglu
	Lois Remembers? other books? (Preview) Has anyone ever read her book? I saw it on amazon and I was wondering what it was like. Also what about any other obscure alanon titles I may find there? I already have "As we understood..." which I love! Is the Dilema of the alcoholic marriage a good read? Also any other great speakers t...	youfoundme	5	2431	Aug 20, 2011 by Pushka
	AH livid after I get back from f2f meeting (Preview) ok, so my 15 year old has her friend over, and the 7 year old does too. They are playing Wii, AH was drinking, and I tell everyone I am going out be back in a little while. AH was on teh phone during this so he was not paying attention. I turned my phone volume all the way down to not be interrupted during the meet...	odalis	5	663	Aug 20, 2011 by youfoundme
	Sunday night meeting (Preview) I'm still having computer as well as financial problems, so don't have access to my OP scripts for Sunday nights meeting and will be unable to chair the meeting. I hope someone will step up to the post and chair for me. The meeting is at 6 p.m. EST Sunday evening and usually runs for an hour and a half. Thank...	Overcome	0	460	Aug 20, 2011 by Overcome
	Sunday night's meeting (Preview) hi MIP family! My computer went down this morning and it is in the shop. I need someone to cover for me for Sunday nights meeting (OP's). I will come back in Saturday to the library and check to make sure it is covered, but I can't run a meeting from the library! lol Because of anonomity. I will hopefully hav...	Overcome	2	380	Aug 20, 2011 by Overcome
	drowning man sucking me in, help (Preview) Hey everybody, Just wanted you to know that I don't have a sponsor of f2f close-ish connections yet, so I'm writing here. I do have some wise friends and a counselor, but any input would be invaluable! This weekend I planned a loose ultimatum w/my RA. Basically to take his meds regularly, take care o...	rara avis	10	772	Aug 20, 2011 by rara avis
	Words can create abuse just like fists (Preview) It's been a few months since my A-BF broke up with me for what seems to be the 1000th time. I have gone through feelings of anxiety, saddness, betrayal, anger, and frustration. We broke up for a year and a half the first time. He was on his sixth step in AA when we got back together he had been sober from al...	parfait624	14	782	Aug 19, 2011 by linbaba
	Taking a minute here instead of blowing up (Preview) I took some time to read some posts and replies and I'm already calming down. I was headed in a very bad direction about an hour ago and was in a pretty bad state of mind but I was able to pay attention to my thoughts. They were, "Really? Is this all there is? Are you kidding me?" And, "Wh...	GreenK	3	502	Aug 19, 2011 by GreenK
	how quickly I go backward-venting (Preview) I am frustrated with myself for slipping. Or maybe I am just frustrated. I just need to vent so stop reading if you arent up to hearing my venting! I was doing so well with focusing on self, not taking it personally, and staying centered. Then the AH had a couple days of interrogating me and then sile...	oldgraduate	7	441	Aug 19, 2011 by Pushka
	Just Breath... (Preview) I have to remember to just breath today.......cause things have been great. My life has been great. Things with my new wonderful boyfriend are beyond my wildest dreams of what a man could be. Me....I'm stronger, Better, but I'm still a work in progress. I started to see a counselor about the speci...	mslouise	6	462	Aug 19, 2011 by hotrod
	hope (Preview) Since we had such fun with acceptence here's another one Ican't get past. Hope we all need it to get through this mess. But isn't hope just another projection of our idea of reality? Or do we really just hope for something other than present reality and take what ever that may be? Is hope a projection?...	sirchef	8	597	Aug 19, 2011 by abbyal
	peeling paint (Preview) STrange title but I never know what to call things. I had a moment yesterday where I realised that alot of my thinking is certainly 'past' based. I had a birthday banner up for a party that I had in April. Didn't want it taken down as I liked it. It was strung up withsticky tape between two poles which are c...	Lindaoakford	5	873	Aug 19, 2011 by pinkchip
	Reaping the benefits of our online message board and online meetings (Preview) I know I don't post to often although I love reading the posts and reply (causiously lol) when I think I may have something to offer and I attend our morning meetings on a daily basis. Should someone have told me 3 years ago that any online support group would have any benefit to me what so ever I would have...	xeno59	7	563	Aug 19, 2011 by youfoundme
	Let go... (Preview) I have to remember to "let go" when someone is doing something I don't like. I know that people are all individuals and that they can do as they wish, just as I do. When I let go of out comes, I can continue to live in this very moment instead of worrying and projecting about what "might&q...	youfoundme	6	570	Aug 19, 2011 by youfoundme
	Grieving (Preview) I need to share what is on my heart. The grief that I thought I had laid to rest has resurfaced this year. Here's my story: When my dad, due to his drinking, mental illness, and abusive behavior, became too unstable and unsafe for us to be in contact with, we cut our ties and lost touch with him for many yea...	BlueCloud	8	670	Aug 19, 2011 by xeno59
	A little update.... (Preview) Well the past few days have been interesting to say the least. The man that was released on Wednesday was not the man that went in their a month ago. I'm in shock. Completely. He's sweet, kind and giving. He's not starting arguements and he's asking to talk to me about things. He's been to an AA meeti...	ELEKTRAWMN	8	568	Aug 19, 2011 by youfoundme
	Afraid (Preview) Today has been very trying. I feel that if I don't reach out in times like this that I will feel isolated. So, today I spoke with my husband while at work, asking him to pick up our daughter because I may not be out in time, and it saves her the misery of having to be in 1.5 hours of traffic, which has been tou...	KLotus	19	849	Aug 19, 2011 by Ness
	feeling good about things for a change (Preview) I wanted to post some of the good things that are happening in my life regarding my A son or should I really say sons. Yes, my son that is in the military and lives in Japan with his family has issues with alcohol too. I really wanted to post something so I could show off my new grandson born in Japan on 8/10 whi...	Gailey	6	548	Aug 19, 2011 by hotrod
	Could it be? (Preview) I'm somewhat shocked. Wait, more than somewhat. It's more like struck by lightning, but not as "fry your flesh"-ey. I've been giving all of this my all. The advice, the steps, the traditions. . . slowly (As slowly and thoughtfully as I can). I've just been given a glimmer of hope, I think, th...	Superhero No More	4	560	Aug 19, 2011 by youfoundme
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