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Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

I invited my a/a daughter for Christmas dinner, my a/a son was here from out of town, he isn't using at this time, use to be addicted to crack. He and my male friend had gone to her apt. on Mon. and she said she was coming. We cooked a lot of food, on Christmas my son called her and she had changed her mind, sayi...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi, my name is Slogan Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Over the last couple of months Ive noticed a trend in certain people around me. Everyone seems to want the most for doing the least. Everyone seems to feel they are entitled to certain things in life, things that for those who have them, have w...

tortuga · tortuga

...sadness, worry, fear, anger, confusion! That's what I'm left with today, after ABF showed up yesterday for Christmas Eve. He was all confused and still trying to make me believe that I am the most selfish woman on earth, for taking care of me first. He still blames me for his relapse last week, he is b...

littlehob · littlehob

Hi, My partner is in AA and was off drink for about a year then slipped, lost license and has been slipping on and off for sometime.mshe continually lies about drink even when I have found the bottles( must stop searching, thought Inhad got over this). She is taking tablets that are supposed to make her...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Well here I sit, no TV, no furniture, no car, a frozen pizza in the house, my computer set up on the floor lying down typing to you (rather uncomfortably I might add.) There are all sorts of people I can blame...the last 2 landlords who had apartments with toxic mold that ruined all my belongings and got me...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

MY CAPS LOCK STICKS, OH WELL. I BROKE UP WITH MY CURRENT RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE I WAS FEELING IT WAS HEADED TOWARDS SOMETHING NOT WHAT I WANTED ANY LONGER, IT WAS HARD FOR ME TO HURT HIM, IT DID HAVE TO HAPPEN AT SOME POINT THOUGH, NOT GREAT TIMING TO DO IT, I KNOW. IT HAD TO GET DONE AND YESTERDAY WAS THE FI...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

This may seem like a very odd question. How do you wives live with an alcoholic husband and live your life without having him affect you. I have used detachment but that makes me feel like we are roomates, not husband and wife. What's the point? I have been to Al-Anon meetings and many wives cannot liv...

Hope123 · Hope123

Three years ago yesterday I attended my first Al-Anon meeting after discovering that my father was an alcoholic. Now, less than 2 years into my marriage, I am finding myself in need of similiar support, but now as a result of my husband who I believe is addicted to marijuana. I know that this is more fo...

tortuga · tortuga

yes most of the time I used to think am not worth loving, even though I don't feel I am a bad person. I feel often very lonely inside, and started my recovery 8 years ago, when I hit bottom in a depression. I then started a journey of discovery of my own, I learn to love and accept, along that route many people a...

broken apart · broken apart

I don't like how things have changed for me. I don't see it getting better. I am trying my best to survive everyday that my partner stays sober and I stay sane . When does the controll stop ? The drink is gone but the controll has been activated and I am drowning in the old drink

abbyalana · abbyalana

After the Xmas ridiculousness with the exAH it has come to a head. I spoke with the court mediator today about the situation and she said based on the therapists recommendation, things I shared that have occured and this weekend's recent BS that I yank all visitation with our child. She said he is no...

John · John

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KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

Left to practice in the church praise band for Christmas Eve service at 4 today. Wife was to come join me at the 8:00service. At 7:50 whenshe wasn't there I knew what had probably happened. Then she got there, I saw her for one moment, but she never came said hi to me, just went home immediately afterwa...

el-cee · el-cee

I am grateful for ... Being a non smoker for 3 months, I'm finally taking better care of me. Having my alanon group, who are steadily becoming good friends. Having hope that I can recover from negative, fearful thinking. Having a job that I love. Being independent, looking after myself. Health...

AlAnonDave · AlAnonDave

To all my fellow Anons, Alkies and ACOAs everywhere, I hope your HP. Has blessed your day with peace!

likemyheart · likemyheart

Last night we were enjoying our not good for you snacking; my daughter sampled the chocolate covered blueberry cordials - declared them oh so good and we were in the kitchen chatting and cutting and she absentmindedly reaches into a dish and pops something in her mouth - following the super sweet blue...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

While many will be making some wonderful memories, I know there are those out there who will be getting up and struggling to deal with our alcoholic iour life drinking, whether it is because of celebration or misery. To them today is an excuse to drinking, like they need one. My words to al of you out ther...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Today I'm going to do nothing but sit on my behind and enjoy the peace I have right now. I want to do a little step work....journaling....and just relax and pray. Also need to watch TV, eat lobster and shrimp for dinner.....yep..thats what I bought for Christmas dinner. I don't want to cal...

lulu0603 · lulu0603

hi all i am new to this as of tonight. i want to start by being very grateful for this site. now as short story as i can, my husband has been drinking for afew years now. he works and we do not have finacial problems due to his habit. his new thing is lying to me about drinking whiskey. i found out that he had dran...

AngieP · AngieP

My Abf/fiancé decided to go into an inpatient alcohol & mental health program last night. I moved out of our home 6 weeks ago after a violent episode & only took my clothes & a few of my kids keepsakes. While I have explained to him repeatedly that we may likely never live together again he is...

likemyheart · likemyheart

8 am Christmas morning, second try, watch those fingers Ann, dont want to hit the exit button accidentally again! I shoveled my snow already but its already re-covered my porch, but it is fun shoveling because the dopey dog tries to catch every shovelful of snow jumping in the air at each attempt. Watc...

Jen · Jen

I had the most wonderful Christmas eve evening with my kids and community tonight. A little nativity skit that the kids got to do, lots of singing, my sober 5 yrs husband taking pictures while I narrated the skit for the kids. It was wonderful and all made possible by Al-Anon and my MIP family. Without Al...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I can only pray I'm doing the right thing but my son is calling and I will not answer. He needs to know I'm not going to rescue him anymore if he's sick or if not he has not bothered to let me know he was OK and wanted to plan to come for Christmas. It's his deal now and I have to be strong. It's the only thing I ca...

hotrod · hotrod

Dear MIP Family I woul like to wish each and every one of my MIIP Family a Blessed, Peaceful Holiday Season and a wonderful New Year

RR67 · RR67

My husband been sober 45 days and that's wonderful this is what I alway wanted for him. I never thought it would change me. My depression is worst . I seem to carry his pain on top of mine with no break and a happy day. When he comes home pissed off and SLAMING things and gets kids up set then mad at me because I'...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

No matter how you celebrate the holiday, may you find peace & joy! It may just be the holiday season to some, but remember to touch your fellow man in some way. It is not just the time of giving but forgiving, loving & sharing special moments. I am feeling a little alone this year. My dad is gone, my...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

So here I am doing my own thing and trying to find a place to live that isn't on my parent's dime. I have to leave here in a few days and I have b arely enough money to get a room somewhere. Yet I know God will provide for me if my motives are right. I guess my father thinks I am going to go into yet another living sit...

Overcome · Overcome

There will be ongoing activity in the alanon chat room for today. Room operators will be present (or lurking) so come on in if you feel the need to chat. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC...

Zimmy · Zimmy

had the most horrible day yesterday, still feeling a bit sick about it all (posted prev all the gory details). Woke up at silly o'clock read alot of CAL as the anxiety from the day was still with me, alot on step 1-3. prayed and tried to sleep...woke up from the most loving dream. My home group that i hav...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I sit here and worry about my son when there nothing I can do. It's been one of the hardest things to overcome. I read, journal and pray to God to help me let go because it won't help only make my day miserable. I come here and write in hopes it will help me a little. At my age you would think that Bdays are o...

chinup · chinup

my dear mom passed away on the 22 of nov. 1 day before thanksgiving,its been really hard this year to make through the rest of these holidays without her she was my world now its like my world has collapsed with out her,im trying to do my best in staying as busy as i can to keep myself focused on myself now and...

abbyalana · abbyalana

The therapist wants no visitation w/exAH for my 12 yo. We've been working on modified as I'm torn. My 12yo wants to see her dad but doesn't like the addict nonsense. My therapist & hers have serious safety concerns (as do I.) So, therapist wants me driving for dinner visits. She wants no overnights...

sheristeele · sheristeele

I have stuck by my son who is an addict from day one (he is 20 years old). He also has bipolar disorder (but will not take his medications regularly). I Put him through drug rehab twice and he has had constant counselling in some respect for 5 years. I Visited him in Jail where he was for 4 months last yea...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

"Insanity" is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So my AH and I got back together this late August. I wasn't too happy but I was in a financially vulnerable spot, and yes He is the father of my children, will always have feelings for him though I'm not i...

abbyalana · abbyalana

So, it's been crazy dealing with visitation issues with our child and exah. Today I dropped her at his family party and low and behold he brought the crack addict GF with him. I breathed. I recited the serenity prayer. I kissed her and wished her well. I reminded myself that the bulk of the others there ar...

AngieP · AngieP

As I lay in bed just hours before Christmas eve begins I know my Abf/fiancé's willingness to go inpatient 3days ago was a blessing from my HP. He is not only occupied & distracted working his program but he is secluded preventing him from his typical incessant calling/texting & I am unable to &...

tortuga · tortuga

Things went miserable these days with ABF...and I almost forgot to stick with myself and my program. So instead of focusing on madness, I want to come back to the path of gratitude... because it's Christmas, and even if I'm by myself, I feel I am gifted: i have a wonderful crazy dog, that makes me stay hum...

Lyne · Lyne

My son and I are very close. He is grown and lives apart with his own family. But my A is doing destructive talking to my dtr in law, which is making both of them want me to leave. It's in a nice way but it is still pressure. I'm not ready to leave, and some of y you in the program stay with your A's. I can't make a...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

Hi everyone, I've been through a lot in the past year and I'm feeling grateful that I survived. I am going through a divorce. The soon to be ex is in jail, facing many years in prison. But I feel that's been a gift from HP. Keeping me and my children safe, and giving us some justice. He did us so wrong. So I have...

maryjane · maryjane

Okay, so what happened is that the hubby came into the bedroom this AM as I was waking up with the 1st cup of coffee and he says, "I don't know how to say this so I'll just say it, You have been verbally abusive to me in front of other people and I want it to stop." And I just looked at him and said, &q...

SuzanneSC · SuzanneSC

My husband has been in AA for over 2 months now, but I feel like our relationship is worse than ever. He says he is doing everything he is supposed to be doing for himself, his sobriety and the family, I see someone who can barely get dressed or shower each day. He has taken on huge projects all over the hous...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I dont know what had me sign into this site tonight. I think its this very snowy weather. It takes me back to last year when I was learning how to live, for the first time, really. I feel very aware of my surroundings, like often I am watching a movie. I don't have to react to anything at all. I was at a par...

lulu0603 · lulu0603

has anybody had this problem...... i have been upset with my hubby for awhile and at the beginning it was because of his attitude cause by drinking whiskey (i pray that is all) but now he has been looking for things to be mad at me!!! everything i do has been criticized even some silly stuff. i know he feeel...

Zimmy · Zimmy

what an eventful day, and my hp did for me what i could not do for myself... Things haven't been good with the ex abf for a little while, since august when he assulted me in a blackout he moved out, we have been trying to have some sort of relationship, he didnt live here and i set boundries. What he couldn't...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Ok so over the last week or so I have had a rough time. The wife would stay up late, go into our spare bedroom and almost felt like she was avoiding me. I of course imagine the worst. I didn't go in there searching but I was just sure she had alcohol in there and was just staying away so she could drink. Now I real...

el-cee · el-cee

Today I spoke to my Aex for the first time in a fortnight. He is drinking again and has been for weeks. He is supposed to have our children for xmas dinner this year. This is the first time we have had xmas apart. I will be going to my sisters. Our youngest child is 15. I have been finding it very difficult to be...

Gail4 · Gail4

I am in a position where I am possibly the only trusted adult of a teen girl. She lives with neither of her parents but has access visits with both at seperate times. Her parents are not together and are not on speaking terms. Both parents have issues with drugs in varying degrees. She has recently co...

tortuga · tortuga

I wonder...what else must come.I feel pushed, i feel not respected, i feellet down, i feel invisible. on top of that my ABF calls me selfish, cold, angry, unforgiving...he accuses me of leaving him, which i haven't , i have just gone immobile, trying to detach, not answering phonecalls, not to take mo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Man that was nice!! If you haven't done that lately or at all...I recommend it. Haven't been there for a while and I'm grateful I peeked in tonight. Yay!! ((((hugs))))

sheristeele · sheristeele

About 5 weeks ago, I kicked out my addicted son. We have not heard from him in weeks, but he texted and said he would like to "stop by" for Christmas. I really would like to see him, but I also do not want him to think he is allowed to stay here after that. How do I handle making sure he is clear tha...

Sam813 · Sam813

Hi everyone It's been awhile since I've posted, however you have always been with me. It's been so busy I'm in my last year of graduate school, I've been doing my best to focus on me and my well being. This is a hard time of year for all if us I'm sure, the holidays are so painful. My younger brother is an addi...

RR67 · RR67

This is the first year with no tree no gifts the first xmass my husband will be sober . I understand this but the kids don't. Lack of money due to no overtime to many dr appt for my ah and A W ( Al-anon wife ) I'm depressed for the kids , I'm depressed for my AH and myself. How do you tell kids?

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I feeling a bit down but OK. My son is now drinking 24/7 so I'm sure he's is in pretty bad shape. It's so sad. I wanted to see him for Christmas but it's not going to happen. I don't think he even knows it's Christmas. He talks about nothing....only bits and pieces of the past. He really doesn't know...

AKAZBRA · AKAZBRA

So I'm new to all of this.... My son went into treatment a little over a week ago. His drug of choice is Meth and Alcohol. Last night we had a family meeting. The first part of the meeting was a lecture and then the second was a family group meeting with other families. In between the meetings there is a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

OK so I feel much better today. I got through a stressful day yesterday as I really actually knew I would. I am OK w/ not spending too much time thinking about my dad. I had some moments of memories & then I let it go. I am so glad that I don't have to be depressed. Mostly yesterday I was just anxious. I am tr...

crazycatlady · crazycatlady

I am in full blown codependency relapse. I'm going to a f2f meeting tomorrow at 11:00. The quick version: My AH relapsed after 2 1/2 years of sobriety about 6 weeks ago...got back into program...then 2 weeks ago came home drunk, denied it, got angry and left for overnight, came back the next morning rag...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Last night after spending a few mins. with my a/a daughter, I had a fantasy of packing up and moving far, far away. I can't tolerate being around her even for a few mins. Her denial and delusions are deeply ingrained. She wanted to show me a picture of a "spirit/ghost" she had taken on her c...

Desirae · Desirae

Hello Al-a-Family, I am the Tuesday Morining Chair for MIP Al-Anon Meetings in Al-Anon Chat. I try very hard to be there, especially around the holidays, but I regret to inform you that I will not have computer access from Christmas Eve through the day after Christmas. If there is anyone willing and a...

RR67 · RR67

Well wed night was hell. I went to a meeting and I was so scared and nervous that I would arrive there on time. Since the past 30 days ah became sober . Build this controlling issue that needed to no who and where I was with . He was annualized every thing I did . So after meeting which was running late. I was so f...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

Tonight my husband called to rake me over the coals because I, according to him, had told a friend of his not to hire him. He was fired from his financial consulting job in October because he was drinking on the job. He had the bright idea to get in touch with a friend of his who owns his own financial consu...

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	I think I'm "getting it" (Preview) I invited my a/a daughter for Christmas dinner, my a/a son was here from out of town, he isn't using at this time, use to be addicted to crack. He and my male friend had gone to her apt. on Mon. and she said she was coming. We cooked a lot of food, on Christmas my son called her and she had changed her mind, sayi...	Highlyfavored	3	332	Dec 27, 2012 by Jerry F
	Sense of entitlement (share) (Preview) Hi, my name is Slogan Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Over the last couple of months Ive noticed a trend in certain people around me. Everyone seems to want the most for doing the least. Everyone seems to feel they are entitled to certain things in life, things that for those who have them, have w...	slogan_jim	3	420	Dec 27, 2012 by Minaret
	broken!in tears... (Preview) ...sadness, worry, fear, anger, confusion! That's what I'm left with today, after ABF showed up yesterday for Christmas Eve. He was all confused and still trying to make me believe that I am the most selfish woman on earth, for taking care of me first. He still blames me for his relapse last week, he is b...	tortuga	8	570	Dec 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	Does She believe she can drink? (Preview) Hi, My partner is in AA and was off drink for about a year then slipped, lost license and has been slipping on and off for sometime.mshe continually lies about drink even when I have found the bottles( must stop searching, thought Inhad got over this). She is taking tablets that are supposed to make her...	littlehob	5	421	Dec 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	My Christmas (Preview) Well here I sit, no TV, no furniture, no car, a frozen pizza in the house, my computer set up on the floor lying down typing to you (rather uncomfortably I might add.) There are all sorts of people I can blame...the last 2 landlords who had apartments with toxic mold that ruined all my belongings and got me...	WorkingThroughIt	8	465	Dec 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	I chose to spend Christmas alone (Preview) MY CAPS LOCK STICKS, OH WELL. I BROKE UP WITH MY CURRENT RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE I WAS FEELING IT WAS HEADED TOWARDS SOMETHING NOT WHAT I WANTED ANY LONGER, IT WAS HARD FOR ME TO HURT HIM, IT DID HAVE TO HAPPEN AT SOME POINT THOUGH, NOT GREAT TIMING TO DO IT, I KNOW. IT HAD TO GET DONE AND YESTERDAY WAS THE FI...	Breakingfree	7	461	Dec 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	HOW DO YOU STAY WITH ALCOHOLIC HUSBAND? (Preview) This may seem like a very odd question. How do you wives live with an alcoholic husband and live your life without having him affect you. I have used detachment but that makes me feel like we are roomates, not husband and wife. What's the point? I have been to Al-Anon meetings and many wives cannot liv...	wifeofalcoholic	9	678	Dec 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	Hopelessly Lost... (Preview) Three years ago yesterday I attended my first Al-Anon meeting after discovering that my father was an alcoholic. Now, less than 2 years into my marriage, I am finding myself in need of similiar support, but now as a result of my husband who I believe is addicted to marijuana. I know that this is more fo...	Hope123	8	494	Dec 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	and now?...the way forward (Preview) yes most of the time I used to think am not worth loving, even though I don't feel I am a bad person. I feel often very lonely inside, and started my recovery 8 years ago, when I hit bottom in a depression. I then started a journey of discovery of my own, I learn to love and accept, along that route many people a...	tortuga	3	355	Dec 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	Stop controlling (Preview) I don't like how things have changed for me. I don't see it getting better. I am trying my best to survive everyday that my partner stays sober and I stay sane . When does the controll stop ? The drink is gone but the controll has been activated and I am drowning in the old drink	broken apart	3	281	Dec 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	It's come to a head. (Preview) After the Xmas ridiculousness with the exAH it has come to a head. I spoke with the court mediator today about the situation and she said based on the therapists recommendation, things I shared that have occured and this weekend's recent BS that I yank all visitation with our child. She said he is no...	abbyalana	2	265	Dec 26, 2012 by orchidlover
	Donations Needed (Preview) Hello everyone, Yes, it is time to pay our bills again for the site, so any donation you are willing to make to help offset its cost is appreciated. Just click the Donate button at the top of the page and it will take you directly to the paypal account so your donation can be gotten through your debit or cred...	John	5	820	Dec 26, 2012 by Pushka
	I don't believe it- well, I guess I do (Preview) Left to practice in the church praise band for Christmas Eve service at 4 today. Wife was to come join me at the 8:00service. At 7:50 whenshe wasn't there I knew what had probably happened. Then she got there, I saw her for one moment, but she never came said hi to me, just went home immediately afterwa...	KennyFenderjazz	9	617	Dec 26, 2012 by Pushka
	grateful (Preview) I am grateful for ... Being a non smoker for 3 months, I'm finally taking better care of me. Having my alanon group, who are steadily becoming good friends. Having hope that I can recover from negative, fearful thinking. Having a job that I love. Being independent, looking after myself. Health...	el-cee	4	365	Dec 26, 2012 by eclipse
	Merry Christmas! (Preview) To all my fellow Anons, Alkies and ACOAs everywhere, I hope your HP. Has blessed your day with peace!	AlAnonDave	4	311	Dec 26, 2012 by Jerry F
	Things that don't mix - a Christmas funny too good not to pass on. (Preview) Last night we were enjoying our not good for you snacking; my daughter sampled the chocolate covered blueberry cordials - declared them oh so good and we were in the kitchen chatting and cutting and she absentmindedly reaches into a dish and pops something in her mouth - following the super sweet blue...	likemyheart	2	439	Dec 26, 2012 by maryjane
	Just for today... Christmas Day (Preview) While many will be making some wonderful memories, I know there are those out there who will be getting up and struggling to deal with our alcoholic iour life drinking, whether it is because of celebration or misery. To them today is an excuse to drinking, like they need one. My words to al of you out ther...	hdftby100	7	329	Dec 26, 2012 by Jerry F
	Christmas for me (Preview) Good Morning Today I'm going to do nothing but sit on my behind and enjoy the peace I have right now. I want to do a little step work....journaling....and just relax and pray. Also need to watch TV, eat lobster and shrimp for dinner.....yep..thats what I bought for Christmas dinner. I don't want to cal...	Cathyinaz	5	422	Dec 26, 2012 by Cathyinaz
	confused! :0 (Preview) hi all i am new to this as of tonight. i want to start by being very grateful for this site. now as short story as i can, my husband has been drinking for afew years now. he works and we do not have finacial problems due to his habit. his new thing is lying to me about drinking whiskey. i found out that he had dran...	lulu0603	5	406	Dec 26, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Tough decision (Preview) My Abf/fiancé decided to go into an inpatient alcohol & mental health program last night. I moved out of our home 6 weeks ago after a violent episode & only took my clothes & a few of my kids keepsakes. While I have explained to him repeatedly that we may likely never live together again he is...	AngieP	6	494	Dec 26, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Christmas, My Way (Preview) 8 am Christmas morning, second try, watch those fingers Ann, dont want to hit the exit button accidentally again! I shoveled my snow already but its already re-covered my porch, but it is fun shoveling because the dopey dog tries to catch every shovelful of snow jumping in the air at each attempt. Watc...	likemyheart	2	457	Dec 25, 2012 by Jen
	Christmas is tough, but.... (Preview) I had the most wonderful Christmas eve evening with my kids and community tonight. A little nativity skit that the kids got to do, lots of singing, my sober 5 yrs husband taking pictures while I narrated the skit for the kids. It was wonderful and all made possible by Al-Anon and my MIP family. Without Al...	Jen	2	361	Dec 25, 2012 by Pushka
	Son is calling (Preview) I can only pray I'm doing the right thing but my son is calling and I will not answer. He needs to know I'm not going to rescue him anymore if he's sick or if not he has not bothered to let me know he was OK and wanted to plan to come for Christmas. It's his deal now and I have to be strong. It's the only thing I ca...	Cathyinaz	12	493	Dec 25, 2012 by Jen
	Happy Holiday (Preview) Dear MIP Family I woul like to wish each and every one of my MIIP Family a Blessed, Peaceful Holiday Season and a wonderful New Year	hotrod	6	292	Dec 25, 2012 by Jerry F
	Trying to get past my anger (Preview) My husband been sober 45 days and that's wonderful this is what I alway wanted for him. I never thought it would change me. My depression is worst . I seem to carry his pain on top of mine with no break and a happy day. When he comes home pissed off and SLAMING things and gets kids up set then mad at me because I'...	RR67	3	383	Dec 25, 2012 by Jerry F
	Merry Christmas to all! (Preview) No matter how you celebrate the holiday, may you find peace & joy! It may just be the holiday season to some, but remember to touch your fellow man in some way. It is not just the time of giving but forgiving, loving & sharing special moments. I am feeling a little alone this year. My dad is gone, my...	Hoot Nanny	2	286	Dec 25, 2012 by hotrod
	What to do about Christmas? (Preview) So here I am doing my own thing and trying to find a place to live that isn't on my parent's dime. I have to leave here in a few days and I have b arely enough money to get a room somewhere. Yet I know God will provide for me if my motives are right. I guess my father thinks I am going to go into yet another living sit...	WorkingThroughIt	3	365	Dec 24, 2012 by WorkingThroughIt
	CHRISTMAS DAY CHAT SUPPORT (Preview) There will be ongoing activity in the alanon chat room for today. Room operators will be present (or lurking) so come on in if you feel the need to chat. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC...	Overcome	0	805	Dec 24, 2012 by Overcome
	The most comforting dream... (Preview) had the most horrible day yesterday, still feeling a bit sick about it all (posted prev all the gory details). Woke up at silly o'clock read alot of CAL as the anxiety from the day was still with me, alot on step 1-3. prayed and tried to sleep...woke up from the most loving dream. My home group that i hav...	Zimmy	0	328	Dec 24, 2012 by Zimmy
	Worry is the hardest to overcome (Preview) I sit here and worry about my son when there nothing I can do. It's been one of the hardest things to overcome. I read, journal and pray to God to help me let go because it won't help only make my day miserable. I come here and write in hopes it will help me a little. At my age you would think that Bdays are o...	Cathyinaz	7	382	Dec 24, 2012 by Cathyinaz
	trying to do my best (Preview) my dear mom passed away on the 22 of nov. 1 day before thanksgiving,its been really hard this year to make through the rest of these holidays without her she was my world now its like my world has collapsed with out her,im trying to do my best in staying as busy as i can to keep myself focused on myself now and...	chinup	4	484	Dec 24, 2012 by hotrod
	Torn... (Preview) The therapist wants no visitation w/exAH for my 12 yo. We've been working on modified as I'm torn. My 12yo wants to see her dad but doesn't like the addict nonsense. My therapist & hers have serious safety concerns (as do I.) So, therapist wants me driving for dinner visits. She wants no overnights...	abbyalana	5	316	Dec 24, 2012 by pinkchip
	I feel so hurt (Preview) I have stuck by my son who is an addict from day one (he is 20 years old). He also has bipolar disorder (but will not take his medications regularly). I Put him through drug rehab twice and he has had constant counselling in some respect for 5 years. I Visited him in Jail where he was for 4 months last yea...	sheristeele	19	653	Dec 24, 2012 by sheristeele
	Expecting Different Results.... (Preview) "Insanity" is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So my AH and I got back together this late August. I wasn't too happy but I was in a financially vulnerable spot, and yes He is the father of my children, will always have feelings for him though I'm not i...	RoseODAT	3	342	Dec 24, 2012 by jonuk
	Shooting for serenity (Preview) So, it's been crazy dealing with visitation issues with our child and exah. Today I dropped her at his family party and low and behold he brought the crack addict GF with him. I breathed. I recited the serenity prayer. I kissed her and wished her well. I reminded myself that the bulk of the others there ar...	abbyalana	4	470	Dec 24, 2012 by Jerry F
	Hidden blessing (Preview) As I lay in bed just hours before Christmas eve begins I know my Abf/fiancé's willingness to go inpatient 3days ago was a blessing from my HP. He is not only occupied & distracted working his program but he is secluded preventing him from his typical incessant calling/texting & I am unable to &...	AngieP	2	328	Dec 24, 2012 by Jerry F
	gratitude (Preview) Things went miserable these days with ABF...and I almost forgot to stick with myself and my program. So instead of focusing on madness, I want to come back to the path of gratitude... because it's Christmas, and even if I'm by myself, I feel I am gifted: i have a wonderful crazy dog, that makes me stay hum...	tortuga	2	293	Dec 24, 2012 by Jerry F
	presssure from grown child (Preview) My son and I are very close. He is grown and lives apart with his own family. But my A is doing destructive talking to my dtr in law, which is making both of them want me to leave. It's in a nice way but it is still pressure. I'm not ready to leave, and some of y you in the program stay with your A's. I can't make a...	Lyne	1	359	Dec 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	First christmas of my new life (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been through a lot in the past year and I'm feeling grateful that I survived. I am going through a divorce. The soon to be ex is in jail, facing many years in prison. But I feel that's been a gift from HP. Keeping me and my children safe, and giving us some justice. He did us so wrong. So I have...	GreenerGrass	1	301	Dec 24, 2012 by hotrod
	Ugh- I need more program.... (Preview) Okay, so what happened is that the hubby came into the bedroom this AM as I was waking up with the 1st cup of coffee and he says, "I don't know how to say this so I'll just say it, You have been verbally abusive to me in front of other people and I want it to stop." And I just looked at him and said, &q...	maryjane	4	352	Dec 24, 2012 by maryjane
	So confused by recovery, please help! (Preview) My husband has been in AA for over 2 months now, but I feel like our relationship is worse than ever. He says he is doing everything he is supposed to be doing for himself, his sobriety and the family, I see someone who can barely get dressed or shower each day. He has taken on huge projects all over the hous...	SuzanneSC	9	471	Dec 24, 2012 by SuzanneSC
	Snowy Nostalgia (Preview) I dont know what had me sign into this site tonight. I think its this very snowy weather. It takes me back to last year when I was learning how to live, for the first time, really. I feel very aware of my surroundings, like often I am watching a movie. I don't have to react to anything at all. I was at a par...	Michelle814	5	362	Dec 24, 2012 by GreenerGrass
	can anybody relate???? (Preview) has anybody had this problem...... i have been upset with my hubby for awhile and at the beginning it was because of his attitude cause by drinking whiskey (i pray that is all) but now he has been looking for things to be mad at me!!! everything i do has been criticized even some silly stuff. i know he feeel...	lulu0603	3	355	Dec 24, 2012 by GreenerGrass
	My Higher power at work?? (Preview) what an eventful day, and my hp did for me what i could not do for myself... Things haven't been good with the ex abf for a little while, since august when he assulted me in a blackout he moved out, we have been trying to have some sort of relationship, he didnt live here and i set boundries. What he couldn't...	Zimmy	2	485	Dec 24, 2012 by pinkchip
	Feeling a little guilty (Preview) Ok so over the last week or so I have had a rough time. The wife would stay up late, go into our spare bedroom and almost felt like she was avoiding me. I of course imagine the worst. I didn't go in there searching but I was just sure she had alcohol in there and was just staying away so she could drink. Now I real...	hdftby100	5	360	Dec 23, 2012 by el-cee
	Compassion!!! (Preview) Today I spoke to my Aex for the first time in a fortnight. He is drinking again and has been for weeks. He is supposed to have our children for xmas dinner this year. This is the first time we have had xmas apart. I will be going to my sisters. Our youngest child is 15. I have been finding it very difficult to be...	el-cee	6	353	Dec 23, 2012 by el-cee
	teen trapped by parents' drug use (Preview) I am in a position where I am possibly the only trusted adult of a teen girl. She lives with neither of her parents but has access visits with both at seperate times. Her parents are not together and are not on speaking terms. Both parents have issues with drugs in varying degrees. She has recently co...	Gail4	4	530	Dec 23, 2012 by Gail4
	exhausted... (Preview) I wonder...what else must come.I feel pushed, i feel not respected, i feellet down, i feel invisible. on top of that my ABF calls me selfish, cold, angry, unforgiving...he accuses me of leaving him, which i haven't , i have just gone immobile, trying to detach, not answering phonecalls, not to take mo...	tortuga	7	582	Dec 23, 2012 by WorkingThroughIt
	Going on the Chat room... (Preview) Man that was nice!! If you haven't done that lately or at all...I recommend it. Haven't been there for a while and I'm grateful I peeked in tonight. Yay!! ((((hugs))))	Jerry F	1	270	Dec 23, 2012 by Pushka
	What do I do? (Preview) About 5 weeks ago, I kicked out my addicted son. We have not heard from him in weeks, but he texted and said he would like to "stop by" for Christmas. I really would like to see him, but I also do not want him to think he is allowed to stay here after that. How do I handle making sure he is clear tha...	sheristeele	6	359	Dec 23, 2012 by sheristeele
	Counting my blessings (Preview) Hi everyone It's been awhile since I've posted, however you have always been with me. It's been so busy I'm in my last year of graduate school, I've been doing my best to focus on me and my well being. This is a hard time of year for all if us I'm sure, the holidays are so painful. My younger brother is an addi...	Sam813	1	292	Dec 23, 2012 by hotrod
	Telling kids xmass is canceled (Preview) This is the first year with no tree no gifts the first xmass my husband will be sober . I understand this but the kids don't. Lack of money due to no overtime to many dr appt for my ah and A W ( Al-anon wife ) I'm depressed for the kids , I'm depressed for my AH and myself. How do you tell kids?	RR67	6	505	Dec 23, 2012 by TryingToChange
	My son (Preview) I feeling a bit down but OK. My son is now drinking 24/7 so I'm sure he's is in pretty bad shape. It's so sad. I wanted to see him for Christmas but it's not going to happen. I don't think he even knows it's Christmas. He talks about nothing....only bits and pieces of the past. He really doesn't know...	Cathyinaz	2	317	Dec 23, 2012 by TryingToChange
	I think my son is using in rehab (Preview) So I'm new to all of this.... My son went into treatment a little over a week ago. His drug of choice is Meth and Alcohol. Last night we had a family meeting. The first part of the meeting was a lecture and then the second was a family group meeting with other families. In between the meetings there is a...	AKAZBRA	3	355	Dec 23, 2012 by AlAnonDave
	feel much better. (Preview) OK so I feel much better today. I got through a stressful day yesterday as I really actually knew I would. I am OK w/ not spending too much time thinking about my dad. I had some moments of memories & then I let it go. I am so glad that I don't have to be depressed. Mostly yesterday I was just anxious. I am tr...	Hoot Nanny	0	282	Dec 22, 2012 by Hoot Nanny
	Grieving the loss of trust (Preview) I am in full blown codependency relapse. I'm going to a f2f meeting tomorrow at 11:00. The quick version: My AH relapsed after 2 1/2 years of sobriety about 6 weeks ago...got back into program...then 2 weeks ago came home drunk, denied it, got angry and left for overnight, came back the next morning rag...	crazycatlady	6	583	Dec 23, 2012 by crazycatlady
	Wanting to pack up and move away! (Preview) Last night after spending a few mins. with my a/a daughter, I had a fantasy of packing up and moving far, far away. I can't tolerate being around her even for a few mins. Her denial and delusions are deeply ingrained. She wanted to show me a picture of a "spirit/ghost" she had taken on her c...	Highlyfavored	1	379	Dec 23, 2012 by Jerry F
	CHAIR FOR CHRISTMAS MORNING? (Preview) Hello Al-a-Family, I am the Tuesday Morining Chair for MIP Al-Anon Meetings in Al-Anon Chat. I try very hard to be there, especially around the holidays, but I regret to inform you that I will not have computer access from Christmas Eve through the day after Christmas. If there is anyone willing and a...	Desirae	0	250	Dec 22, 2012 by Desirae
	Guide lines boundarys set (Preview) Well wed night was hell. I went to a meeting and I was so scared and nervous that I would arrive there on time. Since the past 30 days ah became sober . Build this controlling issue that needed to no who and where I was with . He was annualized every thing I did . So after meeting which was running late. I was so f...	RR67	2	409	Dec 23, 2012 by Jozie
	Always Someone Else's Fault (Preview) Tonight my husband called to rake me over the coals because I, according to him, had told a friend of his not to hire him. He was fired from his financial consulting job in October because he was drinking on the job. He had the bright idea to get in touch with a friend of his who owns his own financial consu...	WornOutMrsFixIt	3	361	Dec 23, 2012 by AlAnonDave
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