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seekinganswers · seekinganswers

Hi, I'm new here and I'm a mess right now so please bare with me. Has anyone here have the A go dark on you? Totally ignore you? Cut contact with you out of nowhere? and literally disappear? Let you in complet dispair not knowing what happened or why they did it? The A in my life has done this several times and...

pixie · pixie

Hi everyone,haven't posted in a while.Hope everyone is doing good. My alcoholic father in law is 80 and showing signs of dementia or alzheimers.He drinks constantly and has for years.Taught my husband everything he knows.I'm wondering what will happen to him if he needs to be put in a nursing home an...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

AH had his last outpatient day today. He was drinking most of the weekend, so it is pretty clear that he can't do this on his own. A week ago he said he couldnt wait for IOP to end so he could go to AA everday, but who knows if he will follow through. I am feeling pretty accepting of the drinking, he's gonna do...

Sincerely · Sincerely

over the last 18 months i've been living totally seperately from my husband. went for months without even seeing him. i did talk to him each day. however i avoided seeing him, as his behavior was competely unacceptable to me. he was using and drinking excessively. my heart always wished he'd get h...

sweeetr · sweeetr

.. this wkend, I did a lot of "me" stuff (painting etc) My AH did a lot of yard work, no telling how much he drank but by every night he couldnt talk and would stumble in the house. I just did my thing, and he did his. Our son came home Sat evening, my mother in law dropped him off 3 hours early with m...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I thought I was over letting my stbxah lure me into an arguement. I know what he's doing and I've been doing so good at not responding to his nonsense but tonight I let him bait me into the crazy ranting and raving that I know he wanted. I have not heard from him for 3 weeks. Despite having serious financial...

buffalo78 · buffalo78

Now that my alcoholic ex has moved out and completely disappeared, I have had some quiet time to just sit with myself. Its been pretty uncomfortable, actually. And every time I start thinking something positive about no longer having to deal with him around, I feel guilty. How do you deal with that?...

1976love · 1976love

Tonight is the night I go to my AH 90 day celebration meeting. Don't know why I am a little nervous. I have never been to an AA meeting ever. My husband says he has to speak and wants me there. I will go. I am proud of him for controlling the disease for 90 days...he's longest stretch ever. Every day is a...

buffalo78 · buffalo78

What is wrong with me? I am serious. I kicked the alcoholic boyfriend out a few days ago and today it really hit me. I am just really hurt by all this. I feel like I keep going through this over and over and over again. Kicking him out, obsessing and worrying he is going to die.... I really thought this...

CeeBee · CeeBee

I've been in Al-Anon for almost 6 months now - and it's been an absolute roller coaster. For the first time in my life I now have the ability to sit back and see this family disease cause chaos in my family of origin - and in my own life.Today I had a huge argument with my partner. I've been ummm-ing and ahhh-i...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Today my son asked me to report his baseball home runs on a website, he couldn't figure out how to do it. I figured it out and reported them. I found myself feeling resentful again, I thought to myself, why can't my ex husband do this? Do the resentments ever go away?

dponlyme · dponlyme

I was feeling nauseated this past day and stayed in bed all day and slept. Feel better now but skipped counseling which sucks. AW wants me to take her to the store after 10 pm and since I don't have a car I would have to borrow my mothers car and she had already went to bed. AW throws tantrum because I refus...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't live in Hawaii or Heaven but I think where I live is paradise! Just saying that I would rather be here than anywhere else. I guess wherever you are if you are happy, you can find yourself exactly where you are supposed to be. I guess I am settled completely after over 18 years in the same place. I used...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Open my eyes and I see the progress. My heart softens. My nerves are a roller coaster! Yesterday I got a phone call from Husband. His insurance will not cover after 45 days on inpatient. I was upset, confused. It was a bump in the road. We have options. Today he and his counsler called me. We are worki...

LizLooking · LizLooking

I am constantly struggling with finding my boundaries with my best friend, and ensuring that I am not sacrificing myself for him too much. He is a recovering alcoholic, and has been sober for over 6 months. I am so proud of him, and send him all the love in the world. Whenever he has a problem though, or a s...

ntxalanon · ntxalanon

I have posted in the past, but my wife has struggled with alchohol addiction for 6 years and we have 3 beautiful children aged 5 (twins) and 2. She has been to rehab and managed to stay sober for a year, and since then has had a couple of relapses (now only going a couple of days without drinking) to the poin...

DoingThisForMyGuy · DoingThisForMyGuy

About a year ago, my boyfriend declared himself an addict. He actually had a problem with cocaine more than anything and after losing his job, decided to start going to NA meetings. He started going to AA meetings as well, since there were more AA meetings he could go to in our area and at certain times...

rainlax · rainlax

This wknd there was a big AA conference in my city, which my partner attended. He took me to hear an al-anon speaker yesterday morning, who was amazing. The person chairing that meeting was an al-anon member who is also the al-anon chair for the conference. My partner is on the conference planning comm...

rehprof · rehprof

My exA has been relatively quiet. This week he called, and started in on me...the first time he called, I was able to use my alanon tools...I posted about it... He has been very ill, so ill that my 10yo asked me "is Dad gonna die?" He has no health insurance (my fault for divorcing him, you see),...

norasq · norasq

I separated from my husband of 19 years about 2 months ago. The separation was preceded by years of trying to work on our marriage, lots of marriage counseling, and my being so confused and frustrated by his always forgetting, his seeming checked out on so many levels, his lack of interest in doing any...

PP · PP

It is time for a face to face meeting...I missed my meeting last week and chose to do some volunteer work instead, so now I have the "I suck" voices popping up. A testimony as to how quickly I can fall back into old patterns. Since I know better, I cannot blame anyone else

. I was even telli...

Sincerely · Sincerely

gezz, this morning at 6am 5pm seemed sooooo far away. almost too far away. well, i'm almost there, made it through my work day. even going to pick up some dinner for me and my bestfriend. she'll prolly make me go exercise (we walk 2 miles on an overpass). maybe tonight won't seem as dark as yesterday was...

DavidG · DavidG

A woman leaves an Alanon meeting, punching her fist in the air: I'm free, I'm free! A little boy bowls up to her and fixes her gaze: That's nothing, ma'am, I'm four.

buffalo78 · buffalo78

Hi, I went to my first al-anon meeting two days ago and felt very welcomed. I plan on going again, but in between, I just need to share and get this out of my head. I hope I am in the right place and if not, please let me know... Anyways, for about 16 years, right after high school, I got together with a guy who...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yeah for those who know this: this is definitely lyrics to a song! I am so grateful for the good days & promise of a bright future. I really have nothing to complain about today! I can wear my shades even when the sun isn't out: optimism! I hope that everyone who reads this will find hope & some insp...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Yesterday, my AM told me, whilst sober (at the moment) that she would like to get back into going to church with me. This is the first time she's ever said anything like this before...is this a sign from her HP, who she calls God to help her? has anyone else had this experience? I'm hopeful that this is a new...

Rinn · Rinn

So I freaked out about 3 weeks ago, He stopped pills and found him doing something else WAY worse. It was horrible. I almost left. I laid down some bounderies, and stuck by them and he has respected that. But we worked through it, I have been doing alanon online in evenings. We have talked a lot, air...

stephaniej · stephaniej

For those of you who don't know my story, in a nutshell, I work a regular 8-5 job, and my AH works second shift (3-11). He does the very large majority of his drinking at home after work, when I am asleep and it doesn't interfere directly with family time. My AH has had periods where he is very emotionally...

Ms S · Ms S

my daughter is 20 she's been having a bit of a hard time recently as she broke up with her boyfriend and one of her university flatmates she is finding difficult to live with The upshot is that she's been spending more time at home and it's just what I needed We've had lots of lovely conversations and been...

John · John

I read a good number of post here tonight and even replied to a few of them. One really hit me hard. It was someone asking if anyone else had a alcoholic do a disappearing act on them, and how did they cope with it. It brought back so many different memories of my own life that before I even decided to reply...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I wrote a couple days ago that my AH relapsed in a post title "Same Old Story". But I realized just now, it is not the same old story. Instead of freaking out, I used my program skills, prayed to my HP and survived the last two days without much stress, relatively speaking of course. This is his...

Sincerely · Sincerely

I stayed in bed all day today. Last weekend too. I'm exhausted. Depressed too. Full of anxiety. I'm tired. I want my bounce back. My husband is in treatment. It's just me and my new puppy. (bad timing for the puppy, he's work!) i could sleep all day. Ill get anxiety tonight cause I might not be able to sleep...

John · John

While standing in line at a grocery store, I had the entertainment of a young girl and young boy behind me... they were all googly eyed at each other, in their very early teens. The boy asked the girl... do you think you'll ever get married? The girl replied..."I'm not sure, I saw my mom do it and it never w...

Jerry F · Jerry F

really have the connection with your HP!! That and the chicken soup made the flu fly...just a 24 hour thing. Mahalo to all of you. Used my MIP meds...lol (((((hugs)))))

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I've become afraid of my mailbox. Not really the mailbox but all the bad news and threatening letters it contains everyday. All the result of my stbxah completely abandoning all his responsibilities and leaving me to deal with the aftermath. Since I can't drink to escape reality like him I find myse...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

My daughter has been drinking all afternoon and evening with her Stepmother, and posting tweets and instagram photos about how drunk they are. Then she DROVE her stepmother 3 miles to get home, and called me from their driveway and asked/begged me to let her come over here to my place to sleep. I answer...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In the past I have mentioned that I have a friend who I have become more and more distant from. The reason for this is that I think he is an alcoholic. This person grew up in an alcoholic home and we've discussed it in the past, but ultim...

texasgal · texasgal

I tried so hard to keep calm and have peace tonight but my ah walked in and smells of alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so sad I had suspected he had relapsed but now I have confirmation. I feel awful and I cried for awhile. I know only he can help himself. I think I should move out but I can't afford it until the firs...

forestfairy · forestfairy

So I finally moved out with my son to a shelter because he just kept getting more insane. After two days of his frantic calling to my cell phone it appears the message finally sunk in: you need to work on your issues, call a therapist, not me. I can't fix it. He made an appointment. This is Heruculean for h...

Giggleball · Giggleball

So, I'm new here and new to this world. My AH is in an inpatient treatment facility -- due out a week from Sunday. He's been really taking rehab seriously and the 12 steps. I'm so proud of him and what he is doing for himself. I am scared, though... I am scared because he is more like the man I married now t...

el-cee · el-cee

My son, 19, who is showing signs of progressing in his quest to not feel what he feels or think what he thinks about himself. He is currently homeless, he has a court case coming up in the next couple of weeks, there is a real chance he will go to prison for failing twice to comply with probation, so he is...

MAGK55 · MAGK55

It just seems like it is the same day after day. Money problems, drama from the alcoholic, work problems. Blah, blah, blah. I have been attending AL-ANON meetings on Monday and I love going but life just seems depressing and meaningless.

John · John

On my wall is a picture of my son, who is holding his new born, first child, the day he was born. Both have their eyes closed and the love and connectedness is so obvious in that picture. My grandchild is now 10 years old. Then I have another picture... of my son's mug shot taken in jail. Not on my wall of c...

Jerry F · Jerry F

It might be the flu or whatever. It started coming on this morning just as I was waking up. I needed support to stand without wavering back and forth and I had a cup of coffee and felt better; got my truck and made it to my home meeting. God can I be more greatly blessed than what has been given to me with thi...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Yesterday I received an email from my mother saying my family is going to my brother's home in another state for Easter. I only have this one sibling, its just the four of us and his wife and my only niece who Im crazy about. My brother's wife's family will be there too. We have always spent holidays togeth...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I'm awake at 2 AM ruminating and cooking up a resentment against 1 of my bosses. I had an idea about a training for gay and lesbian awareness, sensitivity, and resources. I have some connections outside of work and have used them to help my office/organization before. Generally speaking, I am a dy...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I just couldn't stand it anymore. This attorney is the most self-centered, rude, condescending person I have ever met. Not only that, I truly believe she is a hoarder. 50% of my day is spent searching for things that she has misplaced in that trash heap that she calls an office. The other 40% is spent m...

sheristeele · sheristeele

Over the last few days my addicted son who no longer lives with me has been contacting me and giving me a lot of grief because I will not let him have his box of 50 to 75 DVD;s (which I paid for when he lived with me). The reason I will not let him have them is because I know that he will sell them for drug money. I...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

Hi. I am posting tonight because my boyfriend has decided that he wants to look into a thirty day facility like passages. Or something cheaper obviously. He is going to call his mom tonight and tell her, and ask about insurance or what he should do. I am literally riddled with anxiety and fear??? :conf...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Back to the good old days when I was being more positive. I feel like I have been suffering from negativity. I just needed to get humble a bit to get the gratitude back. I have been a little bit uncomfortable in my own skin but today I feel like I can do almost anything that I put my mind to. If something goes wr...

Maurice · Maurice

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canadianguy · canadianguy

http://alanon.activeboard.com/t52247626/the-promises-of-alanon/

texasgal · texasgal

As the holiday approaches the drama with my AH has already started. He didn't come home wednesday night and today he is off and already its a big drama about his job. I'm off all weekend from both my jobs. I know I'm going to a meeting tomorrow. But I need to make plans with family or friends the rest of weeke...

imom · imom

Hi Everyone, I haven't posted in a while because things at my house have been really really bad, and all week all I have wanted to do is come home from work and crawl in bed and hide. Today as I was walking down the hall at work, I looked out at the sun shining. I began thinking about how we finally have a bea...

Pushka · Pushka

to be angry .. lol. Now the anger was exhausting, at least I could keep up the steel gates and walls and not have to deal with the hurt. Ironically, STBAX moved out 15 months ago and I'm only NOW dealing with the hurt. Being angry afforded me not to face my pain initially and I had a lot of pain going into t...

seekinganswers · seekinganswers

Hi, This is my first post and I'm very lost right now. I hope someone can point me in the right direction. I don't live near by Al Anon meetings but I would like to find a sponsor, someone to email/talk on the phone. Does anyone know how can I do it? Thank you very much in advance!

Lupo · Lupo

After six months of relapse that seemingly continued to get worse and worse I have asked my fiance to leave our home. I can no longer bear to live with the insanity in my life. She has continued to increase her use. Typically two nights a week she will not come home. I have found drug paraphenalia all ove...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I was hopeful after yesterday's promises. AH said he was committed to recovery, blah blah blah. Today I get home from work, he is gone. There is a note on the table saying he is "planning to stay at his parents". I know him. This is how he can say he didn't lie. He "planned" to stay at h...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Sometimes when I get upset and worried and go into a tailspin I think why? I'm doing everything I should be doing to get healthy. Why do I continue to have a problem detaching... Well...I'm human. Those feelings will always be there, it's just how do I handle them to keep me safe and have pe...

Number30 · Number30

I'm doing a lot better, staying calm, working out a Plan B that actually excites me a little and then tomorrow is AH's payday (not that he's been to work in over a week!) Payday is the worst. He gets two physical checks. Cashes one and hands it to me for bills/groceries/gas, everything except his lovely m...

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	Anyone had this happened??? How do you cope??? (Preview) Hi, I'm new here and I'm a mess right now so please bare with me. Has anyone here have the A go dark on you? Totally ignore you? Cut contact with you out of nowhere? and literally disappear? Let you in complet dispair not knowing what happened or why they did it? The A in my life has done this several times and...	seekinganswers	8	597	Apr 4, 2013 by Help
	alcoholic father in law and dementia (Preview) Hi everyone,haven't posted in a while.Hope everyone is doing good. My alcoholic father in law is 80 and showing signs of dementia or alzheimers.He drinks constantly and has for years.Taught my husband everything he knows.I'm wondering what will happen to him if he needs to be put in a nursing home an...	pixie	5	416	Apr 4, 2013 by Mattie
	Need to stay strong and focused (Preview) AH had his last outpatient day today. He was drinking most of the weekend, so it is pretty clear that he can't do this on his own. A week ago he said he couldnt wait for IOP to end so he could go to AA everday, but who knows if he will follow through. I am feeling pretty accepting of the drinking, he's gonna do...	ParisMemories	5	423	Apr 4, 2013 by ParisMemories
	i'm not perfect (Preview) over the last 18 months i've been living totally seperately from my husband. went for months without even seeing him. i did talk to him each day. however i avoided seeing him, as his behavior was competely unacceptable to me. he was using and drinking excessively. my heart always wished he'd get h...	Sincerely	5	279	Apr 3, 2013 by hotrod
	lil binge drinking? no sympathy from "accidents" that happen from me (Preview) .. this wkend, I did a lot of "me" stuff (painting etc) My AH did a lot of yard work, no telling how much he drank but by every night he couldnt talk and would stumble in the house. I just did my thing, and he did his. Our son came home Sat evening, my mother in law dropped him off 3 hours early with m...	sweeetr	5	377	Apr 3, 2013 by sweeetr
	Once again I take the bait (Preview) I thought I was over letting my stbxah lure me into an arguement. I know what he's doing and I've been doing so good at not responding to his nonsense but tonight I let him bait me into the crazy ranting and raving that I know he wanted. I have not heard from him for 3 weeks. Despite having serious financial...	scaredandconfused	6	339	Apr 3, 2013 by NicoleDiver
	Will Al-Anon help me with this..... (Preview) Now that my alcoholic ex has moved out and completely disappeared, I have had some quiet time to just sit with myself. Its been pretty uncomfortable, actually. And every time I start thinking something positive about no longer having to deal with him around, I feel guilty. How do you deal with that?...	buffalo78	3	320	Apr 3, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	a little nervous (Preview) Tonight is the night I go to my AH 90 day celebration meeting. Don't know why I am a little nervous. I have never been to an AA meeting ever. My husband says he has to speak and wants me there. I will go. I am proud of him for controlling the disease for 90 days...he's longest stretch ever. Every day is a...	1976love	4	249	Apr 3, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	i'm just really hurt. (Preview) What is wrong with me? I am serious. I kicked the alcoholic boyfriend out a few days ago and today it really hit me. I am just really hurt by all this. I feel like I keep going through this over and over and over again. Kicking him out, obsessing and worrying he is going to die.... I really thought this...	buffalo78	4	407	Apr 3, 2013 by Sincerely
	I wish my Higher Power would hurry the hell up and help me end this relationship (Preview) I've been in Al-Anon for almost 6 months now - and it's been an absolute roller coaster. For the first time in my life I now have the ability to sit back and see this family disease cause chaos in my family of origin - and in my own life.Today I had a huge argument with my partner. I've been ummm-ing and ahhh-i...	CeeBee	9	399	Apr 3, 2013 by milkwood
	Do the resentments against the A's ever go away? (Preview) Today my son asked me to report his baseball home runs on a website, he couldn't figure out how to do it. I figured it out and reported them. I found myself feeling resentful again, I thought to myself, why can't my ex husband do this? Do the resentments ever go away?	mercedes1959	6	437	Apr 3, 2013 by Pushka
	struggling myself mentally and physically- AW angry again (Preview) I was feeling nauseated this past day and stayed in bed all day and slept. Feel better now but skipped counseling which sucks. AW wants me to take her to the store after 10 pm and since I don't have a car I would have to borrow my mothers car and she had already went to bed. AW throws tantrum because I refus...	dponlyme	3	356	Apr 3, 2013 by Aloha
	just another day in paradise... (Preview) I don't live in Hawaii or Heaven but I think where I live is paradise! Just saying that I would rather be here than anywhere else. I guess wherever you are if you are happy, you can find yourself exactly where you are supposed to be. I guess I am settled completely after over 18 years in the same place. I used...	Hoot Nanny	4	215	Apr 3, 2013 by Hopeful925
	Husband In Treatment - Roller Coaster Inside Me (Preview) Open my eyes and I see the progress. My heart softens. My nerves are a roller coaster! Yesterday I got a phone call from Husband. His insurance will not cover after 45 days on inpatient. I was upset, confused. It was a bump in the road. We have options. Today he and his counsler called me. We are worki...	Sincerely	7	271	Apr 3, 2013 by PP
	Helping or being a crutch (Preview) I am constantly struggling with finding my boundaries with my best friend, and ensuring that I am not sacrificing myself for him too much. He is a recovering alcoholic, and has been sober for over 6 months. I am so proud of him, and send him all the love in the world. Whenever he has a problem though, or a s...	LizLooking	6	598	Apr 3, 2013 by LizLooking
	Help with setting boundries and educating small children (Preview) I have posted in the past, but my wife has struggled with alchohol addiction for 6 years and we have 3 beautiful children aged 5 (twins) and 2. She has been to rehab and managed to stay sober for a year, and since then has had a couple of relapses (now only going a couple of days without drinking) to the poin...	ntxalanon	3	304	Apr 3, 2013 by Mattie
	My AA guy is doing better than I am (Preview) About a year ago, my boyfriend declared himself an addict. He actually had a problem with cocaine more than anything and after losing his job, decided to start going to NA meetings. He started going to AA meetings as well, since there were more AA meetings he could go to in our area and at certain times...	DoingThisForMyGuy	6	209	Apr 2, 2013 by MeTwo2
	New groups for us shy folks? (Preview) This wknd there was a big AA conference in my city, which my partner attended. He took me to hear an al-anon speaker yesterday morning, who was amazing. The person chairing that meeting was an al-anon member who is also the al-anon chair for the conference. My partner is on the conference planning comm...	rainlax	11	553	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	fearing mortality? (Preview) My exA has been relatively quiet. This week he called, and started in on me...the first time he called, I was able to use my alanon tools...I posted about it... He has been very ill, so ill that my 10yo asked me "is Dad gonna die?" He has no health insurance (my fault for divorcing him, you see),...	rehprof	9	296	Apr 2, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Can't Stop Thinking (Preview) I separated from my husband of 19 years about 2 months ago. The separation was preceded by years of trying to work on our marriage, lots of marriage counseling, and my being so confused and frustrated by his always forgetting, his seeming checked out on so many levels, his lack of interest in doing any...	norasq	4	321	Apr 2, 2013 by norasq
	A week of the "I suck voices" (Preview) It is time for a face to face meeting...I missed my meeting last week and chose to do some volunteer work instead, so now I have the "I suck" voices popping up. A testimony as to how quickly I can fall back into old patterns. Since I know better, I cannot blame anyone else. I was even telli...	PP	12	845	Apr 2, 2013 by ilovedogs
	i'm going to make it (Preview) gezz, this morning at 6am 5pm seemed sooooo far away. almost too far away. well, i'm almost there, made it through my work day. even going to pick up some dinner for me and my bestfriend. she'll prolly make me go exercise (we walk 2 miles on an overpass). maybe tonight won't seem as dark as yesterday was...	Sincerely	4	198	Apr 2, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Keeping things in perspective.... (Preview) A woman leaves an Alanon meeting, punching her fist in the air: I'm free, I'm free! A little boy bowls up to her and fixes her gaze: That's nothing, ma'am, I'm four.	DavidG	4	189	Apr 2, 2013 by nmike
	I'm new & LOST. (Preview) Hi, I went to my first al-anon meeting two days ago and felt very welcomed. I plan on going again, but in between, I just need to share and get this out of my head. I hope I am in the right place and if not, please let me know... Anyways, for about 16 years, right after high school, I got together with a guy who...	buffalo78	4	352	Apr 2, 2013 by buffalo78
	the future's so bright(I gotta wear shades!) (Preview) Yeah for those who know this: this is definitely lyrics to a song! I am so grateful for the good days & promise of a bright future. I really have nothing to complain about today! I can wear my shades even when the sun isn't out: optimism! I hope that everyone who reads this will find hope & some insp...	Hoot Nanny	2	321	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	A turning point for my AM? (Preview) Yesterday, my AM told me, whilst sober (at the moment) that she would like to get back into going to church with me. This is the first time she's ever said anything like this before...is this a sign from her HP, who she calls God to help her? has anyone else had this experience? I'm hopeful that this is a new...	phoenixmagicgirl	1	205	Apr 2, 2013 by pinkchip
	My husband is doing really good. wow! (Preview) So I freaked out about 3 weeks ago, He stopped pills and found him doing something else WAY worse. It was horrible. I almost left. I laid down some bounderies, and stuck by them and he has respected that. But we worked through it, I have been doing alanon online in evenings. We have talked a lot, air...	Rinn	5	248	Apr 2, 2013 by Rinn
	I am struggling mightily tonight, and could use some ESH (Preview) For those of you who don't know my story, in a nutshell, I work a regular 8-5 job, and my AH works second shift (3-11). He does the very large majority of his drinking at home after work, when I am asleep and it doesn't interfere directly with family time. My AH has had periods where he is very emotionally...	stephaniej	19	398	Apr 2, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	some good news about my daughter (Preview) my daughter is 20 she's been having a bit of a hard time recently as she broke up with her boyfriend and one of her university flatmates she is finding difficult to live with The upshot is that she's been spending more time at home and it's just what I needed We've had lots of lovely conversations and been...	Ms S	4	356	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	A piece of my history... (Preview) I read a good number of post here tonight and even replied to a few of them. One really hit me hard. It was someone asking if anyone else had a alcoholic do a disappearing act on them, and how did they cope with it. It brought back so many different memories of my own life that before I even decided to reply...	John	9	346	Apr 2, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Not the Same Old Story (Preview) I wrote a couple days ago that my AH relapsed in a post title "Same Old Story". But I realized just now, it is not the same old story. Instead of freaking out, I used my program skills, prayed to my HP and survived the last two days without much stress, relatively speaking of course. This is his...	ParisMemories	6	235	Apr 1, 2013 by Pushka
	Exhausted (Preview) I stayed in bed all day today. Last weekend too. I'm exhausted. Depressed too. Full of anxiety. I'm tired. I want my bounce back. My husband is in treatment. It's just me and my new puppy. (bad timing for the puppy, he's work!) i could sleep all day. Ill get anxiety tonight cause I might not be able to sleep...	Sincerely	5	239	Apr 1, 2013 by PP
	A funny I heard last night... (Preview) While standing in line at a grocery store, I had the entertainment of a young girl and young boy behind me... they were all googly eyed at each other, in their very early teens. The boy asked the girl... do you think you'll ever get married? The girl replied..."I'm not sure, I saw my mom do it and it never w...	John	1	203	Apr 1, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Wow you people (Preview) really have the connection with your HP!! That and the chicken soup made the flu fly...just a 24 hour thing. Mahalo to all of you. Used my MIP meds...lol (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	4	297	Apr 1, 2013 by Pushka
	Fear of the mailbox (Preview) I've become afraid of my mailbox. Not really the mailbox but all the bad news and threatening letters it contains everyday. All the result of my stbxah completely abandoning all his responsibilities and leaving me to deal with the aftermath. Since I can't drink to escape reality like him I find myse...	scaredandconfused	5	522	Apr 1, 2013 by PP
	Time to put...something...into practice (Preview) My daughter has been drinking all afternoon and evening with her Stepmother, and posting tweets and instagram photos about how drunk they are. Then she DROVE her stepmother 3 miles to get home, and called me from their driveway and asked/begged me to let her come over here to my place to sleep. I answer...	ClearTheFog	5	2231	Apr 1, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	I have a friend who I think is an alcoholic. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In the past I have mentioned that I have a friend who I have become more and more distant from. The reason for this is that I think he is an alcoholic. This person grew up in an alcoholic home and we've discussed it in the past, but ultim...	slogan_jim	7	290	Apr 1, 2013 by slogan_jim
	my ah relapsed (Preview) I tried so hard to keep calm and have peace tonight but my ah walked in and smells of alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so sad I had suspected he had relapsed but now I have confirmation. I feel awful and I cried for awhile. I know only he can help himself. I think I should move out but I can't afford it until the firs...	texasgal	5	244	Apr 1, 2013 by Ms S
	When can we all live together again? (Preview) So I finally moved out with my son to a shelter because he just kept getting more insane. After two days of his frantic calling to my cell phone it appears the message finally sunk in: you need to work on your issues, call a therapist, not me. I can't fix it. He made an appointment. This is Heruculean for h...	forestfairy	7	383	Apr 1, 2013 by forestfairy
	New Here (Preview) So, I'm new here and new to this world. My AH is in an inpatient treatment facility -- due out a week from Sunday. He's been really taking rehab seriously and the 12 steps. I'm so proud of him and what he is doing for himself. I am scared, though... I am scared because he is more like the man I married now t...	Giggleball	6	350	Apr 1, 2013 by Giggleball
	cant let go! (Preview) My son, 19, who is showing signs of progressing in his quest to not feel what he feels or think what he thinks about himself. He is currently homeless, he has a court case coming up in the next couple of weeks, there is a real chance he will go to prison for failing twice to comply with probation, so he is...	el-cee	8	360	Mar 31, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Is this ever going to change (Preview) It just seems like it is the same day after day. Money problems, drama from the alcoholic, work problems. Blah, blah, blah. I have been attending AL-ANON meetings on Monday and I love going but life just seems depressing and meaningless.	MAGK55	7	443	Mar 31, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Hurting, Loving, Believing, Trusting, Fearing, etc, etc, etc... (Preview) On my wall is a picture of my son, who is holding his new born, first child, the day he was born. Both have their eyes closed and the love and connectedness is so obvious in that picture. My grandchild is now 10 years old. Then I have another picture... of my son's mug shot taken in jail. Not on my wall of c...	John	6	382	Mar 31, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Physically sick...good! (Preview) It might be the flu or whatever. It started coming on this morning just as I was waking up. I needed support to stand without wavering back and forth and I had a cup of coffee and felt better; got my truck and made it to my home meeting. *God can I be more greatly blessed than what has been given to me with thi...*	Jerry F	9	452	Mar 31, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Oh boy, here we go again! (Preview) Yesterday I received an email from my mother saying my family is going to my brother's home in another state for Easter. I only have this one sibling, its just the four of us and his wife and my only niece who Im crazy about. My brother's wife's family will be there too. We have always spent holidays togeth...	WorkingThroughIt	11	326	Mar 31, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	People pleasing martyr complex (Preview) I'm awake at 2 AM ruminating and cooking up a resentment against 1 of my bosses. I had an idea about a training for gay and lesbian awareness, sensitivity, and resources. I have some connections outside of work and have used them to help my office/organization before. Generally speaking, I am a dy...	pinkchip	22	1026	Mar 31, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Quit My Job Yesterday (Preview) I just couldn't stand it anymore. This attorney is the most self-centered, rude, condescending person I have ever met. Not only that, I truly believe she is a hoarder. 50% of my day is spent searching for things that she has misplaced in that trash heap that she calls an office. The other 40% is spent m...	wornoutmrsfixit	7	429	Mar 31, 2013 by wornoutmrsfixit
	Give in to the addict or take a stand? (Preview) Over the last few days my addicted son who no longer lives with me has been contacting me and giving me a lot of grief because I will not let him have his box of 50 to 75 DVD;s (which I paid for when he lived with me). The reason I will not let him have them is because I know that he will sell them for drug money. I...	sheristeele	9	321	Mar 31, 2013 by Pushka
	Fear when spouse is starting rehabilitation, codependent? (Preview) Hi. I am posting tonight because my boyfriend has decided that he wants to look into a thirty day facility like passages. Or something cheaper obviously. He is going to call his mom tonight and tell her, and ask about insurance or what he should do. I am literally riddled with anxiety and fear??? :conf...	giraffe13	6	293	Mar 31, 2013 by giraffe13
	on a positive track! (Preview) Back to the good old days when I was being more positive. I feel like I have been suffering from negativity. I just needed to get humble a bit to get the gratitude back. I have been a little bit uncomfortable in my own skin but today I feel like I can do almost anything that I put my mind to. If something goes wr...	Hoot Nanny	3	255	Mar 30, 2013 by el-cee
	Rebuilding bridges (Preview) -- Edited by Maurice on Thursday 28th of March 2013 12:17:27 PM	Maurice	4	252	Mar 30, 2013 by milkwood
	Promises - for anyone and everyone.... (Preview) http://alanon.activeboard.com/t52247626/the-promises-of-alanon/	canadianguy	3	286	Mar 30, 2013 by John
	holidays :( (Preview) As the holiday approaches the drama with my AH has already started. He didn't come home wednesday night and today he is off and already its a big drama about his job. I'm off all weekend from both my jobs. I know I'm going to a meeting tomorrow. But I need to make plans with family or friends the rest of weeke...	texasgal	3	208	Mar 30, 2013 by John
	trying to stay positive (Preview) Hi Everyone, I haven't posted in a while because things at my house have been really really bad, and all week all I have wanted to do is come home from work and crawl in bed and hide. Today as I was walking down the hall at work, I looked out at the sun shining. I began thinking about how we finally have a bea...	imom	3	270	Mar 30, 2013 by tortuga
	It really was easier .. (Preview) to be angry .. lol. Now the anger was exhausting, at least I could keep up the steel gates and walls and not have to deal with the hurt. Ironically, STBAX moved out 15 months ago and I'm only NOW dealing with the hurt. Being angry afforded me not to face my pain initially and I had a lot of pain going into t...	Pushka	10	527	Mar 30, 2013 by Pushka
	Finding A Sponsor (Preview) Hi, This is my first post and I'm very lost right now. I hope someone can point me in the right direction. I don't live near by Al Anon meetings but I would like to find a sponsor, someone to email/talk on the phone. Does anyone know how can I do it? Thank you very much in advance!	seekinganswers	4	256	Mar 30, 2013 by seekinganswers
	It finally happened (Preview) After six months of relapse that seemingly continued to get worse and worse I have asked my fiance to leave our home. I can no longer bear to live with the insanity in my life. She has continued to increase her use. Typically two nights a week she will not come home. I have found drug paraphenalia all ove...	Lupo	4	253	Mar 30, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Same old story (Preview) I was hopeful after yesterday's promises. AH said he was committed to recovery, blah blah blah. Today I get home from work, he is gone. There is a note on the table saying he is "planning to stay at his parents". I know him. This is how he can say he didn't lie. He "planned" to stay at h...	ParisMemories	7	301	Mar 29, 2013 by maryjane
	Thank you (Preview) Good Morning Sometimes when I get upset and worried and go into a tailspin I think why? I'm doing everything I should be doing to get healthy. Why do I continue to have a problem detaching... Well...I'm human. Those feelings will always be there, it's just how do I handle them to keep me safe and have pe...	Cathyinaz	7	372	Mar 29, 2013 by maryjane
	Payday (Preview) I'm doing a lot better, staying calm, working out a Plan B that actually excites me a little and then tomorrow is AH's payday (not that he's been to work in over a week!) Payday is the worst. He gets two physical checks. Cashes one and hands it to me for bills/groceries/gas, everything except his lovely m...	Number30	5	255	Mar 29, 2013 by maryjane
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