Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

islandtime · islandtime

Well it seems now that I have flung open the door, I'm kicking a few asses out of it. People that are not worthy of my friendship, or time. I thought I was friends with a couple of women, but the more I got to know them, I realized they were awful mean spirited, gossiping, back stabbing, b***. I go to a gym se...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so grateful for my cell phone these days. It does more for me than I realized. I used to almost hate it because it is touch screen & I almost always seem to touch the wrong thing. But, not these days! I am so glad that I can record like on a tape recorder my favorite songs & all. I couldn't possibly...

Bettina · Bettina

"Your Value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your Worth." Unk

Jen61 · Jen61

My husband started drinking about 8 years ago. It was not all the time, day in and day out, but he drank. He has quit before and I always felt wow, okay, we can go on. But, it did not last long. I finally told him two months ago I could not do this anymore and that he would have to leave. He was gone for 4 days...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Something happen this morning I felt odd different I think it has something to do with last night I made a hole in a shoe box and labeled it ms negativity . I looked at my self in my photos I take lots of and when I see that girl I'n the photo I seen some one other than me . I saw this girl lost but not ugly or stupid d...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

This is why I love my MIP family! You all so gently reminded me that hurting people hurt people and since a few of my new found friends are not in a recovery program I am noticing that they could probably use one. I know I have no control over them and maybe need to lower my expectations and just study with the...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I knew I would have ups and downs. Well the down came again. I got a call from my son's landlord and my son is drunk, has been for days and his landlord wants him out. I told him I can't do anything about it, he will have to call the police and whatever he needs to do. Now my anxiety has jumped up. I am doing al...

Bettina · Bettina

"Choices relating to one's partner, the balance between work & leisure time, participation in social activities, and healthy lifestyle are key factors in determining life satisfaction." (LiveHappy.com)

Bettina · Bettina

" Our greatest handicap is self-deception. We cannot recognize in ourselves the faults we criticize in others. If I could only foresee what an inspiring experience it is to search out the real me. I would not hesitate. The first step, after all, is to be completely honest in our search. "...

Growing77 · Growing77

Oh my goodness - I NEVER realise until its too late when he picks a fight and I get caught up trying to defend myself and then he's out the door with an excuse/reason to drink. So tired of this.

faith84 · faith84

To go home to my A with love. I will not resent him for his past mistakes, I will not blame him for mine. I will not inquire as to his use, I will not pry, as it is his business and not mine. I will not expect anything from him, as expectations are only upon myself. I will not worry, I will not feel anger, I will not...

afglin · afglin

Again I tried to get into the chatroom so I could attend the meetings. The java is not working. I sure hope it gets fixed. When I get the time I love to attend the meetings. LIN

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I get so mad when I work very hard to build these girls up in the nursing program that I am in and I work really hard at making them feel like they can do it! And every once in awhile they zing me with some stupid thing they say and it just pisses me off! I don't need to be brought down and I am unsure how to approach...

Rose50 · Rose50

I got a phone call this afternoon from my son. He is in the hospital (yet again). He told me he was having a panic attack and heart palpitations on Sunday and a roommate called 911. My suspicion is that he was drinking again. He can't handle stress and with being jobless and still waiting for his unemploym...

tortuga · tortuga

got email from A.... finally he is expressing all his feelings of gratitude towards the past... about the good times. I feel guilty now for being so distant, not taking the time to talk to him. I read the post about abuse cycle, and they also make sense. and the sentence : when in doubt, don't. am really...

neshema2 · neshema2

I know this is off topic and you guys will probably scroll and "dumpster it" but thats OK...I think breakthroughs even if off topic should be shared......Who knows??? Someone new just MIGHT be able to relate to this.............. I shared this on another board and it really woke up some f...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

i surrender i give up , im emtoinal broken down. i cant think of a reason to stay here . im dont fighting with my A , to many hurtful words were tossed theres no recovery from what we both said. im to sick to get help, im so confused and he sits there and smirks and tells me how sick and twisted my mind is. i w...

faith84 · faith84

So, after enduring four years of living and overly loving a heroin addict, I FINALLY got myself to an Al Anon meeting last night. No matter how much literature I've read on the disease and codependency, no matter how many therapy sessions I have had with both my therapist and my friends and family, fo...

grateful2be · grateful2be

This morning, a beautifully clear and sunny day in my locale, I went outside to my garden where I noticed a lone pink cone flower amidst the others that have all bloomed and turned brown and hard. I noticed a lump of something in the center of it. I walked closer to investigate. It was an iridescent gr...

tortuga · tortuga

I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for my own illness. I wouldn't come here if I didn't want to learn about myself and how to accept and love all about me. I wouldn't come back here, if I wasn't tired of being victimized due to my own weaknesses. I wouldn't have found this place if I didn't notice something was...

neshema2 · neshema2

I made a statement on my thread about its not being about the A's and N'a and Grateful picked up on a salient point about the lady asking one of my responsdees about the book being laid upon the sidewalk I posted that I had noticed it but did not want to open my "big mouth" MEANING that I sometimes...

yvettek · yvettek

I'm sorry for any mistakes I make with this post. This is my first time here and also the first time I ever talk about my son's problem with someone else. My son has been battling alcoholism for 8 years now. He's been to rehab twice, tried to commit suicide more times than I dare to remember and every now an...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning I need to say a little about getting in the last word, trying to explain, or answering emails, texts even phone calls. I just don't know why I had to do these things. WHY?? A fellow member finally got it though my head I can let go and I will be OK. To continue to try and explain, fix or ge...

Gaby · Gaby

Well my son has now been in rehab for 4 months and 1 day. He completes his 6 months of sobriety by choice in November. I still am not exactly where I want to be in my recovery. His Sponser has been working with me on the letting go letting god. As his pastor would say "your son needs to man up" face th...

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

My son keeps runnIng to his dads. His dad has no rules, no insight And hes never there. He buys our 19 year old beer and smokes pot with him. He sent me a message that says our son knows he has a problem, and we just need to encourage him right now....he needs encouragement. What he means by that is he wants us (...

goodmonkey · goodmonkey

I've been away from al-Anon for almost 3 years. at the same time i've been in a relationship with a man, who's not an addict. BUT he's a rageoholic, a victim of domestic violence as a kid (both getting beaten and witnessing his mom getting beaten) and grew up in a war-zone city in another part of the worl...

Lyne · Lyne

Last night at my F2F meeting, the topic was sponsorship. Throughout the years, I have heard people in recovery talk about their "meetings" and their "sponsors" like they were way too important. Now that I have accepted recovery as a very important part of my life, I get it. S...

Bettina · Bettina

" When will I realize that I need not permit the alcoholics behavior to confuse my life and destroy my peace of mind? When will I learn that there is no compulsion, in law or ethics, that forces me to accept humiliation, uncertainty and despair. Have I perhaps accepted it because I have a subconsci...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

This past weekend, I decided to accept my friends' invitation to go camping at a mountain camping site that my family used to go to when our kids were in school. At first, I was concerned that going back there would bring back some uncomfortable feelings. This was a place where memories were created for...

DavidG · DavidG

The greatest gift Alanon offers us is Lois, and each and every one of us... and each one of us matters so much, so please keep coming back. In 2011 A*** and I took a train north of New York and came to the woodland town where Lois Bill and hundreds...

islandtime · islandtime

For the last 2 years, I have been shut down, lights out, nobodys home...... to the point of hardly speaking a word to my AH, not looking at him, and in general acting like he didn't exist. This was not something I was doing on purpose, It just happened. When I did talk, it was sharp and mean, and critical...

grateful2be · grateful2be

"Don't miss this. Don't miss your life. There's infinitely more than the experience of love we already know. Push against your borders. Dare to move through the next threshold to the freedom awaiting you." (Paula D'Arcy)

Pushka · Pushka

I love that saying if nothing changes .. well .. nothing changes .. in seeing the STBAX on Sunday night as weird and intense as that reaction was it really goes to show me how much things in my little world have changed .. my world is not so little. Those who are struggling through their own situations and...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Just been reading recent posts about the abuse cycle. I reckon, we can't post about that nasty old abuse cycle often enough, when someone mentions living with abuse. I didn't understand it for years, I just got sucked in again and again. But the more you understand it, the more obvious it all becomes an...

oldergal · oldergal

Alanon has helped me alot, combined with all the self-help books I have read, first hand experience and I think age too I have come to a few conclusions....no matter what I have "choices". Looking back on my marriage and consequently my divorce, I concluded that it was HIS fault that he made...

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

My 19 year old son came around a few weeks ago...he sounded great! He was his old self, not using (no program) and it gave me hope! Then he got with some old friends slid there we go. He really wants to stop....but he's just not ready yet. He wants to go back to school and go into the navy, but this weekend I f...

afglin · afglin

Yesterday on Dr. Oz he had Steven Tyler for a guest. They talked about addiction and recovery. He brought on his doctor from the Betty Ford Center. The doctor has a great book and Steven Tyler wrote the foreword. I ordered it for my Kindle for under $9. I stopped the book I was reading and started it. WO...

hisimage · hisimage

I hope this is okay to post here. I am wanting to change my name. Do I have to create a new account or can I somehow change it?

joker · joker

I had a huge relization yesterday about why I alllow alcoholics and their abusive behaviors into my life. As some of you know I had just left my extremely abusive alcoholic BF that is no in jail for abusing me. I allow abuse as I abuse myself-mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. I can na...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

After working my hinder off to get into this RN program and doing my general eds, prerequisettes and sciences up the ying this last year I was finally accepted into the ADN program. I have been on top of the world! Day one was yesterday and if I thought I had worked hard up to now, I am about to prove to myself...

Rose50 · Rose50

Throughout the day, I find myself going back & forth between worry and fear for my son to calm and acceptance. Am I making any progress??

qwerty49 · qwerty49

So after nasty words and arguing for weeks, my alcoholic mum textd me saying she wanted to make friends before i leave so i said i do too, and invited her round for lunch, today she came round & told me how her house was going up for sale on Monday, she's been saying for years she's going to sell the house...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

The pseudo-ex and I texted this morning. I needed his legal advice on something that was bothering me and asked. I told him that I didn't want to talk about anything personal - I just needed his legal opinion on a matter. Since he is the master of self control he was - cool, calm and collected (as much as you...

Jerry F · Jerry F

a thing that I can. I've not done a certain 9th step for a long time because of the caveat "except when to do so would injure them or others" and so up till now I've poke and stabbed at it to see if I can rid myself of the self resentment for what I did a long while ago...before recovery came along...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Going back in time: On August 10th 1 am I let my mom go. I was up before dawn & there were some dark moments & still are. I am just grateful that time has gone by & I am experiencing the dawn in a different way. I feel very poetic these days & tend to share songs & titles that mean very much t...

Bettina · Bettina

There is no change without Action. You can say "This is it Life". Time for me to change this Life. I know I can do it. And then set yourself a plan. There is nothing you cant do if you have HOPE and put this hope into action.

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Today's Reminder " I sit on a man's back, choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by all possible means -- except by getting off his back." " Teach me to leave to others their inborn right to dignity and indep...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Just for today I will not force a solution. Based on my recent split, I realized the verbose email I penned to my ex was an attempt to control the situation. If I pan back and look at the times we have reconciled, with the exception of ONE, I have always been the one who has tried to write something eloquent,...

Bettina · Bettina

Step One must be learned and repeated until it becomes part of me. Whenever I give in to my natural impulse and habit to take over and to try and force a change, I'm in trouble again. I know I can only make progress when I really believe in and practice the First Step: 1. We admitted we were powerless over a...

Aloha · Aloha

I finally worked out a minor resentment I've been having lately and it gave me the courage to speak up today after taking the time to write things down. I really surprised myself when of all people who ended upon my resentment list, it was my boss. I was sitting down this weekend trying to pull up a new name...

faith84 · faith84

Hello all: It has been a while since I have been on here. A couple of years actually. I'm still fighting the good fight. My ABF has been using for too long. Finally I gave him the ultimatum back in the beginning of July, and told him it's rehab or your out. So after 4weeks of him "deciding" he fin...

abbyalana · abbyalana

I generally stay disengaged. Do not communicate for the most part and with the order for supervised visitation he has done nothing for months...and then...it starts again. He goes for 3-4 months of quiet and leaving me alone and not harassing our child and then back at it. I tell myself - you can't...

John · John

It was through my journey in recovery, starting in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous, that I gratefully found my way through the doors of Al-Anon some years later. This video shares the beginning of my becoming a "Miracle In Progress" and what it took for me to finally surrender to the recovery proce...

nycwolf · nycwolf

good afternoon all I've been with my bf for 2 and a half years now and for a year and a half of it, he's been addicted to heroin. he has struggled with this addiction most of his life. I've been going to an al-anon meeting every once in awhile and it certainly does help...even after reading a bit of literatu...

lorraine · lorraine

My boyfriend has been sober for 5 months now and is really improving thos time. He doin good. He goin to a group session and one on one once a week. He seeing his doctor regularly and being treated for his depression. He doing all he can and is really trying. My problem is i expecting too much from him and get...

oldergal · oldergal

Don't take what the alcoholics, addicts do personally, three quarters of the time they don't know what they are doing or why they are doing it and if its wrong most of the time they don't care or don't want to care and the cycle goes on. They don't mean to be ugly, they are probably really nice people. But ri...

Rose50 · Rose50

I have not heard from my son since last Friday. He was supposed to have picked up his cellphone at my place on Saturday and never showed up. I went to a meeting earlier today and that helped to ease my fear and anxiety. Nothing I can do but wait for any news. I am so tired of feeling sad.

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning I truly thought I could have a relationship with my son but I'm realizing it's not easy if he's still drinking. I went early this morning and left his things ( paperwork ) he needed to his old place and left it on the porch. I didn't want to see him. He has been calling now that he has a charger...

joker · joker

Its been hard letting go of my alcoholic bf that had been abusive-in all ways toward me.Hhe is now in jail for physically abusing me. He has plead not guilty to the charge and trial is set for Dec 16-18/13. I had been praying for him and asking for god's will to be done in his life. I am enjoying the sin...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I am very new to Al anon. I have yet to attend a meeting. My sister in law has attended a few and has been a blessing through this all. I am struggling with how far to let this go before I decide its necessary to leave. I have 3 beautiful daughters, 11,6, and 1. The older two are from a previous relationship. I s...

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	getting away from other bad people too (Preview) Well it seems now that I have flung open the door, I'm kicking a few asses out of it. People that are not worthy of my friendship, or time. I thought I was friends with a couple of women, but the more I got to know them, I realized they were awful mean spirited, gossiping, back stabbing, b***. I go to a gym se...	islandtime	10	590	Sep 14, 2013 by lgnutah
	slogans, quotes & sayings on my cell phone! (Preview) I am so grateful for my cell phone these days. It does more for me than I realized. I used to almost hate it because it is touch screen & I almost always seem to touch the wrong thing. But, not these days! I am so glad that I can record like on a tape recorder my favorite songs & all. I couldn't possibly...	Hoot Nanny	5	2181	Sep 14, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Value (Preview) "Your Value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your Worth." Unk	Bettina	5	339	Sep 14, 2013 by neshema2
	Believing in the future (Preview) My husband started drinking about 8 years ago. It was not all the time, day in and day out, but he drank. He has quit before and I always felt wow, okay, we can go on. But, it did not last long. I finally told him two months ago I could not do this anymore and that he would have to leave. He was gone for 4 days...	Jen61	5	411	Sep 14, 2013 by neshema2
	Woke up to see the fog is gone (Preview) Something happen this morning I felt odd different I think it has something to do with last night I made a hole in a shoe box and labeled it ms negativity . I looked at my self in my photos I take lots of and when I see that girl I'n the photo I seen some one other than me . I saw this girl lost but not ugly or stupid d...	Ms co-dependent	7	530	Sep 13, 2013 by neshema2
	Hurting people hurt people (Not a new revelation) (Preview) This is why I love my MIP family! You all so gently reminded me that hurting people hurt people and since a few of my new found friends are not in a recovery program I am noticing that they could probably use one. I know I have no control over them and maybe need to lower my expectations and just study with the...	Breakingfree	6	437	Sep 14, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	OH BOY (Preview) I knew I would have ups and downs. Well the down came again. I got a call from my son's landlord and my son is drunk, has been for days and his landlord wants him out. I told him I can't do anything about it, he will have to call the police and whatever he needs to do. Now my anxiety has jumped up. I am doing al...	Cathyinaz	21	540	Sep 14, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	CHOICES (Preview) "Choices relating to one's partner, the balance between work & leisure time, participation in social activities, and healthy lifestyle are key factors in determining life satisfaction." (LiveHappy.com)	Bettina	1	552	Sep 14, 2013 by tortuga
	Today's Reminder (Preview) " Our greatest handicap is self-deception. We cannot recognize in ourselves the faults we criticize in others. If I could only foresee what an inspiring experience it is to search out the real me. I would not hesitate. The first step, after all, is to be completely honest in our search. "...	Bettina	11	420	Sep 14, 2013 by grateful2be
	Starting a fight to drink (Preview) Oh my goodness - I NEVER realise until its too late when he picks a fight and I get caught up trying to defend myself and then he's out the door with an excuse/reason to drink. So tired of this.	Growing77	13	558	Sep 13, 2013 by Bettina
	Today I Vow... (Preview) To go home to my A with love. I will not resent him for his past mistakes, I will not blame him for mine. I will not inquire as to his use, I will not pry, as it is his business and not mine. I will not expect anything from him, as expectations are only upon myself. I will not worry, I will not feel anger, I will not...	faith84	4	318	Sep 13, 2013 by Bettina
	Java still down?: (Preview) Again I tried to get into the chatroom so I could attend the meetings. The java is not working. I sure hope it gets fixed. When I get the time I love to attend the meetings. LIN	afglin	2	186	Sep 13, 2013 by afglin
	You know I work hard to build people up and many others really don't! (Preview) I get so mad when I work very hard to build these girls up in the nursing program that I am in and I work really hard at making them feel like they can do it! And every once in awhile they zing me with some stupid thing they say and it just pisses me off! I don't need to be brought down and I am unsure how to approach...	Breakingfree	9	456	Sep 13, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	I heard from my son (Preview) I got a phone call this afternoon from my son. He is in the hospital (yet again). He told me he was having a panic attack and heart palpitations on Sunday and a roommate called 911. My suspicion is that he was drinking again. He can't handle stress and with being jobless and still waiting for his unemploym...	Rose50	11	515	Sep 13, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	he is fighting in writing to get me back, and I am struggling to detach.... (Preview) got email from A.... finally he is expressing all his feelings of gratitude towards the past... about the good times. I feel guilty now for being so distant, not taking the time to talk to him. I read the post about abuse cycle, and they also make sense. and the sentence : when in doubt, don't. am really...	tortuga	14	415	Sep 13, 2013 by goodmonkey
	this is NOT about my A's or NA's but it IS a WOWZA step 4 revelation (Preview) I know this is off topic and you guys will probably scroll and "dumpster it" but thats OK...I think breakthroughs even if off topic should be shared......Who knows??? Someone new just MIGHT be able to relate to this.............. I shared this on another board and it really woke up some f...	neshema2	28	756	Sep 13, 2013 by goodmonkey
	i give up i do not want to live (Preview) i surrender i give up , im emtoinal broken down. i cant think of a reason to stay here . im dont fighting with my A , to many hurtful words were tossed theres no recovery from what we both said. im to sick to get help, im so confused and he sits there and smirks and tells me how sick and twisted my mind is. i w...	Ms co-dependent	19	2280	Sep 13, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	First Al Anon Meeting Last Night (Preview) So, after enduring four years of living and overly loving a heroin addict, I FINALLY got myself to an Al Anon meeting last night. No matter how much literature I've read on the disease and codependency, no matter how many therapy sessions I have had with both my therapist and my friends and family, fo...	faith84	7	489	Sep 13, 2013 by DavidG
	What have I missed? (Preview) This morning, a beautifully clear and sunny day in my locale, I went outside to my garden where I noticed a lone pink cone flower amidst the others that have all bloomed and turned brown and hard. I noticed a lump of something in the center of it. I walked closer to investigate. It was an iridescent gr...	grateful2be	9	453	Sep 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	I'm here because I want healing! (Preview) I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for my own illness. I wouldn't come here if I didn't want to learn about myself and how to accept and love all about me. I wouldn't come back here, if I wasn't tired of being victimized due to my own weaknesses. I wouldn't have found this place if I didn't notice something was...	tortuga	9	431	Sep 13, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	Amend to Grateful (Preview) I made a statement on my thread about its not being about the A's and N'a and Grateful picked up on a salient point about the lady asking one of my responsdees about the book being laid upon the sidewalk I posted that I had noticed it but did not want to open my "big mouth" MEANING that I sometimes...	neshema2	10	590	Sep 12, 2013 by neshema2
	Paranoid (Preview) I'm sorry for any mistakes I make with this post. This is my first time here and also the first time I ever talk about my son's problem with someone else. My son has been battling alcoholism for 8 years now. He's been to rehab twice, tried to commit suicide more times than I dare to remember and every now an...	yvettek	5	500	Sep 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	Revelation (Preview) Good Morning I need to say a little about getting in the last word, trying to explain, or answering emails, texts even phone calls. I just don't know why I had to do these things. WHY?? A fellow member finally got it though my head I can let go and I will be OK. To continue to try and explain, fix or ge...	Cathyinaz	14	631	Sep 12, 2013 by Pushka
	November is coming to soon.. Don't know how to feel.. (Preview) Well my son has now been in rehab for 4 months and 1 day. He completes his 6 months of sobriety by choice in November. I still am not exactly where I want to be in my recovery. His Sponser has been working with me on the letting go letting god. As his pastor would say "your son needs to man up" face th...	Gaby	5	370	Sep 12, 2013 by bud
	His dad is his greatest enabler! (Preview) My son keeps runnIng to his dads. His dad has no rules, no insight And hes never there. He buys our 19 year old beer and smokes pot with him. He sent me a message that says our son knows he has a problem, and we just need to encourage him right now....he needs encouragement. What he means by that is he wants us (...	Katytexasmom	3	404	Sep 12, 2013 by Ness
	Insanity again - new username too (Preview) I've been away from al-Anon for almost 3 years. at the same time i've been in a relationship with a man, who's not an addict. BUT he's a rageoholic, a victim of domestic violence as a kid (both getting beaten and witnessing his mom getting beaten) and grew up in a war-zone city in another part of the worl...	goodmonkey	10	428	Sep 12, 2013 by Jerry F
	sponsors (Preview) Last night at my F2F meeting, the topic was sponsorship. Throughout the years, I have heard people in recovery talk about their "meetings" and their "sponsors" like they were way too important. Now that I have accepted recovery as a very important part of my life, I get it. S...	Lyne	6	442	Sep 12, 2013 by neshema2
	Today's reminder (Preview) " When will I realize that I need not permit the alcoholics behavior to confuse my life and destroy my peace of mind? When will I learn that there is no compulsion, in law or ethics, that forces me to accept humiliation, uncertainty and despair. Have I perhaps accepted it because I have a subconsci...	Bettina	8	587	Sep 12, 2013 by Melly1248
	Letting Go of "Mama Drama" (Preview) This past weekend, I decided to accept my friends' invitation to go camping at a mountain camping site that my family used to go to when our kids were in school. At first, I was concerned that going back there would bring back some uncomfortable feelings. This was a place where memories were created for...	Green Eyes	5	430	Sep 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	A gift, from Alanon... (Preview) The greatest gift Alanon offers us is Lois, and each and every one of us... and each one of us matters so much, so please keep coming back. In 2011 A*** and I took a train north of New York and came to the woodland town where Lois Bill and hundreds...	DavidG	5	686	Sep 12, 2013 by Rose50
	I was shutdown (Preview) For the last 2 years, I have been shut down, lights out, nobodys home...... to the point of hardly speaking a word to my AH, not looking at him, and in general acting like he didn't exist. This was not something I was doing on purpose, It just happened. When I did talk, it was sharp and mean, and critical...	islandtime	7	460	Sep 11, 2013 by islandtime
	Something to ponder (Preview) "Don't miss this. Don't miss your life. There's infinitely more than the experience of love we already know. Push against your borders. Dare to move through the next threshold to the freedom awaiting you." (Paula D'Arcy)	grateful2be	10	448	Sep 11, 2013 by PP
	That whole saying if nothing changes .. (Preview) I love that saying if nothing changes .. well .. nothing changes .. in seeing the STBAX on Sunday night as weird and intense as that reaction was it really goes to show me how much things in my little world have changed .. my world is not so little. Those who are struggling through their own situations and...	Pushka	4	471	Sep 11, 2013 by PP
	Understanding that abuse cycle. (Preview) Just been reading recent posts about the abuse cycle. I reckon, we can't post about that nasty old abuse cycle often enough, when someone mentions living with abuse. I didn't understand it for years, I just got sucked in again and again. But the more you understand it, the more obvious it all becomes an...	Melly1248	36	797	Sep 11, 2013 by sweeetr
	Permission (Preview) Alanon has helped me alot, combined with all the self-help books I have read, first hand experience and I think age too I have come to a few conclusions....no matter what I have "choices". Looking back on my marriage and consequently my divorce, I concluded that it was HIS fault that he made...	oldergal	4	366	Sep 11, 2013 by RunnerChick
	I was going to let him move back home (Preview) My 19 year old son came around a few weeks ago...he sounded great! He was his old self, not using (no program) and it gave me hope! Then he got with some old friends slid there we go. He really wants to stop....but he's just not ready yet. He wants to go back to school and go into the navy, but this weekend I f...	Katytexasmom	13	673	Sep 11, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	great book (Preview) Yesterday on Dr. Oz he had Steven Tyler for a guest. They talked about addiction and recovery. He brought on his doctor from the Betty Ford Center. The doctor has a great book and Steven Tyler wrote the foreword. I ordered it for my Kindle for under $9. I stopped the book I was reading and started it. WO...	afglin	1	259	Sep 11, 2013 by bud
	Name change (Preview) I hope this is okay to post here. I am wanting to change my name. Do I have to create a new account or can I somehow change it?	hisimage	2	304	Sep 11, 2013 by newlease93
	Awareness about love (Preview) I had a huge relization yesterday about why I alllow alcoholics and their abusive behaviors into my life. As some of you know I had just left my extremely abusive alcoholic BF that is no in jail for abusing me. I allow abuse as I abuse myself-mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. I can na...	joker	3	328	Sep 10, 2013 by Sweet Stanley
	This whole schooling thing just got very real! It'a all in my head! (Preview) After working my hinder off to get into this RN program and doing my general eds, prerequisettes and sciences up the ying this last year I was finally accepted into the ADN program. I have been on top of the world! Day one was yesterday and if I thought I had worked hard up to now, I am about to prove to myself...	Breakingfree	11	431	Sep 10, 2013 by Sweet Stanley
	Back and forth - between fear and acceptance (Preview) Throughout the day, I find myself going back & forth between worry and fear for my son to calm and acceptance. Am I making any progress??	Rose50	3	335	Sep 11, 2013 by neshema2
	From Changing my number to making 'friends' (Preview) So after nasty words and arguing for weeks, my alcoholic mum textd me saying she wanted to make friends before i leave so i said i do too, and invited her round for lunch, today she came round & told me how her house was going up for sale on Monday, she's been saying for years she's going to sell the house...	qwerty49	2	402	Sep 11, 2013 by grateful2be
	Posting So I Don't Text (Preview) The pseudo-ex and I texted this morning. I needed his legal advice on something that was bothering me and asked. I told him that I didn't want to talk about anything personal - I just needed his legal opinion on a matter. Since he is the master of self control he was - cool, calm and collected (as much as you...	RunnerChick	11	569	Sep 11, 2013 by canadianguy
	The courage to change... (Preview) a thing that I can. I've not done a certain 9th step for a long time because of the caveat "except when to do so would injure them or others" and so up till now I've poke and stabbed at it to see if I can rid myself of the self resentment for what I did a long while ago...before recovery came along...	Jerry F	10	496	Sep 11, 2013 by Jerry F
	it is always darkest before the dawn... (Preview) Going back in time: On August 10th 1 am I let my mom go. I was up before dawn & there were some dark moments & still are. I am just grateful that time has gone by & I am experiencing the dawn in a different way. I feel very poetic these days & tend to share songs & titles that mean very much t...	Hoot Nanny	2	373	Sep 10, 2013 by DavidG
	My thoughts, Hope Changes Everything! (Preview) There is no change without Action. You can say "This is it Life". Time for me to change this Life. I know I can do it. And then set yourself a plan. There is nothing you cant do if you have HOPE and put this hope into action.	Bettina	7	358	Sep 10, 2013 by PP
	This one hit home ODAT September 6th (Preview) Today's Reminder " I sit on a man's back, choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by all possible means -- except by getting off his back." " Teach me to leave to others their inborn right to dignity and indep...	Cathyinaz	3	313	Sep 10, 2013 by Rose50
	Forcing Solutions (Preview) Just for today I will not force a solution. Based on my recent split, I realized the verbose email I penned to my ex was an attempt to control the situation. If I pan back and look at the times we have reconciled, with the exception of ONE, I have always been the one who has tried to write something eloquent,...	RunnerChick	6	655	Sep 10, 2013 by tortuga
	Today's Reminder (Preview) Step One must be learned and repeated until it becomes part of me. Whenever I give in to my natural impulse and habit to take over and to try and force a change, I'm in trouble again. I know I can only make progress when I really believe in and practice the First Step: 1. We admitted we were powerless over a...	Bettina	5	286	Sep 10, 2013 by tortuga
	Fourth step work (Preview) I finally worked out a minor resentment I've been having lately and it gave me the courage to speak up today after taking the time to write things down. I really surprised myself when of all people who ended upon my resentment list, it was my boss. I was sitting down this weekend trying to pull up a new name...	Aloha	7	473	Sep 10, 2013 by tortuga
	How Do I Say No? (Preview) Hello all: It has been a while since I have been on here. A couple of years actually. I'm still fighting the good fight. My ABF has been using for too long. Finally I gave him the ultimatum back in the beginning of July, and told him it's rehab or your out. So after 4weeks of him "deciding" he fin...	faith84	12	657	Sep 10, 2013 by faith84
	My Ex AH is making me mental! (Preview) I generally stay disengaged. Do not communicate for the most part and with the order for supervised visitation he has done nothing for months...and then...it starts again. He goes for 3-4 months of quiet and leaving me alone and not harassing our child and then back at it. I tell myself - you can't...	abbyalana	2	393	Sep 10, 2013 by cwya
	Just sharing a piece of the MIP story and me speaking at a AA convention. (Preview) It was through my journey in recovery, starting in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous, that I gratefully found my way through the doors of Al-Anon some years later. This video shares the beginning of my becoming a "Miracle In Progress" and what it took for me to finally surrender to the recovery proce...	John	7	413	Sep 10, 2013 by grateful2be
	heroin addiction (Preview) good afternoon all I've been with my bf for 2 and a half years now and for a year and a half of it, he's been addicted to heroin. he has struggled with this addiction most of his life. I've been going to an al-anon meeting every once in awhile and it certainly does help...even after reading a bit of literatu...	nycwolf	6	3445	Sep 10, 2013 by faith84
	im growing impatient in his recovery (Preview) My boyfriend has been sober for 5 months now and is really improving thos time. He doin good. He goin to a group session and one on one once a week. He seeing his doctor regularly and being treated for his depression. He doing all he can and is really trying. My problem is i expecting too much from him and get...	lorraine	14	579	Sep 10, 2013 by grateful2be
	They're All In The Throes of Insanity.... (Preview) Don't take what the alcoholics, addicts do personally, three quarters of the time they don't know what they are doing or why they are doing it and if its wrong most of the time they don't care or don't want to care and the cycle goes on. They don't mean to be ugly, they are probably really nice people. But ri...	oldergal	10	550	Sep 10, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	No word from my son (Preview) I have not heard from my son since last Friday. He was supposed to have picked up his cellphone at my place on Saturday and never showed up. I went to a meeting earlier today and that helped to ease my fear and anxiety. Nothing I can do but wait for any news. I am so tired of feeling sad.	Rose50	9	502	Sep 10, 2013 by Rose50
	I Kind of had to put a end to it (Preview) Good Morning I truly thought I could have a relationship with my son but I'm realizing it's not easy if he's still drinking. I went early this morning and left his things ( paperwork ) he needed to his old place and left it on the porch. I didn't want to see him. He has been calling now that he has a charger...	Cathyinaz	10	509	Sep 10, 2013 by Ness
	Grateful today but... (Preview) Its been hard letting go of my alcoholic bf that had been abusive-in all ways toward me.Hhe is now in jail for physically abusing me. He has plead not guilty to the charge and trial is set for Dec 16-18/13. I had been praying for him and asking for god's will to be done in his life. I am enjoying the sin...	joker	6	284	Sep 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	I'm sorry I dont remember (Preview) I am very new to Al anon. I have yet to attend a meeting. My sister in law has attended a few and has been a blessing through this all. I am struggling with how far to let this go before I decide its necessary to leave. I have 3 beautiful daughters, 11,6, and 1. The older two are from a previous relationship. I s...	Mari1978	9	452	Sep 10, 2013 by maryjane
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