Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Today was a real test for me. I had to ride around with ABF for a couple of hours while he looked for parts at the auto stores in town. I'm sure you all know what that's like:/. I almost lost my cool a few times with his tantrums, rudeness, and the fact that his ADD almost got our borrowed car demolished and us k...

cwya · cwya

This time of year is very difficult for me as it is for many people. But this year all the anniversaries surrounding my son and his death are really throwing me off kilter. Starting in October these 3 months are just one grief after another but December is really hard for me. My son was killed in a really ho...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well I can't talk much about particulars, .. I can share that my stbax is in the throws of his disease and his diseased thinking .. I feel pity for him. At this point this is a step right direction .. however .. it will be YEARS before I feel anything except distrust for him if he forces this child to go up on t...

crazycatlady · crazycatlady

Hey all--I am visiting my family 800 miles away from my AH who has been working a program for nearly 4 years, with a relapse unfortunately about every 6 months. He told me he was going to visit his college drinking buddy overnight tonight and unlike the previous days that we've been away from each other (...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

Today is my mother's funeral. . My mother will be Greatly missed. Today, however, I know her life held meaning for me .. for us all .. God was good and kept her with us 89 years because that's how long it took us to hear the many messages she carried with her .. her life held a purpose and today has given n...

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

i told him it's cold outside! He would have nowhere to go. I prayed for him over the phone and that was about it. I did try to get him to see that we all have bad moments....but then we get through them...not run from them. I asked him what his other choices are? He said I promised if he did not like it there I wo...

Tasha · Tasha

Christmas Miracle... Hi Sweeties and Loved Ones and Wonderchildren! My HP saw fit to involve me in a little Christmas miracle, and I wanted to share it with you. I work in retail, and for the last two months have been working overnights. Christmas Eve morning, my team and I had worked a very long shif...

irukan · irukan

After almost two years of a crazy push-pull between my husband and I after I quit drinking, I said in no uncertain terms that alcohol was coming in between us. I said, unless he moderates his drinking, I cannot continue being in our relationship. And I mean it. He called it an ultimatum. It's more an ul...

Jozie · Jozie

Most Know that I have been Helping Care for my AGram since I Found her On Mothers Day and She had a Stroke, and since then she has also taking on a Bit of Demencha (Sorry Im a Terrible Speller) as well... it has been a Learning Experience for Me, and For her, and tho I Truly try to do My Best by her, I know in my He...

el-cee · el-cee

I always get reflective at this time of year and now I'm 2 years at Easter in Alanon, I look at the person I have became. I am much happier in my skin these days, I don't feel as helpless as I did or as alone. I have a growing relationship with a higher power and its so comforting to know that its not all my fault a...

MaestraJ · MaestraJ

Hi all. I am a 28 year old woman from Seattle, and I am a daughter, sister, and girlfriend of addicts. My mom is an alcoholic who was sober for much of my life, until my teens. She fell off and only got sober when I entered college. She has been sober for over 9 years now. My dad is addicted to gambling, and has b...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I posted this dilemma on another support board, too, but I wanted to share here. I have been working on determining the difference between my will and discovering God's will for me. I had recently decided to separate from my AH. I am now backing away from that decision for reasons that I can't truly pin...

imom · imom

It has been months and months since I have been here. Things got very, very bad for my family and me and then they got better. Since things got better, I forgot to keep taking care of myself through al-anon. I have found myself recently being constantly suspicious and playing detective (old habits a...

Donna Lee · Donna Lee

Long story short, I called 911 on December 3 in order to enter my home after a disturbing call from my A. I had been staying at my mother's since June helping watch her and finding an assisted living place for her with my sister and preparing her house for sale. I entered the home with police and an ambula...

John · John

Hi everyone, Just throwing this out there, into the four winds tonight. I got a call this afternoon from my son, from jail. As some of you already know, this time last year (the same week before Christmas), I bailed him out of jail and he jumped the bond and ran three days later. I had to go through the pr...

Grace7 · Grace7

Hi all. A new and frightening topic. My ex A has dementia and alcoholic wet brain, along with black outs. He is totally unstable. A former serviceman as well with PTSD. He has a firearm and ammo. He is currently trying to get a permit to carry a concealed weapon. We haven't been together in years....

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm sitting here at work getting ready to go home and I'm thinking about my son. Now this is nuts... I wonder if he's OK at his dads Is he bored Is he getting his business taken care of Is he getting along with his dad because they can butt heads I bet he's really anxious and wants a drink so bad he's going to d...

tortuga · tortuga

... and it's not easy. I am tending again to become invisible, an i'm making wrong choices. I am not taking care of myself as I should, for I allow A to have contact with me again. Because I want to deal with things in a civilized and human way. Because I'm not a robot and can't switch in a month just like that f...

el-cee · el-cee

My part of the world has saw rain and grey skies every day for what seems like weeks now, today though its dry and bright, no blue in the sky mind you but a huge difference. Everything seems clearer. The weather makes me think of nature and the part my higher power plays for me. I mean its like the daily remin...

ryanhearted · ryanhearted

The holidays mean a busier work schedule, as well as having family & friends over. What has happened is that I haven't been even to my online meetings, let alone face to face. Well, I tried tonight to go to a face to face, but there was no one there. I haven't been to it before, so not sure if it still meet...

Oats · Oats

Hi all. I am new to this forum. I am truly struggling today with my alcoholic son. He has been drinking for several weeks, lies in bed all day and is deeply depressed. His health is suffering and he is extremely thin. He lives alone, so I constantly battle with the need to drive to his place to see if he i...

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

My son called today, he does not feel good. He wanted to go to the hospital. Everything he described sounds like anxiety panic attacks. I asked him to ride it Out. He has just been to the clinic 2 days before with fluid in his lungs. They gave him some shots and antibiotics. He was so panicked today and want...

neshema2 · neshema2

I put this on my facebook in the hopes that my brother will see it and get the message to this woman that she needs to BACK off and leave me alone what do you guys think????? I am gonna think...pray.....think again and ask for esh BEFORE i do anything....maybe i can get the phone company to help me, I don't k...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Other than me back bothering a bit, I am feeling pretty healthy today. I guess the massage therapist worked a little too hard on my back. I won't be seeing her until next year...hee hee! I have a sense of who I really am today. I know now that I am the best I can be. I have to remember to not put myself down. I rea...

el-cee · el-cee

Merry Christmas everyone, I hope this day is peaceful for everyone. The Hope for Today book has a lovely reading to help get your day started.x

Tricia911 · Tricia911

If you don't want to listen to a rant just close this now. I will understand completely I feel like I have fallen into a vat of super negatively. I am taking care of my mother while she is in the hospital. She is thee most negative person I have ever met in my entire life. She is ACOA and has some psych issues....

HisMrsWright · HisMrsWright

I was unable to get to my face to face meeting because whatever my daughter had on Christmas Eve I has by Christmas night and I was still running a fever come Thursday. That was not the gift I wanted to give my new friends lol! I was going to ask about finding a sponsor. I dug out the phone list was going to se...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

in my area the one meeting a week, is a bit unhealthy and a few people from here go 45 minutes away to a different great meeting that I love also. I am so busy that it just seems crazy that we don't have one in our bigger area and it might draw in more people (build it and they will come) at least that is what I hope...

mongowal · mongowal

My AH has been gone for 3 months now. His promise to get help has not happened due to every excuse he could come up with. I finally asked him in all seriousness if he wanted a divorce. I thought he would jump at the chance as he was the one who left us. He asked why I was asking that question. I told him he hasn't g...

Debilyn · Debilyn

My son came to pick me up today. I was going to take him to eat. Of course that was sorta a dumb idea. One place open, he does not like crowds, standing in line etc. So before we left the parking lot, we helped this gal and her teen girl who was rolling her eyes soooo embarrassed, jump her car. Guess it was where...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

overall it went good, I spent a few days around my exAh and his parents and I made the best of it. I went to a meeting with my old al-anon home group as soon as I arrived into town and it set me up to be strong in my program while spending Christmas with my children and ex family, who is currently dry, but not wor...

grateful2be · grateful2be

My grandson is a freshman in high school. His life hasn't been a walk in the park. He has all sorts of reasons to feel sorry for himself, but he doesn't. He just keeps his head down and keeps going despite various things that aren't to his liking. I stayed with both my daughter and my grandson Christma...

pinkchip · pinkchip

This Christmas morning was incredible. My partner surprised me by actually having bought the wedding bands we liked. He put mine in my stocking. It was wonderful. ..very emotional. Then I went to work. Many of the client were down. Some were on the verge of leaving AMA. They all have lots of issues and p...

Divedet · Divedet

Hello all. My first post here, after a couple weeks of trolling. I've been going through some personal turmoil, which seems to be magnified by the Holiday Season, but it's comforting to have another tool in the tool box to deal with life. I participated in my first online/chatroom meeting today, a...

mm830 · mm830

I have been feeling better despite everything since I discovered this group, and have been trying to stay connected with what HP wants for me, not what I want for me. I am not always there just more than it was, which I am so grateful for. So one thing that has surfaced and I plan on working on more is respect...

lookingup · lookingup

just got through talking to my daughter on skype ,talked about them getting out of military and she seems to think there no security for them here in the states,no jobs,no good schools,no nothings ,Ha i said she was all wrong that she and her little ones and hubby neede to just stay where their at ,englan...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

well it 300am. i last saw my ah at 800am whn he left for work. sure he called a few times. . the last whn our daughter called him at 9pm to see if he was coming home. nope. . was at a buddies. spoke to me and said i wont be late lets plan to leave (for a trip i encouraged) by 930. yup. that should work well. he just dra...

Gaby · Gaby

I have not heard from my son. But I have said to myself.. I cannot help him.. He had to want it!!! I'm saying the serenity prayer every minute. I think about how much my daughter needs me!! I last told my son I live him and will be here for him when he is healthy and sober.. I told him I have lots if faith in god.. N...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Hope all of the family had a wonderful Christmas...ours was nice and then very special. My wife loves to bring me her presents (the ones she gets for me) and then sits and smiles with glee and the command "Okay...stop what you're doing and open these". I have to laugh cause she gets happy...

neshema2 · neshema2

should have put this here.... Thank all of you for stepping up and giving me some great input thus far i have done the following..... called my sponsor who is a ret. police detective from Seattle....she left the force when she and her husb. were working in robbery/homicide division and he got shot to de...

tweety23 · tweety23

I don't mean this in a mean way but I absolutely love the day after Christmas! Because me and my kids get together with family for leftovers lunch without AH and AFIL (is that an acronym?? It is now...) It's like a Do-over. Christmas without the drama. Blessings to all.. I don't post a lot but your share...

pixie · pixie

Yesterday he started drinking around 8:30 am and stopped when he fell asleep or passed out.I never can tell.But when all was said and done he'd had 13-14 pints of beer at least.Today he's already up to 3 pints at least and it's only 9:30.So today isn't going to be any different then any other day he's not a...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Whilst walking the dog today, we passed the library and after reading a sign, my daughter started musing over the word "committee". She babbled about it all the way home and then asked me "what committees can you think of?" and I started to laugh and said "well, it's a bit na...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

im not sure posting will help me right now but i know not what else to do. ive been emailing my sponsor and lisyening to her wisdom yet i remain paralyzed. my relationship with my active ah has just been miserable this month. its always a bad time for him. . details too much to mention and thn all i want is som...

jitsuka · jitsuka

Hi there How do people tackle this subject? The A in my life is my partner (we're not married but good as, been together 8 years, lived together 7 have a 6 year old daughter). I only discovered she was an A a few years ago and it's been a real tough slog. If it wasn't for our daughter I would have walked a long t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will try not to make this post too long...It worked! I wasn't really depressed this Christmas. I didn't get many calls except from my cousin on the answering machine at home. I didn't get to talk to her later. I didn't talk to my mother. That's OK. I spent the day w/ my friends who invited me to dinner. I mi...

breamanic665 · breamanic665

The "disappearances" im sure so many of you have dealt with. The cycles, and circles that have been repeated over and over again. This time, it was a break up on Tuesday, followed by an obsessive amount of calls, very loving conversations, followed by making plans with me, THEN BREAKING TH...

Tasha · Tasha

Setting Boundaries The purpose of setting boundaries is to take care of our self. Being forced to learn how to set boundaries is a vital part of learning to own our self, of learning to respect ourselves, of learning to love ourselves. If we never have to set a boundary, then we will never get in touch wit...

Jerry F · Jerry F

...the Big Island of Hawaii anchored in the Pacific Ocean. Mele Kalikimaka e Hauoli Makahiki Ho...Of course there's no fooling any of you because you know that is Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year said from the center of my spirit with love. I have everything I need with my peace of mind and sereni...

texas yankee · texas yankee

The old me, without AlAnon, would have gone ballistic without a call from my recovering addict on Christmas Day - but thanks to the program, I was able to let it go and remind myself that WHY he didn't call is none of my business and that (hopefully) he's trying to work out his issues in his own way in his own...

breamanic665 · breamanic665

So I was listening to a CD my mom had in her car, driving home from Christmas with my dad, who is a recovering A. This was the first good christmas I ever remember with my dad, and I was thankful on my travels. If you have read any of my posts, I haven't spoken about my dad before, but only of my ABF. At any rate, i...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well Merry Christmas to everyone .. the kids and I scooted down to McD's down the road to catch some internet tonight and see what was shaking .. it's pretty quiet to say the least. The kids are settled with their Christmas gifts and hanging out. We had a really nice Christmas, officially the best Chri...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

at my punishing family for making sure I was not included at Christmas today. i can't even begin to tell you how horrid their psychological abuse has been over the past two years. It is so disturbing it's too hard to hear. i'm also feeling that I am hurting everyone by giving them someone to blame. This do...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

That was as close to a perfect Christmas as it gets. On Christmas Eve, I travelled alone to my mums. A year ago I would have cried all the way there, knowing that I was going to Christmas without ABF. This time I was in a great mood. I took photos out the train window all the way there, called every family memb...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

So, Christmas was beautiful .. it was spent divided however because of the family disease .. My mother is dying and I'm watching family come together (the girls) .. and watching the isolation, the defects take them over .. (no judgments, criticisms, i have my own) .. I spent 13 years with an addict an...

nmike · nmike

We had an Alanon speaker last week at a round-up. He read the "Alanon Promises". I thought that he was reading from "Survival to Recovery". Does anyone know where the "Alanon Promises" are? Thanks so much, Nancy -- Edited by nmike at 23:04, 2008-09-21

Gaby · Gaby

Today I got up and celebrated with family. It was hard. After last night and my son saying he is suicidal.. And manipulated me the way he did. I'm am physically and emotionally sick. He told me that he won't call me no more. I told him I love him and to please think about his daughter. I can not stop him from do...

pixie · pixie

But I'll be glad when the holidays are over and things are back to normal.I haven't been on in a long time and guess I just need to vent.My husband the alcoholic is off work for the holidays.Every day he's off work he drinks more.I started playing this little game where I count the beer in the fridge at nigh...

Jen61 · Jen61

It has been an interesting eight years for me and my A. I was in denial for a long time that he really had a problem. I wanted to fix it and really thought I could. I did start going to Al-Anon meetings almost 8 years ago which I do think saved my life and sanity. I have completed step 1 and have two sponsors...

Gaby · Gaby

It's hard .. my son found his way home. He again said he wants to go to the SLE.. So I met up with him to take him and he decided to go to the Salvation Army... Me knowing he may leave.. He said he wants help and he will get it there. This whole time I know I again was manipulated. I told him I love him and I won't lose...

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	So far... (Preview) Today was a real test for me. I had to ride around with ABF for a couple of hours while he looked for parts at the auto stores in town. I'm sure you all know what that's like:/. I almost lost my cool a few times with his tantrums, rudeness, and the fact that his ADD almost got our borrowed car demolished and us k...	Raven Juniper	2	197	Dec 30, 2013 by neshema2
	grief anniversaries (Preview) This time of year is very difficult for me as it is for many people. But this year all the anniversaries surrounding my son and his death are really throwing me off kilter. Starting in October these 3 months are just one grief after another but December is really hard for me. My son was killed in a really ho...	cwya	7	629	Dec 30, 2013 by hotrod
	Could use some guidence .. (Preview) Well I can't talk much about particulars, .. I can share that my stbax is in the throws of his disease and his diseased thinking .. I feel pity for him. At this point this is a step right direction .. however .. it will be YEARS before I feel anything except distrust for him if he forces this child to go up on t...	SerenityRUS	14	503	Dec 30, 2013 by grateful2be
	Need Al-Anon Adjustment--help! (Preview) Hey all--I am visiting my family 800 miles away from my AH who has been working a program for nearly 4 years, with a relapse unfortunately about every 6 months. He told me he was going to visit his college drinking buddy overnight tonight and unlike the previous days that we've been away from each other (...	crazycatlady	7	454	Dec 30, 2013 by KennyFenderjazz
	Loss ? of my mother .. (Preview) Today is my mother's funeral. . My mother will be Greatly missed. Today, however, I know her life held meaning for me .. for us all .. God was good and kept her with us 89 years because that's how long it took us to hear the many messages she carried with her .. her life held a purpose and today has given n...	MeTwo2	14	434	Dec 30, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	My son called today saying he wanted to leave treatment! (Preview) i told him it's cold outside! He would have nowhere to go. I prayed for him over the phone and that was about it. I did try to get him to see that we all have bad moments....but then we get through them...not run from them. I asked him what his other choices are? He said I promised if he did not like it there I wo...	Katytexasmom	19	525	Dec 30, 2013 by yooper74
	CDK's Share (Preview) Christmas Miracle... Hi Sweeties and Loved Ones and Wonderchildren! My HP saw fit to involve me in a little Christmas miracle, and I wanted to share it with you. I work in retail, and for the last two months have been working overnights. Christmas Eve morning, my team and I had worked a very long shif...	Tasha	12	620	Dec 30, 2013 by Breakingfree
	He says he'll moderate (Preview) After almost two years of a crazy push-pull between my husband and I after I quit drinking, I said in no uncertain terms that alcohol was coming in between us. I said, unless he moderates his drinking, I cannot continue being in our relationship. And I mean it. He called it an ultimatum. It's more an ul...	irukan	19	591	Dec 30, 2013 by sad_dog_mommy
	Even the Smallest Graditude is a Blessing.... (Preview) Most Know that I have been Helping Care for my AGram since I Found her On Mothers Day and She had a Stroke, and since then she has also taking on a Bit of Demencha (Sorry Im a Terrible Speller) as well... it has been a Learning Experience for Me, and For her, and tho I Truly try to do My Best by her, I know in my He...	Jozie	2	450	Dec 30, 2013 by PP
	Progress (Preview) I always get reflective at this time of year and now I'm 2 years at Easter in Alanon, I look at the person I have became. I am much happier in my skin these days, I don't feel as helpless as I did or as alone. I have a growing relationship with a higher power and its so comforting to know that its not all my fault a...	el-cee	6	362	Dec 30, 2013 by PP
	New Here (Preview) Hi all. I am a 28 year old woman from Seattle, and I am a daughter, sister, and girlfriend of addicts. My mom is an alcoholic who was sober for much of my life, until my teens. She fell off and only got sober when I entered college. She has been sober for over 9 years now. My dad is addicted to gambling, and has b...	MaestraJ	8	465	Dec 30, 2013 by anonymous214
	My will vs God's will (Preview) I posted this dilemma on another support board, too, but I wanted to share here. I have been working on determining the difference between my will and discovering God's will for me. I had recently decided to separate from my AH. I am now backing away from that decision for reasons that I can't truly pin...	ilovedogs	16	808	Dec 30, 2013 by anonymous214
	glad to have you all in my life (Preview) It has been months and months since I have been here. Things got very, very bad for my family and me and then they got better. Since things got better, I forgot to keep taking care of myself through al-anon. I have found myself recently being constantly suspicious and playing detective (old habits a...	imom	7	460	Dec 30, 2013 by PP
	Christmas in Jail (Preview) Long story short, I called 911 on December 3 in order to enter my home after a disturbing call from my A. I had been staying at my mother's since June helping watch her and finding an assisted living place for her with my sister and preparing her house for sale. I entered the home with police and an ambula...	Donna Lee	9	504	Dec 30, 2013 by imom
	My son back in Jail and "Porter Potty Paul" in detox... (Preview) Hi everyone, Just throwing this out there, into the four winds tonight. I got a call this afternoon from my son, from jail. As some of you already know, this time last year (the same week before Christmas), I bailed him out of jail and he jumped the bond and ran three days later. I had to go through the pr...	John	21	1266	Dec 30, 2013 by hotrod
	Firearms and a demented A (Preview) Hi all. A new and frightening topic. My ex A has dementia and alcoholic wet brain, along with black outs. He is totally unstable. A former serviceman as well with PTSD. He has a firearm and ammo. He is currently trying to get a permit to carry a concealed weapon. We haven't been together in years....	Grace7	6	427	Dec 30, 2013 by grateful2be
	Crazy Thinking (Preview) I'm sitting here at work getting ready to go home and I'm thinking about my son. Now this is nuts... I wonder if he's OK at his dads Is he bored Is he getting his business taken care of Is he getting along with his dad because they can butt heads I bet he's really anxious and wants a drink so bad he's going to d...	Cathyinaz	12	463	Dec 30, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	trying not to loose myself.... (Preview) ... and it's not easy. I am tending again to become invisible, an i'm making wrong choices. I am not taking care of myself as I should, for I allow A to have contact with me again. Because I want to deal with things in a civilized and human way. Because I'm not a robot and can't switch in a month just like that f...	tortuga	3	385	Dec 30, 2013 by tortuga
	weather (Preview) My part of the world has saw rain and grey skies every day for what seems like weeks now, today though its dry and bright, no blue in the sky mind you but a huge difference. Everything seems clearer. The weather makes me think of nature and the part my higher power plays for me. I mean its like the daily remin...	el-cee	5	452	Dec 30, 2013 by milkwood
	Feeling guilty...could be I need a meeting (Preview) The holidays mean a busier work schedule, as well as having family & friends over. What has happened is that I haven't been even to my online meetings, let alone face to face. Well, I tried tonight to go to a face to face, but there was no one there. I haven't been to it before, so not sure if it still meet...	ryanhearted	2	205	Dec 29, 2013 by neshema2
	Seeking Serenity (Preview) Hi all. I am new to this forum. I am truly struggling today with my alcoholic son. He has been drinking for several weeks, lies in bed all day and is deeply depressed. His health is suffering and he is extremely thin. He lives alone, so I constantly battle with the need to drive to his place to see if he i...	Oats	9	399	Dec 29, 2013 by Tracy
	He left treatment. (Preview) My son called today, he does not feel good. He wanted to go to the hospital. Everything he described sounds like anxiety panic attacks. I asked him to ride it Out. He has just been to the clinic 2 days before with fluid in his lungs. They gave him some shots and antibiotics. He was so panicked today and want...	Katytexasmom	15	491	Dec 29, 2013 by Carla042
	would appreciate some input on this (Preview) I put this on my facebook in the hopes that my brother will see it and get the message to this woman that she needs to BACK off and leave me alone what do you guys think????? I am gonna think...pray.....think again and ask for esh BEFORE i do anything....maybe i can get the phone company to help me, I don't k...	neshema2	18	485	Dec 29, 2013 by abbyal
	feeling healthy... (Preview) Other than me back bothering a bit, I am feeling pretty healthy today. I guess the massage therapist worked a little too hard on my back. I won't be seeing her until next year...hee hee! I have a sense of who I really am today. I know now that I am the best I can be. I have to remember to not put myself down. I rea...	Hoot Nanny	3	173	Dec 29, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Merry Christmas MIP family (Preview) Merry Christmas everyone, I hope this day is peaceful for everyone. The Hope for Today book has a lovely reading to help get your day started.x	el-cee	12	390	Dec 29, 2013 by el-cee
	I have fallen and I cant get up/out. (Preview) If you don't want to listen to a rant just close this now. I will understand completely I feel like I have fallen into a vat of super negatively. I am taking care of my mother while she is in the hospital. She is thee most negative person I have ever met in my entire life. She is ACOA and has some psych issues....	Tricia911	13	524	Dec 29, 2013 by ryanhearted
	Sponsorship Questions? (Preview) I was unable to get to my face to face meeting because whatever my daughter had on Christmas Eve I has by Christmas night and I was still running a fever come Thursday. That was not the gift I wanted to give my new friends lol! I was going to ask about finding a sponsor. I dug out the phone list was going to se...	HisMrsWright	9	1396	Dec 29, 2013 by ryanhearted
	Starting a new meeting.... (Preview) in my area the one meeting a week, is a bit unhealthy and a few people from here go 45 minutes away to a different great meeting that I love also. I am so busy that it just seems crazy that we don't have one in our bigger area and it might draw in more people (build it and they will come) at least that is what I hope...	Breakingfree	5	891	Dec 29, 2013 by abbyal
	Why not make a decision already (Preview) My AH has been gone for 3 months now. His promise to get help has not happened due to every excuse he could come up with. I finally asked him in all seriousness if he wanted a divorce. I thought he would jump at the chance as he was the one who left us. He asked why I was asking that question. I told him he hasn't g...	mongowal	14	553	Dec 28, 2013 by Breakingfree
	ugh, melancholy day, but serene (Preview) My son came to pick me up today. I was going to take him to eat. Of course that was sorta a dumb idea. One place open, he does not like crowds, standing in line etc. So before we left the parking lot, we helped this gal and her teen girl who was rolling her eyes soooo embarrassed, jump her car. Guess it was where...	Debilyn	7	438	Dec 28, 2013 by tiredtonite
	I spent Christmas with my exAH and his parents.... (Preview) overall it went good, I spent a few days around my exAh and his parents and I made the best of it. I went to a meeting with my old al-anon home group as soon as I arrived into town and it set me up to be strong in my program while spending Christmas with my children and ex family, who is currently dry, but not wor...	Breakingfree	7	446	Dec 28, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	From the mouth of a teen (Preview) My grandson is a freshman in high school. His life hasn't been a walk in the park. He has all sorts of reasons to feel sorry for himself, but he doesn't. He just keeps his head down and keeps going despite various things that aren't to his liking. I stayed with both my daughter and my grandson Christma...	grateful2be	19	448	Dec 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	An emotional day (Preview) This Christmas morning was incredible. My partner surprised me by actually having bought the wedding bands we liked. He put mine in my stocking. It was wonderful. ..very emotional. Then I went to work. Many of the client were down. Some were on the verge of leaving AMA. They all have lots of issues and p...	pinkchip	15	465	Dec 28, 2013 by bud
	First post. (Preview) Hello all. My first post here, after a couple weeks of trolling. I've been going through some personal turmoil, which seems to be magnified by the Holiday Season, but it's comforting to have another tool in the tool box to deal with life. I participated in my first online/chatroom meeting today, a...	Divedet	13	378	Dec 28, 2013 by Courage
	New Goals - Respect (Preview) I have been feeling better despite everything since I discovered this group, and have been trying to stay connected with what HP wants for me, not what I want for me. I am not always there just more than it was, which I am so grateful for. So one thing that has surfaced and I plan on working on more is respect...	mm830	4	211	Dec 27, 2013 by hotrod
	my stubborn daughter and spoiled (Preview) just got through talking to my daughter on skype ,talked about them getting out of military and she seems to think there no security for them here in the states,no jobs,no good schools,no nothings ,Ha i said she was all wrong that she and her little ones and hubby neede to just stay where their at ,englan...	lookingup	12	455	Dec 27, 2013 by lookingup
	banging head against the same wall. . repeat (Preview) well it 300am. i last saw my ah at 800am whn he left for work. sure he called a few times. . the last whn our daughter called him at 9pm to see if he was coming home. nope. . was at a buddies. spoke to me and said i wont be late lets plan to leave (for a trip i encouraged) by 930. yup. that should work well. he just dra...	Theoceancalls	6	477	Dec 27, 2013 by Tracy
	Taking it one minute at a time.. (Preview) I have not heard from my son. But I have said to myself.. I cannot help him.. He had to want it!!! I'm saying the serenity prayer every minute. I think about how much my daughter needs me!! I last told my son I live him and will be here for him when he is healthy and sober.. I told him I have lots if faith in god.. N...	Gaby	7	298	Dec 27, 2013 by Tracy
	Christmas morning special... (Preview) Hope all of the family had a wonderful Christmas...ours was nice and then very special. My wife loves to bring me her presents (the ones she gets for me) and then sits and smiles with glee and the command "Okay...stop what you're doing and open these". I have to laugh cause she gets happy...	Jerry F	9	364	Dec 27, 2013 by Jerry F
	update on the "stalker" (Preview) should have put this here.... Thank all of you for stepping up and giving me some great input thus far i have done the following..... called my sponsor who is a ret. police detective from Seattle....she left the force when she and her husb. were working in robbery/homicide division and he got shot to de...	neshema2	2	266	Dec 27, 2013 by PP
	My favorite part of Christmas (Preview) I don't mean this in a mean way but I absolutely love the day after Christmas! Because me and my kids get together with family for leftovers lunch without AH and AFIL (is that an acronym?? It is now...) It's like a Do-over. Christmas without the drama. Blessings to all.. I don't post a lot but your share...	tweety23	5	187	Dec 27, 2013 by tweety23
	count down (Preview) Yesterday he started drinking around 8:30 am and stopped when he fell asleep or passed out.I never can tell.But when all was said and done he'd had 13-14 pints of beer at least.Today he's already up to 3 pints at least and it's only 9:30.So today isn't going to be any different then any other day he's not a...	pixie	8	449	Dec 27, 2013 by pixie
	Oh, and lol (Preview) Whilst walking the dog today, we passed the library and after reading a sign, my daughter started musing over the word "committee". She babbled about it all the way home and then asked me "what committees can you think of?" and I started to laugh and said "well, it's a bit na...	Melly1248	8	264	Dec 27, 2013 by mm830
	its just sad to be in this place (Preview) im not sure posting will help me right now but i know not what else to do. ive been emailing my sponsor and lisyening to her wisdom yet i remain paralyzed. my relationship with my active ah has just been miserable this month. its always a bad time for him. . details too much to mention and thn all i want is som...	Theoceancalls	13	439	Dec 27, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Sex with your A partner (Preview) Hi there How do people tackle this subject? The A in my life is my partner (we're not married but good as, been together 8 years, lived together 7 have a 6 year old daughter). I only discovered she was an A a few years ago and it's been a real tough slog. If it wasn't for our daughter I would have walked a long t...	jitsuka	12	611	Dec 27, 2013 by KennyFenderjazz
	IT WORKED! (Preview) I will try not to make this post too long...It worked! I wasn't really depressed this Christmas. I didn't get many calls except from my cousin on the answering machine at home. I didn't get to talk to her later. I didn't talk to my mother. That's OK. I spent the day w/ my friends who invited me to dinner. I mi...	Hoot Nanny	4	259	Dec 26, 2013 by Jerry F
	Different behavior pattern for me - same for him (Preview) The "disappearances" im sure so many of you have dealt with. The cycles, and circles that have been repeated over and over again. This time, it was a break up on Tuesday, followed by an obsessive amount of calls, very loving conversations, followed by making plans with me, THEN BREAKING TH...	breamanic665	7	420	Dec 26, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Setting Boundaries (Preview) Setting Boundaries The purpose of setting boundaries is to take care of our self. Being forced to learn how to set boundaries is a vital part of learning to own our self, of learning to respect ourselves, of learning to love ourselves. If we never have to set a boundary, then we will never get in touch wit...	Tasha	7	556	Dec 26, 2013 by KennyFenderjazz
	From Moku Keawe (Preview) ...the Big Island of Hawaii anchored in the Pacific Ocean. Mele Kalikimaka e Hauoli Makahiki Ho...Of course there's no fooling any of you because you know that is Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year said from the center of my spirit with love. I have everything I need with my peace of mind and sereni...	Jerry F	20	483	Dec 26, 2013 by KennyFenderjazz
	No "Merry Christmas" call yesterday (Preview) The old me, without AlAnon, would have gone ballistic without a call from my recovering addict on Christmas Day - but thanks to the program, I was able to let it go and remind myself that WHY he didn't call is none of my business and that (hopefully) he's trying to work out his issues in his own way in his own...	texas yankee	5	372	Dec 26, 2013 by texas yankee
	Song lyrics that really got me thinking! :) (Preview) So I was listening to a CD my mom had in her car, driving home from Christmas with my dad, who is a recovering A. This was the first good christmas I ever remember with my dad, and I was thankful on my travels. If you have read any of my posts, I haven't spoken about my dad before, but only of my ABF. At any rate, i...	breamanic665	4	414	Dec 26, 2013 by hotrod
	Merry Christmas and an update :) (Preview) Well Merry Christmas to everyone .. the kids and I scooted down to McD's down the road to catch some internet tonight and see what was shaking .. it's pretty quiet to say the least. The kids are settled with their Christmas gifts and hanging out. We had a really nice Christmas, officially the best Chri...	SerenityRUS	4	300	Dec 26, 2013 by bud
	Feeling angry again (Preview) at my punishing family for making sure I was not included at Christmas today. i can't even begin to tell you how horrid their psychological abuse has been over the past two years. It is so disturbing it's too hard to hear. i'm also feeling that I am hurting everyone by giving them someone to blame. This do...	WorkingThroughIt	12	529	Dec 26, 2013 by bud
	Yay for change. (Preview) That was as close to a perfect Christmas as it gets. On Christmas Eve, I travelled alone to my mums. A year ago I would have cried all the way there, knowing that I was going to Christmas without ABF. This time I was in a great mood. I took photos out the train window all the way there, called every family memb...	Melly1248	6	351	Dec 26, 2013 by likemyheart
	Speechless (Preview) So, Christmas was beautiful .. it was spent divided however because of the family disease .. My mother is dying and I'm watching family come together (the girls) .. and watching the isolation, the defects take them over .. (no judgments, criticisms, i have my own) .. I spent 13 years with an addict an...	MeTwo2	4	374	Dec 26, 2013 by oldergal
	Alanon Promises? (Preview) We had an Alanon speaker last week at a round-up. He read the "Alanon Promises". I thought that he was reading from "Survival to Recovery". Does anyone know where the "Alanon Promises" are? Thanks so much, Nancy -- Edited by nmike at 23:04, 2008-09-21	nmike	12	10106	Dec 26, 2013 by hotrod
	Merry Christmas.. (Preview) Today I got up and celebrated with family. It was hard. After last night and my son saying he is suicidal.. And manipulated me the way he did. I'm am physically and emotionally sick. He told me that he won't call me no more. I told him I love him and to please think about his daughter. I can not stop him from do...	Gaby	1	127	Dec 26, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Merry Christmas (Preview) But I'll be glad when the holidays are over and things are back to normal.I haven't been on in a long time and guess I just need to vent.My husband the alcoholic is off work for the holidays.Every day he's off work he drinks more.I started playing this little game where I count the beer in the fridge at nigh...	pixie	3	230	Dec 25, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Wow, it has been staring me in the face for 8 years, but now I get it. (Preview) It has been an interesting eight years for me and my A. I was in denial for a long time that he really had a problem. I wanted to fix it and really thought I could. I did start going to Al-Anon meetings almost 8 years ago which I do think saved my life and sanity. I have completed step 1 and have two sponsors...	Jen61	6	443	Dec 25, 2013 by Jen61
	Again!! I was manipulated !! (Preview) It's hard .. my son found his way home. He again said he wants to go to the SLE.. So I met up with him to take him and he decided to go to the Salvation Army... Me knowing he may leave.. He said he wants help and he will get it there. This whole time I know I again was manipulated. I told him I love him and I won't lose...	Gaby	8	442	Dec 25, 2013 by Mimi3
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