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Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...

Mimi3 · Mimi3

It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...

AmyK · AmyK

Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...

Hope2000 · Hope2000

So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...

Snowflake74 · Snowflake74

To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!

tortuga · tortuga

just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting

. Sleeping well, enjoying the...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...

Lost72 · Lost72

I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...

mccr · mccr

Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...

neshema2 · neshema2

Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY

barbaralewis · barbaralewis

we ( me, husband, adult A Dtr who is 6 months sober) would like to help our adult A son get into a state run rehab program. he is in denial, total denial, as his life is spiraling down the drain. no one in the family is enabling him financially. He lives in another state, and will soon be without a phone, has n...

OT71 · OT71

Is there any way to flag a topic I want to return to when I sign on again as on other sites?

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Last night, I was at work and knew that I had some things to do before I went to my therapy with my therapist at 7pm. I was talking to my one of my four doctors I work for, and have grown to be very close to him and see hime as a father figure. I have told him the struggles Im having to deal and cope with my husband al...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello today is like any other day just when I saw how happy and good my husband 1 year sober how the house had peace then 2 months ago the house became sick again , I think I had something to do with it . I have been staying away from my husband he has been not supporting me during my time of needs with other issue...

mccr · mccr

Hello, New to this forum. I have a sex question. My alcoholic husband has been pestering me and been verbally abusive about not 'performing wifely duties' regularly for a few months. Problem is, I can't bring myself to do this when he is drunk. I just disgusts me. I have told him (when sober) that this i...

lenii263 · lenii263

My youngest daughter(47) is an alcoholic. She has hidden it over the years well, but in the last few years, it is evident. I finally confronted her last summer. She still calls me and pretends. I just can't do it anymore. I am getting too old(74), and have other rather stressful things going on with othe...

hopes314 · hopes314

I was sleeping and then a nightmare woke me up. I wish my mindwasn't so active. This is when I say the senerity prayer to calm me down to sleep. I was thinking to start a gratitude thread to put healthy ideas in my head before I try to go back to bed. So thankful FOR Alnon friends and program For my wee kids wh...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of Al-Anon. I am feeling very blessed today. The other day, I was feeling very low on myself because of my inflated ego and arrogant sense of self-worth. I was upset that I could have been doing more....making more....why me? blah blah. Then,...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Yesterday, I was at my home group meeting and I left feeling very special. After the meeting concluded, one of the members had made cupcakes for my upcoming birthday. We all sat down and enjoyed them and it was truly a great feeling...

John · John

While at a meeting last night, I put my keys, phone and cup of coffee under the seat I was sitting in. A woman sitting behind me, quietly took my keys and left the meeting. No one in the meeting thought anything of it. I went outside about half way through it, not knowing my keys had been taken... walked int...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning my family I have been saying the serenity prayer for a hour now. We here at work and have a co-worker that is driving us crazy. She is good at what she does......ONLY when she does it. Most of the time she fiddle farts around until the last few hours of the day and then she is SO SO busy she can'...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

It was a mixed emotion type of weekend, alternating exhilaration over getting myself a little car, and buyer's remorse when I discovered several repairs that will not be cheap, plus the registration, emissions and insurance all due this week. There are a couple of things wrong with the car that...

Rose50 · Rose50

I haven't posted in a while - been feeling out of sorts. I'm very unhappy with my job. It's not the work - it's the micro-manager boss who loves to point out any little mistake. I am tired of her snide remarks. Being pro-active and taking my time looking for something - being careful this time so as not to ma...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am trying to sit in these terrible high chairs at the library! It is going to be hard from now on to write on this site. I am not being negative but I feel that the library is making it harder for me to sit here for the full hour they allow us daily. I have a really hard time writing on here on my tablet as I have s...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Deep inside of me , I want to write my AH a letter stating how I feel about his relaps, but another part of me tells me "NO, TAKE CARE OF YOUR EMOTIONS HE DONT CARE"!

neshema2 · neshema2

TWELVE years in recovery on Feb 15th....I looked it up, my first ever , afraid, post on this old site that is still open, but i had to ask the owner who is my dear dear friend..."hey what is my date..I know its in Feb. around the middle and he told me....he remembered b/c I came in his "room"...

Beatrice · Beatrice

"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, But on building the new." Socrates

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I really need prayers. Things have turned ugly here, so bad that I don't even want to share the details. Lets just say ABF went on a rampage. Or a bender I guess. he hurt us, terrified us. He hurt my girl. She cried in my arms, mum can we please leave him. OK. I sent her away to stay with a friend. Im missing her s...

neshema2 · neshema2

I told you all about I have 2 daughters...older one treats me great....younger one was mentally abusive to me., oh no she never touched me b/c even tho I am the older "lioness" I could still best her in a confrontation....but the mental/emotional abuse, the rollar coaster rides she had pu...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

My face to face meeting was canceled tonight due to the bad snow storm we are having, and I wish I was able to go to my second face to face meeting but I'm home alone again. Im getting to the point as if Im a single women and not a married women. To come home and clean the house, let the dogs out, feed the dogs, was...

ssilver · ssilver

Hi. I understand this is not an advice seeking forum, but I could really use some ESH and any other insight you guys might have. I don't post often, but visit regularly and do respect the thoughtful and loving responses I read here. I go to f2f meetings (started in Jan) where there is no crosstalk, so spec...

John · John

I have a little pressure washing and painting business. I enjoy making things appear new again, refreshing them. And I'm good at it. It's how I make a living. This winter has been rough. Winters always are in this kind of business, but this year seems to be the slowest I have ever seen. I haven't ha...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Yes. I have 6 pets and a fiancee. -- Edited by pinkchip on Friday 14th of February 2014 07:25:35 PM

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My anxiety was up some today .. the kids went on their visitation today. It was good. I'm glad .. it was a good time in terms of just long enough. He's dry drunking it .. even if he's not drinking .. he's definitely got behavior attached. Typical stuff with him asking questions and not listening to th...

sadsusie · sadsusie

My Active Alcoholic Husband keeps telling me that he wants my support....proceed with the sob story of how hard life is.....How he has worked so hard for US....would DIE for me....meanwhile he has been out all night it is now 9am, and he is obviously loaded. I told him that I do not have the capacity to kn...

ladee · ladee

Awareness changes everything... I have endured anxiety my entire life.... and right now, my level of anxiety is very high in regard to a work situation.... as my day progressed, and I stayed busy with things needing to be done around my home... I was aware of feeling a 'tug' to contact my AS..... I have c...

el-cee · el-cee

I went to a meeting out of town today. It was really good but I can't shake this kind of brain numb feeling, nothing will penetrate today, all the lovely wisdom in the room and I couldn't really really listen. I'm feeling sad and a bit lonely. Decided to visit an Art Gallery and thought I would cheer myself...

neshema2 · neshema2

Anthony de Mello told a story about an eagle... A man found an eagles nest w/an abandoned egg...he took that egg and put it in the chicken coop where the chickens were free roaming, but had their "nesting place" he put the egg in one of the nests and sure enough a loving fat hen began to lay on t...

mm830 · mm830

I just need a friend today. It's been about a month since I really started standing up for myself with the A and it actually got better, or so I thought. Last night we were supposed to celebrate Valentine's Day I get this beautiful card and dinner. Well dinner went terrible. He started getting angry with...

hopes314 · hopes314

I know marriages are not prefect with and without an alcoholic in the picture. I am going to see a lawyer to find out if I can survive on my own with 3 kids. I don't even have the money for the divorce. that does suck. I think I will have to wait until I get a job. Alnon does promise that we can be happy with the...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

He was out of the house, he called a friend of his and said he couldn't live anymore, he called me, sounded really drunk. He needed his sponsors number to get help. He said he just couldn't deal anymore, he would just jump off the hotel roof. I called police again. This time they got him to the crisis u...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

I've been guilty of freely offering my advice whether it's asked for or not. I really need to write WAIT on both hands:) That said, I would very much appreciate ESH from you all here. I feel that I am unable to fully work my recovery with the active ABF living here. His FOO is several states away and he has bu...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I'm sorry, I couldn't stop laughing when I saw this and I'm sure it reflects a lot of OUR prince charmings LOL

hotrod · hotrod

ESHhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t56752460/step-12-alanon/

oldergal · oldergal

You are always free to choose the content of your thoughts and the direction of your life. The one thing over which you have complete control is your inner life and your thinking. You can decide to think happy, fulfilling, uplifting thoughts that lead to positive actions and results. Or you can, by def...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

For some reason, I've never received a valentines day gift, or card, or notice in the paper (I ALWAYS wanted one of those lol) and it's always made me just a little sad. Some silly teenage romantic notion that I have kept with me, I guess. Intellectually, I know it's silly, but emotionally, I have always...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

The lights have been flickering with the relationship I have and had with my Dad. He was Diagnosed bi-polar later in life I have tried to place all of the things in the past in a place of understanding. The kind where I realize I was a product of my raising. There is a wonderful outcome of knowing I can un lea...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I've had some HUGE clarity in the past 24 hours things I have been really struggling with just kind of fell away and I am extremely grateful for this new level of healing or whatever it is .. I like it! I had a little slip yesterday out of the blue I looked at the tramps divorce status .. I don't know why I did ....

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone I'm writing this because I need help with me. It's not ( or maybe it is ) about my son or alcohol. I am getting sicker physically. I have COPD ( mild ) but it seems to be getting worse. I can't even walk across the room and pick up lint off the floor without getting out of breath. I can't take a...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am lonesome and bored right now which can always get me into trouble. I have 4 classes, a part time job, my almost 16 year old at home, but am feeling like maybe it is time to look into the love life again. I have picked some doozies for sure. God is always in control and I try to follow His lead humbly. I am not...

messedupgirl · messedupgirl

I truly hate weekends !!! walking on pins and needles , "A" is hitching to find something to fight about !! How can anyone be that miserable , I hope work calls him today my coping as always been pick up and go, i go shopping, i go visit friends, today will go skidooing with my son.... why do i al...

abbyal · abbyal

When I log in it accepts my nick name and I enter the room , then the screen goes totally black . I can still get to the board no problem , any suggestions ?

hopes314 · hopes314

I just told my husband I am done and I give up. I can not handle the lying anymore. He was supposed to stop drinking since Nov. I found bottles in the trash. Oh here comes the lies. They were empty bottles from when he stopped drinking in Nov. Oh the excuses and the lies. Go protect your addiction. I know it...

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	The hangover... (Preview) Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...	Jerry F	12	530	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	SUNDAY MORNING SPIRITUAL MEETING 10 A.M. (EST) TOPIC IS: WHAT UNEXPECTED BLESSINGS HAVE I RECEIVED IN AL-ANON? (Preview) It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...	Mimi3	0	235	Feb 23, 2014 by Mimi3
	Awake again...share (Preview) I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...	StargazerLily	2	426	Feb 23, 2014 by Jerry F
	I feel like such a An..... (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...	slogan_jim	16	1623	Feb 22, 2014 by wp
	Called police on husband last night now feeling conflicted. vent? (Preview) Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....	AmyK	16	711	Feb 22, 2014 by AmyK
	Why do I bother to believe him! (Preview) Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...	NavySealWife	10	777	Feb 22, 2014 by OT71
	What we could learn from our dogs (Preview) While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...	KennyFenderjazz	8	298	Feb 22, 2014 by BassetHoundMommy
	Strange (Preview) So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...	Hope2000	6	425	Feb 22, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Hi I'm new here and pretty confused (Preview) To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...	Snowflake74	8	546	Feb 21, 2014 by Snowflake74
	Ohh. That's what i wasn't seeing. (Preview) Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...	Melly1248	19	891	Feb 21, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Here's my ostrich (Preview) Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!	ilovedogs	19	501	Feb 21, 2014 by grateful2be
	update.. (Preview) just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting . Sleeping well, enjoying the...	tortuga	4	365	Feb 21, 2014 by Jerry F
	Relax, but annoyed! (Preview) I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...	NavySealWife	6	475	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Spinning in circles... (Preview) I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...	Lost72	3	428	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Social Settings (Preview) Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...	mccr	4	477	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	preparing for a death of a loved one (Preview) Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...	neshema2	12	576	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Dry drunk (Preview) I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY	Wisdom67	2	331	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Please give input on intervention (Preview) we ( me, husband, adult A Dtr who is 6 months sober) would like to help our adult A son get into a state run rehab program. he is in denial, total denial, as his life is spiraling down the drain. no one in the family is enabling him financially. He lives in another state, and will soon be without a phone, has n...	barbaralewis	12	615	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Question About Return To Site (Preview) Is there any way to flag a topic I want to return to when I sign on again as on other sites?	OT71	1	277	Feb 21, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Its it normal that I dont care if he comes home or not? (Preview) Last night, I was at work and knew that I had some things to do before I went to my therapy with my therapist at 7pm. I was talking to my one of my four doctors I work for, and have grown to be very close to him and see hime as a father figure. I have told him the struggles Im having to deal and cope with my husband al...	NavySealWife	8	674	Feb 21, 2014 by OT71
	Sad sad diease (Preview) Hello today is like any other day just when I saw how happy and good my husband 1 year sober how the house had peace then 2 months ago the house became sick again , I think I had something to do with it . I have been staying away from my husband he has been not supporting me during my time of needs with other issue...	Wisdom67	6	576	Feb 21, 2014 by PP
	INTIMACY QUESTION (Preview) Hello, New to this forum. I have a sex question. My alcoholic husband has been pestering me and been verbally abusive about not 'performing wifely duties' regularly for a few months. Problem is, I can't bring myself to do this when he is drunk. I just disgusts me. I have told him (when sober) that this i...	mccr	14	611	Feb 21, 2014 by mccr
	Can't do it anymore (Preview) My youngest daughter(47) is an alcoholic. She has hidden it over the years well, but in the last few years, it is evident. I finally confronted her last summer. She still calls me and pretends. I just can't do it anymore. I am getting too old(74), and have other rather stressful things going on with othe...	lenii263	9	473	Feb 21, 2014 by Grace7
	why oh why i cant sleep (Preview) I was sleeping and then a nightmare woke me up. I wish my mindwasn't so active. This is when I say the senerity prayer to calm me down to sleep. I was thinking to start a gratitude thread to put healthy ideas in my head before I try to go back to bed. So thankful FOR Alnon friends and program For my wee kids wh...	hopes314	5	391	Feb 20, 2014 by Beatrice
	First World Problems....feeling blessed today (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of Al-Anon. I am feeling very blessed today. The other day, I was feeling very low on myself because of my inflated ego and arrogant sense of self-worth. I was upset that I could have been doing more....making more....why me? blah blah. Then,...	slogan_jim	2	250	Feb 20, 2014 by Jerry F
	Great meeting yesterday but still feeling low. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Yesterday, I was at my home group meeting and I left feeling very special. After the meeting concluded, one of the members had made cupcakes for my upcoming birthday. We all sat down and enjoyed them and it was truly a great feeling...	slogan_jim	5	397	Feb 20, 2014 by Breakingfree
	My car stolen in a Meeting!! (Preview) While at a meeting last night, I put my keys, phone and cup of coffee under the seat I was sitting in. A woman sitting behind me, quietly took my keys and left the meeting. No one in the meeting thought anything of it. I went outside about half way through it, not knowing my keys had been taken... walked int...	John	11	718	Feb 20, 2014 by Breakingfree
	God Please help me to keep my mouth shut (Preview) Good Morning my family I have been saying the serenity prayer for a hour now. We here at work and have a co-worker that is driving us crazy. She is good at what she does......ONLY when she does it. Most of the time she fiddle farts around until the last few hours of the day and then she is SO SO busy she can'...	Cathyinaz	11	935	Feb 20, 2014 by milkwood
	darn potholes (Preview) It was a mixed emotion type of weekend, alternating exhilaration over getting myself a little car, and buyer's remorse when I discovered several repairs that will not be cheap, plus the registration, emissions and insurance all due this week. There are a couple of things wrong with the car that...	Raven Juniper	5	401	Feb 19, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Hanging in there (Preview) I haven't posted in a while - been feeling out of sorts. I'm very unhappy with my job. It's not the work - it's the micro-manager boss who loves to point out any little mistake. I am tired of her snide remarks. Being pro-active and taking my time looking for something - being careful this time so as not to ma...	Rose50	9	473	Feb 19, 2014 by el-cee
	these doggone high chairs! (Preview) I am trying to sit in these terrible high chairs at the library! It is going to be hard from now on to write on this site. I am not being negative but I feel that the library is making it harder for me to sit here for the full hour they allow us daily. I have a really hard time writing on here on my tablet as I have s...	Hoot Nanny	5	266	Feb 19, 2014 by cwya
	Deep inside of me wants me to write him a letter...... (Preview) Deep inside of me , I want to write my AH a letter stating how I feel about his relaps, but another part of me tells me "NO, TAKE CARE OF YOUR EMOTIONS HE DONT CARE"!	NavySealWife	11	439	Feb 18, 2014 by Jerry F
	Happy anniversary to me (Preview) TWELVE years in recovery on Feb 15th....I looked it up, my first ever , afraid, post on this old site that is still open, but i had to ask the owner who is my dear dear friend..."hey what is my date..I know its in Feb. around the middle and he told me....he remembered b/c I came in his "room"...	neshema2	11	935	Feb 18, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Good ole Socrates (Preview) "The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, But on building the new." Socrates	Beatrice	1	271	Feb 18, 2014 by hotrod
	Ugly stuff. (Preview) I really need prayers. Things have turned ugly here, so bad that I don't even want to share the details. Lets just say ABF went on a rampage. Or a bender I guess. he hurt us, terrified us. He hurt my girl. She cried in my arms, mum can we please leave him. OK. I sent her away to stay with a friend. Im missing her s...	Melly1248	24	741	Feb 18, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	I REALLY moved on (Preview) I told you all about I have 2 daughters...older one treats me great....younger one was mentally abusive to me., oh no she never touched me b/c even tho I am the older "lioness" I could still best her in a confrontation....but the mental/emotional abuse, the rollar coaster rides she had pu...	neshema2	9	556	Feb 18, 2014 by el-cee
	Coming home to a empty house (Preview) My face to face meeting was canceled tonight due to the bad snow storm we are having, and I wish I was able to go to my second face to face meeting but I'm home alone again. Im getting to the point as if Im a single women and not a married women. To come home and clean the house, let the dogs out, feed the dogs, was...	NavySealWife	5	834	Feb 18, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Church with my A (Preview) Hi. I understand this is not an advice seeking forum, but I could really use some ESH and any other insight you guys might have. I don't post often, but visit regularly and do respect the thoughtful and loving responses I read here. I go to f2f meetings (started in Jan) where there is no crosstalk, so spec...	ssilver	14	558	Feb 17, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	A rough winter! (Preview) I have a little pressure washing and painting business. I enjoy making things appear new again, refreshing them. And I'm good at it. It's how I make a living. This winter has been rough. Winters always are in this kind of business, but this year seems to be the slowest I have ever seen. I haven't ha...	John	9	553	Feb 17, 2014 by Jen61
	pet photo shoot! (Preview) Yes. I have 6 pets and a fiancee. -- Edited by pinkchip on Friday 14th of February 2014 07:25:35 PM	pinkchip	14	628	Feb 17, 2014 by MorningGlory
	We all survived .. lol (Preview) My anxiety was up some today .. the kids went on their visitation today. It was good. I'm glad .. it was a good time in terms of just long enough. He's dry drunking it .. even if he's not drinking .. he's definitely got behavior attached. Typical stuff with him asking questions and not listening to th...	SerenityRUS	2	445	Feb 17, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	My active AH wants my "support" because he is in so much pain yadda yadda (Preview) My Active Alcoholic Husband keeps telling me that he wants my support....proceed with the sob story of how hard life is.....How he has worked so hard for US....would DIE for me....meanwhile he has been out all night it is now 9am, and he is obviously loaded. I told him that I do not have the capacity to kn...	sadsusie	9	550	Feb 17, 2014 by SpiderArcana
	Something I became aware of today.. (Preview) Awareness changes everything... I have endured anxiety my entire life.... and right now, my level of anxiety is very high in regard to a work situation.... as my day progressed, and I stayed busy with things needing to be done around my home... I was aware of feeling a 'tug' to contact my AS..... I have c...	ladee	12	653	Feb 17, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Feeling sad tonight. (Preview) I went to a meeting out of town today. It was really good but I can't shake this kind of brain numb feeling, nothing will penetrate today, all the lovely wisdom in the room and I couldn't really really listen. I'm feeling sad and a bit lonely. Decided to visit an Art Gallery and thought I would cheer myself...	el-cee	14	480	Feb 17, 2014 by PP
	I used to be that eagle... (Preview) Anthony de Mello told a story about an eagle... A man found an eagles nest w/an abandoned egg...he took that egg and put it in the chicken coop where the chickens were free roaming, but had their "nesting place" he put the egg in one of the nests and sure enough a loving fat hen began to lay on t...	neshema2	6	470	Feb 17, 2014 by mm830
	Ugh (Preview) I just need a friend today. It's been about a month since I really started standing up for myself with the A and it actually got better, or so I thought. Last night we were supposed to celebrate Valentine's Day I get this beautiful card and dinner. Well dinner went terrible. He started getting angry with...	mm830	10	431	Feb 17, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	alnon long termer - seek wisdom (Preview) I know marriages are not prefect with and without an alcoholic in the picture. I am going to see a lawyer to find out if I can survive on my own with 3 kids. I don't even have the money for the divorce. that does suck. I think I will have to wait until I get a job. Alnon does promise that we can be happy with the...	hopes314	11	603	Feb 17, 2014 by jillybean1
	He is having a mental crisis and I AM GOING INSANE? (Preview) He was out of the house, he called a friend of his and said he couldn't live anymore, he called me, sounded really drunk. He needed his sponsors number to get help. He said he just couldn't deal anymore, he would just jump off the hotel roof. I called police again. This time they got him to the crisis u...	jillybean1	8	526	Feb 17, 2014 by jillybean1
	Armchair Quarterback in need of ESH (Preview) I've been guilty of freely offering my advice whether it's asked for or not. I really need to write WAIT on both hands:) That said, I would very much appreciate ESH from you all here. I feel that I am unable to fully work my recovery with the active ABF living here. His FOO is several states away and he has bu...	Raven Juniper	7	493	Feb 17, 2014 by Debilyn
	Prince Charming in MY reality :-D (Preview) I'm sorry, I couldn't stop laughing when I saw this and I'm sure it reflects a lot of OUR prince charmings LOL	Melly1248	7	494	Feb 16, 2014 by Debilyn
	12 STEP POSTED TO THE STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) ESHhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t56752460/step-12-alanon/	hotrod	0	232	Feb 16, 2014 by hotrod
	Your Mind Is Like A Garden (Preview) You are always free to choose the content of your thoughts and the direction of your life. The one thing over which you have complete control is your inner life and your thinking. You can decide to think happy, fulfilling, uplifting thoughts that lead to positive actions and results. Or you can, by def...	oldergal	12	736	Feb 16, 2014 by hotrod
	Bestest valentines day gift EVER. (Preview) For some reason, I've never received a valentines day gift, or card, or notice in the paper (I ALWAYS wanted one of those lol) and it's always made me just a little sad. Some silly teenage romantic notion that I have kept with me, I guess. Intellectually, I know it's silly, but emotionally, I have always...	Melly1248	5	662	Feb 16, 2014 by hotrod
	It wasn't okay back then and it's not okay now (Preview) The lights have been flickering with the relationship I have and had with my Dad. He was Diagnosed bi-polar later in life I have tried to place all of the things in the past in a place of understanding. The kind where I realize I was a product of my raising. There is a wonderful outcome of knowing I can un lea...	Mari1978	10	551	Feb 16, 2014 by hotrod
	New moments :) (Preview) I've had some HUGE clarity in the past 24 hours things I have been really struggling with just kind of fell away and I am extremely grateful for this new level of healing or whatever it is .. I like it! I had a little slip yesterday out of the blue I looked at the tramps divorce status .. I don't know why I did ....	SerenityRUS	3	442	Feb 16, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	I have a problem (Preview) Hi Everyone I'm writing this because I need help with me. It's not ( or maybe it is ) about my son or alcohol. I am getting sicker physically. I have COPD ( mild ) but it seems to be getting worse. I can't even walk across the room and pick up lint off the floor without getting out of breath. I can't take a...	Cathyinaz	13	641	Feb 16, 2014 by likemyheart
	I have been struggling (Preview) I am lonesome and bored right now which can always get me into trouble. I have 4 classes, a part time job, my almost 16 year old at home, but am feeling like maybe it is time to look into the love life again. I have picked some doozies for sure. God is always in control and I try to follow His lead humbly. I am not...	Breakingfree	7	549	Feb 16, 2014 by grateful2be
	Sunday blues (Preview) I truly hate weekends !!! walking on pins and needles , "A" is hitching to find something to fight about !! How can anyone be that miserable , I hope work calls him today my coping as always been pick up and go, i go shopping, i go visit friends, today will go skidooing with my son.... why do i al...	messedupgirl	1	305	Feb 16, 2014 by yanksfan51
	screen goes blank trying to get into chat room (Preview) When I log in it accepts my nick name and I enter the room , then the screen goes totally black . I can still get to the board no problem , any suggestions ?	abbyal	1	278	Feb 16, 2014 by John
	please change my attitude (Preview) I just told my husband I am done and I give up. I can not handle the lying anymore. He was supposed to stop drinking since Nov. I found bottles in the trash. Oh here comes the lies. They were empty bottles from when he stopped drinking in Nov. Oh the excuses and the lies. Go protect your addiction. I know it...	hopes314	3	317	Feb 16, 2014 by Jen
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