Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

pkm · pkm

I dont even know where to start. He has been drinking heavily for 10 years. He is now 35. Still lives with my mother who is on disability. She pays all of the bills with the little bit of money she gets & he doesnt give her much to live there. His paycheck goes to alcohol. He walks all over her & she let...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I had a blow up with the person I live with. He told me to get the F out now. I not going right this minute but I'm leaving as soon as possible. My anxiety is because now I have to find a place to live and get my stuff moved and it is giving me anxiety and fear. I know this is best. I have to get some money togeth...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Because I'm not sure how to handle the whole no show .. I totally understood it after he was arrested for violating the OP (yes and no .. it would have been simple NOT to contact me and still see the kids). He ducked out on the kids for almost 8 months I didn't have to have contact closer to about 9 I think. An...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

I could feel it rising up in me. My addiction was rearing its ugly head. After a mostly quiet patch, his using in all forms has been ramping up and along with it, my stress, in the physical and mental forms. I tend to get cold sores under stress and it's funny how I've been feeling the tingling pain of a blist...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I feel compelled to post. I haven't in a few days. My mom is back in the hospital. I am OK w/ it. My family is coming up to take her back home. I am actually OK w/ it & look forward to her leaving. I have already spent nearly 20 years basically keeping her occupied. Now it is time for her to be taken care...

Lyne · Lyne

My A has two sides: a grotesque, huge, monster-like personna that puts addiction first and is willing to destroy herself and our marriage. Then there is a caring, helpful, and can-count-on-person who always comes through in an emergency. At times in the past, the monster was as big as godzilla, a...

DavidG · DavidG

Lois and Bill did not have any kids of their own, but they had all of us!

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I love this! Thanks so much Debilyn, what a FANTASTIC new slogan for me this week! YIPEEEE, I got another tool! Hugs, J.

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Well, as I mentioned in the past I am temporarily back with my dad to save some money for buying a home. So far, so good. Yesterday, he helped me move and he was fine. Sober. Last night he went out, this morning he seemed fine. Didn't ap...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Sorry I was in the meeting this morning and I was heading out and my ride showed up and I forgot to log off so if anyone was talking to me, the reason I didn't answer is because I wasn't there. Ooops. My bad.

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

Has anyone ever heard of someone being totally addicted to another person. My AS seems to be addicted to a girl. He met her about 3 1/2 yrs ago and that is when his troubles started. I think she is an A too. But he just does not seen to be abel to stay away from her anymore than he can stay sober. At least the bott...

ct1203 · ct1203

Okay so I wanted to share my progress. I have been trying to work this program and reading up on self-help books to help me detach with love and not be codependent. Yesterday my A decided that he wanted to go to visit some friends and drink all night. I did not argue and he stated that he had a ride. I was not gi...

Jerry F · Jerry F

even with a sign out front on my driveway saying "No trespassing", "No Turn Arounds"...lots of people do that; drive off the main drag down our private drive, into my driveway to turn around so they won't have to back out where they came in. None leave any sort of funds to repair...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm soooo in the middle of a very dark fantasy. STBAX has not contacted me or the kids about visitation this weekend. This screams of him drinking which is none of my business however .. it is one of those situations that is so completely predictable. I haven't heard from him since Monday when I set my...

southernlass · southernlass

I have two problems that I am trying to work through at the moment and not sure how to resolve or move forward with them. Any guidance would be extremely helpfulFirst are boundaries with A. It was agreed that A would undertake a home detox and I would help them do this but once they had completed this the...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Ok .. I'm big on self introspection today .. I just kind of have tried to keep busy and just be .. I did have an interesting thought today about what has been going on and here it is that I did the rejecting of my STBAX .. hey I told him I didn't want him just stopping by and he still beat me to the punch of making th...

texasgal · texasgal

I have a job interview on Monday in the morning in a city 5 hrs away. I leave tomorrow. I found an economical hotel close to the interview. I am nervous I purchased a new outfit and got car ready. I have been meditating and praying to HP. I have made wonderful friends in Alanon and at my work. I would miss them...

Truth · Truth

So my mediation session was moved again, which is okay because it gives me more time to prepare. My ex-A has not contacted my son or myself since that last incident. However, that day he was trying to get me talk about mediation before mediation. He did state "that he wants me to acknowledge that h...

el-cee · el-cee

I recently met with my sponsor and told her some of my shortcomings, not all but easy does it, and so ive been thinking what do I do now, do I just move on to the next step? I have felt that this step needs more time and attention than that. Ive only done one part, ive admitted to another human being but I need to...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I am not a crier. Never really have been. My dad used to shut down my tears quickly and my husband used to accuse me of using tears to manipulate him. So, I learned to control it. This week I have found that I am constantly fighting back tears. My AH saw me with little glistening tears in my eyes last nig...

sportychick · sportychick

I haven't been to any F2F meetings for a few months. I used to go to a regular one once a week however I stopped going because I didn't feel like I was working my program in all areas of my life. I felt like when it was my time to share I would end up sounding like I was contradicting myself. My warped judgement o...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

So I was just lurking around this morning and I've read so many beautiful, heartbreaking and inspiring shares. And I have to get out of here and go to work, and I don't want to. I feel bad that I don't have the ability to translate what my soul wants to say and fire off some eloquent replies. You are all my bro...

el-cee · el-cee

The isms of this disease live on in my family and sometimes they are very clear to see. There is drama going on in my family right now. I dont know exactly what it is because, I resisted turning into a detective, I did not snoop or pry and I did not manipulate people to get involved and fix. Its interesting b...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi all~Have been home sick all week and as my A is semi-retired, have had a window into the A's new life. A has lots of free time. Hd I not joined alanon a year ago I think I would have spent the week angry as well as sick! My A WAS going to 3 meetings a week and working with a sponsor. Now the A goes to 1 meeting...

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

I have been struggling so much with extreme anxiety over my situation. I cant put my finger on any one event just life with my AS in general. I completely understand and get the 3 c's. In theory I truly believe in "let go and let God" but in practice I just cannot turn off the anxiety and sadness o...

oldergal · oldergal

He is now the proud father and I am a proud grama of a beautiful baby boy born today! And I do take some credit, I put lots of Alanon studying and memorizing and practicing and came to this board for support, in order to have the strength to say NO even if it killed me inside. I stuck to it and gave him boundarie...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I honestly didn't know how much anxiety I have been carrying for a long time because I didn't know what it was in terms of a "feeling". I figured that out last August when the kids and I started seeing our respected therapists. The EMDR therapy I did was huge especially in conjunction with A...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I'm not sure why I came on the boards today (except to see Mark's good news, LOL), because I'm in a such a bad place today. I just got back last night after spending a week at my mom's across the country. It was hard to be in the car with AH and I realized that if I didn't speak and talk about the trip, he wasn't...

Sam813 · Sam813

So I haven't posted on here for about a year. I wasn't very active before, but some things have come up recently. My brother is an addict. He has used any and every drug to the maximum he could tolerate for 10 years. Most recent was meth and he would shoot it as well as heroin occasionally. His drug of c...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have been involved in an organization for over 19 years & have decided to quit. It involves weight loss & is not a 12-step program. I just need to air out some of my concerns & issues in making this major decision. At this point I almost feel black-balled in a sense. Things are changing w/ th...

PP · PP

I hope this does not offend anyone, no harm intended...I need to laugh at myself when I get all significant.

Truth · Truth

So Day 5 has been equal amounts of emotions, however of the "grouchy" kind. I was very tired today but for some reason having a hard time resting.

Beatrice · Beatrice

"Too many of us are not living our dreams, because we are living our Fears."

Melly1248 · Melly1248

My grandma has always been there with me. She raised me and she has been there looking after me every step of the way.Always. So I sent her a text tonight, I have never asked her before. Did U ever go to alanon?I really thought she might have. NO why would I I am NOT an ALCOHOLIC WHAT are they telling you I cant...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I posted this on the AA board, but wanted to share it here too cuz you guys are my peeps too :) - The job I had when I first got sober was on a juvenile detention unit. I did not get along with the clinical director for numerous reasons. Many of those were due to my character defects and poor boundaries due to...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Once upon a time, a man and woman went upstairs to bed. Their children had been asleep for some time. A horrible thunderstorm was raging outside, but they felt comfortable and warm in their room. Suddenly, the front doorbell rang. The wife said to the husband - "Well, aren't you going to get...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I am anxious. I am having some anxiety over my X. He calls me about my son's car and what he has to do to get it back. Has to be released by the DPS. Has to have insurance. Has to pay all the fines on it and has to have Power of Attorney to get it. He's asking me if I did this before. YEAH Bill.....twice. ...

Kalona44 · Kalona44

I am new to this site. I went into the chat room a few nights ago and was so happy to talk with everyone but I still feel lost. I have been married to my husband for 5 years on May 16th. He is a alcoholic and had been addicted to drugs (he no longer does drugs). He actually traded one drug for another. Through the...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

My brain told me it would and he would start drinking again, but then it lasted longer than it ever has (though was never completely sober for more than 12 days at a time) so started thinking maybe everyone was wrong he could do it. Last night he came in from playing outside with son and he was smiling, talk...

mamachief · mamachief

Do all alcoholics talk to themselves? Mumble talk quite say I saying mean things? I try to ignore it not take it personal if I s a y anything it's gonna be a fight. He will roll his eyes blame me say I'm picking "oh here we go" because I snap as him to be quiet I truly believe he can't stop talking. I...

texasgal · texasgal

I've been working on my steps and I finished step 4 I'm meeting with ssponsor Saturday to do step 5. It was very emotionally exhausting. But the underlying theme is low self-esteem. I was abused physically and emotionally. I was cheated on 4 times. And I stayed all in the name of love. But maybe it was my l...

deacon · deacon

We have had no contact with our son for two weeks now. I think about him hourly, I pray for him all the time. But I am ashamed to admit that, with him being in another country thousands of miles from us, there is some relief in just not knowing and not seeing what he is doing. When he is here, I can see what is ha...

Kah27 · Kah27

So Im going to try to make this as short as possible. My husband is an alcoholic and has been drinking our whole marriage for 3 years with periods of sobriety the longest one being 2 years ago after he got a duo and was on probation but since we moved in October 2013 he has been drinking off and on trying to hid...

sirchef · sirchef

Hello everyone its been too long since I've been here. Life gets in the way of everything. All of you are on my mind often and mean to stop by to share some thoughts but like I said life gets in the way. this past week we experienced a great holydayEaster. Some of us don't celebrate it or don't have that beli...

Isthisreal · Isthisreal

A couple years back my husbands reaction to alcohol came to the forefront. Alcohol turned him into a dark person...maybe that's an exaggeration but it did. The loving person I'm married to, would go away after 1-11/2 drinks each night. alcohol tuned him into an agitated, irritated, quick to anger, m...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I have been so busy spring cleaning my home, I feel a busy as bee lately! I have not had the chance to get on here to post and took few minutes of my day to share some of the changes that has happened in the last three weeks. I lost my jobs three weeks ago, which I feel it was meant to be from my HP to take care of me a...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My STBAX has been running amuck over my boundaries and thankfully I've been able to continually take small steps back .. I feel as if I have opened the door to take a small peak outside and he's thrust his leg through the door and will not let me shut it. I feel unsafe. I don't like to feel that I have no co...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I know that when things are crazy I know it pretty much has to be me. The way I handle situations is up to me. I have issues w/ my mom from as far back as I can remember. The only thing is my parents were together long enough that we had a fairly good life. I do remember times when it seemed like she(my mom) was a go...

Truth · Truth

Oh I feel wonderful. Day 2 hip hip hooray.

Jerry F · Jerry F

done. The inventory is very revealing. I think I know and know that I know and then the inventory reveals much more (often much much more). The inventory revealed all of the motivations for my rant...where I came from in the disease; yeppers, The freaking bank that brought down our financial hom...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Ok .. if you like Almond Joy, Mounds, or Whatchamacallits, you have been warned to stop reading right now. It will get ugly and you probably won't ever look at a candy bar the same way. My STBAX has an open FB page that I honestly don't think he knows is open and I choose NOT to look for two reasons .. I...

spouseofacoa · spouseofacoa

I am knew to this. My grandfathers were both Alcoholics but my parents were not. But I have heard alot from them what they went through as kids. But they seem to have worked through it. My husband is an ACOA his father drank alot when he was growing up and is starting to drink again. My husband has never deal...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My prayers are being answered. I am not so sad as I was last Saturday. I am taking my time & enjoying another lovely Spring day! It rains often here so I need to enjoy the weather while I can. I have to admit that I wanted to have another fit recently. I didn't but my husband did. He totally spilled some ch...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I have decided that in order to save some money for my home purchase I will take my dad upon his offer and live with him while I search. I feel it's best for me and my needs. I don't know what to think. I am nervous, but I have the tools to de...

Jerry F · Jerry F

A pity party and now I am hung over. It occurred to me to shut the hell up and then there was some news about how my family is "coming along" (that isn't about a success story...not in this disease) and that fueled my oration...motivation. Crap!! that voice in my head which was suggestin...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

So, I had some good news last week about the community outreach project we work on in our spare time. The specifics aren't important but it's all good. I have to devote some more time to it, though. so if you don't see me that much its not because I disappeared again. I'm just busy.

Jenn86 · Jenn86

My boyfriend was just in a bicycle accident and is now in a coma. Right now I am still in shock. I am looking toward my Higher Power for guidance. Please please pray for him/send positive thoughts etc... Thank you to everyone who has assisted me in the past. My annoyance with his symptoms of alcoho...

Tossed Salad · Tossed Salad

My AH and I have been separated for the past 3 months. We set up an arrangement that when he is going to be with the kids(10 & 7), he must breathalyze before & after the visit. If he blows positive before the visit, he does not get to be with the kids. If he blows positive on the back end, he looses h...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Someone asked me to share a little more ESH in terms of dealing with the keen alcoholic mind. This is strictly my journey and while it should be clear cut .. it's amazing how twisted my own mind can get in dealing with my stbax. I spent a lot of time trying to get him to think like I do. First off, thank you G...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Well.. this really isn't the holiday any of us would have expected. My bf dad died during the night. The family and his doc had determined that he needed long term care about three weeks ago. There are lots of feelings of guilt now that bf's mom and siblings are experience. I'm trying to be supportiv...

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	My alcoholic brother (Preview) I dont even know where to start. He has been drinking heavily for 10 years. He is now 35. Still lives with my mother who is on disability. She pays all of the bills with the little bit of money she gets & he doesnt give her much to live there. His paycheck goes to alcohol. He walks all over her & she let...	pkm	9	686	Apr 28, 2014 by pkm
	I'm scared and anxiety all at once (Preview) I had a blow up with the person I live with. He told me to get the F out now. I not going right this minute but I'm leaving as soon as possible. My anxiety is because now I have to find a place to live and get my stuff moved and it is giving me anxiety and fear. I know this is best. I have to get some money togeth...	Cathyinaz	20	847	Apr 28, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Wellness Check .. (Preview) Because I'm not sure how to handle the whole no show .. I totally understood it after he was arrested for violating the OP (yes and no .. it would have been simple NOT to contact me and still see the kids). He ducked out on the kids for almost 8 months I didn't have to have contact closer to about 9 I think. An...	SerenityRUS	7	829	Apr 28, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Should've known better (Preview) I could feel it rising up in me. My addiction was rearing its ugly head. After a mostly quiet patch, his using in all forms has been ramping up and along with it, my stress, in the physical and mental forms. I tend to get cold sores under stress and it's funny how I've been feeling the tingling pain of a blist...	Raven Juniper	6	530	Apr 28, 2014 by grateful2be
	I am so anxious that I want to post every time I get a chance... (Preview) Today I feel compelled to post. I haven't in a few days. My mom is back in the hospital. I am OK w/ it. My family is coming up to take her back home. I am actually OK w/ it & look forward to her leaving. I have already spent nearly 20 years basically keeping her occupied. Now it is time for her to be taken care...	Hoot Nanny	4	415	Apr 28, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	evil alcoholic (Preview) My A has two sides: a grotesque, huge, monster-like personna that puts addiction first and is willing to destroy herself and our marriage. Then there is a caring, helpful, and can-count-on-person who always comes through in an emergency. At times in the past, the monster was as big as godzilla, a...	Lyne	23	786	Apr 28, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	The greatest thing... (Preview) Lois and Bill did not have any kids of their own, but they had all of us!	DavidG	8	532	Apr 28, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	Debilyn says: DROP THE ROCK! (Preview) I love this! Thanks so much Debilyn, what a FANTASTIC new slogan for me this week! YIPEEEE, I got another tool! Hugs, J.	Jean4444	4	673	Apr 28, 2014 by likemyheart
	Back home with dad....Different vibe. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Well, as I mentioned in the past I am temporarily back with my dad to save some money for buying a home. So far, so good. Yesterday, he helped me move and he was fine. Sober. Last night he went out, this morning he seemed fine. Didn't ap...	slogan_jim	4	408	Apr 28, 2014 by PP
	Little apology (Preview) Sorry I was in the meeting this morning and I was heading out and my ride showed up and I forgot to log off so if anyone was talking to me, the reason I didn't answer is because I wasn't there. Ooops. My bad.	Wolfie55	0	287	Apr 28, 2014 by Wolfie55
	Addiction to a person? (Preview) Has anyone ever heard of someone being totally addicted to another person. My AS seems to be addicted to a girl. He met her about 3 1/2 yrs ago and that is when his troubles started. I think she is an A too. But he just does not seen to be abel to stay away from her anymore than he can stay sober. At least the bott...	Sallygcoe	6	402	Apr 28, 2014 by Sallygcoe
	Proud of Myself (Preview) Okay so I wanted to share my progress. I have been trying to work this program and reading up on self-help books to help me detach with love and not be codependent. Yesterday my A decided that he wanted to go to visit some friends and drink all night. I did not argue and he stated that he had a ride. I was not gi...	ct1203	7	353	Apr 28, 2014 by milkwood
	Got my boundaries crossed (Preview) even with a sign out front on my driveway saying "No trespassing", "No Turn Arounds"...lots of people do that; drive off the main drag down our private drive, into my driveway to turn around so they won't have to back out where they came in. None leave any sort of funds to repair...	Jerry F	16	681	Apr 28, 2014 by milkwood
	This too shall pass .. however .. (Preview) I'm soooo in the middle of a very dark fantasy. STBAX has not contacted me or the kids about visitation this weekend. This screams of him drinking which is none of my business however .. it is one of those situations that is so completely predictable. I haven't heard from him since Monday when I set my...	SerenityRUS	18	839	Apr 27, 2014 by yankshirerose
	Stuck between a Rock and hard place (Preview) I have two problems that I am trying to work through at the moment and not sure how to resolve or move forward with them. Any guidance would be extremely helpfulFirst are boundaries with A. It was agreed that A would undertake a home detox and I would help them do this but once they had completed this the...	southernlass	4	520	Apr 27, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Rejection .. (Preview) Ok .. I'm big on self introspection today .. I just kind of have tried to keep busy and just be .. I did have an interesting thought today about what has been going on and here it is that I did the rejecting of my STBAX .. hey I told him I didn't want him just stopping by and he still beat me to the punch of making th...	SerenityRUS	13	519	Apr 27, 2014 by grateful2be
	Job interview (Preview) I have a job interview on Monday in the morning in a city 5 hrs away. I leave tomorrow. I found an economical hotel close to the interview. I am nervous I purchased a new outfit and got car ready. I have been meditating and praying to HP. I have made wonderful friends in Alanon and at my work. I would miss them...	texasgal	11	461	Apr 27, 2014 by grateful2be
	Mediation Session Moved Again - A Good Thing? (Preview) So my mediation session was moved again, which is okay because it gives me more time to prepare. My ex-A has not contacted my son or myself since that last incident. However, that day he was trying to get me talk about mediation before mediation. He did state "that he wants me to acknowledge that h...	Truth	8	424	Apr 27, 2014 by PP
	step 5 rethink (Preview) I recently met with my sponsor and told her some of my shortcomings, not all but easy does it, and so ive been thinking what do I do now, do I just move on to the next step? I have felt that this step needs more time and attention than that. Ive only done one part, ive admitted to another human being but I need to...	el-cee	3	458	Apr 27, 2014 by PP
	In tears every day this week (Preview) I am not a crier. Never really have been. My dad used to shut down my tears quickly and my husband used to accuse me of using tears to manipulate him. So, I learned to control it. This week I have found that I am constantly fighting back tears. My AH saw me with little glistening tears in my eyes last nig...	ilovedogs	13	700	Apr 27, 2014 by pinkchip
	Coming back/Loneliness/Resenment (Preview) I haven't been to any F2F meetings for a few months. I used to go to a regular one once a week however I stopped going because I didn't feel like I was working my program in all areas of my life. I felt like when it was my time to share I would end up sounding like I was contradicting myself. My warped judgement o...	sportychick	5	625	Apr 27, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Free Hugs Here! ;) (Preview) So I was just lurking around this morning and I've read so many beautiful, heartbreaking and inspiring shares. And I have to get out of here and go to work, and I don't want to. I feel bad that I don't have the ability to translate what my soul wants to say and fire off some eloquent replies. You are all my bro...	Raven Juniper	9	398	Apr 27, 2014 by Jerry F
	testing times (Preview) The isms of this disease live on in my family and sometimes they are very clear to see. There is drama going on in my family right now. I dont know exactly what it is because, I resisted turning into a detective, I did not snoop or pry and I did not manipulate people to get involved and fix. Its interesting b...	el-cee	9	428	Apr 26, 2014 by grateful2be
	observing the A (Preview) Hi all~Have been home sick all week and as my A is semi-retired, have had a window into the A's new life. A has lots of free time. Hd I not joined alanon a year ago I think I would have spent the week angry as well as sick! My A WAS going to 3 meetings a week and working with a sponsor. Now the A goes to 1 meeting...	Lyne	6	583	Apr 26, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	What am I missing? (Preview) I have been struggling so much with extreme anxiety over my situation. I cant put my finger on any one event just life with my AS in general. I completely understand and get the 3 c's. In theory I truly believe in "let go and let God" but in practice I just cannot turn off the anxiety and sadness o...	Sallygcoe	10	676	Apr 25, 2014 by Sallygcoe
	My A Son is doing well (Preview) He is now the proud father and I am a proud grama of a beautiful baby boy born today! And I do take some credit, I put lots of Alanon studying and memorizing and practicing and came to this board for support, in order to have the strength to say NO even if it killed me inside. I stuck to it and gave him boundarie...	oldergal	8	518	Apr 25, 2014 by el-cee
	Anxiety .. (Preview) I honestly didn't know how much anxiety I have been carrying for a long time because I didn't know what it was in terms of a "feeling". I figured that out last August when the kids and I started seeing our respected therapists. The EMDR therapy I did was huge especially in conjunction with A...	SerenityRUS	9	512	Apr 25, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Depressed (Preview) I'm not sure why I came on the boards today (except to see Mark's good news, LOL), because I'm in a such a bad place today. I just got back last night after spending a week at my mom's across the country. It was hard to be in the car with AH and I realized that if I didn't speak and talk about the trip, he wasn't...	ilovedogs	14	763	Apr 25, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Just need to share tonight (Preview) So I haven't posted on here for about a year. I wasn't very active before, but some things have come up recently. My brother is an addict. He has used any and every drug to the maximum he could tolerate for 10 years. Most recent was meth and he would shoot it as well as heroin occasionally. His drug of c...	Sam813	4	333	Apr 25, 2014 by sad_dog_mommy
	letting go...not al anon but very important to me! (Preview) I have been involved in an organization for over 19 years & have decided to quit. It involves weight loss & is not a 12-step program. I just need to air out some of my concerns & issues in making this major decision. At this point I almost feel black-balled in a sense. Things are changing w/ th...	Hoot Nanny	3	401	Apr 25, 2014 by PP
	sent from a recovery pal...tee hee (Preview) I hope this does not offend anyone, no harm intended...I need to laugh at myself when I get all significant.	PP	10	415	Apr 25, 2014 by milkwood
	Day 5 ...... A little tougher but going strong (Preview) So Day 5 has been equal amounts of emotions, however of the "grouchy" kind. I was very tired today but for some reason having a hard time resting.	Truth	4	527	Apr 24, 2014 by Jerry F
	Thoughts (Preview) "Too many of us are not living our dreams, because we are living our Fears."	Beatrice	8	997	Apr 24, 2014 by oldergal
	Oh. (Preview) My grandma has always been there with me. She raised me and she has been there looking after me every step of the way.Always. So I sent her a text tonight, I have never asked her before. Did U ever go to alanon?I really thought she might have. NO why would I I am NOT an ALCOHOLIC WHAT are they telling you I cant...	Melly1248	16	558	Apr 24, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Full circle - update (Preview) I posted this on the AA board, but wanted to share it here too cuz you guys are my peeps too :) - The job I had when I first got sober was on a juvenile detention unit. I did not get along with the clinical director for numerous reasons. Many of those were due to my character defects and poor boundaries due to...	pinkchip	18	504	Apr 24, 2014 by Breakingfree
	A story (Preview) Once upon a time, a man and woman went upstairs to bed. Their children had been asleep for some time. A horrible thunderstorm was raging outside, but they felt comfortable and warm in their room. Suddenly, the front doorbell rang. The wife said to the husband - "Well, aren't you going to get...	grateful2be	13	808	Apr 24, 2014 by grateful2be
	How a day can change things (Preview) I am anxious. I am having some anxiety over my X. He calls me about my son's car and what he has to do to get it back. Has to be released by the DPS. Has to have insurance. Has to pay all the fines on it and has to have Power of Attorney to get it. He's asking me if I did this before. YEAH Bill.....twice. ...	Cathyinaz	8	572	Apr 24, 2014 by neshema2
	Husband who is verbally abusive (Preview) I am new to this site. I went into the chat room a few nights ago and was so happy to talk with everyone but I still feel lost. I have been married to my husband for 5 years on May 16th. He is a alcoholic and had been addicted to drugs (he no longer does drugs). He actually traded one drug for another. Through the...	Kalona44	8	805	Apr 24, 2014 by abbyal
	AH control slipping... (Preview) My brain told me it would and he would start drinking again, but then it lasted longer than it ever has (though was never completely sober for more than 12 days at a time) so started thinking maybe everyone was wrong he could do it. Last night he came in from playing outside with son and he was smiling, talk...	Kerrymom	10	643	Apr 24, 2014 by abbyal
	Do all alcoholics? (Preview) Do all alcoholics talk to themselves? Mumble talk quite say I saying mean things? I try to ignore it not take it personal if I s a y anything it's gonna be a fight. He will roll his eyes blame me say I'm picking "oh here we go" because I snap as him to be quiet I truly believe he can't stop talking. I...	mamachief	6	1092	Apr 24, 2014 by Awaken
	low self-esteem (Preview) I've been working on my steps and I finished step 4 I'm meeting with ssponsor Saturday to do step 5. It was very emotionally exhausting. But the underlying theme is low self-esteem. I was abused physically and emotionally. I was cheated on 4 times. And I stayed all in the name of love. But maybe it was my l...	texasgal	11	694	Apr 24, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Right now it is a blessing not knowing (Preview) We have had no contact with our son for two weeks now. I think about him hourly, I pray for him all the time. But I am ashamed to admit that, with him being in another country thousands of miles from us, there is some relief in just not knowing and not seeing what he is doing. When he is here, I can see what is ha...	deacon	4	486	Apr 24, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Not sure if I should go back to him (Preview) So Im going to try to make this as short as possible. My husband is an alcoholic and has been drinking our whole marriage for 3 years with periods of sobriety the longest one being 2 years ago after he got a duo and was on probation but since we moved in October 2013 he has been drinking off and on trying to hid...	Kah27	22	795	Apr 23, 2014 by Kah27
	Hope (Preview) Hello everyone its been too long since I've been here. Life gets in the way of everything. All of you are on my mind often and mean to stop by to share some thoughts but like I said life gets in the way. this past week we experienced a great holydayEaster. Some of us don't celebrate it or don't have that beli...	sirchef	2	512	Apr 23, 2014 by DavidG
	HELP needed...I don't know what to do. (Preview) A couple years back my husbands reaction to alcohol came to the forefront. Alcohol turned him into a dark person...maybe that's an exaggeration but it did. The loving person I'm married to, would go away after 1-11/2 drinks each night. alcohol tuned him into an agitated, irritated, quick to anger, m...	Isthisreal	9	708	Apr 23, 2014 by Beatrice
	Busy as a bee... (Preview) I have been so busy spring cleaning my home, I feel a busy as bee lately! I have not had the chance to get on here to post and took few minutes of my day to share some of the changes that has happened in the last three weeks. I lost my jobs three weeks ago, which I feel it was meant to be from my HP to take care of me a...	NavySealWife	3	472	Apr 23, 2014 by PP
	Boundaries .. (again) (Preview) My STBAX has been running amuck over my boundaries and thankfully I've been able to continually take small steps back .. I feel as if I have opened the door to take a small peak outside and he's thrust his leg through the door and will not let me shut it. I feel unsafe. I don't like to feel that I have no co...	SerenityRUS	10	652	Apr 23, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	only I can make things crazier (Preview) I know that when things are crazy I know it pretty much has to be me. The way I handle situations is up to me. I have issues w/ my mom from as far back as I can remember. The only thing is my parents were together long enough that we had a fairly good life. I do remember times when it seemed like she(my mom) was a go...	Hoot Nanny	3	610	Apr 23, 2014 by milkwood
	Day 2 - No Cigarettes (Preview) Oh I feel wonderful. Day 2 hip hip hooray.	Truth	8	695	Apr 22, 2014 by Truth
	Inventory and amends are (Preview) done. The inventory is very revealing. I think I know and know that I know and then the inventory reveals much more (often much much more). The inventory revealed all of the motivations for my rant...where I came from in the disease; yeppers, The freaking bank that brought down our financial hom...	Jerry F	9	560	Apr 22, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Candy Bars and nonsense .. (Preview) Ok .. if you like Almond Joy, Mounds, or Whatchamacallits, you have been warned to stop reading right now. It will get ugly and you probably won't ever look at a candy bar the same way. My STBAX has an open FB page that I honestly don't think he knows is open and I choose NOT to look for two reasons .. I...	SerenityRUS	11	660	Apr 22, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	spouse of acoa (Preview) I am knew to this. My grandfathers were both Alcoholics but my parents were not. But I have heard alot from them what they went through as kids. But they seem to have worked through it. My husband is an ACOA his father drank alot when he was growing up and is starting to drink again. My husband has never deal...	spouseofacoa	9	824	Apr 22, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	getting through life w/o having a fit! (Preview) My prayers are being answered. I am not so sad as I was last Saturday. I am taking my time & enjoying another lovely Spring day! It rains often here so I need to enjoy the weather while I can. I have to admit that I wanted to have another fit recently. I didn't but my husband did. He totally spilled some ch...	Hoot Nanny	3	406	Apr 21, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	So, I will be going back with my dad. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I have decided that in order to save some money for my home purchase I will take my dad upon his offer and live with him while I search. I feel it's best for me and my needs. I don't know what to think. I am nervous, but I have the tools to de...	slogan_jim	5	462	Apr 21, 2014 by Beatrice
	Went to a party... (Preview) A pity party and now I am hung over. It occurred to me to shut the hell up and then there was some news about how my family is "coming along" (that isn't about a success story...not in this disease) and that fueled my oration...motivation. Crap!! that voice in my head which was suggestin...	Jerry F	16	679	Apr 21, 2014 by Beatrice
	Busy but its all good (Preview) So, I had some good news last week about the community outreach project we work on in our spare time. The specifics aren't important but it's all good. I have to devote some more time to it, though. so if you don't see me that much its not because I disappeared again. I'm just busy.	Wolfie55	2	343	Apr 21, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	In Need of Prayers (Preview) My boyfriend was just in a bicycle accident and is now in a coma. Right now I am still in shock. I am looking toward my Higher Power for guidance. Please please pray for him/send positive thoughts etc... Thank you to everyone who has assisted me in the past. My annoyance with his symptoms of alcoho...	Jenn86	10	407	Apr 21, 2014 by PP
	Breathalyzer question (Preview) My AH and I have been separated for the past 3 months. We set up an arrangement that when he is going to be with the kids(10 & 7), he must breathalyze before & after the visit. If he blows positive before the visit, he does not get to be with the kids. If he blows positive on the back end, he looses h...	Tossed Salad	12	2944	Apr 21, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Elborating on a topic .. (Preview) Someone asked me to share a little more ESH in terms of dealing with the keen alcoholic mind. This is strictly my journey and while it should be clear cut .. it's amazing how twisted my own mind can get in dealing with my stbax. I spent a lot of time trying to get him to think like I do. First off, thank you G...	SerenityRUS	8	624	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Prayers and Support (Preview) Well.. this really isn't the holiday any of us would have expected. My bf dad died during the night. The family and his doc had determined that he needed long term care about three weeks ago. There are lots of feelings of guilt now that bf's mom and siblings are experience. I'm trying to be supportiv...	tiredtonite	11	512	Apr 21, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
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