Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Luiza · Luiza

Hi all. Things have been a lot calmer in my household/mind/heart for the last few days, thanks HP, MIP, Al_Anon! However today I kind of wobbled a little bit. It is Friday night and H has the weekend off (and we know what it means). I have been swimming in coursework and research for the last 2 weeks as tomo...

blessed · blessed

One of the greatest challenges for me, mentally, has been the idea that alcoholism is a disease. I am not closed to the idea, but have to understand how it came to be. I have listened to opinion, and also scientific "evidence" and views from the medical community. There is a wide range of view...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Medicare goofed, my meds were not ready due to expired card. NO it wasn't but I had to clean up the mess...its ok now. I keep thinking about my xah. making me nuts. My son has not gone to check on him yet. But in reality, I want to see him. I have checked on him since I was 17. this is the longest I have ever gone. I...

lookingup · lookingup

Assets...compassionate,careing,supportive,generous,loveing,understanding

missmeliss · missmeliss

Wow I had some bad days there. Daughter is away, the bad news just kept coming and coming, every silver lining turned out to be a bigger blacker cloud coming from behind, lol I let it get on top of me big time. I got into bed and I stayed there for days. No-one needs to tell me that isn't healthy or good but i did...

Katy · Katy

He was vile towards me and played head games the whole time, a lone traveller asked us if he could join us for breakfast at our table in the hotel, my husband said yes of course mate, which led to the bloke walking about with us during the day, I thought I was just being polite to talk to this man who had been go...

Lyne · Lyne

What I learned about love from my family of origin is that love hurts, love is abusive, life was scary and unpredictable, and nobody was going to help me. It now makes sense that both my first marriage and my current marriage, is to alcoholics/addicts, emotionally abusive, and unavailable people....

grateful2be · grateful2be

Today was the last day of my working life in the non-profit sector. Starting at 7:15 a.m., I was busy with all the loose ends that needed to be tied up for the business and for the transfers of properties. The board president loaded my car with what was left of my personal items to add to the boxes that wer...

e_t245 · e_t245

I need some advice on how to explain to my boyfriend that his drinking makes me uncomfortable. He's not an alcoholic, but likes to have a beer or two after work or wine with dinner. Which is fine, but because I grew up with an alcoholic father this everyday-drinking (even if it's not excessive) does make...

milkwood · milkwood

I'm in a bit of a dilemma about which hat to wear for Pinkchip's wedding? This might be a bit too Woodstock?? THE LOVING HEART Someone may love you because you are clever Someone may love you because you are wise Someone may love you for beauty or humour The fun in your heart or the light in your eyes But if...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

So I'm happy to say that I've started going to f2f meetings, on Tuesdays and Fridays. I'm also reading CAL which has really helped. I'm still very angry when I talk about my Qualifier to my family members and they are quick to remind me of this.. but I'm having trouble letting go of being so angry.. how do I...

pinkchip · pinkchip

We are checked into our wedding suite. It is beautiful with a deck/balcony overlooking downtown Annapolis. Our priest (episcopal) flew in right after us. Parents visited. All is shaping up well. A few last minute cancelations of people but nothing major. Holy crap guys! I'm actually getting marr...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm really trying to stay present and grateful and hopeful that this new job in the old workplace will be different but inwardly I'm not believing it for a minute. I've been looking for another job elsewhere but after this experience I don't want to end up somewhere more dysfunctional. I want to make...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

Hi Everyone. I began going to Al-Anon meetings about a month ago. I have lived with an active alcoholic for the passed 15 years, and it has gotten bad these passed 3or 4 years. I never considered myself having a problem until I began attending the meetings and reading Al-Anon literature. Wow, what an e...

el-cee · el-cee

The self awareness and revelations just keep coming and I thought I knew it all already. I have not got this completely straight yet in my mind but it just came to me and sometimes writing it out here helps me see it clearly. Step 2 says a power greater than me will restore me to sanity, I got this on one level...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I have been reading some of the threads and I came across this from krama13, Letting go letting god~ detachment with love. It means I love my husband enough to let him have the dignity to make his own choices. Whether or not I agree with them, and I try try my best one day at a time to work my program, and keep t...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I just got out of my first session with a counselor. Glad to finely find one that I connect with. I talked about how I am at a crossroads. I am recently separated (for a 2nd time). I feel like that for us to be functioning HE needs to be functioning. The just stopping drinking does not equal functioning. I mo...

PP · PP

Jerry F · Jerry F

that was confirmed years later in recovery and maybe she was speaking from her awareness and experience regarding alcoholism in her/family and wasn't saying alcoholism. We had a cat "Snowy" who had kittens. Blacky was the poppa and the kittens were either white...or...black. One o...

NewAndImprovedMe · NewAndImprovedMe

Here's my story/share: My wife and I have been married for 12 years and together 16. We have 2 children 5 and 9 months. My wife is almost 2 years sober (in September). Last year was a m*******r of a year. After debating whether or not to have another kid, I convinced my wife to get pregnant and then it al...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

mongowal · mongowal

My STBEXAH bought my daughter concert tickets for her birthday. I happy for my daughter to be able to see her favorite singer, but I have a couple issues. First the concert is out of state, she will have to travel 1200 miles to go to the concert. Secondly, the concert is during my week with her. My S...

MCALANON · MCALANON

so my adult son decided a week ago to detox/cut down. It was unbearable seeing him do this when I visited. But, a week on, he's not drunk as much - claims to have had nothing for 2 days. He's been to 1 AA meeting. Says he'll continue. Yesterday his work said he was to be disciplined for poor performance (they...

texasgal · texasgal

I'm packing my apt and I'm getting ready to make my big move. My job starts Aug 4th. I move in a couple weeks to get settled in before I start. It's all very exciting and sad at the same time. I start to pack and I start to cry. I get mixed emotions. My HP has aligned everything for me from the new job to the apt and...

NL14 · NL14

AH and I had (another) big talk on Monday night. I've been building up to this for a while, but was waiting until our kids were out of the house for camp. Actually, I was planning to tell him I wanted a divorce, but I've been dithering around for ages, not able to make that final decision. Then (I posted abou...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm neither sad or happy at the moment or maybe it's a combination of both .. I wish I had a better word for it. Disappointment maybe is a better word. The divorce date and time has passed and now I wait for a new date .. ugh .. I hate the waiting and realized that this is probably the God of my understandings...

blessed · blessed

As a Christain, I struggled with AlAnon's HP as my HP is the God of heaven and earth, Creator. Can I work the program with God as my HP? Will I be allowed to? Does the program contradict the Word of God? Well, I have prayed and searched the Scriptures and there is a little fuzzy in the "ME" aspect,...

PP · PP

I have to make a decision about a part time job I currently have at a woman's consignment clothing store and I am so torn. I enjoy this job, I like the customers, I get to shop while I work, I sing to the music and I get to enjoy the pretty clothes. Many of you may recall, I encountered a young man this past win...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

So I have issues. I see 13 people have read my post about living in a crazy life...nobody replies so my head starts spinning!! I start questioning if I should have posted at all. I am trusting online strangers to help me. But you really aren;t strangers, right? We understand living with alcoholism. I am...

NL14 · NL14

Yesterday, my AH and I went to the beach. Our kids had left for camp earlier in the morning, so it was just the two of us. I've been thinking this time alone would be a good time to address our problems...again...and to tell him I want to end our marriage, and I've been dreading/anticipating the weeks when...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Own property in Ash Fork in Coconino County AZ. Got a letter from the county assessors office asking for information on the Manufactured Home built on the property??? WHAT!!!! Somebody just decided to set up living on our property. What a mess we have on our hands. I hope we can get the coun...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

PINKCHIPWE LOVE YOU

slowlearner · slowlearner

I am working on the first few steps and had a moment of clarity today. I am learning to sit back and quietly feel my emotions and to figure out where they are coming from. Today at work I was feeling so frustrated and overwhelmed and realized it was because I couldn't so no to requests and also try to contr...

blessed · blessed

This evening I had already showered and had on PJs when know there was a knock on the door. My AH rarely answers the door, or the phone or does anything at all around the house, etc. Another knock. I called out, "Can you answer the door? I'm in my pajamas." He did, with a huff (he huggs/sighs a lot...

MCALANON · MCALANON

so my adult son decided a week ago to detox/cut down. It was unbearable seeing him do this when I visited. But, a week on, he's not drunk as much - claims to have had nothing for 2 days. He's been to 1 AA meeting. Says he'll continue. Yesterday his work said he was to be disciplined for poor performance (they...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Today I find I'm back in my head again wondering if I made right choices . Feeling like I failed in so many ways . I hate this side of me that allows the negative thinking take over anything positive thought I have going on . I'm going back to step one again . I think it's the hardest step to pass . Why can't I acc...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I'm ready to call the attorney and give her the green light on filing my divorce papers. Before I tell my story of the weekend, let me say that there were a few times in this year of my husband's sobriety where I thought things seemed odd and wondered if he was drinking but he would get in his car with the cou...

Lyne · Lyne

Denial is a truly amazing defense mechanism. I think I was in it for many yrs re: the seriousness of my A's problems. And the A is in it so deeply~everything is OK, there are no problems, and what am I still concerned with? And before I got stronger, the A could manipulate me and confuse me. Once when I k...

andromeda · andromeda

My AH has been going to AA meetings now for about 3 weeks. I do not know if he is working with a sponsor since we barely communicate with each other and he really doesn't even talk about where he's going or telling us he's going to a meeting, etc. He has not told our son about his recover, either. I came hom...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Just feeling numb from it all. Please give me your thoughts after reading. Desperately need understanding people who get what I am going through. All I am trying to do is get along with my AH. We are still not living together. He still doesn't have a job. I have to realize I am powerless over the fact he has...

Amy3311 · Amy3311

Hello. This is my first time here, and I am not even sure where to start. I have been with my husband for 10 years. When we met, I had just lost my husband to suicide. I felt lonely and abandoned and he made me feel loved. We started dating, and very soon I began drinking very heavily with him (He was/is a...

lookingup · lookingup

I guess I'm a gotten for punishment Im home from vacationing,and my a bf calls me 3 days later and says why didn't you call me and let me know you were home ,I told him it didn't matter,he pleaded with me to let him come to my home and I give in and said come on over well he acted NORMAL for a little while then his s...

CarryOn · CarryOn

I am new here, seeking advice. My brother is in his late 50's, dx'ed with anxiety, depression and PTSD. He has lived with our parents for the last 18 years and has had bouts of alcholism during that time. He is currently living alone and it is challenging for him. He isn't eating well, has started dri...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Everyone I woke up this morning in the pits. On my way to work I usually listen to talk radio but this morning the guest host pissed me off so I turn the channel. I turned it to a oldies station. One of my favor songs back in the day was " Brown Eyed Girl " by Van Morrison. WOW......

lorraine · lorraine

Me and my boyfriend have been together almost two years. We met while we were both in rehab for alcoholism 3 years ago but he went back drinking initally so we didn't begin a relationship until almost a year later when he came back into recovery. Since then things have been good. We had our little spats li...

karma13 · karma13

The last few weeks I feel I have been called to possibly be alateen sponsor? I feel like I need to expand my program a little bit, have some new experiences and it weighs on my mind here and there...my intuition..my hp..Has anyone on the board ever been one? if so what was it like? please share your esh Hugs...

John · John

If you live in the Akron/Canton Ohio area, my girlfriend and I will be camping at KOA Sparta, about 30 minutes from Akron, in the Canton area. We are planning to enjoy festivities and 4th of July fireworks in Downtown Canton on the 4th, and visiting Dr. Bob's house and a few other AA related sites in Akro...

blessed · blessed

This morning I attended a morning version of another group I have attended 3-4 times. I really like this group. I go in thinking I have me all together, and leave knowing I have a lot of work to do. That's a good thing, right? lol! Well, this mornnng was different. When I left I was almost in tears. I was anxi...

MarionF · MarionF

Hello, I am here because after 11 years of being sober my husband is know drinking again. Hes trying to "control" it by fighting his demons so he says. Trying to drink as little as possible so that he can get to where he needs to be ie feeling crappy enough about life with alcohol in it that it m...

deramam · deramam

I am struggling a lot with forgiving my AH for the things he has done. He cheated on me once (that I know of) 2 yrs ago before we got married and he's done a lot of stupid crap that has made me feel like a fool, publicly embarrassed me, hurt me emotionally, physically abused me and has lied millions of times. I...

Rusty Angel · Rusty Angel

Feeling the pain of unacknowledged thank yous. I recently gave some gifts to four of my grandchildren.....not one said thanks. Hurts. As they involved some hard work and sacrifice. Smacks of doing for the alcoholic and receiving nothing but contempt in response. Is there something wr...

el-cee · el-cee

I went to an aa convention the other night and the aa speaker really moved me. He was talking about the hell his life had been, homeless, life support a few times, begging for money, lost every family member, a common story. Nothing unusual really, he then talked about his surrender and his journey in aa...

LivinginthePresent · LivinginthePresent

Hi, I will try and make this as short as possible. I am trying to decide how to move forward regarding a relationship that I was in for three years, but that was ended (by him) three months ago. I have been pretty devastated since then, which brought up a lot of my codependent issues that had been hiding (...

slowlearner · slowlearner

I've been doing alot of soul searching lately and have realized that my AH and I are not really happy people. He has his life-which involves alot of drinking. And I have my life which I have mostly distanced myself from anything to do with his alcoholic behavior. We have two separate lives most of the...

Flower49 · Flower49

Whew, so I have to ask questions and also tell what I did that was completely insane. My AH went to a 1/2 house probably 30 days ago. He called me the day he left at 9 AM and said I have to go in there today by 1pm. I said ok, well let's hope this is a good thing, do you need anything etc. He said no he had what he neede...

salvie · salvie

Hi! My AH was drinking yesterday. I'm feeling sooo bad. I have headache and I'm crying. I realize that I powerless before my illness. AH doesn't understand why I'm crying. He invites me to go somewhere and have fun. I'm ACOA and I realize that I need love and support. But because low self esteem I kee...

Shibbydoo · Shibbydoo

I'm very torn on this topic and am hoping for some alanon advice. My sister is currently in rehab for the 5th or 6th time and today is her birthday. She and I were very close growing up, but have grown more and more apart over the last 8 years of her active use. We get closer during periods of her recovery o...

robind78 · robind78

I have a 29-year-old daughter who is currently living with her boyfriend in her car. They are both opioid addicts. She is currently on suboxone and he is on methadone. She is employed thankfully. her boyfriend is living off of her (no job in a year). I have been doing well detaching and letting her l...

Luiza · Luiza

Hello. It is 12:10pm here and although my husband has been awake for a while he was all the time in bed on his tablet (he did work had the whole week so I am not begrudging him for being in bed on his 1st day off after 6 days at work) however... He never had breakfast or anything to it but just asked my our 7 year ol...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

And not because I don't know it .. I know it .. lol. I am in a HALT mode as well as the extra H, hormonal as well it's that time of the month for sure. I had some weird things happen over the last couple of days .. as if getting so close to my divorce date and then my atty having a stroke isn't bizzaro enough .. My S...

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	Friday night and I had a deadline... (Preview) Hi all. Things have been a lot calmer in my household/mind/heart for the last few days, thanks HP, MIP, Al_Anon! However today I kind of wobbled a little bit. It is Friday night and H has the weekend off (and we know what it means). I have been swimming in coursework and research for the last 2 weeks as tomo...	Luiza	8	397	Jul 5, 2014 by el-cee
	Disease (Preview) One of the greatest challenges for me, mentally, has been the idea that alcoholism is a disease. I am not closed to the idea, but have to understand how it came to be. I have listened to opinion, and also scientific "evidence" and views from the medical community. There is a wide range of view...	blessed	7	414	Jul 5, 2014 by blessed
	uncomfortable times and a snake in a party hat! (Preview) Medicare goofed, my meds were not ready due to expired card. NO it wasn't but I had to clean up the mess...its ok now. I keep thinking about my xah. making me nuts. My son has not gone to check on him yet. But in reality, I want to see him. I have checked on him since I was 17. this is the longest I have ever gone. I...	Debilyn	4	1358	Jul 4, 2014 by tiredtonite
	My assets and gratitude list (Preview) Assets...compassionate,careing,supportive,generous,loveing,understanding	lookingup	4	528	Jul 4, 2014 by hotrod
	Forgot I had tools. (Preview) Wow I had some bad days there. Daughter is away, the bad news just kept coming and coming, every silver lining turned out to be a bigger blacker cloud coming from behind, lol I let it get on top of me big time. I got into bed and I stayed there for days. No-one needs to tell me that isn't healthy or good but i did...	missmeliss	10	414	Jul 4, 2014 by PP
	I have just got back from a five day holiday with my husband! (Preview) He was vile towards me and played head games the whole time, a lone traveller asked us if he could join us for breakfast at our table in the hotel, my husband said yes of course mate, which led to the bloke walking about with us during the day, I thought I was just being polite to talk to this man who had been go...	Katy	14	546	Jul 4, 2014 by Jerry F
	what I learned about love (Preview) What I learned about love from my family of origin is that love hurts, love is abusive, life was scary and unpredictable, and nobody was going to help me. It now makes sense that both my first marriage and my current marriage, is to alcoholics/addicts, emotionally abusive, and unavailable people....	Lyne	3	298	Jul 4, 2014 by Debilyn
	It's done ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Today was the last day of my working life in the non-profit sector. Starting at 7:15 a.m., I was busy with all the loose ends that needed to be tied up for the business and for the transfers of properties. The board president loaded my car with what was left of my personal items to add to the boxes that wer...	grateful2be	46	798	Jul 4, 2014 by grateful2be
	need some advice (Preview) I need some advice on how to explain to my boyfriend that his drinking makes me uncomfortable. He's not an alcoholic, but likes to have a beer or two after work or wine with dinner. Which is fine, but because I grew up with an alcoholic father this everyday-drinking (even if it's not excessive) does make...	e_t245	10	498	Jul 4, 2014 by missmeliss
	If the hat fits….. ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I'm in a bit of a dilemma about which hat to wear for Pinkchip's wedding? This might be a bit too Woodstock?? THE LOVING HEART Someone may love you because you are clever Someone may love you because you are wise Someone may love you for beauty or humour The fun in your heart or the light in your eyes But if...	milkwood	48	870	Jul 4, 2014 by el-cee
	Tiny baby steps.. (Preview) So I'm happy to say that I've started going to f2f meetings, on Tuesdays and Fridays. I'm also reading CAL which has really helped. I'm still very angry when I talk about my Qualifier to my family members and they are quick to remind me of this.. but I'm having trouble letting go of being so angry.. how do I...	phoenixmagicgirl	3	214	Jul 4, 2014 by el-cee
	All checked in (Preview) We are checked into our wedding suite. It is beautiful with a deck/balcony overlooking downtown Annapolis. Our priest (episcopal) flew in right after us. Parents visited. All is shaping up well. A few last minute cancelations of people but nothing major. Holy crap guys! I'm actually getting marr...	pinkchip	23	447	Jul 4, 2014 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Last Day in the Old Job, Vacation and New Job in the Same Workplace (Preview) I'm really trying to stay present and grateful and hopeful that this new job in the old workplace will be different but inwardly I'm not believing it for a minute. I've been looking for another job elsewhere but after this experience I don't want to end up somewhere more dysfunctional. I want to make...	tiredtonite	11	386	Jul 3, 2014 by PP
	Let go and Let God (Preview) Hi Everyone. I began going to Al-Anon meetings about a month ago. I have lived with an active alcoholic for the passed 15 years, and it has gotten bad these passed 3or 4 years. I never considered myself having a problem until I began attending the meetings and reading Al-Anon literature. Wow, what an e...	cloudyskies	8	560	Jul 3, 2014 by PP
	Arrogant Alanoner (Preview) The self awareness and revelations just keep coming and I thought I knew it all already. I have not got this completely straight yet in my mind but it just came to me and sometimes writing it out here helps me see it clearly. Step 2 says a power greater than me will restore me to sanity, I got this on one level...	el-cee	17	1057	Jul 3, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Thanks karma13 (Preview) I have been reading some of the threads and I came across this from krama13, Letting go letting god~ detachment with love. It means I love my husband enough to let him have the dignity to make his own choices. Whether or not I agree with them, and I try try my best one day at a time to work my program, and keep t...	cloudyskies	2	192	Jul 3, 2014 by glad
	What have you done for me lately? (Preview) I just got out of my first session with a counselor. Glad to finely find one that I connect with. I talked about how I am at a crossroads. I am recently separated (for a 2nd time). I feel like that for us to be functioning HE needs to be functioning. The just stopping drinking does not equal functioning. I mo...	sadsusie	14	525	Jul 3, 2014 by sunshine23
	I really like this one..... (Preview)	PP	11	329	Jul 3, 2014 by PP
	A thing my Momma told me (Preview) that was confirmed years later in recovery and maybe she was speaking from her awareness and experience regarding alcoholism in her/family and wasn't saying alcoholism. We had a cat "Snowy" who had kittens. Blacky was the poppa and the kittens were either white...or...black. One o...	Jerry F	12	509	Jul 2, 2014 by Jerry F
	So, that's it, my Qualifier wife and I are separating (Preview) Here's my story/share: My wife and I have been married for 12 years and together 16. We have 2 children 5 and 9 months. My wife is almost 2 years sober (in September). Last year was a m*******r of a year. After debating whether or not to have another kid, I convinced my wife to get pregnant and then it al...	NewAndImprovedMe	2	508	Jul 2, 2014 by grateful2be
	God Grant Me (Preview)	Cathyinaz	3	215	Jul 2, 2014 by PP
	Can AH do this? (Preview) My STBEXAH bought my daughter concert tickets for her birthday. I happy for my daughter to be able to see her favorite singer, but I have a couple issues. First the concert is out of state, she will have to travel 1200 miles to go to the concert. Secondly, the concert is during my week with her. My S...	mongowal	6	408	Jul 2, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Any point even hoping for better? (Preview) so my adult son decided a week ago to detox/cut down. It was unbearable seeing him do this when I visited. But, a week on, he's not drunk as much - claims to have had nothing for 2 days. He's been to 1 AA meeting. Says he'll continue. Yesterday his work said he was to be disciplined for poor performance (they...	MCALANON	8	480	Jul 2, 2014 by blessed
	mixed feelings (Preview) I'm packing my apt and I'm getting ready to make my big move. My job starts Aug 4th. I move in a couple weeks to get settled in before I start. It's all very exciting and sad at the same time. I start to pack and I start to cry. I get mixed emotions. My HP has aligned everything for me from the new job to the apt and...	texasgal	8	520	Jul 2, 2014 by abell
	Yeah, I'm in a stuck place! (Preview) AH and I had (another) big talk on Monday night. I've been building up to this for a while, but was waiting until our kids were out of the house for camp. Actually, I was planning to tell him I wanted a divorce, but I've been dithering around for ages, not able to make that final decision. Then (I posted abou...	NL14	7	411	Jul 2, 2014 by Kelly123
	Mixed Emotions .. (Preview) I'm neither sad or happy at the moment or maybe it's a combination of both .. I wish I had a better word for it. Disappointment maybe is a better word. The divorce date and time has passed and now I wait for a new date .. ugh .. I hate the waiting and realized that this is probably the God of my understandings...	SerenityRUS	11	386	Jul 2, 2014 by grateful2be
	Conflict? (Preview) As a Christain, I struggled with AlAnon's HP as my HP is the God of heaven and earth, Creator. Can I work the program with God as my HP? Will I be allowed to? Does the program contradict the Word of God? Well, I have prayed and searched the Scriptures and there is a little fuzzy in the "ME" aspect,...	blessed	7	393	Jul 2, 2014 by grateful2be
	Crossroads (Preview) I have to make a decision about a part time job I currently have at a woman's consignment clothing store and I am so torn. I enjoy this job, I like the customers, I get to shop while I work, I sing to the music and I get to enjoy the pretty clothes. Many of you may recall, I encountered a young man this past win...	PP	27	701	Jul 2, 2014 by PP
	I am paranoid (Preview) So I have issues. I see 13 people have read my post about living in a crazy life...nobody replies so my head starts spinning!! I start questioning if I should have posted at all. I am trusting online strangers to help me. But you really aren;t strangers, right? We understand living with alcoholism. I am...	Newlife girl	15	522	Jul 2, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Why can't I let go? (Preview) Yesterday, my AH and I went to the beach. Our kids had left for camp earlier in the morning, so it was just the two of us. I've been thinking this time alone would be a good time to address our problems...again...and to tell him I want to end our marriage, and I've been dreading/anticipating the weeks when...	NL14	15	604	Jul 2, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Shocked (Preview) Own property in Ash Fork in Coconino County AZ. Got a letter from the county assessors office asking for information on the Manufactured Home built on the property??? WHAT!!!! Somebody just decided to set up living on our property. What a mess we have on our hands. I hope we can get the coun...	Cathyinaz	16	576	Jul 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	HAPPY BIRTHDAY (Preview) PINKCHIPWE LOVE YOU	Cathyinaz	7	211	Jul 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Ah Ha Moment - with my enabling (Preview) I am working on the first few steps and had a moment of clarity today. I am learning to sit back and quietly feel my emotions and to figure out where they are coming from. Today at work I was feeling so frustrated and overwhelmed and realized it was because I couldn't so no to requests and also try to contr...	slowlearner	7	471	Jul 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	That was easy (Preview) This evening I had already showered and had on PJs when know there was a knock on the door. My AH rarely answers the door, or the phone or does anything at all around the house, etc. Another knock. I called out, "Can you answer the door? I'm in my pajamas." He did, with a huff (he huggs/sighs a lot...	blessed	6	312	Jul 2, 2014 by grateful2be
	Any point even hoping for better? (Preview) so my adult son decided a week ago to detox/cut down. It was unbearable seeing him do this when I visited. But, a week on, he's not drunk as much - claims to have had nothing for 2 days. He's been to 1 AA meeting. Says he'll continue. Yesterday his work said he was to be disciplined for poor performance (they...	MCALANON	4	241	Jul 2, 2014 by MCALANON
	A lot to think about (Preview) Today I find I'm back in my head again wondering if I made right choices . Feeling like I failed in so many ways . I hate this side of me that allows the negative thinking take over anything positive thought I have going on . I'm going back to step one again . I think it's the hardest step to pass . Why can't I acc...	Wisdom67	8	426	Jul 2, 2014 by NL14
	The Phone Is In My Hand (Preview) I'm ready to call the attorney and give her the green light on filing my divorce papers. Before I tell my story of the weekend, let me say that there were a few times in this year of my husband's sobriety where I thought things seemed odd and wondered if he was drinking but he would get in his car with the cou...	wornoutmrsfixit	16	599	Jul 2, 2014 by Newlife girl
	power of A's denial (Preview) Denial is a truly amazing defense mechanism. I think I was in it for many yrs re: the seriousness of my A's problems. And the A is in it so deeply~everything is OK, there are no problems, and what am I still concerned with? And before I got stronger, the A could manipulate me and confuse me. Once when I k...	Lyne	11	590	Jul 2, 2014 by Kelly123
	Back to the NA beer! (Preview) My AH has been going to AA meetings now for about 3 weeks. I do not know if he is working with a sponsor since we barely communicate with each other and he really doesn't even talk about where he's going or telling us he's going to a meeting, etc. He has not told our son about his recover, either. I came hom...	andromeda	15	539	Jul 2, 2014 by Newlife girl
	A glimpse into crazy (Preview) Just feeling numb from it all. Please give me your thoughts after reading. Desperately need understanding people who get what I am going through. All I am trying to do is get along with my AH. We are still not living together. He still doesn't have a job. I have to realize I am powerless over the fact he has...	Newlife girl	9	404	Jul 1, 2014 by pinkchip
	New here...need advice (Preview) Hello. This is my first time here, and I am not even sure where to start. I have been with my husband for 10 years. When we met, I had just lost my husband to suicide. I felt lonely and abandoned and he made me feel loved. We started dating, and very soon I began drinking very heavily with him (He was/is a...	Amy3311	9	360	Jul 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	I never learn (Preview) I guess I'm a gotten for punishment Im home from vacationing,and my a bf calls me 3 days later and says why didn't you call me and let me know you were home ,I told him it didn't matter,he pleaded with me to let him come to my home and I give in and said come on over well he acted NORMAL for a little while then his s...	lookingup	6	431	Jul 1, 2014 by hotrod
	New and seeking advice (Preview) I am new here, seeking advice. My brother is in his late 50's, dx'ed with anxiety, depression and PTSD. He has lived with our parents for the last 18 years and has had bouts of alcholism during that time. He is currently living alone and it is challenging for him. He isn't eating well, has started dri...	CarryOn	13	530	Jul 1, 2014 by Temple
	Music is good for the soul (Preview) Good Morning Everyone I woke up this morning in the pits. On my way to work I usually listen to talk radio but this morning the guest host pissed me off so I turn the channel. I turned it to a oldies station. One of my favor songs back in the day was " Brown Eyed Girl " by Van Morrison. WOW......	Cathyinaz	16	2256	Jul 1, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Struggling with his recovery (Preview) Me and my boyfriend have been together almost two years. We met while we were both in rehab for alcoholism 3 years ago but he went back drinking initally so we didn't begin a relationship until almost a year later when he came back into recovery. Since then things have been good. We had our little spats li...	lorraine	7	431	Jul 1, 2014 by Luiza
	Alateen sponsors? your experience? (Preview) The last few weeks I feel I have been called to possibly be alateen sponsor? I feel like I need to expand my program a little bit, have some new experiences and it weighs on my mind here and there...my intuition..my hp..Has anyone on the board ever been one? if so what was it like? please share your esh Hugs...	karma13	2	280	Jul 1, 2014 by el-cee
	Will be in Akron/Canton Ohio 3-6th of July (Preview) If you live in the Akron/Canton Ohio area, my girlfriend and I will be camping at KOA Sparta, about 30 minutes from Akron, in the Canton area. We are planning to enjoy festivities and 4th of July fireworks in Downtown Canton on the 4th, and visiting Dr. Bob's house and a few other AA related sites in Akro...	John	6	279	Jul 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	Working the steps, or not. (Preview) This morning I attended a morning version of another group I have attended 3-4 times. I really like this group. I go in thinking I have me all together, and leave knowing I have a lot of work to do. That's a good thing, right? lol! Well, this mornnng was different. When I left I was almost in tears. I was anxi...	blessed	7	402	Jul 1, 2014 by el-cee
	What am I supposed to do?! (Preview) Hello, I am here because after 11 years of being sober my husband is know drinking again. Hes trying to "control" it by fighting his demons so he says. Trying to drink as little as possible so that he can get to where he needs to be ie feeling crappy enough about life with alcohol in it that it m...	MarionF	5	547	Jun 30, 2014 by tiredtonite
	forgiveness (Preview) I am struggling a lot with forgiving my AH for the things he has done. He cheated on me once (that I know of) 2 yrs ago before we got married and he's done a lot of stupid crap that has made me feel like a fool, publicly embarrassed me, hurt me emotionally, physically abused me and has lied millions of times. I...	deramam	13	4140	Jun 30, 2014 by Aloha
	Gratitude (Preview) Feeling the pain of unacknowledged thank yous. I recently gave some gifts to four of my grandchildren.....not one said thanks. Hurts. As they involved some hard work and sacrifice. Smacks of doing for the alcoholic and receiving nothing but contempt in response. Is there something wr...	Rusty Angel	5	289	Jun 30, 2014 by grateful2be
	reaching bottom (Preview) I went to an aa convention the other night and the aa speaker really moved me. He was talking about the hell his life had been, homeless, life support a few times, begging for money, lost every family member, a common story. Nothing unusual really, he then talked about his surrender and his journey in aa...	el-cee	9	445	Jun 30, 2014 by grateful2be
	Would love input/perspectives (Preview) Hi, I will try and make this as short as possible. I am trying to decide how to move forward regarding a relationship that I was in for three years, but that was ended (by him) three months ago. I have been pretty devastated since then, which brought up a lot of my codependent issues that had been hiding (...	LivinginthePresent	9	456	Jun 30, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Is it time for me to move on...? (Preview) I've been doing alot of soul searching lately and have realized that my AH and I are not really happy people. He has his life-which involves alot of drinking. And I have my life which I have mostly distanced myself from anything to do with his alcoholic behavior. We have two separate lives most of the...	slowlearner	5	450	Jun 30, 2014 by el-cee
	AH Marriage and the 1/2 way house rules. (Preview) Whew, so I have to ask questions and also tell what I did that was completely insane. My AH went to a 1/2 house probably 30 days ago. He called me the day he left at 9 AM and said I have to go in there today by 1pm. I said ok, well let's hope this is a good thing, do you need anything etc. He said no he had what he neede...	Flower49	11	691	Jun 30, 2014 by pinkchip
	what can I do for me on the next day after my AH was drinking (Preview) Hi! My AH was drinking yesterday. I'm feeling sooo bad. I have headache and I'm crying. I realize that I powerless before my illness. AH doesn't understand why I'm crying. He invites me to go somewhere and have fun. I'm ACOA and I realize that I need love and support. But because low self esteem I kee...	salvie	13	428	Jun 30, 2014 by Jerry F
	Looking for Advice Siblings Advice Alanon Dilemma (Preview) I'm very torn on this topic and am hoping for some alanon advice. My sister is currently in rehab for the 5th or 6th time and today is her birthday. She and I were very close growing up, but have grown more and more apart over the last 8 years of her active use. We get closer during periods of her recovery o...	Shibbydoo	6	6046	Jun 30, 2014 by Jerry F
	I am scared (Preview) I have a 29-year-old daughter who is currently living with her boyfriend in her car. They are both opioid addicts. She is currently on suboxone and he is on methadone. She is employed thankfully. her boyfriend is living off of her (no job in a year). I have been doing well detaching and letting her l...	robind78	5	346	Jun 29, 2014 by Jerry F
	Should I tell my husband TO NOT ask my daughter to get beer for him from the fridge? (Preview) Hello. It is 12:10pm here and although my husband has been awake for a while he was all the time in bed on his tablet (he did work had the whole week so I am not begrudging him for being in bed on his 1st day off after 6 days at work) however... He never had breakfast or anything to it but just asked my our 7 year ol...	Luiza	24	598	Jun 29, 2014 by Jerry F
	Irritable (Preview) And not because I don't know it .. I know it .. lol. I am in a HALT mode as well as the extra H, hormonal as well it's that time of the month for sure. I had some weird things happen over the last couple of days .. as if getting so close to my divorce date and then my atty having a stroke isn't bizzaro enough .. My S...	SerenityRUS	6	336	Jun 29, 2014 by tiredtonite
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