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SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

You know how someone is so unpredictable they are predictable? Well, I always can tell when my Ex is being coached .. and boy is he being coached .. unfortunately for him .. again .. he tells exactly the amount of truth to cause him more issues. He tried to put me in a position of stating something in text...

serenity47 · serenity47

Having a lot of difficulty coping with daughters alcohol abuse. I know I am not responsible raised her right in fact I feel rather resentful that I am having to even deal with this as put a huge amount of time and effort into parenting and now I feel cheated. I guess I had convinced myself that if I did all...

lightblue2 · lightblue2

I have been living apart from my ah for 4 yrs and about two weeks ago he seemed to decide that he wanted to come back. The week before this he had a really embarrassing incident as a result of his drinking on the football grandfinal day. I have been trying to understand why after 4 yrs of him living his life...

Overcome · Overcome

Sunday Morning Meeting scheduled in the Al-Anon chat room. Topic: Chapter 3 of the Al-Anon book, "Having had a Spiritual Awakening". Or "Open Topic" related to Al-Anon. Today's reading: "Seeing Events in a New Light" I grew up in a family affected by alcoholism...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have not been able to recover from a meeting I went to on Weds. I know that it was several days ago but I haven't been able to post on here how I feel. It is very hard to post on my smart phone even though I like it. So, a few times a week on get on this library computer. Anyhow, I had put too much pressure on myself...

Mattie · Mattie

I have been separated from my A for more than a decade, but we have stayed technically married so he can be on my health insurance. He has various health conditions that made it impossible to get insurance here in the US (think stuff like diabetes which would count as a pre-existing condition). The de...

Luiza · Luiza

So, yesterday, Thursday is the busiest day for my daughter. She has school, then drama school then Brownies (a girl-guiding thing). I don't drive so we keep hoping on and off public transport and walking loads. Her A dad wasn't working yesterday so he said he would take her for all the after school stuf...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I know that detachment is very important in Al-Anon. I physically detach by leaving the house when my AH drinks, go out with friends, go shopping or just stay in the house in another room reading, watching television, talking on the phone or cleaning and doing laundry. This is easy. However, where...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have a smart phone & accidentally clicked on the site but I want to get back to mobile. It is so much easier to read on my phone. It was pretty simple to get on when I first did. I had a hard time trying to get back to where I can see the posts in a much easier to read format. I am on our library computer right n...

deacon · deacon

Or so it seems. Older sister has two children, son is 47, daughter is 44. My sister and her husband worked responsible jobs all their lives until retirement. They are now in their seventies and 'would' and 'should' have had a comfortable life. The daughter is married and living abroad with her husb...

missmeliss · missmeliss

He has done nothing. NOTHING for the last 2 weeks, he hasn't lifted a finger. The he got drunk and kept me awake for the last 2 days. I am so tired I am almost dead. Now my parents are due to arrive any minute and he's dancing around with a broom, come on Mel, what are you doing, your parents will be here soon! H...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Excuse me babbling a lot. Alone in the house, big final move tomorrow, SO much change. Its huge, and no-one to talk to except for the animals, and you good people. In the morning my parents come to take the last few things back to store in their garage...my washer and our mattresses and cookware etc, and t...

neshema2 · neshema2

A few years ago, i wold have bailed on this job and not looked back.... Today i had to go in and teach wife how to do some stuff w/her payables and how to do payroll liability payments correctly.....She is good learner and absorbed my teaching and we got a LOT of stuff done...I had her chasing down vendor in...

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

Today I realized how important it is for me to detach. Tonight after getting home from a long dat at the hospital with my 82 yr. old mother, I came home to find that my 30 yr. old A son had helped himself to the vodka in our pantry. He does not live with us but knows where the key is. Be fore al-anon I would have p...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

My best friend is having a mammogram tomorrow due to possible breast cancer. She is going through a lot with her teenage son too...she is really stressed out. I watched her daughter tonight while she worked. She has been there for me for many years and encouraged me to leave AH. I am praying her mammogra...

Aloha · Aloha

https://celebrity.yahoo.com/blogs/celeb-news/alcoholism-contributed-to-elizabeth-pe%C3%B1a-s-d...

mjferg · mjferg

I am new here,Just starting my journey.Life became unbearable so i decided to go to therapy and my therapist suggested alanon.I have gone to three meetings and it is good to know I am not alone.I have decided not to take my ex back this time as it is always the same ,there are promises to get help but always...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Tomorrow is my last day at work. My boss is coming in from another office to take me out to lunch. She told me to invite whoever I wanted to come along. I gathered quite a few people - mostly people in the same sort of position as myself. My old boss adjusted her appointments to come and one of my old teammate...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

Last night AH came home under the influence. I asked him where he went after work and he said no where. I said I smell alcohol on you and I know by your behavior after all these years that you were drinking. He responded with No, No, No. Finally he told me where he went and what he drank. I told him I was cal...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

Last night was my first Al-anon meeting :) It was scary at first. when I pulled into the parking lot, I sat in the car for a couple of minutes with butterflies in my stomach. I almost passed when it came to my turn to introduce myself. It felt good to get it out to peers that are living the same thing I am and t...

Lake · Lake

Hello friends, Nice to find this site. Over 30 years ago when I was 14 my mother married a man with 5 and 8 year old girls. They have lived happily ever after....except for relationships with his children, one of whom started drinking at 12 and is stage 4 alcoholic close to death multiple times. She has 8 y...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

After attending a F2F meeting this week that I hadn't been to in a while and realizing how far I have come in my 5+ years of Al-Anon, I looked back on some of my previous posts on this board. This one is from April 2012. Wow, I'm so grateful to have this program. I hope this post will be helpful to some of you who...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

I was taught many years ago that control was a response to feeling powerless. Enter steps one to seven. Its pretty hard sometimes to work steps 3 and 6 when you are a raging control freak. I am resisting the urge to hurt myself by playing spy. Gee this is hard! Old habits become entrenched relatively quic...

Debb · Debb

Want to thank you all at MIP, Al-Anon and the 12 step program and relate some really good progress due to all the help provided to me through your generosity!! Have recently stood up for myself when I told AH that his verbal abuse was unacceptable and that going forward an apology would be necessary if h...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I feel like an absolute failure this morning. I feel like I flushed everything I have learn in Al-Anon down the toilet last night. My ah drank yesterday. He came home and went to bed. No arguments, no anything. Nothing unusual. I knew I needed to get away from the house for a while, so my mom and I went sho...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I am making progress with detaching from my AH. After seeing that nasty website stuff, it has actually helped me detach even more. I am able to ignore stuff he says or texts to me. I don't find myself getting upset as much as I used to. I have to live in the here and now. he and I both mad a mistake by getting mar...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

A friend of mine's daughter and granddaughter were killed in a car accident this morning. Second granddaughter is in the hospital in critical condition. They were hit by a traitor trailer truck. I cannot even begin to imagine or understand the pain my friend is in. My heart aches for her. My problems...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

aargh the damn eggshells and cobwebs of this existence. Since beginning alanon (again!) this stupid ridiculous dis-ease hovers like a gathering cloud. I explained to the ah that doing nuts does not become me,and mrs doesn't stand for Mother Replacement System. I didn't want to explain anything bu...

neshema2 · neshema2

I have this ANGER , over having to stay till i find another job, putting up w/abuse....I am soo angry that i have to "take it" till i can leave......I just can't leave $200 minimum a month , can't do it no matter how i try to work budget, so here i am , knowing I must, i am willing to give up to send awa...

hotrod · hotrod

STEP 6 HAS BEEN POSTED TO THE STEP BOARD--PLEASE JOIN AND SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t58...

neshema2 · neshema2

I sure know how to pick them.... I have my Friday boss who think you are NOT a parent if you adopt (i inherited this article when his dad whom i love decided to hand the reins over to the sons) but at least the guy isn't a psycho my Wednesday client is a LOVE...but totally irresponsible and his off. mgr. a...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I put an add on the supermarket noticeboard a while ago, mum kid and pets seeking a place etc because, you never know. I never did hear a word from anyone until this morning, a man called me to say he has a place and would I like to come and see it. Well I'm not going to get all excited, because, you know. But I'l...

el-cee · el-cee

Step 3 is a hard one. Easy to say, give your will over to the care of god as you understand him. My will is annoying me, its everywhere, im seeing my will in action more and more. In conversations, when I think im being funny and jokey, my will, im wanting attention or self gratification. In most conversat...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So you start a job on 10/20 when do you think his 90 days are up for probation? I know a weird question if you only knew the answer he gave me and told me to learn to do my math .. OMGOSH .. what a MORON!! It's hurting my son because this is all about the fact he can't play basketball now and I'm just furious .. I'm...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Things are going really well in so many areas, but with my busy life, school, work, kids and now a boyfriend I try to see once a week, my lack of time I am noticing things happening with my 16 year old, lack of communication and with my 6 year old behaviorally acting out at school and boys and girls club...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I appreciate those who helped me thru this dilemma. It came down too I am way too stressed from the tenants. I have done all I can do. It may be they have to leave. Then my renting my pasture is not settled. And now my 4 H people cannot find calfs to raise yet. so she may not rent. I talked to my son who told me to t...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I am admitting something that is causing me a lot of pain. Whenever I feel sad and lonely I go to a website my AH posts on...to wake me up to the reality of how sick he really is. I just finished looking at some very disturbing images he posted. It's a site where anything goes...and people are really sick. Th...

el-cee · el-cee

I feel as if my home meetings are getting a bit stale. We have different speakers sharing on different topics, we have occasional workshops, we use different booklets but I would like to try something different. Any ideas?

Spur · Spur

Thank God I found Al Anon And MIP. In thetime since my Al Anon enlightenment I have learned so very much about dealing with A but most importantly, I've learned that I too have issues that need to be dealt with. Today my challenge is dealing with the codependent funk. As I examine my life over the past tw...

Spur · Spur

Question: Are the ideals of the Al Anon program in book form for the general population, but not specifically for recovery? I wish the program was available in a general life skills format so more people would use it, think about their relationships with themselves, family, friends, teachers, em...

Luiza · Luiza

Today someone from the Youth Mental Health Service called me. I didn't have my phone with me. I always have my phone with me and it always charged. Today I didn't for 1.5 hours only and missed this important call. So a person left me a voice mail asking to call back because we need to discuss my daughter's a...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Ok I don't do well with too much going on.That is how I am It's why I live out here in the country and only go to town maybe 3-4 times a month. I am making a place for tenants to put there fifth wheel and live. excavaction. then rock. So I pay for the renting tractor and the neighbor who is doing it. Then I pay for t...

onewildworld · onewildworld

hello to all, i have been dating a woman who is coming up on her three year celebration. in trying to understand better what she is going through and how my interactions with her might be good or bad i have been attending aa and alanon meetings, reading books and researching the internet. of course i have...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

it feels like everything is caving in on me. I feel really sad and needy. Yesterday I had the urge to just go see AH and get a big hug...I just feel lonely and needy. I wish I could feel stronger. I guess I need to just sit and stew about it. I know I am playing a broken record, and you are all probably sick and tir...

Tracy · Tracy

I know my partner loves me. We have had some sobriety and got engaged. He slipped 3 months ago and the disease has progressed quickly. He has lost his job, me , friends and is mixing with some really unhealthy people. He does not contact me or any of his friends in recovery, In my head I know it is the dis...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Seems like I have on average one day a week where everything is suddenly terrible and too sad for words, it comes out of nowhere and I cry and moan and then its done and i'm better. I need to find some way to release this stuff that is less harmful to me, I'm open to suggestions. Its happening too often to be a o...

neshema2 · neshema2

First i want to thank all of you for the comforting hug and offerings of wisdom with this death of my BFF's sister who was also very special to me.......posting here and getting out of myself to share on another, offering my best within me to others, helped me stay level on my own growing anxiety, not hear...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

many times in this life,my hp has pulled strings. They weren't always what I thought I wanted,but they were wonderful nonetheless. As a child,we moved alot.I craved my own home.as an adult,I've never had to worry about a roof over my head. One night,when my life was a living hell,I allowed myself to im...

nybeachgirl · nybeachgirl

Hi Everyone! I just want to say thank you in advance for anyone who takes the time to read my post/reply. I've never done anything like this before so I don't really know where to start. My therapist suggested to me that she thinks al-anon meetings would help me, but I have a very busy schedule and I think a...

Tash2 · Tash2

hi all, I'm conscious that I don't just want to post when struggling or in dispair because I know I still have a long way to go in my recovery. But tonight I find myself at home why AH has gone for a spontaneous "drink after work". He's been better if late, but I can now read the signs about him bec...

jasmine r c · jasmine r c

Don't know how to handle my anger, frustration & disappointment that my husband is using again. He is a recovering alcoholic, with about 6 years sober. I gave a drug & alcohol test this afternoon. Came up negative on drinking test but came up positive on the urine sample for THC. I believe he ha...

lookingup · lookingup

I've relapsed and it don't take much for me to go off into a mad frenzy i e ended up haveing his guts,then somehow there must be a tiny light there somewhere that keeps letting him back into my life I've been around him only 2days and it's been a exploding argument .wheres my alanon tools at.? I don't deserv...

Debilyn · Debilyn

couldn't do this in pm hope it is ok here. Here are brother and sister Maddie and Saber. Ex cons, brokem out a few months ago!

grateful2be · grateful2be

We started saying that thousands of people with the disease of alcoholism are able to live happy, sober lives each year with help? Every time I read that only a small percentage of alcoholics are able to get and stay sober, I find myself wondering if those reading our posts - alcoholics and codependen...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

When I pray which isn't often enough, I feel a sense of peace. It doesn't have to be a fancy prayer. It just has to mean something. Like the serenity prayer or please help me. Or God I can't do this alone. Thank you for being patient w/ me. I really started to pray more when I was ready for the 11th step. "...

Luiza · Luiza

So after the kitchen stuff, pictures and paintings, some furniture and even kitchen salt, STBX now took daughter's passports.. I opened the drawer were I keep important documents and my passports are there and daughter's aren't. I called the non emergency police number and they advised me to go to a...

Lemissa · Lemissa

So this al-anon thing is pretty new to me, however, my mothers drinking is not. She has been drinking heavily for 12 years or so that I can remember, although recently I have been made aware that she was drinking when I was a child. She had cancer a few years ago and been advised to give up caffeine and alcoh...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I have a friend living near my mum, we were best friends in high school and have stayed in touch on facebook, always making plans to see each other, but it's so far so it never happens. So I was thinking to myself today, you know what, that is a big silver lining. When I am there, I can go see my friend, that wil...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I have 6 years sober. Never relapsed since starting to go to AA. Most of my peers in AA with any length of sobriety state relapse is not an option for them either. I can understand that in alanon, it helps to keep expectations of the alcoholic low, BUT if one of my sponsees in AA relapsed and tried to tell me i...

BE0906 · BE0906

My husband has been through rehab twice. We married a year later. He has not continued with therapy or AA, despite his assurances to the contrary. It has been a struggle this past year. He has developed an affinity with pot, honestly just at night due to sleep, which was a precipitating factor for hi...

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	Visitation .. (Preview) You know how someone is so unpredictable they are predictable? Well, I always can tell when my Ex is being coached .. and boy is he being coached .. unfortunately for him .. again .. he tells exactly the amount of truth to cause him more issues. He tried to put me in a position of stating something in text...	SerenityRUS	4	536	Oct 26, 2014 by PP
	alcoholic children (Preview) Having a lot of difficulty coping with daughters alcohol abuse. I know I am not responsible raised her right in fact I feel rather resentful that I am having to even deal with this as put a huge amount of time and effort into parenting and now I feel cheated. I guess I had convinced myself that if I did all...	serenity47	6	556	Oct 26, 2014 by serenity47
	mixed (Preview) I have been living apart from my ah for 4 yrs and about two weeks ago he seemed to decide that he wanted to come back. The week before this he had a really embarrassing incident as a result of his drinking on the football grandfinal day. I have been trying to understand why after 4 yrs of him living his life...	lightblue2	3	343	Oct 26, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	SUNDAY MORNING SPIRITUAL MEETING: 10 A.M. E.S.T. - "Seeing Events in a New Light" (Preview) Sunday Morning Meeting scheduled in the Al-Anon chat room. Topic: Chapter 3 of the Al-Anon book, "Having had a Spiritual Awakening". Or "Open Topic" related to Al-Anon. Today's reading: "Seeing Events in a New Light" I grew up in a family affected by alcoholism...	Overcome	0	346	Oct 26, 2014 by Overcome
	feel like I am going down... (Preview) I have not been able to recover from a meeting I went to on Weds. I know that it was several days ago but I haven't been able to post on here how I feel. It is very hard to post on my smart phone even though I like it. So, a few times a week on get on this library computer. Anyhow, I had put too much pressure on myself...	Hoot Nanny	2	502	Oct 25, 2014 by hotrod
	Thoughts / ESH on my choices? (Preview) I have been separated from my A for more than a decade, but we have stayed technically married so he can be on my health insurance. He has various health conditions that made it impossible to get insurance here in the US (think stuff like diabetes which would count as a pre-existing condition). The de...	Mattie	15	450	Oct 25, 2014 by bud
	Very proud of my daughter. (Preview) So, yesterday, Thursday is the busiest day for my daughter. She has school, then drama school then Brownies (a girl-guiding thing). I don't drive so we keep hoping on and off public transport and walking loads. Her A dad wasn't working yesterday so he said he would take her for all the after school stuf...	Luiza	9	3098	Oct 25, 2014 by PP
	What is emotional detachment in a marriage? (Preview) I know that detachment is very important in Al-Anon. I physically detach by leaving the house when my AH drinks, go out with friends, go shopping or just stay in the house in another room reading, watching television, talking on the phone or cleaning and doing laundry. This is easy. However, where...	wifeofalcoholic	7	1704	Oct 25, 2014 by Lyne
	want to get back to active board mobile. Does anyone know how to do it? (Preview) I have a smart phone & accidentally clicked on the site but I want to get back to mobile. It is so much easier to read on my phone. It was pretty simple to get on when I first did. I had a hard time trying to get back to where I can see the posts in a much easier to read format. I am on our library computer right n...	Hoot Nanny	2	184	Oct 25, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	This disease makes sober people crazy! (Preview) Or so it seems. Older sister has two children, son is 47, daughter is 44. My sister and her husband worked responsible jobs all their lives until retirement. They are now in their seventies and 'would' and 'should' have had a comfortable life. The daughter is married and living abroad with her husb...	deacon	2	519	Oct 25, 2014 by hotrod
	You're kidding. (Preview) He has done nothing. NOTHING for the last 2 weeks, he hasn't lifted a finger. The he got drunk and kept me awake for the last 2 days. I am so tired I am almost dead. Now my parents are due to arrive any minute and he's dancing around with a broom, come on Mel, what are you doing, your parents will be here soon! H...	missmeliss	10	519	Oct 25, 2014 by milkwood
	New Eyes (Preview) Excuse me babbling a lot. Alone in the house, big final move tomorrow, SO much change. Its huge, and no-one to talk to except for the animals, and you good people. In the morning my parents come to take the last few things back to store in their garage...my washer and our mattresses and cookware etc, and t...	missmeliss	13	584	Oct 25, 2014 by hotrod
	The power of communication (Preview) A few years ago, i wold have bailed on this job and not looked back.... Today i had to go in and teach wife how to do some stuff w/her payables and how to do payroll liability payments correctly.....She is good learner and absorbed my teaching and we got a LOT of stuff done...I had her chasing down vendor in...	neshema2	3	471	Oct 25, 2014 by neshema2
	Detachment is a must (Preview) Today I realized how important it is for me to detach. Tonight after getting home from a long dat at the hospital with my 82 yr. old mother, I came home to find that my 30 yr. old A son had helped himself to the vodka in our pantry. He does not live with us but knows where the key is. Be fore al-anon I would have p...	Sallygcoe	4	355	Oct 25, 2014 by pinkchip
	Worried about my friend...prayers needed (Preview) My best friend is having a mammogram tomorrow due to possible breast cancer. She is going through a lot with her teenage son too...she is really stressed out. I watched her daughter tonight while she worked. She has been there for me for many years and encouraged me to leave AH. I am praying her mammogra...	Newlife girl	5	257	Oct 25, 2014 by Green Eyes
	Media reporting alcoholism as the cause of a celebrity death (Preview) https://celebrity.yahoo.com/blogs/celeb-news/alcoholism-contributed-to-elizabeth-pe%C3%B1a-s-d...	Aloha	6	463	Oct 24, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	new to alanon (Preview) I am new here,Just starting my journey.Life became unbearable so i decided to go to therapy and my therapist suggested alanon.I have gone to three meetings and it is good to know I am not alone.I have decided not to take my ex back this time as it is always the same ,there are promises to get help but always...	mjferg	12	675	Oct 24, 2014 by mjferg
	Feeling Really Stupid (Preview) Tomorrow is my last day at work. My boss is coming in from another office to take me out to lunch. She told me to invite whoever I wanted to come along. I gathered quite a few people - mostly people in the same sort of position as myself. My old boss adjusted her appointments to come and one of my old teammate...	tiredtonite	8	664	Oct 24, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Called my husband's Sponsor (Preview) Last night AH came home under the influence. I asked him where he went after work and he said no where. I said I smell alcohol on you and I know by your behavior after all these years that you were drinking. He responded with No, No, No. Finally he told me where he went and what he drank. I told him I was cal...	wifeofalcoholic	5	559	Oct 24, 2014 by Jerry F
	First Al-anon meeting last night (Preview) Last night was my first Al-anon meeting :) It was scary at first. when I pulled into the parking lot, I sat in the car for a couple of minutes with butterflies in my stomach. I almost passed when it came to my turn to introduce myself. It felt good to get it out to peers that are living the same thing I am and t...	iwishuheaven	3	259	Oct 24, 2014 by milkwood
	Want to disown stepsister and her son without disowning my mother (Preview) Hello friends, Nice to find this site. Over 30 years ago when I was 14 my mother married a man with 5 and 8 year old girls. They have lived happily ever after....except for relationships with his children, one of whom started drinking at 12 and is stage 4 alcoholic close to death multiple times. She has 8 y...	Lake	9	474	Oct 24, 2014 by lgnutah
	Looking Back on My Journey (Preview) After attending a F2F meeting this week that I hadn't been to in a while and realizing how far I have come in my 5+ years of Al-Anon, I looked back on some of my previous posts on this board. This one is from April 2012. Wow, I'm so grateful to have this program. I hope this post will be helpful to some of you who...	Green Eyes	3	641	Oct 24, 2014 by el-cee
	control (Preview) I was taught many years ago that control was a response to feeling powerless. Enter steps one to seven. Its pretty hard sometimes to work steps 3 and 6 when you are a raging control freak. I am resisting the urge to hurt myself by playing spy. Gee this is hard! Old habits become entrenched relatively quic...	aquamom23	5	558	Oct 23, 2014 by aquamom23
	Am Exercising My Boundaries (Preview) Want to thank you all at MIP, Al-Anon and the 12 step program and relate some really good progress due to all the help provided to me through your generosity!! Have recently stood up for myself when I told AH that his verbal abuse was unacceptable and that going forward an apology would be necessary if h...	Debb	8	543	Oct 23, 2014 by Debb
	I relasped last night. (Preview) I feel like an absolute failure this morning. I feel like I flushed everything I have learn in Al-Anon down the toilet last night. My ah drank yesterday. He came home and went to bed. No arguments, no anything. Nothing unusual. I knew I needed to get away from the house for a while, so my mom and I went sho...	cloudyskies	25	710	Oct 23, 2014 by cloudyskies
	I'm getting it...finally (Preview) I am making progress with detaching from my AH. After seeing that nasty website stuff, it has actually helped me detach even more. I am able to ignore stuff he says or texts to me. I don't find myself getting upset as much as I used to. I have to live in the here and now. he and I both mad a mistake by getting mar...	Newlife girl	10	658	Oct 23, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	please pray for my friend (Preview) A friend of mine's daughter and granddaughter were killed in a car accident this morning. Second granddaughter is in the hospital in critical condition. They were hit by a traitor trailer truck. I cannot even begin to imagine or understand the pain my friend is in. My heart aches for her. My problems...	cloudyskies	8	334	Oct 23, 2014 by cloudyskies
	dry drunk,coda funk. (Preview) aargh the damn eggshells and cobwebs of this existence. Since beginning alanon (again!) this stupid ridiculous dis-ease hovers like a gathering cloud. I explained to the ah that doing nuts does not become me,and mrs doesn't stand for Mother Replacement System. I didn't want to explain anything bu...	aquamom23	12	792	Oct 23, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	update to workplace abuse (to ANY body who has to "defer" their escape) (Preview) I have this ANGER , over having to stay till i find another job, putting up w/abuse....I am soo angry that i have to "take it" till i can leave......I just can't leave $200 minimum a month , can't do it no matter how i try to work budget, so here i am , knowing I must, i am willing to give up to send awa...	neshema2	3	464	Oct 23, 2014 by el-cee
	STEP 6 (Preview) STEP 6 HAS BEEN POSTED TO THE STEP BOARD--PLEASE JOIN AND SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t58...	hotrod	0	184	Oct 23, 2014 by hotrod
	Abuse at the workplace (Preview) I sure know how to pick them.... I have my Friday boss who think you are NOT a parent if you adopt (i inherited this article when his dad whom i love decided to hand the reins over to the sons) but at least the guy isn't a psycho my Wednesday client is a LOVE...but totally irresponsible and his off. mgr. a...	neshema2	9	651	Oct 23, 2014 by neshema2
	Lol. (Preview) I put an add on the supermarket noticeboard a while ago, mum kid and pets seeking a place etc because, you never know. I never did hear a word from anyone until this morning, a man called me to say he has a place and would I like to come and see it. Well I'm not going to get all excited, because, you know. But I'l...	missmeliss	12	561	Oct 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	battle of wills (Preview) Step 3 is a hard one. Easy to say, give your will over to the care of god as you understand him. My will is annoying me, its everywhere, im seeing my will in action more and more. In conversations, when I think im being funny and jokey, my will, im wanting attention or self gratification. In most conversat...	el-cee	4	332	Oct 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	OT - What does 90 day probationary period mean to you .. (Preview) So you start a job on 10/20 when do you think his 90 days are up for probation? I know a weird question if you only knew the answer he gave me and told me to learn to do my math .. OMGOSH .. what a MORON!! It's hurting my son because this is all about the fact he can't play basketball now and I'm just furious .. I'm...	SerenityRUS	17	676	Oct 23, 2014 by pinkchip
	Lately I just come to read, but today I need to post... (Preview) Things are going really well in so many areas, but with my busy life, school, work, kids and now a boyfriend I try to see once a week, my lack of time I am noticing things happening with my 16 year old, lack of communication and with my 6 year old behaviorally acting out at school and boys and girls club...	Breakingfree	10	539	Oct 23, 2014 by milkwood
	little update (Preview) I appreciate those who helped me thru this dilemma. It came down too I am way too stressed from the tenants. I have done all I can do. It may be they have to leave. Then my renting my pasture is not settled. And now my 4 H people cannot find calfs to raise yet. so she may not rent. I talked to my son who told me to t...	Debilyn	12	570	Oct 23, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Sick website...are "most men" like this??? (Preview) I am admitting something that is causing me a lot of pain. Whenever I feel sad and lonely I go to a website my AH posts on...to wake me up to the reality of how sick he really is. I just finished looking at some very disturbing images he posted. It's a site where anything goes...and people are really sick. Th...	Newlife girl	27	813	Oct 22, 2014 by Newlife girl
	alanon meeting ideas (Preview) I feel as if my home meetings are getting a bit stale. We have different speakers sharing on different topics, we have occasional workshops, we use different booklets but I would like to try something different. Any ideas?	el-cee	7	4705	Oct 22, 2014 by hotrod
	Getting Out Of The CoDependent Funk (Preview) Thank God I found Al Anon And MIP. In thetime since my Al Anon enlightenment I have learned so very much about dealing with A but most importantly, I've learned that I too have issues that need to be dealt with. Today my challenge is dealing with the codependent funk. As I examine my life over the past tw...	Spur	8	607	Oct 22, 2014 by PP
	Al Anon Principles For The Masses (Preview) Question: Are the ideals of the Al Anon program in book form for the general population, but not specifically for recovery? I wish the program was available in a general life skills format so more people would use it, think about their relationships with themselves, family, friends, teachers, em...	Spur	6	2274	Oct 22, 2014 by Fairlee
	Today's drama. (Preview) Today someone from the Youth Mental Health Service called me. I didn't have my phone with me. I always have my phone with me and it always charged. Today I didn't for 1.5 hours only and missed this important call. So a person left me a voice mail asking to call back because we need to discuss my daughter's a...	Luiza	15	651	Oct 22, 2014 by Breakingfree
	feeling mixed up and need help (Preview) Ok I don't do well with too much going on.That is how I am It's why I live out here in the country and only go to town maybe 3-4 times a month. I am making a place for tenants to put there fifth wheel and live. excavaction. then rock. So I pay for the renting tractor and the neighbor who is doing it. Then I pay for t...	Debilyn	16	669	Oct 22, 2014 by PP
	dating a woman in recovery, really need some insight (Preview) hello to all, i have been dating a woman who is coming up on her three year celebration. in trying to understand better what she is going through and how my interactions with her might be good or bad i have been attending aa and alanon meetings, reading books and researching the internet. of course i have...	onewildworld	14	782	Oct 22, 2014 by pinkchip
	Feeling numb. Need to snap out of this (Preview) it feels like everything is caving in on me. I feel really sad and needy. Yesterday I had the urge to just go see AH and get a big hug...I just feel lonely and needy. I wish I could feel stronger. I guess I need to just sit and stew about it. I know I am playing a broken record, and you are all probably sick and tir...	Newlife girl	17	640	Oct 22, 2014 by Newlife girl
	taking it personally (Preview) I know my partner loves me. We have had some sobriety and got engaged. He slipped 3 months ago and the disease has progressed quickly. He has lost his job, me , friends and is mixing with some really unhealthy people. He does not contact me or any of his friends in recovery, In my head I know it is the dis...	Tracy	5	512	Oct 21, 2014 by Jerry F
	Better again (Preview) Seems like I have on average one day a week where everything is suddenly terrible and too sad for words, it comes out of nowhere and I cry and moan and then its done and i'm better. I need to find some way to release this stuff that is less harmful to me, I'm open to suggestions. Its happening too often to be a o...	missmeliss	9	514	Oct 21, 2014 by neshema2
	"S" and Janet (Preview) First i want to thank all of you for the comforting hug and offerings of wisdom with this death of my BFF's sister who was also very special to me.......posting here and getting out of myself to share on another, offering my best within me to others, helped me stay level on my own growing anxiety, not hear...	neshema2	5	518	Oct 21, 2014 by PP
	examples of hp (Preview) many times in this life,my hp has pulled strings. They weren't always what I thought I wanted,but they were wonderful nonetheless. As a child,we moved alot.I craved my own home.as an adult,I've never had to worry about a roof over my head. One night,when my life was a living hell,I allowed myself to im...	aquamom23	7	426	Oct 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	New here, but same old problems.. alcoholic dad relationship (Preview) Hi Everyone! I just want to say thank you in advance for anyone who takes the time to read my post/reply. I've never done anything like this before so I don't really know where to start. My therapist suggested to me that she thinks al-anon meetings would help me, but I have a very busy schedule and I think a...	nybeachgirl	4	3121	Oct 21, 2014 by nybeachgirl
	My HP at work (Preview) hi all, I'm conscious that I don't just want to post when struggling or in dispair because I know I still have a long way to go in my recovery. But tonight I find myself at home why AH has gone for a spontaneous "drink after work". He's been better if late, but I can now read the signs about him bec...	Tash2	3	341	Oct 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	needing immediate advice (Preview) Don't know how to handle my anger, frustration & disappointment that my husband is using again. He is a recovering alcoholic, with about 6 years sober. I gave a drug & alcohol test this afternoon. Came up negative on drinking test but came up positive on the urine sample for THC. I believe he ha...	jasmine r c	6	601	Oct 21, 2014 by Kelly123
	Relapsed (Preview) I've relapsed and it don't take much for me to go off into a mad frenzy i e ended up haveing his guts,then somehow there must be a tiny light there somewhere that keeps letting him back into my life I've been around him only 2days and it's been a exploding argument .wheres my alanon tools at.? I don't deserv...	lookingup	5	413	Oct 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Newlife girl (Preview) couldn't do this in pm hope it is ok here. Here are brother and sister Maddie and Saber. Ex cons, brokem out a few months ago!	Debilyn	5	258	Oct 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	What might happen if... (Preview) We started saying that thousands of people with the disease of alcoholism are able to live happy, sober lives each year with help? Every time I read that only a small percentage of alcoholics are able to get and stay sober, I find myself wondering if those reading our posts - alcoholics and codependen...	grateful2be	18	671	Oct 21, 2014 by pinkchip
	prayer (Preview) When I pray which isn't often enough, I feel a sense of peace. It doesn't have to be a fancy prayer. It just has to mean something. Like the serenity prayer or please help me. Or God I can't do this alone. Thank you for being patient w/ me. I really started to pray more when I was ready for the 11th step. "...	Hoot Nanny	5	435	Oct 20, 2014 by cloudyskies
	He gone for passports now. (Preview) So after the kitchen stuff, pictures and paintings, some furniture and even kitchen salt, STBX now took daughter's passports.. I opened the drawer were I keep important documents and my passports are there and daughter's aren't. I called the non emergency police number and they advised me to go to a...	Luiza	17	581	Oct 20, 2014 by PP
	Newbie (Preview) So this al-anon thing is pretty new to me, however, my mothers drinking is not. She has been drinking heavily for 12 years or so that I can remember, although recently I have been made aware that she was drinking when I was a child. She had cancer a few years ago and been advised to give up caffeine and alcoh...	Lemissa	4	479	Oct 20, 2014 by pinkchip
	sad face. (Preview) I have a friend living near my mum, we were best friends in high school and have stayed in touch on facebook, always making plans to see each other, but it's so far so it never happens. So I was thinking to myself today, you know what, that is a big silver lining. When I am there, I can go see my friend, that wil...	missmeliss	21	678	Oct 20, 2014 by cmb
	Why do people in Alanon say relapse is a part of recovery. (Preview) I have 6 years sober. Never relapsed since starting to go to AA. Most of my peers in AA with any length of sobriety state relapse is not an option for them either. I can understand that in alanon, it helps to keep expectations of the alcoholic low, BUT if one of my sponsees in AA relapsed and tried to tell me i...	pinkchip	19	1102	Oct 20, 2014 by Flower49
	grief and helplessness (Preview) My husband has been through rehab twice. We married a year later. He has not continued with therapy or AA, despite his assurances to the contrary. It has been a struggle this past year. He has developed an affinity with pot, honestly just at night due to sleep, which was a precipitating factor for hi...	BE0906	9	668	Oct 20, 2014 by BE0906
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