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Helpangel · Helpangel

My ah is 95 days sober and I realized that I know why I am having such a hard time. Mine was never physically abusive but definetly emotionally abusive and very manipulating. He is trying and I am trying since last weeks therapy appointment he hasn't been as negative and grumpy which has helped me so much...

chemistryiscool · chemistryiscool

Hi everyone, This is my first posting, after reading so many of the posts here over the last few months. I'm sure what I'm about to write will mirror so many of your experiences, but I feel the need to get it out there. I've been in an on/off relationship with my HFA boyfriend for 8 years. I'm not even sur...

Debb · Debb

Hi Everyone!! Was just thinking about the 10th and 11th steps ... seems I get stuck on these two every so often:Tenth Step Prayer I pray I am continue:To grow in understanding and effectiveness; To take daily spot-check inventories of myself;To correct mistakes when I make them;To take respon...

Truth · Truth

So today I need to work on my self-righteousness!!!!! I honestly can say that I don't have this trait often, however this last bout of e-mails has put me into this state and I am having a hard time letting go. My ex-A has this down to a tee...he will push my buttons until I cannot take it anymore and then I fin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Everyone, Yesterday, my wife and I went to town to run some errands and take care of a few things. The walk from where we had to park the car to our first stop was long and COLD. And, we were about an hour early, so we decided to go into a restaurant to warm up and use the restroom. I went to the restroom first...

Timjack · Timjack

Hi. I'm writing this home alone. My husband who was almost 2 years sober, drank today because our 28 year old son who has a heroin addiction could not be found. I truly, truly don't know what to do. My husband wanted to throw my son out, and I just cant do that! I'm his mom! Could someone give me some dir...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone-- There are three specific ideas that resonate with me from today's reading: One--RESPONSIBILITY. Some of it was growing up in such a big family, some of it was growing up with an alcoholic father and parents who divorced bitterly; I had a lot of responsibility as a young child...

Truth · Truth

Well I went through the emotions .... Got to my part and feel better!!! I am more aware of my limits and understand the importance of not reacting (if I react now it is a choice not a mistake because it is in my awareness). I am capable of making healthy decisions!!!!

mjferg · mjferg

I was reading about making decisions and one suggestion was to picture yourself as a wise older woman,what would she say to you?What would she want your life to be like?It is an interesting concept.I am pretty sure it would be pretty good advice.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The kids finally saw their dad today after not seeing him since 12/24. Saying it was awkward is probably putting it mildly. The kids picked a place that the staff is very familiar with me and my son so they watched out for them which I was extremely grateful for, and the kids had a good time. Their dad an...

Agape · Agape

Hi, I'm looking for some online support though, honestly, I'd like to be on (almost) any website other than this one...I'd much prefer to just stick my head in the sand and pretend this isn't happening. My husband's been in recovery for nine years and I went to family counselling then (a lot like Al Anon...

DavidG · DavidG

...I'll mind my own business and you can mind yours...? Sometimes group business is everyone's business. That is, if we are a group member.... I think that is the crux of the traditions... ...in our lives our power boundaries are all messed up. As a kid i took quite a lot adult responsibility, and the a...

Fairlee · Fairlee

hi! It's snowy and freezing cold down here in Texas! I do not do well in this weather :( I wonder if anyone else struggles with "am I making more out of this problem than there really is?" I sat, listening to a conversation my AH was having with his mother, talking about how "everyone&qu...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59735693/alanon-tradition3/

hotrod · hotrod

Today's reading in the Courage to Change is a great reminder. It points out how reading the Al-Anon conference approved literature can aid our recovery. It indicates that by reading this literature, in between meetings, and when we feel lonely angry, or confused we are learning to replace long-...

lablover13 · lablover13

i can't get out of my own way. my AH & I just started to "date" after 6 months of separation. all was going pretty well until last night. we were out to dinner at a restaurant that we used go to a lot when he was drinking. i didn't know it was hard being there for him and he didn't tell me. when i o...

mjferg · mjferg

I was driving to class a couple of days ago and I thought I saw my ex! My heart started pounding and I started shaking.I thought I was going to have to pull over or return home.He was in the passenger side of the car and a woman was driving,We came up to the traffic light and I saw it wasn't him and I breathed a si...

Auntrosie · Auntrosie

...an inanimate object. Today I realized that I have been asking my AH for the same tiny "courtesies" for 7 years. With no positive results. Shame on me! Seven years ago he was drinking. I cut him some slack. I realized that he was not capable of doing anything I asked or needed of him. Today h...

GreenerGal · GreenerGal

It's so hard to be so in love with someone who is toxic and an addict. Are those even two separate things? The other morning I was reading my c2c and I found August 19th: "There was a piece of reality that I never wanted to see: I loved someone who couldn't be trusted." These words whispered...

Truth · Truth

I want to thank Hotrod and John for pointing out in another post that we are capable of making healthy decisions!!!! I needed to hear that message

I am extremely grateful for your message ... It truly humbled me

el-cee · el-cee

I think of this particular alanon forum as like the front line of this disease like an emergency room of a hospital. People come here panicked, in real fear and usually in a crisis. There are those of us who stay here and try to help in the best way we can, bearing in mind we are all affected and are all in reco...

GreenerGal · GreenerGal

Here's a question I haven't seen posed yet...is it enabling if you're helping your qualifier get to their AA meetings? Not offering to help, but if they are the one to ask? He's now out of the house but would like to come shower before going to his AA meeting in the morning. He's staying in his shop right...

el-cee · el-cee

Todays reading is a good one. The idea of humility can be confusing, some people think of it as being submissive and a 'slave to my situation and accept everything that comes, however humiliating.' It talks about humility as 'not being meek surrender to an ugly, destructive way of life.' Its about sur...

Helpangel · Helpangel

my ah is 90 days sober. I have been posting how difficult he has been and went to our therapist to let her know how bad it has been. She said it sounds like his meds are not working and asked me when was he goin to see the psychologist, I said I didn't know (found out from ah April 2nd). I told her things had to cha...

glad · glad

I recently overheard a story (gossip) about an alcoholic stealing something of about 10 thousand dollars value, from someone. It might be true, but it's already 2'nd hand by the time it gets to me and the person who told this story tells things like that all the time! anyway my point is prior to alano...

Smiley99 · Smiley99

Sadly, I've become accustomed to my AH sneaking beers at inappropriate times. When I find the poorly hidden cans, I usually just throw them away and don't say anything since it will inevitably lead to an argument. Sometimes I will ask him not to put the cans in certain places, like behind the bed or i...

HockeyMom25 · HockeyMom25

My husband lost his job today. He was drunk. At work. (He's been hiding it from me again, which is a whole different story.) I am beside myself. I don't know what to do. I don't know how we'll make ends meet now. I don't know how he'll get a new job. And I sure as heck don't know how I will deal with him at home....

Skorpi · Skorpi

Confused about what I think and what I want, and hoping that writing about it will help. I have been working on a thesis for several years now. I have picked it up during good times (and when my department started to fuss) and have dropped it even more. I have not worked on it because of things going on in...

Robert Breen · Robert Breen

New to this site, so I will really have tp get to know those of you who choose to converse with me on any given topic. Really connecting to people is important to me. I have 6 years of sobriety and long term experience working the 12 steps and going to AA meetings. I have a wonderful homegroup. I have bee...

missmeliss · missmeliss

So I'm seeing a lot of things differently in recent days and one of the big ones is My Daughter's Father. Daughter's Father was a drinking drugging specialist throughout high-school (we were friends) and throughout our later 8 year relationship and marriage. But he sobered up afterwards and someho...

Auriya · Auriya

Hi. I was googling "husband putting kids at risk" and I stumbled onto this group. Maybe someone here can give me some comfort, or ideas, or anything. My husband of 5 years is an alcoholic. My mom and dad are alcoholics, my first boyfriend, my best friend... all alcoholics. My husbands last...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

I went to an Al-anon workshop this morning. (It was very good btw too short) I saw one of the people I plan to ask to be my sponsor there. I told her it had been a rough week but I've been working and that I had something i needed to talk to her about. Since she is the one who in our last very small meeting s...

tufntender · tufntender

HELLO, I am not sure how to handle my boyfriends alcoholism. We are both in our late 40's. Throughout my adulthood I have done my share of drinking, was a bartender and have been exposed to but not been in relationships with people who have a drinking problem. so I am kind of lost here . He and I met thro...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

well I'm not new to message boards but I'm new to this one. I am going to meetings locally but they are NOT resonating with me. I'm doing the readings but again they don't resonate. I've been to multiple groups and multiple meetings. I tend to leave the meetings ANGRY. how much time do I giv...

Belle7 · Belle7

My husband has an addiction to prescription meds. It began with benzodiazepines, which he was successfully weaned from, while missing six months of work. The dependency changed more recently to sleeping meds. He is a high functioning, high profile professional in our community, and no one in his w...

el-cee · el-cee

Fairlee · Fairlee

Hi everyone! I am still lurking around, learning and taking in information and thinking about y'all. I don't respond much because I have been so inconsistent in my program since before Christmas. It is so hard for me to get to a meeting (closest one is an hour away, at noon on weekdays) but that is my prob...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today speaks about faith and practicing the third step. It points out that both take time and practice. It suggests that the third step is an ongoing process. I know when I came in to the Al-Anon rooms, I was in a terrible crisis with no place else to go. I picked up the powerful tools...

el-cee · el-cee

I am either very stubborn, in denial, tone deaf or a bit simple at times. Maybe all of it, at times, im not beating myself up, im aware and accept my doatyness, sometimes embrace it and play with it. Anyway, ive been feeling a bit eeeeeeoooooo, not really able to get my serenity, feeling that im upset or an...

lablover13 · lablover13

it's been 2 years and i get anxious and very sad when I envision him having sex with the another woman. we have gotten back together but I still dont trust him even though he is working very hard in AA, doing the steps and all. he has been sober for 1 year and is trying to change. i support him and congrtaualt...

pamala · pamala

I am new to posting on this board. I have attended a couple of online meetings, but have yet to attend a f2f one. Working on that one. What I need is some insight since I realize my perception tends to be off lately on things. My 26 year old daughter is my A. She was living with me up until November when I b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't know about y'all but these days I question whether I am wrong or right. But who cares anyhow? It is better to be happy than to be right all the time anyway. I am just grateful for the discussion not the argument. So much has to be done to improve my life. It just takes one thing to set off a good start of g...

shealah · shealah

My af has been drinking nonstop for the last couple weeks. Last week came to a head when I finally called his parents and they took him home with them. Unfortunately, I let him come back home the next day, a decision which I totally regret......as he was drunk when he came back home early in the morning....

texasgal · texasgal

It's been more than a week since I found out the guy I was dating cheated. It's been hard not talking to him. He calls and texts me that he loves me and that it will never happen again...but Ive heard those lines before. Everytime I think I want to talk to him I remember the lady knocking crazy at the door and a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

of the culture of giving, helping and I was sooo delighted to watch that I laughed at it happening. Needed to share this with my MIP family. I had to get to the VA clinic to get some support. While I was there I discovered that the parking lot was full for both the Hilo Hospital and the Va with the except...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T for today speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves and not trying to analyze why another person does what they do. Trying to figure out others is a waste of time and energy as it is more important to my recoverys to figure out why I do what I do. I can do that by keeping the focus on myself lo...

AlmaDaigle · AlmaDaigle

My husband has had a problem with alcohol for a long time. I have been in denial about it until recently. We had been fighting a lot and I started to feel that the alcohol abuse was hurting our family. We have two very little girls and I finally decided that we needed to start addressing our problems. Rob we...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Well, in a not so fantastic start to my day... I got up this morning, took care of the pets, made coffee, packed lunches, got breakfast, as usual. Brought my wife coffee and fruit for breakfast in bed, as usual. The dog stepped on her foot in excitement when he saw the fruit (he LOVES oranges!) and woke he...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

In the beginning of my al-anon journey I struggled with the back and forth of really letting go of my exAh and had to learn boundaries were for me and my health. I really had trouble letting go and accepting I deserved better and healthier opportunities and until I let go, I held myself back. The steps, my...

oregongirl · oregongirl

Hi Everyone, I really want to start to feel better. I felt that this program would be the place to start. My son is an addict. He doesn't think he is though. When he was in High School he began smoking pot, drinking alcohol and barely graduated. He went into outpatient treatment during that time. I believ...

pamala · pamala

I am rather new, but starting to get warmed up to the concepts of taking care of myself first. But here is my issue....My daugher is causing my 80 and 74 year old parents grief now. My 26 year old A daughter convinced them to let her live there while she attended outpatient rehab. She has an empty apar...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Hello all - it's been a long time. I started a new job in October and it's been so busy, it's construction and excellent experience. I just hired a student to help in the afternoons which is great. I need all your experience strength and hope. The President's 81 year old mother works there, she is just li...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This seems to be what underpins my serenity, at this point in my life anyway. It's remembering to be in the NOW. I forget to do it all the time. I have been overwhelmed with tasks and stresses and worries in recent days and I realised, today, I was so agitated trying to "get through" everything...

Mirandac · Mirandac

i keep struggling with rejection then hurt. My ah does something then that is my first feeling then hurt. i wish i could will it out of me. Maybe when the divorce is final and i am working steps 4 and 5 more heartily i wont feel those feelings about or from him. I can only pray for peace And serenity in sp...

hotrod · hotrod

I loved the reading in the C2C today. It talks about the shame that is buried deep within. This old shame is based on mistakes we've made, where we beat ourselves up for not being perfect.. This reading points out that we are human and that with alanon tools we can make amends for any harm. we might have d...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

The Bill of Rights for Adult Children and Al-anoners! 1. I have the right to make choices besides the choice to merely run away. 2. I have the right to say No when I feel unready or unsafe. 3. I have the right to not be molested by fear. 4. I have the right to feel all my feelings. 5. I have the right to believe I a...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I love rainbows

Cafeaulait1973 · Cafeaulait1973

This morning I talked to my boyfriend for the first time after his slip up the other night. I talked to him the day after but he was still drunk so i don't really consider that "talking to him". I've heard from people who had seen him so I knew he was alive and actually they all said he didn't seem...

Irish7 · Irish7

I know there are some al anon folks here who also are AA members. If my question is inappropriate, please, moderator, close or delete it. But what I'm wondering is whether the active alcoholic is aware that they are causing spouses/children/parents to worry and agonize? Or is it that it just doesn't e...

ck78 · ck78

Hi there. I am a mother of two. My boyfriend and father to my daughter has relasped for the second time. I feel alone. Going on second day of him MIA. Last time he was gone a week. This is bigger than me, I am just looking for support.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Why it is hard to stay (Preview) My ah is 95 days sober and I realized that I know why I am having such a hard time. Mine was never physically abusive but definetly emotionally abusive and very manipulating. He is trying and I am trying since last weeks therapy appointment he hasn't been as negative and grumpy which has helped me so much...	Helpangel	4	543	Mar 5, 2015 by maryjane
	HFA Boyfriend (Preview) Hi everyone, This is my first posting, after reading so many of the posts here over the last few months. I'm sure what I'm about to write will mirror so many of your experiences, but I feel the need to get it out there. I've been in an on/off relationship with my HFA boyfriend for 8 years. I'm not even sur...	chemistryiscool	8	570	Mar 5, 2015 by glad
	10th & 11th Steps (Preview) Hi Everyone!! Was just thinking about the 10th and 11th steps ... seems I get stuck on these two every so often:Tenth Step Prayer I pray I am continue:To grow in understanding and effectiveness; To take daily spot-check inventories of myself;To correct mistakes when I make them;To take respon...	Debb	5	429	Mar 5, 2015 by el-cee
	How to get rid of self-righteousness? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) So today I need to work on my self-righteousness!!!!! I honestly can say that I don't have this trait often, however this last bout of e-mails has put me into this state and I am having a hard time letting go. My ex-A has this down to a tee...he will push my buttons until I cannot take it anymore and then I fin...	Truth	40	1713	Mar 4, 2015 by Truth
	Dealing with a "relapse" (Preview) Hi Everyone, Yesterday, my wife and I went to town to run some errands and take care of a few things. The walk from where we had to park the car to our first stop was long and COLD. And, we were about an hour early, so we decided to go into a restaurant to warm up and use the restroom. I went to the restroom first...	Skorpi	11	899	Mar 4, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	I'm not new to this, but I'm new to this (Preview) Hi. I'm writing this home alone. My husband who was almost 2 years sober, drank today because our 28 year old son who has a heroin addiction could not be found. I truly, truly don't know what to do. My husband wanted to throw my son out, and I just cant do that! I'm his mom! Could someone give me some dir...	Timjack	7	820	Mar 4, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	Hope For Today Mar 3 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone-- There are three specific ideas that resonate with me from today's reading: One--RESPONSIBILITY. Some of it was growing up in such a big family, some of it was growing up with an alcoholic father and parents who divorced bitterly; I had a lot of responsibility as a young child...	yanksfan51	8	575	Mar 4, 2015 by yanksfan51
	Feel Better Today (Preview) Well I went through the emotions .... Got to my part and feel better!!! I am more aware of my limits and understand the importance of not reacting (if I react now it is a choice not a mistake because it is in my awareness). I am capable of making healthy decisions!!!!	Truth	4	304	Mar 4, 2015 by Jerry F
	decision making (Preview) I was reading about making decisions and one suggestion was to picture yourself as a wise older woman,what would she say to you?What would she want your life to be like?It is an interesting concept.I am pretty sure it would be pretty good advice.	mjferg	1	364	Mar 3, 2015 by milkwood
	Weird Visitation (Preview) The kids finally saw their dad today after not seeing him since 12/24. Saying it was awkward is probably putting it mildly. The kids picked a place that the staff is very familiar with me and my son so they watched out for them which I was extremely grateful for, and the kids had a good time. Their dad an...	SerenityRUS	4	542	Mar 3, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Wish I wasn't here...again... (Preview) Hi, I'm looking for some online support though, honestly, I'd like to be on (almost) any website other than this one...I'd much prefer to just stick my head in the sand and pretend this isn't happening. My husband's been in recovery for nine years and I went to family counselling then (a lot like Al Anon...	Agape	3	494	Mar 3, 2015 by Jerry F
	Live, and let live... (Preview) ...I'll mind my own business and you can mind yours...? Sometimes group business is everyone's business. That is, if we are a group member.... I think that is the crux of the traditions... ...in our lives our power boundaries are all messed up. As a kid i took quite a lot adult responsibility, and the a...	DavidG	2	846	Mar 2, 2015 by Jerry F
	Do you second guess yourself? (Preview) hi! It's snowy and freezing cold down here in Texas! I do not do well in this weather :( I wonder if anyone else struggles with "am I making more out of this problem than there really is?" I sat, listening to a conversation my AH was having with his mother, talking about how "everyone&qu...	Fairlee	12	727	Mar 2, 2015 by Jerry F
	Tradition 3 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59735693/alanon-tradition3/	hotrod	0	556	Mar 2, 2015 by hotrod
	March 2 readings ODAT and C2C (Preview) Today's reading in the Courage to Change is a great reminder. It points out how reading the Al-Anon conference approved literature can aid our recovery. It indicates that by reading this literature, in between meetings, and when we feel lonely angry, or confused we are learning to replace long-...	hotrod	4	3182	Mar 2, 2015 by hotrod
	so depressed with the UPS & DOWNS of my dysfunctional marriage!! (Preview) i can't get out of my own way. my AH & I just started to "date" after 6 months of separation. all was going pretty well until last night. we were out to dinner at a restaurant that we used go to a lot when he was drinking. i didn't know it was hard being there for him and he didn't tell me. when i o...	lablover13	6	653	Mar 2, 2015 by lablover13
	emotional reactions! (Preview) I was driving to class a couple of days ago and I thought I saw my ex! My heart started pounding and I started shaking.I thought I was going to have to pull over or return home.He was in the passenger side of the car and a woman was driving,We came up to the traffic light and I saw it wasn't him and I breathed a si...	mjferg	10	655	Mar 2, 2015 by Hullibee
	I'm married to a brick wall... (Preview) ...an inanimate object. Today I realized that I have been asking my AH for the same tiny "courtesies" for 7 years. With no positive results. Shame on me! Seven years ago he was drinking. I cut him some slack. I realized that he was not capable of doing anything I asked or needed of him. Today h...	Auntrosie	5	732	Mar 2, 2015 by shelbybaby
	I did it! I asked him to move out! (Preview) It's so hard to be so in love with someone who is toxic and an addict. Are those even two separate things? The other morning I was reading my c2c and I found August 19th: "There was a piece of reality that I never wanted to see: I loved someone who couldn't be trusted." These words whispered...	GreenerGal	7	771	Mar 2, 2015 by shelbybaby
	Capable of Making Healthy Decisions (Preview) I want to thank Hotrod and John for pointing out in another post that we are capable of making healthy decisions!!!! I needed to hear that message I am extremely grateful for your message ... It truly humbled me	Truth	2	315	Mar 1, 2015 by hotrod
	the emergency department (Preview) I think of this particular alanon forum as like the front line of this disease like an emergency room of a hospital. People come here panicked, in real fear and usually in a crisis. There are those of us who stay here and try to help in the best way we can, bearing in mind we are all affected and are all in reco...	el-cee	13	635	Mar 1, 2015 by Jerry F
	Is it enabling? (Preview) Here's a question I haven't seen posed yet...is it enabling if you're helping your qualifier get to their AA meetings? Not offering to help, but if they are the one to ask? He's now out of the house but would like to come shower before going to his AA meeting in the morning. He's staying in his shop right...	GreenerGal	10	571	Mar 1, 2015 by shelbybaby
	March 1st ODAT - Humility (Preview) Todays reading is a good one. The idea of humility can be confusing, some people think of it as being submissive and a 'slave to my situation and accept everything that comes, however humiliating.' It talks about humility as 'not being meek surrender to an ugly, destructive way of life.' Its about sur...	el-cee	3	801	Mar 1, 2015 by karma13
	Therapist and 10 things I want in a relationship (Preview) my ah is 90 days sober. I have been posting how difficult he has been and went to our therapist to let her know how bad it has been. She said it sounds like his meds are not working and asked me when was he goin to see the psychologist, I said I didn't know (found out from ah April 2nd). I told her things had to cha...	Helpangel	13	518	Mar 1, 2015 by Mirandac
	It's not on my side of the street! (Preview) I recently overheard a story (gossip) about an alcoholic stealing something of about 10 thousand dollars value, from someone. It might be true, but it's already 2'nd hand by the time it gets to me and the person who told this story tells things like that all the time! anyway my point is prior to alano...	glad	1	428	Mar 1, 2015 by hotrod
	Alcoholic behavior or bad personality trait? (Preview) Sadly, I've become accustomed to my AH sneaking beers at inappropriate times. When I find the poorly hidden cans, I usually just throw them away and don't say anything since it will inevitably lead to an argument. Sometimes I will ask him not to put the cans in certain places, like behind the bed or i...	Smiley99	22	4400	Mar 1, 2015 by Robert Breen
	So angry I don't know what to do... (Preview) My husband lost his job today. He was drunk. At work. (He's been hiding it from me again, which is a whole different story.) I am beside myself. I don't know what to do. I don't know how we'll make ends meet now. I don't know how he'll get a new job. And I sure as heck don't know how I will deal with him at home....	HockeyMom25	15	776	Mar 1, 2015 by HockeyMom25
	Expectations (Preview) Confused about what I think and what I want, and hoping that writing about it will help. I have been working on a thesis for several years now. I have picked it up during good times (and when my department started to fuss) and have dropped it even more. I have not worked on it because of things going on in...	Skorpi	10	503	Mar 1, 2015 by hotrod
	Valid Criticism (closed) (Preview) New to this site, so I will really have tp get to know those of you who choose to converse with me on any given topic. Really connecting to people is important to me. I have 6 years of sobriety and long term experience working the 12 steps and going to AA meetings. I have a wonderful homegroup. I have bee...	Robert Breen	4	5970	Mar 1, 2015 by hotrod
	I'm preparing to make a stand. (Preview) So I'm seeing a lot of things differently in recent days and one of the big ones is My Daughter's Father. Daughter's Father was a drinking drugging specialist throughout high-school (we were friends) and throughout our later 8 year relationship and marriage. But he sobered up afterwards and someho...	missmeliss	5	684	Mar 1, 2015 by el-cee
	SHAKEN (Preview) Hi. I was googling "husband putting kids at risk" and I stumbled onto this group. Maybe someone here can give me some comfort, or ideas, or anything. My husband of 5 years is an alcoholic. My mom and dad are alcoholics, my first boyfriend, my best friend... all alcoholics. My husbands last...	Auriya	3	411	Mar 1, 2015 by Skorpi
	I ALMOST did it.... (Preview) I went to an Al-anon workshop this morning. (It was very good btw too short) I saw one of the people I plan to ask to be my sponsor there. I told her it had been a rough week but I've been working and that I had something i needed to talk to her about. Since she is the one who in our last very small meeting s...	ladybugnessa	5	386	Mar 1, 2015 by Skorpi
	at wits end (Preview) HELLO, I am not sure how to handle my boyfriends alcoholism. We are both in our late 40's. Throughout my adulthood I have done my share of drinking, was a bartender and have been exposed to but not been in relationships with people who have a drinking problem. so I am kind of lost here . He and I met thro...	tufntender	3	391	Feb 28, 2015 by Jerry F
	Another Newbie... ( 1 2 ) (Preview) well I'm not new to message boards but I'm new to this one. I am going to meetings locally but they are NOT resonating with me. I'm doing the readings but again they don't resonate. I've been to multiple groups and multiple meetings. I tend to leave the meetings ANGRY. how much time do I giv...	ladybugnessa	61	1240	Feb 28, 2015 by Jerry F
	Prescription Drug Addiction (Preview) My husband has an addiction to prescription meds. It began with benzodiazepines, which he was successfully weaned from, while missing six months of work. The dependency changed more recently to sleeping meds. He is a high functioning, high profile professional in our community, and no one in his w...	Belle7	5	1605	Feb 28, 2015 by Belle7
	i like this (Preview)	el-cee	2	299	Feb 28, 2015 by Fairlee
	the sneaky nature of the addict? (Preview) Hi everyone! I am still lurking around, learning and taking in information and thinking about y'all. I don't respond much because I have been so inconsistent in my program since before Christmas. It is so hard for me to get to a meeting (closest one is an hour away, at noon on weekdays) but that is my prob...	Fairlee	6	650	Feb 28, 2015 by Fairlee
	C2C 2-28 reading (Preview) The C2C reading for today speaks about faith and practicing the third step. It points out that both take time and practice. It suggests that the third step is an ongoing process. I know when I came in to the Al-Anon rooms, I was in a terrible crisis with no place else to go. I picked up the powerful tools...	hotrod	0	232	Feb 28, 2015 by hotrod
	ignoring my higher power (Preview) I am either very stubborn, in denial, tone deaf or a bit simple at times. Maybe all of it, at times, im not beating myself up, im aware and accept my doatyness, sometimes embrace it and play with it. Anyway, ive been feeling a bit eeeeeeoooooo, not really able to get my serenity, feeling that im upset or an...	el-cee	3	550	Feb 28, 2015 by hotrod
	Accepting my AH's affair (Preview) it's been 2 years and i get anxious and very sad when I envision him having sex with the another woman. we have gotten back together but I still dont trust him even though he is working very hard in AA, doing the steps and all. he has been sober for 1 year and is trying to change. i support him and congrtaualt...	lablover13	6	563	Feb 28, 2015 by lablover13
	Need some outside insight please (Preview) I am new to posting on this board. I have attended a couple of online meetings, but have yet to attend a f2f one. Working on that one. What I need is some insight since I realize my perception tends to be off lately on things. My 26 year old daughter is my A. She was living with me up until November when I b...	pamala	3	529	Feb 28, 2015 by GreenerGal
	maybe I am wrong but maybe I am right? (Preview) I don't know about y'all but these days I question whether I am wrong or right. But who cares anyhow? It is better to be happy than to be right all the time anyway. I am just grateful for the discussion not the argument. So much has to be done to improve my life. It just takes one thing to set off a good start of g...	Hoot Nanny	3	409	Feb 28, 2015 by GreenerGal
	drinking beer before an aa meeting (Preview) My af has been drinking nonstop for the last couple weeks. Last week came to a head when I finally called his parents and they took him home with them. Unfortunately, I let him come back home the next day, a decision which I totally regret......as he was drunk when he came back home early in the morning....	shealah	2	544	Feb 27, 2015 by Mirandac
	one day at a time (Preview) It's been more than a week since I found out the guy I was dating cheated. It's been hard not talking to him. He calls and texts me that he loves me and that it will never happen again...but Ive heard those lines before. Everytime I think I want to talk to him I remember the lady knocking crazy at the door and a...	texasgal	4	417	Feb 27, 2015 by karma13
	Was there and watched the miracle... (Preview) of the culture of giving, helping and I was sooo delighted to watch that I laughed at it happening. Needed to share this with my MIP family. I had to get to the VA clinic to get some support. While I was there I discovered that the parking lot was full for both the Hilo Hospital and the Va with the except...	Jerry F	4	570	Feb 27, 2015 by Jerry F
	ODAT 2-27 (Preview) The ODA T for today speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves and not trying to analyze why another person does what they do. Trying to figure out others is a waste of time and energy as it is more important to my recoverys to figure out why I do what I do. I can do that by keeping the focus on myself lo...	hotrod	4	421	Feb 27, 2015 by Jen61
	Hiding alcohol (Preview) My husband has had a problem with alcohol for a long time. I have been in denial about it until recently. We had been fighting a lot and I started to feel that the alcohol abuse was hurting our family. We have two very little girls and I finally decided that we needed to start addressing our problems. Rob we...	AlmaDaigle	19	869	Feb 27, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Alcoholic Temper-tantrum (Preview) Well, in a not so fantastic start to my day... I got up this morning, took care of the pets, made coffee, packed lunches, got breakfast, as usual. Brought my wife coffee and fruit for breakfast in bed, as usual. The dog stepped on her foot in excitement when he saw the fruit (he LOVES oranges!) and woke he...	Skorpi	26	4719	Feb 27, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Boundaries this explains it... (Preview) In the beginning of my al-anon journey I struggled with the back and forth of really letting go of my exAh and had to learn boundaries were for me and my health. I really had trouble letting go and accepting I deserved better and healthier opportunities and until I let go, I held myself back. The steps, my...	Breakingfree	3	442	Feb 27, 2015 by Skorpi
	Newcomer Greetings (Preview) Hi Everyone, I really want to start to feel better. I felt that this program would be the place to start. My son is an addict. He doesn't think he is though. When he was in High School he began smoking pot, drinking alcohol and barely graduated. He went into outpatient treatment during that time. I believ...	oregongirl	5	893	Feb 26, 2015 by Jerry F
	Concern for my parents (Preview) I am rather new, but starting to get warmed up to the concepts of taking care of myself first. But here is my issue....My daugher is causing my 80 and 74 year old parents grief now. My 26 year old A daughter convinced them to let her live there while she attended outpatient rehab. She has an empty apar...	pamala	3	732	Feb 26, 2015 by Jerry F
	Dysfunctional Co worker ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hello all - it's been a long time. I started a new job in October and it's been so busy, it's construction and excellent experience. I just hired a student to help in the afternoons which is great. I need all your experience strength and hope. The President's 81 year old mother works there, she is just li...	mercedes1959	47	1470	Feb 26, 2015 by hotrod
	A tool I keep misplacing. (Preview) This seems to be what underpins my serenity, at this point in my life anyway. It's remembering to be in the NOW. I forget to do it all the time. I have been overwhelmed with tasks and stresses and worries in recent days and I realised, today, I was so agitated trying to "get through" everything...	missmeliss	8	478	Feb 26, 2015 by missmeliss
	Rejection (Preview) i keep struggling with rejection then hurt. My ah does something then that is my first feeling then hurt. i wish i could will it out of me. Maybe when the divorce is final and i am working steps 4 and 5 more heartily i wont feel those feelings about or from him. I can only pray for peace And serenity in sp...	Mirandac	6	754	Feb 26, 2015 by missmeliss
	C2C 2-26-2015 (Preview) I loved the reading in the C2C today. It talks about the shame that is buried deep within. This old shame is based on mistakes we've made, where we beat ourselves up for not being perfect.. This reading points out that we are human and that with alanon tools we can make amends for any harm. we might have d...	hotrod	2	359	Feb 26, 2015 by hotrod
	The Bill of Rights for Adult Children and Al-anoners (Preview) The Bill of Rights for Adult Children and Al-anoners! 1. I have the right to make choices besides the choice to merely run away. 2. I have the right to say No when I feel unready or unsafe. 3. I have the right to not be molested by fear. 4. I have the right to feel all my feelings. 5. I have the right to believe I a...	Breakingfree	5	720	Feb 26, 2015 by hopefull2015
	rainbows (Preview) I love rainbows	Cathyinaz	6	398	Feb 25, 2015 by Jen61
	1st talk after relapse (Preview) This morning I talked to my boyfriend for the first time after his slip up the other night. I talked to him the day after but he was still drunk so i don't really consider that "talking to him". I've heard from people who had seen him so I knew he was alive and actually they all said he didn't seem...	Cafeaulait1973	8	504	Feb 25, 2015 by Cafeaulait1973
	A question for the "double winners" (Preview) I know there are some al anon folks here who also are AA members. If my question is inappropriate, please, moderator, close or delete it. But what I'm wondering is whether the active alcoholic is aware that they are causing spouses/children/parents to worry and agonize? Or is it that it just doesn't e...	Irish7	15	1240	Feb 25, 2015 by Irish7
	New here (Preview) Hi there. I am a mother of two. My boyfriend and father to my daughter has relasped for the second time. I feel alone. Going on second day of him MIA. Last time he was gone a week. This is bigger than me, I am just looking for support.	ck78	12	660	Feb 25, 2015 by Cafeaulait1973
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