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hotrod · hotrod

Great topic in the Courage to Change today. It speaks about being confused over what are our responsibilities and what is another's. It states that we are responsible to be; Loyal to our values, to please ourselves first; to keep an open mind; to detach with love; to rid ourselves of anger and resentme...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

I am still struggling, any experience strength and hope is appreciated. Last week, my wonderful student was working with me all week, she was in spring break. We got all kinds of work done, old papers boxed up, some thrown away dating back to 2000. DC was not there until Friday. She followed me around lo...

el-cee · el-cee

Alanon has given me a life worth living. It sounds like an exageration, too good to be true but it has given me tools to see clearly the facts of my life and to accept them and take action to change things to make my life better, this in turn has made things better for my whole family. The three c's, awareness...

el-cee · el-cee

Alanon has taught me that life is for living, not merely existing, not putting up with unacceptable behaviour and sitting stuck in self pity waiting for a knight in shining armour to come and solve all my problems. The time for living my life is now, today. Taking pleasure and enjoying each day the bes...

hotrod · hotrod

Courage to Change reading for March 23rd speaks about the deep pain and sadness over the dashed hopes broken dreams that dwells deep within us after living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that Al-Anon helps us to face these destructive painful emotions of the past. We can best face th...

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Silence; Responsibility; Choices The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, port...

elmo7 · elmo7

It's been up and down the last 7 to 8 years with my alcoholic wife, and the downs have been pretty low. Back before Christmas this past year, I almost walked away after another relapse. She has been sober since that time, attending regular meetings, and she has finally found a great therapist that see...

needtolearnhow · needtolearnhow

Hello, I've decided to post on here on the urging of my ex-girlfriend telling me I need Al-Anon. I am a musician, working fulltime in the music business. I got sober almost four years ago now. It wasn't easy. I am surrounded by alcohol and people smoking weed and occasionally taking cocaine and E. One of...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

Since my AH put our lives at risk by drinking and driving and flipping our car, and my job loss, I have found more peace and passion than I have ever had. These events opened my eyes to some hard truths that I have been ignoring- my unprofessional behavior at work, lack of motivation to take care of myself a...

GreenerGal · GreenerGal

Since my A moved out things have been so much better for me! We are still close, even going on dates here and there. We are able to share feelings about our relationship and about just plain old life without his temper running high. He is staying on an even keel when around me, as was our agreement. He i...

Helpangel · Helpangel

My ah is trying to stay sober and is going to therapy and taking his drugs. He thinks he is bipolar and I kinda new it but for some reason it worries me more now that he realizes it and that it is out and I have no idea why! I guess I am thinking great one more thing for him to obsess about... One more excuse to be a j...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

I feel like a sucker..ah has been out of rehab less than 1 wk and its like the movie Groundhog day. same behavior differnt month. I am not trying to do his inventory or tell him what to do I swear. He is again bugging me to tell his employer he is sick Monday at court I had another opportunity to have a restrain...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about step 4 and how it can be difficult for different reasons to take an inventory and be willing to get rid of character defects in ourselves. Sometimes we want to hold on to them, sometimes they are difficult to see. As the writer mentioned, looking at defects as...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I found a list yesterday that blew my mind. I had written it around 1 year ago, and it was a list of the "most important" things that I wanted to achieve. Now everything on the list was something that, at the time, I thought was unobtainable. It was, for me, a pie in the sky "wish list"...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hello Everyone, It's been awhile since I've posted. I'm trying to work through some feelings about a recent success. I've been doing my best to work my program by taking the next right action and letting go of the results in my work search efforts. Recently, I've had a lot of interviews and I've been of...

AlmaDaigle · AlmaDaigle

Today my therapist asked if I had ever thought about conducting an intervention. I just started crying and found it difficult to move forward with the conversation. I decided that it's not something I feel strong enough to do, not yet anyway. She told me that I should try watching an episode of Interve...

Confused2379 · Confused2379

I am feeling very emotional. I've dropped out of many clubs because of the pain and grief I am feeling. My ah told me to leave him alone. My adult children have told me to back off. I've gotten the message. Stay away!!! Stop talking!!! i was even told at alanon group there is no hope until I get it!! ...

Aloha · Aloha

This was shared at a meeting tonight where a member shared she was having a conversation with a friend and was asking about her relationship. Her friend's husband overheard the conversation and said to her "Ask yourself who you are and what do YOU want?" Isn't that amazing. I know I've hear...

4myboys · 4myboys

I finally unblocked my ah # and talked to him. I told him I started going to meetings and he said good for me. I was on my way to a meeting when he called so I told him I would call him back after. I did, I was not surprised when I called him back that he had been drinking. I didn't ask him or even mention it. He had th...

Jen61 · Jen61

I have only admitted this to one person, but I hardly left the house when the liquor store was open. I guess I thought in my twisted mind that if I was home from 11-7 all would be good. When I look back I think wow I really was the alcohol police. I don't do that anymore and it has given me such freedom. If he...

Truth · Truth

I am finally getting someone to come look at the water damage in my basement. It feels good to be able to be responsible. I am also going to start cleaning one room at a time for spring cleaning. One step at a time ....

missmeliss · missmeliss

Well I'm at the train station and it's early so I managed to get a park so good even I am struggling to find reasons to worry about it. But that's ok because before I left, after running around checking power points and checking windows (I thought I'd done away with the obsessive checking a long time ago, i...

Gailsy · Gailsy

Hi all, It has been a very long time since I signed in to this group. I had to set up a new account because I could not rememberr my password. I use to sign in as Gailey. Hopefully I could go back to my old account somehow and read my old posts. I would like to see how far I have come. I have recently retired and mov...

acey3303 · acey3303

After 2 years of sobriety, he started drinking again. I began attending alanon meetings to help with my anxiety and feelings of hopelessness. He has been sober for a few months but recently has started using again. I brought it up a few days ago and there was no fight or argument, he just simply stated th...

Dave38 · Dave38

i wanna go to meeting but I have no vehicle and the closest one is about half hour away. I recentmy got into a relationship with a man I simPly adore. I met him and he was great stolen my heart right away. Then he started drinking he had always been an alcoholicjust hid when we first met. He is not violent a dis...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

Good Morning All, this morning I ordered three books that my sponsors want me to have. As soon as they get here I can start working my steps. I had a nice weekend I went shopping for a dress for my son's wedding. I had brunch with a great friend who is going on vacation with us in August (like we do every...

hotrod · hotrod

Courage to Change today speaks about honoring our feelings. The reading points out that living with the disease of alcoholism many of us develop negative coping tools and that one of these tools is to ignore/ stuff our feelings and by so doing we become out of touch with our own souls. The meditation c...

Cooper · Cooper

Yesterday I got a phone call from the guy who was my best friend many years ago, he was even the best man in my wedding. I have seen him once in the last ten years at class reunion event and he was so drunk he was going from angry and belligerent one second to crying the next. He was one of the guys I was runnin...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

Hi MIP, I've seen several threads lately discussing the difficulties associated with an alcoholic spouse and young children in the home. Those of us with children, will always have the alcoholic in our lives, because they are the parent to our babies. As my two approach 9 and 11 - I am looking for way...

kathleen1212 · kathleen1212

This is all new to me. My mother has been an alcoholic for my whole life, I'm 36 now. She hasn't met my children who are three and five. I've always thought I could outrun her issues but it's really been bothering me lately. I'm beginning to think that her actions are affecting my life. Will alanon hel...

missmeliss · missmeliss

She had already picked out a gift and had it put aside and has been saving to buy it. Which explains where the change from the bus money I give her every day keeps magically dissapearing to lol. So I will look forward to being pleasantly surprised and remember not to try to control the universe

I sure di...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about listening to the" still small voice within" and acting on the guidance we hear. It suggests that many times logic will tell us to act in one way and that small voice would suggest a different path. And by lowly listening and acting on the gu...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Had to rush down to court to help ah explain his situation. I did this voluntarily. By appearing before the judge, AH was given additional fines for missing court date, 10 more comunity service,3 yr probation and a 1yr manditory domestic violence class to take. The only concession,if i told judge i fe...

LinSC · LinSC

I would love to stop saying that in my mind and take more action little by little day by day. In pursuing this frame of mind I read a great, simple but powerful phrase, it was a "Duh"! moment for me. "HOW WE SPEND OUR TIME IS HOW WE SPEND OUR LIVES" Simple enough for me, but also though...

Tara1970 · Tara1970

Hello,My Husband recently was flown to Tucson medical for what they thought was a heart attack or a stroke. We still have no idea what it was but he has always drank but now it has gotten worse and i'm having a very hard time dealing with it. we went to the doctor today he was told the alcohol is playing a...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

You know I was pretty down a month ago when I posted here but received great ESH which pulled me out of that hole. Thank you all One of the things I needed to know was my son's feeling so when I visited last I asked. Here is what he said: Mom....I have no depression or anxiety, it was mostly due to my drinking...

LoveNHope · LoveNHope

Hi, I'm a newbie at this. I have never dated anyone who has had a drug or alcohol problem. I'm 38, have my stuff together and was fixed up with someone who was in recovery for 4 mos. I have fallen head over heals for him and is the best man I have ever been with. It has not been very long that we have been togeth...

runningwife · runningwife

Hello, My husband is an alcoholic. He recently acknowledges this and has went to 1 meeting at AA (thought he says 3). He has had a drinking problem for years and I finally had enough about 5 months ago and said something. He has hidden his drinking from me for years. Hiding the bottles in the pantry, his tr...

Bean · Bean

OK, I had no idea where to turn to. I have been in a relationship for the past 9.5 years with a serious alcoholic. I have watched him medi vacked 2x, driven by ambulance, driven him, etc. etc. to detox centers only to be lied to once again -that this x it was it. I guess I am closing this book for good. He is...

John · John

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for today, March 19 stresses the importance of facing life one day at a time. It states that Al-Anon is a 24 hour program and that this gives us the comfort of knowing that we need not burden ourselves with the woes of the pastor fears of the future. Remembering that today is our sole conc...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for today speaks about the Al-Anon fourth step, bookL":Blueprint for Progress."and explained the chapter which is entitled self-worth. The meditation points out that we have probably always measured our self-worth and value by our accomplishment or what others have t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi All, I think that I have been making progress with detaching, with not engaging, with not arguing, and with setting boundaries. I remember some people said that my wife would probably react negatively to this at first, and I sure am seeing that now. I think, for the last few weeks, that I was just se...

el-cee · el-cee

Here in the uk there are a few different news channels, there is one that is pretty dire, like a tabloid newspaper, sensationalist and dramatic, another presents itself as serious and balanced but it skirts the issues, ignores or only just touches on the important stuff. Then there is channel 4, its l...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I am getting close to a settlement and divorce. Ah is finally getting ready to deal. He would not before hoping he could squeeze me. I am a lot stronger now and standing my ground. I was the wild card He was hoping to take advantage Of And push around. I have a good Divorce lawyer. I am still being lenient bu...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I was born like all of you in a pure, natural state, borned perfectly as God wanted me to be out of His vision for me and His love for me. I was also born into an emotionally dishonest and dysfunctional family and society. Although I cannot remember it, probably by the time I was 4, I had learned what to do in o...

4myboys · 4myboys

Today is a not so good day. I keep replaying the last few conversations me and my ah had. It's driving me insane. What if I made a mistake leaving? What if he really was trying to make things work? What if I'm wrong? Everyday I have a storm of emotions racing through me. But mostly regret. Just 3 weeks ago he d...

marska57 · marska57

I am familiar with the Al-Anon and AA principles as I have gone through this with my ex-husband-- but I need advice on how to introduce my youngest daughter (25- who I will call EM) and my (current) husband (DH) to these principles to help them cope with JM. When I was actively involved with Al-Anon I wen...

Mike B · Mike B

Good morning, New to Alanon, but not MIP. Well, the struggles of my teens(2) drug use has worn me down. I removed my daughter from my house on 1/1/2015. My sons(16) use progressed to a daily basis. The symptoms are all there: lying, isolating, anger and his world getting smaller. He can't wait for me t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Under the topic of graduation: My committee members, time, date, and location are set, and after spending an hour with a writing tutor, I now have great (or at least better) chapter titles! Yay!

pinkchip · pinkchip

Sometimes it actually helps me to view myself as the star of my own reality show. It may sound conceited but it helps in some ways if I think: 1. This is my show so I better make it interesting. 2. Each day is a new episode and the plot can change and get better each week. 3. I'm the star and producer so I can...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Well, Monday. I remind myself first what I said about the reading this morning. I cannot expect perfection from myself, and steps in the right direction are successes. I also cannot expect perfection from my wife, and steps in the right direction, like not drinking over the weekend, are also success...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

AH CAME HOME FROM REHAB LAST NIGHT. OUR INSURANCE WOULDNT ALLOW MORE THAN 30 DAYS AND WE CANT AFFORD A FANCY PRIVATE REHAB. I FEEL KINDA STRANGE WHICH MY SPONSER SAID I WOULD. TRYING TO USE THE SKILLS/TOOLS I LEARN AT ALANON. I FEEL KINDA NUMB ABOUT HIM..MAYBE I JUST NEED SOME TIME TO SEE THAT HE IS DOING HI...

Helpangel · Helpangel

Good morning everyone. I just need to rant my ah has been sober about 100 days. Up until 2 weeks ago I has set to leave him. I went crying to our therapist and mad as heck and told her that is it. He was grumpy and mean everyday and I just couldn't take it anymore. Amazingly she met with him the next day and he cha...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Things have been so crazy busy lately, some in a good way some in a not so good way. My life feels a little like a I Love Lucy Reboot 2015 probably PG13/R version. Seriously if this hadn't happened to me I wouldn't believe it. A couple weekends ago I left my house without children in it for once and headed...

texann1 · texann1

you can't hold someone down without staying down with them.

Luiza · Luiza

So after 6 months separation and after all he put me through, exAH sends me a txt last night saying: "I miss you" Well he didn't miss me during my pregnancy when I was lonely and down all the time, worrying myself sick about our future and finances whilst he was either drinking at the pub or slee...

4myboys · 4myboys

I recently made the choice of ending my relationship with my husband of 18 years. He is an alcoholic. I feel like I have failed and given up on him. I couldn't take the drinking anymore. After all these years of everything we lost and abuse,lying,binges and worst of all constantly putting our kids in dan...

John · John

John · John

create a world of gratitude...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	C2C 3-25 (Preview) Great topic in the Courage to Change today. It speaks about being confused over what are our responsibilities and what is another's. It states that we are responsible to be; Loyal to our values, to please ourselves first; to keep an open mind; to detach with love; to rid ourselves of anger and resentme...	hotrod	3	516	Mar 25, 2015 by ntd2001
	Still struggling with the dysfunctional co worker (Preview) I am still struggling, any experience strength and hope is appreciated. Last week, my wonderful student was working with me all week, she was in spring break. We got all kinds of work done, old papers boxed up, some thrown away dating back to 2000. DC was not there until Friday. She followed me around lo...	mercedes1959	5	741	Mar 25, 2015 by mercedes1959
	what has alanon given you? (Preview) Alanon has given me a life worth living. It sounds like an exageration, too good to be true but it has given me tools to see clearly the facts of my life and to accept them and take action to change things to make my life better, this in turn has made things better for my whole family. The three c's, awareness...	el-cee	12	952	Mar 25, 2015 by Skorpi
	life is short, what are you waiting on? (Preview) Alanon has taught me that life is for living, not merely existing, not putting up with unacceptable behaviour and sitting stuck in self pity waiting for a knight in shining armour to come and solve all my problems. The time for living my life is now, today. Taking pleasure and enjoying each day the bes...	el-cee	4	994	Mar 25, 2015 by rainbow
	C2C 3-23 (Preview) Courage to Change reading for March 23rd speaks about the deep pain and sadness over the dashed hopes broken dreams that dwells deep within us after living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that Al-Anon helps us to face these destructive painful emotions of the past. We can best face th...	hotrod	8	607	Mar 25, 2015 by hotrod
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Silence; Responsibility; Choices The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, port...	shimo	0	332	Mar 25, 2015 by shimo
	Just wanted to share this (Preview) It's been up and down the last 7 to 8 years with my alcoholic wife, and the downs have been pretty low. Back before Christmas this past year, I almost walked away after another relapse. She has been sober since that time, attending regular meetings, and she has finally found a great therapist that see...	elmo7	3	617	Mar 25, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Bandmate smokes Weed all the time...has had sudden rage at me...trying to learn how to not be affected by moods and rage (Preview) Hello, I've decided to post on here on the urging of my ex-girlfriend telling me I need Al-Anon. I am a musician, working fulltime in the music business. I got sober almost four years ago now. It wasn't easy. I am surrounded by alcohol and people smoking weed and occasionally taking cocaine and E. One of...	needtolearnhow	9	636	Mar 25, 2015 by yanksfan51
	Reflection on a blessing in disguise (Preview) Since my AH put our lives at risk by drinking and driving and flipping our car, and my job loss, I have found more peace and passion than I have ever had. These events opened my eyes to some hard truths that I have been ignoring- my unprofessional behavior at work, lack of motivation to take care of myself a...	Bloodshotbetty	4	831	Mar 24, 2015 by hotrod
	Baby Steps but feeling very positive (Preview) Since my A moved out things have been so much better for me! We are still close, even going on dates here and there. We are able to share feelings about our relationship and about just plain old life without his temper running high. He is staying on an even keel when around me, as was our agreement. He i...	GreenerGal	4	578	Mar 24, 2015 by hotrod
	110 days sober and my ah tells me he thinks he is bipolar (Preview) My ah is trying to stay sober and is going to therapy and taking his drugs. He thinks he is bipolar and I kinda new it but for some reason it worries me more now that he realizes it and that it is out and I have no idea why! I guess I am thinking great one more thing for him to obsess about... One more excuse to be a j...	Helpangel	8	808	Mar 24, 2015 by Helpangel
	Angry (Preview) I feel like a sucker..ah has been out of rehab less than 1 wk and its like the movie Groundhog day. same behavior differnt month. I am not trying to do his inventory or tell him what to do I swear. He is again bugging me to tell his employer he is sick Monday at court I had another opportunity to have a restrain...	YARNCRAZY	9	692	Mar 24, 2015 by krwlvt
	HFT Mar 24 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about step 4 and how it can be difficult for different reasons to take an inventory and be willing to get rid of character defects in ourselves. Sometimes we want to hold on to them, sometimes they are difficult to see. As the writer mentioned, looking at defects as...	yanksfan51	6	651	Mar 24, 2015 by ntd2001
	The List (Preview) I found a list yesterday that blew my mind. I had written it around 1 year ago, and it was a list of the "most important" things that I wanted to achieve. Now everything on the list was something that, at the time, I thought was unobtainable. It was, for me, a pie in the sky "wish list"...	missmeliss	7	574	Mar 24, 2015 by Jen61
	Accepting the Good Feelings (Preview) Hello Everyone, It's been awhile since I've posted. I'm trying to work through some feelings about a recent success. I've been doing my best to work my program by taking the next right action and letting go of the results in my work search efforts. Recently, I've had a lot of interviews and I've been of...	tiredtonite	4	682	Mar 24, 2015 by Skorpi
	Intervention? (Preview) Today my therapist asked if I had ever thought about conducting an intervention. I just started crying and found it difficult to move forward with the conversation. I decided that it's not something I feel strong enough to do, not yet anyway. She told me that I should try watching an episode of Interve...	AlmaDaigle	9	1129	Mar 24, 2015 by AlmaDaigle
	Isolation (Preview) I am feeling very emotional. I've dropped out of many clubs because of the pain and grief I am feeling. My ah told me to leave him alone. My adult children have told me to back off. I've gotten the message. Stay away!!! Stop talking!!! i was even told at alanon group there is no hope until I get it!! ...	Confused2379	24	869	Mar 24, 2015 by Confused2379
	"Who are you and what do you want?" (Preview) This was shared at a meeting tonight where a member shared she was having a conversation with a friend and was asking about her relationship. Her friend's husband overheard the conversation and said to her "Ask yourself who you are and what do YOU want?" Isn't that amazing. I know I've hear...	Aloha	6	958	Mar 24, 2015 by andromeda
	keeping me down (Preview) I finally unblocked my ah # and talked to him. I told him I started going to meetings and he said good for me. I was on my way to a meeting when he called so I told him I would call him back after. I did, I was not surprised when I called him back that he had been drinking. I didn't ask him or even mention it. He had th...	4myboys	8	564	Mar 24, 2015 by yanksfan51
	I can leave the house anytime I want and not feel nervous (Preview) I have only admitted this to one person, but I hardly left the house when the liquor store was open. I guess I thought in my twisted mind that if I was home from 11-7 all would be good. When I look back I think wow I really was the alcohol police. I don't do that anymore and it has given me such freedom. If he...	Jen61	4	541	Mar 24, 2015 by el-cee
	What are you doing for you today? (Preview) I am finally getting someone to come look at the water damage in my basement. It feels good to be able to be responsible. I am also going to start cleaning one room at a time for spring cleaning. One step at a time ....	Truth	10	637	Mar 24, 2015 by mercedes1959
	slogan me up peeps (Preview) Well I'm at the train station and it's early so I managed to get a park so good even I am struggling to find reasons to worry about it. But that's ok because before I left, after running around checking power points and checking windows (I thought I'd done away with the obsessive checking a long time ago, i...	missmeliss	12	853	Mar 23, 2015 by Irish7
	Happy to log on (Preview) Hi all, It has been a very long time since I signed in to this group. I had to set up a new account because I could not rememberr my password. I use to sign in as Gailey. Hopefully I could go back to my old account somehow and read my old posts. I would like to see how far I have come. I have recently retired and mov...	Gailsy	4	697	Mar 23, 2015 by Jen61
	I need support (Preview) After 2 years of sobriety, he started drinking again. I began attending alanon meetings to help with my anxiety and feelings of hopelessness. He has been sober for a few months but recently has started using again. I brought it up a few days ago and there was no fight or argument, he just simply stated th...	acey3303	12	724	Mar 23, 2015 by Jen61
	I don't know what to do (Preview) i wanna go to meeting but I have no vehicle and the closest one is about half hour away. I recentmy got into a relationship with a man I simPly adore. I met him and he was great stolen my heart right away. Then he started drinking he had always been an alcoholicjust hid when we first met. He is not violent a dis...	Dave38	7	714	Mar 23, 2015 by Jen61
	Happy Monday... (Preview) Good Morning All, this morning I ordered three books that my sponsors want me to have. As soon as they get here I can start working my steps. I had a nice weekend I went shopping for a dress for my son's wedding. I had brunch with a great friend who is going on vacation with us in August (like we do every...	ladybugnessa	2	553	Mar 23, 2015 by el-cee
	C2C 3-22 (Preview) Courage to Change today speaks about honoring our feelings. The reading points out that living with the disease of alcoholism many of us develop negative coping tools and that one of these tools is to ignore/ stuff our feelings and by so doing we become out of touch with our own souls. The meditation c...	hotrod	3	374	Mar 22, 2015 by ntd2001
	Asked to be a sponsor for an alcoholic (Preview) Yesterday I got a phone call from the guy who was my best friend many years ago, he was even the best man in my wedding. I have seen him once in the last ten years at class reunion event and he was so drunk he was going from angry and belligerent one second to crying the next. He was one of the guys I was runnin...	Cooper	6	761	Mar 22, 2015 by hotrod
	For those of us with young children (Preview) Hi MIP, I've seen several threads lately discussing the difficulties associated with an alcoholic spouse and young children in the home. Those of us with children, will always have the alcoholic in our lives, because they are the parent to our babies. As my two approach 9 and 11 - I am looking for way...	LedfootJenny	10	578	Mar 22, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Looking for help (Preview) This is all new to me. My mother has been an alcoholic for my whole life, I'm 36 now. She hasn't met my children who are three and five. I've always thought I could outrun her issues but it's really been bothering me lately. I'm beginning to think that her actions are affecting my life. Will alanon hel...	kathleen1212	3	440	Mar 22, 2015 by hotrod
	Plot twist. (Preview) She had already picked out a gift and had it put aside and has been saving to buy it. Which explains where the change from the bus money I give her every day keeps magically dissapearing to lol. So I will look forward to being pleasantly surprised and remember not to try to control the universe I sure di...	missmeliss	3	388	Mar 21, 2015 by DavidG
	C2C 3-21 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about listening to the" still small voice within" and acting on the guidance we hear. It suggests that many times logic will tell us to act in one way and that small voice would suggest a different path. And by lowly listening and acting on the gu...	hotrod	2	377	Mar 21, 2015 by hotrod
	CRAZY COURT DAY (Preview) Had to rush down to court to help ah explain his situation. I did this voluntarily. By appearing before the judge, AH was given additional fines for missing court date, 10 more comunity service,3 yr probation and a 1yr manditory domestic violence class to take. The only concession,if i told judge i fe...	YARNCRAZY	3	457	Mar 21, 2015 by hotrod
	"Someday" (Preview) I would love to stop saying that in my mind and take more action little by little day by day. In pursuing this frame of mind I read a great, simple but powerful phrase, it was a "Duh"! moment for me. "HOW WE SPEND OUR TIME IS HOW WE SPEND OUR LIVES" Simple enough for me, but also though...	LinSC	2	422	Mar 21, 2015 by ntd2001
	Hello Im new to Al-Anon (Preview) Hello,My Husband recently was flown to Tucson medical for what they thought was a heart attack or a stroke. We still have no idea what it was but he has always drank but now it has gotten worse and i'm having a very hard time dealing with it. we went to the doctor today he was told the alcohol is playing a...	Tara1970	5	2735	Mar 21, 2015 by ntd2001
	Hi Everyone (Preview) You know I was pretty down a month ago when I posted here but received great ESH which pulled me out of that hole. Thank you all One of the things I needed to know was my son's feeling so when I visited last I asked. Here is what he said: Mom....I have no depression or anxiety, it was mostly due to my drinking...	Cathyinaz	6	558	Mar 21, 2015 by ntd2001
	Fell in love w a recovered who relapsed (Preview) Hi, I'm a newbie at this. I have never dated anyone who has had a drug or alcohol problem. I'm 38, have my stuff together and was fixed up with someone who was in recovery for 4 mos. I have fallen head over heals for him and is the best man I have ever been with. It has not been very long that we have been togeth...	LoveNHope	18	883	Mar 21, 2015 by Truth
	Seeking help (Preview) Hello, My husband is an alcoholic. He recently acknowledges this and has went to 1 meeting at AA (thought he says 3). He has had a drinking problem for years and I finally had enough about 5 months ago and said something. He has hidden his drinking from me for years. Hiding the bottles in the pantry, his tr...	runningwife	5	745	Mar 21, 2015 by runningwife
	Seeking Relief (Preview) OK, I had no idea where to turn to. I have been in a relationship for the past 9.5 years with a serious alcoholic. I have watched him medi vacked 2x, driven by ambulance, driven him, etc. etc. to detox centers only to be lied to once again -that this x it was it. I guess I am closing this book for good. He is...	Bean	2	469	Mar 21, 2015 by Mirandac
	When I'm not treating my dis-ease I be like.... (Preview)	John	3	431	Mar 20, 2015 by a4l
	ODAT/ C2C 3-19 (Preview) The ODA T reading for today, March 19 stresses the importance of facing life one day at a time. It states that Al-Anon is a 24 hour program and that this gives us the comfort of knowing that we need not burden ourselves with the woes of the pastor fears of the future. Remembering that today is our sole conc...	hotrod	6	665	Mar 20, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C 3-20 (Preview) C2C reading for today speaks about the Al-Anon fourth step, bookL":Blueprint for Progress."and explained the chapter which is entitled self-worth. The meditation points out that we have probably always measured our self-worth and value by our accomplishment or what others have t...	hotrod	2	478	Mar 20, 2015 by hotrod
	Getting worse before it gets better? (Preview) Hi All, I think that I have been making progress with detaching, with not engaging, with not arguing, and with setting boundaries. I remember some people said that my wife would probably react negatively to this at first, and I sure am seeing that now. I think, for the last few weeks, that I was just se...	Skorpi	4	591	Mar 20, 2015 by Skorpi
	two tone world (Preview) Here in the uk there are a few different news channels, there is one that is pretty dire, like a tabloid newspaper, sensationalist and dramatic, another presents itself as serious and balanced but it skirts the issues, ignores or only just touches on the important stuff. Then there is channel 4, its l...	el-cee	1	342	Mar 20, 2015 by hotrod
	Getting close (Preview) I am getting close to a settlement and divorce. Ah is finally getting ready to deal. He would not before hoping he could squeeze me. I am a lot stronger now and standing my ground. I was the wild card He was hoping to take advantage Of And push around. I have a good Divorce lawyer. I am still being lenient bu...	Mirandac	8	611	Mar 20, 2015 by el-cee
	What is the "problem", really? (Preview) I was born like all of you in a pure, natural state, borned perfectly as God wanted me to be out of His vision for me and His love for me. I was also born into an emotionally dishonest and dysfunctional family and society. Although I cannot remember it, probably by the time I was 4, I had learned what to do in o...	WorkingThroughIt	4	521	Mar 20, 2015 by WorkingThroughIt
	what if? (Preview) Today is a not so good day. I keep replaying the last few conversations me and my ah had. It's driving me insane. What if I made a mistake leaving? What if he really was trying to make things work? What if I'm wrong? Everyday I have a storm of emotions racing through me. But mostly regret. Just 3 weeks ago he d...	4myboys	7	536	Mar 20, 2015 by Mattie
	My 30 yr old daughter JM is an alcoholic (Preview) I am familiar with the Al-Anon and AA principles as I have gone through this with my ex-husband-- but I need advice on how to introduce my youngest daughter (25- who I will call EM) and my (current) husband (DH) to these principles to help them cope with JM. When I was actively involved with Al-Anon I wen...	marska57	4	509	Mar 20, 2015 by WorkingThroughIt
	Teens (Preview) Good morning, New to Alanon, but not MIP. Well, the struggles of my teens(2) drug use has worn me down. I removed my daughter from my house on 1/1/2015. My sons(16) use progressed to a daily basis. The symptoms are all there: lying, isolating, anger and his world getting smaller. He can't wait for me t...	Mike B	6	789	Mar 20, 2015 by Irish7
	Success for the Day! (Preview) Under the topic of graduation: My committee members, time, date, and location are set, and after spending an hour with a writing tutor, I now have great (or at least better) chapter titles! Yay!	Skorpi	3	439	Mar 20, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	The me show (Preview) Sometimes it actually helps me to view myself as the star of my own reality show. It may sound conceited but it helps in some ways if I think: 1. This is my show so I better make it interesting. 2. Each day is a new episode and the plot can change and get better each week. 3. I'm the star and producer so I can...	pinkchip	13	671	Mar 19, 2015 by Fairlee
	THAT second shoe was unexpected... (Preview) Well, Monday. I remind myself first what I said about the reading this morning. I cannot expect perfection from myself, and steps in the right direction are successes. I also cannot expect perfection from my wife, and steps in the right direction, like not drinking over the weekend, are also success...	Skorpi	16	902	Mar 19, 2015 by Mirandac
	AH CAME HOME FROM REHAB (Preview) AH CAME HOME FROM REHAB LAST NIGHT. OUR INSURANCE WOULDNT ALLOW MORE THAN 30 DAYS AND WE CANT AFFORD A FANCY PRIVATE REHAB. I FEEL KINDA STRANGE WHICH MY SPONSER SAID I WOULD. TRYING TO USE THE SKILLS/TOOLS I LEARN AT ALANON. I FEEL KINDA NUMB ABOUT HIM..MAYBE I JUST NEED SOME TIME TO SEE THAT HE IS DOING HI...	YARNCRAZY	5	765	Mar 19, 2015 by Skorpi
	Dry drunk (Preview) Good morning everyone. I just need to rant my ah has been sober about 100 days. Up until 2 weeks ago I has set to leave him. I went crying to our therapist and mad as heck and told her that is it. He was grumpy and mean everyday and I just couldn't take it anymore. Amazingly she met with him the next day and he cha...	Helpangel	5	597	Mar 19, 2015 by hotrod
	What do I mean by having a life :) (Preview) Things have been so crazy busy lately, some in a good way some in a not so good way. My life feels a little like a I Love Lucy Reboot 2015 probably PG13/R version. Seriously if this hadn't happened to me I wouldn't believe it. A couple weekends ago I left my house without children in it for once and headed...	SerenityRUS	3	700	Mar 19, 2015 by Skorpi
	forgiveness (Preview) you can't hold someone down without staying down with them.	texann1	8	946	Mar 19, 2015 by hotrod
	I miss you…. (Preview) So after 6 months separation and after all he put me through, exAH sends me a txt last night saying: "I miss you" Well he didn't miss me during my pregnancy when I was lonely and down all the time, worrying myself sick about our future and finances whilst he was either drinking at the pub or slee...	Luiza	7	650	Mar 18, 2015 by pinkchip
	Lost (Preview) I recently made the choice of ending my relationship with my husband of 18 years. He is an alcoholic. I feel like I have failed and given up on him. I couldn't take the drinking anymore. After all these years of everything we lost and abuse,lying,binges and worst of all constantly putting our kids in dan...	4myboys	12	787	Mar 18, 2015 by Jaclyn
	News Flash!! (Preview)	John	2	496	Mar 18, 2015 by el-cee
	Combine all the goodies in your life... (Preview) create a world of gratitude...	John	1	418	Mar 18, 2015 by hotrod
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