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Thank you, I just got another offer for that G company the Christain guy who wanted to hire me away from M and G. Listen, I want you back. I am making the effort not to date anyone because my sponcer says I shouldn't. You have to tell me what you want. Because I know you are trying to get dates online, so I thinkit is wrong as we are married and it is adultry until you are devorced ( I know you see it diferent, you are wrong!!!!!
I wish he would just find someone else instead of pushing me! ANYONE WANT A DATE??????? I'm so desperately looking;...... LMAO
How long has this guy been in recovery? And why? What is his motivation? And why is he holding it over your head? It's not your business that he's sober. It's his sobriety.
If I were you I would block his email and inform him that if he wants to speak to you it has to be f2f on neutral ground. that means he can't come to the house, your meetings, to the kids play dates (if the judge has been that gracious considering his B&E episode). It means you meet at Starbucks for no more than 30 minutes, talk about what you need to talk about, then leave.
This guy's gotta get a life. Controlling you ain't it.
i know you've seen that crafty manipulation before -- could've and did fool us before we got some tools, didn't they!!! as for the email, i probably would've REACTED (bad bad cj) and sent an email telling him/her any communication needs to be made through my attorney... at his/her expense. and since he asked what you want, well, hmm. i'm sure there's an old laundry list of things you are looking for in a spouse just laying around -- you could have him check the boxes of those character traits he possesses -- then tell'em his answer will be processed in line with the others... hehe
toodles!
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
North Carolina requires a 1 year separation before filing AND all of the details are worked out in a separation agreement (there will be no agreement on this...)
ALSO.. There is absolutely NO WAY that I can afford an attorney!!! There is no judge, no lawyer, no friend, no big guy down the street to call.
HISTORY...Last time we split up (about 3 years ago) I met a guy online and we dated for about 2 months. I imagine this is where the fear of me adulterating comes from. I used to hate being alone, I have since decided that I never want to get married again and like my freedom/lonlienss just fine (although a few real live friends would be nice). LOL
The my sponsor told me not to thing really irked me too... We had a conversation on the way home from Christmas about how he had to beat the AA girls off with a stick and I told him go ahead and date them, maybe then you can see what it feels like and laughed at the prospect...
I know in the state I live in you can file yourself or hire a paralegal, way less money. Hang in there and be gentle with yourself (sounds like you are) You can always block that incoming email if you don't want to accept anymore....just an idea.
