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Hello, my name is Elly and I am an Adult Child of an alcoholic.
He hasn't been in my life for 34 years now. But the effects of his alcoholism have been with me daily throughout my life. And, I've only now - in the last few weeks - discovered this!!!
I married and divorced an alcoholic, I dated two, and I just ended a 2 1/2 year relationship with another alcoholic who has been sober and in recovery for a year now.
All my adult life, I knew I had defected coping skills and problems with intimacy, but it was through a book lent to me by my sister, Women Who Love Too Much, that I realized why. It was also that book that lead me to Al-Anon.
I have now found Al-Anon and feel hope for my future and for my children's future. The sincere acceptance I felt at that meeting thru me for a loop and I think, for the first time in my life, I felt like I truly BELONGED!!
I've been here reading posts for a few weeks, but am now ready to share, offer my support, and ask for yours. And I know I will find comfort here.
Welcome to MIP! I am also an ACOA and have been through many relationships with A's. Have you been to any face to face meetings yet? Those really helped me the most. Keep coming back. It works if you work it and your worth it!
I have saw you in chat a few times this week, And I apologize I have not gotten around to speaking to you. But It will make you smile to know I am also an ACOA, I can relate to what you are saying, and probly the life you have lived. You have came Into the right place for you Elly. These people In here are totally, MAD, CRAZY, NUTJOBS, lol. I love each and everyone of them In a different way.
They bring something very SPECIAL Into my life, something that has been missing for a very long time. Someone told me I have gaps in my life I need to fill. Well, these lot fill one of those gaps.
Ally Is only who she Is today because she found all these wonderful people. And I am reminded of that every day, as soon as I enter this chat room.
Stay with us Elly, It will change your life for the better, you will start to look farward to your future, and slowly let go ouf your past.
Welcome to MIP...this is an awesome board with terrific people. Although our situtations are all different we share alot in common. This is where you do belong. I know how wonderful it is to finally find where we belong. It's such a relief to know we are not alone in our struggles and there are people who do understand. I'm glad you found us. I start my day with the meetings and reading the board and it really helps me get thru my day. Know that things will get better.
Thankyou all for the warm welcomes. I know YOU know how much they mean!
I feel I'm moving forward. I feel so enlightened! I am SOOOO embracing this 'Discovery of Myself'! I'm VERY new to Al Anon...have only been to one f2f meeting, but it was astoundingly rewarding to me and I am hooked!
I'm slowly getting to know my way around here. Wish more people would write in their biographies tho! But have been doing a lot of reading and learning....I can't seem to get enough right now. Some posts have been particularly painful for me to write, but I am proud of myself that I am able to! It's a start.
Ally, I've seen you in chat too. We'll get to know one another, I'm sure :) For now, I'm just popping in & trying to get a 'feel' of things....quietly and without notice (Sound familiar???!!) *chuckle* And yes, I did get some comfort knowing that you (and Julia) are also ACoA. It's so nice to know I'm NOT alone!!
Here's another ACOA for ya! Gosh they're everywhere!!! M<y father was an A; my first husband an A and then turned drug dealer; and now I have children who are A's and drug addicts.
Al-anon literally saved my life. I stumbled into a f2f just after attending a funeral for my sister who had committed suicide, my son living with me diagnosed as bipolar/schizo /drug and A addict. I truly was ready to chuck it all; I was in such deep pain!!! I still have pain, but with the help of Al-anon and the 12 steps and my sponsors and my Al-anon "family", I am learning to take one day at a time ..... making tons of gratitude lists so I don't lose sight of what is still good in my world.
M<y father was an A; my first husband an A and then turned drug dealer; and now I have children who are A's and drug addicts.