The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Thank you, to everyone for all your lovely words of encouragement. This is probably the hardest thing I have had to deal with in my life (I thought childbirth was - boy I was way wrong ).
Just wanted to let everyone know that he came home on Saturday night, I dropped our son off at my parents (just in case it got crazy). We talked.. and talked... and cried... and yelled... you know the drill... I gave him an ultimatum... the drinking or "us" (his family). I never got a straight answer.... I got " this is not fair... why do I have to give up something." I gave it right back... "this is not fair for "us" to struggle and go without because you chose to be selfish and take from your family." Now I am not going to say it turned out good or he ended up in AA (cause he didn't). But he did not drink on Sunday (it was NASCAR and football day- he did not even leave the house) ... day by day, right? That is what I keeping telling myself.
I am trying to stay positive and keep the negative away and out of my mind, though it is so hard to let go of the past and all the empty promises... does it get easier... I know it does, it did for my mother, but that was after years of my father being sober... I wish I had a magic wand to take all the pain, anxiety and wonderment out of this whole process and fight.
Well... thanks to everyone for all your encouragement. I love that I found this board! It's almost as if it has given me back my sanity... I can sit here and vent and get it out of my head and my heart... it's a relief that this is out here! I will need all the support I can get! And trust me you will see a whole heck of a lot of me these days...
Well done! I would really encourage you to find meetings and like you said keep posting here. There is a trick to this whole disease. You made a point, you got him to think about it. But the disease is cunning, and is not going to like him thinking about it for long.
(Isn't that crazy, sounds like I am talking about aliens - LOL)
Truth is, he may just quit and that will be the end of it. Most people who have a problem just simply can't do that without help. The important thing is for you to be healthy. This program can really help with that.
If you think it helps in a crisis, wait til you just simply use it to grow.
Keep taking care of you, and thanks for sharing.
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
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