Terrified, please help. - Al-Anon Family Group

Miranda · Veteran Member

Terrified, please help.

serendipity · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((((((mira)))))))))

you are going to get thru this and you are going to be ok. you don't have to "do" anything. when i am feeling ovewhelmed i say a prayer or 2 or ten. i try my hardest to focus on what is good and true and if i can't i just sit with what i am feeling. a's seem to be masters at detatchment ( not with love). maybe even men in general....even fathers. i don't know the details but it sounds like some pretty deep pain. just know that you are loved and you will get thru this. all of this...much luck and love....

Diva · ~*Service Worker*~

Mira, breathe deeply and remember...you'll be okay. Admittedly this is a lousy time for you, but all will work out. Try to relax and trust that the answers will come. I wish I could magically make this all better for you. I'll send you a tight hug and keep you in my prayers.

((((((((((((((((((Mira))))))))))))))))))))

With love and concern, Diva

doxie · Senior Member

(((((Mira)))))

I wish I could make this all better for you, but I can't.

You will make it through this. Take it one day, one minute or even one second at a time.

You came to the right place. There is lots of support here. We care what happens to you.

Doxie

purpleraven · Veteran Member

i'm not familiar with your situation but just wanted to send you {{{safe, tight hugs}}} and good thoughts and prayers, and i hope you'll keep posting so you can share a little of your burden with us.

Tammy · Senior Member

Take a deep breathe and remember we are all sending good thoughts and prayers your way... Take care of yourself and one day at a time or a minute at a time if you have to... Whatever it takes to get you thru the tough days until brighter days appear.. They will appear ya know, you may not think so right now but they are coming just hang in there..

You are in my thoughts and prayers

Tammy

Zyperiris · Veteran Member

Ya know I have had some very lonely times. I was very codependent and I had to learn to be on my own. It was not easy. After my husband dumped me I realized I had no identity of my own. Everything I was was tied up in being his wife. I had no clue what I liked and what I didn't. I figured it out. What you do have, is something so much more than anyone else can give you. You have yourself. You will not give up on you nor abandon you. Take you out. Take you to a movie. Make you a nice dinner..just for you. Sounds corny but that Whitney Houston song.."I found the greatest love inside of me". Look at it this way... when you are hurting think of your cup as being cracked and you are leaking...that cup will not runneth over, will not be able to share until the leaking is fixed. The leaking take time to heal. But when it does you will find a new love and have something to give. Spend time doing for you. Do something nice for you. It will feel good and be very empowering. You are not alone. Hugs to you darlin.

artygirl · Senior Member

Mira,
I'm sorry you're going through this. It sounds to me like you may not have a place to stay. Do you have some friends you can call or stay with? My situation is entirely different but I've found that my friends have been very helpful. Remember that when most people say things like "let me know if there's anything I can do for you"... they usually mean it! I've learned to ask my friends or family for things and I make sure I thank them or repay them in some way.

Keep us posted. You'll be in my thoughts.
Artygirl

paula Q · Newbie

Dear Mira,

I have been through very similar circumstances and really empathise with you. I threw myself head first into al anon literature and asked for help.

I know it's really hard but try to be good to yourself and remember what you do have to be grateful for, you're aware, you're sober(there but for the grace of God) you have courage (I had to move out of my grandparent's house because my grandfather started drinking.) you have your brothers-it sounds like you're close-even though they're moving-, you have your al anon friends and your higher power's love.

Stick in there, one day, hour or minute at a time. We're never given more than we can carry though your load is heavy now it will get better.

Please be good to yourself, give the same love that you would give to your best friend in the same situation.

paula x

Jeannie · ~*Service Worker*~

((((((Mira))))))))

I'm not trying to make light of this, but try not to think of everything at once. When we look at the big picture things get to be too much.

Find a place to stay temporarily and keep praying. You will be okay.

Love Jeannie

Maria123 · ~*Service Worker*~

((((((((((((((((((Miranda)))))))))))))))))))))),

There are no quick easy fixes honey. Keep coming. Get to an Alanon meeting and keep attending. I wish it were different. The 12 steps, this board, meetings and chat are all there for the taking hon.

Love you,
Maria

peewee · Senior Member

Hugs to you Mira. I offer the same as all the others...one minute at a time, take stock of your blessings, pray, be still a minute.

I hope you can get to face to face meetings too, and always remember we are here to listen and encourage.

Peewee

hersh · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Mira)))

It sounds like you are in a panic mode, and believe me, I was there last week and it will subside a little. Take some time to just sit still and quit thinking. Rest and sleep if you can. Go outside into the fresh air, take a walk and just breathe deeply. This will pass.

Your HP is with you and we are all here sending prayers and good thoughts for you. Believe me the face to face meetings help also. Isolation is not a good thing at a time like this, and like Artygirl said, your friends are there for you. We need support from people at a time like this.

I wish you love and prayers and lots of (((((hugs)))))

Love,

HeidiXXXX

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