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I have to tell you it is like a light went on inside my head. I think I get it!!!! Tonight my A called on his way home. He is so upset, he has had a lead on a jobsite that has been okaying extra breaks, early outs, on company time. It's a temporary jobsite for my A, but he worked for this company for five years, then they cut back for two years and he returned to them this past January, it's a great company to work for. He never stood his ground with this lead, he did what everyone else was doing. This morning he found out that this lead went to a supervisor and basically threw my A under the bus. About his extra breaks etc. etc. My A was so furious, and I don't know about your A's but when he tells me about something it is like he is reliving the moment. He has decided that on Tuesday he is going to go to the owner and try to clear his name, admit he did wrong for not standing up for the company. It was a nice long conversation about what his motives are. If he goes into the owner with the motive of taking the other guy down that is not right, but if he is doing it to clear his name then I think that is good. Then out of the blue he starts apoligizing for a couple weeks ago when he was in the bar bad mouthing about me. I had confronted him about it at the time and he didn't think it was a big deal. Those voices keep telling me, patience, let things happen naturally, take care of myself, it's not your business, and QUIT INTERUPTING THE HP PLAN.....I need to listen .....I need to pay attention. My A went on to say, how awful he feels inside for what this guy has said.....what kind of person would do such a thing???? Then he caught himself, , , he said...."I did that to you, I am so sorry, I will try my hardest not to even do that in a joking manner everr again" I know "ever again" is not something I can count on with my A. But the fact that he noticed, even if it is because someone did the same to him (and it wasn't me...LOL) and he didn't like it.....it made him angry and hurt!!!! So I am going to really have to pay attention to the voice......it could be my HP talking to me.....Hugs Mary
Great news! So nice to hear the little successess. Reminds me of us letting go and letting God but taking all our troubles back because God wasn't working quick enough. Good for you. Glad you shared, yours in recovery Maria
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