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Gramma Pat


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Speaking of the unfaithful partner, earlier this week I discovered that my AH had contacted a dating service and today I found a garage door opener and a set of keys that do not belong to us in our pickup glove box.  I am stuck living with him until I get my legal questions answered soooooo my sick mind has conceived all sorts plans to get revenge.  I could sneak out in the middle of the night and open her garage door setting off the alarm more than once and that would cost her $250 for the second alarm, put a tag with her address on the set of keys and throw them into a yard that looks like unsavory characters live there, tape record his hysterical rants and raves and send them to her, or better yet confront him once again and tape his no one matters but you & I can't get her to leave me alone she is just sick comments and send them to her.  But best of all I will keep going to my meetings and know that when I leave she will be stuck with him.   Oh how I hate this disease for taking a caring loving man and making him a monster. 



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hersh


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(((Pat)))


I am sorry you are going through this too!!!  Thanks for the reminder to keep going to meetings and stay healthy.  I so wanted to isolate tonite, but I think I'll go.  It is important. 


That's what I keep thinking about whoever it is that my AH is talking to, whoever she is, she can really have him, it isn't really him anyway right now. 


Good luck and thanks for posting about your sick thinking!  I haven't had any of that today, just sadness, but thanks for the humor... I need some.


God Bless you,


 


Love, HeidiXXXX



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debilyn


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I find making up these scenerios theraputic too. lol


Well now wait a minute. He has a part in this too. It is not just the disease. Not all A's cheat or steal or do other stuff.


He apparently has a predisposition to cheating. He allows the disease to mush his brain enough to do it.


I like to throw super glue into scenerios...lol


Do your best to hang in there until you can get out. Maybe call your attorney and ask to speed things up.


sorry about the pain you feel. love,debilyn



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doxie


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(((((Gramma)))))

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Maria123


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(((((((((Pat))))))))))))),

I found when I was feeling vindictive, it only hurt me . I wanted to feel better and thought punishing others would help me feel better, but I only felt worse.

Just my experience, thank goodness for this program, because I can't heal my mind with my mind.

Keep us close by,
Maria123

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Tiger2006


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 It is my experience that is better to own and be honest about ourselves than to keep it inside. ((Pat)). I'm glad you're here.

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