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Just a silly post, but I thought maybe some of you might find it amuseing.
I have often talked in chat about how my husband hates my cats. I had them before I had him, and he used to like them pretty good, but as the drinking increased, so did his hatred of my cats. I have had them about 12 and 13 years.
But hubby would get smashed, start telling me to choose between him or the cats. He hated their fur, their litter box (which I clean out 2 times a day), etc. Threatend to kill them, shoot them, run them off, etc. Crazy talk. We had a lot of words over those cats, cos they were not going anywhere. Hmm, hard choice, a mean drunk, or two nice cats????Hmmm, which one do I pick????
About a month or so ago, a stray cat came out of the field behind our house. He was scraggly looking, light brown, kinda skinny. Hubby took pity on him, and gave him a little tiny bit of cat food. Then he got him a water dish. Told me I could feed him but only a little tiny bit, just enough to keep him around to kill the mice. Now the cat has his own food dish, water bowl, brush. Hubby feeds him every morning and every night. The cat waits on my husband, and will sit on his truck. He never gets on my car.
I don't pay him much attention, because he doesn't come to me often, he acts a little scared still. But he adores my husband. Hubby named him "Wiley" after "wildcat". His official name is Wiley Cat-oyte. (Liuke Wile E. Coyote, get it?)
So, I want to introduce a new member to our household. Hubby keeps saying the cat has to stay outside, even tho I don't mention even bringing him inside. We'll see how he does when it snows. I bet anything husband will have him inside.
Lovely story! My husband, one nite when he had been sober for almost 2 years, said "we are living our lives around THOSE cats!!!" I think I had said something to him prior to that statement, probably about watching out for the cats, don't let them outside, or something else, I can't really remember. He also said that he was "not living like this". I said, then don't. I've had them longer than I had him (not these particular cats, but many others). So after he made that wisecrack, I said, calmly, "No, we live our lives around AA." That shut him up.
Now the cats sleep on his lap, and one even sits on the back of the comfy big chair behind his head and chews on his head! He gets a kick out of that...lolol! He occasionally makes a slur about the litter box, which i scoop out daily, or how they have "dropped a big one next to the box", missing the box altogether. I merely say something like, "oh, yea, I saw that".
My bf used to hate cats for he is allergic. Once I found two baby kittens abandoned on the side of the rode. They were almost frozen and starving. I brought them home and he made me get rid of them.
Last year a stray came up and he started feeding it. Soon after, she had kittens. It is so funny that they all won't have much to do with me or the kids but when bf shows up, they are all over him. Bf now takes allergy meds before playing with his cats. <lol>
I like cats well enough, but my A loves them. The longest he's been without a cat in the nearly 25 years I've known him, is the three years or so when our kids were babies - my old cat died just after our daughter was born. He just couldn't resist, came home with a kitten as soon as we moved into our own house.
In all the drinking years, he would be mean to me, sometimes a little hard on the kids, once he yelled real loud at the dog - but I never did see a mean word or action to the cat. Hmmm....
Have always said that dogs have owners and cats have staff.
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Oh that is SO funny...but true.
I have the sweetest, nicest, most affectionate, loving, adorable kitty in the ENTIRE UNIVERSE, LOL.
I have an only child... so how spoiled is this special kitty? I am almost embarrassed to say, LOL.
I have made three quilts for him. He loves them and sort of claimed them, LOL, only one started out being for him.
I have had him since he was a teeny tiny baby and he fit in the palm of my hand, I had to bottle feed him. He was such a teeny baby he thought I ws his mommy and he cried whenever I put him down. I had to hold him CONSTANTLY, like I did my baby daughter (she is spoiled too, LOL). I was used to doing things with one hand so it was not that big of a deal to hold him all of the time. I had to have my Mom "babysit" him when I went to work as he cried if he ws not held constantly. We LOVED it, LOL.
My daughter and I loved to hold him like you would a baby, on his back in our arms with his feet sticking up in the air. He LOVES that! He purrs and goes to sleep. We would wrap him up with a quilt and he would be so happy he would lay on his back in his quilt and go to sleep. In many ways it is like having a baby with no diaper worries.
We don't even have a cat carrier for him, we wrap him up in his quilt like a baby and take him to the vet when he needs to go, the vet thinks it is hilarious and says he has never seen anything like it. When he had to be neutered the vet asked if he had any special needs...I said he has to have scalp massages, foot massages, and to be hugged, kissed, and held MOST of the time, LOL.
This cat is so spoiled that if we get him the wrong food he bites us, so we have traveled more than an hour to far away stores to get HIS favorite food when the nearest store is out.
He has to have a certain catbox litter too, and we have to go out of our way for that, if we don't...he leaves certain things on my purse and chair to get me back, LOL.
What is WRONG with this picture? LOL.
Well, at least he is good for something. He comes to greet us at the door no matter how sleepy he is and he also lets us know when someone is at the door. Cat is so smart and nuts he actually GROWLS like a dog when someone is at the door, he is hilarious, I did not even know cats could growl! I knew they could hiss and snort and he does that stuff too, but the growling part is funny!
I can't believe I have admitted how pampered my kitty is, but daughter is MOSTLY to blame, LOL (yeah right, LOL).
I can see why he wouldn't like your cats when he was getting bombed, let's face it, we can keep our mouths shut but animals communicate telepathically & they were a part of you, wanting to protect you & letting him know what was what. I find as psychic as dogs are, I think cats are even more so! And if you have a bad thought, they generally do run & hide or the (bi)polar opposite which is fly by on the back of the sofa, giving a scratch to the person on their way. I've seen both.
I also believe cats choose people (as your post indicated), reall, truly & reverently, what a Blessing for your husband.
Love, -KoL
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Thanks for the posts everyone. I laughed about the kitty getting scalp and feet massages! That is too cute! What a lucky cat!
Well, yeah, hubby is still drinking, but he hasn't said anything about the cats in a while. At least since Wiley showed up.
I think hub really likes it, because Wiley chose HIM. And I think he doesn't think he has a lot of likeable qualities, which he does, but the alcohol hides them a lot of the time. I think he feels quite honored that this scraggly cat (who is looking much better now thanks to the brushing and feeding) picked him to love, and it is quite sweet really.
Guess he felt like Sidney and Sophie were MY cats, not his. So, they are really his step-kitties. Now he has one of his own.
I have looked on Wiley back for any sign of little furry wings, but haven't found anything so far. Surely, he is a kitty angel come to love my husband. Wonder if he might feel a little guilty about yelling about the other 2 cats? I'm just happy Wiley found him.
Hubby, Pipers Kitty and I extend a warm, fuzzy welcome to Wiley. Welcome to the family. I always get a giggle when hubby tells me he's more a dog person than a cat person. Okay granted you can take a dog hunting, but do you know how many times I have seen the 2 of them down in the creek together?
I love these big tough men who go all to pieces with small children or animals. Tough guy? Yeah right....hehehe
Love and blessings to all of you.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Now he has one of his own.
I always get a giggle when hubby tells me he's more a dog person than a cat person. Okay granted you can take a dog hunting, but do you know how many times I have seen the 2 of them down in the creek together? 