Today I got marriage 2 yrs ago. When I got married I didn't realize how bad my life was, he was on his best behavior when we were planning the wedding. 2 yrs a go lets look back to that day..........I was very happy on that day, we went to disney world for our honeymoon, had a great time, and then a little while later everything fell apart I though, however it was like that for 5yr when i got married. He are things I was going through, I used to get upset seeing him drink, so he would sneak off and drink, we be riding in the car he drive me so nuts that I would pull over on the highway, we had physical fights in and out of the car, he has left me on the side of the highway, screaming matches. Now back today...........We no longer have those physical fights, we still do still fight but not as bad.....he hasn't disapper like he did, even last yr at this time he was drinking bad......and he was gone for 13 hours the day after the anniversary....and the drinking was bad then.........so for today I am doing good. As for Alanon I started in Nov of the first yr I got married and still in it. I have come a long way and in some ways still struggle like before.