The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I just want to thank my HP that I have this board to help keep my stuff down to the right size. I get a real sense of perspective as I read and ponder just what each and every one of you fine men and women are going through, have gone through, and how you use the tools to cope and grow.
I do a lot of reading here. I have several alcoholics in my life. oh, so good at catastrophizing everyday bumps in the road. I still want to 'fix' people who don't want fixing, and save the world. A lot of the molehills in my life I turn into mountains...
When I am whirling, my sponsor affectionately says, "You're doing that Gone With The Wind Sh*t again....!!!" How true it is, that I can invite more drama into my life by my own sick perspectives and controlling behaviors. Since I have been reading and posting here, I have actually had the tools to make a few good decisions regarding other alcoholics in my life on faith... and the outcome has been remarkable. Makes me want to keep coming back.
I used to think my life was indeed like an 'olde epic saga of pain and despair'... not so true, as I read the details here of just how people help eachother to gain proper perspective and put the focus in the right place. Each and every one of you, whether we agree or not on some things, helps me to live in reality instead of making epic sagas out of life on life's terms.
Joni I hate drama, I run from it. It seems the A clings to it like it is familiar.
I don't like to talk about other peoples misery or talk about negative things.
Even when I feel like poop, I would rather state the facts and go on. No use dragging it on.
There is nothing wrong with venting, I beleive everytime we get it out the more we heal.
I liked what you said, "put the focus in the right place." I know when I am upset and come here, even being reminded of the simplest tools makes me feel better.
No matter how mature we are in alanon we still need each other and I need a good kick in the butt sometimes. Usually Diva does that. lol
Joni I hate drama, I run from it. It seems the A clings to it like it is familiar.
I don't like to talk about other peoples misery or talk about negative things.
Even when I feel like poop, I would rather state the facts and go on. No use dragging it on.
There is nothing wrong with venting, I beleive everytime we get it out the more we heal.
I liked what you said, "put the focus in the right place." I know when I am upset and come here, even being reminded of the simplest tools makes me feel better.
No matter how mature we are in alanon we still need each other and I need a good kick in the butt sometimes. Usually Diva does that. lol
thank you for posting. love,debilyn
Amen to that Debilyn. I have been the subject of a good booting by Diva in the past and profited from it. I agree with all your comments and Joni? Strength to you!
I actually love reading Gone with the Wind, not because of the drama. But I agree we can all use a little less drama in our lives. I will say this for Scarlett though. In many ways, her thinking about things tomorrow is a bit warped. But character wise, she was one tough cookie. She never gave up. Not a bad thing, although her methods may be a bit off.
Live strong,
Karilynn
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That's a good line your sponsor has. It is said that ACOA's are "addicted to excitement." I read that initially it was supposed to be "addicted to fear," but was changed. The "addicted to excitement" made no sense to me. I was always seeking calmness and running from excitement of any kind. Addicted to fear made sense to me. Growing up fearful in an alcoholic family, I then held onto that feeling everywhere I went. It was familiar even if painful.
I am breaking my addiction to fear little by little.
