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Dealing with mortality


A friends wife passed on this past week....I met her a few times, and they both were very happy newlyweds....Before the program I probably would have wondered, where is God right now? How could he let this happen?? But thankfully I know that it is all part of a plan, one I cant see. I however can only extend my condolences and pray my friend can cope without falling deeper into drinking; I cant make him see that life will go on, etc.


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(((buzzer)))

Sorry to hear of this. Death is a continuation of life where we come full circle IMO. Perhaps like they say "we go back home". Those of us left behind often wonder why and sometimes answers never come, it just is.

I too hope your friend finds a way to cope.

Love you,
Christy

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Buzz,


I'm sorry for you and your friends loss.  It's a gift that you have a program now that helps give you a new perspective.


I'll include your friend and you in my prayers.


Bob


 



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(((Buzz)))),


So sorry to hear of your friend's loss.  Death is real, indiscriminatory and sad.  I'm sure that your example in the program will attract him in his time of pain as he grieves.  Sometimes just being there to listen is the best kind of help, as well as the prayer.  Your recovery is a gift as well.


In May, I had a close call in the ER, I put my dog down, my friend lost her daughter to drugs, and my grandma had a close call.  I certainly have a new perspective.  Although tempted to question, I believe God has the puzzle's box top. I don't have to have all the pieces.  And I have a fresh attitude of gratitude.


Take care my friend,


Cedar


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((((((((((((Buzz)))))))))))))))),

Condolences for you and your friend's family. I will say an extra prayer for you and them. I'm glad you're here with us and that this program is helpful.

Love and blessings to you my friend.

Live strong,
Karilynn

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((((((Buzzer))))))


I'll add my sympathies and prayers to others who've read this post.  Just wanted to let you know that I know that your friend is lucky during this time to have you.  Your quiet strength is a real blessing when dealing with loss (ask me how I know).  As with everything else, you don't have any power over your friend's reaction to the grief.  But if I know you, you will be a presence of hope whenever he's looking for some.


Love you bunches and I'm sorry that you're feeling this loss too my friend.


Txmom



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(((Buzz))),


Keep working your program, and he will have someone strong to turn to when he is ready.


You both are in my prayers.


Yours in recovery,


Dolphin123



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(((((((Buzz))))))))))))


That's all i got friend but your welcome to all the hugs you need


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I have personally had many close calls with death. I've used up all my lives. I know I am here on HP"s terms.  I can, however, live in deprivation if I choose because I know how to re-visit that so well.


Maresie.



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I'm so sorry buzzfree.  I am deling with that right now.  I Don't know why God dealt me this hand.  I left my A & found so much happiness.  It was taken away in 2 wks.  Was it God?  Was it the Devil?   I hurt so badly.  I have thought about suicide.  I think I am stronger than that.  But where is my man?????  I love & miss him so much....  Love hurts.


 


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