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Happy Birthday! (in a slap-in-the-face-kinda-way).
Hubby woke me up this morning with a sweet birthday card. ( I wish he had just stopped there). He then proceeded to tell me that he would take me with him to get that flag pole/clothesline I had wanted for so many years. That, translated means I can push the tree down when he saws it, and help drag it to the 4 wheeler. This is bittersweet, 'cause his daughter has been coming up with her family a few times to stay in the camper, and she wants a clothesline. Also I heard him mention that I was as good as two men, so I asked him what that meant? That meant he was going to pick up a fridge for her, and I could help him.
Last week, I was at the computer playing a game and crying when she came in. I’m trying to start up my own business selling antiques and collectable etc. It has been raining fore-ever here. My basement flooded and I had to dry everything out and couldn’t open my yard sale thingy. I had been after him for years to dig me a trench with his backhoe so the basement would stay dry. She went out, and next thing I know, I have a trench! I had to shovel part of it in, of course, and put rocks in it…
Am I jealous? Yes! Am I hurt? Yes! Am I expecting too much?? Also, last week, after being sober about 11 months, he starts ‘sippin’ again. Of course, the drunker he gets, the stupider I get, right? Just like the more he drinks, the handsomer he gets, tee hee.
Anyway, thanks for listening my friends. It makes me feel better to get it out. Love to you all, TLC
I have similar mixed feelings about my boyfriend sometimes. I have to say I feel less attracted to him these days when he is off acting out. I used to be so drawn to pulling him back. Now with the help of this program I can let him go and focus on me. That is very new and very precious. I have also worked through a lot of my abandonment issues that were there long before him.
Happy Birthday to you , Happy Birthday to you and again Happy birthday to you. Now can you hear my Texan accent and now I am doing the Texan 2 step why cause it is your birthday it your birthday.
Thanks for venting we are powerless over what people do or not do. dori
Hey you I was just thinking of you and here you are posting... So sorry that you are feeling the way you do, but I am glad that you have a place to get it out!! I used to get the same way hubby would do every thing that any one and his dog would ask but for me it was like pulling teeth!!! mine lol... sheesh did I get mad and upset but the only person it affected was me.. he never gave a rats patuty about what I though or felt still doesn't but I have figured out that if I start things my self he does start to help....
You know I have that 3 acers of back yard that I would like to look nice and I had this plan to put in a pond and fountain... well I started digging by hand and well he laughed and peed me off so then I got in to his bobcat and started my self well low and behold he started to help. OMG!!! same thing with the basement I was drywalling and sharing my ideas with a friend of his and the friend thought the ideas were great and came over and did it for me... The basement is still not done but its got a good start and when winer comes arround it can be finnished when the company slows down a bit....
Oh back to my lovely pond idea well what a mess!!! it had flooded over 3 times now and I have had to start over 3 times LMAO at first i was really angry but now its kind of funny HP must really think I need the exersise. I can find the humor in it I guess next year I will have a nice back yard!! I hope!!
Your business will take off and when it does I hope that you can look back and see the humor that I can now...
Well I am so gald to see you on here, sory for you sorrrow but I hope that in some little way I have brought a smile to you..
Thankx for your answers, my friends. I am sooo glad I have someone who understands! This place rocks!! You are all so wonderful. 'A' went to the woods and got the pole, skinned it, and put it up.Stayed outside all day till he got good and drunk, then came in and tried to pick a fight. I wouldn't answer him, and he got tired of it and gave up for awhile. Then his son called, and he sh** all over him. Tried again with me, but I wouldn't bite.
In the meantime, I had a call from my friend in England wishing me Happy Birthday, then my son and family were going to come over, but I called him back and asked him not to. Thanks Dori! I love your texas accent singing just for me!! It sure did make me feel special, Y-a-a-al-l-l. I know what you mean Maresie, I used to try to drag him back an all that. Once I found this sight, my whole life turned around for the better! Learning to detatch worked wonders for me too. Guess I'm kinda out of practice, and couldn't stop hoping that those days were gone bye-bye, yet always knowing Alcholism could rear it's ugly head at any time, but... wishing, hoping, trying to believe in him, trying to forget those awful times sigh. Now he is in my comfy new bed, probably peeing in it before the night is over... I'm on the couch for the night. Just doesn't seem fair!! I have no place to go, this is my house, and I'll be Da**ed if I'll leave it to him!! jj, you're a scream!! The bobcat made me laugh out load!
My daughter called, and then we went on the webcam so I could see them. I miss them so much, they are a 7 hr flight away. I'm scared my grandson won't even remember me! But you all made me feel special and not so alone. Thanks friends!! Love you all, TLC
