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firstly thanks for all the replies to my first posting.
today has been an interesting day. AH went to his 3rd counselling session and came back reall happy. it seems it went well and he feels its going to do him good.
i personally was pleased because although he is doing lots of meetings and has a sponser his sponser has been slow if a little reluctant to begin step work with him to the point H was thinking of changing to another sponser. we believe it was down to workload but anyway it appears now they are going to begin. anyway the counsellor is also going to start some step work with him and i'm really excited to see this new organised approach being applied in our home.
also he was so upbeat i was actually able to explain my feelings to him about another woman he has become friendly with and he understood . this is great and i now feel a weight lifted off my shoulders. i was very hurt he had made an emotional connection with her, and told her stuff he hadn't told me. it felt like a betrayal. he now understands.
so today is good and i guess this is where the one day at a time thing comes in. i look forward to tomorrow.
hope your all well and thanks for letting me share.
Hello again Kelly , well we know how he's doing but what about you? get the focus off him and on to you and your needs. I know for me if I am waiting for HIM or anyone else to get well so i can be happy I am going to be dissapointed . We say here that happiness is an inside job - in other words its up to me , besides no one else knows what makes me happy and there were times when i didn't know what made me happy either.
Two happy contented people can have a great relationship so with two program s in the house u got a chance. good luck Louise
Abbyal is wise. Remember it's great to be loving and supportive of your husband's recovery. But please do not forget about yours. You are entitled to be happy in your own right and comfortable in your own skin. I went to an AA meeting this morning with hubby. But tomorrow I decided that he can go alone, as I want to do mine. Sometimes when we are so eager to loving and supportive of our spouses, we forget about ourselves.
Time to start focusing on you and your recovery.
Live strong,
Karilynn
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