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Quick backround...I'm 42, mom is an alcoholic. Ex-H is an alcoholic. 22 year old son got his first DUI and possession charge this year. I just joined ACOA two weeks ago and want to learn how to live my life with this and deal with all of the BS that haunts me. These past few weeks have been the proverbial onion unraveling, learning who I am and honestly dealing with it.
Got a call this morning at 530am from the police department. 16 year son arrested for underage drinking and driving with 3 other kids in the car.
Called the ex to ask him if he knew where his son was (he was supposed to be at his house). He thought he was sleeping. When I told him about the d/d all he cared about was how he would get to work (son works for ex) and what a hassle it would be to drive him back and forth.
I preach and preach to my 3 kids about drinking and they see their father and what it does to them, yet they are drawn to this lifestyle. I BEG them (like I used to do with their father) to PLEASE make the right decisions and be careful.
I just got over a BAD depression last week. It was one of my worst. And, now this...
16 yr old told me he got alcohol from underage friend who has a 21 yr old friend who works at a gas station. This will probably devastate my son, but, I called the police and now we are going back for them to interview him this afternoon. When I asked him where he got the beer, he didn't want to tell me, I promised it would go nowhere (Until I found out it was someone knowingly selling to minors).
