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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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A time comes in your life when you finally get…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH!! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening.
You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.
You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you…and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are…and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself…and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
Your stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you – or didn’t do for you – and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and everything isn’t always about you.
So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself…and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties…and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.
You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for you next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not you job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.
You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.
You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.
You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people…and you lean not to always take it personally.
You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
You lean that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than you heart’s desire.
You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.
Finally, with courage in you heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.
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" And what did we gain? A new life, with purpose, meaning and constant progress, and all the contentment and fulfillment that comes from such growth."
~ reading this..(while wind chimes sang outside my window.) I WILL continue Today to remind me. This reading will be a help to me in strengthening "Me." Its there in your in every word. Just seeing the WORDS... I'm ' feeling.... steering and building " Me " (( uP!))
Feeling better and better. (((((Love ya John))) for thinking of us to post it!
I choose to stay busy. stay focused. An most of all to keep my spirit, my mind and my thoughts in my mind on this fact: "I make the choices,where my mind wonders. What My mind is filled with. Good? or Bad." I choose GOOD. My HP/GOD is here with me, always! That in itself , as a reminder ... throughout the day is an awesome feeling. I so appreciate YOU, your es&h. Have a Beautiful Day ((((BIG JOHNJOHN HUG))))
You always here that no one amongst us is perfect. I try to be careful in getting caught up in others' words and meanings because they are instantly distorted by years and years of misrepresentation. What I ponder from my opening sentence is that we all arrived here on this planet perfect and we chose to be less than that based on the experiences we chose to have. The longer I am in the program, the more perfect, or true to myself I become. I don't understand why perfection has to be anything less than wonderful. My idea of perfection is being true to yourself, speaking from your heart, and sharing your Joy and Love with others. Why did your share provoke that thought? I can't really say, but that is the beauty of being me - I just am who I am and I share based on how I feel and don't try to justify it to anyone.
Thank you thank you THANK YOU!!! That was very needed, beautiful and true!!!! Yahooo for us!!! Walking through the fear and pain, and awakening to reality and the joy of taking care of ourselves and beginning to love ourselves!!! I am right there, embarking on this new journey!!! Love, HeidiXXX
"Me." Its there in your in every word. Just seeing the WORDS...
I'm ' feeling .... steering and building " Me " (( uP!)) 
(((((Love ya John))) for thinking of us to post it!
where my mind wonders. What My mind is filled with. Good? or Bad." I choose GOOD. My HP/GOD is here with me, always! That in itself , as a reminder ... throughout the day is an awesome feeling. I so appreciate YOU, your es&h. Have a Beautiful Day ((((BIG JOHNJOHN HUG))))