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Wow! What a warm welcome, ty :) Now I can get support again. My daughter,,, well, long story :( Her boyfriend that she had the miscarriage with,, he tried to kill her 2 weeks ago! He tried to strangle her twice (she had his thumb and finger prints on her body and a bad thumb print behind her ear near her carotid artery), He chased her into a barbed wired fence and she has this deep jagged wound from her chest to her belly button :( Then he drug her down the hallway to the bedroom while she screamed at the top of her lungs for help while boyfriend's dad and uncle watched and did nothing! She noticed how badly her face was scratched up and knew he would not let her go if he saw it. So she laid quietly in bed until it was a good time to get out fast and get to the sheriffs office which was not close by! She called me from there and I am glad she reached out for help but so upset I could not go be with her 4 hours away. They kept her in hiding.
She had moved there so the boyfriend could help a farmer for a job and they moved in with his dad who is a user :( Bad choice there. She has a year protective order now and court isn't until November! So far he is only being charged with simple assult domestic violence and he had an amphetamine substance in his body.That will be a different court thing and remember he had been in prison for 3 years for meth and fleeing charges. If I strangled him, cut his chest with a barbed wired fence and scratched the Heck out of his face would I get simple assult! I doubt it!
She was in a safe house for 4 days while the sheriff waited to get her back to the dad's house to get her belongings and her dog :( It was such a tiny town they had her in a motel all by herself. The dog had not had water for 3 days they figure! Of course the dad and uncle were out of town so the neighbor let them in. She had a sheriff with her and an advocate. I drove to get her with her AA friend and got her dog and her and she is back home for now.
She did go to 2 AA meetings a day for awhile and now an AA campout this weekend in which she came home early tonight and stomped upstairs.
She has to wait for the STD tests that could be from his meth usage which he finally admitted he hid from her. I am thinking this maybe caused the miscarraige :( which is best the baby didn't live then. I feel so very bad for her as her mother and angry too that she got herself into the type of situation. She did drink some but no one deserves to be strangled and attacked like that even if she was drinking! I don't know what I am going to do with all this anger yet. Just let it out gradually I guess.
I am going to my parents finally after postponing it from my pneumonia first and then my daughter's situation. MY mom and dad understand but my mom's alzheimers is getting worse :( MY health has worsened too :(
Debiyln will ask me, what about me? LOL Well, I finally got back on the board so I can get support from the poeple that know my story and know my daughter's story. I am hoping I can use the board on my dad's computer while I am gone. It has been hard dealing with this all on my own without my support group :(
I haven't had time to focus on me except to sleep alot. My daughter's dog takes alot of work and energy! He has been traumatized too and I have given him alot of TLC. He still wants my daughter and becomes sad and feels her feelings. He is good for her now and has been sleeping with her which the boyfriend would not allow. He is the dog that was run over accidentally by the boyfriend and then had extensive surgery to put him together again. He is crippled on his back-end but a miracle and the most precious medium black lab that could ever be brought into our world.
I am a wreck! I did get to some online meetings at least and that helped some. I hate to type about all of this. It still seems like it didnt' really happen. Well,not sure what else to say. She is very moody and it will be good for me to get away! She could use prayers for those that pray. I am glad she is alive!!! Her emotional health is damaged big time. She is having symptoms of a crime victim I have been told and did go to a women's abuse group one time already. I feel so bad for her :(
Well, enough update for now. Just trying to live in the present for now. cdb xoxoxoxox
((())Cdb how sad that you have to watch your daughter go through this suffering. Seems like everytime she takes a step forward it is two steps back. I am so glad the little dog is okay as well, he is a survivor like your daughter. You know it took a lot of courage for your daughter to have the mental strength to escape that situation and go to the Sheriff. She really has come a long way in a lot of aspects of her life. I pray now that HP has her and the labby safe in the palm of his/her hands and continues to watch over them. For you I send luv and understanding to get through yet another obstacle. When Mum's were being handed out your daughter got the very best. Luv Leo xxx
sorry to hear all that your daughter has been thru, I'm glad she is safe now. (and pup too) sounds like you've been thru the ringer too. i'm glad u were able to post and get some of this stuff out that has been weighing heavily on you.
yes, and i too hope you are taking care of yourself and not taking on your daughters issues as your own. you are a kind, loving person to your daughter and others, i hope you save some of that goodness for yourself, you deserve it!
Have really missed you. So sorry to hear about your daughter's trials and that you are not feeling well yourself. Living with this addiction related stuff is a real drainer. More than any one human can take I know. Can only take it one moment at a time sometimes. Actually often that way lately.
Thank you for your replies and kind words. I think we are all survivors or we wouldn't be here. It sure helped to get it out and feel supported and understood. I will be gone for awhile again at my parents but know I am thinking of you all and wishing you the best! cdb xoxoxoxo
Oh my dear friend the trauma of aism is so horrible. It bugs me even more now that I have seen pics of both of you! She is such a tiny young girl to have gone thru so much. You are so tender.
big sigh. Your parents being ill is hard too. You do need to sleep a lot. Nothing wrong with that. I hope you are staying away from junkie food. It will make ya feel worse. Watermelon is great this year, see if you can get a bunch of it.
I have been living on raspberries and soy youghurt, yum. I can deal with all this stuff so much easier healthy.
Be careful when you go to your parents. Well take care of you in every way you can, all the simple stuff like nice soap and morning showers, clean sheets, uno.
Ty so much debilyn. Yes she is thin but tall and strong. I know she gave him one heck of a fight! Ty for your well wishes when I am gone. I am going to try to eat every 2 to 3 hours and have some energy low cal tiny bars to help out. I am going to bring yogurt too and fresh fruit and veggies. I always get exercise with my mom LOL. She can't sit still or even sleep all night with her alzheimers. I get worn out! So, I do sit and rest anytime I can when I am with her. It is hard not to overdo since I try to give my dad a break as her main caretaker. The last she told me was she has been forgetting her name when she needs to sign something :( I just hate this other A disease! She has been waking up at night and seeing people :( She has gotten lost in a room or closet too and says she knows the door is behind her but she can't figure out how to turn around and go that way. I normally cry whenever I talk about her or her situation but it sure helps to be able to talk about it to those that care and understand. I love her sooo much! I had to tell her about my daughter's situation because the boyfriend knows where they live.I was hoping I could keep it private but unfortunately the ex can still show up at therr house if he chooses :( He was with us for Easter at their house and we were letting him into our family and hearts. What a horrible thing drug addiction is! I still get angry thinking how his dad and uncle stood and did nothing when she was being dragged down the hallway by her neck! Calm down cdb, calm down. I hope he doesn't try to break into their house now that he knows they are not there all the time and he saw some of their prized collections and things :( Best not to project into the future though.
Thanks again for your reply and for caring. xoxoxoxo cdb
