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Hubby back in ICU!


((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))),

Here we go again! Hubby gets out of hospital yesterday and goes home with his roomate. I'm not thrilled about the idea of him being released early, but he said he was feeling fine and the doctors seemed to think that everything was looking good. NOT!

Comes over this morning, gets out of the car, takes a few steps, feels dizzy so we stop. Take a few more steps, starts shaking and crumbles to the ground. He having a seizure. Landlord is outside and calls 911 and helps catch him. Back to the ER we go. Get settled and on our way up to have a CT scan, and he has ANOTHER seizure. I am not happy at this point! What the is going on? So we get that one finished, he's calm again, we go and do the CT and exray. It's decided to move him to ICU. We get up, settle in for about 30 minutes. He's hungry and we're looking at the menu. Bring on seizure #3! Now I'm really NOT happy seeing the man I love going through all of this. They did a tox screen and no drugs or alcohol came up, so that's good as "Bob" left him alone for a few hours last night.

Well it turns out, that they consider this a "FAILED DISCHARGE". YA THINNK? The neurologist came and examined him. No neurological damage. Thank HP. But they think because he has not been on his clonzapene and paxil, that that had something to do with it. Also there might have been some residual medication left in his system from when he was brought in last Sunday. Now they have given medication to stop the seizures and he's finally resting comfortably and has had none. They will be keeping in there for a few more days.

I'm taking the weekend off so I can be with him. Work is really angry with me, will not let me use my personal day, so I'm loosing money. Do I really care? NO!

"Bob" was hinting at the fact that he really is in no condition to take care of hubby. So I'm thinking about bringing him home and if we can depending on what his discharge needs are, maybe in home care while I'm working to make sure that he is taking his meds. I know I set this 90 day boundary thing, but sometimes the best laid plans of crazy women with bifocals run amok! But right now I just want to get through the weekend and see what happens.

Poor Pipers Kitty saw her Daddy outside and was meowing for him to come in and play with her. All of sudden Daddy was on the ground and not inside with her. She's had a long week too.

So family, please don't stop those prayers for our family. Heaven knows we can surely use them.

Love and blessings to you and yours.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

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OMG Karilynn I am saddened to hear this. I will be praying for your continuing strength throughout this ordeal. Please keep us up-to-date. Don't forget...take good care of Karilynn!!!!

With love and hope winging its way to you, my dear friend. Diva

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(((((((karilyn)))))))


I'm so sorry.You and he are still in my prayers.


Take care.           d



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Sounds like hard and scary times - just remember to keep the focus on you. Is caring for him and making sure he does things, etc, the best thing for YOU? Maybe wait for him to ask - it is his life after all, and maybe he needs to be the one in charge of it. Just some things for you to think about...

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Hi Kari


 


(((((((((((((((Kari))))))))))))))))


I am so sorry to hear this. Your family is in my thoughts and pryers. Your hubby is whre he needs to be, getting the medical help.


Keep staying strong my friend


Megan


 



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((((((((((((My Dear Fried Kari))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry to hear about hubby, please know you are in my prayers.....I hope all goes well....

My hub had seizures a few years back also, it lasted a few months...finally found a medication that worked. It was from the alcohol abuse in his case...

Darlin, take it one minute at a time, try and get some rest so you can have a clear head. I'm sure whatever you decide will be right for you....

Love you and will keep you close in my prayers....

Love Ya,
Andrea

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(((karilynn)))

Prayers for you and hubby forthcoming.
I know this is tough, but sometimes being a bit sicker is a blessing. I believe it was in my husband's case. Alcohol finally took a back seat .

Love ya, girl
hang in
Christy

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Oh Sweetie what a nightmare. You must be exausted.


Do you have a union at work? Also you may want to look into the family medical leave. It is not paid but they cannot fire you.


How dare they not allow a personal day for this. That is a benefit you earn.rrrrrr


Now lady remember to nap and take care of the basic stuff for you. It has to be horrible to see him seizure.


As far as Bob, is bob a nurse for him or what? If not, what would make  you expect him to watch him?


I do relate. My A is horribly sick too. I have brought him home but I tell ya, it never worked at all. I always got hurt.


But my situation has abuse in it. If my A was not abusive, I would have him here.


Anyway lotsa hugs, you know i care about you. love,debilyn, give your kitty a hug for me



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Hugs Kari, obviously HP has a plan and sometimes you just have to go with the flow.  Very unsympathetic of your workplace to not allow you to have the day off.  You aren't exactly making it up are you.  Maybe there is a message in that for you as well.   No one can tell you what is the right thing sweetie just go with it for now and see what happens.  Luv Leo xxx

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I am so sorry to hear all aboutthis development. My prayers are with you and Piper Kitty.


 


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((((((( Karilynn )))))))


 


So sorry to hear about this news. Hope they are taking the appropriate, aggressive approach with him now.


You’re plate has been full.


Breathe, easy with you dear….


Love and prayers as always, tea2




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((((((((kari)))))))) I love ya girl hang in there!!! I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts for Hubby to get better soon!!!

Love ya

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kari,


So sorry to hear about your hubby!!  I will keep you all in my prayers, and please keep us posted!


Take care,


kathi



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Kari, I am so sorry to hear this. 


God is in charge...that's all I know to say.


Take it easy on yourself.


 


Prayers and good thoughts,


Peewee



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Kari,


So sorry to hear about readmittance.  Not really surprised same hospital did same thing to my A two years ago.  Released him and that same evening he was back in their by ambulance for same thing.  Think it is a matter of money with them not what is best for the patient.  I will be praying for you and yours.  My A did go to dr yesterday even drinking.  Wouldn't let him postpone again.  Dr. was very blunt.  Told him if he keeps this up he has two years maybe less before liver failure.  Dr. did bloodwork for my benefit.  Wouldn't have bothered just for A since he is drinking.  Will have results sometime this week.  Not expecting them to be good.  Truly don't think this news will make a difference for A though.  He drank all the way home from the doctors and still drank and did his thing with his idiot brother.  The idiot brother even drove him up to OTB to drop some $ on the horses.  His whole family is a bunch of losers.  They all just keep feeding into and helping him keep ALL his addictions going.


Your friend,


Lisa



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((((((((((Kari)))))))))))


I am just so sorry to hear about your hubby's continued problems.  I so hope and pray he does well and can continue along the path of recovery.  I know what a strain this must be on you and will pray that you can relax and take care of YOU, first and foremost.  Thinking about you, dear Kari.


 


Love and prayers, Lexie



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Dear Kari,


I'm sending lots of love and thinking of you today. I often say in the conflict of suffering I gain the clarity that I'd rather not suffer, that I'd rather be healthy and whole. That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt when it hurts, or we're not down, or we're not sick, when we are. It is hard, and I know I speak for others when I say you and your family are in our prayers.


You asked me to remind you of this little prayer:


God, Please talk to me. I am listening.


May soothing words of peace, healing, and wholeness, come to you and your husband. See you all the way to the healthy side of this wave.


your friend


mac



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Oh Dear dear ((((((Kari))))))

God bless you both. You're a strong gal and I know you can get through this. Ruby and I will continue to pray that things work out well for you and hub.

Hang in there kiddo. We've all got your back.

Love you........lots!!!!

P.s. Still battling with internet connection-been told they may come out this week,but I'm not holding my breath........(sigh!!)

((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))

Chris. XXXXX

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