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jesusis_4me


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Hello to all.....


I just wanted to post a shout out to say hi. I am looking for more ways to connect to recovery and found this site. I am giving it a try to see how it works for me. My husband is an addict. He had two years under his belt and relapsed about two weeks ago. Actually about 4-6 weeks ago in his thinking. Anyhow, he is back on his recovery path now. I have been attending a couple meetings a week and talking to someone at least four times a week. But I wanted to find more right now in this season.


My main issue right now that I am working on is detaching with love. I am also trying to work on not being resposible for his feelings and thoughts. Letting him share if he will, and taking at face value whatever he does say. Like if he says nothing or I am just tired, I will say ok and leave it at that.


He is not in the home right now, so that is tough. We have three daughters and I am working with them to deal with their emotions and talk things out. I am also in school full time, finishing up in a week and a half. So, thats about where I am today. Glad to be here.


Holly



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abbyal


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Welcome Holly , nice to meet you will be nice when school is out for the summer , sounds like u could use a break.  Just tell your girls the truth that dad is sick and has a disease , as long as your ok they will be too . kIds just want the truth  they don't need the nitty gritty stuff.


Keep the focus on your own needs and enjoy the summer with your kids, there is nothing u can do about him  this is his trip ,leave it with him . support his efforts bye stay focused on your own recovery  Lou ise



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jesusis_4me


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Thanks abby...  I think I chatted with you last night. (Believen2) ?


Was it you? Anyway, thanks for the encouraging words! I need all the reminders I can get right now and the encouragement. Take care.....


Holly



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Dolphin123


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Holly,


Welcome, glad you found us. This site has been a great help for me and I use it along with my face to face meetings.


My husband is an addict as well. One of the best tools that I have been able to pick up over the years is the seperation of him and the disease. People often ask me how I can still love him. It is so easy to love him actually, he is a very loveable guy. But I don't have to love what the disease of addiction turns him into.


I agree with Abby the best thing you can do for him, is to focus on you. And detachment has brought some humor to the situation. I love seeing the confused look on his face when I don't argue like I used to or get angry like I have in the past. My growth is a great comfort to me and a source of confusion to him.


Keep coming back. Looking Forwad to getting to know you.



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Maria123


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Just wanted to welcome you (((((((((((((Holly)))))))))))))))))))

Maria123

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Welcome Holly, and you have come to a good place....  There are lots of good people here, more than willing to share their experience, strength, and hope....  Glad you found us, and are taking the effort to learn and grow in your recovery...  this addiction stuff is too much for most of us to try and take on by ourselves - we need our programs, our HP, and friends & support in recovery....


Keep coming back


Tom



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nycbt


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Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand.


 


World Service Organization Website –


WWW.al-anon.alateen.org


Phone number is 1-888-425-2666


Alanon meetings 800-351-9996


Alanon literature Worldwide 888-425-2666


Alanon meeting info. 800-433-7266 AA info.


Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html 


Here are some things that have helped me since in the program.



  • Go face to face meeting & online meeting.

  • post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.

·        Set support system.  people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first this program.



  • Have a sponsor. Someone work one on one with you.

You don’t have to do this the minute u come to the program but I suggest that u do it when u can. It help.


 

Meeting schedule: meetings are in here and run approximately 90 minutes from: Monday-Friday, 9 am and 9 pm EST, Saturday: 10 am and 9 pm EST, Sunday: 10 am and 7 pm EST. Topics are selected by participants at meeting time. UK +5 hours, central -1 hour, mountain -2 hours, pacific -3 hours. Open chat all other times.

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jennneeefffurrr


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Hello and welcome to the road to sanity and your own personal healing and growth!


About a month ago, I was reminded of this today, I actually did not think I was going to be able to LIVE without my A boyfriend in my life.


I was miserable, neglected, humiliated, full of self doubt, dependent upon Ativan .5's (prescribed, same bottle of 100 since early March NOT an addict, HE is the A)  to calm down enough to sleep at night, full of FEAR of losing him forever which consumed me and finally realized Oh My Sweet God I AM ADDICTED TO *HIM* and you know what - that was scary to realize and accept.


This group and posting HONESTY and absorbing information and thoughts others offered me were totally my life saver!


I am also a Christian, very close to God, pray endlessly for my recovery and for my A. The comfort God gives me and the knowledge that His plan for me is perfect and He will do only for me what I need done in my life on my path and that I can count on God to do things in His time NOT mine has helped tremendously.


I think your story sounds really positive and hope you will continue to post, be honest, there is NOTHING you cant tell all of these people here that at least a few wont be able to relate to and understand - so, get busy and many blessings!


JEN



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david62


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Hi Holly!

Just wanted to welcome you to our family as well!

Keep coming back!

Yours in Recovery,
David

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