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All my loved ones are struggling with physical and/or emotional problems. Today especially, I feel like I am struggling too. Life with a dry drunk is so hard to handle, that at times, like this one, I need to lean into program to get through this day. ODAT, OHAT, and perhaps OMAT. I know I can do it, I just feel overwhelmed and sad. I need to Keep it Simple, Let go and let God, and always remember, This too shall pass.
((Lyne)). It is indeed difficult living with a dry drunk. I remember very well toward the end of my marriage no longer caring if husband was a wet drunk or a dry drunk because either version had a real thinking problem that leaked out in ways I didn't want to see, hear or mitigate against anymore.
In my online travels of other groups, the dry drunk is sometimes confused with a sober partner. Having enough program to know better as you do allows the switching of gears I read in your post.
It used to be so familiar to me to isolate myself from the world as a protection mechanism. I didn't have the program tools you've described back then.
Thank you for your example of life on life's terms 🙏 I hope you're feeling better today.
Hey Lyne. I can relate ... My only remaining sibling and I love him to pieces but I know he's smoking pot again not sure about the drinking because his liver scared him so I think he quit the drinking for the most part but he's smoking pot I know he is and you can tell the difference in the personality.. he gets really cheeky and snappy when I say something and it's encouraging I'm trying to encourage him but he lets things go that could hurt him that could cause him a car accident or to have his car repossessed and so I just gently try to encourage him to take care of things and he gets all snappy at me when he's smoking pot.... He has the dry drunk personality for sure.... He can be real sweet one minute and then the next minute just be really snappy and ugly and nasty and I just have to disconnect and just say talk to you later and I hang up...... I don't engage I don't argue with him I don't do anything but just exit the conversation.... And Days later he'll call me all sweet and nice, never apologizes but at least he tries to be real nice to me and do nice things for me I guess that's his way of making amends so I just accept it for what it is..... But I just have zero expectations of him and it's sad cuz he's the only family I got left as far as siblings go
