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I filed for divorce end of May. I don't regret that for a minute. He moved next door to live with alcoholics. Literally behind my house which is so weird and messed up. There was little I could do about it and there he remains. It's unfair but honestly what can I do except pray on it and that's the point I'm at now.
He's now parading a new girlfriend in front of us and the kids were angry and hurt. I'm holding space for them. I'm here now typing this out to hold space for myself. I don't know why but it kind of hurts. I feel like it shouldn't. I mean I filed for divorce and can't stand the guy. That's probably why actually. Like after realizing what I married, I wanted protection and healing not in your face theatrics. It's such an abnormal situation. Sigh. I am powerless over others. I will not give my power away through reactions to others. But just for this moment I'm a little pissed off and sad about it. This too shall pass. It always does.
{{{A4L2}}} I believe allowing and feeling our feelings is part of recovery. I can understand why him living so close by and having a new woman is hard to take. I had a similar situation when I divorced my A. I was the one who left but seeing him with his new gal pals never felt good. But after allowing and feeling our feelings, it's good not to get stuck there. One foot in front of the other. It sounds like you are determined not to give your power away. Take all the moments you need and then Let Go and Let God. Live and Let Live. Keep the focus on you!
