Alanon has allowed many of us to grow up for the very first time.  We can learn to face the world, take responsibility for our actions, and become responsible adults.  We can learn that there is more to life than problems, and recognize we need to have more fun.  Allowing a sense of humor can help us detach from stress, pain, and worry.

As I look back, I know I spent many years in a zombie-like state.  I didn't see any hope, fun, or future, other than the dark hole I landed in.  I think I hardly ever laughed, and it would feel so strange.  And now with 14 years in alanon, I laugh a lot, I'm in a lighter mood, and I no longer dwell on all the pain in my life (which there is plenty).  This program has taught me to seek gratitude and blessings.  And I do everyday.  And if I start going down into the abyss, it doesn't last very long.  I use my tools, call a friend, or go to the message boards.  I am not alone in this journey, and that is a real comfort.