The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I personally am tired of my so-called healed & whole friend going on and on about how great AlAnon is and you need alanon yadda yadda yadda when she has been going for 18 months and her blaming everyone else but herself for her own behavior is at the absolute worst! Its like she found an entire tribe of people that are giving her permission to take zero REAL responsibility for her actions and yet, as she tells it, keeps reassuring her and enabling her to deflect personal responsibility for what she has done to myself and others all in the name of her not having to be blamed or accept the negativity anymore or be responsible for the patterns I grew into-
Its truly nauseating.
Shes still a liar, a manipulator and a truly wretched narcissist and now, in her mind, ANY disagreement or criticism or even different point of view is blaming and now she has this program to defend her actions, telling everyone else they need to let go because she apologized
She blames her parents, her three ex-husbands, me, and other people for the way that she is.
Is this REALLY what your program teaches? It may be hard to believe that I am asking sincerely but I am.
Welcome Ruby Grace to MIP, even though our site is a bit broken at the moment. Every alanon group is different, but I've got 13 years in alanon and I am not familiar with the description above. The groups I go to and alanon friends I have teach us to focus on ourselves and become the best person we can be. We are not encouraged to trample on others. We are taught to have compassion and forgiveness. Perhaps you might try a few different alanon groups, whether in person or on zoom, and decide for yourself what alanon is like. Wishing you all the best, Lyne
