This day's reading made me truly smile because the author discusses how, with every conflict, they felt they had to some how,

in an anxious and defensive state, prove their innocence.  They were always trying to cover themselves from any blame when it

came to confrontation with the alcoholic in their life.

Al-Anon tries to teach us that focusing on other's behavior only takes away from our serenity.  Conflicts and/or disputes are 

inevitable even in the best of times so instead of dwelling on the contrary state of affairs it is better, per Al-Anon, to look within

ourselves for the part(s) we have played in the conflict and make peace because not everyone needs to be wrong and that it is,

for the most part, normal for people to disagree sometimes. 

Todays Reminder:  "Today I accept that each life has its share of conflict."  "It is not my job to document every such incident." 

"Instead of wringing my hands and pointing my finger, I can consider the possibility that everything is happening exactly as it should." 

"Sometimes, blame is just an excuse to keep busy so that I don't have to feel the discomfort of my powerlessness."

Todays Quote:  "The mind grows by what it feeds on."  ~ Josiah G. Holland

I do admit that it takes me one or two days to come to this conclusion, but it isn't easy when you've got an out of

control alcoholic barking at you like a mad dog.  Sometimes I'm more affected by the tones and reactions than the

accusatory words they use.  But all in all I always arrive at that place of peace and have learned that dwelling,

blaming and score keeping is just so not worth it when it comes to maintaining my peace and dignity.  As I make

my way on this journey I sense that the alcoholic is progressing and realize that I must be more flexible due to 

the changes they are experiencing.  

How do you navigate conflict, if you have any, in your life?

TGIF!!