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Enigmatic


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This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4. 

Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewarded.

Reminder: Accepting that I am human means that I can look closely at my homeruns and my strikeouts. Today I will find something to appreciate and something to improve.

"You never find yourself until you face the truth." - Pearl Bailey
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Oh boy, callout time! I have absolutely been making excuses for my poor behavior with a non-active alcoholic. 

Officially saying I wasn't, but I realize that unofficially, inside the vault of my private thoughts, I was discounting the severity of my actions because of what I perceived as injustice in theirs. Classic 6yr-old Paul in action! 

Searching and fearless moral inventory of my own actions quickly, without a second glance, reveals that I am being the problem. 

I don't get to point out why their action inspired me negatively if I want to make spiritual progress, and certainly if I want to find Serenity. Take care of me, the rest will work itself out...

Grateful for the reminder

 



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Paul

"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives."  - Paths to Recovery 
Lyne


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Thanks Paul for your service and share. I have to be willing to take an honest look at myself, on a regular basis. I will never be entirely fixed! It's a life long process, to be open to the truth, and of course see my home runs. But I not only need to see my strike outs, but be willing to have the desire to practice to improve. :)

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Lyne
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Lovely reading today Paul, thank you for your service and to you and Lyne for both your ESH.

I took a look at my Step Four work and what my main focus was on is that when I felt threatened,

mostly when the abusive statements and threatens are/were flung at me, how I dealt with the

fear and rejection needed to be reined in. I am in a place where there is very little that can be

said or done to me, by the active drinker in my life, that hurts me anymore. Thank you Al-Anon/MIP

and my HP!! Grateful indeed!!

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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown

 
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