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Post Info TOPIC: 5/30/23 ODAT - MYOB


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5/30/23 ODAT - MYOB


Today's page notes that comments we read/hear, ones we may have even heard before, can strike us differently or lead us to a new perspective in a new context. 

Such was the process as one member realized that the term 'mind your own business' summed up well the concept of Alanon.

Reminder - I will focus on what is truly my own concern and keep out of others', including the alcoholic. This includes attempts to help, control, or shield. 

"When you are offended at anyone's fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. By attending to them, you will forget your anger and learn to live wisely." -  Marcus Aurelius
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So true...phrases like 'thy will, not mine' or even 'mind your own business' are easy to recall and pack a lot of program into a small package. 

This is just enough sometimes to refocus my mind when I feel myself slipping, feel my irritation rise. Truly, less can be more in times of need, grateful for the simple things  



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Paul

"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives."  - Paths to Recovery 



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Thank you Paul for your service and all above ESH. I find that sometimes are easier than others to just let go and let God. And when I harbor resentment or anger, it just ties me to the problem instead of letting me move on. I can break that tie when I can put the focus back on myself. Looking at what I need to work on can restore some balance. :)

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Ahhhh perspective and motive are always what I am checking myself for.

Stops me in my tracks and helps to mind my own business and let me move on.

Thank you Paul for your service and to you TT and Lyne for all the wonderful ESH.

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does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown

 



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Good Afternoon Everyone. Thank you Paul for your service/ESH. I appreciate all the thoughtful shares on this topic. Mind your own business certainly packs a lot of program. When I'm focusing on others, it's a sign that I've violated boundaries. Instead of fixing what's wrong within, I take responsibility for matters outside of my control. Grateful for repeated reminders to work on the most important business-relationship with my HP.

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Good morning

Interesting topic. Yesterday I was really aware of just how much I tend to stick my nose where it doesn't belong. I am always trying to help and solve issues for others,even those that I have just met. It seems so harmless,always helping everyone but in reality it just keeps me stuck in that same old pattern of putting everyone before myself. My people pleasing ways i think,are my coping skill,always wanting others to be happy,but dang,what about ME?



MYOB....

I need to work on that,remember that and practice that

I hope everyone has a good day

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